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PAIN

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 The 8TH HABIT
‘Find your Vo ic e and Inspire Others to Find Theirs.’

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 The Problem

“Much of the problem lies

in behavior that flows out
of an in-complete or deeply
flawed paradigm or view of
human nature…One that
undermines people’s sense
of worth and straitjackets
their talents and potential. ’
S t ephen R. Co v ey

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 Industrial Vs. Knowledge Worker
Indust rial Knowledge Worker
People

Motivation

Paradigm

End Resul t

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People have choices…

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Examples of scenarios…
• You are not treated fai rly. Lots of politics in your
organization; There is nepotism; the pay system
doesn’ t seem fai r and just; your own pay does not
accu rately reflect the level of your cont ribution…
• You are treated fai rly in terms of your pay but you
are not treated kindly. You are not respec ted; your
treatment is inconsistent, arbit rary, capricious,
perhaps largely dictated by the mood of your boss…
• You are paid fai rly and treated kindly, but when your
opinion is wanted, it is given to you. Body and Heart
are valued but not your mind…
• You are paid fai rly (body), treated kindly (heart),
involved creatively (mind), but you are asked to dig a
hole and fill it again or to fill out reports no one ever
sees or uses. In other words, the work is meaningless
(spirit)….
• You are paid fai rly, treated kindly, and involved
creatively in meaningful work, but there is a lo t of
lying and cheating going on with customers and
suppliers (spirit)…
• Wri te t he s c ena ri o y ou are c urrent l y e xp eri enc i ng i n
an org an iz at ion y ou be lon g t o.
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 Power
Of
Paradigm
“If you want to make minor,
incremental changes and
improvements, work on
practices, behavior or
at titude. But if you want to
make significant, quantum
improvement, work on
paradigms.”

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What Are Your Paradigms ?
Paradigms are the way we see,
understand, and interpret the wold –
our mental map.

IDENTIFY YOUR PARADIGMS:

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PARADIGMS AND PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVENESS

Paradigm Shifts
Think of a time in your life where you
experienced a Paradigm Shift (e.g. you
experienced a role change, witnessed a
dramatic event, or learned new information).

1. What was the event or circumstance?

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2. What did you learn that changed your paradigm?

(SEE)
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3. How did that paradigm shift affect your behaviour?

(DO)
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4. What results did you get (GET)

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5. Which principles of effectiveness applied?

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the WHOLE PERSON
in a WHOLE JOB

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Everyone chooses one of two roads in life…
GREATNESS vs. MEDIOCRITY

Mediocri ty Greatness

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First Birth-Gift: FREEDOM TO CHOOSE

• Write down a response for an important

stimulus in life and you wished you had used
your freedom differently.
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• Write down a response you are proud of

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Your Reactive Behaviour
1. When are you most likely to respond
reactively?
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2. Describe a recent situation in which you were

reactive.
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3. What did you say, do, think, or feel?

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4. Where do your reactive tendencies come from?

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Where Do My Behaviours Come From?

GENES
“I was born this way”
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UPBRINGING
“My parents raised me this way”
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ENVIRONMENT
“I Can’t help it. I’m in a reactive environment”
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Second Birth-Gift: Natural Laws OR Principles
Principals Vs. Values

Your values God’s Gifts

(Natural Laws)

Wrong

Unnecessary

Not a problem
to have

Your greatness
inc reases here

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Third Birth-Gift: Four Capacities/Intelli gences
of our Nature

• Avoid the 5 Cancers:

• Competing
• Complaining
• Contending
• Comparing
• Criticizing

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 Leading a Powerful Life

Vs.

Conscience Ego

Peacef ul Dic ta torial

Larger sense of group, community, the greater Focuses on one’s own survival, pleasure and is
good. selfishly ambitious.

Sees life in terms of service and contribution. Sees relationships in terms of threat or no threat.

I t has the patience and wisdom to decide wha t Ego can’t sleep. I t micromanages. I t
to do when. Disempowers.
Sees poten tial in people for self control and I t excels in control.
empowers.
Values feedback and at temp ts to discern Threatened by negative feedback and denies
wha tever tru th it contains much of reality.

Tells us the value of ends and means End jus tifies the means

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Conscience

. What do I consider to be my most important

future contribution to others?
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. Are there things I feel I really should do, even

though I may have dismissed such thoughts many
times? What are they?
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Team work Exercise
Vision, Discipline, Passion
W or W/O Conscience

• Get two characters with situations from the

bible, one for a person who had Vision,
Discipline and Passion but not guided with
Conscience and the Other who had the three
guided with Strong Conscience.
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4 Attributes

• What is my vision for my life?

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• Does the vision tap into my voice, my energy,

my unique talent? Does i t give a sense of “Calling”,
a cause worthy of my commi tment?
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 Summary of Part 1

1. What need do I sense (in my family, in my community,

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the organization I work for)?
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2. Do I possess a t rue talent tha t, i f disciplined and applied,

can meet the need?
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3. Does the opportunity to meet the need tap into my passion?

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4. Does my conscience inspi re me to take action and become

involved?
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Leadership Defined
• Communicating to people their worth and potential
so clearly tha t they come to see i t in themselves. (Think
about grandparents)
• This is not leadership as a formal posi tion but as a choice
to deal wi th people in a certain way.
• Leadership influence is governed by principles. You live
by them…Your influence and moral authori ty increase
and you are often given greater formal authori ty.
• Leadership is the highest of the arts…i t is the enabling
art !

wri te a name for someone who inspi re you to

discover a talent you didn’ t know you have?
Someone who increased your sel f confidence to
unlock something in yourself?
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Name an Organization / a person you believe you

can lead based on this definition
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Choose an organization you belong to and feel it
needs to get diagnosed
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What are the acute symptoms you are experiencing

in this organization?
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Based on the Whole Person Paradigm, what is your
diagnoses for the chronic problems in the organization?

Spirit
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Mind
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Bod y
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Heart
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The Greek Philosophy of Influence

Team work Exercise

Role Play

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 Initiative Leaders
(Self Empowerment)
Circle of Influence Challenge
1. Identify a challenging work or personal
situation – one that frustrated you and for which
you have some responsibility .
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2. Identify areas of concern.

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3. Identify areas you can influence.

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4. Where does both circles mean (the edge of your

circle of influence).
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5. What actions will you take this week within your

circle of influence?
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 7 Levels of Initiative or Self Empowerment

State an organization / situation where you feel you feel

you need to take a higher level of ini tiative than you do
now…
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Start brain storming using your judgment and wisdom on
the What (IQ)
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How (EQ)
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When (EQ)
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Why (SQ)
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 “The supreme
quality for
leadership is
unquestionably
integrity.
Without it, no
real success is
possible.”

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Personal Trustworthiness

Character Competence

Wisdom
judgement

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Have an Abundance Mentality
Abund ance Assessment
1. How often do you compare yourself to others to
find a sense of self-worth? In what ways do you
compare yourself to others?
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2. When negotiating, do you find it easier to think

about your own needs, or the needs of others?
Why?
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3. How do you feel when others close to you
succeed at something you want to succeed at?
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4. Would the people you work and live with

describe you as competitive or cooperative? Why?
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Write Tribute Statement for Key Roles

Tribute Statement
Rela tionships
Roles and
Role 1: Rol e 2: Rol e 3: Rol e 4: Rol e 5:
Key Pers on: Key Pers on: Key Pers on: Key Pers on: Key Pers on:
Identify Long-Term Goals
What two or three key things could you do in each role to
help make these t ribute statements a reali ty?

R
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1
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ol
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2
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3

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Draft Your Personal Mission Statement
• Write for 5 minutes without stopping.
• When you can’ t think of anything else to
write, keep your pen or pencil moving until
something else comes to mind.
• Don’t worry about how it looks like. Get
your thoughts down on paper.

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Team Project _____________

Pathfinding:
• Decide on the people you are going to
involve in writing your mission statement.
• Write the mission statement

Aligning:
• Align the Goals (make sure they are
measurable)
• How will you track them?
• What systems you will put in place to make
sure you are on track?
• How will you gather the feedbacks?
Empowerment:
• Charter the team with roles and
responsibilities

• Are your people impowered to do their

tasks?

• How are you making sure that each

member is contributing where he feels
that this is his unique Voice?

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