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Monogamy
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then, believe it or not, things can get botched) is 100% effective. Asexual behavior is 100% effective. It is
also 100% effective against most sexually transmitted disease. Public lice and a few other little buggers
withstanding…these STDs can be contracted just by sitting or lying in the wrong place. There is also the
very real possibility that you may not be ready at this time and point to have sexual relationship with
someone else. You may have other priorities. You may be evaluating your relationship, or you just might
not want sex prior to marriage. There is also the possibility that your religion or belief system does not
encourage or permit either premarital sex or sex for any purpose other than procreation. All these are good
reasons to be asexual and you could probably add few hundred other reasons too.
Auto-Sexual Behavior
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Okay, it is time to talk about auto-sexual behavior. Contrary to what our students think, auto-
sexual behavior is not having sex in your automobile. The prefix “auto” means self. Now, can you figure
out what we are going to talk about? If you said something like masturbation you get a red star. Hey, don‟t
knock masturbation it is having sex with someone you are in love with…hopefully. Actually, masturbation
is a rather popular activity. It has been said that 99% of the men in American masturbate and the other one
percent is lying. Well, that is a little bit of an exaggeration. According to research, approximately 92% of
men and 73% of women masturbate. Why is there such a difference between man and women when it
comes to masturbation? Obviously, women are better liars. We are just kidding. It is probably due to social
condition. As previously indicated, men are taught to be sexually liberated while women are generally
conditioned to be sexually inhibited. Western society has been burdened since the nineteenth century with
fear, self-recrimination and guilt about masturbation. Priests preached against masturbation and physicians
pontificated on its horrifying results. The saying was that if you masturbated you would go blind.
Consequently, we just did it until we need glass…then we stopped. Of course, doctors and sexologists now
know that masturbation is a natural means of sexual expression. Masturbation does not lead to physical or
psychological abnormalities, nor is it harmful to general health.
What masturbation does lead to is a freeing of one‟s sexual feelings and a release of one‟s sexual
energy and needs. According to sexologists, masturbate without guilt is to say, “I accept and enjoy my
sexual feelings.” Masturbation is a way of learning more about one‟s sexual self. Masturbation has a very
self validating effect. It says that it‟s Okay, to feel sexual and to act on those feelings. As mentioned, that
is what sexologists believe.
Whatever their age, sex, or lifestyle, the reality is that people masturbate. They masturbate for a
number of reasons, including a need for sexual release, unmet sexual needs and pent up sexual energy. The
truth is the reasons for masturbation are endless. Interestingly, few young people are told by their parents
about masturbation or sex for that matter. Many times parents are ignorant when it comes to human
sexuality. Schools believe that sexuality should be taught in the home. The question is, “Who is going to
educate the parents if it is not taught in school?” As a result, what you have many times is the ignorant
teaching the ignorant…a not so good thing. There is also the fact that parents are many times too
embarrassed to talk to their children about sex. Masturbation is definitely one topic that seldom parts their
lips. Thus, most people learn about masturbation from sources such as books, older brothers or sisters and
peers. Such sources can lead to
considerable misinterpretation and non-
comprehension, and it is putting it mildly.
Regardless of the source, what usually
evolves is the message that it‟s not
“normal” to masturbate, that nice girls and
boys don‟t masturbate, and that it is sick
and unhealthy. The result of these negative
attitudes is that few people feel good about
masturbating.
Now, we are not advocating one
way or another that you masturbate.
Obviously, that is a person choice…one
you have to make for yourself. The only
Chapter 12 - Human Sexual Wellness
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thing we are saying is that masturbation is normal and safe. You are not going to go blind, insane, or
demented if you masturbate. Need we say masturbation is safe? You are not going to get pregnant, or come
down with an STD if you masturbate. This might help you a little. The actor and director Woody Allen is
the king of sexual one liners. In one of his movies, a woman asks him, “How did you ever become such a
wonderful lover?” He replies, “I practice a lot when I‟m alone.” Just something to think about.
stupid too. Just because something looks good does not mean that it is good. When you start basing your
trust on a person‟s looks you could be in big trouble…especially when it comes to sexuality. We don‟t have
any research to back it up, but we suspect that there might be an inverse relationship between good looks
and promiscuity. Also, both men and women who are in long term relationship tend to trust each other
because they believe that their partner would never cheat on them…you know ego. Consequently, they
don‟t believe that they need protection. Did we mention that men and women are stupid?