In Depth: 10 Ways To Be Happier Now
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Be at the Center of Your Network
In a recently released study of the social networks of
more than 4,700 subjects who had been tracked for 20
years, researchers found that happy people tend to be
linked to each other through relationships with family,
friends and neighbors. Not only were there clusters of
happy and unhappy people, those at the center of their
networks seemed more likely to be joyful, whereas those
on the fringes were more likely to be melancholic.
Obviamente no se refiere a redes sociales como
MyPlace, Facebook y otros que más bien producen
frustración, envidia e ira entre los usuarios.
Se trata de construir redes de amistad, confianza y
apoyo entre personas de carne y hueso que se
conocen principalmente de la escuela, del barrio o
en familia.
Surround Yourself with Happy People
The same study also demonstrated that happiness is
contagious--you can even catch it from a friend of a
friend. The researchers found that happiness removed by
three degrees can make you more content than an extra
$5,000. The same domino effect is true for unhappiness,
as well, though the researchers believe negative feelings
spread more slowly than positive ones.
Quien quiere estar rodeado de gente frustrada,
enferma o desanimada? La mayoría de los políticos
utilizan este tipo de personas para conformar sus
grupos y grupitos.
Lideres de esa categoría son personas infelices y
solo traen infelicidad a quienes les rodean.
Si yo emito ‘buena vibra’ todo el tiempo y donde
quiera que voy tendré mas posibilidades de recibir
de regreso mas y buenas ondas, sonrisas, afecto,
admiración y respeto.
Watch Less TV
A recent analysis of time-use data from the General
Social Survey showed that while Americans enjoy
watching television, doing it too often may lead to
unhappiness. Dr. John P. Robinson, a professor of
sociology at the University of Maryland who conducted
the research, found that unhappy people watch over 30%
more TV per day than very happy people. No similar
disparity was found in comparing all other activities,
including sports, churchgoing and socializing.
No es una coincidencia que desde diciembre 2008
no tengo televisión y que justamente desde
entonces deje de fumar.
El exceso de TV especialmente noticias, series de
crímenes y telenovelas producen ansiedad y
depresión.
El exceso de navegación en la red produce los
mismos efectos.
Cada hora frente a la televisión constituye la
perdida de oportunidad de conocer o comunicarse
con otro ser humano.
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optimismo. Voltaire decía que la mejor forma de

tratar a nuestro enemigo es que el sepa que somos
felices.

El tiempo más sabiamente invertido es el que

pasamos con nuestros hijos y padres.

Lead an Active Life

Not only do happy people watch less TV, according to a
recent study, they also spend more time socializing with
relatives and friends, attending church, reading the
newspaper, working and even having sex. It's difficult to
tell whether or not these activities are a function of
happiness or if the activities lead to happiness, but the
study's author, Dr. Robinson, says contentment is
definitely linked to an active lifestyle.

Me levanto muy temprano, digo mis oraciones, Find Ways to Cope

hago los ejercicios, me meto al mar, luego al
trabajo, y de regreso al agua y a comer bien. Luego
lectura, sexo y a dormir bien.
Unfortunate things happen in life, but that doesn't mean
they have to permanently diminish your mood. Dr. Sonja
Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at the University
of California, Riverside, has studied happiness
extensively and has found that developing an effective
coping strategy is key to overcoming most troubles.
There's also no single way to cope, though she
recommends trying to develop strengths you didn't know
you had--like the ability to manage a household budget in
the midst of a financial crisis.

Enfrentar el éxito como el fracaso y tener presente

que el uno puede llevar al o ser consecuencia del
otro. La sonrisa y la cordialidad hacen un buen
chaleco para mantenerse a flote en aguas
turbulentas.

‘A mal tiempo buena cara.’

Manage Your Time Wisely

Surprisingly, research shows that Americans don't feel
any more stressed or rushed than they did in the 1980s,
according to Dr. Robinson. But using time unwisely--
having too much of it or not enough--was recently
correlated with increased levels of unhappiness.
Robinson, who conducted the study, found that 51% of
unhappy respondents felt they had too much time,
compared with 19% of those who felt very happy.

La duración de la comunicación telefónica al Set and Pursue Goals

mínimo, ver o conversar con personas Goal-setting has many benefits, says Dr. Lyubomirsky,
desagradables, enfermas, frustradas o also the author of The How of Happiness: A New
desanimadas debe evitarse o restringir al menor Approach to Getting the Life You Want. First, goals give
tiempo posible y en todo caso transmitir alegría y us a sense of purpose. Second, they tend to cultivate
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self-esteem, since the sense of accomplishment can

segue to feelings of confidence. Finally, they add
structure to the daily routine of life, which Dr. Robinson's
findings on time-use revealed can be an important
component of long-term happiness.

Las metas y los sueños ambiciosos pero

alcanzables. Que te haría más feliz? Regar una
planta todos los días para que se convierta en un
hermoso árbol que fructifique o, hacer abrir un
agujero en la tierra y mandar a plantar un árbol
maduro que otros sembraron e hicieron crecer?
Practice Gratitude
It sounds like a New Age mantra that has little grounding
in science, but being grateful can change one's mood,
habits and health. A study conducted by Dr. Lyubomirsky
required a group of 57 participants to write down five
things for which they were grateful once a week. A
second group of the same size did so three times a
week. A third control group of 32 did nothing. Six weeks
later, participants in the first group were happier,
healthier and exercising more.

En primer lugar hay que dar ‘gracias a Dios’ todo el

tiempo. En segundo lugar es importante agradecer
y manifestar el agradecimiento hasta por las cosas
mas insignificantes. Ayudar, apoyar, compartir, dar
son fuentes de alegría y felicidad. Esperar las
‘gracias!’ por lo que hacemos o la reciprocidad por
lo que damos es minar nuestra felicidad.

Don't Think Too Much

In her research on happiness, Dr. Lyubomirsky often
encounters a behavior known as self-focused rumination
(in other words, obsessing over the unknown), which
many people believe might lead them to clarity or
resolution. But according to studies conducted in the past
20 years, such behavior actually fosters biased thinking,
impedes concentration and diminishes a person's ability
to solve problems. Breaking this habit can be tough, but
Lyubomirsky recommends distracting yourself with Experiment With Happiness
engrossing activities. If the so-called secrets to contentment don't exactly work
for you, try another version or interpretation of the
Mi amigo Danilo siempre decía que lo perfecto era
guidelines. You may not have the same success with a
enemigo de lo posible. Don Miguel Ruiz dice: “Haz
particular strategy as others do, says Dr. Lyubomirsky,
siempre lo máximo que puedas” y yo diría: deja de
because achieving happiness doesn't happen in a
pensarlo y hazlo de una vez por todas. Algunas
uniform way. Instead, think of it as a sliding scale on
personas esconden su inseguridad (que produce
which some methods work better, while others make little
lógicamente ansiedad y sufrimiento) con la cobija or no difference.
de ser pensadores analíticos.
La búsqueda de la felicidad no cuesta un solo
centavo. Muchos no buscan la felicidad porque
creen que van a gastar mucha plata, confundiendo
felicidad con el placer.