ASSERTIVE

APPROACHING
From Approach Anxiety to Rock Solid
Unshakeable Confidence with Women

By Christian Hudson
 REMINDER! Don’t forget your Bonuses at the end of the course below

BEYOND FEAR
This course focuses on how to THINK about pickup and approaching women. The
ideas presented are new interpretations of common wisdom and longstanding
truths about what has worked for men through the ages. Whether you're familiar
with these concepts, or hearing them for the first time, internalizing the beliefs and
mindset of successful men should be both a short-term goal and a long-term
commitment.

This begs the question: what does it take to achieve this level of confidence? Or,
as we discussed in the presentation, what does it take to go from being the ping
pong ball to the lead shot? To have strength, perseverance and fortitude?

The following exercises and homework are

meant to strengthen the beliefs that will give
you the confidence and permission to
successfully cold approach. Remember,
while you cannot control a woman's
response, you ALWAYS have control over
whether or not you walk up to her and Say
Hello.

As someone who has personally gone from fear and apprehension to confidence
and sureness, I can personally speak to the long-term process that this evolution
demands. With these exercises, we have attempted to condense our best
experiences and processes into a format which will shorten your learning curve.
But personality changes come with time, and repeated thoughts and actions that
support the change.

The exercises are broken into journaling, personal growth, and field work. I'd urge
you to keep track of your field work in a journal. It'll really help you see where you're
at, and more importantly, how much you're improving. (And you WILL improve!)

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 The Sixth Sense

You can learn a lot about someone if you open your eyes and take them all in. I
remember one day when, in a fatigue- and wine-induced stupor, I watched people
file by my seat on an airplane and could see their inner child. It was as if I could
see these people as 9 and 10-year olds, with all of their hopes and aspirations for
the future.

Odd hallucinations aside, the ability to draw inferences about people from limited
data is both fun and impressive, and even if
you're not searching for a person's inner child, it
will help your opening game if you're mindful of
what they might be thinking and feeling.

The purpose of this exercise is to help you work

on your sixth-sense, that inferential skill which
will have you telling a woman more about herself
than a quick glance would typically reveal. The
exercise can be done once, or for a period of
weeks or months.

While the purpose of this course is to develop

the skills to approach women who you find
attractive, we don't recommend that you limit
your subjects in this experiment. The wider your
understanding of all humans, the more likely that
you will be able to draw specific inferences
about any one person.

While it might be easy to guess that the attractive woman with her nose in the air
is another spoiled hot chick, she could be an artist, writer, technologist, or pilot;
you simply don't know until you know.

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This exercise is easiest done in a coffee shop or other daytime venue with a lot of
foot traffic. Position yourself somewhere that you'll have an opportunity to watch
people for a good thirty seconds. And after some time of watching them, begin to
write about them in your notebook. What are you looking for? Whatever you like.
This is about enjoying the process of getting to know someone without even getting
to know them. Some suggestions include:

• Where are they from?

• What do they do for work?
• Where are they coming from or going to?
• Do they have many friends? More male or female friends?
• What kind of media are they into? Books, TV, movies...? And which ones?
• What are they listening to on their iPod?

Draw your inferences from subtle cues. Are they wearing designer clothes or Old
Navy? Do they look energized or depleted? Are they slouching or standing
straight?

As you record your notes on each person, write out a brief story answering any
questions you have, and note the most obvious indicators.

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 Proud, Regretful, Thankful
If you're the sort who keeps a journal, you might have found that your entries have
taken a particular structure. Perhaps you record basic thoughts, experiences from
the day, or even breakdowns of conversations if you're working on getting better
at pickup.

When I was struggling with approach anxiety, I added something to my journal

which, after 30 days, was incredible to look back
upon. It helped me consider all of the great things
in my life, but it also made me realize how many
opportunities I was missing. When applied to
approach anxiety, it becomes a powerful
motivator.

The exercise is simple. Every day, or as frequently

as possible, write down the following:

• One thing you did or didn't do that day for which you're proud
• One thing you did or didn't do that day for which you're regretful
• One thing that happened or didn't happen for which you're thankful

Depending on how motivated you are, you may wish to be vivid in your
descriptions. The other day, I was reviewing a journal from four years back, and
could remember in detail the women who I'd met (and hadn't). It was fantastic to
see how far I'd come, and to remember what a big part of my life and growth this
journal was.

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 Face Your Anxiety

The following exercises are meant to make you face your approach anxiety. They
are short-term tricks; things to try during our work together. You may find that
warming up with one or two of these to start your night, you'll fall into a groove
more quickly.

Don't take it personally: Exchange of forms, social scientist

Approach 3 different women with the opener of, "hey, how's it going". Pay very
close attention to their reactions; especially the way their hips turn, their eye
contact, and the corners of their mouths.

On the first approach, don't make eye

contact, keep your shoulders slouched, and
lean toward her slightly.

On the 2nd approach, keep a moderate level

of eye contact and stand up straight. On the
3rd approach, make strong eye contact, pull
your shoulders back and lean back slightly
when you approach.

After each approach, don't worry about what

to say next but take very careful note of her
response. Notice how small changes in the
form of your approach affect her response.

Let your fear show through

Approach 2 different women to whom you're

genuinely attracted and say, "excuse me, but I
noticed you and wanted to say that I think
you're beautiful and I'd regret it later if I didn't say something." Another opener that
has done well for our clients in live training is "Excuse me, but you're the most
attractive woman in here, and I had to come say hello." A third is "I had to come
say hello, and to be totally honest, I'm slightly nervous to do so." A half-second
later, follow with, "I'm (your name)".

Keep the eye contact strong on this but let some hesitation and quivering enter
your voice.

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Approach with a goal to find out about her

Approach women with the mission of discovering something personal about them.
For this assignment, either focus about finding about their sibling information or
their favorite childhood memory. Ideally, it is not your first question. Walk up with
a "hi", discuss your afternoon or evening, see where the conversation takes you,
then eventually ask your intended question. Approach as many women as it takes
to get this information from 2 of them. Don't forget to share your answer as well.

Approach with the goal of telling her about you

Think of one interesting thing you've done. It can be a place you've traveled or
something unique you've done in your life. Your mission is to relay this information
to 2 different women, in a manner similar to the prior exercise.

Bombing

Time to get shot down. Approach at least 2 groups of women with one of the
following lines: "Excuse me. Would you guys be interested in a threesome
(compensate for the number of women in the group e.g. foursome, fivesome)".
"Hey guys I need your help on something. Is it weird that I have an erection right
now?". Or, "Hey guys. My girlfriend is out of town and I really need to get some.
Which one of you is down?". Stay in the conversation as long as possible and
laugh about it afterward.

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 Build Your Confidence Exercises

These are approaches meant to demonstrate and guide you into how you might
act once the beliefs are totally and completely internalized.

Dominance & Deservedness

Walk up to 3 different women with the line, "Hey, I think you're cute. Want to make
out?" Keep strong eye contact. If she laughs, smile but maintain your seriousness.
If she scowls and turns away from you, think to yourself "how could she not want
to?"

Positive

Simply wanting to spread some

positive vibes is your driving force on
this Approach with a simple, "I had to
say hi. What's your name?" Hold out
your hand and when she goes to
shake it follow up with, "you know
what, you're cute, we should just hug"
and then go in for the hug. Do this until you hug 3 women.

Love, Appreciation, & Curiosity for people

Approach 3 different women with the goal of giving them as many genuine
compliments as possible. Start with something unique about her looks, and then
go from there with everything you notice that you genuinely appreciate. You should
give at least 3 compliments per woman. Remember, you have to mean it.

Fun & Adventure

This one doesn't involve any approaches. It's time to be a fun motivator. Find
something fun and interesting to do in your area. Maybe there's a good local
concert. Perhaps a new place opened and you want to check it out. Maybe a great
party is happening. Local entertainment newspapers are great resources for these.
Next step, start inviting people around one week before the event.

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Get together a group of friends and make it your goal for the first half of the evening
to do whatever you can to make sure everyone else enjoys the night as possible.
The 2nd half of the night, just sit back and enjoy yourself.

Giving Value

What do you do? It's a question you get all the time from women. But aside of the
name of your job, chances are the work you do on a day to day basis positively
impacts at least person in some way, shape, or form. Spend some time to think
about exactly how that happens. Now, when a woman asks, "so what do you do?",
instead of giving her your title, tell this story.

So that wraps up the exercises. Remember, the most important part of this is that
you take action on what you’ve learned. And be sure to grab your bonuses using
the links below.

Rock and Roll

Christian Hudson

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