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Your beliefs have a big impact on your ability to get the things you
want out of life. “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it
can achieve.” This is a quote from Napoleon Hill’s
masterpiece, Think and Grow Rich. The road to financial success is a
fairly different road than the one to everlasting love. But they are
paved with the same thing: a strong desire to reach your goals and a
set of beliefs that tells you that you can.
This sounds easy, but when you read the literature behind it, you’ll
discover that it requires some self-reflection and effort. Not only do
you have to create and embody positive beliefs, but you also have to
eliminate limiting beliefs.
I have an online course that breaks down the Psychology of Beliefs,
the Law of Attraction, and other concepts that will help you create
strong, effective beliefs. In this book, I’m going to stick to the
basics. Even the most subtle changes to your beliefs can help you
see a world where you can achieve anything.
Be honest with yourself. Be mindful of your true beliefs. In order to
sustain a long-term relationship with an honest person, you will
have to start being honest and authentic with yourself.
This second option sounds more negative than the first. It’s not
helpful, either. If you’re holding onto beliefs that sound negative
and limiting, it’s time to eliminate them.
We all hold onto limiting beliefs that hold us back from going for
what we truly want in life. Discovering and discarding the limiting
beliefs is the first step on your journey.
Do you believe that you are a catch? That the right person is out
there, waiting to meet someone like you? Or do your limiting beliefs
tell you otherwise?
It’s easy to see how your belief system influences your self-esteem.
If you are held back by limiting beliefs, you might not have a great
view of yourself. Since you have a negative view of yourself, that’s
going to directly affect your confidence and your actions… and thus
your results.
Take Action
The journey doesn’t stop in your head. Self-esteem is an opinion
about ourselves, formed as we listen to our beliefs and observe our
behaviors. In order to improve your self-esteem, you will have to
make improvements to your beliefs and behaviors.
Before you form opinions about others, you watch their actions and
observe their behavior. We do this our whole lives without thinking,
often subconsciously. Mistakes or moments of weakness may stick
out in your mind and you might start to tell yourself that you’re a
bad person. The more you tell yourself this, the more you will
believe it. Instead, start to show yourself the good things that you
can do and the good person that you are.
To have better self esteem, start with changing your actions. Write
down on a piece of paper the type of person you want to be. You
might choose words like:
● Accountable
● Attractive
● Funny
Now, write down some behaviors for these traits and consider them
for your to-do list this week.
● Find out who the top five comedians are right now and watch
their specials
These are just examples. You can come up with tons of behaviors
that will help you take on these traits.
When the week is over, look back over the behaviors that you did.
Congrats! Not only did you take the time to write down exactly who
you want to become, but you also took the steps to embody those
traits. Use this as proof to feel better about yourself. Continue on
this path until your confidence soars through the roof!
See how simple this is? The truth is most guys who are in the “pits”
won’t do it though. I hope you do.