HOW TO GET

A GIRLFRIEND
WWW.THESOCIALMAN.COM
WELCOME
Introduction: I’m Christian
Goal Of The Course: get you a girlfriend!
Step-by-step system for getting her
It’s real, it’s tested and it works
It’s almost scary... but it’s unconscious now
Been selling V1 for over a year, TONS of results
Created V2 bc I want to deliver the very best
ABOUT CHRISTIAN
Lifelong Entrepreneur, Yet...
Terribly Insecure Until Early 30’s
The First Phase: Adrienne
The Second Phase: Company and Craziness
The Third Phase: College and Charisma Arts
The Fourth Phase: TSM + Rockstar Life
The Fifth Phase: Maturation & Reconciliation
The Sixth Phase: On My Grind

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN TODAY
As you know, it’s based on Literotica


It starts with being the man who women

obsess over - the obvious choice for her


Then, I’ll show you the “social dynamics” of

the game... lifting the fog, so to speak


Finally, I’ll give you the strategies and

tactics you need to win the game
BEING A MAN
WHO WOMEN
OBSESS OVER
THE OBSESSION STORY
A woman wants to feel your masculine
power... and be overwhelmed by it
Masculine Power: a distinct energy that
comes from a dominant man with a good
heart, positive intentions, whose life is an
adventure and who strives for success
Being Overwhelmed By It: letting this
energy “touch & activate” her latent
feminine essence... her sexuality, her
radiance and her grace
MASCULINE POWER: DOMINANCE

Having expectations for how things should be

Assertively pursuing what you want
Willing to risk rejection to get what you
want, and what you think is right
Not caring what others think
It’s a “muscle” - Ten Code Exercises
stay in convos longer, get closer
Three Stories of Dominance
Melodia, Evan, NYE
DOMINANCE DEMOS
“Hey, I think you’re really pretty - what’s
your name? Where are you off to? Well, I
can’t join you... but I want to know you -
what’s your number?”
Pushing For A Number
“Hey who are you?... Alright, I gotta go sort
something out over there, but I wanna talk
to you.”
Pushing her against a door or down to a
couch or something... “you’re in trouble”
MASCULINE POWER: COMPETENCE

A key ingredient to a successful life

Ability + Responsibility + Reliability
It’s a natural outcome of having a mission
Three Hallmarks of Competence
Let your actions control your emotions
Balancing fun & responsibility
Creating more than you consume
Examples of (In)Competence
In: Overspending in NYC, staying in partnerships
Competence: High Status Drop
COMPETENCE DEMO
Passive Value in General
Story About Values And Vision
well it was difficult to part ways but it came
down to a simple choice: am I going to grow
this and share it with the world, or am I going to
be held back?
MASCULINE POWER: CHALLENGING

A natural result of success and competence

You have high expectations for others
High standards for yourself, expect likewise
Literotica Heros: often can’t imagine that
women have something to offer
You challenge her to show that she is more
than a pretty face
You always keep a little part of yourself for
her to keep trying to win over
CHALLENGING DEMOS
You’re an actress... (smile) too bad it’ll never work
out between us... I’m sticking to librarians from
here on out... but you are pretty cute... tell me
what you like about actress.
“I really like talking to you but, I don’t know, you
just... seem like such a good girl. Tell me
something dangerous you’ve done.” Her
Response. My response - volcano, motorcycle, I
made love while driving a stick shift... so
whaddya got?”
Polarity Escalation: stop it, you can’t make me do
this, there’s no way I’m giving into you,
MASCULINE POWER: MYSTERIOUS

Selectively holding back info and interest

You don’t feel the need to share anything about
yourself to get validation from others
You don’t need to “give away” your interest to
make her like you
Give her the gift of wondering about you
Some of the coolest things about you
should be a mystery. It’s not “but I just want
her to like me for me.”
Plus it’s fun to make people work for you!
MYSTERIOUS DEMO
General Expressiveness
The Open Loop: “well, we might have
something else on the agenda. but... I’ve
gotta go to the restroom.”
Selective Attention: no wonder you felt so
free
The Mysterious Compliment: have you ever
smiled at yourself in a mirror, and seen what
it looks like?
MASCULINE POWER: GENUINE
You are driven to discover and speak truth
When you’re strong and have self-esteem,
you don’t need someone... so your desire for
them is based on true appreciation
Express sexual desire, admiration, danger or
excitement before emotional attachment
She becomes unique and special to you... on
a deep level, and for reasons she didn’t even
see herself
Who She Is, Not About Her: Motivations &
Beliefs
MASCULINE POWER: SEXUAL
Sexuality: the gateway to, and expression
of... lust, desire and love. Starts with the
look.
It brings you pleasure to bring her pleasure
You have no shame or guilt about your
desire, nor do you do much to restrain it
It’s not about when you want it most, it’s
about when she wants it most
Your desire is tempered by sexual
abundance
SEXUAL DEMO
breaking space
First touch
Location of Leg
the “face deke”
MASCULINE POWER: A RECAP
Dominant: you push to get what you want
Competent: you come correct
Challenging: you have high expectations
Mysterious: you don’t give away your power
Genuine: you search for and speak truth
Sexual: it brings you pleasure to pleasure her
!

There are many other great character traits,

but these are the ones which trigger obsession
 OBSESSION
PERSPECTIVES
GUEST SPEAKERS
Nick Sparks on Being Sexual
Jason Capital on Being a Challenge
Alex Allman on Being Genuine
David Wygant on Being Dominant
 BEING
BOYFRIEND
MATERIAL
WHAT IS BOYFRIEND MATERIAL?
“Stuff that makes you a great boyfriend”
Stuff that makes her feel uniquely beautiful,
feminine, and appreciated in your eyes
7 Things You Give Her to feel like the
girlfriend she always wanted to be
The Best Part: It’s Free
!

In Obsession Story: the latent... almost lost...

part of a male’s character that her presence
brings to the surface
WHY BOYFRIEND MATERIAL?
In the long run, the truth comes out
If you’re NOT this way, then you’re probably not
fit to have a girlfriend anyway
Desirable women have seen it all: the BBD
they’ve eaten at the best restaurants, danced at
the best clubs, and have been flown to the
Mediterranean... so you can’t “win” with that
stuff (unless you want to date LoBro)
Most BBD’s DON’T do this stuff... and
women secretly wished they did
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: VISION
You have a vision for her life and “success”
You see possibilities and potential in her
You’re able to see things for her, that she
can’t see for herself: see her in spotlights
“What’s the beautiful vision that you want
your life to be?”
The benefit of age, wisdom and experience!
Example: “the unauthorized biographer” or
“the oprah appearance”
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: GROWTH

She’s the seed, you’re the water and sun

You help her with a goal or ambition
You don’t do the work, you show her the path
You challenge her to do, pursue and
become
You become her team-mate and/or mentor
You celebrate her achievement
Example: helping an ex negotiate a job
offer, helping M work with her company
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: THRILLS
Creating emotions and excitement in an
otherwise mundane life
Give her the thrill of wondering about you
Surprise dates and changes of plan
The Short Text
Champagne During Sex
And so on...
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: BETTERMENT

Helping her become “better” and healthier

in mind, body and spirit
Growth is specific to her, betterment is for
everyone
Encouraging her to eat healthy and exercise
with you
Mediating or praying together
Giving her other transformative books...
Mind-Altering Experiences
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: PLEASURE

Making her feel good

Leading with laughter and smiles - because it’s
genuinely in you
Giving her awesome sexual experiences...
because sex is art
Sexual Tension: don’t push for ASAP sex,
push sexuality until she wants sex ASAP
You have to create space and remember to
bring pleasure into your lives...
...by living a sensual life of your own.
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: AN EXAMPLE

Are your actions something that you’d tell

others to emulate to make the world, and
relationships, better?
Chivalry: holding open doors, putting her in
a taxi, walking outside the street, standing
up when she returns to the table
HONESTY... duh and d’oh
VERY attractive if done from position of
leadership and core value
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: WHAT’S BEST

Being together for the right reasons

Knowing if and when someone else can
give her more than you can... and vice versa
JCH: breaking up with girls when I wasn’t
best for them (or they for me)
BOYFRIEND MATERIAL: A RECAP
Vision: seeing what’s possible
Growth: helping her achieve it
Thrills: making life exciting
Betterment: improving together
Pleasure: taking pleasure in giving it
An Example: of how it “ought” to be
What’s Best: for her, and for you
Best. Boyfriend. Ever.
 THE
DATING
GAME
THE DATING GAME
Three “Layers” Of The Dating Experience
1. The Obsession Story: the four stages that mark
every great love story
2. The Investment Ladder: the “social dynamics”
of love and commitment
3. The Checkpoints: points of contact between
you and her, from seeing her to being her BF
!

This is the “mine field” of dating, and with

this multi-layered model, you’ll finally “get
it”
THE OBSESSION STORY: 4 STAGES

Impression: from meeting to number

Inspection: from texting to sex
Intimacy: from sex to relationship
In Love: from relationship, onwards
!

An Analogy: Resume, Interview, Internship,

Job
STAGE 1: IMPRESSION
from when you meet her, to when she’s decided
she wants to see you more
you occupy space in her mind and stand out
the goal: get her to open up about life
what you’ll learn:
make an impression before you meet her
if you’re introduced
how to approach
conversation basics
getting her to approach you
“resetting” an impression
STAGE 2: INSPECTION
where boyfriend value starts to express itself
“am I going to give myself to this man?”
the goal: a sexual relationship
what we’re going to teach you
most important texting techniques
step-by-step dates
conversation chemistry and romance
how to create amazing sexual excitement
we’ll go from from “she’s inspecting me” to
parity or reverse
STAGE 3: INTIMACY
a 2-6 period where you’re sleeping with her
giving her space while lighting up her life
the goal: an emotional relationship... she opens her
heart to you
it ends when she trusts in your masculine
strength, and feels like the woman she always
wanted to be
what you’ll learn:
more step-by-step dates
how to keep her hooked without pushing her away
becoming official - how to have the talk
STAGE 4: IN LOVE
enjoying the love of your life!
dealing with jealousy, trust, ongoing
excitement, and everything else that comes
with relationships
the focus of another program
VALUE (AND INVESTMENT) THEORY

value theory: we are attracted to... and invest

in... things we value.
the game: finding a girl who you value
enough to invest in, and being the value she
wants to invest in
dating: determining if there is a value fit
3 forms of value to drive investment in you
primary: the fire inside of you
passive: the world you create
active: how you make people feel
INVESTMENT THEORY
how “invested” is the girl in the relationship
we invest in things we value
good relationship: equal investment levels
how do you get her to invest in you?
not with wealth, looks or money
create compelling emotional experiences, and
be an obsession-worthy “ten”
THE INVESTMENT "DDER
neutral: doesn’t know you, doesn’t care
intrigued: aware and curious
engaged: thinking about and spending time with
you
compliant: does little things for you when you ask
invested: wants to see if a successful relationship is
possible
chasing: she goes out of her way for you, is actively
thoughtful
committed: she’s chosen you to the exception of
other options
INVESTMENT "DDER: THOUGHTS

can get stuck in phases i.e. “can’t get her

Invested”
could be because of you and your life
could be because of her own issues
craziness, insecurity and other issues lead to
askew investment
when is it locked in?
maybe never? but probably around 8 months.
CHECKPOINTS
the landmarks on your map to relationshipville
like a vacation through the south of France, there’s no one
direct path
meet
number
1st date
1st kiss
2nd date
3rd-sex date
more sex
sunday together
meeting friends
BF/GF
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
Neutral meeting
Impression
Intrigued number

Engaged 1st date

Inspection 1st kiss

Working For You Additional Dates
Sex Date

Invested More Sex

Intimacy Sunday Together

Chasing Meeting Friends

Boyfriend/
In Love Committed
Girlfriend
SUMMARY
Being Obsession-Worthy
6 Traits Of The Man Who Women Obsess Over
Being Boyfriend Material
7 Things That Women Deeply Desire
The Dating Game
Obsession Story
Investment Ladder
Checkpoints
 STAGE 1:
IMPRESSION
WHAT MAKES A GOOD IMPRESSION?

We go through our lives on autopilot, our

minds occupied with boring stuff
Women have a love-hate relationship with
male attention
hate cat-calls (weak), love compliments (bold)
And a proper first impression is exceptional,
exciting, and it stands out in the mind
causes dopamine rush, induces zeigernick effect
IMPRESSION BASICS
It starts with who you are - primary value
Awesome if you have some passive value
get involved in things you care about, and
become a leader: dinner party, surfing club,
drinks after work, DJ
Active Value: fundamentals of body
language, tonality, and expression (demo)
My perspective: being cool, comfortable in
her presence, challenging her, and having
fun... those all make the perfect impression
KING GAME
KING GAME: BASICS 1
Put yourself in the best possible light that
the girls you want, want to be a part of
Establish ‘alpha status’ by being the leader
of a high value scene
women are naturally attracted to the dominant
males of the group
Be The Owner, Connector, Facilitator
the DJ, the cook, the host
... even the ’99 bananas guy’ (or artichoke dip!)
KING GAME: BASICS 2
Get Your Friends To Pimp You Out
How? Be an awesome friend!
Get them talking about you with “man”
respect: hard-working, risk-taking, leader
“I don’t know how he does it” vs. “he’s great for
you”
Bring A Girl Into Your Life The Right Way
Fun group activities that you and your buddies
have planned
Take the opportunity to do cool shit with your
life!
THE DARK SIDE: PART 1
The Chinese Mafioso & Value Transference
Establishing Alpha Status
Create and be the leader of a high-value scene
Find cool, unique guys to compliment you
Lead by creating value for everyone
Give Tasks and Approval To The Guys
Give Subtle Approval When Everyone Is Going
Nuts
Selectively Ignore People When They Talk
Withdrawal
THE DARK SIDE: PART 2
The Genius Acolyte and the Bozo Stawman
Key: Talk approvingly or disapprovingly
The Genius: he’s learned outside of you
The Bozo: at least he’s a good dude
Balancing Against the Dark Side
Cultivate Excellence In Your Own Life
Want Excellence For Those Who Are In It
DEMONSTRATION TIME
Being Introduced to a Girl
Selectively Ignore a Guy
Value Transference
THE COLD APPROACH
THE COLD APPROACH
Attraction Before Approach!
Build Situational Value
Bro-Circling
Go For the Lay Ups
Talk To The Hot Girl
Make Friends With The Couple or the Guy
Pick The “Social Spot”
Be The First In... Or the Last
5 THINGS IN EVERY INITIAL CONVO

Fluff Talk To Open Up

could be situational, could be direct
body language, tonality, EC and expression
Lead or Relate with High Value Stories
it’s not bragging, it’s your life
Drive Towards Motivations
what led her to do/be?
Qualification
affirming that you approve
Asking For Her Number
DEMONSTRATION
HOW TO APPROACH
Featuring Nick Sparks!
RESETTING IMPRESSION
SO YOU’RE IN THE FRIEND ZONE
The Dynamic: she doesn’t think of you
sexually
The Objective: introduce sexuality and “flip
the frame”
4-5 Step Process
It STARTS with getting your shit together
exercise, good diet, being social
And it REQUIRES giving up...
you’ve “lost” her already, so now just risk it all
THE FRIEND ZONE BUSTER
1.Create Some Space
1. But don’t dramatically change the dynamic yet
2.The “50 Shades” Conversation
1. Give Her A Nickname (starfish, lima bean)
3.Subtly Establish Disinterested Frame
1. Check out other girls, tease her about guys
2. LOTS of body language and general dynamic
4.Sextrology
5.The Full Body Orgasm Technique
DEMONSTRATION
The 50 Shades Conversation
Disinterested Vibe
Body Language
Teasing Her About Other Guys and Such
IMPRESSION - A SUMMARY
It doesn’t have to be hard
The magic of standing out is in the simple
stuff
The “higher value” of a guy you can be, the
easier it gets
You can engineer social situations in your favor!
You don’t have to be rich to do this either
It’s all about creating value for others
And then... it’s a simple conversation!
 STAGE 2:
INSPECTION
INSPECTION - THE BIG IDEAS
This is the “dating phase”
It often feels like she’s inspecting you -
we’re going to help flip that around
A big part is giving her space if she needs it
Embrace the uncertainty and the
excitement!
If she’s emotionally healthy, and so are you,
and you two get along and are attracted to
each other, then it should proceed easily
INSPECTION - THE “FEEL” OF IT
Third Date / Sex

Second Date

First Date Texting

Texting
Number Exchange
Texting
Meeting
STANDARD CAVEATS
Depending on the girl, it may move more
slowly or more quickly
There may be flags on the play
ex-boyfriends
craziness
travel or life circumstances
... so don’t push too hard if it’s not proceeding
This is what works for me, not for everyone
I play a slow game, bc it takes me awhile to get
comfortable with a new girl
THE MOST IMPORTANT RULE
Give her the gift of wondering about you
Live in the moment, flirt with the future
Don’t over-confirm
Let her feel your intention, but leave it unstated
When in doubt, give her space
THE FIRST DATE
THE DTF TEST
Text: Meet at Mine To Start?
Arrival: No Shoes + Glass of Wine
Entry: Mind Taking Off Your Shoes?
Inside: Offer a Glass of Wine
THE MECHANICS OF IT
Monday, Tues or Weds
Perfect First Date: Drink & Activity
NuBlu and Ace Bar
Jazz and then Dave and Busters
And for God’s sake - not a wine bar or night club!
Should you pay?
If you can, you should. You asked her out.
Angry manosphere guys don’t get girlfriends.
She might offer to pay for second round... or play the
“drinks on the loser” game.
And if you don’t drink? Coffee & Activity
THE CONVERSATION
When You Meet: Compliment + Tease
kiss on cheek, EC, nonchalant, lead
At the Venue: joke or story about venue
it was between this or a coal mine
we can’t have too many beergaritas
Start A Story: the craziest thing happened...
make it a high value story
bozo strawman + genius acolyte
Flirt With The Future: a game you both like
INSTANT CONNECTION TECHNIQUE

Your Story
End on Personality Principle
Her Story
Vibe on It
Combine and Future Project
FUN DATE QUESTIONS
Did you ever steal anything as a kid and get
in trouble for it? What would you like to
steal if you could?
Tease her, or plan a heist with her.
What’s the most valuable quality in a friend?
Favorite Course in School?
What’s the best hiding place you know?
MECHANICS - ORDERING DRINKS
First Drink - take the lead
are there any things you don’t like or don’t
drink? do you trust me to order for you?
Second Drink - ask for cocktail menu
tease if she orders a girly drink
tease if she orders a manly drink
Paying the tab
let it sit for a moment... but not too long
MECHANICS - NEXT STEPS
Consider ending it now - it’s a power move
Otherwise, take her to an activity
Games, Dancing, Sunglass Shopping, etc.
CREATING SEXUAL TENSION
Build it and release it - the dance
Start with a touch, and keep it up
DEMOS
light touch while you’re sitting next to her
physical playfulness while hopping bars
going for a fakie kiss in the taxi
the kiss fake
“hey, I gotta tell you something, come here...”
“I’m gonna rock you in skeeball”
SEEDING THE NEXT DATE
FLIRT with the future
Talk about cool shit that coming up in your
week/month
don’t be a negative nancy if you don’t have
anything going on
What’s coming up in her week?
Don’t Pry! Just be casual
ENDING THE DATE
IF Making Out AND Into It:
“alright girl, gotta get you home”
if you sense any disappointment, “alright, I know
one more cool place I can show you”
“two words: pillow barrier. we are not having sex
tonight”
OTHERWISE (and do this if you’re not sure)
Kiss on the cheek
wry smile and “we might just have to do this
again sometime”
Be a fucking gentleman
TEXTING FOLLOWUP
Don’t overdo it!
Text the next day with callback humor
5-Step Process From HOW2TXTHER
If you’re getting good investment from her
(see HOW2TXTHER) then move things
along and do a social circle date
Keep texting multiple girl until you’re
sleeping with one (or maybe a few!)
THE SECOND DATE
SECOND DATE MECHANICS 1
Tues, Weds or Thurs
Probably Food - Somewhere light
Sushi, Italian
Don’t order anything with garlic, onions, truffles
A Kiss? Yes, but depends on how much
progress you made last time.
Appetizer: order for her
any allergies? then present 2 options. order
SECOND DATE MECHANICS 2
Main Course: order for her
ask what she’s ordering... “and the lady will have”...
“and I’d like”
try each others dishes - feed each other if possible
The Bill: probably pay for it
but feel free to let it sit for a few moments
don’t make a show of it - be a professional
Dessert: walk to chocolate, yogurt, etc.
hold her hand, steal some kisses along the way
playfully touch her a little bit to build tension
Subsequent Kisses: passionate but not pushy
CONVERSATIONS 1
Assume She’s “Familiar” With Your Life
bring her into something good that’s going on
discuss opportunity, challenge, project
avoid existential questions or challenges! they
show you’re not on your path.
About Her: what’s up?
she might talk nonstop... she might need some
space to feel comfortable opening up
you know she’s got her head screwed on
straight if it’s a dialogue, not a monologue
CONVERSATIONS 2
What’s shaped each of you into who you are
What are her silly hopes and deep desires?
What are the secrets she’s never told to
anyone?
Talk about family; speak well or not at all.
Who’s important in her life?
What’s important in her life?
... and WHY? Drive towards values, beliefs
and motivations.
THE EX TALK
“So how do you find dating in _city_”
“I’ve been single since...”
“Still keep in touch with your ex?”
About Your Ex: you want the best
speak positively about them (but not wistful)
talk about what didn’t work
you want the right thing for them
general attitude is that you’re glad it’s behind
you
LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX
“This one ex and I didn’t get along well, but
man, the sexual chemistry...”
Lead with your own stories. “She was all about
doing it in public”or “the stuff she was into in
the bedroom”
Fun Leading Questions
What’s the least you’ve ever worn in public?
If you could make out with anyone for five
minutes, they wouldn’t remember, and no one
else would know, who would it be?
What’s the best place to touch and be touched?
CLOSING THE DATE
Making your way after things get saucy
Kissing: “You have a way of bringing out
the devil in me”
“Ok, it’s time to get you home before you
create too much trouble for me.”
THE SOCIAL DATE
AN OVERVIEW
Friday or Saturday Get Together With Friends
If you’ve got a great life and she’s indicated
interest in it, this can be a great date
But do NOT do a nightclub unless you own it
Lots To Go Wrong, So Get This Stuff Right:
you have very high social value
it’s going to be a big group and big activity
your friends are going to make you look good
she’s already indicated interest in it
you two have very solid rapport
MECHANICS
Make sure she’s taken care of, but don’t
overwhelm her
Leave her to talk to your friends now and then
Make connections between your friends and
her
Get her to do stuff for you, with you or
against you
The GFE: arm around shoulder, or light back
rub
Depending on the connection, back to yours
THE SEX DATE
MECHANICS
Dinner and a Movie At Your Place
Dinner: salmon with angel-hair pasta
Movie: Ratatouille, Despicable Me, etc.
Pre-Arrival: shower up!
Arrival:
Kiss On!
Shoes Off!
Champy On!
Create a Playlist
MECHANICS
Cooking Together
Involve her
flirt and kiss
smack her with a clean spatula or spoon
take moments to make out
have her make the table
serve her dinner
talk a little bit
Dessert: strawberries and chocolate, or whipped cream
and berries
Maybe sexy time when you’re cleaning up
kitchen counter makeout
YOUR P"CE
Good lighting - get some Dimmers
Books, souvenirs, artwork
A Cool Photo Book or Two
Wine and Champagne... always!
Hookah can be nice... so is weed.
Comfy blanket and pillows
Down (or synthetic) mattress pad
Amazing sheets
Girl-Friendly bathroom
No clocks! No gladiator posters! No messes!
MOVIES AND KISSES
It might not even get to this, but if it does...
Infamous: 2 steps forward, 1 step back
Position yourself closer to the screen
Start scratching her hair, rubbing feet, etc.
Eye Contact - Transition to Kissin’
Begin touching her around waist
Guide her hands onto you
RAMPING UP THE SEXY
Tough & Tender: the yin and yang of sexual
tension
Push her against the wall, then pull back
Pick her up over your shoulder, throw onto bed,
then be very gentle
Ready For Sex? Slow Down There!
Goal is to turn her on, so go slow.
Give her pleasure first
Go for it when she wants it most, not the first
moment it’s available
IF SHE’S NOT SURE, BUT YOU ARE...

I’d never sleep with a girl who I didn’t want

to see again
!

Look, it’s pretty clear we have amazing

sexual chemistry. I’m just enjoying being
with you here, right now... and I want to
make you feel amazing. So if you’re not
comfortable, or not feeling the same way,
or you just wanna slow down, well... like I
said, I’m just enjoying being here with you.
SEX AND AFTER
Make it great for her!
Condoms? You better believe it, buddy.
Post-Sex:
towel and damp, warm cloth to wipe off
some water, as well
gently blow on her as you scratch her
maybe shower time, maybe sex again?
The Morning After: can you cook?
coffee, tea, eggs and greens: let her leave feeling
healthy and upbeat.
INSPECTION - A SUMMARY
Be a cool leader of your own life, and bring
her into it to see if she’s a good fit
Give her the gift of wondering about you
Play It Cool
Don’t Rush It
Let your intention be felt, not spoken
Live in the Moment and Flirt With the Future
...And follow the process. Her investment
will continue to rise if you talk about what I
suggest, and ARE an obsession-worthy man.
 STAGE 3:
INTIMACY
WHAT IS INTIMACY?
The 2-6 Week Period Where You Go From
“Dating” to “Official
She’s becoming very invested in you
She associates good emotions with you
Feeling like the woman she’s always wanted
to be... for the man she always wanted.
Feels listened to, desired... like she found
something she’s been missing
Starting to wonder: is he too good to be
true?
DO’S AND DO NOT DO’S
Don’t Do What Donny Don’t Does
Don’t assume she’s your girlfriend!
Don’t make your problems, hers.
Don’t assume you get every night with her.
Keep Boundaries and Nights for Yourself
Instead, follow David Do’s Example
Do increase the frequency of hanging out
Do bring her more into your world
Do meet each others’ friends
Do learn about her faves and preferences
CONNECTING ON VISION & P"NS

Get Her Involved In Your Vision

ask her to help you find a song to mix
get her to host a party with you
talk about her thoughts on your big vision
Help Her Realize Her Own
Help her with research or planning
Help her write emails to co-workers
Strategize the “business plan of her life”
... just don’t become her sugar daddy.
SEEING THE WORLD
How do the two of you see the world
together?
A lot of the dates and activities in this phase are
about you opening up to her and showing that
you are sharing your experience of the world
with her.
There’s romance/humor/love in everything...
chocolate, walks, cooking... pick simple,
sensual things to explore together... and
make it about the two of you - not the
thing.
NEXT DATES
Beach or Park
Boy School: skateboarding, drums, rock-
climbing, etc.
Champagne and Mac N’ Cheese
A Wine/Chocolate Tour of the City
Social Events Together
Classes
Concerts or Sporting Events
Playing Sports Together
LITTLE SURPRISES
Flowers after 2nd or 3rd sex
A book or movie with personal meaning
A Get-Well-Soon Kit
p.s. - this can actually reset an impression!
Postcards and Trinkets when you travel
Creative MMS: “thinking of you” in sand
Little Notes in her purse
Edit the closed caption on a movie
Make a website for her
BECOMING OFFICIAL
Tagging each other in facebook pictures
Conversations about family members
Conversations with family members
Having “the talk”
in bed, or brunch, or lunch... casually
have the talk
let her put the label on it
introduce her to others as your girlfriend
... and don’t ever change your facebook status!
INTIMACY: IN SUMMARY
A big part: you not messing up, and her not
being crazy
Her investment will increase considerably if
you...
have boundaries
do thoughtful things
give her space to miss you
show her love when you’re together
Have fun together, finding sensual experiences
together, and create the canvas upon which you
may fall in love
 THE
CONCLUSION
WHAT ABOUT “IN LOVE”?
That’s not the subject of this course
The man you are in a relationship is never
the same as the man you were when you
were dating
I’ve messed up many relationships with
immaturity, stupidity and insecurity
... and I don’t want that for you.
WHAT’S NEXT?
Follow this process, get a girlfriend
I hope you’ll keep training with me
I built The Ten Code to help you become the
ultimate version of yourself: the guy who’s life is
“maxed out”, who’s not wanting for anyone or
anything, and who any woman would be lucky to
have
Coaching! The fastest way to get good at the
important stuff: attraction, conversation and
sexuality.
We’ve learned a lot here... and yet it’s only
getting started.
CLOSING THOUGHTS
Women are a mirror that reflect onto us our
best, and our worst, selves
Becoming an obsession-worthy man is about
much more than her.
Be selfish: give yourself the gift of the best life
you can have, as the best guy you can be.
If that’s your day-to-day reality, then you’ll find
love... and yourself... reflected in the eyes of
an incredible woman. And that’s my real hope
for you, and for the next woman whose life you
light.