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"Well firstly I would like to say I am seeing a massive improvement

already. I cannot believe how quick things have started to change. I always
thought this was a problem I am going to be stuck with. I feel a lot more
confident now :-) I felt like I was in control all the way from start to end, I
have never lasted that long!
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- Secrets To Enjoying Sex That Lasts
Lloyd Lester, Author, EjaculationByCommand.com
P icture this…
You were anticipating a night of great sex;
you have planned everything you wanted to
do, right down to the minute details. You set
up the perfect lighting to create a sensual
mood for her. But just 30 seconds into your
"perfect lovemaking", everything was over.
Premature ejaculation had beaten you to it

again.
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You got up quickly to take a shower, when in fact that was
About 20-40%
just an excuse to hide your embarrassment. You
of men around
promised you would do better next time. But it just never the world suffer
from premature
happens. ejaculation
Sounds like what is happening to your sex life right now?

Well, if you are like 40 percent of guys reading this, it
probably is.
Let’s face it. There is probably nothing in the world that

gives a man greater pleasure than knowing he has the
ability to satisfy any woman in bed. But for many guys,
sex is often a short-lived affair (even an embarrassing one)
that ends as soon as the heart starts pounding and the

adrenalin gets rushing.
So what is it that you can do to cope with early

ejaculation? Are you destined to come up short every
time you have sex?
Not at all!
Anyone can learn

Unlike most male sexual dysfunctions, premature to re-program his
ejaculation can often be rectified without the need for mental and
physical abilities
long term medication or treatment. to last longer
during sex
But before we move on to examine the various

alternatives and what makes a good cure for PE, it is
important to properly understand what premature
ejaculation really is - and if you are really suffering from
it.
How Soon Is Too Soon? Here’s A "Litmus Test"
You could be a "premature ejaculator" if:
1. You routinely come to an orgasm within 2 minutes

of intercourse;
2. You are unable to sexually fulfil your female

partner more than 50% of the time; or
3. Your inability to last long enough is causing

distress to you or your partner
But really, you do not need to feel embarrassed or

humiliated if you are suffering from premature
ejaculation. This is not a form of illness or disease,
and the fact that you are among 20 to 40 percent of
all men who have to deal with this issue means that
you are NOT alone.
And the sooner you recognize that you need help, the
sooner you will resolve this problem and enjoy the
kind of long lasting sex that you know you deserve.
Are You At Risk?
There are some men who are at higher risks of developing

premature ejaculation. These include men who are
suffering from some form of erectile dysfunction. Men
who have problems with erection often subconsciously Stress and
performance
hurry through sexual intercourse for fear of losing their anxiety are
erections. among the
leading causes of
premature
ejaculation…
One of the biggest contributors to early ejaculation is
stress or emotional strain. So guys who are often
emotionally stressed out are also at a higher risk of
ejaculating early during sex. This is just nature's way of
releasing tension that has been pent up.
In Short, These Are 3 Things You Should Avoid…
1. The Effects of Stress
Stress is your worst enemy, as far as your premature

ejaculation goes. Whether it is related to your job or your
performance in bed, stress can wreck havoc on your body.

It leads to an increase in your blood pressure, a surge of
adrenaline and a peaking of your sexual pleasure before
you have had a chance to enjoy it fully. So what do you do
about it?
Try to make a conscious effort to relax whenever

you feel yourself go tense and stressed out. Take
deep, thoughtful breaths and watch that tension
ebb away.
2. Getting Emotionally-Charged
Being angry or emotionally-charged before or

during sex can also cause you to lose ejaculatory
control in just a few moments. This can happen in
2 ways. First of all, it releases a surge of negative feelings
within you. More importantly, it cuts out the
communication that is so vital when you are making love.
Think about it. You are not looking into her eyes - they
are glowering at you in all probability - and that is
NEVER good for your arousal control. What's more, the
surge of blood will make you lose control of your
ejaculation reflexes very quickly, sometimes within
seconds!
3. Using The Wrong Masturbation Techniques
Strange as it sounds, the right masturbation technique

can help you last longer. But the wrong way of self-
stimulation can cause more harm than good. What are we
talking about? If you have been used to a quick fix when

you are pleasing yourself, it will be reflected in bed.
The logic is simple. Your body becomes accustomed to a

quick orgasm (and a weak one) when you masturbate
quickly. The other problem is when you masturbate too
frequently. If you are getting off by yourself three times a
day, and getting off fast, you are spoiling your chances
when the real thing hits in bed.
Do You Need To See A Doctor?
If your lack of sexual endurance is causing

great distress to you and your partner, it is
recommended that you seek medical
assistance. A doctor would be able to advice
on the appropriate treatment to help you
cope with the problem.
In some cases, the doctor many even suggest that you are
not even experiencing early ejaculation, especially if it
occurs only occasionally.
Likewise, if you can satisfy your partner even if you do

not last more than 2 to 4 minutes during intercourse,
there is no real cause for concern.
So What Is Considered A Good PE Treatment?
When evaluating the treatment options best suited for

you, I suggest you take these 2 criteria into consideration:
1. The treatment provides a PERMANENT cure

instead of just a short-term solution
2. The treatment should be natural and relies on your

body's natural responses to improve your sexual
stamina.
So which PE treatments are recommended? Let's take a

look below.
Common Premature Ejaculation Treatments
1. Anti-depressants drugs - Most of these

drugs and medications belong to the
selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor
(SSRIs) family of drugs. Are they worth
your time? Well, these drugs do work,
but they come with unintended
consequences - such as the loss of
libido or even difficulty in ejaculating. You have to
consume these on a daily basis. Plus they don't
work if you take them just before sex. Before
taking on these drugs, it is best that you consult a
doctor about the potential side effects and if they
are the best option for you.
2. Numbing applicators such as creams, lotions and The vast majority

of commercial
sprays - These are popular solutions among men solutions will NOT
permanently cure
suffering from PE. They do work, but these are premature
more of temporary quick fixes that do not ejaculation…
permanently cure your early ejaculation problem.

They can be useful if you need extra endurance at a
moment's notice, but solutions such as

desensitizing creams have the potential to dull or
lower the sensations you and your partner will
experience during sex.
Also, how would you like to run off to the

bathroom to apply the spray each time you want to
have sex? That is embarrassing, isn't it? Well, and
it certainly does not look the least bit manly that
you have to depend on a bottle of 'foreign
assistance' to help you last longer in the sack!
3. Naturally "re-wire" your ejaculatory response - Because

premature
This is a permanent treatment and addresses the
ejaculation is
root causes of your premature ejaculation. It largely a
conditioned
encompasses a natural, time-tested training response, you can
routine that conditions your body to withstand permanently
reverse this
mental and physical stimulation and prolong your behavior with the
right strategy…
ejaculation. You may not see results overnight, but
given time, you will definitely experience
permanent effects of lasting longer in bed.
Let’s take a look at one of the best natural conditioning

techniques to improve your ejaculatory control and last
longer in bed.
Managing Your Arousal Control
Arousal is basically the sensations you go through when

you become sexually stimulated. To be able to last longer
during sex, you have to first understand the four stages of
male sexual arousal. By paying close attention to how
your body responds and reacts throughout these four

stages, you will be in a better position to control how long
each stage lasts and enjoy sex to the fullest.
Briefly, stage one is when your penis starts to get an

erection; stage two takes place when the arousal begins
to increase, your erection becomes full but you are still
in control. Stage three occurs when the arousal
intensifies, your penis glans expands, become more
sensitive and you are right on the edge of ejaculation.
This culminates into stage four when your nervous
system tips over, causing your pelvic muscles to
contract and releasing ejaculation.
To last longer in bed, you basically need to stretch out the

four stages for as long as possible. "Premature
ejaculators" can go from stage one to four within a
minute or less while those with superior sexual
endurance can extend their lovemaking to an hour or
more.
Among the four stages of arousal, stage two holds the key. Becoming aware
of your own
This means you have to strive to remain in stage two for sexual arousal is
as long as you can. Once you hit stage three, there is the first key step
towards beating
practically no turning back - even if her granny suddenly premature
ejaculation…
trots into the room!
So how do you achieve longevity in stage two? Simple -

the key is to focus on GIVING rather than TAKING.
In this respect, the following 3 "P" techniques will help

you greatly.
1. "Power Of Pleasing"
The real purpose of sex should be in helping your partner Many guys go
thrusting right out
enjoy the moment as much as you are (if not more!). One of the gate and let
of the reasons why men are not lasting long enough is due their arousal
escalate without
to the fear or anxiety of not being able to sexually fulfil control - a surefire
way to climax
her. If this sounds like you, there is an easy way out. quickly…
Instead of focusing on using your male anatomy to please
her, why not use the "whole-body" experience instead?
A woman does not need sexual intercourse to be

erotically fulfilled, although that would be the icing on
the cake. A woman needs emotional connection and
above all, attention to her body on the whole - and not
just her genitals.
So what does this mean for you? Women are

“emotional
beings” - they are
Simple! Tease her with words, and pay attention to the biologically wired
differently from
sensuous areas and hot buttons all over her body. This men. To get her in
the mood, you
will get her all warmed up before the actual deed, and
need to focus on
more importantly, help extend your time in bed too. HER first…
2. "Power Of Positioning"
The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge

to climax, think about what makes you feel
good. This will help "debug" your quick
orgasm reflexes. For many guys, the
positioning of the hips plays a huge role in
defining how long you can last. Thrusting with
vigorous hip movements can push you to the verge of
climax very easily, especially if you engage in the

conventional missionary position.
Also, pay attention to the positioning of your partner's Many sex

legs during penetration. If her legs are closed tightly, positions are
known to cause
more pressure and stimulation will be applied to your quick ejaculation -
penis glans and if you aren't trained properly, you will the missionary
position is one
likely last no more than a couple of quick minutes (or such “culprit”
even seconds). Try spreading her legs apart during

intercourse, thrust more deeply and press your pelvic
area against her genitals. You will last longer and she will
derive more pleasure at the same time!
3. "Power Of Plateau-ing"
There are four phases to a man's sexual arousal. In the The “plateau”
"excitement" phase, you are just getting erect and still stage holds the
key to lasting as
very much in control of your arousal. At the "plateau" long as you
desire…
phase, you are fully erect, very aroused, but still in
control. At "orgasm" phase, your arousal builds up
intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into
ejaculation. The last phase is the "resolution" stage where
your breathing returns to normal and your erection
subsides.
The key to controlling your ejaculation is to extend the

"plateau" stage. This means you need to maintain your
levels of arousal without allowing yourself to boil over to
a climax.
So how do you prolong the "plateau" phase?
First, maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow

your thrusts to slowly gain momentum and when you
sense you are fairly close to a climax, slow down, and if
need be, withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the
arousal tapers off. Communicate with your partner why
you are doing this. Her support with help you build
greater confidence in your performance.
Second, try alternating between deep and shallow

thrusting. Shallow penetration will stimulate the sensitive
nerve endings within the first 2 inches of a woman's
vagina. Deep thrusting will present less friction and
stimulation on your penis glans and help you rock on
much longer!
The Bottom Line Is This...
Premature ejaculation need not become a lifelong

problem- unless you choose to let it become one.
By learning and practicing the proper tips,

techniques and strategies, you can turn around a
lifetime of embarrassment and begin to enjoy
incredible sex and finally give your woman the sexual
Premature
pleasure that she deserves. ejaculation need
not be a
permanent fixture
Don't be too hard on yourself when things don't go right in your life… it
CAN be cured.
at first. Developing ejaculatory control may not be the
most natural thing to do initially. It does take time,
patience and practice. But keep your spirits up and try to
see the lighter side of things even when you 'accidentally
spill' during sex!
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How to use "self-gratification" to last longer during sex - there's a right

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A huge mistake guys make right before they have sex that actually kills
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An easy way to TRIPLE the intensity of her orgasms without requiring

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substitute for medical evaluation by a doctor. If you suspect you have a condition
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before engaging in the practices included.
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Introduction…
In my field, one of the most common questions I am
asked revolves around the issue of premature
ejaculation and how to last longer in bed. Men want
to know how they can improve their sexual stamina.
Women want to know how their partners can last
long enough to give them an orgasm. Couples want
to know how they can enjoy longer-lasting sex.
It is every man's desire to be the seductive and

powerful lover - one who has the innate ability to
last as long he wants and bring his woman to the
pinnacle of sexual pleasure. Sadly, premature
ejaculation often rears its ugly head and makes potentially
heart-thumping sex fizzle out in a flash.
About 20-40%
of men around
the world suffer
Sounds like what is happening to you most of the time?
from premature
ejaculation
Well, you are NOT alone. Between 20 to 40 percent of

men have the unfortunate distinction of being a "minute
man", one who lasts no more than a couple of quick
minutes (or even seconds) before making an early exit.
It is thus not surprising that fixing premature ejaculation

is such as popular topic. Any man who constantly blows
his load early during sex will know the pain,
embarrassment and frustration that come with the
inability to last the distance.
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No man is born with the inherent ability to endure even

15 minutes of penetrative sex. By the stroke of nature, we
are all genetically programmed to ejaculate as soon as
possible so that we continue to reproduce in numbers.
But can you actually "re-program" yourself to last longer

and enjoy better sex?
You can!
Although no man is naturally born with superior control

over his ejaculation - just like no one is born to read and
write - you can learn how to overcome your quick Anyone can learn
ejaculation reflexes until you gain total control over it. to re-program his
mental and
physical abilities
to last longer
Ejaculation By Command is all about re-wiring your during sex
mental and physical abilities to totally eradicate
premature ejaculation and enjoy sex that lasts. No pills,
creams, lotions, portions or gadgets are needed.
It won't happen overnight, but with the tips, techniques

and strategies laid out in this book, you hold the power to
supercharge your ejaculatory control and gain the
confidence to last much longer during sex.
If there is one thing that makes this book stand out from
the veritable avalanche of resources on premature
ejaculation, it is the two-pronged approach of helping the
average man improve his sexual endurance, AND
fulfilling a woman’s deepest sexual desires at the same
time.
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And this… my friend… can only bear great news for your
partner and your sex life to boot!
So what does Ejaculation By Command offer you? This

book is divided into two parts.
Here’s a sneak peak of the sections ahead of you.
Part 1: Secrets Of Sexual Stamina Mastery
Fundamentals. Here you’ll discover the reasons why sex is

often a short-lived, embarrassing affair for most men…
and the myths, misconceptions and lies that
unfortunately cloud the issue and make it much harder
for men to break free from premature ejaculation and
carve out a new, more confident and long lasting sexual
performance.
Part 2: Techniques Of The Masters
This is where the rubber hits the road. Here I’ll give you
all the tools and knowledge you need to begin re-training
and re-wiring your mind and body so that you can revel in
longer lasting sex, and at the same time, give your partner
an erotic experience she never thought was possible.
Exclusive Bonus: Emergency Tactics To Last

Longer
The strategies in the main Ejaculation By Command

program will require a little time and effort on your part
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to permanently nip premature ejaculation in the bud. But

what if you need some instant “firepower” tonight?
In a separate exclusive bonus report, I reveal 15 tried-

and-tested tactics that you can use right away to put up a
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frenzy!
The insights, tools and techniques in Ejaculation By

Command have been rigorously tried, tested and proven
effective not only by me, but by thousands of other men
who are now enjoying lovemaking that lasts, and
relationships that stay ROCK-SOLID - pardon the pun :-)
So mark the date and time - years from now, you will
remember this as the day “WHEN IT ALL BEGAN…”
And the sooner you get started, the sooner you will reach
the level of sexual confidence and performance that you
desire!
With all my hopes for your success,
Lloyd Lester
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Table of Contents
Part 1: Secrets of Sexual Stamina Mastery
Chapter 1: The Truths about Premature Ejaculation……………………..12
- Understanding Premature Ejaculation - How Soon Is Too Soon?

- Causes of Premature Ejaculation
- Does It Really Matter?
- Can Premature Ejaculation Be Cured?
- Do You Need Medical Attention?
- Realistic Expectations
- Gender Perceptions Of Premature Ejaculation
Chapter 2: Myths, Misconceptions (And Big Fat Lies)……………………30
- Premature Ejaculation Stems From Sexual Inexperience

- Premature Ejaculation Means There Is Something Physically Wrong With
You
- Desensitizers Are A Great Way To Beat Premature Ejaculation
- Mind Distraction Tricks Will Boost Your Stamina
- Porn Actors Are Born With Super Endurance
Chapter 3: Understanding Male Sexuality…………………………………….34
- The Phases Of Male Sexual Response

- Getting To Know Thyself
- The Two Stages Of Cumming
- More On “The Point Of No Return”
o Exercise: Understanding Your Arousal Patterns
Part 2: Techniques of the Masters
Chapter 4: Empower The Mind…………………………………………………..48
- Instituting The Right Mental Input

- Managing Mental Arousal
- “The Breath of Sex”
o Exercise: Preparatory Breathing
o Exercise: In-Sex Breathing
o Exercise: Synchronized Breathing
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o Exercise: Triangular Breathing

- Relaxation Of The Mind
o Exercise: Triggering A Relaxation Response
- The Straight Scoop On Mind Distraction Tactics
- The Art Of Emotional Connection
Chapter 5: Enable The Body……………………………………………………….74
- Mastering Your PC Muscles

o Exercise: PC Flex
o Exercise: PC Clench
o Exercise: PC Muscle Relaxation
o Exercise: Fighting Off An Imminent Climax
- The Sensuous Art Of Self-Gratification

o Exercise: Pleasure Acclimatizing
o Exercise: Pushing Your Limits (I)
o Exercise: Pushing Your Limits (II)
- The Erotic Art Of Partner Stimulation

o Exercise: "Live Action" Stimulation
o Exercise: "The Surreptitious Female Rider"
o Exercise: "Spooning Extravaganza"
o Exercise: "Male Supremacy"
Chapter 6: Enrich Your Diet……………………………………………………….96
- You Are What You Eat!

o Life Is Sweet
o Fruity Temptation
o The Serial Booster - Not Just Kid’s Stuff
o Go Green For Endurance
o Berry Magic
o Sirloin Therapy For The Loins
o Vitamin Bank
o Cool Sensuous Delights
o Drinkers...Beware!
- The Power of Serotonin
Chapter 7: Enhance Your Skills…………………………………………………104
- Position Mastery
- Inducing The Female Orgasm
- Foreplay & Female Sexuality
- Oral Titillation
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- It’s NOT Just About Penetration

- The Best Sex Tip For Men (It’s NOT What You Think)
Chapter 8: Embrace The Paradigm Shift…………………………………….125
- Adopting The Right Mindset & Attitude

- The Mistake Of Going It Alone
- If All Else Fails, Try Again!
Chapter 9: Summing It All Up……………………………………………………130
Recommended Resources
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Pa rt 1
Secrets Of
Sexual Stamina Mastery
This is where your journey begins. Before we head
on to the actual techniques and strategies for lasting
longer in bed, we need to have a clear understanding
of some of the fundamental concepts relating to
premature ejaculation.
This section will lay the groundwork that will answer

some of the most common questions that many guys
have about sexual endurance, as well as debunk
some of the self-defeating beliefs that will hamper
your progress. It is absolutely important that we get these
sorted out first.
Let’s get rolling!
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Chapter 1
The Truths About

Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common
sexual dysfunctions amongst men. In fact, according to
estimates, as many as 20 to 40 percent of the male
population regularly suffer from premature ejaculation.
As many as 7 in
Not only that, many sexual health surveys, including
10 men want to
those carried out by reputable men’s magazines, have learn how to last
longer in bed
revealed that up to 75 percent of men would like to last
longer in bed.
Understanding Premature Ejaculation:

How Soon Is Too Soon?
What exactly is premature ejaculation?
Well, there is certainly no lack of

definitions and opinions, including:
 When a man is unable to last more

than 2 minutes
 When a man is not able to satisfy
his partner more than 50% of the
time
 When the inability to last causes distress to one or
both partners
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Most experts prefer to use this last definition, which is a

very sensible way to describe premature ejaculation.
From this point of view, the number of minutes you last
doesn’t even matter.
In short, premature ejaculation means reaching an

orgasm before you want to. It means climaxing before you
are ready and before you or your partner is sexually
fulfilled. It is as simple as that.
Premature ejaculation, in most cases, is hardly classified

as a form of “illness”. Instead, it is a relative condition
caused by a female’s need for orgasm, and her
comparative slowness in achieving one through
intercourse alone.
To put things in perspective, premature ejaculation is

certainly far from abnormal; in fact it is perfectly natural
for a guy to want to climax within 2 minutes, just as it is
natural for a woman to need 15 minutes to achieve an
orgasm.
How long does the average man last in bed?
The answer is 2 to 6 minutes. In fact, some recent studies The average

lovemaking
and research have thrown up rather shocking statistics: as duration is just 2-6
minutes…
many as 75 percent of men regularly ejaculate within 2
minutes upon vagina entry.
And a good number of us have the misfortune of blowing

our load in less than 20 seconds - sometimes even as soon
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as foreplay begins or within 3 to 4 thrusts upon

penetration.
Two minutes may not seem long, but think about this:
most mammals last only 3 to 15 seconds, so a couple of
minutes actually represent a considerable feat of self-
control by comparison!
Now here's the rub: the vast majority of women need 10

to 15 minutes of intercourse to achieve an orgasm. So
even 2 to 6 minutes is not going to cut it!
BUT... losing control occasionally is completely

NORMAL
Premature ejaculation becomes a problem only if it occurs

all the time. If you ejaculate quickly when you have sex for
the first time, or if you have not had intercourse for a long
while, this is completely normal.
Premature ejaculation can be very embarrassing and

Premature
frustrating for a man, and if not addressed or treated, can ejaculation need
not be a
cause real emotional distress in a relationship.
permanent fixture
in your life… it
CAN be cured.
The good news? It is entirely possible to permanently cure
PE.
There are two key strategies:
1. Learning how to last longer in bed and

2. Learning how to lower your partner's threshold for
orgasm so that she can achieve an orgasm faster.
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We will be looking at both strategies later in this book.
But here's the simple truth you should always bear in

mind…
You only need to last as long as it takes for her to get an

A man only needs
orgasm. And it does not even need to be through vaginal to last as long as
it takes for a
penetration! woman to
orgasm…
You see, women are capable of reaching a climax through

a variety of means. Foreplay, oral sex, and yes - even,
mental seduction are known to cause orgasms in women!
So as long as she receives her orgasm, the amount of time
you spend penetrating her doesn’t really matter.
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
Looking for shortcuts that will prevent you from

ejaculating early is not the best solution. If you want a
lasting cure to premature ejaculation, you have to know
the underlying factors for your condition. It would be
wrong to assume that all men ejaculate prematurely for
the same reasons.
PE can be caused by many factors, including genetics,

hormones, your past sexual experiences, as well as stress
and sexual performance anxiety. Also, men suffering from
erection problems or erectile dysfunction are at a greater
risk of developing PE, as most of them tend to hurry
through intercourse for fear of losing their erection.
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That said, the vast majority of men suffer from early

ejaculation due to six primary factors.
1. Genetics
At the very onset, premature ejaculation is the work of

nature... it's NOT your fault. Very few men are naturally
blessed with the ability to last even 20 minutes during
intercourse. From an evolutionary standpoint, quick
ejaculation has a purpose – it ensures efficient
procreation and survival of the human species. We are no
different from other mammals.
2. Poor Masturbation Habits
One's early sexual experiences play a contributory role in

premature ejaculation later in life. Many sex therapists
believe that due to "habitual conditioning", quick
masturbation in the early years of a man's life - either of Stress and
out of fear of getting caught or out of a desire to performance
anxiety are
experience an orgasm as soon as possible - is likely to among the
leading causes of
trigger rapid ejaculation during actual sex.
premature
ejaculation…
3. Stress and Performance Anxiety
Almost 90% of men who suffer from PE mentally

condition themselves for failure even before they begin!
No matter what they are doing in bed, their minds are
already focused on how badly they think they will perform.
In fact, many wonder if they will ejaculate too soon during
sex.
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Like it or not, such anxieties actually increase

performance stress and ironically triggers PE. Sounds like
you? Well, your reaction is pretty normal. The trouble is,
the human mind is the most powerful part of our bodies.
It can influence how the organs in our bodies function. If
your mind is sending out negative vibes to your body,
guess what - your body will just follow the pattern
expected of it!
4. Weak Pelvic Muscles
This is the biological reason behind many cases of By strengthening

premature ejaculation. Your pelvic muscles help you in a the pelvic muscles
- the muscles that
number of ways, including bladder control and control urination
and ejaculation -
ejaculation. Strong and well-toned pelvic muscles can
one can achieve
greatly boost your ejaculatory control during sex. On the superior sexual
endurance…
other hand, weak pelvic muscles can cause erections that
come and go very fast, as well as weak ejaculations that
have a “dribbling effect”.
A man's pelvic muscles are often termed the “fountain of

youth”! These muscles can affect everything about your
sex life, including how long you will last in bed and how
much pleasure you can derive from the act.
But guess what? The problem with weak pelvic muscles is

also the easiest to solve among all the factors causing PE.
There are simple exercises you can practice from home
that will significantly strengthen your pelvic muscles and
supercharge your sexual endurance (more on this later).
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5. Wrong Posturing
If you have been experiencing premature ejaculation

regularly with certain sex positions, maybe you should
find out why. Truth is, some positions are deemed “too
demanding”, resulting in excessive pressure exerted on
Many sex
your thigh and pelvic muscles (the missionary position is positions are
a big culprit!). I am not saying that you should avoid these known to cause
quick ejaculation -
positions altogether, but the least you should do is to be the missionary
position is one
aware of those that cause you to go for an early shower - such “culprit”
and make an effort to switch things up before it is too late!
6. An Unhealthy Lifestyle
An unhealthy lifestyle shows up in the least likely of

places (or so you thought)! Too much high calorie foods
and a sedentary lifestyle will sap your energy levels,
hamper blood circulation and inadvertently lead to
premature ejaculation.
So if chips and hamburgers are your favorite buddies, and

you hardly run - even for an emergency - it is time to take
a reality check! This may be damaging your sex life in
more ways than you can think of.
Does It Really Matter?
Does it matter that most men do not last long enough?
In most cases it does.
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For men, it can be downright embarrassing to fall short

when it comes to their endurance in bed. It can take away
the confidence of guys who are suffering from premature
ejaculation.
For women, nothing is worse than a sexual relationship

that repeatedly fails to deliver the pleasure that she
deserves. And for guys who ejaculate even before
intercourse (yes, some men have it that bad), it can put a
tremendous strain on the relationship especially if the
women wishes to get pregnant.
Here's How Premature Ejaculation Can Affect

You...
Not being able to last long enough can put considerable If left untreated,
premature
strain even in the most enduring sexual relationships. ejaculation can
Even if your female partner says she doesn't mind, the wreak havoc on a
sexual
simple truth is, she will almost certainly wonder what sex relationship…
would be like if you (or any other men) could last long
enough to bring her to an exquisite orgasm.
It is not unusual to hear of love affairs and even marriages

hitting the rocks due to unsatisfactory sex lives. And I
don't need to stress the impact this could have on a man's
self confidence in the long run if premature ejaculation is
not treated properly.
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Can Premature Ejaculation Be Cured?
Premature ejaculation is a treatable sexual dysfunction

but most men are either unaware of this fact or they are
simply too embarrassed to even talk about it.
Here is the simple truth: If you find yourself climaxing

too soon, your courage to admit this problem is the
crucial first step in prolonging your orgasm.
For most men, premature ejaculation is a learned or

conditioned response. As mentioned earlier, when we
were younger, we tend to speed up the process of
masturbation. This is borne out of an inherent fear of
being caught flat out for our sexual indulgences.
The net result?
Speedy ejaculation will manifest itself during sex.

Because PE is
Unfortunately without proper "un-conditioning", this largely a
conditioned
behavior tends to persist in our respective sex lives even response, you can
as we age and often bears a curse in our sexual permanently
reverse this
relationships. behavior with the
right strategy…
But here's the good news…
The fact that PE is largely a learned or conditioned

behavior also means that you can reverse this behavior
with the proper treatments, strategies and techniques.
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Unlike some of our physical traits, our sexual abilities are

not cast in stone. These abilities, including ejaculatory
control, can be learned and practiced to perfection.
There is a fallacy that adult movie actors are naturally

blessed with superior sexual endurance. The truth is,
most of them started out just like any of us. Their exalted
sexual stamina comes from practice rather than
genetics.
While some guys prefer to bring their problem to a doctor

or a sexual therapist, most of us are embarrassed to bring
this problem out of our bedrooms.
And this is where many commercial firms are quick to The vast majority
capitalize on one of men's most pressing needs in the of commercial
solutions will NOT
bedroom - the ability to last longer. Pills, creams, sprays permanently cure
premature
and even specialized condoms that claim to add minutes
ejaculation…
to sexual intercourse are the rage these days.
Although effective to certain degree, these are usually not

long-term, permanent solutions to cure PE. If anything,
an over-reliance on these "quick fixes" can do more harm
than good to your sexual image.
What good would it do to your self confidence if you have

to unravel that pack of special condoms in front of your
wife or girlfriend before every lovemaking session?
I don't know about you, but it sure seems embarrassing to

me…
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What About Using Drugs Or Supplements To

Prolong Your Sexual Stamina?
There are oral medications and supplements on the

market that are used to treat premature ejaculation.
These are primarily anti-depressant drugs known as
SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) that
have the side effect of delaying ejaculation.
While these drugs help to raise the level of serotonin in

your body – hormones that reduce your urge to ejaculate
– prolonged usage is believed to have side effects,
including erectile dysfunction, dampened sex drive and
sometimes the inability to achieve an orgasm.
Read the last sentence again…
You want to delay ejaculation, NOT stop ejaculation

altogether!
Using drugs to curb PE is not always recommended due Some drugs can
help delay
to the side effects on your body and the fact that you have ejaculation, but
to be continually on the medication. this is NOT
recommended
due to the
possible side
Premature ejaculation can be permanently cured in effects...
almost all cases. It does take some effort. By using simple
training and conditioning techniques that will be shared
later in this book, you can rid the curse of finishing too
soon in bed, for good!
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What Counts As A True “Cure” For Premature

Ejaculation?
My definition of a good “cure” is a solution that

permanently prevents PE while at the same time, does
NOT affect your sexual experience in any manner.
Many commercially available solutions -

such as desensitization sprays, creams and
gels - all claim to help prevent premature
ejaculation. But in reality, these products
only work as long as you use them. These
work on the basis that they dull or
desensitize the sensations in and around your genitals.
Net result? Sex doesn’t feel as good as it should be!
Similarly, expensive drugs and supplements may have The ideal cure for
different effects on different men, and they work ONLY as PE should
address the
long as you continue to consume them. problem
permanently and
also not
Mental distraction (thinking of non-sexual thoughts) is negatively impact
on your sexual
also one popular method to last longer. But I wouldn’t experience…
recommend this method because like desensitizers, it
robs you of the pleasure of sex.
The best solution - and only true lasting cure to PE - is to

adopt a holistic, natural training program that improves
your body’s ability to withstand physical and mental
stimulation and keep your ejaculatory reflexes at bay.
In a nutshell, when it comes to selecting PE solutions and

treatments, you should focus on two criteria:
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1. The cure should permanently reverse the

underlying factors or causes of PE (rather than just
providing a quick fix)
2. The cure should be natural and does not produce

any adverse side effects that can potentially
damage your privates or your health.
Do You Need Medical Attention?
For most men, premature ejaculation is more of a

psychological/mental condition than a medical one,
although there are guys who are physically predisposed to
ejaculate early due to genetic conditions.
Unlike erectile dysfunction - which is primarily due to

physiological factors - PE is often due to a man's lack of
practice in controlling his orgasm.
But perhaps the most significant impact caused by early

ejaculation is on your self confidence. There are many
men who shy away from sex simply because they are too
embarrassed of ejaculating as soon as seconds into
intercourse.
Usually there is nothing medically or physically wrong

with you. But of course, if it puts your mind at ease,
seeing a doctor about your condition is a good start. Your
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doctor may also a recommended specific course of action

that you can take to nip premature ejaculation in the bud.
Realistic Expectations
Do you need to last ten minutes or more, so that you are

no longer considered a premature ejaculator?
Absolutely not!
The truth is that most women are not aiming for hours of
sex. Ten to fifteen minutes is usually the average amount
of time needed for women to hit a sexual climax. And
there are ways to bring down that "level of threshold" for
women. You can prime her mind and body so that as
soon as intercourse begins, she is almost ready to reach
an orgasm.
Sounds far-fetched? Not at all - with the proper amount

of mental and physical foreplay, you can build up her
sexual anticipation to the point that she is on the
orgasmic edge, ready to tip over.
Women are emotional creatures. As much as she likes to

reach an orgasm during sex, she also relishes the way she
is brought to a climax. It is not just the “end goal”, but the
journey to the end goal that she really wants!
So the trick really is to understand the sexual preferences

of both you and your partner. If she is happy with a
couple of minutes of great sex, then all is well!
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And of course, if you really want to add a few more

minutes to sex, there are several commercially-available
aids that can help you, such as desensitizing creams or
sprays for external application (although I don’t
recommend these as a long-term, viable solution).
Alternatively there are condoms with specially-created
numbing gels to give you a quick boost in staying power.
Many men also swear by self-gratification before
engaging in a sexual act. The early release of semen will
ensure that you don't climax too soon during the actual
deed.
But of course, learning to permanently manage your early

ejaculation triggers without using these temporary aids is
the best way to go. You won’t go from a “minute man” to
having superhuman endurance right away, but with
enough practice, you can certainly last much longer than
you did yesterday.
Remember… patience is a virtue.
Gender Perceptions Of Premature

Ejaculation
Both men and

In my years of working with guys suffering from women hold
premature ejaculation, as well as speaking with their largely different
perspectives
female partners, there are two recurring themes I always about PE… and
you’d be surprised
hear. at how women
think!
It goes something like this…
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The man would say he was very turned on by his wife.

Foreplay was great and fun. But when they started having
intercourse, he would only last like 30 seconds flat. He
would try using mind distraction techniques; they didn’t
work. And neither did different kinds of condoms, sprays
and creams.
On the other hand, the typical woman would lament that

her husband always ejaculated quickly during sex, leaving
her to finish it off herself while he showered. She even
went as far as thinking her spouse couldn’t wait to finish
sex in a hurry because he didn’t want to be with her!
These ARE typical issues that I hear every time. And

these issues really reveal exactly how differently men and
women perceive premature ejaculation!
Premature ejaculation can be a really painful,

embarrassing and frustrating problem for any guy. It can
be really hard to figure out what to DO about it. On one
hand, the guy has his hands full trying out the myriad of
different products on the market - in other words, he is
looking for a PHYSICAL solution…
On the other hand, the woman is worried about his

feelings of embarrassment. And worse, she is worried
that her man is hurrying through sex because he does not
enjoy being with her. In other words, she sees this as an
EMOTIONAL issue.
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You see, such differing perceptions are detrimental to any

sexual relationship, especially if they remain unresolved
and not talked about. The man and woman would both be
doing a lot better if they had swapped their perspectives
and started talking about it. Communication is key here…
and this is something I will go into greater details in the
later part of this book.
In my experience it is way harder for men to talk about

PE than women - so here’s what may happen…
At first the guy may get angry and become defensive... but
if his partner is committed to working this out
TOGETHER with him, and actually shows it through her
words and actions, then he will feel a burden lifted off his
shoulders.
It is so much harder for you and your wife/girlfriend to

just pretend that there is nothing wrong (remember the
story about two people talking while an elephant stands
in the corner of the room, and both of them pretending
not to see the elephant?). The lack of communication
makes the problem ten times worse.
The simple truth is this… when couples work on

improving their intimate relationship together, they
BOND together. And when you accomplish results
together, believe me… you will feel stronger and more
connected with each other than before.
Plus, working on a PE problem can be great FUN once

you've overcome the initial stress of bringing it out in the
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open.
Think about this… if your wife or girlfriend is so hot that

she sends you out of control every time... well, in some
ways that is a good problem to have, at least for a start!
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Chapter 2
Myths, Misconceptions
(And Big Fat Lies)
Being a guy frustrated by the problem of premature
ejaculation is bad enough, but it’s made a lot worse by the
myriad of myths, misconceptions and lies that surround
this subject.
These myths can cloud the issue and

make it so much harder for you to
overcome your endurance shortcoming
and carve out a new, more confident and
longer-lasting sexual performance.
So let’s quickly run through what these

misconceptions are and do away with them for good.
We’re going to separate fact from fiction.
Myth 1: Premature Ejaculation Stems From

Sexual Inexperience
While this may be true for young men new to sex, it is an

absolute fallacy for others. There are many men who love
sex, have plenty of sex, but fail to last beyond the first
minute of intercourse - embarrassing but true!
And then there are men who have an illustrious history of

long lasting sex and then suddenly have difficulty holding
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up their ejaculation. In short, sexual experience does not

figure prominently in the cause of premature ejaculation.
But here's the thing…
If you think your lack of sexual experience is causing you

to climax too soon, this will inadvertently affect your
REAL performance in bed. Performance anxiety is one of
the leading "killers" of longer-lasting sex.
Myth 2: Premature Ejaculation Means There Is

Something Physically Wrong With You
PE is a result of stimulation to the penis beyond what a

man can take. But this does not mean there is something
physically wrong with you or your male anatomy.
Premature ejaculation is different from erectile
dysfunction.
If you suffer from PE, your sexual response cycle is still If you can last one
minute in bed,
fully functioning. The only difference between you and
with the right
the guy who can go the distance is that you go through practice and
strategy, you can
the entire stimulation process in double quick time. What last any amount of
takes a guy 10 minutes to go from arousal to full orgasm time you like…
probably takes you just 1 or 2 minutes from start to finish.
In other words, your only problem lies in lasting through

the cycle. It also means that if you can last one minute in
bed, with the right endurance practice and conditioning,
you can last any amount of time you like!
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Myth 3: Desensitizers Are A Great Way To Beat

Premature Ejaculation
I am sure you have heard about this before. Guys who

want to last long will resort to numbing sprays, creams or
ointments to kick start their sex sessions. While this is
one way to last longer, I would not recommend this
approach.
Why?
Well, as the name implies, these will "numb" or

desensitize your pleasures during intercourse and reduce
your enjoyment. More importantly, the basic factors for
your premature ejaculation syndrome are not addressed
at all. Without these "aids", you will NOT be able to last
the distance.
Myth 4: Mind Distraction Tricks Will Boost Your

Stamina
This is another fallacy that has no scientific basis. “Mental

manipulation” may
Thinking about mathematical problems; indulging in a work for some
mental game of football; imagining having sex with a big, guys, but they
essentially take
fat, ugly mammoth. away the
pleasures of
sex…
Think about this for a moment…
What is the purpose of having sex if you are going to

avoid the pleasure by putting your mind somewhere else?
There are a number of 'experts' who would advise you to
think about other things during sex so that you can avoid
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a premature ejaculation. This is NOT the best solution,

and hardly practical at all if you truly want to enjoy sex.
Myth 5: Porn Actors Are Born With Super

Endurance
Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. In fact

It is what you do
studies have shown that even the most sexually active to address the
situation - not
men will experience PE once in a while. Adult movie what you’re born
actors are no different. Even though they have better with - that affects
how long you can
stamina than the average man, most of them do not start last in bed…
out that way. That they are able to last for what seems
like an eternity is due to natural training and
conditioning techniques – and I will share these with you
in a moment.
Remember… it is what you DO, not what you are born

with, that affects how long you last in bed.
Get yourself acquainted with these myths and

misconceptions about premature ejaculation.
That is the first important step towards banishing PE

from the bedroom and watching your sex life take a turn
towards greatness!
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Chapter 3
Understanding
Male Sexuality
Without a proper understanding of how your
body responds to sexual stimulation, you will
never be able to control how soon you ejaculate
during sex.
The first step towards controlling your

ejaculation is to become fully aware of the
different levels of sexual arousal. When you are
able to pin point the sensations as you approach
an orgasm, you will be in a better position to
control your arousal levels - and consequently,
your ejaculation - before it is too late.
The Phases of Male Sexual Response
A man’s sexual response cycles can be differentiated Becoming aware

through 4 distinct phases: of your own
sexual arousal is
the first key step
towards beating
1. The phase of excitement premature
2. The plateau stage ejaculation…
3. The orgasm
4. Final resolution - a return to the pre orgasmic
state
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This concept was originally explained by sex researchers

William Masters and Virginia Johnson ("Masters and
Johnson") in the 1950s. It is important that we take a
look at these phases in greater detail.
Stage #1 - Excitement
This is marked by an erection of the penis. It may be

triggered by a number of factors - notably physical
stimulation, sights or even erotic thoughts. The erection
can come about in a matter of seconds. A smaller penis
will usually experience a more dramatic change in size
compared to a larger one when it is erect. The erection
occurs because there is an increased flow of blood into
the erectile tissues in the male anatomy.
When there is an erection, other subtle changes also

occur in a man’s body. This is the basic response a man
will experiences as a result of sexual stimulation. Other
muscle groups will contract during this time. Some men
also experience changes in the breasts, although this is
not common. Some may even experience a sort of reddish
rash all over the body during the initial stages of arousal.
This is perfectly normal and nothing really to worry about.
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A man will also experience changes in the scrotum and

the testicles during this time. The skin may thicken and
the whole scrotum may elevate. The cord that holds the
testicles may shorten and gets pulled closer to the body.
One testicle may rise faster towards the body than the
other.
Stage #2 - Plateau
The excitement of a man usually peaks during the initial The “plateau”
stage holds the
phase itself. There is little difference that takes place in key to lasting as
the penis during the plateau phase. The only difference long as you
desire…
that occurs during this stage is that the penis head may
deepen in color and increase in diameter by up to 50
percent. The scrotum and the epididymis will also tighten
in response.
During this time, the breathing rate increases and so does

the heart rate. The man also experiences an increase in
the blood pressure levels. There is further tightening of
the muscles - both voluntary and involuntary. There may
be spasms along the abdomen and ribs, and even the face.
The buttocks may also tighten and this may further
increase a man’s arousal.
During this phase, there is often a slight discharge from

the penis. This is the result of the stimulation of the
Cowper’s glands. This discharge is often called the pre-
cum. It is different from the semen that is ejaculated
during ejaculation, but it still contains thousands of
sperms all the same. So, a woman may become pregnant
even if this enters her vagina.
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Anyone can see that there are differences in the stages of

arousal, but the basic rationale is the same. It happens
when there is an increase in the tensions of the different
muscles and the increased blood supply to the different
(sexual and non-sexual) organs. This arousal peaks when
there is an orgasm.
Stage #3 - Orgasm
The primary indications of an orgasm are the tightening

of muscles throughout the body and the ejaculation. A
man also experiences a euphoric feeling, especially at the
lower abdominal muscles. This feeling lasts throughout
the phase of ejaculation. The spasms may last for around
4/5th of a second and subside after the initial burst.
The process of ejaculation is a complex one. Fluid that

contains millions of sperms is accumulated in the
ampullae. These are organs that contain the testicles.
When these contract, they throw out the fluid. The
prostrate also contracts and sends the fluid into the
urethra. A bulb-like structure present near the base of the
penis will increase in size. When there are contractions in
this bulb, fluid is expelled at great force. Older men will
experience contractions that are weaker in general. It is
also noted that the urethra will undergo minor
contractions even after the ejaculation is apparently over.
These are very obvious changes that take place in the

penis. However, there are changes that are less obvious.
There is an increase in the blood pressure and the pulse
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rate. There is also an increase in the sex flush. The

different muscles may also respond in a different manner.
For instance, a man may frown or grimace during these
moments. There may also be muscular contractions in
the legs and arms and both the man and his female
partner may grasp each other tightly. Most men are
unaware of these subtle changes in their bodies and it is
common that some guys may experience muscle aches
the following day.
Stage #4 - Resolution
One of the basic functions of an orgasm is the release of

muscular tensions and blood pressure. The penis goes
back to the limp stage and the testicles also descend to
their normal state. The breathing and pulse rate also go
down.
An important part of the resolution phase relates to the The “refractory

refractory period. This is the time between two erections - period” advantage
gives men
a period when a man cannot be stimulated. Young men improved
stamina… by
usually have shorter refractory times - often less than half going for a
an hour. In older men, this may last at least a few hours. second round!
On average, men experience refractory periods that last

for an hour. Women are more fortunate in this regard!
Since most women do not ejaculate, they do not have a
refractory period and may experience another orgasm
within a few minutes if they receive the right stimulation.
That is how they become multi orgasmic!
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Getting To Know Thyself
Another approach to portray the male sexual response

involves breaking down the cycles into ten specific stages,
using a pleasure scale of one to ten (instead of just 4
phases). This is the approach we will use in this book as
it allows you to accurately identify and isolate each stage.
This is particularly useful when it comes to controlling
your arousal levels.
This pleasure scale is really simple and straightforward:
Pleasure Scale
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Safe Zone Ejaculation Inevitability
The most important thing you can do about your sexual

arousal is to learn how to monitor and measure it, using
the above Pleasure Scale.
Why is this important? Every man is unique. You need to

learn how to read yourself so that you know exactly where
you are during the throes of sexual ecstasy. When you
discover where your arousal level lies and what causes the
excitement, you can indulge in all the pleasures of sex
while prolonging your enjoyment and that of your
partner. This is absolutely vital for stopping premature
ejaculation in its tracks.
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Here are the 10 distinct stages of arousal a man goes

through during sex, as well as an understanding of the
processes involved in each.
Stage 1 - You are starting off with feelings of excitement.

This is the beginning of sexual arousal although there is
no erection yet.
Stage 2 - You start to develop the physical signs of

excitement, namely a flushed appearance and an
increased heartbeat. This is usually during foreplay, for
example, when you engage in kissing, touching or
caressing.
Stage 3 - There is some contact with your penis, and it

can occur through stimulation from your partner’s hands,
oral sex or during intercourse
Stage 4 – Your sexual arousal and excitement continues

to rise
Stage 5 – You are already well into intercourse
Stage 6 – You’ve moved pass the mid-point on the

pleasure scale. You’re already fully aroused, with your
breathing and heart rate escalating.
Stage 7 - You begin to peak in your excitement. This is

the beginning of the "point of no return", or PNR.
This is also known as the “ejaculation inevitability”.
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Stage 8 - Your muscles start contracting, with face

flushing and the whole body starting to arch in pleasure
Stage 9 - This is the final point just before your pleasure

peaks. Usually at this point, there is NO turning back, and
there is NO way you can “will” yourself back to ground
zero. Ejaculation is IMMINENT.
Stage 10 – The final point where orgasm and ejaculation

occur, followed by a refractory period where you
temporarily go “limp” and cannot get an erection
These are the 10 basic stages of a man's sexual arousal.

An understanding of these different stages will come in
handy when you start doing the targeted exercises in the
second part of this book.
With some practice, you will know exactly when you By understanding
your own unique
reach the different stages and how they feel like. Only “pleasure scale”,
when you gain a better understanding of your own you will gain
better control over
arousal levels, can you start to achieve better control over your ejaculation…
your ejaculation.
The Two Stages Of Cumming
As you’ve learned earlier, there are many obvious signs

that lead up to a male orgasm.
For example:
- Your breathing rate escalates
- Your heart rate goes up
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- Certain muscle groups in your body begin to

tighten, most notably your abdominal, thigh,
buttock and pelvic muscles
- Your testicles will elevate and move closer towards
your body
While most men clearly enjoy the “ooh” and “aah”

moments of an orgasm, what most of us don’t know is
that the male orgasm consists of two separate and
distinct stages. Let’s take a quick look below.
Emission Stage: Also known as the “point of no return”

or “ejaculation inevitability”, the emission phase is
characterized by seminal fluid entering the urethra - the
tube that is responsible for carrying semen and urine
through your penis and out of it. The prostate gland
releases the semen which builds up in the bulb of the
urethra. This is akin to a gun with the bullets fully loaded
and the firing mechanisms ready to trigger.
Expulsion Stage: The emission gives way to expulsion.

Rhythmic contractions of the PC (or pubococcygeus)
muscles propel semen through the urethra and out of the
penis glans.
The very muscles that result in the release of semen are

also the same ones that give you the great erotic pleasure
during sex.
Thus one of the keys to lasting longer - as you would later

discover - is to tone up and strengthen the PC muscles so
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that you develop the ability to completely relax these

muscles AT WILL.
More On The “Point Of No Return”
The orgasm cycles of a man are different from that of a

woman. Women do not experience the Point of No
Return” (PNR) and the Refractory Period - two distinct
phases that a man will go through during sex.
The PNR, as mentioned earlier, is the point where

ejaculation becomes inevitable. Even if you stop thrusting
and stay clear of all forms of stimulation, you will still
come.
The PNR is seen as both a blessing and a curse. It gives

you an impending great pleasure, but once the semen
goes into the penis shaft, there is no way you can stop the
climax. Her granny could walk into the room, and you'd
still be primed to blow your load off.
After ejaculation, you go into the Refractory Phase, where

you will stay “limp” and unable to achieve an erection.
Depending on various factors such as your age and
overall physical well-being, this Refractory Phase can
stretch anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 or 3 hours. In
layman terms, your penis basically needs to take a
break :-)
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Exercise: Understanding Your Arousal Patterns
This is the first practical, hands-on section of this

program. It is a simple, exploratory exercise centered
around masturbation to help you better understand your
own levels of sexual arousal.
1. Start Right: You a need a good, silent place to begin.

Your bedroom should be ideal, but a locked bathroom is
okay too! Sit on a chair and start to stimulate your penis.
Do not rely on pornography, lubrication or your partner
when doing this.
2. Feel The Difference: Once your penis is erect, shift

your mind to the feelings you are experiencing. Are you
breathing faster? When does your heartbeat go up?
Which muscles are you clenching when the arousal peaks?
These questions will help you identify the subsequent
stages of your arousal. Build it up slowly, so that you can
identify each stage individually.
3. Build It Up: Continue stimulation and note the

different feelings you experience at each stage. For
instance, what are the sensations you feel in your head,
stomach or arms? Your transition between the different
stages of arousal should be slow and well marked out.
The point is to become very familiar with the different
levels of arousal you are going through, so that you can
keep yourself confined to one when you feel like it.
4. Take Your Time: It may not easy to determine the

different stages right away. Take your time. Concentrate
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on identifying the stages initially and then the feelings

you experience at each stage. This will help you control
your sexual responses better.
5. Understanding Your Peak: Try and find out when

your ejaculation occurs - the “point of no return”. How
long does this take? Can you identify the exact feelings
you get just before you come? Finding out all these points
is the purpose of the whole masturbation exercise.
Most men may find it difficult to identify the thin line

between an “arousal plateau” and the “point of no return”.
This is because the transition may take place within a
fraction of a second.
But with repeated practice you will begin identify the

stages better. This will help you become more conscious
about what gets you going and more importantly, how
you can control your arousal and last longer.
Once you understand how your body works, you’re in a

better position to develop greater control and improve
your endurance in between the sheets.
There is more…
So we’ve reached the end of Part One of this book. We’ve

come a long way in learning about the fundamental
concepts of premature ejaculation, myths and
misconceptions, as well as how your sexual response
cycle works.
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Part Two awaits… and this is where the excitement really

begins - excuse the pun :-)
Keep the lessons and concepts you’ve learned here, and

I’ll see in you Part Two. This is where the rubber hits the
road - you’ll learn techniques that masterful lovers use to
last like a stallion in bed.
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P a rt 2
Techniques Of
The Masters
This is where the REAL action starts.
Here I’ll give you all the tools and knowledge

you need to begin re-training and re-wiring
your mind and body so that you can revel in
longer lasting sex, and at the same time, give
your partner an erotic experience she never
thought was possible.
This is basically a “techniques section”, so be

ready and get some target practice going!
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Chapter 4
Empower The Mind

The biggest sex organ in our bodies lies NOT in between
our leg, but in between our ears. Most people think that
our bodies play the main role during sex, but in fact it’s
our minds that control most of what happens (or doesn’t
happen) when we have sex with another person.
The body, after all, is controlled by the

brain - our minds rule our physical selves.
Take control of your mind and you can take
control of your body. Nowhere is this more
useful or productive than when a man
suffers from premature ejaculation and
wishes to solve it.
Almost every guy has experienced PE, especially as a

young man. Sex is very exciting, and when you get over-
Your mind plays
stimulated, you simply lose it. Since you really do screw the biggest role in
controlling how
with your brain and not the delivery system between your soon you come
legs, you need to train your brain not to get overly during
intercourse…
aroused.
Instituting The Right Mental Input
Did you know that your mind controls about 75% of

premature ejaculation? If you can manage to control at
least a part of your mind, you will be able to last much
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longer in bed. The part of your brain that is called the

cortex influences your ejaculation to a large extent. So the
next time you get excited when you see something erotic,
you know it is your cortex that is largely at work!
It naturally follows that any amount of control you can

exert on this cortex can help you last longer. For instance,
if thinking erotic thoughts gets you aroused, then
thinking about something relaxing will always calm you.
We all know that a relaxed mind causes your body to

relax as well, and this can do wonders to extend your time
during sex.
Here are several techniques for overcoming mental

barriers to sexual endurance. This will help rein in your
sexual arousal and keep it in check (these are not your
usual “mind distraction” tricks that many men use).
Focus On Sensuality, NOT Sexuality
Much of a man's inability to hold back an ejaculation Many guys go

stems from psychological or confidence-related issues. thrusting right out
of the gate and let
The very thoughts that run though your mind during sex their arousal
escalate without
will affect your sexual endurance. Some guys allow the
control - a surefire
sensations of intercourse to rule over their head and that way to climax
quickly…
is a quick and surefire way to blow early.
You must learn how to control your arousal right from

the beginning. This can be achieved by focusing NOT on
intercourse but on the entire sexual experience.
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This is a huge difference…
To develop mental or arousal control, you need to focus

on the ALL the sensations you experience and GIVE
during sex, and not just focusing on how you feel in your
own genitals.
For example...
Focus On Pleasing Her, FIRST
To hold off an early climax, try to prolong foreplay. This Women are
“emotional
will give you time to get relaxed and comfortable. And it’s beings” - they are
great for women too. Many women complain about their biologically wired
differently from
men skipping foreplay altogether, so focusing on pleasing men. To get her in
the mood, you
her before intercourse can only be a good thing.
need to focus on
HER first…
You’ll see that after a few minutes, you’ll be much calmer

and relaxed. Plus, your partner will be much more turned
on than if you had just skipped foreplay and gone straight
to penetrative sex. With the right amounts of foreplay,
sex becomes much more pleasurable when you begin
penetration.
Release Your Past “Sexual Baggage”
What you did in the past does not define what will
happen next time. You see, it is very easy to panic and get
anxious just before sex. You may find yourself reliving
your past sexual experiences where you came early and
ended the sex before it even got started.
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Here’s what you should do instead: let go of those

embarrassing experiences and focus on the present.
Your sexual encounters in the past DO NOT dictate what
will happen the next time you have sex. YOU dictate it.
Stay Away From Mental Distraction Tactics
Sex is meant to be pleasurable. So don’t do what so many

guys do by thinking of baseball statistics or visualizing
math problems in an attempt to distract yourself from the
pleasure in order to increase the time you can last in bed.
Instead, stay relaxed and in the moment. As soon as the

stimulation gets too intense, back off and relax. This will
help you manage your arousal better.
Re-Position Your Mind
Mind re-positioning refers to adjusting your perspectives

about premature ejaculation. For example, instead of
thinking about PE as a problem, why not think of it as an
opportunity?
Often times, premature ejaculation is the result of being

too preoccupied with your own shortcomings, especially
with regards to your sexual performance. It can lead to a
“vicious cycle” spiraling out of control.
Instead of looking at premature ejaculation as a curse, see

it that you are blessed with a responsive sexual system…
something that men with erectile dysfunction would die
to have!
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1- Introduction To Sexual Seduction ................................................................ 4
Chapter 2- How To Become A Chick Magnet ................................................................. 6
Chapter 3- Using Psychology To Attract ....................................................................... 11
Chapter 4- Seduction Situations.................................................................................... 17
Chapter 5- Sense Of Humor Is Important .................................................................... 20
Chapter 6- Secrets To Make Her Want You ................................................................. 23
Chapter 7- How Do Women Think? ............................................................................. 26
Chapter 8- Mystery Method Of Seduction ................................................................... 28
Chapter 9- Sun Signs And Seduction ........................................................................... 32
Chapter 10- Seduction Myths ........................................................................................37
Chapter 11- Conclusion .................................................................................................. 41
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Chapter 1 - Introduction to Sexual Seduction
Seduction is an art where a man knowingly lures or attracts a woman. Sure there
can be other combinations or it could be the other way around, but this book was
written for straight guys. Seduction is the procedure through which you can tempt
or charm a lady to make her fall for you. Seduction is very often referred to as the
application of sexual desire with the main objective to charm or attract a lady to
do what the seducer wants her to do. As I am sure you know, it is not necessary
for men to be in love with the women in order to seduce them. Sexual
attractiveness is the main factor which influences a man to seduce a woman.
A person can make use of different types of techniques to seduce the women that
they are attracted to. Of course, the techniques used will be dependent on the
traits of the woman and the situation that you are in. There are quite a number of
social behavior theorists who are of the opinion that seduction is a unique type of
persuasion. Some even describe seduction as a power that depends on
psychological mastery instead of intellectual appeals, money or fame.
If you want to sleep with someone then you need to produce a situation where the
woman that you are attracted to, will be attracted in return – attracted so strongly
that she will act on her feelings right now, tonight. What should you do to
produce this situation? You need to seduce the woman so that she will not be able
to help herself but fall in lust with you. The main thing you need to remember
about seduction is that you have to enhance your sexual attractiveness. If a
woman does not find you sexually attractive then there is no way she is going to
sleep with you. But that does not mean you have to be great looking. Unlike most
men, women are not attracted so much by looks as by other factors.
You should know that the ladies are quite picky about the men that they sleep
with. Other things being equal, it is usually harder for a man to seduce a woman
than it is for a woman to seduce a man. As a result, men need more tips and
advice on seduction as compared to women. In general, women are different than
men, they think differently and they have different values. Most men do not know
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the right way to hold a conversation with women. Even if they do, they may not
know what they should and should not talk about with a woman that they want to
seduce.
The seduction techniques for different women are different. One technique may
work for a particular woman but it may not work for another woman. To know
which techniques to use, you should first find out about the personality of the lady
and her way of thinking. To make her attracted to you, you need to make yourself
attractive to her first.
In this e-book, you are going to learn about the ways and techniques that you can
use to seduce women. In addition, you will also find out what you should and
should not do when you are right there with the lady.
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Chapter 2 - How To Become A Chick Magnet
Have you spent quite some time in your life trying to think of a way to attract
women to you? If you have learnt anything about women from your endeavors
then you can call yourself a psychologist now. There is a branch of study that is
dedicated to discovering or finding out the type of men that most women opt for.
In general the people who undertake these studies do not take into account the
materialistic factors, such as money, that may attract women to men. The study is
about psychology and how it affects seduction.
In recent research from Japan and Britain, it was found that the factors that
influence seduction are not just how a guy smells or looks. The study reported
that women are aware of the fact that good-looking guys may not be a good choice
for a long-term relationship, which is what most women are looking for, deep
down. They consider that handsome men are unreliable, more likely to be
unfaithful and only good for short-term relationships.
In addition, this study reported that given a free choice, the type of man a woman
opts for depends on her point in the menstrual cycle. It found that during the
period of ovulation, women preferred fit, macho type men (who are likely to make
strong, healthy babies) and for the rest of the days, they opted for less macho men
who might be thought to make better long term partners. So, if you‟re not a
macho type of guy, you have a great chance of getting any girl, 75% of the time.
However, it is also thought that a woman‟s cycle makes her more attractive to
men at the time of ovulation. So there is a danger that if you always go for the
girls who attract you the most at a subconscious level, you will pick out the girls
who are ovulating and are not going to pick you tonight. Instead, you need to be
aware of who is looking at you a lot, and choose those girls right now.
You can hugely boost your „score‟ by always picking girls who are attracted to you.
You just have to take a few simple steps to increase their numbers and, most
importantly, have the confidence to believe that in any room, there will be some
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women who are attracted to you – no matter what you look like. Once you have
that confidence and belief, it is just a matter of finding them.
Besides, if you want to attract and make women fall for you then you should ooze
confidence and appear to be cool – not in the sense of following fashion, but
emotionally. Be happy, content to be who you are and where you are right now, be
friendly to both men and women, and do not react with anger or sulks to setbacks
but accept life as it comes.
Think about the guys you know. Do you know some guys who are like that, always
happy, laid back and optimistic? Do they have trouble getting girls? I bet they
don‟t.
So if you are out with a woman or just cruising in a nightclub or at a party, do not
show your temper. This will destroy the „top guy‟ image that you have created for
yourself.
For this reason it is important not to drink too much when you are „hunting‟. Sure
you can have a drink or two, but don‟t get drunk. Keep that for the times when
you‟re watching the game with the boys. A lot of guys mix up the two and have
nights out with the guys where they drink a lot, go to a club and try to pick up
girls. That‟s a big mistake. Keep your drinking nights separate from your picking
up nights.
Attracting and seducing women is not a difficult job at all if you know what you
are doing. Everything depends on how you think and what you think. You need to
set your unconscious mind so that it follows whatever instructions you give it.
When you tell your unconscious mind that you are the type of guy that women go
crazy over then you will find that you are filled with confidence and sex appeal.
When you do this, you will subconsciously believe that you are a chick magnet
and there is nothing that can stop the women from getting attracted to you.
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Our mind plays a very important role in the seduction process. Now let us see
how it works.
First, tell yourself that you have the power and confidence to get any girl. Say this
to yourself every time you look in a mirror, at least three times a day. Tell yourself
that you are a very confident person with massive sex appeal. Say it out loud and
smile while you say it.
Don‟t skip this step. These kind of positive affirmations are something many
people skip because they feel stupid, but that stupid feeling is exactly what you
need to get rid of.
Affirmations work. You will be a chick magnet as soon as women believe that you
already are a chick magnet. Women will believe that you already are a chick
magnet as soon as you believe it yourself. It‟s that simple. Once you believe this
100%, you will find that women will not be able to take their hands off you.
There is a particular unconscious region in our brain that functions 24/7 forming
our beliefs about ourselves from the thoughts that we have. You may be surprised
to know that our beliefs about ourselves do not depend on what happens to us –
they depend on the thoughts we have about what happens to us, our own reaction
to the events of our lives. You do not need to change any of the circumstances of
your life to change yourself into this happy, laid back guy. You just need to think
positively (look for the positive in the circumstances and events of your life) and
take charge of your life by never blaming other people for things that happen to
you.
This doesn‟t mean you start blaming yourself either – but just accept what
happens, if is something you cannot change.
For example imagine your phone is stolen in the street. You can take action
(chase after the guy, or call the police) but let‟s say your action does not succeed
and you lose the phone. You might get real angry and curse the ******* who stole
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your phone with everyone you know. You might curse the friend who „made you‟
walk up that street. Both of these are ways of blaming others for what has
happened to you. Or, you might curse yourself for having your phone in your
hand in the street or being the type of guy that these things always happen to –
these are ways of blaming yourself.
The confident guy would say, “I don‟t have my phone – that‟s a bummer. Oh well,
I guess now I have to get that new model that I wanted.” Or, “Maybe this is life‟s
way of telling me I need to cut back on pizzas, because that‟s what I‟m going to
have to do in order to afford a new phone.”
The guy who thinks this way is the type of guy that women adore. So, all you have
to do to become the type of guy that women adore, is change your mind.
Confidence plays a huge role in the seduction process. A man is confident if he is

successful and happy in life. When men have these two important aspects of life,
they do not feel the need of women. Such men do not care about rejection because
they know that when one door closes, another opens. It is because of their
happiness and success that they are able to handle rejection well. In very simple
words, we can say that a man is considered as a chick magnet if he is both
successful and happy in life.
How many guys do you know who are unhappy or unsuccessful but can attract
women?
None!
Women do not like men who are unsuccessful in life. They would most definitely
not be drawn toward those men who are unhappy with their lives.
Now the question is: how can you become happy and successful in life?
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True, it is not easy to achieve success and happiness but remember that both of
these things are relative. Happiness is a feeling that everybody has from time to
time and it is actually very simple to find things to be happy about in almost any
situation, if that‟s what you are looking for.
While you can also define your own success (you can set your own goals, and if
you meet them, you are successful) success is a little different because other
people‟s definition of it will come into play. However, there are certain factors
that will make you appear to be successful on your own terms so that you can be a
true chick magnet.
These things are as follows:
- Be generous. Women do not like men who are stingy.

- Be very optimistic.
- Approach a woman without the fear of rejection. If you are rejected then
it‟s not a problem. It doesn‟t have to hurt you or diminish your confidence.
She may have been wildly attracted to you but had personal reasons for not
wanting to go home with you tonight. Anyway there is nothing you can do
to change the fact so get over it – fast.
- Mentally tell yourself that you are a great and confident guy.
- A smile does not cost you any thing. So put a smile on your face all the time.
- Women prefer men who have a great sense of humor. So make sure that
you know what to say and how to behave in front of women.
- Have faith and believe that you can do it.
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Chapter 3 - Using Psychology To Attract
Attraction is simply a positive feeling that one person has for another. It can be in
the form of admiration, love, friendship or lust. The factors that influence one
person to be attracted to another are similarity, physical attractiveness, proximity
and reciprocity.
Similarity
This means having things in common. You can boost this by picking up on things
she says and forming connections. For example, if she says she likes a certain film
and you like it too, say so, because that‟s a similarity that will increase your
attractiveness.
Don‟t make the mistake of telling lies here because she will subconsciously pick
them up and they will have the opposite effect. If you didn‟t like the film, choose
something else to form your similarity. Maybe you like one of the actors who was
in it. With practice you can become very skilled at picking out and focusing on
these similarities.
Physical attractiveness
Although you cannot control what type of guy a particular woman finds attractive,
you can make the most of yourself. Be clean, spend some time and money on your
haircut, wear the kind of clothes that girls find attractive.
Being in good health is attractive but don‟t worry too much if you are a little
overweight, if you are short, stuff like that. Some girls like these things, and many
others will not care if you make the most of what you have.
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Proximity
Within reason, a girl will be attracted to someone who is close by, or someone
that she sees often. If you see the same girl on your way to work each day and you
notice her looking at you, you have a great chance with her. In a club, moving
around the room will help you get closer to more girls than if you stay in one place.
When she has had a chance to notice you, get talking to her.
Reciprocity
This simply means that we tend to like the people who like us. This is also true of
attraction. Don‟t be afraid to show that you are attracted to a girl, because it will
increase her interest in you.
Of course, don‟t pursue someone who has shown that she is definitely not
interested. To have a chance with her, accept her „no‟ right away, stop focusing on
her and go talk to someone else, but try again another day.
These are the basics of the psychological factor in attraction.
There is another principle of psychology that you should know about and can use
to your advantage. This is the classification of personalities. You can learn what to
talk about and how to behave with women who have different personality types.
Personality can be categorized into three types:
1. Kinesthetic – focusing on touch. These women are likely to use a lot of

touch-related words in their speech. This includes the word „feel‟. So
somebody who says „it feels like‟ a lot could be a kinesthetic personality.
These women will react well to being touched in a friendly way, sooner
than others. You can give her a squeeze or touch her arm – she will enjoy
that and may respond by returning your touch.
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2. Visual – focusing on sight. These people will say things like „it looks like‟
and „I see what you mean‟.
You will do well with these women by focusing on the visual. Admire their
clothing and jewelry, or point out things you like about the appearance and
décor of the place that you are in. She will feel that you are a like mind if
you do this.
3. Auditory – focusing on sound and hearing. These people will say „I hear
you‟ and „did you hear about …‟.
To start a conversation with these women, ask what type of music they like,
or say they have a beautiful voice or a lovely laugh. You can also do well
with them if you are able to pick up on nuances of tone of voice – which
you will do naturally if you are an auditory personality yourself.
You will have a huge advantage over other guys if you can pick up on these
personality types and respond in the right way to them. For example, if you ask a
visual type woman what music she likes, you will probably leave her cold. But ask
her about film and you could have a great conversation that leads to the bedroom.
In order to pick up what personality type a woman is within a few minutes or

seconds of meeting her, you will need some practice. Start by noticing the forms
of speech that your friends use, and classifying them.
Then consider yourself. You will naturally get on fine with women who are the
same personality type as you, so it is important to know what that is. Record a
casual conversation that you are having and analyse it, or consider other factors –
do you enjoy stroking a cat, you do love art, do you love music. Do not decide too
quickly because you probably have preconceived ideas about what you would like
to be, that may not be true. Observe yourself as you have been observing your
friends.
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You will probably find that you are the same type as many of your friends, so the
next step will be to get practiced at making friendly conversation with people of
other types. You need to learn to converse with them as if you were their type, so
that they are more attracted to you. You will probably find these people in your
place of work and in other situations where people are more randomly grouped.
It will not come naturally to you to say „I feel …‟ or „I see what you mean‟ or „I hear
you‟ if those words do not fit your personality type. You will be uncomfortable at
first, so it is very important practice with casual acquaintances before you start
using this technique on attractive women. After a while you may find that you are
suddenly making friends with unexpected people, you are more popular at work
than you ever dreamed possible, and the woman in the grocery store is crazy
about you – then you know it‟s working, and you can get out there and start using
the technique for real.
When you talk with a girl in the way she prefers then you will find her opening up
to you. It won‟t be long before she becomes physically attracted to you. The
reason for the rapid attraction lies in the fact that the woman you are with starts
to picture you as her soul mate subconsciously. When she begins to see you as her
soul mate, you will no longer be a stranger to her. She feels that she has known
you all her life and that you can understand her totally.
Avoid these psychological mistakes
Some men have the tendency to make mistakes in the psychology of seduction.
Let us look at some of the common MISTAKES which most men make and what
you should do to avoid them:
1. Trying to act as an extremely nice guy: women do not get physically

attracted to you because you are nice. They get attracted to you because
you are confident, optimistic and successful. Be clear about the difference
between being happy and being nice.
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2. Trying to argue a woman into liking you: if a woman is not interested in

you then do not use words to try to persuade her to like you. It does not
happen and no matter what you say or do, it most definitely will not make
a woman fall for you. It is simply not possible for you to persuade a woman
to become attracted to you. If she is not interested then the only way you
can change that is to genuinely forget her and get lots of other women
interested in you. When you do that, she may change her mind, but only
when you no longer care either way. So move on.
3. Waiting for her permission or approval: many men wait for approval or ask
for a woman‟s permission before they do certain things. For example, they
may ask if they can kiss her, insist that she chooses where to go on a date
rather than making a suggestion, or even wait for women to approach
them in a bar. They think that by doing what the woman wants them to do,
they can win her over. In fact she will see this as a sign that the man lacks
confidence. Most women do not find it attractive at all to be asked for their
permission all the time. Many will even be irritated by it.
However, this does not mean that you have to ill-treat her. Just be normal.
If it feels like the right moment to kiss her, then kiss her. Be confident:
don‟t be afraid of rejection. In the unlikely event that she doesn‟t like it
that you kissed her, apologize and wait a while before trying again. It‟s no
big deal.
4. Trying to purchase her affection: if you think that you can win over her by
taking her out to dinner or showering her with expensive gifts then you are
very wrong. In the worst case, if you make her feel that she owes you sex
because you bought her dinner, you are treating her like a cheap prostitute.
If you are simply trying to impress her, then it doesn‟t matter what
something cost. She will love receiving your gifts if she likes you, regardless
of their value, just because they are a sign of your affection. But a woman
who is not attracted to you will not change just because of an expensive gift.
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5. Telling her your feelings too soon: if you claim to be in love with a woman
at first sight, or say anything that suggests that, she will probably run a
mile. She will either think you shallow, or she will think you are lying to get
into her pants. It is well known belief found in all women‟s magazines that
most guys‟ affections change pretty fast and a guy who falls in love easily,
falls out of it easily too. Never express your feelings in the beginning of the
relationship.
6. Believing that women only fall for looks: we covered this already, but it is
worth repeating. If you think you need plastic surgery to make women fall
for you then you couldn‟t be more wrong. Don‟t waste your money – a new
nose will not get you one extra date. The way that you communicate with
her and behave toward her is way more important. By using these two
elements, you can make yourself sexually attractive to women, whatever
you look like.
7. Being inflexible: some guys have a set pickup line and procedure that they
use in all circumstances, on the grounds that it worked for them once. If
you do this you may have a success now and then but you will fail with
most women because you cannot adapt your technique to the individual
woman and the circumstances. Learn to vary your technique according to
her personality type and the information that she gives you in conversation,
and your success rate will increase.
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Chapter 4 - Seduction Situations
No matter how „modern‟ we have become, it is still better for men to approach
women instead of the other way round. Dating techniques and society may have
changed but most modern women still prefer to be pursued. If you want to learn
the art of seduction then you should be able to hold romantic conversations, have
a good command of language, look confident and know the right way to flirt.
When you talk with a woman, you will get some idea about her personality and it
is through this idea that you can find out the speed at which you should move
forward with her. Always focus your attention on the woman that you are with.
Look at her body language. Is it open, or has she closed herself off from you with
folded arms or crossed legs? Is her body turned toward you or away? Is she
copying your posture or doing something different? You will know from her body
language whether the lady in question is interested in you.
When you first meet a woman that you are attracted to, it can give rise to three
situations:
1. You only have few minutes to attract and seduce her. Let us assume that
you have met this really attractive woman in a coffee shop and you want to
attract her. In such a situation, you should say or act in a certain way that
would draw her toward you. If you are unable to do that then she would be
gone from your life forever. The most important thing to do in this
situation is to develop a bond with her and make yourself trustworthy so
that she can trust you. Women would never go for men whom they don‟t
trust so it is necessary to make yourself trustworthy. Do this quickly by
creating a connection between you – see the section on similarity in the
previous chapter. Since you don‟t have much time here, you need to
undertake rapid actions such as asking her out for a date at that moment
or asking her for her email address or phone number.
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2. You have a few hours to attract and seduce her. This might be at a dinner
party or a one-day event, or when you meet a woman on a plane. This
situation is better than situation one because here you at least have a few
hours which you can use to draw her toward you. Still, you need to win her
over rapidly. See the stages of seduction in the next section and move
through them as quickly as you can. Make real good use of your time. Talk
to her and attract her toward you by using your body language and
conversation skill.
3. You have a few days or weeks to attract and seduce her. If you are in this
situation then you can take your time to woo her and then seduce her.
Women you work with or neighbors would fall into this category but a lot
of guys prefer not to seduce those women because of the complications
that can mess up that area of your life afterward. So a better example of
this situation would be a woman who works in a local store, or someone
you meet on vacation or at a 3-day conference. You will meet her on
several different occasions and you can move through the different stages
over a longer period of time.
Now that you know the different situations of seduction, you should be aware
of the different stages of creating a bond with her.
Stage 1: Overcome the awkwardness by indulging in light and informal

conversation so that the two of you can understand each other. Create a
connection.
Stage 2: Make yourself trustworthy and make her feel she knows you pretty
well. This is not about factual knowledge, but giving her a sense that she is
seeing the real you and can trust you to act in certain ways.
Stage 3: Have her develop sensual or romantic feelings for you. Flirt.
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Stage 4: Introduce physical touch in the relationship – not just friendly

touching which you may have done already if she is a touch-centered person,
but the kind of touching that you would only do with a woman you wanted to
seduce: holding hands, kissing, arms around her, close dancing.
Stage 5: Move to intimate touch, foreplay and sex. This usually requires
moving to another location and you should be prepared to go through all of
the earlier stages over again in the new location, right from stage one, if
necessary – though it should be much quicker this time around.
You should always know what stage you are at with any individual woman. As
soon as one stage is successfully completed, it is time to move on to the next. You
must become skilled at knowing the right time to switch to the next stage. If you
move too fast, she will be scared and reject you. If you hesitate, she will think you
are not very attracted to her.
With practice you will learn the skill of picking the right moment for the next
move. You must, however, keep the different stages in mind even in your first
attempts, so that you can learn from any mistakes.
A word about close dancing. In some situations, like a night club or party, it is
possible to do this too soon. You can often start to dance next to a girl, make eye
contact, and then ask her for a close dance before she really feels she knows you at
all. This is unwise. Unless you are very lucky, she will probably feel a little
uncomfortable about having reached this stage too fast and you will have to work
much harder at building trust later. You may end up in the real bad situation of
spending all evening on one girl, thinking you are doing great, and then have her
turn you down at the end of the night because you didn‟t build enough trust
earlier. So rather than ask her for a close dance at that early stage, talk to her on
the dance floor or if the music is too loud for that, ask if you can buy her a drink.
Even if she says no it‟s better to have her turn you down now when you can move
on to someone else, than have her dance with you now but disappear when the
club closes.
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Chapter 5 - Sense Of Humor Is Important
It has been found that women regard sense of humor as the most attractive
feature in men. Everyone wants to hang out with someone who has an excellent
sense of humor. There isn‟t a single woman who does not look for sense of humor
in men. It has also been found that if you are able to make women laugh then you
can make them do almost anything.
So if you are attracted to a woman and would like to seduce her then do what you
can to develop a great sense of humor. Make her laugh so that she can have a
great time with you. If you seem happy and relaxed this will be much easier. If
you look too serious then she will not be comfortable with you. In order to make
her feel comfortable, show her that you are confident and engage in light and
funny conversations.
When you meet a lady for the first time, there will always be some reservation
between the two of you because you do not know each other well. In order to
break the ice, a sense of humor is essential. You will find that those guys who can
make people laugh easily are able to attract more women. The reason is simply
that people feel happy when they are laughing. If a woman has to choose between
a guy who can make her laugh and a guy who is serious all the time, whom do you
think she will choose? Of course, the guy who can make her laugh!
Just keep in mind the following points when you consider how to be an amusing
guy. First, do not be funny in a way that puts you down. Remember you are a
confident guy, and confident guys do not put themselves down.
Your jokes and humor should make her laugh at life and feel happy. Don‟t make
fun of her by teasing her about her looks or anything else.
Women like men who are clever and understand the world. Guys who can be
funny without putting people down usually come across this way. I am not trying
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to say that you have to be a comedian to show your intelligence. Just show her
your sense of humor so that it will provide a positive view of your character to her.
What do you think a woman is looking for ultimately? She is looking for a guy
who has the ability to put a smile on her face – someone who can help her to
enjoy her life.
You can do this by being funny, and you can do it by having a positive view on the
world that helps you spread happiness to those around you. If she tells you about
problems that she has, listen sympathetically but do not get involved in
discussions of who is to blame for her problems or encourage her to feel angry or
depressed. You have a better chance with her if you can help her to forget about
the pressure that she may have in life.
Developing a good sense of humor requires time and practice. Moreover, you
cannot be funny at all times. There are times when you will have to be serious in
front of her. Always remember that if you try to act funny where sense of humor is
unwanted then you might as well bid goodbye to the woman forever. It is best not
to joke in the bedroom, it breaks the intensity of the mood. Humor is mainly for
the first three stages of the seduction process.
Everybody‟s sense of humor is different and what one woman finds funny may
not be funny to other women. So again, you will have a big advantage if you can
notice the kinds of things that she finds funny and take your conversation in that
direction.
Most people think that they have an excellent sense of humor but it doesn‟t mean
that everyone can tell a joke. If you are not a great joke-teller you can still be
funny in other ways. Notice when you make your friends laugh, what you said or
did to cause that. You were probably very relaxed at the time. There are a few
people who can be funny when they are nervous but most of us will be more
amusing when we are relaxed. That‟s another reason to work on feeling confident.
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There is no doubt that your seduction technique can improve enormously if you
have an excellent sense of humor. Women seem to find funny guys irresistible.
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Chapter 6 - Secrets To Make Her Want You
Okay, so there is a woman whom you really like and you would love to sleep with
her. Let‟s recap. Check out the tips given below which can help you to seduce her:
1. Do not consider yourself as unattractive. If you feel that you are not
attractive then there is no way in which you can make the woman find you
attractive. This type of thinking will influence your body language and the
way you think. Take some care over your appearance so that you feel at
your best, and start telling yourself that you are attractive.
2. Do not bore her. There are times when men tend to bore women without
even realizing that they are doing that. Never talk about your work, sports
or weather when you are with a lady, unless you know that she is truly
interested in the subject. She may listen for hours and even say she is
interested just to be polite. Then she will go home without agreeing to a
second date, and you are left wondering why. The reason is, you fell for her
pretence of interest, and ended up boring her.
If she is genuinely interested in a subject she will not just ask questions
and listen, she will have a lot to say about it. For example: if she asks you
which team you think will win the Super Bowl, she is pretending to be
interested. If she tells you which team she thinks will win, and why, then
okay, she may be interested in football.
3. Do not talk too much. If you talk constantly, you can make the lady turn
her back on you. She will either think that you are babbling because of
nervousness, or if not, she will find you boring. Try to get her talking too.
Even with the shyest woman you can do this if you help her to feel relaxed
and find out what she is really interested in.
4. Never ask too many questions: I know it is weird when you are with a
woman and have nothing to talk about. However, this does not mean that
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you have to keep asking her questions after questions. Asking a few
questions can make a conversation interesting but asking too many
questions will make the lady want to run away from you. Instead of
interrogating her, pick up on hints in what she says, that show you when
she has some real feeling about something.
A good way to do this is to repeat something she has said back to her in a
questioning tone of voice. This will encourage her to say more but it comes
across as interest rather than another question. For example:
You: “What kind of movies do you like?”
Her: “Oh, I guess … comedies mainly.”
You: “Comedies?”
Her: “Yes, like ... Meet The Parents.”
If you know that movie you now have quite a lot to talk about. You can
discuss that movie and the follow-up and think of some similar ones that
she probably likes too. Remember, you are not just chatting to pass the
time. You are building trust by creating connections and letting her see
similarities, things that the two of you share.
With this technique you must only repeat actual words that she said. If you
say “What kind of comedies?” then that is another question and she may
feel she is being interrogated.
5. Avoid questions that can have Yes or No as the answer, e.g. “Do you like
movies?” This can kill the conversation.
6. Do not treat a woman as a prize. A woman does not like the idea of being a
prize or a possession. She will not be attracted to you if she thinks you are
showing off that you are with her, or if she suspects that you will boast
about your conquest of her to your friends.
7. Try to interpret her body language. Many men do not think that it is
necessary to read the body language of the women that they are interested
in. By reading her body language you will have some idea about whether
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she is interested in you. If she is then you can carry out your seduction plan
and if she isn‟t then there are a lot of other fishes in the sea.
8. Flirting is the answer. How will a woman know that you are interested in
her if you do not give her a sign? When you flirt with her, you indirectly let
her know about your intention.
9. Be confident. Women simply cannot resist men who are confident. Do not
be afraid to approach a woman because of fear of rejection. There are
always risks in life and if you do not take the risk then you cannot reap the
benefits.
10. Make the lady feel good. If you want to attract and seduce a lady then it is
very important to make her feel good in your company. If she feels happy
in your company then it will not take a long time to attract her and then
seduce her.
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Chapter 7 - How Do Women Think?
Have you ever wondered what goes on inside the minds of women? Clearly, we
can never know for sure how somebody else thinks, and that seems even more
true with people of the opposite sex. However, there are certain ways in which
most all women think and in this chapter we are going to learn about them.
When a woman sees an extremely attractive man, or a man that she finds
extremely attractive (and you might be surprised who they are) her first thought
would be „He is so hot‟. That‟s right. Believe it. If you thought that only men could
think that way then you do not know a lot. However, seeing a hot and attractive
guy does not mean that the woman will approach him. What she will do is look at
him a lot, and watch him – his body language, his style, what he is doing and who
he is with. If she is really interested in the guy then you will find that she cannot
keep her eyes off him. If the guy in question is also interested then he will do the
approaching. So the next time you find a woman staring at you, approach her
because she will not approach you first.
Never encourage a woman to think that you are a „nice guy‟ if you are attracted to
her. Many guys do this because it makes the initial stages of the process easier –
she is happy to talk with you, for example, and it is easy to build up trust. But you
will probably find she just laughs at you when you try to move on to flirting and
touching. She is willing to be your friend but nothing more than a friend. She will
probably even go out with you in a group, but not one on one, because she is
hoping you will introduce her to other, „hotter‟ guys.
However, this does not mean that you have to be a bad guy, be aggressive or nasty
to her, or treat her badly. Just be clear in your mind that you can have as many
women as you want, and she will pick that up, and she will sit up and take notice.
The mind of a woman is such that they are attracted to guys whom they find
mysterious. Women like to unfold mysteries and they simply cannot resist the
challenge to know more about mysterious men. So don‟t answer all of her
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questions, and don‟t give her too much information. You don‟t want to satisfy her
– at least, not by talking. When it comes to information about yourself, always
leave her wanting more.
If a woman fancies you then you will know it. Like I mentioned earlier, she is
attracted to you if she cannot take her eyes off you. So if you just met a woman
and you find her eyes wandering away when you are talking, then that is a bad
sign. It probably means that she is not interested and is looking around for
someone she likes more. Make yourself more interesting by talking to another girl
instead. You may end up having the choice between the two of them.
Women are very keen creatures who simply love to notice a lot of things. They are
very interested in other people and in all kinds of relationships. If you are on a
date in a restaurant with her and she is looking around the room, don‟t worry. In
that situation she is probably just wanting to see what kind of place she is in and
who else is there, so that she can tell her friends tomorrow. Stop talking and let
her look. As soon as you are quiet, she will want to know why, and that will get
her interested in you again.
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Chapter 8 - Mystery Method Of Seduction
The „mystery method‟ of seduction is a step-by-step method which is very simple

to learn once you understand the principles of it. The mystery method considers
how men and women choose partners on the basis of their perceived value to help
them either survive or reproduce.
According to the mystery method, men are mainly looking for replication value:
that is, women who will help them reproduce. This means someone young but
fully developed physically, with wide hips for bearing his children safely, and a
nurturing type of personality that will mean she will care for the children well.
Ideally, he wants to impregnate as many of these women as possible.
Women, on the other hand, are mainly looking for survival value: that is, a man
who will ensure that the woman and her children survive. He needs to be strong
and healthy, clever and skilful at finding food and shelter (a good provider), and
able and willing to fight to protect his family. He should be someone who is
prepared to stick around to see her through the times when she cannot provide
for herself and her babies. There is no particular value to her in having a lot of
different partners, because she can only give birth to a certain number of children.
However, she will want to find the highest value partner that she can, and may
abandon a partner for one with higher value.
Although this is a very simplistic, biological view, when you look at it this way you
can immediately see why women are not as concerned about looks as you
probably thought. Your appearance is not nearly so important to her, as hers is to
you. She is more concerned about other factors, including earning power and
your personality.
The mystery method states that individuals have a powerful emotional reaction to
individuals with higher value. This is the reason why men have a powerful
reaction to extremely attractive women. It is because of this reaction that men
undergo an adrenaline rush and talk about attractive women „driving them wild‟.
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A woman who is extremely attractive would create such type of reaction in most
men. But she does not want a lot of different men who are temporarily driven
wild by her looks. She has other values. So according to the mystery method the
woman would subconsciously find a man who seems emotionally unresponsive to
her, of higher value. As a result, she will be drawn toward him.
According to this method, you should never let her know that she drives you wild.
Basically, there are three elements or components in the mystery method of

seduction and they are as follows:
1. Attract.
2. Comfort.
3. Seduce.
Each of these elements is categorized into three phases.
Let us look at the three phases of each stage of this method:
 A1 or Attract 1: In this phase, you need to start a conversation with the

woman or induce her to start one. Conversation is extremely important
and you should not take the next step unless you have engaged in a good
conversation. The A1 stage is extremely significant even though it does not
last for a long time. If you see an extremely attractive woman that you like,
proceed toward her direction to approach her. It is always recommended
that you should not walk to her from the back nor should you walk straight
in to her direction. You can walk at a 45-60 degree angle. Use dismissive
body language to start a conversation. Do not compliment or praise her at
this stage. Use short but unique lines to impress her (seem different from
the rest) instead of babbling a long story or telling her that you like her
dress.
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 A2 or Attract 2: Many men are of the opinion that getting the women
attracted to them is not simple. This is incorrect thinking because you can
attract women very easily. You simply have to make use of certain
techniques like showing higher value, alpha male traits, etc. Most of the
time, this stage takes about two to ten minutes. However, it may take up to
twenty minutes with some women. Always remember that you should not
praise her on her looks at this stage. When she shows an interest in you,
step to the next stage.
 A3 or Attract 3: This is a very significant stage. Here you must let the
woman know that you are attracted to her but not just because of her
appearance. If you let her know that you are interested in her simply
because she is beautiful then she will turn her back on you. She will think
that you are not as cool as she thought you were. Remember, every guy
since she was a teenager has thought she was gorgeous, so what‟s so
special about you? Show that you are attracted by her mind, her
personality, her opinions.
 Comfort (C1, C2 and C3): Creating a comfortable atmosphere is very

important in the seduction process. The majority of women (except for the
party girls) will take a minimum of three to ten hours and perhaps more
than one meeting to get into the comfort phase. C1 or the „connection‟
phase will occur in the location where you have first attracted the lady. C2
or the „trust‟ stage will take place in a more comfortable location. Lastly, C3
or the „intimacy‟ stage will take place in the place where you plan to seduce
her.
 Seduction (S1, S2 and S3): S1 is the arousal stage where you have to turn
her on. S2 is the stage of resistance where the woman feels some resistance
to you as she would not like to think of herself as a slut. This is normal,
almost inevitable, so expect it and deal with it. In this stage you need to be
patient but persist. She wants to be seduced at this stage, but she needs
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reassurance. S3 is the stage where you actually get into bed with her.
Always remember to seduce her in a place where you will not be disturbed.
If you are planning to seduce her in your own home then make sure that your
place is clean and hygienic. Many women find the idea of a dirty place abhorrent.
You may have aroused her but if she finds that your place is dirty and untidy then
she may change her mind. I am not saying that your home should be spotless.
Just clean enough to make her comfortable.
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Chapter 9 - Sun Signs And Seduction
Most guys are skeptical about astrology and if you feel that way then I hear you.
However, guys who try this approach do report some success so you may want to
incorporate it in your technique, especially if you hit a patch where you seem to
be getting nowhere with women.
However crazy it may seem, the idea behind astrology is that the position of the
earth and other planets at the time we are born exerts a gravitational pull on the
earth that affects our personality. The sign that you see in astrological predictions
(Aries, Taurus etc) is your sun sign. It‟s not so much about the position of the sun
in the sky at the time you were born but more the position of the earth‟s axis in
relation to the sun in the month of your birth. The other planets also have a part
in astrology and a full astrological chart would also tell you your moon sign and
the position of all the other planets in our solar system.
Most people only know their sun signs and there are certain personality traits that
are associated with each sign. The idea behind this technique is simple. You ask a
woman what sign she was born under, then you apply the seduction technique
that is designed for that sign.
 Aries- Women born under the sign of Aries prefer their men to be
aggressive and bold. If you want to kiss her then do not wait or ask for her
approval. Just surprise her by giving her an out-of-the-world and mind-
blowing kiss. The approach you take should have more force. In addition,
the Aries women love it when men pay compliments to them. If you just
met an Aries woman for the first time then do not feel that you have to
avoid disagreeing with her simply because you want to seduce her. Women
born under this sign are drawn to men who disagree with them. They
prefer a positive and swift style of seduction.
 Taurus- If you are attracted to a woman who is born under the sign of
Taurus then your seduction style should be steady but slow. Women born
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under this sign relish and cherish the wooing stage of a relationship. When
you are going on a first date with her then make sure that you do not arrive
late. Always arrive before her and buy her some gifts or flowers. These
women simply love it when men offer them gifts. If you want to seduce a
lady born under this sign then use a subtle spray of cologne as Taurus
ladies are very much influenced by sensual stimuli. These women also
appreciate a great sense of humor. You can attract a woman to you by
making her laugh.
 Gemini- Women born under this sign appreciate high intelligence and
cleverness in their men. You should also know that Gemini women love to
flirt. In fact, there is nothing they like better than to flirt with the opposite
sex. You may have to work hard to move her on past the flirting stage to
take you more seriously.
 Cancer- Women born under the sign of Cancer are usually soft at heart. If
you are attracted to a woman who is born under this sun sign then the best
way to seduce her and get her into your bed would be to display the
sensitive side of your personality to her. These women love to be taken care
of and if you want to seduce a woman of this sun sign then you can think of
cooking dinner for her. These women are very romantic and they love
romantic surroundings. If you are cooking for her then play soft music in
the background and create a romantic atmosphere by using candles. If you
want to kiss her then she may like you to ask for her permission first in a
sexy low voice. Your style of seduction should be nurturing and soft.
 Leo- It is very important to concentrate on the women of this sun sign if

you want to seduce them. They love it when men praise them on they way
they dress, behave, eat, talk, etc. In short, they love hearing men singing
their praises. These women love to have the best and if you want to make a
good impression then treat her the best possible way. During foreplay,
make sure that you whisper compliments in her ears. Doing this can make
your lovemaking fabulous and out of the world. The women under this sign
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love to be seduced. If you can make her fall for you then you can be sure
that she will meet you more than half way in the seduction process.
 Virgo- If you are thinking of seducing a woman born under the sign of
Virgo then cleanliness would most definitely be an asset. If you are taking
her to your place then ensure that your sheets are clean and fresh before
you place her on your bed. These women get turned on by seeing smartly
dressed men. If you fancy a woman of this sign then you should dress
properly when you are meeting her. If you want the seduction to be perfect
then you can try taking a shower with her. If you have just met a woman
and want to break the ice between the two of you then you can consider
asking her for help in finding your mobile phone, proofreading some notes
or even organizing your desk. Women of this sun sign like order and they
like to help others.
 Libra- Librans are very classy and stylish. If you are interested in seducing
a Libran woman then you need to think of romancing her in a very
sophisticated manner. These women love beautiful and stylish things. They
would expect you to do everything with style. Women born under the sign
of Libra love listening to music. So, it would be a great idea to take her to a
concert before seducing her. In addition, make sure that you kiss extremely
well before you try to seduce a Libran. Librans simply love men who have
skills in lovemaking. For Librans, seduction is an inborn talent. They have
innate seduction skills and they also expect you to seduce them in the best
possible way that would make them screaming for more.
 Scorpio- Most men find it a bit difficult to seduce scorpions because these
women are full of secrets and you never know what you can expect from
them. You should not be put off if she gives you an enigmatic smile when
you make a move on her. Her ways of showing attraction toward you are
inscrutable most of the time. If you want to seduce her then take her out
for a movie and play with her hands during the movie. This will arouse her
and make your lovemaking impeccable later on. At the time of making love,
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your moves should be urgent and yet the lovemaking should be without
any words. Allow your body to do all the talking. Simply indulge in her and
give her the best seduction that one can offer.
 Sagittarius- If you have a great sense of humor than you can very easily
seduce and have a Sagittarian woman in your bed. Women born under this
sign simply love men who can make them laugh all the time. These women
love the idea of great sex in the outdoors. One great idea to seduce her
would be to take her on a camping trip. Remember to take a double
sleeping bag with you. These women have mischievous and naughty
methods of seduction themselves and if you can make her fall for you then
you are in for a great roll in the sack.
 Capricorn- These are noble women but do not worry because seducing a
woman born under this sun sign will be worth all the effort. You should not
hurry. Be patient and use a slow but steady approach when you are
seducing her. When you are out on a first date, do not try to have more
than a long lasting kiss. Now on your next date, you can caress her neck,
shoulders or back. Remember to make use of firm and persistent pressure
when you are caressing her. This will turn her on and she will want you to
continue what you started. At this time, try to pull back a little because
people born under this sign believe that the best things are worth waiting
for. Let her know that you want to take it slowly to get to know her better
and enjoy every moment. Doing this will impress her tremendously and it
will make your seduction all the more exciting.
 Aquarius- On the sexual front, you will discover that it is not very easy to
seduce an Aquarian woman. You will need an original approach. Aquarian
women love original things and in the matter of seduction, they would also
expect something original. Don‟t be afraid to show unusual or even
eccentric sides of your personality because she will probably like them.
Also, most women born under this sign simply cannot resist challenge, so
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you can use that in your seduction technique. Play hard to get and make
yourself be a challenge for her.
 Pisces- Are you attracted to a Piscean woman? If this is the case then you
will have to make her feel out of the world if you want to seduce her.
Piscean women like calm, peaceful surroundings, soft lighting and comfort.
Give her a kiss on the shoulders and lots of tender caresses. This will
automatically lead her to your bedroom. She will enjoy slow stroking of her
hands and a foot massage. Piscean women are very sensitive and have a
soft heart so try to seduce her slowly but skillfully.
If you get very practiced at this, you may start to be able to guess women‟s sun
signs before they even tell you. This will really impress them. They will be
fascinated to know how you guessed. Don‟t give away any secrets. Let them stay
fascinated by you.
The other advantage of knowing about astrology is that many women are
interested in horoscopes so you can make your conversation more interesting to
them by knowing about the traits of different sun signs and compatibility between
different sun signs. Also, you don‟t have to worry if she tells you that you‟re
Aquarius and she‟s Pisces and the two are not compatible. This leaves most men
speechless but you can bring in the influence of the moon and other planets to
convince her that you and she are not the usual type of Aquarius and Pisces
people.
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Chapter 10 - Seduction Myths
Why can some men seduce women so easily, and others seem to have no success
at all? The truth is that the men who have no success believe one or other of the
prevalent myths about seduction which are completely untrue. Actually,
seduction is not at all difficult if you have proper knowledge of the subject.
In this chapter we are going to look at some of the myths and negative beliefs that
you must get over if you want to have success with women.
1. „I was rejected by X, so I am a failure with women.‟
This is crazy, and yet a lot of men have this belief. Some girl they liked was
not attracted to them, so they just gave up.
All men are rejected by some women. In fact, the guys who have a lot of
success with women also probably have a ton more rejections than you, if
they bothered counting them – but they don‟t, because they are too busy
looking for the next success. Whatever happened, get over it. Always
remember that each and every man has been turned down in his life at
least once, unless he never had the courage to try at all. Why should you
allow one measly rejection to have a negative impact on your whole life?
2. “I wouldn‟t be able to seduce anyone.”
If you think that you don‟t have it in you to seduce a woman then you
couldn‟t be more wrong. Each and every one of us has been born with
innate seduction techniques. You may not have discovered them as yet but
this does not mean that you cannot seduce a woman. How will you know
that seduction is not for you if you do not try it? Have more confidence in
yourself. Next time you are in a situation where you are meeting women,
remind yourself that there is at least one woman in the room who is
attracted to you. She will not approach you but she is watching you and if
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you look at her, she will make eye contact and then quickly look away
before she looks at you again. All you have to do is find that woman, form a
connection, and you are on your way.
3. “Women think that I am a jerk.”
If this is because you get drunk, play the fool, look like a slob or act
aggressive when you are nervous, then all of those are things you can
change. Women don‟t think that a guy is a jerk just because he is attracted
to her. They like it. But you need to build on that. Read the chapter on the
„mystery‟ method of seduction again and concentrate on building your
value. Also, ask yourself whether you may be going for the wrong type of
woman, or approaching them in the wrong way. Do you go for girls who
look „easy‟, when you are really more interested in another type of girl? Try
approaching the quieter ones for a change. You may be surprised how
differently they react.
4. „She could get any guy – she won‟t choose me.‟
Like most of the other myths, this shows lack of confidence in yourself.
Look around you at the couples you see. Aren‟t some of them surprising?
Don‟t you see lovely women with guys who seem nothing special at all? The
reason for that is that those guys are special to those women. Be special,
which you already are if you can believe in yourself, and there is no reason
why she would not go for you.
5. „If I sing her praises, I will be able to seduce her.‟
Unfortunately, it is not that simple. The right compliment at the right time
can be the thing that makes her fall into your arms, but women are not
obsessed with compliments. Use them sparingly. Believe it or not there are
a few women who feel insulted when you praise their body, dress or
physical appearance. They want you to be interested in them as people,
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and they believe that men simply flatter them as an easy way to get into
their pants. So the next time you are with a woman that you want to seduce,
try not to sing too many praises for you may push her away from you.
6. „It is important for me to be extremely creative and funny.‟
This is not so important that you should try to fake it. Although we talked
about originality and humor, these are things that come naturally when
you are more confident. If you are trying to be something you are not, a
woman will be able to tell. She is extremely good at reading body language.
Just relax. If you are not comfortable with cracking jokes then you don‟t
have to do that. Instead you can do or talk about something that you are
good at.
7. „When I have finished reading this book, I will be an excellent seducer. If

not, I need to keep looking for a method that works.‟
Again, it‟s not that simple! Sure, reading about the methods of seduction
will help you, but you will need to actually practice the methods, and keep
reading this book to remind yourself of the ideas. Practice is the most
important part of this. You cannot be an expert in seduction in one or two
days. It may take a few weeks or months for you to master it, but you will
have successes along the way.
In six months from now, or a year, or ten years, do you want to be

confident of getting a woman whenever you want, or do you want to be still
sitting at home searching the internet for the „magic‟ method that will work
for you instantly?
If you are turned off by the idea of putting these methods into practice, you
are probably afraid of making mistakes. Try to look at things differently.
There are no mistakes – there are only learning opportunities. A few
rejections now are the best thing that can happen to you. You will learn
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more from your rejections than from your successes, so you should be
grateful for those women who turn you down – but hide your surprise
when one accepts you!
8. „Women love money, and I don‟t have any, so I have no chance with them.‟
This may hold true for a few women but not all women are after you for
your money. True gold-diggers are rare. Being a good provider is not only
about money. Women want someone who will look out for them and take
care of them, and you can do that in other ways than financially.
Be confident, be interested in her and attentive to her needs, and you will
soon find women who appreciate that so much that they don‟t care
whether you have a good job, or any job at all.
These are some of the most common myths that prevent most guys from having
the success with women that they wish for. If one of these is holding you back,
take some time to find a positive affirmation that will help you get past it.
Remember that a lot of these beliefs are deeply ingrained in us and it takes more
than just reading about them to overcome them permanently.
If you don‟t think that any of these is holding you back but something else is, then
try watching your reactions when you are among women and see if you can
identify what it is.
Then take whatever negative belief you may have, and imagine what you would
say if your best friend said that to you. How would you help him see that it was
not true? Make sure that what you come up with is positive: i.e. not „I‟m not a
jerk‟ (that‟s a negative), but „I‟m a confident guy that knows how to please a
woman.‟
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Chapter 11 - Conclusion
Seduction is something that women as well as men undertake from time to time
to get their partners to have sex with them. However, it is the men who have to
seduce the women most of the time. Don‟t assume that because a woman dresses
in a sexy way, she is trying to seduce you. She will still expect you to seduce her.
This way she can still feel good about herself and doesn‟t have to feel she is a slut.
A successful seducer always leaves the woman with the impression that she made
the right decision when she went to bed with him.
An awesome touch is to send her flowers the next day, with a card that says
„Thank you for a wonderful evening‟. It sounds so corny but she will adore it, and
most guys don‟t bother. Sure you probably don‟t want to see her again but it is
only polite to say thank you. It makes it way easier for her to accept that you never
call her again, and makes sure that in spite of this, she only has good things to say
about you to her friends. Remember, even in a big city, word gets around. If you
seduce a lot of women then over the years, having them all feeling good about it
afterward is going to pay you back big time.
If you fall in love with a previous conquest‟s best friend five years from now, do
you want to have her say, „Oh, so you were the guy who sent Jeannie flowers,‟ or
„Oh, so you‟re the guy that Jeannie said was a real rat‟?
Confidence and smartness are the two things that women look out for in men. If
you are smart as well as confident then you have a high chance of successfully
taking her home. The way you act and talk is also very important. Make her feel
that you are a gentleman by doing everything that a gentleman would do.
However, don‟t be too nice otherwise you may end up being just good friends. Act
cool and don‟t agree to all her requests. Ignore some of her questions, to pique
her interest.
Seduction is an art that requires you to be very attentive to circumstances

including monitoring many things at the same time. This may seem impossible at
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first and that‟s why many guys don‟t have the success that they could have. But
really, it‟s just like driving. At first it seems that you will never master all of the
things that need to be done at the same time. Don‟t give up. With practice, after a
time it is second nature.
Now that you have read this book you have a choice. You can go on as you are,
fantasizing and wishing, or you can act and make your dreams come true. It‟s very
simple. You just do what you did when you learned to drive – start putting the
techniques into action, learn from any setbacks, celebrate your successes and
move toward the day when the right moves for any situation will come naturally
to you and seducing a woman will be something you can do as easily as driving in
traffic.
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