PASAY CITY ACADEMY

MARRIAGE:
A Special Contract of Permanent Union Between
a Man and a Woman

A Term Paper

Presented In Partial Fulfillment of the

Requirements for the Subject

English 10

by

Audrey Danica S. Aragon

EllayzaRb D.Operana
Jessie James A. Calera
Pauleen Beatrice B. Medina
January 10, 2018
 TABLE OF CONTENTS

PAGE

Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

Background of the Study . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

Statement of the Problem . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

Importance of the Study . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1

Presentation of Findings and Interpretations

Definition . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2
God and Marriage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2
God’s purpose for the husband and wife . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
Roles of the Husband and Wives . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
Three secrets of a happy marriage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4
Subtle Secret
Secondary Secret
Primary Secret
Two components for marriage survival . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
Blending of Two lives . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Three secrets that will build spiritual oneness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
Attend Church Together
Become Engaged in a Service Ministry
Pray Together
INTRODUCTION
No man is an island. It is very true to people who are longing for someone

to be with in life. That is why marriage is established from the very beginning. A

woman and man is created to meet the need of both not only in intimate

relationship but also as husband and wife. This vow is sacred because God

initiates marriage to happen for the reason of multiplying and have a family here

on earth. This study points out the important obligations of man and woman in

the family and also the guidance of the Lord to each member in the family.

BACKGROUND OF THE STUDY

The Lord created Eve, a partner for Adam. He introduced marriage since it

is not His purpose for not being in the company of others. Marriage is sacred, it

is indeed a divine commitment in which a man and a woman be together. It is

made for inseparable unity and fellowship of life for both genders to become

one flesh before the eyes of God.

STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM

Getting married needs preparation to reflect the solemn vow written in the

word of God (Gen 2:18).This is very informative and gives us a thorough

understanding to the following statements:

1. God and marriage

2. God's purpose for the husband and wife
3. Roles of the Husband and Wife
4. Three secrets of a happy marriage
5. Two components for marriage survival
 6. Blending of two lives
7. Three secrets that will build spiritual oneness

IMPORTANCE OF THE STUDY

Marriage is created for man to have a partner in life. In this study, it is very

important for the readers to know and understand the true meaning of a special

contract between a man and a woman. This paper prepares the mind of the

readers the good things come from home. Also, the blessing it gives to both the

parents and children in the family.

PRESENTATION OF FINDINGS AND INTERPRETATIONS

1. Definition of Marriage

Marriage is the act of legal and formal unity of two people. This union is

given a licensed by the government and is recognized by the society in which

they live. It is a way of making the relationship known to all and that the bond is

official and permanent. It needs continuous commitment between the couple to

remain faithful to each other.

2. God and Marriage

God created marriage in His own way. The main purpose of marriage is to

have a good family. When the first marriage occurred in the Garden of Eden,

God wanted it to be an everlasting love, and He wants all marriages to be

perfect because they are the pillars of home. The best factor of gladness with

each other is God, “Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build
it.” when the presence of the Creator is absent it is a lace of confusion and

animosity.

When marriage was established in the Garden of Eden, it became the

pillar of home.God wants it to be everlasting because the main purpose is to

build a happy and Christian family. Our Lord wants a connection between the

Father and the people to guide men and women and to have a Christ-like

attitude in their respective families. God must be a true, solid foundation in the

family because couples have no idea inraising a God-fearing child. There is no

gladness if they reject the Lord’s guidance to the family. “Except the Lord build

the house, they labor in vain that build it.” A couple without God is the number

one problem in their life, because without Him, the confusion and animosity

wrecks the beloved family.

3. God’s purpose for the Husband and Wife

The design of marriage is to reflect the image of God, He created man and

woman to represent the image of Godand to model to all of creation. He made

woman to be a life partner, and to complete the better half with the man. God

said, “Let us make man in our image”, and then the scripture says, “Male and

female, He created them.” (Gen 1:26-27) and God wants to fill the plans for

them.

This portrays that from the very start of creation, the woman is already

designed to be constant mate of a man and this is for eternity. She is significant

to make a man whole. She is highly valued to be a companion, a friend and an

individual who a husband can lean on, trust and depend on to help him through
 life. In other words, there is a mutual understanding and feeling of love and

respect. Both are harmonized with each other to their needs and wants. The

wife must become the version of a husband – a reflection of who he is.

4. Roles of Husband and Wives

i. Roles of Husband

Many husbands have no idea what their role with his partner. The

following statements will determine what a father should do with his family.

a. Guide/Head of the Home

A husband’s behavior whether it is good or bad has a strong impact on

the spiritual life of his wife.This is all about what they had sworn back then on

the day of their marriage. They promised that they would take care of each

other no matter how hard life will look like in the future. The husband must act

like a good example to their children and must take care of them like how he

treats and acts toward his wife. Hedoes not hide anything and whatever he

does might demoralize him. A loving husband supports his wife and makes their

relationship closer to the Lord.

b. Leads spiritual exercises in home

It is important concern of the husband to nurture the spiritual life of the

family. He acts as an intercessor, priest and leads his wife and children in the

morning and evening worship through singing, studying the Word of God and

praying together.
 This is more than an obligation of a father to the Lord because he should

be able to practice what he preaches when returning to their children

particularly when he talks about the spiritual aspects of their children. Living a

Godly life in and out of the home is really a blessing to the whole family.

c. Lawmaker

Leadership is the primary role of the head of the family. A Christian

husband influences his family. He does not over rule his wife. His words and

actions must exemplify the true spirit of leadershipthat brings glory to God and

as part of their vow with God and the family as well.

The husband or the father should be and must become a role model and good

example. In any ways and in any manner to show his vow to the Heavenly

Father, then he must fulfill his mission all the time.

i. Roles of Wife

The role of the wife is clearly described in the Bible. Although males and

females are equal in relationship to Christ, the Bible gives specific roles to both

the husband and the wife in marriage. This will wrap up what the wife needs to

do with her husband to last their relationship .

a. Loves and respects her husband

The wife respects his man at home so that children do the same to their

father. She should treat her husband in an appropriate way of respecting in the

presence of the family members. There is fair understanding in their relationship

so that no one can be intimidated.

 The wife is always the partner in making decisions at home. She should

let her husband feel her by being supportive and appreciative of his decisions

and choices whenever there is no time for discussion.

b. Lends moral support to her husband

The man wants to feel more loved and valued by the woman that he

cares about. He wants to know that he is worth respecting. The wife should

always support and be there for her husband’s decisions and choices to make

him feel more confident and proud. She takes over and performs the male

responsibilities in the absence of her partner. The wife must be aware that rules

and discipling manner should be followed.

Treating the husband as a head of the family is very important. It has a

great impact in the familyespecially when the children know how to respect

elderly. The attitude of a child always reflects the rules and manners at home.

5. Three secrets of a happy marriage

Marriage is a covenant, a sacred bond between a man and a

woman.These three fundamentals will guide you to have a happy and successful

marriage.

a. Subtle Secret

The fundamental key to a happy relationship is being the right person.

Falling in love for the wrong reason is sometimes hard to accept. Whatever the

outcome, happiness is what matters most as long as self is motivated. Mostly

people who do not love themselves cannot find happiness in their lives. A
person should accept not just the positive side of life but also the negative to

find genuine happiness by appreciating oneself. Everything needs motivation to

be inspired and to bring more lovely moments in life. Happiness is a choice and

it is the greatest beauty that everyone owns.

b. Secondary Secret

It is God’s law “to love one another, as I have loved you.” This self-

sacrificing love priorities others and less of self. A successful marriage looks at

the beauty in a partner. Instead of trying to find a perfect one develop the

features whether good or bad, it reflects the real attitude. Being complete

makes the other as well. A relationship without love is like a place full of dead

flowers. Couples who are deeply in love with each other often results to have a

great and beautiful family. Husbands and wives should accept each other’s

differences for them to be able to understand their relationship and keep their

bond to become whole. Contentment between couples can keep the marriage

brimming.

c. Primary Secret

The last and most important secret to a fruitful marriage is the primary

secret of the couple. A happy marriage only happens when God is in the center

of matrimony. Partners who are not Godly often lead to a miserable situation.

When spouse are closed to God, they become connected to each other and

have spiritual union, blessings and God’s love in the home. Marriage is the most

beautiful and lovely event that happens to a person’s life. It is not just a
blessing, but also a commitment to God with so much perspective to give and

desire to serve Him and the humanity. The institution of marriage works better

when there is a spiritual connection. When the spouse loves God with all their

hearts, they can find peace, joy, and happiness beyond the fondest hopes and

dreams in their life. Before entering into a serious relationship, always consider

man, God and woman it is the secret of a true spiritual union with Jesus. The

Gospel of God will find its way into their hearts and minds. Having love for God

is the primary secret to a successful marriage.

6. Two components for marriage survival

Many partners are experiencing the ups and downs in their relationship.

This will help you how to overcome the trials as a couple.

a. Human Will

Partners need to show their love, not only by words but by actions also.

Words are not enough to prove the affection and care for each other. Love is

not something that can only be defined, but it should be felt to have stronger

and deeper relation with God. Husbands and wives need human will to keep the

adoration and affection through the relationship, yet the will of the human

wouldn’t work without God.A man and a woman are driven by their human will

to love each other with the blessing coming from the Lord. Material things and

earthly fame are just temporary and it does not replace the true affection of the

couples. If the relationship is hindered by self-motivated love it brings

misunderstanding and will make the relationship colder It is always impossible

to save the emotion by the human will because self is wicked. In order to keep
the love and affection with one anotherthere should be love that guided by the

spirit of God.

b. Divine Power

Satan’s lure can be tempting, but not with the power of God. Marriage

requires obedience to fulfill the responsibilities sets by the Lord to husband and

wife. Some certain obstacles can suddenly happened but God’s help and Divine

power are always there for a rescue. The love, care and mercy of God is always

free, as long as the person is willing to accept it heartily. Pains, sufferings and

other circumstances will always be a part of the Christian journey but think of it

as a challenge and face with courage. Problems can make a person give up

from fighting over it since pain is one of the common problems why people are

scared to face challenges. There is a strong evidence that whatever

circumstances in life a Divine power is always given to those who seek help

from God. His intervention happens when the heart is longing for guidance. The

Bible states that the Lord is always a present help in times of trouble. He

rescues those who want to be saved by the magnificent power of Jesus.

Attractive sins can captivate human beings but it will not succeed when God’s

spiritual power is united in marriage.

7. Blending of two lives

One of the most important experiences of a couple is the period where

they are united with each other, with the same mission,to save souls. They will

be as one in the work of God. By the grace and presence of the Lord they will
be linked together in a sacred chain of union, and be controlled by the Holy

Spirit.

The purpose of being a man and a woman is to be united – to become

husband and wife, but will keep their marriage covenant sacred to complete the

other half. Whatever happens, there will be no setting of divorce or separation,

for the one who made them together as one is Jesus. Truly enough, “What God

has joined together, let no one separates them.” As part of their vow it is their

duty to live in accordance to God’s will. Their union as husband and wife is to

set an example to all especially to their children and family members.

8. Three secrets that will build spiritual oneness

When Christ's presence is with us, we can assure that our relationship

will grow because he is the founder of marriage. The following statement will

help us what the holy spirit can do for the couple.

a. Attend church together

Attending church together and spending a day with God strengthens the

relationship that may results to peace, rest and renewal of soul.Worshipping

together always begin with a peaceful mind of their inner self. Relationship with

God reflects the true nature of worship.The symbolism of a person promotes

itself to have more essential peace of mind. The couple’s presence in church is

important to obtain the needs of guidance and showers of God’s blessings.

Showing love and respect by praying can widen the eyes of a single person to

more understanding and faithful relationships. God’s nature always influences a

person to have more abundance of faith. If the two are bound to be together for
life they need to worship and pray together to the God who originated their

marriage vow. Peace in relationship only happens when both are faithful

worshipers of God.

b. Become engaged in a service ministry

When partners are engaged in a service ministry, they forget their selves.

Spending time together gives more chances of having a good communication

with each other. An open ear and honest way of talking give the spouse a

feeling of contentment. True service is to forget self.People nowadays are

driven by their own personal interest that makes the other afraid and

uncomfortably embarrass to open. Warmhearted and positive minded couples

tend to have their relationship more exciting and thrilling. Spiritual ministry

benefits the couples to more enormous understanding about God which causes

to set aside one’s own interest for others. Lending of ears gives a true meaning

of love and honesty for somebody else. Being contented is a hard word and not

easy to do especially when couples are not blissful. Working together in God’s

ministry does not only bring joy to the couples but it makes their relationship

closer and stronger.

c. Pray together

Praying together makes the couples become close with each other.

Partners who pray together more often commented that their relationship is

more romantic that those who do not pray. Praying can improve the

communication of both husband and wife. If each of them pray for their burdens,

no longer they will be connected with each other’s problems. As much as

 possible, couples are encouraged to kneel together and have conversations

with the Lord. It is wise and proper that the husband and wife pray and worship

the Lord together. Every obstacle, every burden and difficulty in life are shared

by them and surrender their will to the guidance of the Lord. When trouble

comes they both bring it to the Father who is always willing to give solutions

because He is the answer to life’s questions.

SUMMARY AND CONCLUSION

Marriage is an everlasting commitment to God, husband and wife. The

wife should love her husband and they need to help each other to make their

home a little heaven here on earth It is also their responsibility to bring up their

children in the way of the Lord in order for them to be good citizens to everyone..

It is their obligation to work out and accept their differences so that whatever

happens the couple should make their relationship stronger in the name of the

Lord. It is God’s purpose that a man will live in this world with someone, a

woman whom he will be together forever in life. Marriage is a blessing if the

couple commit their communication and decision making to theLord. It says in

Ecclesiastes 4:9

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If

either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls

and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep

warm. But how can one keep warm alone?"

Permanent union between a man and a woman without God is meaningless.

Always consider the admonition that a relationship becomes stronger only in the

hands of God. The two are inseparable. Whatever the circumstances they are in

it is their responsibility to stand together and maintain the unity in the family.

What God has joined together will not be separated.

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