Here is an example of fear in action, what it does to you and what

you
can do with it.
A dear friend of mine was standing in line at the supermarket cash-
out
when she realized that someone had just joined the cue behind her.
Her
energy field had felt it. She knew this because the hairs on her neck
were standing on end. Naturally she turned around and to her
amazement and surprise this someone happened to be a person she
knew and felt extremely uncomfortable being around. She had had a
very unpleasant encounter with this man at some point in her past,
which
automatically triggered these reactions. As she realized this, her
heart
started to beat wildly, she started sweating and she felt very
uncomfortable indeed.
As luck would have it - or call it a synchronicity if you prefer - we had
spoken about fear the day before with regards to an experience she
was
having at her work in a psychiatric hospital. I had given her some
exercises that she could do to overcome those fears. While standing
there in the supermarket, she remembered one of them and
physically
gathered her strength and concentrated on changing her emotions
and
energy. She imagined going into her heart space and began building
a
field of unconditional Love energy from within. As she started to
expand
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that field outward she could feel her energy changing and she
became
much calmer. To her surprise and utter amazement the man behind
her
tapped her on the shoulder and started to exchange pleasantries. He
was very nice to her and extremely polite.
As she walked away from the cash-out, she could not help but
chuckle at
the wonderful experience she had just created. By simply changing
her
own energy field with her thoughts and her intent, she was able to
turn a
confronting and fearful experience into a pleasant one. She had also
been provided with proof from the Universe that she would be able
to
overcome any challenges she faced at work. We also both knew that
the
experience, was given to her so that she could share it with her
colleagues to assist them. It is their choice of course, and always will
be,
whether or not they wish to experience this.
A day or so later she got the opportunity to actually try this same
example out with an extremely difficult and aggressive patient at her
work. The results were as we had predicted… magical.
We feel that the more my friend works with this exercise, she will
make a
profound difference in many of the situations in which she will find
herself
- not only for herself, but for the others around her.
A Personal Example
I know that so many of you are also going to be able to relate to this
example. There was a time when I was out of work - between jobs if
you
will. My monthly gross income at that time was to say the least,
insufficient. It was hard to scrape a decent meal together and there
was
even a period when the electricity had been cut off for non-payment
of
bills. Every time the post came, I would feel that old familiar feeling
of
dread - I would be panicking. Thoughts like, “How am I going to pay
that
one?” "How can I juggle the bills this month so that I can extend that
one
to its max and pay this one that has reached its max?" It was during
this
period of creative management that I really started to think about
my life.
I consciously started to think about what I was doing during these
times
and how my thoughts were creating exactly what was happening.
When I
was able to shift the thoughts from being fear based into an
undeniable
trust that the universe would somehow or other provide, I started to
experience it much less. This was perhaps for me, the confirmation
that I
needed, to realise that I could indeed, move beyond fear.
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An excellent source of information for many more examples of this
type
of energy exchange, can be found in James Redfield’s book 'The
Secret
of Shambhala'
You may also wish to make a mental request that you would like to
receive the solution to these fears. Pause and allow the Universe
time to
provide answers and solutions. Once you have done this, you will
have
reached a level of understanding that you never have to succumb to
fear
again.
If the answers are not immediately forthcoming, let it go and trust
that it
will be taken care of. This too will make a massive difference in your
experiences with fear.
The Many Different
Facets Of Ego
The ego can be the bane of your
life, but it can be a valuable asset
to your growth process.
How do you recognize when it is
your ego that is playing up?
Find examples in this parable.
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The Many Different Facets
Of The Ego
At this point in your journey, you will more than likely know that we
came
into this life cycle with a set of potentials which we will follow or
digress
from, depending on our experiences. One thing we all come in with is
an
ego. It is an essential part of this game of duality. Our ego is an
essential
part of experiencing this journey to it's fullest. It is what is required
to
experience separation. What I mean by separation is two fold. You
are
separated from the oneness, the whole, the all knowing. Depending
on
the gender you chose to come in as, you are to a certain degree also
separated from either your male or female part of you. One or the
other
will be the more dominant energy.
Having said that, both elements are very much present in all of us.
During my personal journey, I have experienced many different
aspects
of my ego. I have but one conclusion. IT IS A BEAUTIFUL TOOL, and I
honor it, bless it and LOVE it, for being a part of me.
What a first statement! Did that surprise some of you? Maybe,
maybe
not.
I know that many of you are thinking “the ego is nothing but trouble
and I
try to hide it as deeply away as I possibly can”.
In my world, this illusion in which I participate, everything that is “in
balance” is a valuable aspect of self. When I am totally in balance I
am
one with all that is. I am in the flow. I am one with the creator
energy. I
am one with universal consciousness. I am not saying that the
experiences outside of balance are not valuable, they most certainly
are
because of the lessons and therefore the growth, wisdom and insight
they provide. That also goes for the ego. It can be the bane of your
life, it
can be your protector, it can be your comforter, it can be whatever
you
allow it to be in the circumstances in which you find yourself at any
given
moment.
Allow me to provide some examples of how the ego potentially
works.
Your ego may require you to defend yourself when you perceive to
have
experienced hurtful words being directed at you. Your ego will
request
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that you cry or play the victim role. Your ego might ask that you
become
angry and that you direct some hurtful comment back at the person
in
question or perhaps even to take it further than words. As I have
spoken
before about the 'experiences' - it does not matter which you choose
to
experience - neither are good nor bad. They just are. As you step
more
and more into the understanding of this game we call life, or humans
being, you will choose none of the previous. You will choose, more
often
than not, the option that will lead you to experience the higher
aspect of
yourself. What might this offer you?
It means that you will see immediately what is happening, and why.
You
will distance yourself from that energy and you may feel compassion
for
the other person directing that energy to you. You will love them
unconditionally for the journey and the experience they are choosing
to
live out as they speak to you. You will not be judging them for that
experience.
As you choose to remain in that higher state of self awareness, your
energy field will be expanding out from you in all directions. It will
contain
this energy of calm compassion. In doing so you will be touching
their
energy field and anyone else who happens to be in the vicinity. Their
higher selves will feel it, and relay it to the body. They then have the
choice to remain in that conflict energy or to relax and become calm.
Depending on their choice, you then have the option to physically
distance yourself from that person, or you can remain in that higher
state
of self. As you do, you will find the words that will offer the
opportunity to
openly discuss - without conflict - why they have chosen to direct
those
words at you. It is important for you not to own the words directed
at you.
You will generally find that it is saying something about them and
where
they are in their journey. There will be valuable lessons and
experiences
in these choices for both of you. What I am suggesting here is that
you
remain open and perhaps take a deep breath or two before making
those
choices. This will always allow time to look at what is happening and
why.
You might experience anger?
This too is a facet of ego. If you are willing to take a step back and
look
at the reason it has angered you, you will generally find that
something
that has happened to you in your past has been triggered by their
words.
To bring you to the state of anger, someone must have said
something
that you most definitely did not like, or there was an experience that
you
felt was very unpleasant. Look for the why. Be willing to release the
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experience in balance and love and you will find that the anger
dissipates
quite quickly.
You might experience judgment?
Why do we judge others? Is it perhaps from some deep lack from
within
ourselves? Could it be something that we are subconsciously being
guided to look at? Could our higher selves be using another as mirror
to
show us something about ourselves? Be willing to look at it. If you
find
anything, please remember above all not to judge yourself for the
experience. Quite often we are the most stringent and hard on
ourselves.
Above all have compassion for yourself.
You might experience disappointment?
Disappointment, is yet another facet of ego, which, if you are willing
to
look more closely, means you had expectations - of yourself or
another. I
think I can safely say that you are reading this and many other books
right now because you are looking to find 'unconditional love'.
Unconditional means exactly what it implies, 'NO' conditions. You
can
only ever experience disappointment if you had expectations of
someone, yourself or from something. Here again, be willing to look
closely at why you had those expectations. A gentle reminder again,
to
not judge yourself or beat yourself up for the experience.
Remember, it is
just exactly that, an experience.
You might experience fear?
This too is a facet of ego. Let’s take a look for a moment, at exactly
what
fear is. Would you agree, that if you found yourself in a situation that
you
had never before experienced, and because of that unfamiliarity, it
might
open you up to the experience of fear? Would it then resonate with
you if
I were to say that fear is simply a “not” knowing?
Let’s say that you experienced a situation that you didn't understand.
A
friend explains the situation to you - with all the details intact, and
this
brings you to a new awareness of the situation - allowing you to
relive
the experience with a new understanding. This enables the fear
aspect
to dissipate.
Something else I would briefly like to share with you here and I will
put it
in the form of a question - which will allow you to look closely
without any
preconceived notions from me.
Did any of the above mentioned reactions or interactions come from
yourself because you have deep rooted self worth issues? Simply be
willing to look at this statement in truth and please, do remember,
you
are worthy. (I will go deeper into this in another section.)
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When we feel our ego is taking us out of balance, all we need to do,
is be
willing to take some time out to explore the emotions and reactions.
Look
within to see why your ego is reacting in the way it is. Be totally
honest
with yourself. Once you look at these emotions and understand
them,
you will be able to love them and release them. This is what growth
is all
about. It isn't about judging and bashing yourself up for having these
emotions-that will only serve to push those feelings down-only to
have to
be released at a later date.
What is it about then?
It is all about balance. I will use the Libra scales as an example again.
It
is and has always been such a wonderful tool for my visualizations,
so
please allow me to pull them out of my mind's closet again. (chuckle)
When I feel that my ego is attempting to get my attention, usually by
some experience I am living at that moment in time, what I love to
do is
bring out those scales. (in my inner vision) I use them to look at
whatever
is happening in and around me at that moment. If they are tipped to
the
right or the left, I know immediately that something is not quite in
balance
with my ego. After taking some time to look at the reason why they
are
no longer in balance, I am generally able to see why. At this point, I
send
my ego an etheric hug for being there for me, yet again.
An awakened being will thank the ego for the lessons learned, for as
you
work with the ego, it can indeed be one of your most valuable allies
in
your growth.
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Synchronicities
What are Synchronicities?
There are, I am sure, several different interpretations of this word
and
its meaning. I will offer my own thoughts on what I perceive it to be.
They are divinely provided coincidences or signs, that we find along
on
our path when we are not listening to, (or are not yet able to) our
inner
guidance, our angels or guides. Perhaps even when we are listening,
we
are maybe not quite getting the right interpretation of the answers.
Synchronicities are answers to questions asked by you and delivered
by
spirit. Perhaps when we have been given a sign from our guides that
we
keep missing, we will often find that it is continually being put in
front of
Synchronicities
If you haven’t yet heard of this word, you
most certainly will.
This is perhaps one of the most important
tools in your awakening journey, especially
if you are not yet connected or trusting your
inner guidance.
There are so many ways that synchronicities
will reveal themselves. Hopefully after
reading about it in this parable, you will be a
little more aware on how to watch out for
them.
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us until we 'get it'. More often than not they will take the form of
synchronicities.
I remember in the very beginning stages of my own awakening, I had
read the Celestine Prophecies from James Redfield. I hadn’t given it
much thought after reading it although there were questions raised
by it. I
had for the most part, ignored them. During the next five months or
so,
this book crossed my path a total of six times before I finally figured
out,
that I was being guided to go back and read this book again.
I will never forget the gentleman’s face, on the day it happened for
the
sixth time. As I walked into his seminar/training facility - meeting him
for
the first time - I blurted out, “Ok Already!! I will read the damned
book
again!” I hadn’t even introduced myself as the trainer that was
coming to
teach his staff that day!
He of course, understood, after I eventually told him that it was the
sixth
time in five months that spirit had provided me with the signal to go
back
and read this book again. Here it was, laying on his desk in front of
him.
We got a good laugh out of it and the training session went
wonderfully
well.
Another example:
Just recently while I was in the USA to do some workshops I
happened
to have a day off and had decided to spend that day with my Twin
flame,
Mary Pat, with whom I do the workshops. We had decided to go out
to a
lake close to her home and spend some time meditating and
generally
enjoy each others company. We had not really been achieving the
success with the workshops that we would have desired, so we
certainly
wanted to sit and talk about what we could perhaps do differently
the
next time I came over. During this day we were to receive several
synchronicities that in the end, would provide us with answers to our
questions. I will explain what those answers were a little further on,
so
please indulge me while I share a brief synopsis.
While Mary Pat was driving the car out of the garage I happened to
glance down the road. What I thought I saw, was a dead animal in
the
middle of the road. As I began a ritual of singing this creature's spirit
back to the arms of the great creator, to my amazement it moved. As
I
looked more closely, I could see that it was a turtle.
The second synchronicity appeared as we were following a path
through
the woods that would eventually lead us down to the waters edge.
We
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had been following the path for quite a while and Mary Pat was
beginning to doubt whether she had remembered the correct route
to
take.
Eventually, we came upon a clearing that reminded us of something
we
see while sharing a Karmic ties meditation.
At last we came to the edge of the lake and after sitting together for
a
while, reminiscing and doing some releasing, a beautiful big butterfly
flew
right in front of us across the waters edge. As we turned to look at
each
other we knew we had been given a message and the tears flowed
freely. When we returned our gaze to the waters edge, the butterfly
had
disappeared.
Sometime later, while we were walking back through the woods, we
noticed that we were clearly following a different route back. This
too
contained a message.
While walking through the woods I felt guided to offer some tobacco
(an
Indian ritual) to Wakantanka, the elements and the 7 directions for
the
gifts of synchronicities/signals during our time spent together this
day.
As we were leaving the park area, Mary Pat saw a beautiful hawk just
sitting and watching us. This was yet another message for us from
our
guides.
At a certain point we began to discuss the events of the afternoon,
starting with the turtle. As everyone knows turtles are generally slow
creatures. We believe that the message in this was that we were to
slow
down, not to want to force things, that everything was following a
divine
plan and all was well.
Then, we lost our way on the path through the woods. I remember
thinking that perhaps even though the path was deviating and wasn’t
bringing us directly to the lake, we only needed to trust that it would
at
some point, bring us to where we wished to arrive.
This translated or interpreted to us, to simply trust that spirit or our
guides, were assisting us, and that we would, indeed be successful
with
the workshops. Here too, we were following a divinely guided plan.
Next, was the clearing where I remember comparing it to an
experience
within my visualization meditations in the karmic ties. This was
telling me
that there were certain things that needed to be cleared before we
would
be successful.
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Then, we saw the beautiful gold and black butterfly at the lake's
edge.
Which again, carried a message. For us, it meant that we are in a
period
of transition, that there are golden times and also darker times
ahead,
but that we would succeed after the transition. This happened to be
very
true as we were both being forced to look at our lives as they were.
The
gold depicts that there is light and abundance at the end of it all.
The path we returned on, being a completely different one to the
way we
came, showed us that there are many ways we can achieve our goals
and reach our hearts' desires. The route back was much faster and
shorter, which in turn was telling us that we had let go and trust the
signals provided. By doing so, the journey is being achieved faster
and
easier. Perhaps at times being perceived to be difficult, we are not to
fall
into judgment. To trust and allow spirit and our guides, to create that
which we desire to unfold.
While participating in the tobacco ritual we felt chills rushing up and
down
our bodies and had goose bumps all over. This was another signal to
us
that we were not alone, that there are many from all kingdoms
guiding
and assisting us when we are deaf to our messages.
The hawk is for both of us, a messenger and a totem animal. The fact
that he was sitting watching us told us that our guides are continually
watching over us, protecting and guiding us, all the while placing the
synchronicities/signals on our paths to assist when we were not
listening
or hearing them.
We all experience, at certain points in our journey, that we feel we
have
lost our connection to our guides. This happens mostly at times
when we
are in stressful situations and our vibrations have reached all time
lows.
This blocks us from being open to receive the messages from within.
It is
at these times, if we are alert and watch for the
synchronicities/signals
around us, we know we are never alone.
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Getting Out Of Your Own Way
This is perhaps, to date, one of the most amusing experiences I have
had
between my guides and myself. At the risk of looking a complete
idiot
(Chuckle), ( - they loved that one - ) I am going to share this
experience
with you here.
The funny thing is, when you have read it, you might find yourself
thinking, oops! Maybe I should join the club ! Haha…
Well, here goes then. A little further on in this book, I will talk about
the
gift I received “The 7 Steps to manifesting your hearts desires” The
example I am going to share here is in particular about the 7 steps.
This is one of the statements I make in 7 steps…
QUOTE!
Getting Out Of Your Own Way
In this parable I will share with you an
example of how we sometimes get in
our own way.
There are, of course, many different
ways that this is possible but in
sharing this one, it will, perhaps,
awaken something within you that
you might not have seen when you
have been in your own way?
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2. OPOM, it is my heartfelt request that we work together to attract
speaking engagements around the world, that I may be invited to
speak
on all manner of topics.
It is also my request that where required all information be provided
so I
AM an empowering and inspiring example to those I reach. I remain
always in balance, with the foremost wish of empowering and
assisting
others in their journeys and at all times in line with their I AM
presence.
(OPOM = Other Parts of Me. In other words my guides etc…)
After about a period of, lets say, three months or so, I started to ask
them
why things were not manifesting as I would perhaps have liked them
to.
The answer I received was, “Take action!”
Boy! Was that a slap in the face! Here I was, working my buns off,
doing
all I could to make a difference to the collective consciousness and I
couldn’t figure out why my OPOM’s were not more forthcoming with
anything else. All I could do, was to just get on with things and try to
find
out for myself.
After a period of about six months, I went back to them again with
the
same question. “OK OPOM’s, now I demand to know what it is I am
not
doing right here? This, by following your instructions should have
worked
by now, or at the very least a whole bunch of synchronicities leading
somewhere." Even those stopped after about a week or two.
The answer I got, was exactly the same as before - so this time, I
asked
for more clarity. All I got was, "You are getting in your own way!” Boy
oh
boy! I couldn’t have been more miffed!
The funny thing was, there was a thought that had been entering my
mind
for a while now and it was for me to get my passport fixed.
So I figured, what the heck, I will ask them if that was it.
All I got was a resounding chuckle. To which I of course replied, “Now
wait a minute here! Get me the appointments and I will get the
passport
fixed." To which I received another resounding chuckle.
Hrummpphhh… (That was my statement of indignation.)
The silly thing is, my wife and I needed our passports for something
else,
so in the beginning of December 2004, we decided to get them
updated.
About a week before the end of the year, we got them back again all
neatly completed and ready for travel for another ten years.
To Mary Pat’s and my own utter amazement, about a day later, we
received a request to participate in a sharing session around the
Indigo
film by James Twyman. What followed was even more mind blowing.
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Just two short weeks later, we had already received in total, 6
different
invitations - including one to be set up by ourselves. By the time you
read
this, it is of course old news, but I can let you know that there were
more
than 30 engagements after that, both in the USA and Holland.
My lesson learned in all of this has to be this:
By first taking action, you are putting a message out to the universe
that
you are ready. Your guides and all of your assistants then kick into
full
speed ahead and magical things start to happen around you.
Manifestations and synchronicities of all kinds start to become a part
of
your reality, no longer simply being fantasy or wishful thinking.
It really is about co-creating. You take action, then your OPOM’s get
the
ball rolling and things start to happen. It may well be that you, at
some
point are required to take some more action, after which your
OPOM’s get
to work again. By now, we have developed many seminars and
workshops and continue to travel around Europe and the USA.
We are now more and more alert when at times we get in our own
way, if
things start to slow down we take a step back and spend some time
looking at potential reasons why.
Isn’t it amazing how just a tiny little piece of action can all of a
sudden
make such a huge difference in our journeys? It really is true! Once
we
get out of the way, we get ON UR WAY!
I sincerely hope that this parable has made a difference to your
journey,
perhaps also pointing out where you might have been blocking
yourself
by getting in the way.