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by Liane Davey
PART I. SUMMARY
emotional conflicts that cause you to steer your team away from contentious or
foregoes the benefits of healthy conflict because they are unwilling or unable to deal with
the emotions that conflict often elicits. When you or your team members are not
comfortable or adept at managing emotions, your team is likely to avoid issues and wind
up in serious conflict debt stifled by the sum of all the undiscussed and unresolved issues
When you say or do things that threaten your inclusion in your group, you
experience an emotional reaction that's similar to when you experience physical pain.
Once you understand that emotions play a role in decision-making, it's your job as a
manager to understand the source of the emotions so you can learn from them. If you
are seeing an emotional outburst, it's likely that there is some injury being done to the
person. What do I need to understand?" The wording is significant because you do not
want to make the person feel embarrassed or stigmatized as you might if you said, "You
are crying. Why are you crying?" "This is important" also works because it does not
presume that you know what the person is thinking or how they are feeling as in, "You
are upset, tell me what's wrong". I am often asked whether it's best to continue with the
conversation that's become emotional or to adjourn and return to the emotional subject
later. If the person is crying or screaming to the point that they cannot catch their breath,
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you can say, "This is important. As you listen to the person's response, reflect what you
are hearing. Your role as a manager is to guide your team into and through the most
contentious discussions that your business faces. If you sense trepidation as you get
close to a difficult topic, reassure the team that it's worth addressing the issue to get to a
resolution. Set the tone that the discussion might get emotional and that's ok you will keep
The main point in this article is that as managers, we should not limit what we can
do just because we want to avoid heated conversations. Not all organizational conflicts
are bad. The article argues that what is important is on how we learn to handle our
emotions, and on how we are able to convert our emotional outbursts into healthy
discussions. The article wasn’t made up of extraordinary thoughts, anyway. I found the
author’s contentions as true yet very plain, somehow the entire article for me, was not a
powerful one.
In all fairness, though, I totally agree with the author’s thoughts regarding on how
we engage with emotions, such that, emotions are influential cues in a team. It is not
good to judge nor punish anybody just because of showing emotion. That includes not
criticizing them, not responding to emotion with more emotion, and not avoiding them.
The very first reason why many companies hate having conflicts among their employees
is because they consider all conflicts as unhealthy; as if they wanted to avoid any form of
arguments.
I believe, some of the best ideas in the world are products of emotional conflicts,
and heated conversations. Smart people usually would take firmly on their stand and
make sure that their suggestions are heard, and even so, followed. However, we cannot
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deny the fact that, despite the saying “more heads are better than one, sometimes, too
Through conflicts, we can also be able to know the real thing about others; we can
assess a person’s attitude whenever we also see their “not so good” side. We all have
probably experienced enough conflict in our lives enough to evaluate what’s healthy or
unhealthy when we are in the situation. Sometimes, what I don’t like in organizational
conflicts, is when the mediators, are not genuine mediators. It is better to know both
sides, of course, a mediator should at first be neutral in knowing the whole story, before
As what we have studied before, we’ve learned that Western people handle their
people differently compared to Asian people. Filipinos, for instance, are generally
emotional people. Most Filipinos, easily get humiliated, get hurt when they hear bad
things about them. Usually, they also avoid real confrontations; they tend to murmur and
sometimes complain about many things. Finally, I believe that a conflict and/or heated
conversation can either be bad or good, depending on how the person views the situation.
What experts would always say is that there is no such thing as to “totally eliminating
tension in your workplace”, in fact it isn’t practicable nor healthy for your organization in
The best approach is to redirect the attention wasted on petty fighting toward a
positive pursuit. Most of the great leaders in the world believe that a conflict doesn’t need
to be destructive; a conflict should be leveraged rather than controlled. Conflicts can also
be dealt with the right amount of compassion, as well. Likewise, let’s ponder that
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RELATED STUDIES/ARTICLES
Let me also mention some related studies and articles, both international and local
supervision and thus lowering their level of job satisfaction. Dominating was most related
to avoiding style.
Model in School, concluded that the reasons for conflicts occurring in school has been
diversified based on the way of doing things, individual differences and school
management. The strategies for conflict solution used by the teachers vary according to
school shareholders in which they experience conflict. Furthermore, findings have been
obtained regarding that there is not any common management policy in the school. In
this context, “Management Model for Conflict in School” for building conflict management
Third, an online article back in December 23, 2019 written by Phillip Sandahl and
Alexis Phillips brought out a stand that is for me, is just right and perfect. They did not
focus only on the fact that we need to accept that heated conversation can sometimes
be okay, but rather believed that having a team conflict is normal and avoiding conflict is
also normal. Further, their article stressed that harnessing conflict's inherent energy and
turning it into creativity leads to a stronger team and better team results.
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views that if a school administrator manifests a positive work value he or she is likely to
perform better in the job as least occurrence of problems that could pave the way for
collaborative efforts towards the attainment of organizational goals. Data also revealed
The insights from the article relate to my present situation at work knowing that
any workplace is not excused from any form of conflicts. Conflict between team members
can seem to be an inevitable result of different people working closely together. Often, it
can lead to productive change. But at other times, it can damage teams and dramatically
lower morale. Knowing how we can manage and resolve conflict successfully can
increase understanding within our own team, and improve people’s relationships with one
another.
I think what’s important is to accept the reality that people are really diverse; we
have different behaviors and levels of patience. In my workplace, teachers always get
irate when faced by a lot of pressures; they even shout at each other. I personally don’t
like unhealthy discussions, because obviously they are pointless. But if we raise
arguments that are relevant, then I believe that’s ok. There’s a big disparity between
what’s acceptable and what’s not. We need to respect people's individual differences,
while helping them avoid becoming too fixed in their position. We should make sure our
relationships take top priority because having good long-term relationships with co-
workers is critically important. Always treat everybody involved in the conflict with respect.
Also, we need to keep people and problems separate. For example, it can be
tempting to brush off someone's points because we think they're just being difficult or
picky, especially if our relationship with them isn't great. But they're speaking up for a
reason. So focus on the issue not the person. And, make sure we listen first before talking.
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It was a good thing that I have a vast experience of being a debater; I was a former
debating team captain in college. As a teacher, I became the founder of the Society of
Heated but healthy conversations with a mix of sarcasm are very common
nowadays, if we don’t keep our cool, we can easily get away and get to the point of
shouting at our office mates; for me this is the unhealthy and unprofessional way of
dealing with emotional conflicts. But if we positively increase our patience and
understanding while going through the process of resolving conflict we can be able to
expand our awareness of the real problem, and eventually gain insight into achieving