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Definition
Impatience is a strong sense of annoyance at the (usually) unintentional faults and failures of
others. It is often expressed verbally in a way that tends to humiliate the person (or persons) who
is the object of impatience. It is a response.
The actual cause of our impatience lies within our own hears, in our own attitude of insisting that
others around us conform to our expectations.
What are the common things that tests your patience? Identify recurring situations in your life
that tempt you to become impatient.
1Cor 13, the great love chapter. He leads off the description of love, by saying, it is patient.
Irritability describes the frequency of impatience, or the ease with which a person can become
impatient over the slightest provocation.
What about if you are the frequent subject of another person’s impatience? How should you
respond?
Following Jesus requires a firm belief in the sovereignty of God in every situation of your life.
God is likely using this person’s sinful action to help you grown in the biblical virtues of
patience and meekness (Moses, Numbers 12:1-3)
Anger
Righteous Anger – (self controlled, arises from an accurate perception of evil, focuses on God
and His will)
1st: Do we perceive the action of another as true evil that is a violation of God’s moral law?
It arises from an accurate perception of true evil – that is, as a violation of God’s moral law. We
are concerned about God and His will. It focuses on God and His will, not on me and my will.
2nd: Are you in control when you are angry? It is always self-controlled. It never causes one to
lose his temper or retaliate in some vengeful way.
Conclusion of Two Tests: By employing these two test, you will know if you’re anger is
righteous anger. Even if we are “reacting to another person’s real sin and if we saw the we are
more concerned with the negative impact of the sinful actions on us than we are that it is a
violation of God’s law, then this is not righteous anger.
Example of Righteous Anger- Jesus cleansing the temple. John 2: 13-17; Mark 11:15-17
Sinful Anger- our sinful reactions to other people’s action or words. (the main focus of the
Bible’s teaching)
Basic principle No. 1: In facing up to our anger, we need to realize that No one else causes
us to be angry.
The actions or words of others are just an occasion for anger to surface, but the cause lies deep
within us- usually our pride, or selfishness, or desire to be in control.
Example: You agreed to do something for a friend, and then you forgot to do it. When your
failure came to light, he became quite angry with you. Why did he become upset? It was because
your failure had made him look bad in front of some of his friends. This is not to excuse your
forgetfulness and the real fact that you had put him in an awkward situation. But the cause of his
anger was not your failure but his pride.
What is the cause of his anger? Pride- made him look bad in front of his friends.
Example 2: You hear that someone in the church gossiping about you. When you found out who,
you approach that person, but instead of approaching them lovingly, you blew up and yelled.
What is the cause of anger? Pride which results from your character and reputation being
questioned.
What does this tell us? It simply tell us that our anger, while provoked by others, is not
ultimately caused by them. It is caused by our own sinfulness. As well as we learn there are
underlying sins- control, selfishness, and pride. It is appropriate to restrain ourselves when
provoked, but if we want to kill the sin of anger, we must deal with these other sins as well.
At the end of the day, we choose how we will respond to the sinful actions of others towards us.
We can:
1) Get Angry
2) We can respond by being mindful of God
Peter’s words to slaves in the first-century churches, who often served under cruel and unjust
masters. According to much present-day thinking they would be justified in their anger, but here
are peter’s words to them
1 Peter 2:18-20
Peter’s instructions to slaves are a specific application of a broader scriptural principle: We are to
respond to any unjust treatment as “mindful of God.” To be mindful of God means to think of
God’s will and God’s glory.
Admittedly, keeping God’s glory supreme is difficult. To keep ourselves mindful of God,
remember these questions:
How would God have me respond in this situation? How can I best glorify God by my response?
Do I believe that this difficult situation or this unjust treatment is under the sovereign control of
God and that in His wisdom and goodness He is using these difficult circumstances to conform
me more to the likeness of Christ? (Romans 8:28, Hebrews 12:4-11)
To be realistic, it would be hard to go over this checklist in the middle of an emotional heat of a
tense situation, BUT we ought to develop a habit of thinking this way.
There are so many circumstances or actions that tempt us to be angry. But they can never cause
us to be angry. The cause always lies within our hearts, usually as a result of pride or selfishness.
After dealing with the expression of our anger through Recognition and Repentance, we need to
change our attitude toward the person or persons whose words or actions triggered our anger.
Ephesians 4:32
Colossians 3:13
Any given situation that tempts us to anger can drive us either to sinful anger or to Christ and His
sanctifying power.
By being mindful of God, we can better deal with our anger when others sin against us. So the
next time you are tempted to blow up on another, keep your witness and God’s glory in mind.
What are we to say to people who are desperately hurting and feel that God has let them down or
is even against them?
How can we deal with our temptation to be angry at God? Must we “stuff” our feelings and live
in some degree of alienation? No
God I know that You love me, and I also know that Your ways are often beyond my
understanding. I admit I am confused at this time because I do not see the evidence of Your love
toward me. Help me, by the power of your spirit to trust You and not give in to temptation to be
angry at God.
God is a forgiving God. Even our anger toward Him was paid for Christ in His death on the
cross.
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
Proverbs 15:1 NLT
https://www.bible.com/116/pro.15.1.nlt
An emotion if not controlled, can control us. It has destroyed homes, relationships and left a mark of
bitterness. Sometimes we are unable to give a soft answer; we match anger with anger, tone with tone.
Many things can provoke us to anger - people at home, delays in our life, situations, people who we work
with. Very often our anger is because the self is affected. But when we give a soft answer it is so different.
(Proverbs 25:15). A soft answer is never a sign of weakness. When we do not react in anger, the person
and the situation might remain but we will not be the same.
Some people are angry with anything or everyone. Whatever we say upsets them. It is important for us to
stand at the foot of the Cross and ask ourselves why we get angry with people and with situations. The
Lord endured pain, ridicule and separation from His loved ones, yet, he had words of forgiveness: Father
If people everywhere do not understand us, the problem is not with the people. It is with us. We can give
excuses for our anger saying it is genetic. But the Bible does not accept any excuse.
Let us thank God for all situations. Situations need not happen the way we want them to happen.
Accept that people are different. If the entire world is like us, it will be a boring place to live in.
Thank God there is variety in the world - different people from whom we can learn.
Remember, we are the offended one because we carry this bitterness and anger throughout the
day.
Leave our anger in the control and hands of God rather than using it as an excuse.
Others cannot change but we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. Even if someone hurts
us or gets on our nerves, it is always good to thank God for the opportunity to be like Christ. Being like
Him in tough situations is difficult. If we are struggling with this, it is good to look at the Cross and look at
the way Jesus handled it. We are not dealing with perfect people or situations. But, we have a perfect
God who will lead us towards perfection. Let there be forgiveness and love. Let us be pleasant people
Ephesians 4:26 – Paul is not granting permission to be angry. Paul is talking about how we
should handle our anger. Get over it quickly. He instructs us to deal with our anger swiftly.
Because of we harbor anger, it can lead to greater sin.
Resentment- is anger held on to. Most often anger is internalized. (Unable to express it).
It arises in the heart of a person who is ill-treated in some way but who does not feel in a position
to do anything about it.
Employee may feel ill-treated by his boss but doesn’t dare react in an outwardly angry fashion,
so he internalizes it in the form of resentment.
Resentment is difficult than outwardly expressed anger because the person often continues to
nurse his wounds and swell on his ill-treatment.
Bitterness is resentment that has grown into a feeling of ongoing animosity. It is more long-term
reaction to a wrong when the initial anger is not dealt with.
I’ve forgiven him but I don’t want anything to do with that person.
A bitter person is someone who sees only the actual wrong and continues to dwell on that.
Strife describes open conflict or turmoil between parties, usually between opposing groups.
Feuds between family
How can we deal with these weeds?
God doesn’t cause people to sin against us, but He does allow it, and it is always allowed for a
purpose- most often our own growth in Christlikeness.
Genesis 45:8 – When Joseph was grievously sinned against by his own brothers and sold into
slavery, he did not become bitter. Instead he could say to his brothers, “It was not you who sent
me here, but God.”
Joseph never became bitter. He in fact did his work well and was so well he even received fabor.
Having a firm belief in the sovereignty of God is our first defense against a temptation to allow
anger to linger in our mind and emotions.
To deal with temptation, you have to actively call to mind that the actions of another person that
triggered your initial response of anger are under the sovereign control of God. Though the
actions may be sinful in themselves, God intends them for your good. (Genesis 50:20)
The good here is the opportunity to grown in Christlikeness. God may also have other ends in
view, perhaps to prepare us in some way for greater usefulness. Or we may never know what
God brought out of a specific situation where we are tempted to become angry.
But it is enough to know that however difficult the situation, and however strong the resultant
temptation to become angry, God intends good.
2nd: Pray that God will enable us to grow in love. (Diligent Pursuit of Brotherly Love that covers
a multitude of sins and does not keep a record of wrongs)
1 Peter 4:8 – This verse tell us to love toward fellow believers.
Love encompasses a lot of things. And it includes that Love enables us to overlook a lot of sinful
actions of other people.
We are to love one another earnestly that is, we are to pursue it diligently. (overlooking an
offense doesn’t just happen overnight. It comes as we pursue it diligently)
Sinful words do hurt, especially if they come from someone close to us, but we can choose
whether or not they make us angry.
This doesn’t speak directly to the number of times we are to forgive, but to the basis of WHY we
ought to forgive one another.
The parable tells of a king’s servant who owed the king 10,000 talents. A talent was 6,000
denarii. The servant owed the equivalent of 200,000 years of wages for the typical laborer. Jesus
kind of exaggerated the amount here (immense sum of money)
The servant begged for patience on the part of the king to give him time to repay what he owed.
So the king took pity on him and forgave the debt.
Then this servant went away from the king’s presence and found a fellow servant who owed him
100 hundred- about 1/3 of a year’s wages. This second servant also pleaded for patience, but the
servant who had just been forgiven refused and committed him to prison.
Though in the master/servant world of that day, 6-8 billion dollars is an immense sum of money
(impossible to pay). It is an accurate representation of our debt to God. Regardless of how moral
and spiritual we have been, the debt of our sin is enormous. The damage to God’s glory by our
sin is determined not by the severity of our sin but by the value of God’s glory.
If I spill black ink on a rug na binili lang sa divisoria – you would feel bad. But if I spill the same
ink on a very expensive Persian rug – that’s really bad. Why? It ‘s the same act and the same ink,
but the value of the 2 rugs are different. The extent of the damage is not by the size of the ink
blot but the respective value of each of them
This is how we should think of our sin against God. Every sin we commit, regardless of how
insignificant it seems to us, is an assault on His infinite glory. So we are all represented by the
first servant who owed ten thousand talents. Our debt to God is utterly unpayable.
How about the king? What happened to the billions of dollars the first servant owed? The
moment the King forgave the debt, his net worth was reduced. It cost the king tremendously to
forgive his servant’s debt.
In the same manner, it cost God to forgive us. It cost Him the death of His Son. No proce can be
put on that death, but God paid it so He could forgive each of us of the enormous spiritual debt
we owed to Him.
The moral debt of wrongdoing, of sinful words and acts against us, is virtually nothing compared
to our debt to God.
The basis of to forgive others, especially those who have hurt us, is the enormity of God’s
forgiveness of us. We are to forgive because we have been forgiven so much. (Debtors din tayo
kay God)
Take Test
Always look to Christ and His perfect righteousness for your standing and your acceptableness to
God.
If you are united in Christ, God sees you clothed in His perfect righteousness. Always look to the
Holy Spirit to enable you to deal with your sin in your life and to produce in you the fruits of the
Holy Spirit,
Took
1. Prayerfully ask God to reveal areas of your life that you need to repent of
“respectable sins.”
2. Repent of these sins.
3. Seek accountability and support in the journey of sanctification.
4. Seek to bring all thinking and desires in line with scripture and seek to please God in
all you do.
5. Remember who you once were and who God has made you to be.
6. Make it your goal and intent to increase your love for God and consider how your life
can and should be different as a result.