PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP 2.

Propinquity Effect: sense of familiarity that makes us

-degree of commitment of one person to the other feel secure and safe
-closely associated with a person and which can only : we can predict one’s behaviour through this that leads
have a meaning to this person to liking or disliking one person
-privacy and intimacy 3. Similarity: liking people that are same with you as a
person
*Rozenberg Quarterly quoted that all succeeding 4. Reciprocity: liking people who likes us back
relationships in the future are shaped by the level of our : the more someone likes as equally the way we like
attachment to our parents. them, promotes mutual feelings of liking
5. Physical Attractiveness: first impression counts the
Three Attachment Styles (Ainsworth, Blekar, most
Waters, and Wall) : less attractive individuals compensates by offering
other qualities
1. Secure Attachment: primary caregiver is present all : relationships built with wealth, fame or status don’t
the time usually last long
: emotional needs of the infant is given 6. Personality Characteristics and Traits: positive
: sense of security is provided disposition in life leads to liking
: child exposed to this has higher chances of having : empathy and sympathy often maintain positive views
more secure and stable relationships
2. Avoidant Attachment: primary caregiver is cold and Love as…
detached, and often unresponsive -strong feeling of affection, kinship and close friendship
: sense of rejection, self-reliance, premature detachment or accompanied by sexual attraction
: child exposed to this has higher chances of having -devotion towards God or a god
unstable relationships -feeling of kindness or concern of God or a god towards
: avoidance in getting into meaningful adult relationships humans
: isolation is possible -sexual pleasure
Rugged Individual- can go through life with little
established relationships where intimacy is present Triangular Theory of Love (Robert Sternberg’s)
3. Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment: primary caregiver 1. Intimacy: openness and vulnerability to whom we
is inconsistent in presence at reaching child’s needs trust, value, and connected the most
: child often develop separation anxiety, mixture of : devoid the doubt and suspicions
hesitance and commitment : communication; self-disclosure and honesty is the key
component to deepen intimacy
*Attachment Styles can still be changed as time goes by, 2. Commitment: consistent agreement towards other
especially when genuine and transforming adult love person with caring and loving actions
relationship is experienced. 3. Passion: intense state of being that drives a person to
pursue something
Chemical Basis of Love (Helen Fisher)
1. Lust: sexual attraction (libido) *The absence of Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion is
: testosterone and estrogen is the sex drive referred as “non-love”.
2. Attraction: physical attraction
: dopamine, neropinephrine, and serotonin are the Liking
Companionate
involved neurotransmitters Romantic IntimacyLove
3. Attachment: sense of long-lasting commitments Love
: oxytocin, and vasopressin
Commitment
Consummate
Rozenberg’s Theory of Attraction and Liking Love
(all)
1. Transference Effect: there are people we just meet that
Passion
reminds us of someone from the past who has affected
us that may cause like or dislike Infatuation Empty
Fatuous
: past relationships can affect the present Love
Love
SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP
-how we behave and interact with others, as well as how
they act and behave towards us
-the more intimate and vulnerable the relationship is the
more personal it is
Types of Social Influences
1. Compliance: agrees and follows what is required to do
but not necessarily have to agree or believe to it
2. Identification: influenced by someone famous or a
person he/she looks up to
3. Internalization: philosophy in life that a person is
willing to make it known publicly and privately
4. Conformity: changes in behaviour
: thinking to be like others to obtain acceptance
5. Conversion: wholeheartedly changing to be aligned
and accepted in a group
6. Minority: bigger number of people accepts a smaller
number of people’s ways in doing things
7. Reactance: rejection of whatever it is being imposed
to a person
8. Obedience: someone authoritative is being obeyed
9. Persuasion: change in one person through appealing to
emotion or reason
Leadership Theories
1. Trait Theory: certain personality traits are inherent in
a leader
2. Behavioural Theory: leadership is a learned behaviour
: defined through certain behaviour they exhibit
3. Participative Theory: involving members to make
common decisions
4. Situational Theory: considers the situation to know
how to act or respond towards the situation
5. Transactional Theory: involves negotiation
- reward and punishment
6. Transformational Theory: motivating followers to
support in achieving their vision
Authentic Leadership
1. Situational: leader’s behaviour is influenced by the
situation
2. Non-hierarchical: exercise of leadership isn’t based in
one’s position
3. Relational: establishes relationship where interests are
mutually met
-practice what they preach
-adaptability and flexibility but consistent with their
values and beliefs
-high level of comfort being themselves
Heroic Leadership
1. Self-awareness: understanding fully our strengths and
weaknesses
2. Ingenuity: flexibility and openness to new ideas
3. Love: moral support
: best response to genuine care received
4. Heroism: motivating and inspiring others
-authenticity
-significance
-excitement
-community
Leader-Member Exchange (LXM) Theory
-effectiveness of leadership depends in the quality of
relationship he/she has with his/her followers
Simon Sinek’s Theory
1. Why: visionary
: believes results can be achieved
2. How: realist
: able to see how wok their vision out
3. What: builder
: provides details how to get things done
FAMILY STRUCTURES
1. Traditional or Nuclear: common household
: parents plus their children
2. Extended Family: nuclear plus some relatives living in
the same house
3. Single Parent: a woman or man raising their child on
their own
4. Childless: spouses living the married life without
children
5. Interracial: one nationality marries another nationality
: bearing children of half-half nationality
6. Adoptive: spouses who can’t bear their own children,
adopts and fosters an orphan
7. Same-sex: both of the same sexuality are living in the
same household
: raising adopted children as their own
Bandura’s Theory of Social Learning
-children and adolescents learn through observing many
types of behaviour and attitudes they see in their families
-some may have positive effects while there are others
that may have negative impact on the child or adolescent
Parental Authorities or Styles
-authoritative parents who impose behavioural control
over their children often produce positive results
-more lenient parents or the one who use psychological 6. Peer Pressure
control tend to diminish the sense of self of the children 7. Gender Bias
or adolescents 8. Language Limitation
9. Academic Performance
Family Heredity
1. Physical Characteristics *Valuing your Personal Core Values, Passion, Traits,
2. Genetic or External Factors Strengths and Challenges, Limitations, and Life Goals
3. Personality Traits
4. Social and Economic backgrounds Resposibility
5. Religious Values Service
Justice
Key Elements of Building Family Equality
1. Power of Modeling: lifestyle of the children sees as a
model that they daily see which is more powerful than
what you tell them
: appreciate and promote uniqueness
2. Giving the Gift of Time: love for children is time
: make time for your family
3. Power of Nourishing Love: say “I Love You
: cherish and nourish other person
: stop, look, listen, and study that special person
4. Cultivating an Encouraging Environment: building
and encouraging our loved ones
5. The Gift of Healthy Anger: expressing anger in
healthy ways, to correct not to punish
6. Nurturing Quality Communication: talk more to each
other
: more sensitivity to each other’s feelings
7. Conflict: Pathway to Journey: acknowledge, discuss,
and define the conflict
: listen and understand

Career and Personal Development

-becoming the fullest that you can be

Internal Factor Affecting One’s Choice of Career

1. Self-Concept or Self-Identity
2. Personal Preferences
3. Motivation
4. Self-confidence
5. Personal Skills
6. Personality Characteristics
7. Personal Health
8. Emotional Considerations
9. Self-sabotaging Thoughts

External Factor Affecting One’s Choice of Career

1. Parental Preferences
2. Family Considerations
3. Financial Constraints
4. Job Market Preference (immediate employment)
5. School Location