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Let's start with the first and most important concept that
might help you begin to understand why you are even
attracted to certain people and why they are attracted to
you in the first place! This will give you a foundation (and
reality) to stand on when tests begin showing up. And it will
help to deprogram any happily ever after Disney movies that
have been affecting every client of mine – the "but what if
he’s the one" syndrome.
THE ONE
Number one, there is no such thing as the one.
THE ONES • There are many people for every one person.
Always. Everyone is simply our teacher and our mirror. We
are all shifting, expanding and we're all in constant motion;
therefore, as we evolve, our "ones" can transition as well.
However, when two people continue to evolve together at
the same pace, this is a long-lasting unity. But let go of "the
one." This idea keeps far too many of my clients spinning
their wheels for far too long in the wrong courting, dating,
and relationship dynamics.
TRAUMA BONDING
Now onto the fun bit.
SLOW YOUR ROLL • The next time you have the full-
fledged fantasy and you project it on the suitor showing up,
stop yourself. You are literally having an unconscious trauma
bond reaction to the person in front of you. This doesn't
mean "you are destined for one another." It just means that
your fucked-upness is in degrees of opposition to their
fucked-upness. And you've come together to unconsciously
mirror back the healing needing to take place in each of you
individually.
Let the Disney story go. Let the fantasy go. Let love at first
sight go. Let, "well they live above the spot I always go for
dinner, so that must mean something, right?" go. Yes, you
can attract exactly what you want (outlined throughout this
entire workshop); however, it will never be happily ever
after. So I hope this imparts some chill-out vibes when you
have that visceral reaction to the person showing up who is
"everything you've ever dreamed of." That's great, but slow
your roll and learn in the next few days why you need to be
in your worth and navigate accordingly.
SO YOU'RE SAYING
When that little version of you that bought into Disney
magic, happily ever after, and prince charming meets the
next person and begins to fantasize or project where you'd
like a relationship to go, take a step back and realize that
what is actually happening is your subconscious has
recognized this person as having many of the dysfunctional
characteristics of your caretakers combined. Therefore, they
feel like your soulmate or someone who is going to help you
work out unfinished business from childhood – romantically
referred to as "completing you." When we are "drawn" to
someone, it is because of this. Hopefully, this will breathe
some reality into some of you who are too quick, easy,
giving, and needy and attach. I have been all of those things
in the past, and I see it daily in my practice with clients.
LISTEN
Let's uncover some subconscious stuff. Sit up in a chair, so
you don't fall asleep. These meditations are most effective
when you are very relaxed and cover your eyes. Everyone's
device will be different, so adjust the volume to your comfort
level.