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What message does the media convey about Love and Communications in Intimate
Relationships (1-4 paragraphs)?
Depending on if you have watched the show, Jim and Pam have an ongoing relationship that
lasts 9 seasons long. You see them drop subtle hints at having a crush for each other, denying it,
accepting it, and eventually getting married. Seeing their whole relationship beginning to end
unfold in front of the viewer, made you feel different emotions, whether it was happy or gloomy
corresponding to the way their relationship was acting at the moment, but what I like most about
their relationship was what the relationship stood for.
What this relationship conveyed to me was that some of the finest things are worth waiting for.
You see Jim from the viewers perspective that he knows she is cute and wants to pursue her. But
unlike what modern media portrays, he didn’t jump on this opportunity to date her right away. It
is clear to see a friendship needed to first be built before Jim would make any moves and this
resulted in a stronger relationship in the end. Although he wasn’t dating Pam, he still looked out
for her by protecting her through another bad relationship, and once they were dating, he did
things like trying to make everyone in the office follow her eating habits when she was pregnant
and other various acts of kindness. It was the small things like these that made it clear that he
cared for her, which is a very good example of a healthy relationship. This type of media truly
conveyed the proper types of communication and chivalry among two people who love each
other, and I think every viewer, whether they realized it or not, learned from this.
Critical Analysis of the message using a SOCIAL framework (1-4 paragraphs):
As stated previously, the relationship had its up and downs, as most do. It began with just Jim
and Pam being friends in the office, they watched each other go through other relationships and
hardships. They eventually came to their senses and started dating, had children got married, and
moved in with each other. Conflict exists when Jim takes a job in another city and is gone from
Pam for a long period of time. Pam is not happy for this even though its been Jim’s dream job for
a while. It ends with them coming to a resolution where they relocate while they keep all of their
friends in Scranton, but ultimately proves, life goes on. While they were separated, there were
issues and bumps within their love life as the separation was getting to both Pam and Jim,
handling the kids and the work drama. It wasn’t the same once one of them left to pursue dreams.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEQcQ-1feqA
(or google search this is the pdf doesn’t display the URL… “Jim & Pam: Real Love - The Office US”)
In this video, the first 30 seconds or so displays Stonewalling, 1 of the 4 Horsemen. You can see that Jim
and Pam re having relationship problems as Jim is leaving once again for his new job. This is a dramatic
time for their relationship since it means that Pam must take on challenges without Jim which she is
learning to come accustomed to and is finding it hard to keep going happily without him. In this
interaction, you see them parting ways, but instead of Pam being exited and joyfully saying goodbye, she
stonewalls the conversation by saying a simple, ”bye” and not displaying her actual affection toward Jim
or speaking up about what she didn’t like. The Four Horsemen video displays that the anecdote to
stonewalling is to wait 20 minutes, calm down, then return to the conversation. Now, with this being a
television show, that 20 minutes was actually only around a minute or so, but you can see that revisiting
the conversation opened up new things and emotions later in the video clip, which proves the coping
mechanisms in the Four Horsemen video.
I think that something this show did well is that they did not blow anything out of proportion. It was a
very real experience watching this relationship evolve given that the show is all about and average life of
people working in an office. So, I really think the struggles and exiting times depicted in the show were
as close to real as they can be. Normally, television would blow love out of proportion and make a
fairytale ending, but this wasn’t the fact in the office. The whole premise of the show was average
people doing average things, which is why it thrived- it went against anything television at the time was
producing and defied the typical love story. Yes, there will be bumps in the road and sometimes it
doesn’t end up the way everyone wants it to, but hey, that’s life and nothing is perfect.