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self respect is a vital aspect of self love. The more you respect yourself,
the more you are able to love yourself. However, self respect isn't
always as easy to come by as you might think. There are a lot of aspects
of life that can lure you away from respect. As much as you might want
to treat yourself with respect, there are often outside influences that can
get in the way of treating yourself honorably.
For example, here are a few situations that might tempt you away from
respecting yourself: loving someone who doesn't love you (or who treats
you badly); having a "successful" career that makes you unhappy;
wishing you could go back to a past time in your life; thinking you need
to have X, Y, or Z to be happy; having people around you who doubt
your abilities; wanting things simply because you think you "should"
want them; thinking the lives others lead is better than your own; or
living or working with people who treat you (or themselves)
negatively.
These are just a few of the reasons you might find respecting yourself
difficult, and, unfortunately, they can happen to almost anyone. Not all
of these things are within your control (you cannot always control how
others act or react), but what is within your control is how you treat
yourself. Here are some of reminders of how to make self-respect a
priority in your life.
One of the best ways to respect yourself is never to settle for less than
what you deserve. And you — we all — deserve the very best in life.
You have this one life to live and you deserve to have the best things for
you: the best people, the best career, the best feelings. Don't settle.
GET IN TOUCH WITH WHO YOU REALLY ARE.
In order to not settle, you have to know what it is you really want. You
have to get in touch with yourself and what matters to you. (One way I
do this is by using my Finding Yourself workbook and revisiting it
often.) When you know who you are — and what you will and won't
stand for — you'll be able to focus on the activities and people that
encourage you to respect yourself.
Letting go of the past can be difficult, but in order to respect who you
are now, you must let go of who you were then. Do whatever you can to
forgive yourself for mistakes you've made. We've all made them — it's
part of life — but those who respect themselves know how to let those
mistakes go. You can never go back; you can only take what's happened
and move positively forward.
The more you believe in yourself, the easier it will be to treat yourself
with love and respect. Confidence isn't always easy to come by,
however, so you've gotta work for it. Do things that you're good at.
Accept compliments and make note of when others are proud of you.
The more you do things that build up your confidence (and avoid those
that tear it down), the more confident you'll feel. And the more confident
you are, the less likely you are to settle.
Just as you need to respect your body, you also need to respect your
mind. Challenge yourself with new experiences and information. Step
out of the thinking you're comfortable with and try to find new
perspectives. Find resources for information and inspiration — books,
websites, people — and soak up all you can. The more you know, the
more you can grow. And all that growth will empower you, making it
much easier to respect yourself.
The way you speak about yourself says a lot about how much respect
you have for who you are. Try always to speak about yourself positively
and try never to put yourself down with negativity. If this is a struggle
for you, check out Using Positive Words to Promote Self-Love, which
will give you inspiration for speaking positively about yourself. (Plus
there's a free download with lots and lots of words!)