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If you are concerned about discussing This information cannot possibly deal
death with your children, you are not with every situation. It does provide
alone. Many of us hesitate to talk about some general information which may be
death, particularly with youngsters. But helpful and which may be adapted to
death is an inescapable fact of life. We meet each family's needs.
must deal with it, and so must our chil - Children are aware
dren. If we are to help them, we must Long before we realize it, children
let them know it's okay to talk about it. become aware of death. They see dead
By talking to our children about death, birds, insects, and animals lying by the
we may discover what they know and road. They may see death at least once
do not know; if they have misconcep - a day on television or on video games.
tions, fears, or worries. We can then They hear about it in fairy tales and act
help them by providing information, it out in their play. Death is a part of
comfort, and understanding. Talk does everyday life, and children, at some
not solve all problems, but without talk, level, are aware of it.
we are even more limited in our ability If we permit children to talk to us about
to help. death, we can give them needed infor-
What we say about death to our chil - mation, prepare them for a crisis, and
dren, or when we say it, will depend on help them when they are upset. We can
their ages and experiences. It will also encourage their communication by
depend on our own experiences, showing interest in and respect for what
beliefs, feelings, and the situations in they say. We can also make it easier for
which we find ourselves, for each situa - them to talk to us if we are open, hon-
tion we face is somewhat different. est, and comfortable with our own feel-
Some discussions about death may be ings. Perhaps we can make it easier for
stimulated by a news report or a televi - ourselves and for our children if we take
sion program and take place in a rela - a closer look at some of the problems
tively unemotional atmosphere. Other that might make communication difficult.
talks may result from a family crisis and
Communication barriers
be charged with emotions.
Avoidance, confrontation
Many of us are inclined not to talk about
things that upset us. We try to put a lid
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