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For my “final” love action, I wanted viewers and readers to perceive the importance of
love labor. Specifically, I wanted to encourage others to show their appreciation for those that
are often overlooked. We have appreciation days and weeks for teachers, nurses, volunteers, etc,
which is fantastic, but I’ve never heard of one for janitors or custodians. Even if there is one, it is
not as well-known as the others. Therefore, I wanted to make sure I would show appreciation for
those that operate behind the scenes. In doing so, I hoped the janitor, that I am appreciated of,
During my first year working at the lab, I was tasked to take down the cardboard boxes
that were piling up. There were probably 50+ boxes of all different sizes that I had to roll down
to the loading dock. Upon arrival, I realized the recycling bins were ~100 feet away from the
loading dock, which was 6 feet above the ground. I knew it would take me a long time to dump
all the boxes, given that I could only carry 2-3 boxes at a time. After my 5th trip back, Raymond
arrived at the loading dock to dump the trash he had collected from all the different labs. He saw
me struggling and instantly offered to help. I thought he would help me carry the boxes and
shorten the number of trips I had to make. Instead, he told me he would take care of the rest. I
was taken aback by his offer: (1) I was a stranger to him. (2) There were still 30+ boxes left. (3) I
could tell he was already very tired from cleaning up. Therefore, I was quick to refuse, but he
was persistent in helping me complete the task. In the end, I thanked him multiple times for his
The following year, my lab schedule never coincided with Raymond’s. Therefore, I never
got the chance to converse with him more. Fortunately, this year, my schedule did coincide with
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his and I have been able to see him around lab. Our encounters are often short, because he has a
lot of labs to cover, but we always make sure to acknowledge the others’ presence and smile.
When Emma brought up the idea of appreciating the underappreciated, I instantly thought
of Raymond and how I couldn’t thank him enough for his loving action and how I wanted to
show my appreciation for his service by getting to know him more. When I first approached
Raymond to ask what his name was, he thought I was asking about a pair of glasses that he
found. Raymond’s English skills are fairly weak, but I managed to understand him throughout
our conversations. I asked if he had a few minutes to talk because I wanted to make sure he was
appreciated and recognized for his hard work. I thanked him once again for that loving action
back in freshman year and told him how that has stuck with me through these past two years. I’m
not quite sure if he understood exactly what I was saying, but he did smile and chuckle, which
made me happy to see. He said he was willing to talk for a few minutes but had to get back to
work quickly. Therefore, I asked him about his family. I immediately saw him grin at the
mention of his children. He has two grown boys that live with him and has been in Seattle his
whole life. I asked how long he has worked here, and he said he has worked as a janitor for over
a decade. I asked about his hobbies and he said he enjoys working on cars. I was intrigued to
know how he had learned to fix cars and he replied back with, “Google!” After that, I didn’t
want to take up too much of his time, given that he had more work to do. I could see how tired he
was as he was constantly wiping off the sweat sliding down his face. I thanked him for his time
This love action was inspired by a few of the course objectives, topics and readings. The
most important topic that informed this love action was how love is expressed by human people.
Raymond acted with a kind and loving demeanor and I wanted to reciprocate that kindness by
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reaching out to him and getting to know him more. I hope he saw our conversation as a loving
act of recognition and appreciation. This topic on how love is expressed ties into Hooks’
definition of love being an action. Raymond’s act was definitely an action, but as I’ve come to
learn in this class, having a meaningful conversation is an action as well and can be loving in
itself. This love action was also inspired by a few readings on love labor and values. I appreciate
Lynch’s distinction of love/care labor and how valuable it is in our society. As Lynch points out,
janitors are poorly paid and have low status, but without these “personal service workers”, our
society would quickly collapse. Lynch helped bring awareness to love/care labor and prompted
I would like to think this love action was a small stepping-stone towards fulfilling the
objective to be conscious of the power of love and the possibility of practicing it in everyday life
through a love ethics. Raymond’s loving action surprised me because I’m so used to the
ingrained with from a young age prevents us from helping others and acting with kindness. Most
of us are time-sensitive and don’t want to bother taking the time out of our day to help others.
My conversation with Raymond was short, but I hope it wasn’t our last conversation. I would be
interested to learn more about his family values and ideals that prompted him to help me that day
because as Lakoff wrote, “the answer came…from a very unexpected place. It came from the
study of family values.” I wonder if Raymond was raised with loving family values and if that
Overall, I think this love action was inspired by self-love. I really enjoyed Hooks’
commentary on self-esteem and how that encompasses the notion of being aware of yourself and
your surroundings. I am very fortunate to have grown up in a privileged family and I’m aware of
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that. Therefore, I need to seek awareness of those that aren’t as privileged and fortunate. I
wanted to talk with Raymond and learn not only about who he is, but also seek insight into how
society treats him. After my conversation with Raymond, I felt an urge to learn more about
underappreciated people and communities. I feel like we tend to forget the people who work
behind the scenes are humans as well. They have families and hobbies and our society doesn’t
highlight those loving aspects. My hope is that Raymond went home that day feeling grateful and
appreciated for his great service and, most importantly, his loving identity and values.