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elisabeth kübler-ross - five stages of griefkubler-ross model for death and bereav
ement counselling, personal change and trauma Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (which is the
correct spelling; Elizabeth Kubler Ross is a common incorrect form and used abov
e for search-engine visibility). Incidentally, 'counselling' is UK English and '
counseling' is US English.
Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross pioneered methods in the support and counselling of perso
nal trauma, grief and grieving, associated with death and dying. She also dramat
ically improved the understanding and practices in relation to bereavement and h
ospice care.
Her ideas, notably the five stages of grief model (denial, anger, bargaining, de
pression, acceptance), are also transferable to personal change and emotional up
set resulting from factors other than death and dying.
We can clearly observe similar reactions to those explained by Kübler-Ross's grief
model in people confronted with far less serious traumas than death and bereave
ment, such as by work redundancy, enforced relocation, crime and punishment, dis
ability and injury, relationship break-up, financial despair and bankruptcy, etc
.
This makes the model worthy of study and reference far outside of death and bere
avement. The 'grief cycle' is actually a 'change model' for helping to understan
d and deal with (and counsel) personal reaction to trauma. It's not just for dea
th and dying.
This is because trauma and emotional shock are relative in terms of effect on pe
ople. While death and dying are for many people the ultimate trauma, people can
experience similar emotional upsets when dealing with many of life's challenges,
especially if confronting something difficult for the first time, and/or if the
challenge happens to threaten an area of psychological weakness, which we all p
ossess in different ways. One person's despair (a job-change, or exposure to ris
k or phobia, etc) is to another person not threatening at all. Some people love
snakes and climbing mountains, whereas to others these are intensely scary thing
s. Emotional response, and trauma, must be seen in relative not absolute terms.
The model helps remind us that the other person's perspective is different to ou
r own, whether we are the one in shock, or the one helping another to deal with
their upset.
The study of death and dying is actually known as thanatology (from the Greek wo
rd 'thanatos' meaning death). Elisabeth Kübler-Ross is accordingly sometimes refer
red to as a thanatologist, and she is considered to have contributed significant
ly to the creation of the genre of thanatology itself.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's seminal book was On Death & Dying, published in 1969, in w
hich she explained her now classically regarded 'five stages of grief'. The book
and its ideas were quite revolutionary at the time, reflecting Kübler-Ross's outs
poken and bold approach, which is paradoxical given the sensitivity and compassi
on of her concepts.
Kübler-Ross was a catalyst. She opened up and challenged previously conservative (
sweep it under the carpet, don't discuss it, etc) theories and practices relatin
g to death and bereavement, and received an enormously favourable response among
carers, the dying and the bereaved, which perhaps indicates the level of denial
and suppression that had earlier characterised conventional views about the sub
ject - particularly in the western world, where death is more of a taboo than in
certain other cultures.
As stated, and important to emphasise, Kübler-Ross's five stages of grief model wa
s developed initially as a model for helping dying patients to cope with death a
nd bereavement, however the concept also provides insight and guidance for comin
g to terms with personal trauma and change, and for helping others with emotiona
l adjustment and coping, whatever the cause. This has probably helped her ideas
to spread and to enter 'mainstream' thinking.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and her ideas have now become synonymous with emotional resp
onse to trauma, and to grief support and counselling, much like Maslow is fundam
entally associated with motivational theory; Kolb with learning styles, and Gard
ner with multiple intelligence.
As with much other brilliant pioneering work, the Kübler-Ross model is elegantly s
imple. The five stages of grief model is summarised and interpreted below.
The Kübler-Ross five stages and terminology are featured here with permission fro
m the Elisabeth Kübler Ross Foundation, which is gratefully acknowledged. Please l
ook at the website www.ekrfoundation.org, which enables and sustains Dr Kübler-Ros
s's values and mission, and extends help to those who need it. (Separate referen
ce was made here previously to the www.elisabthkublerross.com website, which som
etime after 2008 now re-directs to the EKR Foundation website.)
Please be aware that the interpretation and contextual material on this webpage
represents my own thoughts on the subject. I would encourage you to develop your
own ideas too - this is a deeply significant area and one that can be interpret
ed in many ways. My interpretation and associations are not an attempt to reprod
uce Kübler-Ross's thinking, they seek to provide a modern context, and to relate t
he basic model to the philosophies of this website.
Use of and reference to the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross five stages for commercial purpo
ses, and publication of EKR quotations, require permission from the EKR Foundati
on. You can use freely the other aspects of this page subject to the normal term
s for using this website, briefly summarised at the foot of this page.
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on eart
h - and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin t
o live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had."
(Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, 1926-2004, psychiatrist, humanitarian, teacher, author,
and pioneer of bereavement and hospice care. Used with permission, with thanks
to www.ekrfoundation.org and www.elisabethkublerross.com.)
This quote is available with many other inspirational sayings on the posters sec
tion.