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2018
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58 ”#@!% YES!”—
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66 Sex That Rocks!
70 New Sex Toys...
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86 PMS + Anxiety:
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EDITOR’S LETTER
T
S TA R
M E T HING!
SO
It’s January, and you know

what that means? Yup—you’ve Look for this Start
Something seal in every
gotta plan to get some sh*t done this issue—it marks special
coming year. C’mon—it’s tradition! content we’ve created to
Whether you call them resolutions, goals, inspire you to put your
ambitions into action.
or just good intentions, there are strategies
proven to keep you from flaking on
your fitness routine or that vow to find a
better job. We let you in on those success
secrets in the kickoff piece of our new
platform for 2018—Start Something.
Turn to page 77 to get those pointers,
then keep your eyes peeled for the rest of
the series—it will move around the
magazine from issue to issue because
we want to motivate you to take steps What I’m
forward in every area of life. Into RN
As for me, I’m resolving to snowboard Waking Up
With Gabe
again, which isn’t as easy as it sounds. I’m referring
A number of years ago, a back injury to a mind-blowingly
sidelined me—and although I’m more comprehensive (and
comprehensible)
than healed, fear has kept me hiding out political newsletter
in the lodge, next to a toasty fire. That written by 16-year-
ends this winter. Getting back on the old Gabe Fleisher,
who sends dis-
horse—or in this case, board—is how patches from his
I plan to express one of Cosmo’s core Missouri bedroom
tenets: fearlessness. And that’s the perfect before heading to
( P O R T R A I T ) A L L I E H O L LO WAY. ( B A C KG R O U N D, C O F F E E C U P, C O AT & B E LT S H O T ) : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
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way to ring in a brave new year. Join me and his nearly
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coated slope—the
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Olympics has me
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Nick Jonas
When he’s not stealing
scenes in Jumanji: Welcome
to the Jungle (Dec. 20)
or working on the follow-up
album to Last Year
Was Complicated, he’s
busy being a total
smokeshow.
Family
Matters
“Growing up, I was
the one who my
brothers turned to
about relation-
ships, even though
I was younger.
When it came to Learning
sex, I think I asked Curve
them for advice. “If I could go back
Kevin was the [before losing
romantic in the my virginity], I
family. And I’d would probably tell
go to Joe for work- myself that it’s
ing on my game.” important to have
patience. You’re
Clear Signals not going to be a
professional! You’re
“I’ve been single
not going to be
for two and a half
great the first cou-
years now—and
ple of times. Don’t
not for lack of try-
become frustrated
ing to find a person
with yourself. You’ll
I really connect
get better at sex.”
with. When some-
one makes it clear
that they’re inter- Private
ested and they Thoughts
want to meet up to
“Everyone I’ve
have dinner or a
dated would prob-
drink, I think that’s
ably agree that I’m
really attractive.”
a little in my head.
They couldn’t read
me as easily as they
could other people.
But that’s just who I
am. I don’t like to
reveal all my cards.
And I think that’s
actually given me
some strength. I
don’t let emotion
R O WA N D A LY.
drive everything.”
By Rachel Mosely C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8
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Why Good Vibes Are
a Secret Weapon
By Tiffany Haddish
this football player. One day, he

talked to me on the bus, and she
You don’t have to look hard to was like, “I’m gonna beat your
find negativity in the world ass!” So I made a whole joke of
(in fact, these days, it seems
easier than ever). But as some- ing, “Kiki said she’s gonna beat
one who’s had more than a few me up, y’all!” and acting totally
dark moments in her own life,
one of the things I’ve learned laughing. Her boyfriend thought end of the world. What are we
is how to get through seriously it was hilarious. Even Kiki was going to do?” I was like, “Get
tough shit…and make it out the like, “Oh, this girl is crazy. I’m not the hell up out of here and learn
other end, smiling. I grew up in going to fight her.” to build a hut if you’ve got to!
South Central Los Angeles, with a Comedy became my way to get That’s what you’re going to do.”
Tiffany’s
mother who was mentally unsta- through struggles right as they They would crack up and say, new book,
ble and often violent. I was in fos- were happening. I’m not saying “Tiffany, stop it! You’re making The Last
ter care and homeless at times, that’s always easy—in fact, some- me laugh, and this is really seri- Black
Unicorn,
and later, I escaped an abusive times, it feels impossible. When ous!” And I would say, “We’ve is available
marriage. When I think about a I was 27, I got married, and my got to laugh. Because we’re now from
lot of what I’ve been through, it husband became abusive. I had to going to cry otherwise.” Gallery
Books.
still hurts. But I have a philosophy focus so much on just trying not I always choose to look at life
I apply to everything I do in life: to die inside. I would pray, medi- that way. Sure, you can cry—but
Most of the time, I’m just trying tate, and write like mad, trying so the opposite of tears is laughter.
to have fun. Humor has helped hard to find the funny. But there Whenever I can, I always
me not only to survive but to was nothing funny about it. I choose to laugh. Who wants to
thrive. Comedy gives me a place played happy music—music that be around a bitter bitch? I don’t
to talk about my painful stuff, to made me want to dance or that I want to be that chick. And
share it, and to do it in a way that remembered from my childhood. that’s why I think my life has
helps out other people too. Being able to find light when turned out as good as it has. No
Finding the funny in a situa- I was hurting so badly helped matter how bad things get,
tion isn’t something I naturally me hold on to who I was. And no matter how dark life seems,
knew how to do. As a kid, it was ultimately, that helped me get there is a reason for it. There
a defense mechanism: “If I can out—alive. is a lesson to be learned. You can
S M A L L Z & R A S K I N D/C O N T O U R B Y G E T T Y I M A G E S .
make my mom laugh, she won’t There are times when that hold on to your light, and you
punch me,” or “If I make these approach can save your sanity. can feel better. I know, because
gangster girls smile, they’re less After the presidential election, I’ve been there, done that, and
likely to beat me up.” In high I was surrounded by a bunch of I’ll keep on doing it in the face
school, the hot chick on campus, other comedians. We dealt with of whatever comes my way.
Kiki, was messing around with it by cracking jokes: “Well, we’re
going to have some material now,
guys!” I had other friends who
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Confessions
S T R E E T P H O T O G R A P H S : A L L I E H O L LO WAY. C O N F E S S I O N S A N D D AT E S F R O M H E L L M AY H AV E B E E N E D I T E D F O R C O N T E N T, L E N G T H , O R C L A R I T Y.
“My best
friend, who’s
gay, and I
were super
buzzed and
horny one
night. We
both just
wanted to
make out with
someone,
so we ended up
making out
with each
other in front
of all our
friends. They
recorded it.”
—VALERIE F., 23,
ACCOUNT
COORDINATOR,
NOVI, MI
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“I went “I was com- “After a
abroad my plaining to first date, I
junior year my friend decided it
of college about some- was okay
to Florence, one I was see- to let the guy
Italy. My ing. I kinda drive me
boyfriend went off… home. In his
came to visit talking about car, I saw
me. We how annoy- a stuffed
stayed in ing he was animal
a hostel and that he strapped in a
and took a wasn’t even seat belt in
shower that cute his backseat.
“I met this cute guy one night together.
There was a
and how he
had a habit of
I asked what was
going on, and
and gave him my number. I chair in the always nod- he said it was a
shower, and ding his head. high school
must’ve had one too many while we were My phone was graduation gift
drinks because I gave him my having sex on
it…it broke off
open to our
texts, and I acci-
from his sister
and he’s had it in
brother’s cell! (My brother’s and the wall! Before dentally every car he’s
we knew it, recorded a voice owned. He was
my number are the same except we were both note to him! He 27! I then said,
for the last digit.) I woke up on the ground,
laughing
heard every-
thing I said and
‘Okay, but why is
it strapped in
to an embarrassing text from hysterically,
with scrapes
replied, ‘WTF.’
I felt so bad!
like a child?’ He
said, ‘I’m not
my brother about a random on our backs. Safe to say, going to let her
Oops.” that’s the last just roll around!’”
guy flirting with him.” —RAFAELLA P., 22 time we spoke.” —JOCELYN S., 24
—LAUREL H., 23, TELEVISION PRODUCER, NEW YORK, NY —NICOLE D., 24
I hooked up with a dude in the back of my car, and for some reason, we decided to
turn the car off but leave the music playing and one of the doors slightly open. When we were
finished, the car wouldn’t start! We had killed the battery. We had to sit there in awkward silence for the
tow truck. Not to mention, it was January and freezing outside!” —LEXI G., 24
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“I was a member of my school’s dance
team. Girls kept having trouble with a
halter top that was falling down. On
opening night, my friends and family
were in the audience. During the show,
I heard a snap. My top had fallen down,
and I was flashing everyone. I ran
offstage, tied the straps, and leaped
back on with a smile.” —OLIVIA W., 19, STUDENT, STANFORD, CT
“We were
set up on a
blind date.
The guy
and I met for
coffee and
had a great
conversation.
After the sec-
ond date, I
brought him
back to my
place, and we
had hot sex. All
was going well
until he started
to climax. It
was accompa-
nied by loud,
loud moans and
his screaming
‘Ooooh yeah’ as
he came. A short
time later, I
sneezed and
heard my neigh-
bor through the
wall say, ‘Bless
you.’ I was morti-
fied and never
invited him back
again.”
—AMBER S., 25
CELEB CONFESSION “At an event, I saw Chance the Rapper with some friends taking a photo. I thought it
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TOO FUNNY!
Dates From Hell “I met this guy

at a bar, and
he asked me
to dinner the
next night.
He picked a
restaurant close
to his house and
told me to meet
him at his place
“He was late first. When I got
to the bar, there, he was
but I waited. pre-gaming
He showed with a bottle in
up and hand. I asked
talked about why he was
himself the aggressively
whole time. drinking, and he
The bartender said he didn’t
came over and want to have to
asked if we pay for ‘stupid
wanted drinks, girly cocktails.’
and the dude Then he tried
presented a to make me take
Groupon shots so I
voucher. Usually, wouldn’t order
I love discounts, drinks at dinner.
but not on a To make things
first date. At the odd when he “It was going well until he worse, he
end, he took out asked me to got too drunk
a package from pick him up, but I came over afterward and I before we even
his bag. He gave him the was showing him my left and ended
unwrapped it benefit of the up passing out
and said, doubt. When bedroom. He saw the printed “Soon after at 8:30, the time
‘They’re dates I got there, he cat pillow on my bed, the presiden- of our reserva-
for our date.’ said he needed tial election, I tion. I took the
At this point, I to go to the pointed to it, and said, ‘That went on a rest of the bot-
told him I had bank to deposit thing would scare any guy date with a tle and went to
a friend emer- money. We then guy who dinner with a
went to a coffee
away.’ Who says that to immediately friend instead.”
gency. I thought
he’d get the shop, where someone they just met?! After wanted to —LAUREN H., 21
he quoted mov- know if I fol-
point, but the that, I knew he wasn’t a lowed politics.
next day, he ies the whole
e-mailed me time! I had my keeper. No one’s gonna judge Then he asked,
‘Do you under-
and said he had mom call me me on my pillow choices. stand what’s
a voucher for with a fake crisis
a comedy show so I could bail.” Boy, bye.” going on?’ When
—SARAH V., 26 I assured him I
if I wanted —NICOLE K., 21
was up to speed,
to come. I told
he responded
him I wasn’t
with ‘Oh, so you
interested.”
know about the
—KAY A., 30
two parties and
who ran?’”
—NIKKI K., 21
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TOO FUNNY!
Expectation vs. Reality

Smooching the LIAM HEMSWORTH Swearing off Fireball
one you love AND MILEY CYRUS shots forever
Midnight,
Jan. 1, 2018
Warm-and- JENNIFER Wake me up

cozy cute LOPEZ when it’s spring.
H E M S W O R T H , C Y R U S , S M A L L S , W O R K I N G O N YO U R FI T N E S S R E A L I T Y: B AU E R G R I F FI N O N L I N E .C O M . M I D N I G H T R E A L I T Y: A L A M Y S T O C K
P H O T O. T EI G E N , LO P E Z : S P L A S H N E W S . YO U R W I N T E R A E S T H E T I C R E A L I T Y, E A R LY- M O R N I N G E R R A N D R U N R E A L I T Y: G E T T Y I M A G E S .
Your Winter
Aesthetic
It’s not Early-Morning

loungewear.
It’s a #Look. Errand Run
JOAN Lift, chew,

SMALLS roll over,
repeat.
Working
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Fitness
Lift,
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CHRISSY stretch,
TEIGEN repeat.
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TOO FUNNY!
#CanYouNot Crazy
Situation
Working
Your Last
Nerve?
Vent
Here!
1 2
“It bothers me
when someone
walks up next
to me and hits
the elevator or
crosswalk button.
I’m not just
standing here for
fun. #PetPeeve”
—@VONBAER, VIA
TWITTER
“People are doing

yoga in the airport
in the middle of
the boarding
area.... #ICant”
3 4
—@GBERG88, VIA
TWITTER
“Dear fellow gym

goer who chose
# C A N YO U N O T E N T R I E S M AY H AV E B E E N E D I T E D F O R L E N G T H , C O N T E N T, O R C L A R I T Y.
to forgo hand
washing after
bathroom time....
1 2 3 4 Ya nasty. Get back
in there. It’s cold
Not Okay… Comfy, Dude? Really? Ugh... season.”
“When I ask for “Sure, why “#CanUNot “Is this supposed —@SOPHISTICAIT18,
VIA TWITTER
a large fries, not use a table communicate to calm people
open the bag, as a bed? only with emoji down while “Men, when has
and this #CanYouNot” and actually they wait? This an unsolicited
is what I get…? —@MOLLY
SHINGLETON,
send a word looks horrifying. dick pic actually
#Why” VIA TWITTER or two in #Dentist” worked???
—@1KUNAI,
VIA TWITTER
response??!!!” —@MARKMAUSZ,
VIA TWITTER
Why do y’all do it?”
—JILL S., —@LAURYNFL,
VIA INBOX VIA TWITTER
GOT A GRIPE? Tweet or ’gram what’s bugging you with a photo (hashtag: #CanYouNot) or e-mail
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J A S O N K I M . FA S H I O N D I R E C T O R : AYA K A N A I . H A I R : N I C O L A S E L D I N U S I N G K È R A S TA S E PA R I S L’ I N C R OYA B L E C R È M E ; M A K EU P : C H R I S T I A N M C C U L LO C H AT S T R E E T E R S
U S I N G C H A N E L L E S B E I G E S ; M A N I C U R E : C A S E Y H E R M A N F O R D I O R V E R N I S AT T H E WA L L G R O U P ; M O D E L : R O S E B E R T R A M / I M G ; M O D E L : D A N I E L A LO P E Z / I M G . S E E PA G E 1 3 1
F O R S H O P P I N G I N F O R M AT I O N .
Now
Winter
White Is
So Right...
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bag
Ulla
pants.
shoes.
Dacade
Johnson
Shrimps
coat, top,
Laurence
latte at arm’s length.

Cream Dreams
lighten up your look? Ivory

Arizaga
Venessa
proportions. Just keep your

earrings
are dark enough, so why not

coat, top,
separates are chic in oversize

The shortest days of the year
Tory Burch
Rossi shoes.
pants. Gianvito
STYLE
Sexy vs. Sweet

(they’re seasonless!) can swing both ways.
Mango
jacket,
$250,
mango
.com Good American jeans,
$189, goodamerican.com
Pair laced-
up skinnies
with equally Steve Madden bag,
$88, stevemadden
edgy black .com
leather and
sheer fabrics.
Kenneth Cole 3x1 crop

Intimissimi bra, $59,
heels, $130, top, $135,
us.intimissimi.com
nordstrom.com 3x1.us
Make It Sexy White Jeans Make It Sweet
Danielle Nicole purse,

$78, danielle-nicole.com
Seiko watch, $195, macys.com
A dusty rose
palette warms
3x1 up stark white.
jeans,
$245,
Menswear-
3x1.us inspired brogues
make the look
less precious.
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ninewest
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shoes, $89,
hm.com
H&M top, $40,
HEILBRUNNER
VERONIKA
journal, $55,
Leatherology
leatherology.com
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STYLE
gap.com
Gap bag, $60,
THORA VALDIMARSDOTTIR
Rock Your 2018 Resolutions
Zara jacket,
$90, zara.com
One Look at aTime
$25,
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pants,
target
Target
$28,
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clutch,
oldnavy
Old Navy
(C O L L A G E A N D FA S H I O N S T I L L S) P H O T O G R A P H E D B Y J E F F R E Y W E S T B R O O K / S T U D I O D, S T Y L I S T: R A C H E L S T I C K L E Y F O R B E R N S T E I N & A N D R U I L L I . A L L O T H E R I M A G E S : G E T T Y I M A G E S ; S T O C K S Y (1 1).
STYLE
Lulus
bag, $58,
lulus.com
Travel fantasies
start the second
you slip into
carefree boho
pieces. Miss Me
dress, $79,
missme
.com
ISSA
RAE
Heidi Klum Swim

bikini, $80 (top), $70
Vera Bradley (bottom), heidiklum
passport intimates.com
holder, $78,
verabradley
.com
Sam Edelman
sandals, $60,
samedelman.com
American
Tourister
luggage, $100,
american
tourister.com
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STYLE
Sonix phone
case, $45,
shopsonix
.com
CHANEL
IMAN Lulus
jacket, $69,
lulus.com
J.Crew Amuse
White House
earrings, Society top,
Black Market
$65, $56, amuse
bag, $59,
jcrew society
whbm.com
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CHLOE
BENNET
Vince
Camuto
skirt, $99,
vince
camuto
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Searching for love?

Dress the part of
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feminine standouts.
Chinese
Laundry
heels, $60,
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laundry.com
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STYLE
Aviva
leggings,
$16,
walmart
.com
Danskin
sports bra,
$24, danskin
.com
The Fix
shoes, $85,
amazon Kick your health
.com/thefix
GIGI into high gear
HADID
with energetic on-
the-go essentials.
Adidas
Originals
jacket, $90,
Urbanears adidas.com
headphones,
$99, urban
ears.com
State Bags backpack,

$55, statebags.com
S’well
bottle, $35,
swellbottle
.com
KENDALL
JENNER
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under $50 VANESSA
HUDGENS
Morning Lavender, $41, PrettyLittleThing.com, $45,

AMI Clubwear, $40, amiclubwear.com morninglavender.com prettylittlething.com
There’s No Hiding
Tobi, $42, tobi.com
S T UA R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D. S T Y L I S T: S A B R I N A G R A N D E . H U D G E N S : G C I M A G E S . T R A N : S P L A S H N E W S .
KARRUECHE
TRAN
Who What Wear,
$30, target.com $50, kohls.com
rainbowshops.com
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STYLE
Dress, Gap,
$148, gap.com Shoes, H&M, $50, hm.com
Dress,
ASOS,
$113,
asos
.com
Dress, Zara,
$90, zara.com
Metallic booties
are just as glam
as strappy
stilettos…but
way better for
barhopping.
Shoes,
DSW, $80,
dsw.com
Coming In Hot Dress,

Dress, Donna
Morgan, $198,
anthropologie
Express, .com
Bling in the $198,

express
.com
New Year
Wearing
a Sparkly
Number
Dress,
Marciano Los
Angeles, $178,
marciano.com
S T UA R T T Y S O N / S T U D I O D.
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MITCHELL
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STYLE
Obsessorize
A Whimsical
Mini-Bag Is Like
an Exclamation
Point for
Your Outfit!
J E F F R E Y W E S T B R O O K / S T U D I O D. S T Y L I S T: M E G A N T E R R Y F O R A P O S T R O P H E .
Shaped like champagne

on ice, this stunner is
as much a convo starter
as it is a carryall.
Kate Spade New York,
$358, katespade.com
An acrylic rainbow
clutch—with cheetah
spots—becomes the
House your center of any ensemble.
valuables in a delicate
birdcage tote, Milanblocks, $66,
even if you’re a total milanblocks.com
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Nasty Gal, $50,
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Plan
Your
Jan. Glam
BEAUTY
EF F M AR RY KI LL
Prepare to catch Leave this 2017
Have a fling with craze behind.
this fab trend. LTR feeling s.
Gel heet s DIY ecipe s

Jell Formulas Delete that Pinterest board
Bouncy textures are big. Upgrade your paper mask
Face Masks
to one made from this of kitchen-inspired skin

Try one with circulation- care. Ingredients like lemon
revving turmeric thicker seaweed-derived
and baking soda can
for brighter skin ASAP. material. It is extra hydrating
V
cause serious irritation

First Aid Beauty Hello when not formulated by
FAB Ginger & Turmeric professionals.
Vitamin C Jelly Mask,
$32, Sephora
Lip tai s Dr i g Liquids

Ditch the moisture-sucking
lip kits. Your newly
Lip Color
Swipe on this lip soft kisser will thank you.

session must).
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an extra effect.
Lancôme Matte Shaker
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Chrome Lip Gloss
tour
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Highlight in an E-shape
from cheekbones to
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U icor
himm er pra Hair
Spritz some glitz It had a
on your ends, good, fun
he
along your part... run, but
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V
want to sparkle. time for it

L’Oréal Paris EverPure
IGK Pre Party Hair
Deep Moisture Hair Sheet
to fly
Strobing Glitter Spray, away.
Mask, $4.50, drugstores
$16, sephora.com
Gel s Mile- Lo g Acr lics

his base Remember when you
could type and swipe without
your nails in the way?
Manis
V
‘ 90s Nail Art

Neon hues and cute OPI ProHealth Gel Color
flowers are back—and Base and Top Coat, $18 each,
professional beauty stores
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BEAUTY
Pick Your
Shape
Ask for wispy ones that are shorter in
the middle and longer from the
arch of your eyebrows out. “It’s the
most universally flattering,
easiest-to- maintain style,” says Anh Co
Tran, stylist and co-owner of
Ramirez Tran Salon in Beverly Hills.
The thick, blunt kind, on the
other hand, requires a trim every
two weeks. On that note...
Trim Them
Yourself
It’s all fun and games until you can’t
see. In a pinch, comb the area between
both brow arches straight, then
sandwich hair ends between your
fingers (ideally, where you want the
new style to stop). Holding sharp
scissors vertically (brow-shaping ones
work well), cut up into your bangs,
making small snips from side to side.
“Leave your longer, outer pieces
to a pro—they’re tricky,” says Tran.
Switch Up Your
Styling Game
Thick serum and cream stylers are
officially off-limits. They make fringe
flat and greasy. Instead, mist
damp bangs with a lightweight,
No-Regret
anti-frizz spray (Infusium Repair +
Renew Leave-In Treatment, $6, target
.com, is great). Then blow-dry,
brushing hair to the left and right (in
an X shape) to smooth roots and
Bangs—for
cowlicks. Finish with texture spray (like
Garnier Fructis Style Texture Tease
Dry Touch Finishing Spray, $4, drugstores).
Embrace
Hats
T I M A S H T O N . S T Y L I S T: E M M A R E A D.
Real! On extra-rushed mornings, skip the

styling sesh and just comb
down damp bangs over your forehead
(its natural curve acts like a roller),
and lock them down with a baseball
cap. Once bangs are dry, tousle
your roots with your fingers.
TIP Take Them for a Test-Drive

Bangs are badass but definitely a B to grow out. Convince yourself before
committing by using a set of clip-ins. (Stylist Anh Co Tran gets his from The Hair
Shop, shop.hairpiece.com.) They go on easily and “grow out” in a snap.
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Consider this your beauty passport to
the perfect skin-care journey.
Which lingerie makes you feel the sexiest? Bare Essentials
A B C D
On karaoke night, you’re channeling this diva: Mic Drop
A B C D
Your International Skin-Care Pick
Mostly A’s Mostly B’s Mostly C’s

An ideal match for your sexy You’re classic. And this fancy Nothing you do is boring.
aesthetic: a Brazilian body French face cream will give This oxygen-infused Korean gentle cleanser (by awe-
oil. Massage it all over, rinse, you a complexion that has mask detoxes in the most some Aussie Miranda Kerr)
then glow like Gisele. that special je ne sais quoi. fun way—with bubbles! that softens skin.
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Your Skin vs. the World
Win the
Glow War
Meet Your Silent
Complexion Killer:
Pollution
Unlike other environmen-
tal aggressors (like UV
and extreme temps) that
can make their damaging
effects immediately known
via redness and burning,
pollution is way sneakier.
Particulate matter, micro-
scopic bits of dirt, dust,
and soot, and ground-level
ozone (or smog) are small
enough to get into pores
and generate inflammation,
says derm Shari Marchbein,
MD. That can cause every-
thing from hyperpigmenta-
tion to acne to fine lines as
early as in your 20s.
Urbanites aren’t the
only ones at risk. “Farming
and manufacturing indus-
tries in rural and suburban
areas release pollutants
from machinery, factories,
and chemical plants,” says
Diana Howard, PhD, VP of
research and development
at Dermalogica. Protect
yourself in three steps.
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BEAUTY
Suds Up Every Night

Pollution is yet another reason to wash your face before bed.
“Start with a salicylic acid–based face wash,” says cosmetic der-
matologist Sameer Bashey, MD. (Dry types can try a creamy
formula, like Aveeno’s.) “The oil-loving ingredient effectively dis- Aveeno Clear Complexion Cream Cleanser, $7,
solves sebum and particulate matter that accumulate in pores drugstores. Dermalogica Daily Superfoliant,
all day.” Follow with a gentle exfoliator to remove any residual $18 for .45 oz., dermalogica.com. Clinique
Sonic System Purifying Cleansing Brush and
debris (Dermalogica’s buffs with rice-bran extract). Or incorpo- Sonic System City Block Purifying Cleansing
rate a sonic cleansing brush, like Clinique’s—proven to remove Brush Head, $116.50 for both, clinique.com
PM 2.5, a super-tiny form of particulate matter—when washing.
Apply
Antioxidants
Highly unstable
compounds
called free
radicals (which
damage your
cells’ ability to
function nor-
mally and keep
skin smooth
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and glowy) are

a by-product of
pollution. Coun-
teract them
by applying
Pollution Is antioxidants—
Worse in Winter specifically,
“As more oil is vitamins C and
burned for heat, E (both are in
more pollutants are
released into the Revision Skin- Revision Skincare
environment,” says care’s lotion) Vitamin C Lotion
Diana Howard, or niacinamide 30%, $115, revision
skincare.com for
PhD. (try it in Grown
locations. Grown
Alchemist’s Alchemist Detox
serum)—every Serum Antioxidant
morning before +3 Complex, $55,
your SPF. “They bloomingdales.com
act like scaven-
gers, absorb-
Create a Barrier ing the extra
SPF isn’t just for UV protection. “Ones made with min- energy from
eral blockers, such as zinc oxide and titanium dioxide, free radicals
create a shield against ozone and particulate matter and neutraliz-
too,” explains Dr. Bashey (try Senté’s). Going out for ing their dam-
the night? Urban Decay’s setting spray contains pol- aging effect
lution-blocking minerals (like zinc and copper)—espe- on the skin,”
cially important if you will be around smokers. explains derm
Senté Pollution Shield Broad Spectrum SPF 46 Sunscreen, $49, sentelabs.com for locations. Urban Joshua Zeich-
Decay All Nighter Pollution Protection Environmental Defense Makeup Setting Spray, $34, sephora.com ner, MD.
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Let’s BEAUTY
Beautify
Your Hair,
Bring About That Pic… Down

Last June, I posted this photo
There
(without the concealing emoji)
on Instagram and Twitter to pro-
Back the
mote the Amber Rose SlutWalk: a
nonprofit event in L.A. that takes
a stand against victim blaming, use wipes are
sexual assault, rape, double stan- perfect for
dards, and body shaming. I knew swiping sweat
Bush
and bacteria
the post would get a lot of atten- from your bikini
tion—good and bad—but that’s line post-gym.
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I received comments saying the
photo was disgusting and scandal-
ous. But I didn’t care. Empowering
women is my life’s work—someone
has to start these discussions, and
I’m fine fueling controversy. Ingrowns can be
So much good came from the a thing even if
post: It drove a lot of traffic to the you don’t shave
or wax. Try
SlutWalk page. People wanted to this glycolic-
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fully, they could open their minds. to treat and pre-
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I learned a lot too. Did you know
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The best part is that now, girls
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I’ve changed their lives and made
them think differently—and I
If you feel like
know they’re influencing their
No need to trim grooming:
the hedges. friends and the guys in their lives One side’s a
too. That feels really cool. razor; the
other’s an elec-
I’m not saying every woman tric trimmer.
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When I was younger, I bought into the stigma ety tells you to do. I want every girl
that pubic hair was gross—that if I didn’t remove it, who has had a partner disapprove
guys would perceive me as unclean, smelly, even lazy. So I did. of her body hair to remember that
As I embraced feminism, I started thinking about all the that’s a form of body shaming and
ways we feel pressured to please men—like waxing or shav- it’s not okay. If more hair makes Grapeseed and
jojoba oils
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nance labor of it all. Sometimes doing so causes bumps and a lot sexier with hair—more wom- (Use this on the
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&
That Can
The First-
Your Bond
Date Move
Seal—or Sink—
LOVE
That’s right. In reality, she

had only exchanged a few “We’ll obvi
get married
messages with this match, in late
who seemed to have decent August!”
dating potential. But that’s
It was a cool, crisp night when all it took for her to start
producer Mackenzie L., 39, painting a dreamy, Insta-
matched with a gorgeous worthy feed of their future.
Here’s how Mackenzie explains
guy on her dating app. After it: “The moment I find out
chatting, she met him for the smallest details about a
a stroll through the farmers’ guy I’m interested in, some
market. They bonded over instinctive part of my brain
their shared love of beets and begins envisioning what our
indie music and soon became life will be like together. If I see
a pic of him on a boat, I’m like,
inseparable: nights cooking, Yay! Weekends spent sailing
weekends at his parents’ with no cares in the world! If
cabin—they even took a trip he mentions a vineyard, I’m
to Hawaii. Eventually, the like, Our trips to wine country
two married in a gorgeous will be so fun! Whenever he
outdoor ceremony. It was introduces yet another piece of
info about his life, it starts all
perfect, except for one small over again. And again.”
thing....The love affair was Mackenzie’s dating mind-set
all in Mackenzie’s head. is such a habitual thing she even
gave it a name: montaging. You
know, like in all those rom-coms
and TV shows that take viewers maybe spending a cozy Sunday
through a rosy-hued timeline a.m. together in bed? Whatever
of a couple’s love story…aka any the specifics, that’s montaging.
Kate Hudson movie, 500 Days Welcome to the club.
“I can of Summer, even Pixar’s Up! But is this often mushy
already see
us cuddling And guess what? Turns out, projection a useful tool that
on vacay.” many singles do it too. Think helps nudge a dynamite
about the last time you met first kiss forward, or could
someone you liked. Did your it potentially ruin the fun of
mind leap to an image of the two dating someone in real time?
of you honeymooning in Bali? Or Consider these pros and cons.
USING MONTAGING TO ATTRACT LOVE!

Your mind is so “Having a vision and you’re more likely to prevent you from be useful,” says psy-
powerful that there is feeling optimistic find ways to get them. staying in a not-right chologist Paulette
some truth to the about it can give you When dating, this kind romance. If you notice Sherman, PsyD, author
saying, “If you can motivation to be of thinking could lead you two are veering off of Dating From the
dream it, you can proactive.” Plus, new you to change your course early on, you Inside Out. On a first
achieve it.” As clinical research shows that desired traits on your might bow out sooner. date, if you’re imagin-
psychologist Melanie when you imagine profile or seek out a But the key is to ing a second, that’s all
Greenberg, PhD, things you want—a more sensitive mate. remain grounded. good! But if you’re
author of The Stress- raise, tighter abs, or Another benefit: “When balanced with pondering what you’ll
Proof Brain, says, yes, a loving partner— Montaging could reality, fantasizing can name your kids? Well...
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“Of course
the kids
will get his
fab hair.”
SO…SHOULD
YOU OR
SHOULDN’T
YOU?
A little happy daydreaming is
harmless. But for montaging
to be worthwhile, it pays to
think only of the near future.
“When you meet, ask yourself
useful questions like: How
getting to know some- does this person make me
Montaging #Fails one,” says Sherman, “you

can be confronted with a
feel? Do we laugh, hold hands,
and talk easily? Do we have
rude awakening.” things in common? Am I
The fast-track mind-set Next time you sense Speaking of gloomy comfortable with him or her?”
does have its trouble you’re getting way ahead situations, not all says Sherman. “This information
spots. If you’re feeling of yourself, stop the run- montaging involves can help you accurately gauge
like you want to marry away train in your mind happily-ever-after your compatibility.”
a dude before you even by staying in the scenarios. Some people
Then if a solid future with
know his middle name, moment. Ask questions get caught up in
this person seems imminent,
chances are, you’re about your date’s pas- predictions of how nasty
over-valuing him, points sions, family, friends, the inevitable breakup let your imagination loose
out Greenberg. Rather work, and past, advises will be with a new by envisioning scenes of what
than living in the present, Sherman. This approach person—before the first your actual life would look like.
you’re fabricating a will help you understand tiff. (Usually, that’s If you want a family, picture
person who doesn’t exist who he really is—instead because they have gone him or her as a parent. If you
(or at least, not that you of who you think he will through a previous want to travel a lot, imagine
know of yet). Assuming be based on his résumé, heartbreak and are him or her going with you.
you two are “made for looks, or choice of date preparing for the worst Specific scenarios can help
each other” at an spot. After all, what if it as a defense mechanism.) you sense your feelings about
early stage can also add turns out that he doesn’t This behavior can
the person’s strengths and
pressure that interferes believe in marriage (and actually cause you to
weaknesses and whether
with the natural growth that’s something you radiate negativity, says
of a real, healthy want) or that his temper Sherman. The end result? they’re going to be a fit for
relationship, according is shorter than his chill A self-fulfilling prophecy you long-term. And hey, if
to a study in the Journal vibe you imagined in your that can kill any potential after that, your gut is telling
of Experimental pretty little fantasy? “If romance before it even you it’s a go, then we give you
Social Psychology. you don’t spend time has a chance to heat up. permission to dream on, girl. ■
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sex My partner
Q+A
Honest answers to your most private questions
and I are
thinking
about making
a sex tape.
Bad idea?
A_ It’s smart to be cautious.
According to a 2017 survey, 45
percent of men and 16 percent of
women ages 18 to 34 have shared
a sexy photo without the subject’s
permission…and that can hap-
pen with videos as well. “Creating
a sex tape can be erotic and hot,
but you want to be mindful of the
fact that one of you could poten-
tially make it public if you fight or
break up,” says sex and relation-
ships therapist Megan Fleming,
PhD. Maybe just film a steamy
make-out when you’re clothed.
Or if you’re cool being nude, only
film yourselves from the waist up,
then delete it after watching.
Is it at all possible to
hook up with someone
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and not start to develop
feelings for them?
Making home
movies? Insist A_ Sure! But no-strings-
on artistic attached sex isn’t always realistic,
control. says Justin Garcia, PhD, a sex
researcher at the Kinsey Insti-
tute. He coauthored a study of
more than 500 undergrads that
found that while people’s reasons
for hooking up vary, 51 percent
of men and women said they did
it hoping for a real romance. It’s
also important to know that geni-
tal stimulation and arousal can
elevate your body’s level of oxyto-
cin and other hormones linked to
feelings of love and attachment.
So if you’re looking for a casual
fling, tell your partner. (But
don’t be shocked if you—or your
lover—become invested.)
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SEX
Can you have too much E-mail your Help! My guy is big, and
sex questions
sex in one day? Asking to SexQandA
the sex is painful. What
for a friend.… @Cosmopolitan can I do?
.com.
A_ Sex is kind of like self- A_ Even though most vaginas
tanner—it is possible to overdo can expand to fit most penis
it. While everyone has a dif- sizes, there is such a thing as
ferent threshold, getting it on just too big. Before you get busy
every hour (or for some, more again, talk to your guy about
than once a day) doesn’t just a plan of action to make inter-
zap your energy. All the friction course feel great. (He won’t mind
could leave your vagina with hearing how huge he is.) Use
small tears…and you with a lube, take it slow, and try shal-
not-so-fun urinary tract infec- low-penetration positions like
tion. Make sure you have plenty spooning, which will prevent
of lube on hand, says ob-gyn him from going too deep. If the
Leah Millheiser, MD, director of deed has already been done and
the female sexual medicine pro- you’re in pain, take a warm bath
gram at Stanford University. Sil- with a few drops of extra-virgin Cursing in bed feels so
icone varieties last longer than coconut oil, which will soothe good! Why is that?
water-based ones (try Uberlube, the area around your lady bits, A_ It’s fucking awesome, right?
$18, uberlube.com). Also, peeing says ob-gyn Sherry Ross, MD. And often instinctual: Experi-
before and after every round is a encing pleasure can trigger
must to prevent UTIs. How can I tell if a dude expletives in the same way that,
is faking an orgasm if say, stubbing your toe causes
How can my mate and he’s wearing a condom? you to yell out a curse word. And
I have hotter foreplay? A_ Unless you’re willing to some wild stuff happens inside
A_ Try introducing a third conduct a forensics investigation your bod when you verbally
party into your hanky-panky— on the used rubber (yuck), you let loose. “Swearing raises your
Jimmyjane’s Evoke Sol-o is a can’t. You’d need to see an MRI heart rate, affects your blood
massage wand with a wheel of his brain or monitor his sym- pressure, and galvanizes your
that vibrates as you roll it along pathetic nervous system for skin’s arousal response,” says
your bodies. Start on your S.O.’s increased activity that happens Emma Byrne, author of Swear-
shoulders, then move it down, during climax, says urologist ing Is Good for You: The Amazing
working your way toward the Alex Shteynshlyuger, MD. Any Science of Bad Language.
small of his or her back (a big typical signs (heavy breathing, Those sensations can heighten
erogenous zone for some). Then a John Mayer–ish O face) could your “wow” feels and increase
pass it over for your turn. You’re Jimmyjane
be his acting skills. But as long your satisfaction in the moment.
relaxing your muscles and Evoke Sol-o as you’re both enjoying your- Cussing can also serve as a
Vibrating Massage
releasing hormones that prime Wheel, $99,
selves, there’s really no need to nod to your partner that what
your body and mind for sex. jimmyjane.com go PI on his peen. he or she is doing feels good.
It’s like nap time for a dude’s D. Post-orgasm, most men aren’t able to get an erection
WTF IS... again for a while. In general, the younger the guy, the shorter the period, although
there are some who can go again virtually right away and others who need an entire
a day. If you want round two ASAP, use your mouth and hands on his other hot spots to
recharge his arousal. “Continue kissing and caressing his shoulders, chest, and back,”
Refractory says sexologist Emily Morse, host of the podcast Sex With Emily. “His member might
Period? need a break, but his brain will be receptive, and eventually, you’ll be able to tell when
he’s coming back online.” Boing! Or while you wait, have him pleasure you instead.
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LOVE
Ask Him Anything

Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill
This is one
area hubs can
butt out of.
My husband keeps ask- I broke up with my ex a
ing me to try backdoor month ago, but we’re
sex. I’ve told him I’m still hooking up and he
not interested, but then keeps texting me.
he gets mad and says What’s his motive here?
I’m not willing to experi-
Is it ever okay to
A_ His motive? What about
ment. How do I get him yours? If you’re being passive,
to understand where
talk to a date
you’re letting your ex steer the
I’m coming from? situation. You’re the one who
about the other

A_ For starters, be clear that ended the relationship—likely
you’re not playing hard to get by for a good reason. But now
guys I’m seeing?

reminding him that everyone is you’re in this gray area where
entitled to their boundaries and you’re both sending each other
nobody is entitled to get mad mixed messages, and he may
about them. Just as you undertake advantage of this space for
stand he may not want you to as long as possible. If you don’t
touch his butt or flog him with a want to be with this person,
leather strap, he needs to respect stop wondering about what he
that you simply don’t want to wants. Then stop seeing him.
have anal sex. If he still insists,
remind him that there’s nothing A guy at work goes out of
sexy about being coerced into his way to get me to
doing something you don’t notice him. I catch him
want to do. If you’re turned off looking at me and he
by something, it shouldn’t hovers by my desk...but
make him angry; it should turn never says a word! WTH?
him off too. A_ I can’t tell if this man is a
creep...or just shy. Some timid
My boyfriend of three dudes are so afraid of getting
years says he doesn’t rejected that they’ll float around
want to move in together a woman forever, waiting for a
until I give him complete sign before they make a move.
access to my phone. So give this colleague one he can’t
There’s nothing for me miss: a giant stop sign (say “Can
to hide, but I want my I help you?” with a scowl) or
privacy. Why does this a green light (“Can I help you?”
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matter so much to him? with a smile). Hopefully, he will

A_ First, a guy should never proceed accordingly.
use the possibility of his moving A_ Typically, men don’t really
in with you as leverage to get want the dish on other dudes It’s getting on my BF’s
what he wants. Second, he has in your life unless you’re try- nerves that I can’t see my
no right to look at your phone. ing to tell someone how much own beauty and worth.
This is unhealthy, controlling more incredible…or more Will he leave me if I don’t
behavior. He wants to make handsome…or funnier he is in get over my insecurities?
sure that if you do move in comparison. Otherwise, this A_ Everybody gets insecure—
together, he will be the one set- is a sure way to make him feel guys too—but there’s a difference
Logan Hill has
ting the rules. Know that if you dated around,
defensive, competitive, and between handling it and letting
give into his strict conditions, hooked up, grown anxious, which are not ideal it consume you. Nobody wants to
up, screwed up,
this will only be the beginning. and settled down,
feelings for us to have when be pressured by a needy partner
For his next demands, he so he knows what we’re trying to get to know a girl who craves reassurance 24/7.
he’s talking about.
may threaten to move out. That See more of his
and bring our A-game. So avoid But this isn’t about your guy, it’s
doesn’t sound like fun, so per- insightful the topic, and instead tell your about you. Work on realizing
answers to your
haps you should bow out of this love dilemmas at
girlfriends about the multiple how amazing you are and all your
negotiation entirely. Cosmopolitan.com. great men you have in your life. relationships will improve. ■
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Hot LOVE & SEX
Guy
+
Snow
Day!
What is it about a
“It’s hot when women
talented snow-
boarder or expert
can still look good bundled up
skier that makes
us feel all toasty
in layers of clothes.”
—MATT M., 29, @MATTMARGETTS
down below? Perhaps
it’s because a dude’s efforts
on the slopes can boost
his enthusiasm in another
wonderland: between
the sheets. Moderate “I like
physical activity, like a cozying up
few runs at a ski resort or
together on
the chairlifts.
a solid boarding session, It can get
is associated with higher pretty cold
libidos in men, accord- up there,
ing to a recent study from and it’s the
researchers at the Univer- best time to
sity of North Carolina at get close.”
Chapel Hill. So once a guy —KRISTOPHER K., 27,
@KRISTOPHERKAHANU
dominates the mountain, (CENTER)
there’s a good chance
he’ll want to rock the bed-
room too…and that’s an
après-ski activity we can
totally get behind! “I like a girl who can snowboard,
For your viewing plea- but it’s a turn-off for me if
sure, here are eight sexy she’s too into the sport. I don’t
shredders. We asked them: wanna be lying in bed,
“What do you find sexy talking about new tricks…well,
about the winter, and how snowboard tricks. ”
do you up the heat factor —OLYMPIC GOLD MEDALIST AND
PRO SNOWBOARDER
with a date?” SHAUN WHITE, 31, @SHAUNWHITE
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“After a long day of snowboarding,
I like to hop in a hot tub together…
preferably one you have to sneak into.
If you’re in the right place,
hot springs are an obvious step-up.”
—FINN W., 21, @ALWAYSFINNA
“One of my
favorite
winter dates
is dogsled-
ding and
then having
a great meal
with lots
of red wine.”
—THOMAS C., 34,
@THOMASCABALLERO
(SECOND FROM LEFT)
“My girl-
friend
in a beanie
is one thing
I love
about
winter.”
—MACKENZIE M., 21,
@KENZIEMARCOUX
“I’ve kissed
“I find it attractive a girl on the
slopes, but
that’s not all
when a girl snowboards. I’ve done.”
—BRYAN Z., 23,
It’s what I love, so @BRYZWART
it’s cool when you can

share that passion.”
—JYE K., 24, @JYEKEARNEY
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all about
men
Decode His
Psychologist and
relationship expert
Dudes and Antonia Hall helps
Dollars analyze what a man’s
According to a personal space
recent survey from reveals about him.
financial-planning If a guy has…
platform LearnVest,
men think a lot
about romance in the
context of dollars
and cents. Here, what
they bank on.
53%
would rather be single
forever than have a
spouse who is financially
irresponsible.
45%
are more likely to talk
A Super-
Polished and
Pristine Abode
Congrats! He’s adulting,
about their financial and it’s likely the rest of
habits (how they spend, his life is in order too. But if
save, invest, etc.) with he makes you feel anxious
friends than with a in his spotless place,
significant other. he may be too hung up
on appearances. Nostalgic
Keepsakes
22 % Everywhere
Given his glory-days
shrine, his focus may
have hidden at be stuck in the past. But
least three purchases don’t fret: If he makes
plans in advance, he’s
from a partner confident in where
in the past year. this is going.
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THE LOVE COACH
M AT T H E W H U S S E Y
Dirty
Clothes 1 2 3 4
and Piled-Up
Dishes
He may be busy, lazy, or… The Knee Tap The Drive-By The Neck Sniff The Full-
artsy! One study suggests While sitting next Caress Say, “You smell Body Hug
clutter can promote to him, briefly As you approach great! What is Don’t go for the
creativity. So go easy on touch his knee or walk past him, that?” Then come shy, awkward hug.
him until you figure out when you’re about give the back of his in close to take a Imagine you’re
what’s behind the to tell him some- head just above whiff. He’ll feel trying to connect
chaos. thing exciting his hairline a light your breath on his as many of your
(e.g., “Oh, you just scrape with your neck and your parts to his as pos-
have to hear this nails. There’s hand on his shoul- sible. And have the
story.…”). It’s a something animal- der, and he’ll be confidence to hold
moment of attrac- istic about being able to smell your this hug for an
tion between you. touched there. scent too. extra second.
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Minimal
Decor and an
Empty Fridge
It’s possible that he has a
fear of commitment or
prefers to put his energy
into outdoor adventures.
Take your time to suss
out if it’s just a
phase.
S TA C K O F M O N E Y: G E T T Y I M A G E S . M A N O N F LO O R : F I L I P P O D E L V I TA / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M . S H E L L : S T O C K S Y.
WHO AREN’T ABLE TO

CORRECTLY IDENTIFY
THE VAGINA IN AN
ANATOMICAL DIAGRAM.
SOURCE: THE EVE APPEAL 2017 SURVEY
Would He Rather: Have His Crush Date His BFF or Enemy?

“For sure, best “Best friend “Could go either “Worst enemy! “I think worst
friend. Because would be way. Probably Then you can enemy. If it
then you easier to get enemy, because still potentially were your best
could actually over, even they’re not date them friend, you’d
propose a though I might going to be in the future have to be
threesome.…” be jealous.” able to rub it in without around them
—ZACH E., 24 —COLE M., 19 your face.” consequence.” all the time.”
—TREVOR W., 19 —COLIN M., 27 —WILLIAM A., 23
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Why
Girl-on-Top
Should The view from
above is mighty
fine. (His doesn’t
suck either.)
Be Your
Go-To
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SEX
feel really empowering,” says

Stubbs. Try setting an OMG-
The reason GoT (no, not Game of worthy pace by starting slow,
Thrones) is so major? In a word: grinding your clitoris against
orgasms. The position ups your odds your partner’s body, then
of climaxing during sex, as your most speeding up as you sense your
POWER UP pleasure building and you can
sensitive interior and exterior spots YO U R L I M B S
see your lover is also about to
can be stimulated at the same time, lose it. Feel free to bring in
says sexologist and relationship expert Megan Stubbs. Getting on top some teasing too, by slowing
That double play can seal the deal on satisfaction. can make you
it way back down—you’re the
At least 70 percent of women need clitoral stimulation feel weak in
the...thighs. dom in this session, after all.
in order to O from intercourse. Yet riding cowgirl only
Gain strength
ranked third—behind missionary and doggie-style,
and endurance Easier Access,
two moves that don’t offer as much clitoral attention— with this leg 3 Everywhere
in the “favorite position” part of Skyn Condoms’ 2017 exercise from Being on top leaves
Millennial Sex Survey. Unacceptable! It’s time to Dyan Tsiumis, all hands on deck...and free
recognize girl-on-top as the hot move it is for both of head instruc- for touching. Run yours up
you. If the promise of ecstatic trembling isn’t incentive tor at Swerve and down his chest and torso,
enough, here are five more reasons to hop up there. Fitness in New stopping at the nipples, which
York City. can be a major pleasure center
Hot Hip Bridges for both men and women.
All the Lie on your Then put your partner’s hands
1 Stimulation back with your to work on your own breasts
Thanks to gravity, knees bent as you hold a pebble vibrator
climbing on top means your and your heels against your clitoris. Stubbs
mate can go deeper than an
on the floor also suggests having your
near your butt.
M. Night Shyamalan plot. The mate pull your hips down as
Raise your hips
pose can also stimulate your up and hold for you swivel them, upping the
G-spot, the small area a few three seconds, pressure against your clitoris.
inches inside you on the front clenching your
of your vaginal wall that, for glutes, then
some women, is ultrasensitive lower. Repeat
and can bring on supersize
orgasms, says sexologist and
sexuality coach Juliet Allen,
author of Ecstatic Sex & Deep
Intimacy. To find out which
depths feel best, straddle his
waist with your legs on either
side of his hips. Move your
knees closer to his body for
shallower thrusts or farther
away for deeper plunges.
Control Is Yours
2 GoT is a power pose for
a reason: You decide the
speed and direction of the sex
(no jackhammering allowed!).
“You’re the boss, which can
By Julie Vadnal C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8
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SEX
Off-the-Charts You’ll Never Get

4 Intimacy 5 Bored (Promise)
Extra arousal and As long as it feels good,
warm, fuzzy feels? Another there’s no wrong way to position
GoT win. The position allows yourself when perched on top.
you to hold intense eye contact You can try a straddle with your
during sex—from close up or knees on the bed or turn around
high above—which can help so you’re facing your mate’s feet
to solidify your bond. If you (reverse-cowgirl) or stretch your
can’t gaze down at your mate legs out in front of you and use
without worrying about what your arms to move. And at the
he’s looking at, know this: He’s risk of sounding like Dr. Seuss,
definitely not critiquing the you can do it in a chair. And
way your boobs and stomach on the floor. And on the stairs....
are moving. What’s more likely Says Stubbs: Modification is the
going through his head: I’m not key to this classic’s lasting (and
gonna last much longer! endless) appeal.
Get on Up!
Gasm Have him sit on a chair, As he sits up with his

Mount him and lean In this girl-on-girl pose, then bind his wrists legs out, straddle him in
all the way back until straddle just one of her together with a silk tie. reverse with your butt
N I C K O N K E N /AU G U S T. I L LU S T R AT I O N S B Y J E N N Y Y U E N .
you’re bracing your legs so that your Face in his direction, high, legs extended, and
arms on the ground. clitorises are aligned. and saddle up. torso on his thighs.
THE MOTIONS
Bounce Use your legs to raise and lower your pelvis onto his penis.
Swirl Swivel your hips in a circular motion to feel him all over your outside and inside parts.
Rock Shift your hips forward and backward to rub your clitoris against his pubic bone.
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Sex That
Ends in the ER
One study found that half
of all penile fractures occur during
GoT sex. If you’re not angled right
and you come down too fast (or he
slips out), you may hear a popping
or cracking sound…and his
cry of pain. To avoid a trip to the
hospital, don’t slam onto
him if you’ve risen high enough
that only the head of his
penis is inside you.
He may be stiff,
but he’s not
made of steel.
Don’t go too
crazy!
Getting
SEX
Off
Just 66
percent of men think
there aren’t enough
adult products
Got
designed for dudes.
As if they needed yet

another helping hand to
masturbate, men now
Easier
have more ways to score
solo Os. Namely, a slew of new
sex toys. From penis-suction
sheaths to shaft vibrators, dude
playthings are crowding—and
flying off—store shelves. In
{!!}
2016 alone, adult novelty shop
Babeland reported a 68 percent
spike in sales of the items, and
that number has only continued
to rise (no pun intended).
“In our surveys, we’ve seen a
8 10 out
of
guys have tried
growing openness to discussion a sex toy and like to
around, and acceptance of, mas- experiment with
turbation by younger generations making solo sex
more pleasurable.
of men,” says Eddie Marklew,
the global marketing manager
for sex-toy maker Tenga. Pop
culture’s come around too. In
for
Netflix’s Master of None, come-
dic actor Aziz Ansari’s character
S E B A S T I A N A R T Z / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
S TAT I S T I C S S O U R C E S : 2 0 1 7 W E -V I B E M E N A N D
goes shopping at an adult store

for his girlfriend and for himself.
These days, 79 percent of men
M A S T U R B AT I O N S T U DY, T E N G A .
believe that sex toys are for

everyone—male or female, gay
or straight—according to a sur- High-tech
Guys
vey by sex-toy brand We-Vibe. gadgets are
taking the
Way more advanced than work off his
the Fleshlight (the 1997 ween hands.
machine that resembles a
C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8 By Julie Vadnal
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Tenga Original Sir Richard’s PicoBong Fun Factory
Vacuum Cup, Element MS, Blowhole M-Cup, Cobra Libre II,
$10, usstore $99, jimmyjane $140, picobong $130, lovehoney
.tenga-global.com .com .com .com
flashlight and is meant to mimic

the look and feel of a vagina),
“A lot of our
modern male-orgasm aids have female staff
sleek designs and come with
upgraded features, says Lisa
look at the
Finn, a sex educator at Babe- male toys and
55
million
land. For example, there’s the
Tenga Original Vacuum Cup,
get penis
The number of male a disposable, single-use, lube- envy because
playthings Tenga
has shipped worldwide
filled sleeve that looks a bit like
a fancy water bottle. (When one
they’re so
since June 2017.
male tester tried it for Cosmo, beautifully
he said: “I have no idea what
exactly is going on up in that
designed.”
—LISA FINN, SEX EDUCATOR
cup, but there were definitely AT BABELAND
sensations I have never felt
before. The suction is no joke.”) fraught. Trust, says Kerner—it’s
And the Sir Richard’s Element not that he prefers the sensation
MS, a smooth, black, silicone of a gadget to your body.
vibrating sheath, seems like So rather than revolt against
something Batman would own. man’s new best little friend, join
But here’s the big ques- forces with it, suggests Finn.
tion: Once a guy gets ahold of Chances are, your guy will be up
his own buzzing buddy, will for it. “If I had a girlfriend and
he choose it over getting down she brought something out for
with you? No way, says sex ther- us, I’d find it fun!” says Cole M.,
apist Ian Kerner, PhD, author 19. Twenty-one percent of men
of She Comes First. “In my expe- already introduce a toy into the
rience, the boom in male toys bedroom at the beginning of a
doesn’t have any reflection on relationship, according to a poll
the sex a man is having with by retailer Adam & Eve.
his partner,” he explains. “And Go ahead, give one a try.
if it does, it’s not about the toy.” During foreplay, put a toy like
In other words, if your sig- the PicoBong Blowhole M-Cup
nificant other starts neglect- around the base of your guy’s
ing you for his self-pleasuring shaft while giving his tip some
sessions, it could be a sign of oral love at the same time. Or as
a deeper issue. He could be he gets an erotic massage from
frazzled at work and looking the Fun Factory Cobra Libre II,
to de-stress alone, or perhaps grind up against it to share the
he’s having performance anxi- vibrations. There are no rules
eties that make partnered sex that say girls can’t play too. ■
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DUI:
Dating Why Everyone Is
on the Sauce
From a distance—or from three
Under
vinos in—imbibing seems like
the ideal date activity. It’s low
commitment and time efficient
with an easy escape route,
explains Edwards. Add dim
the
lighting, sexy music, and tightly
packed bar stools and you’ve set
a sultry scene that’s ripe for flirt-
ing, she says.
A L L I E H O L LO WAY.
Drinking while dating has That feeling
Influence
become even more attractive to when you take
the liquid
singles who meet their potential courage too
mates on apps. Knocking back a far…
few can help drown out anxieties
about seeing a virtual stranger
IRL. “Especially now with so
much competition online,” says
It’s like my relationship Niloo Dardashti, a psychologist
should have a “spon- and relationship coach in New
sored by Bud Light” York City, “everyone’s so quick
credit. I met my boyfriend at to jump to the next person. The
a bar, and for our first date, we pressure to make a good first
went out for drinks. On the four “When you’re buzzed on a impression has increased.” Then
dates after that, we always had first date, your ability to clearly there’s the worry that even if a
a glass in hand. In fact, we may decide if this person has the date goes well, your plus-one will
never have gotten together at all values you’re looking for can end up ghosting. All of which
if it weren’t for alcohol—and I’m be impaired,” says Julie Spira, creates a mind-set of fear rather
guessing you can relate. a dating coach and founder than fun. “So you turn to some-
While booze has long played of Cyber-Dating Expert. And thing that will take the edge off,”
a role in many burgeoning it’s no news flash that get- says Dardashti. “And in the short
romances, its presence now sat- ting super-tipsy or even drunk term, alcohol decreases anxiety.”
urates every aspect of dating. can open the door for a host of Daters can also face an
Matchmaking apps and sites regrettable or scary situations. unspoken pressure to sip
treat it like a personality type. While sober dating may at because of the idea that teeto-
“They ask if you drink and how first sound awkward, chances talers are somehow uptight.
often you drink,” says Laurie are, you’ve already considered Edwards says that many of
Davis Edwards, founder and it. Twenty-two percent of Amer- her clients do end up swiping
CEO of eFlirt. “It’s become part icans over age 21 plan to try left on sober singles. “I think
of your profile.” Dry January (a full 31 days of they’re afraid that they’ll be
And, like mine, so many abstaining from drinking) this made to feel guilty for drinking
couples’ first step offline is… month, according to a Cosmo- or be bummed that they can’t
into a bar. That’s the “most fun” politan-YouGov survey. That’s ever have a glass of wine with
way for men and women ages just in time for most major dat- their partner,” she says. “These
25 to 34 to meet up, according ing apps’ biggest spike in new are judgments we’re being
to a recent Cosmopolitan- user sign-ups and activity. forced to make about other
Tinder survey. What’s more, Read on to learn why so people before we even meet
nearly 70 percent don’t think many people drink and date— them.” As a result, a simple
dating would be any better if and how to work boozeless (or invite to drinks can be code
alcohol were taken off the table. at least booze-lite) fun into your for: You’re either up for this
But what if it could be? search for love. or I’m out.
C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8 By Candice Jalili
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LOVE & SEX
Drinks Now, Regrets Later and now wish you hadn’t, or your
All that being said, as anyone thoughts are stuck on repeat:
who’s ever been overserved while Why hasn’t he texted yet??
searching for romance knows, Alcohol can Forgoing drinks might also
alcohol is not always the gift from save you from entering a going-
the love gods it’s praised to be.
ease first-date nowhere relationship. A recent
It can ease first-date jitters in jitters in the survey by the treatment center
the moment, but once your buzz Recovery First found that peo-
wears off, “it can actually have
moment, but ple who were buzzed on their
the opposite effect and increase once your buzz first dates were twice as likely
your anxiety,” says Dardashti. to be dissatisfied in their cur-
You may know this feeling as the
wears off, it rent relationships as those who
next-day emotional hangover. can actually abstained. Beer goggles—or
Maybe you had one too many and seeing someone you wouldn’t
said something that’s now mak-
have the oppo- normally be into in a positive
ing you cringe, or you hooked up site effect. light—could be to blame.
Flirting 1 2 3
Without When Planning Right Before On the Date…
Sipping a Date… the Date… If he asks why you
If you can resist To calm your aren’t drinking,
drinking, then nerves and get in casually say
Now, we’re not take that cute a relaxed, happy you’re taking a
saying you must dude up on his mind-set, put break but that
always choose offer to meet at on your favorite he’s welcome to
mini golf over a local pub, says music and dance order a brew,
merlot. If you James Swanwick, around your says Swanwick.
don’t feel like creator of the room as you’re Your delivery is
alcohol is compli- 30-Day No Alco- getting dressed, what will prove
cating your dat- hol Challenge. If suggests Julie that this isn’t a
ing life, feel free not, suggest a Spira. Or try this red flag. You can
to keep cheers- walk around your power pose from also bring up Dry
ing. But if you ’hood or a meet- Swanwick to January. “Make it
suspect going up for dessert. feel more calm a way to show
booze-free could and confident: what your life-
improve your “Stand upright, style is like,”
love search, fol- roll your shoul- says Laurie
low these steps. ders back, and Davis Edwards,
breathe in and “because, ulti-
out deeply.” mately, you’re
looking to see
if you will fit into
each other’s
life.” ■
Wanna ace
Dry January? Sign up
for 30 days of tips
(for $67) at
30DayNoAlcohol
Challenge.com.
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Dating &
Mating With
Esther Perel
The Power of
Feminine Energy
Getting in touch
with your inner
strength is lit.
Both women and men have tempera- locked into “masculine” versus “feminine” rela-
ments—or energies, if you will—that tionship roles, which are especially apparent in
are biologically and culturally deter- heterosexual couples.
mined. For so long, society has dictated that We all have measures of energy in us. In her
feminine energy is tender, receptive, and submis- book In a Different Voice, Carol Gilligan tells us
sive, while masculine energy is strong, striving, and how boys are cut off from their emotions starting
aggressive. But I’m a critic of these traditional defi- at age 4 and girls lose their voice around 12. So girls
nitions. At this point, they are retrograde—and not seek wholeness through empowerment and boys
in a good way. claim a full identity by reclaiming their vulnerability.
To me, it’s time for men and women to be more If you and your mate revisit your energies with-
whole: That means for women to be pleasing and out society’s gender lenses—and challenge your
kind and also to find their voice and be powerful, own assumptions of what makes a “real woman” or
confident, and decisive. For guys, whole means a “real man”—it can free you to take on more suit-
being strong and also soft and vulnerable with a able roles within your relationship. You can feel
beautiful ability to tap into their emotions and more confident in your individual strengths rather
connections. But because our society has made than adhere to what you’re expected to do. Here’s
these characteristics so gender-specific, we are how to start creating that shift.
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LOVE
LOVE QUIZ
Is Your
True
Feminine
1 2 3
Do you feel dis-
connected from
your body, as if
you don’t have
full ownership of
it and the way
Are you often
worried that
what you really
want in life is
not “feminine”
enough?
Have you caught
yourself chang-
ing your
demeanor
when you’re
around men?
If you answered
mostly yes, you
may be living with a
critical internal
voice that prevents
you from owning
If you answered
mostly no, you
are accessing your
strengths and exud-
ing them in a strong
way. To keep at it,
Energy you live in it? YES NO YES NO
your feminine
energy. To boost
know that trying,
failing, and trying
Blocked? YES NO self-acceptance, ask again is the most
for help when you effective way to feel
need it and share certain in who you
your knowledge are and what you
when you don’t. bring to the table.
“To me, true feminine energy is actually highly powerful and

very decisive—a woman knows what she wants.”
FIND YOUR FORCE does best (perhaps he or she likes supporting

First, ask yourself what your dominant energy is: you by making dinner every night), both of you are
Is it a seductive power, a presence, a radiance? If still adding value to your relationship.
you’re having trouble, the best way to find it is to
take possession of and be totally mindful of your LET GO OF ASSUMPTIONS
body: how you use it to get things done, to prob- Egalitarianism embraces your respective compe-
lem solve. And feel the joy that comes from using it tencies, not your genders. Encourage your part-
while, for example, dancing. Or during sex. ner, especially if he is a man, to tap into his own
The confidence that emanates from these expe- energy, and let him be flexible with his traditional
riences is your real feminine energy. And it’s likely gender role. Inspire him to nurture an identity that
you’ll find that it is fiercely smart and intuitive and goes beyond competitor and provider.
gives you the emotional intelligence to navigate the For example, maybe he feels he could never say,
Esther Perel
world. It’s multifaceted too: Your feminine energy is a sex and
“I’m not that ambitious.” If he admits this to you,
at work may be direct and task-oriented, while at relationships don’t humiliate or judge him. You wouldn’t want
therapist, author,
home, it may be more relaxed and indulgent. It’s and the host of
him to look down on you for your personal ambi-
fluid and adaptable, and that is your power. the Audible tions, right? Acknowledge his honesty, and let it
original series
Where Should We
bring you closer together.
OWN YOUR STRENGTHS Begin? With Esther
Perel. Her TED
When you’ve accessed your energy, it’s easier to be Talks on desire and
SHOW SOME GRATITUDE
honest about your true desires. Maybe you like run- infidelity have It’s crucial that you both signal your appreciation for
been viewed nearly
ning meetings more than organizing the upkeep of 20 million times.
the energies and value you each bring to your part-
a home, which your partner is really much better Her new book, nership. This is especially true when those traits are
The State of Affairs,
at than you are. Or maybe you don’t have as much is a New York Times
ones that our culture doesn’t appreciate enough.
patience as your lover does. best seller. For instance, during my first book tour, my hus-
These realizations can be scary, because what band stayed home to be with our young kids. I said
I L LU S T R AT I O N B Y D O U G C H AY K A .
speaks to your energy and what you’re the most to him, “I could not do this without you. It’s thanks
competent in may go against all the reinforcement to you that I m able to do what I do.” Gratitude is
you get from society of what femininity should look so important because it helps remove the guilt or
like (e.g., caring for the house and others first). embarrassment a man or woman might have for
But if you let yourself do what you do best (maybe possessing—and using—a power that’s outside his
you are ambitious and feel alive when making or her gender expectations. And it allows both part-
money) and balance that with what your partner ners to fully recognize their own energies. ■
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Set a
Goal? Go
Small or
Go Home
T
S TA R
!
THING
SOME
A L L I E H O L LO WAY/ S T U D I O D.
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WELLNESS
Going after big, new goals (like, say,

running a marathon or learning to
speak Spanish) may be desirable...but
it’s also daunting. If you don’t feel like you’re
crushing it from Day One, you’re more likely to give up
altogether, says Anna Kress, PsyD, a clinical psychologist
in Princeton, New Jersey. Plus, when given a large but
vague target (think: be happier this year, get in shape),
your prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain respon-
sible for goal-directed behavior—can’t tell which steps to
prioritize and ends up being less effective in helping you
achieve your goal.
Your solve: micro-goals. Setting super-small, stupidly
achievable objectives is the key to rocking your 2018
resolutions. Quickly making progress, even if it’s in baby
steps, is more motivating than achieving something
major, according to a recent study in the Journal of
Applied Psychology. Fun-size ambitions allow your brain BIG FAIL BIG FAIL
to more effectively manage your mental resources. In
Be asleep by Live at your
fact, your entire noggin lurves going micro—whenever
10 P.M. every night. standing desk.
you hit a teeny milestone, it releases dopamine, a feel-fab
chemical that motivates you to repeat the behavior. SMALL WIN SMALL WIN
“Over time, mini-goals become habits that are rewarding
and wired into our brains,” says Kress. Get up at roughly Walk for
She suggests starting with no more than three the same 30 minutes a day.
specific nano-goals at a time. Keep reading for more time every day. You’ve probably heard that
success strategies. Let’s be real: Sleep is every- constant sitting is worse for
thing. But not everyone’s your well-being than smok-
internal body clock allows ing. But committing to being
them to conk out at 10 p.m. on your feet 24/7 isn’t the
on the dot, says sleep special- answer. “Standing for eight
ist Michael Breus, PhD, hours straight isn’t that much
author of The Power of When. better than sitting for that
If your natural circadian long, since your body still
rhythm doesn’t align with a isn’t moving much,” says
certain strict bedtime, you’re certified personal trainer
setting yourself up for fail- Krista Stryker, founder of
ure. Going hard and forcing 12-Minute Athlete.
yourself won’t help. Better: Ditch your too-
A smaller, easier hack is to intense goal and go on a
set your alarm for around the mission to walk around for
same time each morning. 30 minutes every day. “This
“The moment you open your can make a huge difference
eyes, light turns off the fau- in your health by getting you
cet in your brain that controls outside and moving,” says
the sleep hormone melato- Stryker. No need to knock out
nin, and that helps you wake the full 30 all at once; walking
up,” says Breus. “And when to the grocery store, taking a
you always get up at the same post-dinner stroll, and cruis-
time, your body will fall into a ing around with your pup can
rhythm that will help you feel all add up, says Stryker. If
sleepy at a consistent time 30 minutes starts to feel too
each night.” Start with the easy (you overachiever, you),
weekdays and eventually rise set your next benchmark at
and shine at the same time on one hour and get moving first
weekends too. Doing so will thing in the morning, during
keep your new snooze sched your lunch break, and
on fleek all year long. after dinner to hit your mark.
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say that we’ll never eat cer-
tain foods again, that’s when
we drool over them even
more,” she explains. That’s
because going cold turkey on
your faves can make you feel
deprived, which increases
cravings, says Keri Gans, RD,
author of The Small Change
Diet. Cue nacho face-plant.
Instead of banning all
your junk food baes at once,
reduce your intake by tack-
ling one at a time (e.g., soda
in February, chips in March),
says LeVeque. Replace each
with a healthier option (diet
soda becomes sparkling
seltzer, chips get traded in
for flax crackers). Gradually
phase out unhealthy eats and
you’ll make over your whole
diet by the end of the year—
without feeling the loss.
BIG FAIL
Work out
every day.
SMALL WIN
Exercise 90
minutes a week.
Besides being unrealistic
(some days you #JustCant),
BIG FAIL your stress hormones. And by working out on the daily is
Meditate kicking off your om habit in a
small way, you’ll learn the skill
bad for your bod. It prevents
twice daily. without getting restless,
muscle recovery and ramps
up your risk for injury, says
slowly building up your toler- certified personal trainer
SMALL WIN “The minute ance for longer sessions. Anna Victoria, creator of the
When those 5 minutes begin
Do a few five- we say that to fly by, you’ll know it’s time
Fit Body Guides. To get after
your goals without going
minute guided to try 10 or even 20.
sessions per week. we’ll never HAM, start with 45 minutes of
cardio and 45 minutes of
Trying to jump-start total Zen
can leave you the very oppo-
eat certain BIG FAIL
strength training per week.
You can combo the sessions
site of chill, says Kress. For foods again, Break up with into 90 minutes or break ’em
many, meditation—espe-
cially sans guidance—can feel that’s when junk food. up over two days. And yes,
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your calm in short bursts. cravings harder to beat, says like you could do more, add
Every little bit counts, says certified clinical nutritionist a third sesh to your week,
Kress. Lowering your heart Kelly LeVeque, RD, author of preferably a high-intensity-
rate for five minutes reduces Body Love. “The minute we interval-training one. ■
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Do You Need
a Judgment
Detox?
(You Sure?)
By Danielle Kam
Raise your hand if you’ve side-eyed stilettos at a concert isn’t hurting anyone). But
someone Regina George–style in the last constantly judging others can create an addictive
month. Week? Day? I see you. cycle, says New York Times best-selling author
You’re not the only one with betchy opinions. Gabby Bernstein, whose new book is called
An onslaught of scary events (political upheaval, Judgment Detox. We judge, then judge ourselves
apocalyptic weather) has made us all feel unsta- for judging, then feel bad, then judge others
ble, amplifying our instinctual urge to call out again, ultimately losing way too much mental
those who threaten the norm, says NYC clinical energy to a process that makes us feel shitty.
psychologist Ben Michaelis, PhD. “Because things The solution, says Bernstein, is to heal our rela-
seem less predictable,” he says, “we’re assessing tionship with judgment by noticing critical
more, looking to shut down threats everywhere.” thoughts and replacing them with kindness.
Even that guy who confuses your and you’re on I’m totally here for this plan. I let Bernstein into
Facebook can awaken fierce judginess. my brain for a day to help me lose the toxic thoughts
It’s easy to dismiss these savage instincts as threatening my sense of peace. Read closely if your
harmless (e.g., giving stink eye to someone in inner Simon Cowell is as chatty as mine.
A Day in
the Life of 8 a.m. I get up five minutes 9 a.m. On my way to work, a
Cosmo’s before I have to leave for work.
Hair is a mess, face is a tragedy,
friend sends me screenshots of
a ridic convo he’s having with a
and I forget my lunch, so I’m girl he’s seeing. A week ago, she
Judgiest truly in a pissy mood (not trying said she wanted to slow things
Editor to make excuses for my upcom- down. Now she wants his D.
ing judginess, just saying). I’m annoyed that he’s putting
up with someone who is play-
Gabby Bernstein: When you begin ing him. *Eye roll*
your day with self-judgment, you end up
projecting those insecurities onto oth-
GB: Just a guess: Have you ever been
ers. Instead, try to notice your judgment
played by someone? Your friend’s
without judgment. When you realize
situation may remind you of something
that you’re critiquing yourself, congrat-
in your past that made you feel insecure.
ulate yourself for noticing. Positive
Exploring this will help you own
reinforcement neutralizes negative
your mean-girl thoughts rather than
feelings, squashing the urge to transfer
feel falsely superior to your friend.
them onto someone else.
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Gabby Bernstein’s
latest book,
Judgment Detox,
is a cleanse for
the soul.
12 p.m. Some tall, hot chefs 8 p.m. At dinner with friends, 11 p.m. I disrobe, lay my little
come to the office to make I’m telling them about a very head down, and drift off
us grilled cheese. What could important life problem and the thinking about a girl from my
go wrong? Funny you should server keeps interrupting. Then workout class last week who
ask! When a coworker sits at he tries to clear my plate before kept twerking between sets…
my table and starts chewing I’m finished. What kind of thanks, but no thanks.
obnoxiously, I silently throw monster would throw out a ball
shade at her parents for teach- of burrata? (Yes, cheese is very GB: Evening is a great time to take
ing her to eat like it’s her important to me.) inventory of your day and forgive
yourself for all the times you’ve
last freaking meal on earth. judged. This is the last step of your
GB: After recognizing what triggers detox. No matter how many negative
GB: When I have thoughts like these, I your judginess and using positive man- thoughts slipped through, tell
repeat a positive affirmation, like “I tras, try cultivating compassion. Look- yourself you did the best you could.
GET T Y IMAGES.
choose to judge nothing that occurs.” ing for people’s good qualities helps And be proud of all the critical
This mantra can help redirect your you feel more love for them. So close your thoughts you did catch. In order to let
focus. This girl is just enjoying her eyes for a second, breathe deep, and other people off the hook, you first
sandwich. Why let that ruin your day? reflect on how hardworking this guy is. have to let yourself off the hook. ■
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health The Habit
Expert
“Like all fixations, nail biting
develops out of repetition and
reward. If you bite your nails one day
when you’re feeling anxious, you may
feel slight pain, which is distracting. That’s
the reward. The next time you feel anxiety,
you do the same thing—until it becomes
routine. Try substituting biting with
another action, such as chewing gum,
every time you feel the urge.”
-
Wendy Wood, provost professor
of psychology and business at the
Q “Can wearing wet Q “What does a breast University of Southern
period panties lump feel like?” California
all day give me a yeast A_ A marble, a grape, a pea…even
infection?” a grain of rice. Lumps can vary in
A_ Yeast thrives in moist areas, size but typically have smooth
so having anything wet near your edges and move in between your THREE WAYS TO CURE...
lady parts for hours on end can lead fingers as you feel around them. If
to a flare-up. When you have your
period, menstrual blood also
changes the pH levels of your vagina
you notice something like this,
stay calm. In young women, breast
lumps are often benign cysts
Compulsive
and vulva, making you even more
susceptible to an infection. That
called fibroadenomas. The most
important thing is to familiarize
Nail
said, period underwear won’t create
an issue in all women. For many,
yourself with what your breasts
feel like so you can detect and
Biting
a little extra yeast in the vagina isn’t report any changes to your doctor.
cause for concern. If, however, you SOURCE: JENNIFER ASHTON, MD, OB-GYN AND ABC NEWS CHIEF
WOMEN’S HEALTH CORRESPONDENT
are prone to the itchy condition, it’s
best to avoid spending extra time in
any type of soggy bottoms, be
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they period panties, wet bathing
suits, or damp gym clothes.
The MD
“Learn the consequences
of your behavior: Chronic nail
biting and skin picking can lead to
Adidas UltraBOOST X All Terrain numerous problems, including infec-
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Calling all treadmill haters! Adidas has trans- not the coolest option, covering your fin-
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sneaker/slippers of your dreams, allowing you help you completely break the habit. Over-
to jog outside all year long. The cozy knit the-counter products that have a foul
taste, such as Mavala Stop and Resist Nail
uppers wrap around your ankles and repel Bite Inhibitor, can also work.”
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Chris G. Adigun, MD, dermatologist
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HOW BAD IS IT?
Eating
The Life After 10 P.M.
Coach It’s never a smart idea.
“Hypnotherapy can help, but Totes
it takes anywhere from one to sev- Research suggests that Fine
eral sessions. Here’s something simi- near-midnight
larly effective that you can try at home: munchies may cause
Repeat positive affirmations (e.g., ‘I can your body to store even
bite my nails if I want to, but I’m choosing good-for-you calories
not to’). This will instantly give you more as fat, since your diges-
power over the situation. Telling your- tive system is already in
self ‘No, don’t do that’ actually makes sleep mode. Perhaps
you want to do it more.” more worrying, late-
- evening eats can wreak
Alexandra Janelli, hypnothera-
pist and life coach in havoc on your belly’s
New York City all-important micro-
biome. “We know that
gut bacteria affect
everything from your
immune system to your
odds of getting diabe-
tes, heart disease, even
cancer,” says anesthe-
siologist Christine
Gerbstadt, MD, RD,
author of the Doctor’s
THE PERCENT Detox Diet. (So let
BY WHICH these bacteria get their
YOUR CERVICAL zzz’s…or they may turn
CANCER RISK on you.)
MAY DROP IF YOU Since every per-
USE AN IUD, son’s body is different,
PER A RECENT there’s no universal
STUDY IN food last-call time. In
OBSTETRICS & general, the earlier you
GYNECOLOGY. stop eating, the bet-
DOCS SAY THE ter. Try to cut yourself
off at least one hour
DEVICE COULD
before you hit the
TRIGGER A sack. If you’re seriously
HELPFUL IMMUNE hangry, have a small
REACTION. serving of something
with protein and fat,
like a few spoonfuls
of unsweetened
yogurt or a handful of
nuts. Then brush your
teeth—that acts like
a psychological kibosh Just
on further grazing. Don’t
WELLNESS
Ever feel like you spend half have. And the stakes are high: “At the
the month unhinged? One day very least, premenstrual emotional
your stress sitch is totally manageable; symptoms affect a person’s relation-
the next, you’re in a fetal position, con- ships and overall wellness,” says Dr.
vinced you’re gonna get fired and that Chisholm. “At worst, they can lead to
Gyno Report your man is sneaking around. Eventu-

ally (say, a few days after your flow
substance abuse and/or thoughts of
suicide.” (Studies suggest that 15 per-
starts), you snap back to normal, legiti- cent of women with PMDD attempt
mately questioning your sanity. suicide as a result of their symptoms.)
When Your For an estimated 7 million U.S.
women, premenstrual dysphoric disor-
If panicky feelings surge the days
before your period, track your symptoms
Period der (PMDD) wreaks havoc, says Tory
Eisenlohr-Moul, PhD, associate director
for a couple of months (an app
like the new Me v PMDD can help).
Brings on of translational research in the women’s

mental health research program at the
Typically, a doc will diagnose PMDD
if you have at least five symptoms in
Anxiety University of Illinois at Chicago. PMDD

brings irritability, mood swings, and
for many sufferers, extreme anxiety
the lead-up to leak week that fade there-
after. Then she may prescribe mood-
regulating antidepressants or a med like
Attacks (which can manifest as excessive worry,
an upset stomach, restlessness, or an
Lupron, which suppresses your cycle. ■
inability to focus). A breakthrough study

found that women with PMDD How to Ease
have differences in how certain genes are
Your Angst
1
expressed in their cells, making them
extra sensitive to hormone changes. Prioritize exercise.
That may be why when progesterone Consistent exercise
spikes (around day 14 of a woman’s can help, says Andrea
cycle), many PMDD sufferers feel Chisholm, MD. Cardio,
for example, releases
amped with anxiety, says Andrea endorphins—chemicals
Chisholm, MD, an ob-gyn at Cambridge that can keep negative
Health Alliance in Massachusetts. emotions at bay.
2
This finding is major. It helps
proves that PMDD patients’ pre-period Eat for calm. In the two
weeks before your period,
angst isn’t an overblown reaction to eat small portions of
other symptoms (I can’t handle these complex carbs, like whole
sore boobs!) but a symptom itself, says grains, throughout the day
the study’s coauthor, Peter Schmidt, to boost serotonin, a feel-
good neurotransmitter.
3
MD, chief of behavioral endocrinology at
the National Institute of Mental Health.
Redirect energy. “If
“In the past, women told us their doctors you’re on edge or having
said they just weren’t coping with their a panic attack, observe
symptoms well enough,” he says. “Now your physical and men-
we know that’s not the case.” tal symptoms—but don’t
try to get rid of them,”
Still, millions of women aren’t says Andrea G. Batton, a
getting help, since the majority of licensed clinical profes-
PMDD patients go undiagnosed, says sional counselor. Doing so
in the moment only adds
Dr. Chisholm. Some don’t realize their
fuel to the fire.
next-level stress is connected to their
cycles. Others are misdiagnosed and
treated for mental disorders they don’t
GET T Y IMAGES.
by Samantha Lefave C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8
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You knew this was coming: Pro- to landfills where it can take
sad farm animals can be vegan documentaries What the decades to decompose, according
to Wasted! The Story of Food
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more convincing reasons (plants Waste. This tragedy starts in your
crisper. Not gonna eat that broc-
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GMOs May
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Genetically modified foods
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that drab. Yet with no work, hit up consign- wasn’t bought there— that’s so not you? Go
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sell,” says consignment expert Meredith Fineman. Take them in natural lighting—no harsh
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be taught and developed, bosses and col-
meaning you can boost leagues tick.
yours with a bit of practice. Doing so can
A double shot Why not start right now? help you deliver
of positivity what they need,
will perk up and making
your job
performance. their lives easier
will make you
more valuable.
C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8 By Mel Evans, Shari Nementzik,

and Polly Taylor
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WORK
Orange you
glad you
booked that
all-inclusive
getaway?
Take a Break!
The average American with
paid time off only took around
half their allotted days in the
past year, per a 2017 survey by
jobs website Glassdoor. Thirty-
four percent of responders
said they worked on vacation
because they feared falling
behind, and 30 percent did so
because they believed no one
else could do their work while
they were out. No doubt about
it: Workplace pressure and
competition are real…but you’re
doing yourself more harm than
good by not disconnecting.
“When we get too stressed, it
affects every system in our bod-
ies,” says psychologist Melissa
Podmore. “And that has a
Silence Your Inner Do a Perspec- Reframe Your long-term impact on our health.
Fraud Police tive Check
“It’s common
Thinking
Say you land
[After a vacation], you’re going
Emma Stone may be the highest- for competent your dream to come back refreshed, more
paid actress in Hollywood, but people to self- job. “An impos- insightful, and hopefully, more
even she’s admitted to falling doubt, so talk tor might creative.” Basically, you’re gonna
prey to impostor syndrome, the about it,” says think, Everyone be a lot better at work if you
Valerie Young. A is so amazing,
psychological phenomenon I’ll never
allow yourself some time to play.
work BFF could
of doubting one’s abilities and be in the same match up. A Aim to request time off six
feeling like a fraud despite evi- boat. Bonding non-impostor weeks in advance, and check in
dence to the contrary. The term over insecurities would think, with your boss the week before
was coined back in the 1970s, may make you Everyone is so you leave to make sure there are
better equipped amazing, I’m Sometimes
but competent women are still
to ace a project going to learn you just no loose ends. Doing so will help
flying under the radar for fear have to tell your colleagues survive without
because you will so much,” your inner
of being “exposed.” not feel so alone. says Young. doubter to you…and make your break much
The problem: “Everyone loses STFU! more meaningful. ■
when bright people play small,” Play to Your Put In the Work
Strengths You need to
says Valerie Young, author of “The day before change your
The Secret Thoughts of Successful a presentation, behavior start-
Women. “If you have a great idea you might be ing right now.
but don’t speak up, your com- worrying that Challenge your-
pany misses out.” So silence the you’re not very self to make
articulate—and points in large
haters in your head. Believing maybe you’re groups or share
you can do the job you were not,” says more ideas with
hired for will make you a better Young. That’s your boss. Every
employee. You’ll be less likely to okay! “No one is time you do one
self-sabotage—by procrastinat- perfect, so for- of these “non-
get your failings impostor-y”
ing, for example—and more and focus on the things, you’ll
likely to work with confidence. things you’re feel empowered
Go beat your impostor instincts. good at.” on the job.
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good cent$ Hackers, passwords, and ways to escape financial fraud
With financial expert

Q+A Bobbi Rebell, author of How
to Be a Financial Grown-Up
Everyone keeps talk-

ing about identity
theft, and I literally
have no idea if I
should be worried.
Could someone
be trying to steal my
money right now?!
Give identity
A_ It’s possible. That’s what we thieves
the finger.
learned in September, when
credit-report biz Equifax was
hacked—and more than 145 mil-
lion people’s personal details
(social security numbers, finan-
cial records) may have landed in
the hands of anonymous thieves.
It was a wake-up call that our
private info could be pilfered
online. So think of your finances
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ble: She needs you right now, not SAFER THIS
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You could add in lots of caps, digits, LifeLock. stores your passwords
and symbols. But passwords that The identity-
or a loan you never applied for. are full, nonsensical sentences protection and generates new ones
Both are signs someone could (“theskyismagentablue,” “gigihadid company when you need them.
be spending in your name, leav- wearsyellow”) work just as well. keeps tabs on
ing you to foot the bill. If you your accounts Genius! I can protect
2. 3. and alerts
see anything suspicious, call the
Never use the Dead-bolt your you to weird my accounts by using a
major credit bureaus (Experian,
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same password info by setting activity. It will different password
for more than up two-step veri- reimburse
Equifax), and ask them to freeze one account— fications on your you if you’re for everything but only
your credit so no one can open not even for mobile devices hacked—
your social plat- and bank the amount need to remember one
new accounts while posing as
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you. Most important, defend change them sites’ “password your plan (from
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tifying all your passwords, stat! months. sections. lifelock.com).
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C A N
Singing while you’re hanging

upside down is tough. Consistently
topping the music charts
for nearly 20 years? Even harder.
But PINK makes
both look easy. With the release of
her seventh studio album,
Beautiful Trauma—
a chart-topper—and a new
world tour that kicks off
in March, the pop powerhouse
is holding nothing back.
H E R
Y
O U st yle director
JA MES WORTHINGTON
DEMOLET
photogr aphed by
JASON K IM
?
Full name: My most used emoji:
Nickname(s):
One thing people get wrong about me:

My cocktail of choice:
A fictional character
I identify with:
ANGELINA JOLIE: EVERET T COLLECTION. ALL OTHER IMAGES: GET T Y IMAGES.

Because:
3.1 Phillip Lim

jacket, Fleur du Mal
top, Milly skirt,
Maria Tash earrings
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Something that makes me
feel totally badass:
I feel strongest when:
My favorite part of my body:

Akris dress, Fallon
earrings, Malone
Souliers shoes
My favorite pop-culture
moment of the last year:
A famous woman I admire:
From
Saturday
Night Live
Because:
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Some album names I considered before deciding BEAUT Y TIP
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Life-changing lyrics:
A pivotal moment in my 20s:
Carey and I have this in common:
CHRISTINA KENNY
AGUILERA CHESNEY
NATE INDIA.ARIE The best way to keep a marriage sexy is:

RUESS
The most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read or

heard about myself:
SIA EMINEM
The number of times I’ve had my heart broken:
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One thing about myself that I’m proud
I changed:
And one thing I’m still working on:
Something I’d love people

to pay more attention to:
My hopes for all of womankind:
Derek Lam 10 Crosby

jacket, Cosabella top,
Rejina Pyo pants,
Hair: Anh Co Tran,

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THE GROWN-
UP ONESIE
A feel-good jumpsuit
has endless potential.
Layer it over a long-
sleeve top or rock it solo.
Ulla Johnson shirt, jumpsuit;
Eric Javits hat; Clare V. bag
Go boldly into 2018 in upgraded basics

made for living your best life.
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FA SHION DIREC TOR: Aya Kanai
THE STANDOUT
WHITE TEE
Sexy corset details
give your go-to T-shirt
a little more oomph.
Guess shirt, Kensie Jeans
jeans, Mona Sultan bandanna,
Marni earrings, Sorel boots
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THE BLANKET COAT
The ultimate travel
companion, a vibrant
cocoon style elevates
your look but feels
like you never left bed.
Alanui jacket, Kangol Word
Casual hat, Vans sneakers
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Keep easy, breezy waves
in place with a shot of
Tresemmé Compressed
Micro-Mist Hair Spray
Hold Level 1: Texture, $5.
THE
VERTICAL-
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SWEATER
Flipped long-
ways, this
traditional ward-
robe staple
cops an offbeat
attitude.
Derek Lam
10 Crosby sweater;
Jonathan Simkhai
skirt; Clare V.
purse; Joanna Laura
Constantine
earrings, bracelet
THE DENIM
TRENCH
Feel just the right
amount of rebellious
in a jean version
of the preppy essen-
tial. Distressing
adds extra badassery.
Alexander Wang jacket, shoes;
T by Alexander Wang top,
shorts; JPlus sunglasses; Mona
Sultan bandanna
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Before you hit the deck,
protect your skin. Aveeno
Absolutely Ageless Leave
On Day Mask Lotion
Broad Spectrum SPF 30,
$20, shields against rays
and the environment.
THE CAR AMEL MOTO

Find black biker jackets
too hard-core? Brown
studded styles lend
a softer edge and still go
with ever y thing.
Barbara Bui jacket, pants;
Ellery bra, earrings; Vans shoes
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Four Mercury Marine
outboard engines
are no match for a
revved-up sexy twist on
the business classic.
Zimmermann jacket, top, pants;
Roger Vivier shoes;
Elizabeth and James sunglasses,
earrings, necklace;
Artemis Design Co. bag
Hair: Nicolas Eldin using

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Makeup: Eric Polito using
Chanel Les Beiges at
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Score Dream Skin...
114
Not clocking enough shut-eye is
mean to your complexion.
Turn bedtime into beauty time
with these tips.
By Maddie Aberman
Face It,
You Need
More Zzz’s
“At night, our bodies
regenerate and reset,” says
NYC dermatologist Dendy
Engelman, MD. When we
don’t get enough sleep, the
following can show up.
Dullness. Lack of sleep
reduces your skin’s natu-
ral moisture barrier, which
can leave your skin dry.
Fine Lines. Nightfall causes
melatonin, an antioxidant,
to be released, and sleep
in Your Sleep
prompts a spike in skin-
plumping human growth
hormone (HGH).
Breakouts. During sleep,
your body suppresses the
release of cortisol. Slack on
zzz’s and it doesn’t have a
chance to chill, promoting
inflammation and acne.
Puffy Eyes. As cortisol lev-
els increase, your body also
retains water. Since your
eyelid skin is so thin, it’s
most obvious there.
Weight Gain. Sleep depri-
ORIGIN A L TE X T BY S A LLY HUNWICK .
vation causes your body to

release too much ghrelin,
a hormone that makes you
hungry, while also reduc-
ing levels of leptin, a hor-
mone that tells us we’re
full. Double whammy!
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What Happens
When You
Hit the Sheets
Melatonin levels start to increase
about two hours before bedtime,
making us sleepy. Start winding
down between 8 p.m. and 9 p.m. to
get the full benefits of snoozing.
10 p.m.–10:30 p.m.
Now you’re in light sleep.
Your heart rate slows
and blood flow increases
to oxygenate skin, deliver DO THIS
nutrients, and rid it of E V E RY
toxic buildup (all key for a MORNING
healthy glow).
10:30 p.m.–11 p.m. “Excess water

Deep sleep begins. As is removed
cortisol levels are decreas- from your
ing, the body starts body while
upping levels of HGH— you sleep, so
the magic combo for moisture is at
gorgeous skin, says Dr. an all-time low
Engelman. HGH stimulates come morn-
collagen and allows dam- ing,” says Dr.
aged cells to be repaired. Engelman.
The fix: Rehy-
11 p.m.–4 a.m. drate by drink-
Cell turnover (your skin’s ing water, and
natural exfoliation pro- slap on a
cess) is at its prime and moisturizer.
can increase by more than
double its usual day rate.
4 a.m.–6 a.m.
Repair continues more
slowly, getting ready
for you to start the day.
The Power of P.M. Skin Care

When the body is in a deep, restful state, skin’s metabolism increases, along with cell turnover and renewal, making
it more permeable. “It’s during this critical stage of the sleep cycle that skin-care products can be most beneficial,”
explains Dr. Engelman. So wash your face and slather on one of these night owls to ensure a sexy wake-up call.
Retinol is top dog for The glycolic acid in The enzymes in this jar The best way to offset Sleeping masks are
prompting collagen this serum function like nighttime overnight moisture like souped-up night
production and erases dry patches and garbage collectors, loss? Hyaluronic acid. creams, serving up
cell turnover. Use this rough texture. picking up the trash The humectant draws hydration plus antiag-
nightly for a smoother, Drunk Elephant your skin makes (aka in moisture from the air ing effects. This
clearer surface in T.L.C. Framboos Glycolic dead cells) for a fresh, (pair it with a humidi- one’s plant extracts lift
as little as four weeks. Night Serum, $90 healthy complexion. fier!), locking it into skin. and firm your face.
Murad Retinol Youth Renewal Sunday Riley Tidal StriVectin Hyaluronic Chanel Le Lift Skin-Recovery
Night Cream, $82 Brightening Enzyme Water Dual-Response Serum, $79 Sleep Mask for Face, Neck,
Cream, $65 and Décolleté, $120
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1
2
Ways to
Get Better
Sleep
Whatever issue you have,
sleep expert Nancy H.
Rothstein has tricks to help.
Have a caffeine cutoff.

It stays in your system for
hours, making sleep tricky.
Have your last cup no later
than 2 p.m. and you might
notice an improvement.
Exercise earlier.
Working out in the evening
is fine—as long as you build
in three hours for your body
to calm down post-workout.
Rest
With...
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A SNOOZE
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3 Look out for liquids.

When you sleep, your
Mist this calming floral
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4 Take a tech break.
The blue light from your
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A CALMING
C RY S TA L
Stash a few
heat up. Pop it on for
phone, tablet, and TV 10 minutes to stones, such as
inhibits melatonin release soothe tired eyes. amethyst,
N I C K O N K E N /AU G U S T I M A G E S . B E AU T Y P R O D U C T S : J E F F R E Y W E S T B R O O K / S T U D I O D.
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Eye Mask, $11 for 7
before bed, turn your phone to help you relax,
upside down (or move it to says Heather
another room) so you’re not Askinosie,
tempted to check it again. coauthor of
A SOOTHING Crystal Muse.
5 Chill out—literally.
Your core body temp falls
Bedtime
Stories...
S OA K
Add a couple
for Grown-Ups! of capfuls of this
as you sleep, so set your lavender-and
Calm (a meditation app)
thermostat lower, ideally sage-infused
plays Sleep Stories, roughly
around 65 to 68 degrees. liquid to warm
30-minute tales read by
A hot room is disruptive. running water
soothing voices. The goal: to to turn your bath
help you transition from
6 Skip the snooze button.
Those seven (or so) minutes
daily stimulation to a
state of Zen.
into a spa.
Follain x
Farmaesthetics
aren’t heaven for sleep— Dream Bath
they’re super low quality. Elixir, $45
Set your alarm for when you
actually need to get up.
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YOUR
It’s not always obvious that you’re
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AT FIRST,
THINGS WERE
Big companies like Salesforce and IBM took

solid strides to correct their gender pay gaps and
implement female-friendly paid-leave policies.
Hard-charging women (yasss, Shonda Rhimes
and Spanx founder Sara Blakely!) had seemingly
cleared a path for others to reach the top. But then
came story after story of outlandish male work-
place misbehavior and criminal acts. And an Octo-
ber social-media phenomenon—in which millions
of women shared sexual-harassment stories under
the hashtag #MeToo—proved ass grabbing (and
worse) isn’t just happening in Hollywood or Wash-
ington or Silicon Valley.
But the explosive headlines mask another truth:
Gender discrimination at work is more pervasive
than bathrobes and back rubs. It also thrives via
soft sexism—when, say, a male boss suggests you’re
PMSing when you disagree with him or when your
doctor calls his female nurse “honey.” Or when con-
gresswoman Nancy Pelosi gets manterrupted at a
White House dinner until she asks, “Do the women
get to talk around here?”
Soft sexism isn’t always intentional—and
women participate too. How many times have you
heard female coworkers call an HBIC “crazy” or “a
cunt” while brushing off a male manager’s simi-
larly diva-ish behavior because “Oh, that’s just 3 Ways to Know If He’s
Steve”? One Gallup survey found that both women
and men would rather work for a male boss—with
women showing an even stronger preference for
one. Women are raised in the same biased culture
as men are, causing them to internalize—and When a guy patronizingly tells you something
you already know, he’s probably doing it.
sometimes subconsciously act on—gendered dou- Immortalized last year on SNL by two dudes
ble standards, says Rosalind Barnett, PhD, a stepping in front of Lorde to sing her song for
senior scientist at the Women’s Studies Research her, mansplaining keeps women down by
Center at Brandeis University. undermining their credibility in the workplace.
But subconscious or not, soft sexism’s effects But sometimes, a guy (e.g., your boss) is just
giving you helpful constructive feedback, says
are just as destructive as overt gender discrimina- Tiffany Dufu, author of Drop the Ball. Here, Dufu
tion, according to research in the Journal of Man- shares how to know when you’re being talked
agement. Getting left out of after-work drinks, down to—and when you’re just being talked to.
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having your idea casually stolen, being underesti-
mated because you’re attractive…these things can
crush your chances of getting ahead. Entry-level
women are nearly 20 percent less likely to be WHY YOU NEED
promoted than their male peers are, according
to a new study by LeanIn.org and McKinsey &
A BOAST BITCH
BY JESSICA BENNETT,
Company. “Women actually start their careers AUTHOR OF FEMINIST FIGHT CLUB
more optimistic than men that they’ll have equal Ask a man to explain his success and
opportunities,” says Ursula Mead, founder and he’ll point to his skill and talent. Ask
CEO of InHerSight, a platform that helps match
a woman and you’ll hear, “I couldn’t
female job candidates to companies that promote
have done it without my team” or
gender equality. “But by the time they reach the
senior level, less than a third of women are satis-
the phrase I am hereby banning
fied that they have equal opportunity.” from your vocabulary: “I got lucky.”
The solution, say experts, lies in making this Women’s wins are hardly ever
everyone’s problem. “When women are demeaned about luck—we work twice as hard to
in the workplace, they cannot perform at their best, be perceived as just as good—yet this
and the entire team suffers,” says Barnett. phrase rolls off the female tongue.
“Now more than ever, we need male allies to One reason is that women who self-
speak up and take action,” adds Elizabeth Nya- promote can come off as braggy.
mayaro, head of the United Nations’ HeForShe cam- Allow me to introduce the boast
paign. Guys calling out other guys’ behavior can be bitch. She’s like a female hype man
Women are more effective, because when women act, they may
57 percent of recent but for your professional achieve-
be seen as emotional or bossy (itself a result of soft
college grads, ments. She boasts to the boss about
but more men are sexism). Of course, this needs to be paired with
hired in entry-level updated policies, says LeanIn.org founder and Face-
your genius idea; you gush about
jobs, according book COO Sheryl Sandberg: “Bias training can help her amazing skill with clients. Nei-
to a recent LeanIn ther of you ever has to crow about
.org study. men and women see more clearly all the big and lit-
tle ways that women can be overlooked, underval- yourself…and you both come out
ued, or mistreated.” If you’re a boss yourself, look for looking like team players. So try it!
opportunities to mentor women, since research Make a pact with a female colleague
shows female employees receive less of this kind of to laud each other in meetings and
support than men do. Getting more women into toast each other at company parties.
leadership positions is ultimately the best way to Trust me: Being this kind of braggy
change the system, says Nyamayaro. feels good—and will get you far.
In the meantime, watch out for—and call out—
soft sexism at your job. And if no one thinks to ask
you to after-work beers? Invite yourself.
—MARISA MELTZER
1 2 3
PORTR AITS AND CELEBRIT Y HEADSHOTS: GET T Y IMAGES.
something you ing on a project you you things you don’t

obviously know more just completed… want to hear…
about than he does… He’s mansplaining: If he tells He’s mansplaining: If he’s
He’s mansplaining: If you’re you what he thinks without not saying anything remotely
the social-media manager asking for your thoughts on helpful or useful—he simply
and he’s ignorantly critiquing the matter. likes to hear the sound of his
your hashtags. He’s just talking: If he gives own voice.
He’s just talking: If he men- you a chance to respond. He’s just talking: If his feed-
tions another expert, like Someone who is genuinely back is enlightening and
a researcher he read about or trying to help you improve gives you new information,
his friend who runs a social- will care what you think. even if it makes you feel
media firm. defensive.
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THAT TIME
WHEN…
POWERFUL WOMEN SOUND OFF ON FACING SOFT SEXISM.
Orji
ACTRESS, COFOUNDER
INSECURE AND CEO, RENT
THE RUNWAY
Sheryl Elizabeth
Sandberg Gore
COO, PRESIDENT,
FACEBOOK ALICE, A FEMALE
ENTREPRENEUR
PLATFORM
Mostly A’s Congrats—you’re

Are You a speaking truth to power. “We
have to stand up for other
women and find strength in our
pack,” says Holly Caplan, author
1. A new guy in your office 2. You overhear three 3. At your weekly team of Surviving the Dick Clique.
restates an idea your dudes from sales meeting, guys speak “And we have to get the guys
coworker Erica had last mocking your female roughly 96 percent of the involved too.”
week, and now everyone boss’s supposed plastic time. You: Mostly B’s Sorry, but you’re
thinks he’s brilliant. You: surgery. You: A Point this out to your softly sexist. There’s a fine line
A Mention to your boss A Shut it down. Who work husband, and suggest he between being laid-back and
that Erica should take the lead, cares what she looks like? silence the manterrupters the propping up a system that keeps
since she had the original idea. She’s a baller who just gave next time you try to chime in. you down. “We should all fight to
B Vent about his bad you all holiday bonuses. B Let it slide. More peo- change sexist cultures and
behavior in private to a peer. B Join in. Her face is so ple talking just means longer behaviors, ” says Ursula Mead,
You don’t want to seem catty. tight, it’s tragic. meetings, right? founder and CEO of InHerSight.
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When to Call
for Backup
Groping should always be
Do 't BE THE OFFICE ANGEL

brought to HR. But while
things like chronic manter-
rupting are not illegal, you can
still report soft sexism if it cre-
ates a hostile or uncomfort-
Maybe you’ve noticed: When the team has to able environment. “Only when
work late, it’s almost always women who order the women come forward are we
pizza—and clean it up. “Women expend too much able to change the culture,”
says Kim Churches, CEO of the
energy picking up the office housework or…being American Association of Uni-
the ‘angel in the office,’” writes Kim Scott in Radical versity Women. Here’s how.
Candor. Some (softly sexist) colleagues expect
this. But while it’s okay to pitch in, don’t make a Know Your Rights
“Every employer should
habit of cleaning up after others. provide a handbook of
HR policies and procedures,”
says Churches. Read it
to learn how your company
defines harassment.
Consider Going
to the Source
“If the person is someone
you know well enough to
give feedback to directly,
that can be a good first step,”
says Ciara Lakhani, vice presi-
dent of people at Dashlane,
a password-manager app.
Some guys may be completely
shocked to hear they’re
discriminating and move to
correct their behavior, but
others could get offended and
angry. In which case…
Make Your Report

And beware: “HR has
an obligation to protect the
employees and the com-
pany, so we follow a pretty
structured process,” explains
Lakhani. “Generally, that
means needing to hear both
sides of the story.” Before you
get your boss dragged
into things, make sure you…
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Justin Trudeau Justin Baldoni The Fallopian Dudes “If someone is talking over
Canada’s prime The Jane the Virgin Started in order to you in meetings, ask your
minister is a self- actor is working on support the Women’s coworkers if they notice it,”
described femi- a new show that will March, the group says Lakhani. Just because
nist—on and off help men talk out educates men to take you think someone is abrasive
the job—who has their feelings. As a stand on female doesn’t mean you’re being
called for men to he wrote on Insta- health issues. “I don’t discriminated against. If you
shut down the sexist gram, “The old toxic want to be one more want HR to take action, you’ll
conversations masculinity isn’t man who thinks have to prove the behavior
that can happen in working.” the story is about is a pattern. Having coworkers
him,” says cofounder support you will help.
Russell Brown. —MEGAN DEEM
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LOVE & SEX
START
SOMETHIN G!
CA PR ICOR N A mission to
1 2 . 2 2 – 0 1 .1 9
voice your
appreciation
on the reg.
Lifecast
Let’s recap your 2017
season. At the finale,
events helped you value
g. ou
connection and honest

communication in
on p y
your relationships.
str kee
Now, bring that into your

professional life.
nd to
Engaging with coworkers

will open new doors for
d a ual
Lovecast
you. From May 15th until
ere rit
November 6th, your
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Buckle up, ’cause now is ruler, visionary Uranus,
nt ly
the time to commit. No will be in your zone

ce dai
need to plan something of home and family. This

grand—believe it or not, sets the tone for your
A
small gestures and per- next chapter, be it a big

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move or brilliant new

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sonal touches are key. A

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project. Compromise
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steamy escape (or stay-

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is key to making the

SO
cation!) is best staged in

February or March, your “could it be?” come true,
hottest months for love. so stay open-minded.
By May, you’ll know if it’s S U CC E S S DAYS
the real deal. Look for 3/31, 5/15, 9/11
someone who comple-
ments your kookiest
quirks and Hulu habits—
with so much going on
at work, you’ll be crav-
ing quality couch time.
S E X Y DAYS
3/31, 5/19, 9/12
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0 1 . 2 0 – 0 2 .1 8
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I M A G EGSU F DC
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HAVE THE STARS ALIGNED FOR A 2018

TO REMEMBER? ALL SIGNS POINT TO YES.
GO AHEAD, SEE WHAT’S IN STORE....
BY AU RO R A TOW E R | @AU R O R A A STR O
I LLU STR ATI O N S BY C I A R A P H E L A N
Lifecast Lovecast
START
SOMETHIN G!
Watch out, world— Just ’cause you work hard doesn’t

A financial you’ve got your eyes mean you can’t get busy. The
plan for your on the prize and you
won’t let anything get
thrill of romance isn’t enough—you
need reliability. Someone different
#$Goals. in the way. Basically, from you could surprise (and delight)
don’t get discouraged, you in March or June. Warning: If
stay task-focused, and you develop a work crush this summer,
you’ll slay so hard that consider side effects before diving
Katy Perry could in. Your instincts are key this fall, so if
sing an inspirational it feels forced...move along.
anthem about you. S E X Y D A Y S 6/13, 8/6, 10/8
PISCES
0 2 .1 9 – 0 3 . 2 0
G U T T E R C R E D I T T E E K AY I N F O R M AT I O N : G U T T E R C R E D I T T E E K AY I N F O R M AT I O N W G U T T E R C R E D I T T E E K AY T E E K AY
ARIES
0 3 . 2 1 – 0 4 .1 9
one who’s passionate and reliable

You often fly solo,
enough to ride out any challenges.
but it’s time to be a
You’ll feel extra blessed to have a
social bird. You can link
partner who comes through when it
up without losing that
counts. If you start to catch feels, May,
independent spirit! Be
September, and November are the
honest about what
best months to take your romance to
you want, and find peo-
the next level.
ple who support your
desires. That way, you’ll S E X Y D A Y S 5/19, 7/10, 9/9
have a good crew to
catch you if you hit some
branches on your way
to the top. Use the lifts
you’ll get in February START
and May to stay on track
all year.
SOMETHIN G! A self-care
S U CC E S S DAYS routine that
2/10, 6/22, 11/15
helps you unplug
and de-stress.
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Flexibility is key. You like being in con- Practice patience! Your love life may
trol, but this year, going with the flow feel like an uphill battle, but it’s worth
will work in your favor. Instead of set- the climb. If you’re in a relationship,
ting rigid expectations, embrace ideas remember that compromise isn’t
that come to you in the moment. You’ll always a bad thing. Single? Someone
be especially busy at work in March, of substance is on the horizon. Sparks
but come May, an epiphany may bring in April will keep you stepping, but
a new way of doing things. In June, you’ll really hit your stride in the sec-
you’ll want to roam and try new things. ond half of the year. The key is finding
By fall, you’ll settle down at home a way to let your vulnerability show
to focus on your fam and well-being. when you’re with the person you care
S U C C E S S D A Y S 1/18, 5/16, 12/2 about. If you open up, his walls may
come tumbling down too. By October,
the leaves won’t be the only thing fall-
ing. Autumn is your season of love.
S E X Y D A Y S 3/31, 7/10, 9/9
em re nly l—
g m utu s o na
. t-
lin r f ye ur
oir bes
sel you ur e t jo
or yo ugh
for tho
!
A
T
NG
AR
HI
ST
ET
M
SO
GEMINI
05.22–06.20
Lifecast
Girl, it’s go time. If you
act on one of those big
ideas you’ve come up Lovecast
with, you’ll reap major This is your year for
long-term rewards.
You’re gonna need good
people around you to in April, a surprising
get things going, so put development will send
some effort into net-
working. (Yes, we’re tell- out for someone as
TAU RUS
ing you to have drinks imaginative and adven-
or coffee with new con- turous as you. If you’re
nections. Such hard- coupled up, a getaway
04.20–05.21 ship!) Thanks to hella will leave you stronger
momentum at the start than ever. If not, it’s still
of the year, recognition a good time to travel—
will come in June and you might just find
START July—watch your earn- something that’s more
SOMETHIN G! A supper ing potential skyrocket! keeper than keepsake.
By October, a fun new
club with phase will send you blaz- ’cause it looks like the
friends, ing full steam ahead. long haul for you two.
old and S U CC E S S DAYS

2/10, 6/13, 11/16
S E X Y DAYS
4/24, 8/6, 11/9
new!
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START
SOMETHIN G! A list Lifecast
of your You Leo ladies are so fierce, you’re
biggest, basically the wonder women of the
zodiac. This year, lots of new ventures
wildest will play to your awesomeness. Don’t
waste time—lay the groundwork for
dreams. triumph this winter. That might mean
long hours working behind the scenes,
but at the end of all that effort, big
opportunities will put you in the spot-
light. Come August, everyone will see
the superhero you are. In the fall, flex
your social skills to grow your circle.
Lifecast S U C C E S S D A Y S 3/31, 8/11, 12/2
LEO
2018 might not start off
like a party, but hang 0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2
on—all that adulting will
bring epic results oh,
so soon. Switch to game-
on mode: sleeping, eat-
ing, and being as
focused and responsible
as befits your grown-ass
self. That means fight-
ing for your vision at
work and in April, asking
for a raise. By December,
SO
ST
M
AR
you’ll get all the praise.

ET
T
HI
A restorative home that

NG
!
feels in-line with the

A at w pac
Lovecast
th ur s
fu il e.
yo
nD lb
Your personal life will be

a priority at the year’s
IY eau
start—especially when a
pr tify
new love interest enters

your universe in January

oje
or February. By June,
ct
you’ll be in peak honey-

moon stage, and you may
decide to take things to
the next level by Novem-
ber. Stay super commu-
CA NC E R nicative so neither of you

sets unrealistic expecta-
tions, and get comfort-
0 6 . 2 1 – 0 7. 2 2 able compromising once
in a while—never
your favorite thing!
S E X Y DAYS
1/18, 6/14, 9/11
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Lifecast
Breaking news! This is the year you
learn to put your needs first. You’re
going into 2018 needing some time for
self-care and reflection, so find a way
to give yourself that space by leaning
more on your team, both at work
and with friends and family. Seeing
everyone come through for you will
feel great—you just need to give them
the chance. A career shake-up in April
could set you on a new path that’ll
bring everyone together to cheer for
you and your success in September.
S U C C E S S D A Y S 6/13, 9/9, 11/9
V I RG O Lifecast
You pull off focus and
08 . 23– 09. 2 2
flexibility with So. Much.
Ease. And you know
exactly what you want.
Some awesome job
opps will open up, but
just ’cause they’re not
what you expected
doesn’t mean you should
automatically pass.
February brings new
Lovecast beginnings, and a
meeting in May will yield
The love bug will bite an aha moment. Resist
when you least expect distractions in July, when
it. In January, you and START you’ll be at your most
your boo will be in sync SOMETHIN G! productive. Then let
in more ways than one your focus shift home in
(read: a whole lotta sexy A new the fall for lots of
time). But make your- cozy QT with loved ones.
selves leave the cocoon networking S U CC E S S DAYS
once in a while—
time with friends will
group. 5/16, 7/12, 11/16
only intensify your

connection. If you’re still
buzzing around on your
Lovecast
own in July, one of your You’ve always been a
most alluring moments social butterfly, but now
of the year, a super your charm is extra irre-
sweet suitor might cap- sistible. Your love fore-
LIBR A
ture your heart. You’ll be cast for the first half of
tempted to keep things the year is smoking hot.
on the DL, but just If you keep things light-
be sure your other half is 09. 23–10. 2 2 hearted in June, August
ls. k
feeling the secret. could bring something

ve rac
serious. More than one

S E X Y DAYS
tra p t
of your major relation-

2/10, 7/10, 12/22
ships could reach a turn-
ur ee
ing point, so keep

yo o k
your priorities in check.

When your nurturing
all y t
side shines through in

of diar
October, make sure

whoever you’re with
A
values snuggle time as

much as a big night out.
!
T
NG
AR
HI
ST
S E X Y DAYS
ET
M
1/18, 3/6, 8/6

SO
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Lifecast Lovecast
Your forecast looks fun The more you listen, the more you’re
AF. Focus on forming going to be heard. If you’ve got a guy,
new bonds and making don’t drag him along to plans he’s not
spontaneous weekend hyped on, and vice versa. Instead,
trips—both will have spend time together doing what lights
you smiling big-time. If both your fires! Single? Focus on your
you’ve been thinking social life and a friend of a friend could
about starting a project, turn into so much more. Your per-
something in communi- fect match will be a fun-lover like you.
cations or writing-based Romance is in the air come spring, so
will bring the big bucks. plan a June getaway if you want to lock
You’ll start crushing things down.
it in July, and by fall, the S E X Y D A Y S 3/6, 4/24, 6/13
SCOR PIO rewards will roll in.

Use your new funds to
upgrade your home or
START
SOMETHIN G!
10.23–11.21 wardrobe. You’re tuned
in to what’s right for you
now, and that just An online
might mean a new look! course in
S U CC E S S DAYS
7/10, 8/23, 11/9
something
you’re
curious
about.
SAGI TTA R I US
11.22–12.21
START
SOMETHIN G!
Better grab an umbrella, A business

because you are making
it R-A-I-N! Between now of your own.
and November 9th,
Jupiter, the planet of
good luck, is in your
sign. So take big risks— Lovecast
you’ll gain a whole
new perspective and a
stellar list of accom-
plishments. You know
what you want, so don’t Set your sights on someone you
get distracted! You’ll
be surprised at how fast
things can move. Big
news in January will help outdoors. Let romance blossom
develop a game plan.
A shake-up in April will
straighten out any
hang-ups. By summer,
business will be cruising
for you to take an
epic bow in August.
S U CC E S S DAYS ute to get the courage to man up!
6/13, 8/11, 11/ 7 S E X Y D A Y S 2/10, 3/31, 12/2
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ALL ABOUT YOU
Your Selfıe Style Tells All

Check out the subtle cues in your pics that reveal the real you.
Phone Position Your Mouth
D U C K FAC E
LOW
HIGH
CHEESIN’
When you get into a rapid-fire snap stance, holding Always find yourself puckering up? You are probably
the phone below your face means you are especially more of an anxious person and may even be a
friendly and feel for others. Have an inclination bit moody. If you’re a smiler (we’re talking with
to reach to the sky and tilt the screen downward? teeth), chances are, you are open to taking risks and
You skew more competitive and detached. tend to be attracted to novelty in life.
Your Eyes The Setting

UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL
D I R E C T C O N TA C T
D I S TA N T G A Z E
POSE WITH A VIEW
You know those stares that seem to bust through That skyline tho! A prominent backdrop that puts you
the screen and look right into your soul? That kind of on the map hints at the fact that you’re a bit of an
M O D E L : K AT E F O S T E R .
smize means you are confident and get along with open book. More likely to zoom in on your face? Keep-
everybody. If you’re fixed on a far-off place away from ing your location on the DL means you are cautious
the lens, you tend to put yourself before others. and may have some privacy concerns.
SOURCE: “WHAT DOES YOUR SELFIE SAY ABOUT YOU,” FROM COMPUTERS IN HUMAN BEHAVIOR
C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8 By Helen Zook
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COSMO QUIZ
Are You a Friend Hopper? 1. The last time B Confront her so

you bailed you can bury the ax
on plans with but also drop hints that
your own vault could
a bestie was: swing open at any time.
A When she waited
C Put your phone
until noon to text you
on Airplane mode
HBD instead of sending
and blast Enya until the
one right at midnight.
anger dissipates.
B Saturday Spin, but
only ’cause she was too
hungover to show last
4. Your pal just
time. Now you’re even. got dumped.
Your reaction?
C During a bout of
strep. Otherwise, if it’s A Pat yourself on
not contagious, you’ll the back for distancing
hang through pain. yourself when she first
chose her boo over you.
2. Ever been B Plan to call, but
a bridesmaid? check your texts first
to make sure she reached
A You’ve been out last time you were
asked but never make it feeling down.
all the way to the altar.
Any drama and you’re C Offer 24/7 phone
out—for good. support while she
passes through all the
B Only for those you stages of grief.
want in your own party.
When the day comes,
they’ll be obligated to 5. Which Real
wear whatever pastel Housewife
shade you choose.
do you relate to
C Bridesmaid? the most?
Child’s play. You
are always the maid A Teresa Guidice.
of honor. Not a single so-called
friend effs with you and
3. A BFF leaks
gets away with it.
your secret she B Bethenny Frankel.

You call BS when you see
swore she’d take it and only stick with
all the way to peeps who can handle
the grave. You: hearing the truth.
A Delete all evi- C Yolanda Hadid.
dence that you Love and light solve
were ever close and almost any problem.
LU C I E H U G A R Y/ T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
poof, she’s gone.

THE BREAKDOWN
M O S T LY A’ S M O S T LY B ’ S M O S T LY C ’ S
Hair-Trigger Hopper Conditional Company Loyal-AF Friend
If someone wrongs you, you’re done. You’re willing to let things slide, but You stand by buds through anything,
It’s good to protect yourself, but you have a hard time forgetting even at your own risk. That devotion is
reconsider your definition of friend- slights entirely. Sort out major stuff a superstrength, but know when to
ship before kicking peeps to the curb. that’s still bugging you. But with let go of a toxic friendship—or one
Everyone makes mistakes (even you!). minor gripes, lose the eye-for-an-eye that’s simply lost its spark. Moving on
Give some second chances—plenty of mentality—and turn your relation- will allow you to channel more energy
pals will prove worth sticking with. ships from burdens into #Blessings. into mutually beneficial bonds.
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