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According to the most recent U.S. Census report, Chinese Americans are
largest Asian American group residing in the United States. A total of 2.7
Address correspondence to the first author. Joan D. Atwood, Ph.D., Director of the
Graduate Programs in Marriage and Family Therapy, Hofstra University, Hempstead, New
York. E-mail: jatwood@optonline.net
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The first assumption challenged in this paper is that there is one type of
came to the United States at different times and exhibit varying degrees
traditional to very “Americanized” (Berg & Jaya, 1993; Fang & Wark,
1998;
Ho, 1987; Lee, 1997; Sue & Sue, 1999; Wang, 1994). Within the
perspective
of the social constructionist theory, the notion of multiple cultures within
the Chinese American families is considered rather than the idea of “one”
Chinese American culture (Wu, Enders, & Ham, 1997).
According to clinician, Lee (1997), there are five types of Asian
American
families: (1) the traditional family, (2) the cultural conflict family, (3) the
bi-
cultural family, (4) the “Americanized” family, and (5) the interracial
family.
These five types presented below have been used to describe Chinese Amer-
ican families.
traditional values and speak in their native languages and dialects. They may
the United States and are familiar with the American culture. Many of these
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MODERNIST PERSPECTIVES
parent-child subsystems within the family while holding onto the notion that
there was a template for “normal” family functioning (Atwood, 1995). Ther-
apy in this case involved work with parents to “help avoid extruding their
difficulties onto a child and pulling them into scapegoat or parentified roles”
(Volgy & Everett, 1985, p. 92). This approach also held the template up of
“normal” family functioning and to it compared the family in therapy, once
again focusing on the family deficits and/or how far this family was from the
“norm.”
The solution focused therapists represent the third approach (deShazer,
1991; Dolan, 1991; Lipchik & deShazer, 1986; O’Hanlon & Weiner-Davis,
1989;
and Walter & Peller, 1992). While adhering to post-modernist assumptions,
these theorists address and focus on the competencies and strengths of the
clients, thereby replacing the focus on dysfunction with a focus on success.
The goals of this brief therapy include helping clients change some of the
intentions or interpretations to new resolutions that can be found to prob-
lems with the family’s complaint. Characterized by finding exceptions
and
asking miracle questions, small steps are often generated to assist the client
with respect to diagnosis and treatment was termed “expert opinion,” as no-
tions of normality-abnormality traditionally depended on what the mental
According to researchers and clinicians (Ho, 1987; Lee, 1997; Sue &
Sue,
1999), there are five major factors that contribute directly or indirectly to the
cultural transitional difficulties that lead to the dysfunction in Asian/Pacific
and support system, many cultural conflicts, and cognitive reactive pattern
to a new environment.
The deficit model assumes the family is the “true” problem, and the role
of the “expert” therapist is to help the family fix the “real” problem. In the
expert role, the therapist is not a participant in the system, but an outsider
to the family system, who observes how the Chinese family interacts and
According to Wu, Enders, and Ham (1997), the notion of this perspective
does not take into account the diversity of cultural experiences, and instead
forces the experiences of Chinese American families into limited and often-
stereotyped categories.
In order to assist therapists in recognizing their biases, below are listed
common assumptions about the Chinese American Family from a modernist
or deficit frame of reference. They are categorized as follows: (1) Some Gen-
eral Assumptions, (2) Therapists’ Assumptions from a Traditional Psycholog-
ical View, (3) Therapists’ Assumptions from a Family System’s Point of
View,
and (4) Therapists’ Assumptions from a Solution Point of View. Next (5) a
The individual goals of the children at times conflict with the family goals
set by the parents (Shon & Ja, 1982; Lee, 1982).
A common issue for Chinese Americans is their level of acculturation and
ethnic-identity status (Leong & Chou).
Lack of a common language may make communication among family
members very difficult (Lee, 1982).
Many of the problems facing Chinese Americans appear to be related to
culture conflicts (Sue & Sue, 1999).
Physical complaints are a common and culturally accepted means of ex-
pressing psychological and emotional stress (Sue & Sue, 1999).
Traditionally oriented Chinese parents still demand to have an active part
in the selection of dating and marriage partners of their children (Sue &
Sue, 1999).
There is a great deal of emphasis placed on academic achievement (Shon
& Ja, 1982; Sue & Sue, 1999).
Problems arise because the family is unable to negotiate or deal with
cultural differences between family members and/or the larger community
(Shon & Ja, 1982; Sue & Sue, 1999).
1998).
Solution-focused family therapy is built on the philosophy of social
constructionism (Gladding, 2002; Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2000; Jung,
1998). This approach to family therapy believes that dysfunctional families
their situation and the conflict resolution they hope to achieve (Goldenberg
& Goldenberg, 2000). The solution-focused therapist assumes that the family
already knows what they need to do to solve their problems. Therefore,
the therapist’s task is to help the person or family construct a new use for
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knowledge they already have (Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2000; Jung, 1998).
Clients, not the therapists, are the experts on their problems (Jung, 1998).
Although clients may have lost sight of their abilities, they have the
resources and skills to solve their problems (Jung, 1998).
Clients already know what they need to do to solve their complaints
(Goldenberg & Goldenberg, 2000).
Small changes lead to bigger ones (Jung, 1998; Gladding, 2002).
Hypothetical solutions to their situations help clients move away from a
negative focus and toward a positive one (Gladding, 2002; Jung, 1998).
By exploring the times when a problem did not exist, clients discover what
they can do to expand such exceptions (Gladding, 2002; Jung, 1998).
If change does occur, it can be measured quantitatively on an imaginary
scale and the family members can experience movement (Gladding, 2002;
Jung, 1998).
By highlighting what clients have done on their own implies that small
changes may already have happened (Jung, 1998).
Ham, 1997).
Many Asian Americans have recently challenged this traditional
view.
They are increasingly challenging the concepts of normality and
abnormality
in that they believe that their values and lifestyles are often seen by
American
society as pathological and thus are unfairly discriminated against by
clini-
cians (Sue & Sue, 1999).
When applied to Chinese American families, traditional models of
therapy emphasize a deficit model that looks at problems without considering
the complexities of the many variations of Chinese families’ experiences
while living in the United States. As Kitano (1985) points out, there is no
typical Chinese family. Therapists who operate from the deficit model tend
to look at problems and how to resolve those problems for families.
According to Sue and Sue (1999) the deficit model is the model used
predominantly by clinicians in working with Chinese families.
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in talking about a situation, the evolution of the family’s story, the therapist
revision in the family’s story about its experience (Wu, Enders, & Ham,
1997).
According to Cushman (1995), we are “shaped in a fundamental way by
the
social framework in which we have been raised.” The family is not seen
as
being the problem, but how the family talks about a situation (Wu, Enders,
& Ham, 1997). Anderson and Goolishian (1992) believe that language and
family, there is the recognition of the diverse meanings that families attach
rather than deficits in the family (Wu, Enders, & Ham, 1997). An underlying
premise is that there are many meanings that can be given to a situation and
the therapist’s interpretation of a family’s story is not necessarily the “correct”
account. The role of the clinician, adopting a “not-knowing” position, is to
create a context encouraging exploration of a problem through conversation
and dialogue about the client’s reality and evolving life story (Anderson
&
Goolishian, 1992; Wu, Enders, & Ham, 1997).
Instead of searching for the “truth” about a family, social construction-
ists believe that each family member has his or her own view of “reality”
created by each family member (Maturana, 1978). The therapist does not
try to change the family’s structure or social conditions that help determine
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1993).
Anderson and Goolishian (1992) emphasized how communication and
discourse can define social organization. The family is the central unit
of
social organization for the Chinese (Berg & Jaya, 1993; Fang & Wark,
1998;
Ho, 1987; Lee, 1997; Sue & Sue, 1999; Wang, 1994). Instead of attempting
to
change family members, the clinical effort is to engage families in
“conversa-
tions” about their problems so that they can feel empowered to change them-
selves by becoming aware of, and accommodating to, each other’s needs,
wishes, and belief systems (Anderson & Goolishian, 1988). Therefore, the
meaning specific to its organization and specific to its solution around the
“problem” (Anderson & Goolishian, 1998). For example, Anderson (1993)
identified several elements of a social constructionist therapeutic conversa-
tion that includes:
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the therapist allowing the client to be center stage, leading with their story
as they want to tell it, without the therapist guiding the discussion by what
he/she thinks is important,
the therapist is a respectful listener who learns and understands the family’s
stories and frame of the situation and converses in the family’s language
CASE MATERIAL
learning the couple’s language and stories about the problem, the therapist
joined the couple in the first stage of therapy. The couple has not had an
intimate relationship for almost two years. Michael is a carpenter and Ashley
graduate school two nights a week. Because of their mutual emotional un-
happiness with their relationship and their concern for their son, the couple
came to therapy as a last resort to “save their marriage” before taking the
parents were born and raised in China. Ashley’s father came to the United
States at the age of 12 and after her marriage to Ashley’s father,
Ashley’s
mother migrated to the United States at the age of 20.
Ashley was five months pregnant when she married Michael. Ashley re-
ports that she does not feel safe and secure in her relationship with Michael
saying that their relationship is “hard to deal with even while we dated.” She
explains how Michael’s angry outbursts and verbal insults toward her intim-
idate her when “he feels that I say or do something against him.” Ashley
recalled a recent moment when they were on a family vacation and Michael
yelled and cursed at her when she questioned him about the direction of
where he was driving when she thought he was driving in the wrong direc-
tion. When she brought it to his attention, Michael became extremely angry.
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Michael also angrily yelled at others when he felt that they did something he
did not like or something “against him.” Ashley spoke about a time Michael
had angrily yelled at a gentleman at a gas station because Michael
thought
that “he was taking too long to pump his gas.” Two months prior to getting
pregnant, due to Ashley’s insecurities about their relationship, Ashley and
Michael had broken up, but reconciled after Michael started going to therapy
of her pregnancy, she was “miserable.” She vomited throughout the day
everyday throughout the first three months of her pregnancy, causing her
to be very tired and physically drained. Ashley admits that during that time
she was hoping that she “would have a miscarriage” because she “did not
want to be a mother.” Ashley had just started a new job a month before
learning she was pregnant and she was planning on continuing her studies
in graduate school. She believed that “having a baby would interfere with her
future plans.” Ashley reports that when she announced to her family that she
was having a baby, they were very “disappointed” in her. They felt that
she
“shamed” the family because she not only had sex before marriage, but also
was having a baby out of wedlock and the father of the child was not Chinese.
Her mother suggested that she have an abortion, but Ashley decided to have
the baby fearing that if she got an abortion she would regret her decision
later. Although “they had problems” in their relationship, Michael reports that
he was happy to hear that he was going to be a father because he “loved”
Ashley and wanted a child. He felt that before meeting Ashley, he “was never
and money from relatives and family friends that were sent to her for the
“wedding.” Interpersonal relationships in the traditional Chinese culture are
based on “shame” and “saving face.” Shame and saving face are motiva-
tors for individuals to conform to family and societal expectations (Berg &
for over ten years, stating, “He was never there for me.” He describes
his relationship with his mother as being “very close,” but she “drank a
lot” during his childhood. He describes his relationship with his stepfather
as being “bad.” Up until he was sixteen, his stepfather emotionally and
physically abused him. Michael reports that “even now as a grown man,
he cringes around him sometimes and get scared when he asks him for
help.” Michael reasons that his angry outbursts toward Ashley are his
way
of gaining control since he didn’t have any around his stepfather. Michael
for their future so that the therapist can understand the couple’s frames
of the situation. This allows the opportunity for Ashley and Michael to
learn of the multiple perspectives existing in their relationship. Feeling
marry. Although Ashley “did not want to get married,” she explains that she
“had to do what was right for my family and pay for my mistake.” When
asked what “mistake” she had made, Ashley said, “Being with Michael
his child.” Ashley and Michael had a very informal wedding. Although
wedding.”
Ashley’s story about her present life is filled with disappointment, unhap-
piness, insecurity, and anger because she feels that Michael and her
family
caused this situation. Feeling “trapped” in a “hopeless” marriage because
her family and is “afraid” to tell them how she feels about her marriage.
Within the traditional Chinese culture, if a family member has feelings that
to do anything that would “shame” the family again, therefore they would
not want her to get a divorce. So that disappointment is a theme running
throughout Ashley’s story. When asked if she thinks that her family wants
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her to continue being “yelled at and put down” by Michael, Ashley says that
if they knew he was doing that they would not want that for her.
Michael’s story about his present life is also filled with
disappointment, unhappiness, insecurity, and anger because he feels that
Ashley caused this situation. Michael acknowledged that he “gets very
angry and loses control” when he feels someone is “hurting” him or doing
something “against” him that he needs to “defend myself.” He wants to
make changes in how he handles those situations that make him
uncomfortable so that he “can be a good father and not frighten his son or
make him feel that he can’t come to me for anything.” Michael’s belief of
being a “good father” is questioned. When asked what he thinks a “good
father” is, Michael stated, “A father that is a “good role model” to his son.
A father who supports and encourages his son’s decisions, looks out for
him, and loves him no matter what.” When asked if he thinks he is a “good
father,” Michael responds, “I think I’m an okay father.” When asked what
makes him think he’s “an okay father,” Michael responds, “I think I’m
pretty good with Joey. I’m not as patient as Ashley, but I try to be good. I
know at times when I can’t handle him, I get angry and yell at him and
that bothers me. I want to change that. I love Joey and I don’t want to
ever treat him the way I was treated. I never want to hurt him. I spend a
lot of time with Joey, especially when Ashley goes to school. I’ll take him
to the park if it’s nice outside. I read to him, play with him. Things a
father should do with his kids. I would hate it if I couldn’t be with him.”
When asked if he thinks that when he “gets angry and loses control” is he
being a “good role model” to his son. Michael said, “No.” Michael feels
neglected in his marriage, believing that Ashley should be spending
more time with him and their son. He wants her to stop going to school,
feeling that since she recently received her Master’s degree she no longer
needs to continue with her graduate studies. He feels that it is interfering
with Ashley’s responsibilities to him and their son. Michael has contemplated
infidelity to resolve his feelings of neglect and loneliness. He believes
that it is “wrong,” but reasons that Ashley “does not care about me and
she is not a real wife anyway.” When asked to define “a real wife,”
Michael says that Ashley should be more “intimate and respectful” toward
him. He feels that he and their son should be Ashley’s “first priority,”
therefore she should forget about school. When asked if he feels “first
priority” to Ashley on the days she does not go to school, Michael said,
“Yeah. She is more “attentive.” When asked, “So it sounds to me like Ashley
is making you her “first priority” when she is not going to school because she
is “more attentive” toward you on the days she doesn’t have school. Is that
correct?” Michael agrees. When asked, “How is she “more attentive?”
Michael responds, “She is around. We do things as a family. We get
along.” When asked if he thinks Ashley is “intimate and respectful”
toward him when he “gets angry and loses control” at her because she is
“against him” by going to school. He said, “No, I guess she wouldn’t be, but
she always does what she wants. She never listens to
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what I say.” When asked, “When Ashley does not go to school; does that
mean she is “respectful” toward you because she is listening to what you
want?” Michael agrees. When asked, “So Ashley is only “respectful” to
you
when she “listens to you.”” Michael said, “Yes. No. I don’t know. She has
“supported” me and “been there,” but when she goes to school she gets
stressed, especially toward the end of the semester. Always at the end of a
semester, we fight, because she takes out her stress out on me.” The whole
house is tense.” When asked, “So you don’t think she is “respectful” to you
when she is “stressed?” ” Michael said, “No, because she’ll say that I am not
helping her out and I’m not doing anything. Meanwhile I’m the one who is
with Joey all the time when she’s at school or working on a paper for school.
I clean the dishes, and tidy the house, but she thinks I don’t do anything. I’m
fed up. She has no respect for me. Ashley’s parents also feel that she should
stop going to school and devoting more time to “her marriage and being a
mother.”
Ashley’s beliefs about “marriage” and “being a mother” are questioned.
Ashley defined “marriage” as a partnership between two people with love,
when that’s not true. I feel that’s his way of getting me to change my mind
and take blame for everything that goes wrong. He never seems to take
responsibility for things he does. I know that I am not perfect and that I’ve
made some bad decisions and done some bad things in our marriage, but
I’m trying. I have “been there” for him in many ways. I supported him when
he went back to school. I try to plan family vacations. I helped him get out
of debt. I don’t know. I tried, but I just don’t like being around him. He
has a lot of issues that he carries with him from his childhood and I feel
that I can’t handle them anymore. I don’t like the way he talks to me and
makes me feel.” Ashley admits that her attending graduate school
allows
her to “get away from Michael” and “avoid dealing with her problems,” but
she enjoys “learning and being in school.” However, she also feels guilty for
not spending as much time with her son as she “should.” Because of her
guilt feelings for not “being there” for her son, Ashley tends to shop for toys
and clothes for him on a frequent basis. She also spends a lot of “mommy
and Joey time” on the weekends doing things with her son and neglecting
her schoolwork and housework to do that. When asked how much time
she thinks she “should” be spending with her son, Ashley responded with,
“I don’t know. When I’m not in school or at work I am with him. On the
weekends I am with him. Most of the time I feel that I spend a lot of time with
him, but Michael and my parents think I don’t because I am going to school.
I feel that Joey and I have a close relationship. I love Joey. He’s everything
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to me.” When asked, “So being a “devoted mother” means spending more
quantity of time with her son,” Ashley said, “No. The quality of time. I
play and read to Joey. I take him with me when I have to run errands.”
The next stage of therapy involves Ashley and Michael describing how
it could be for them in the future and how it is for them now if it is a “mar-
riage” and “family” they want—to re-state their complaints in terms of what
they want from each other. For example, Michael wants Ashley to be more
respectful to him; he wants to feel more important to her. He would like their
intimate relationship to be increase and be more substantive. Ashley wants
Michael to be more respectful and caring of her. She wants him to understand
her drive for education and wants him to be more supportive of her endeav-
ors. By doing this, restating their negative feelings into what they want from
each other, the couple can co-create a new, more positive, construction of
their relationship and family. Prior to this stage of therapy, the couple’s story
was entrenched in a negative view, with both blaming the other for the prob-
lems they were experiencing in the relationship. Neither of them was taking
responsibility for what they were adding to the negative story. Once the
couple began to verbalize what they “wanted in the relationship” rather than
what they did not want, the relationship began to improve. They both began
to see how they were contributing to the ongoing negative story as well as
how Ashley’s parents were adding to the stress and tension they both were
feeling. In addition they began to focus on how they had both decided to
marry and have their son in spite of the enormous pressure from Ashley’s par-
ents to do otherwise. They were beginning to focus on each other as a team.
By the last stage of therapy, the couple began to “get in touch” with
the reasons why they fell in love in the first place. Michael was learning
to
express himself in more positive ways, without utilizing his anger response.
occurred, the couple began bonding together and respecting each other in
a new way. Conversation during this last stage of therapy involved
assisting
the couple with the stabilization of these new meaning systems.
SUMMARY