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Acknowledgments 261
Appendix A: The Creative Manifestation Treatment 263
Appendix B: Visionary Decision Making Practices 267
Appendix C: Visionary Beliefs 281
Notes 285
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Just Don’t Understand. Although her analysis was quite different, it was
academically grounded. The popularity of her book created a wider dis-
cussion around the different ways that women and men communicate.
Her book overshadowing mine seemed like a setback at the time, but
it turned out that a scientifically oriented, academic book was necessary
to launch a serious discussion about the reality of gender differences. A
year later, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus came out and went
on to become one of the biggest best sellers of all time. In the inscrutable
way that synchronicity operates—as Paul describes in the profound book
you have in your hands—what ended up looking like perfect timing was
aided by a setback that seemed terrible at the time, but which turned
out to be a blessing in disguise. As we adopt new beliefs around intui-
tive intelligence and cultivate what Paul calls a “synchronistic lifestyle,”
we can better hold on to our visions. We will know there is a reason for
everything—including frustrated plans and apparent setbacks—even if
we don’t understand those reasons right away.
In this book, Paul O’Brien shares his hard-won wisdom along with
timeless principles on how to awaken intuitive intelligence to improve
your results in any area of life. Over the past twenty-nine years, Paul’s
modern version of the I Ching has helped hundreds of thousands of
people—via software, the internet, an ebook version, and a smartphone
app. Now Intuitive Intelligence lays out a more expansive tool kit to put
the knowledge of synchronicity, the power of archetypes, and an elegant
mindfulness of intuitive intelligence to work for you. If you give them
a chance, the principles and practices taught in this book will help you
manifest happiness, success, and, of course, love!
I arise in the morning torn between the desire to improve (or save)
the world and to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to
plan the day.
—E. B. White
I was voted “Most Likely to Succeed” in high school. The acclaim was
flattering, but I didn’t know what success meant—to my classmates
who voted . . . or myself. It’s safe to assume they were thinking in worldly
terms. As it turned out, in the realm of business they were at least partly
right. Worldly success is generally measured in terms of how much
money a person makes or how much property they accumulate. But
life has taught me that success has a much broader meaning, and that it
can—and should—mean different things for different people. If you let
others define your success, you can end up very unhappy—no matter
how much material wealth or fame you accumulate. The suicides of the
rich and famous amply demonstrate this point.
Unless you play competitive games for fun, success worth having
never comes at anyone else’s expense. Although money is a medium of
Property’s Shadow
Our modern world equates success with money, because money can get
us so many of the things that we desire—security, status, power, freedom,
Their decisions and timing are effortless and skillful, free from stress.
Let us salute those who find contentment in a peaceful harmony with
the rhythms of nature! In terms of peace, personal satisfaction, and
freedom from suffering, such people—a rare breed these days—are the
ultimate success stories.
Arguably, the ancient sages had an advantage, living in slower-paced
times and in a far simpler world that could not support the appetite for
possessions and attention that our culture constantly stimulates. Because
resources were limited and survival a real concern, they could not afford
to be so superficial or addicted. They depended on each other, extended
family, and a close-knit community. Real connections, not virtual or fake
ones, were the best security. This dynamic of interdependency can still
happen. In his own way, my cousin Lennie is a modern example.
the power to distract the mind. Just hold on to your clarity about what
is most important to you, including your grand vision for yourself if you
have one.
As Lennie’s story and my own story demonstrate, if you put energy
into passions that align with who you really are, you will be rewarded
with success, in one form or another. If you have been trying to live up
to the expectations of others, let that go. You are the director, the CEO,
of your own life. As the saying goes, “I don’t care what other people
think . . . they don’t do it that much anyway!” It’s time to know yourself
and start making decisions that align with your personal values no mat-
ter what you think others think.
You are unique. When it comes to doing what will make you happy, you
need to be clear about your highest values—the ones that reflect what
you want the most.
The social philosopher Eric Hoffer observed, “When people are free
to do as they please, they usually imitate each other.” Amusing as this
is, it’s also true—which makes it almost tragic. Compared to any other
nation or past civilization, citizens of the modern world have tremen-
dous freedom. But with so many choices, we find it that much harder to
form a clear idea of what we want.
It’s much easier to rule out what we don’t want. As philosopher and
spiritual author Ken Keyes Jr. once put it, people can easily say, “I don’t
know what I want, but I’m damn sure this isn’t it!” While it’s easy to
identify with such a sentiment, this approach doesn’t help you move for-
ward in manifesting your heart’s desires or goals. Critical analysis can
provide some useful information, but to succeed you must go beyond
determining what you don’t want to identify and target what you do
want. To manifest your vision, first commit to gaining clarity on what
that is, and then take the risk of going for it, asking for it, and, finally,
achieving it.
remember that a deeply meaningful desire engages both the mind and
the heart. If a desire engages only the head, it is invariably ego-driven.
This is not categorically bad, just never deeply satisfying. On the other
hand, purely emotional desires are out of balance in the opposite direc-
tion. We have to “feel it,” but we also need to avoid letting emotion
completely override common sense. Beware of granting strong emotion
a decisive leadership role it isn’t qualified to fill.
A synchronized, coordinated intersection between head and heart
allows intuitive intelligence to operate in a context that makes sense. For
example, if the desire to practice law is based on a talent for argumen-
tation (a logical alignment), combined with a desire to defend victims
of violence (a heart alignment), the chances of feeling deeply inspired
to become a lawyer will be much higher. Can you think of one or two
things you do, have done, or might do that represent an intersection
between your heart and your head?
The heart is not just a locus of feelings. It can be thought of as the
center of emotional intelligence, which is about your relationship to your
feelings and your ability to respond to and manage them. The idea of the
heart as the organ of both emotional and intuitive intelligence is not new.
Ancient peoples believed that the heart was the true center of a human
being, a spiritual center of the body. The Egyptians went to great lengths
to preserve the heart with their highly developed embalming skills but
threw away the brain. The Egyptians may have been limited in their
understanding of biomechanics, but (like most indigenous cultures) they
knew the heart is more than just a pump and considered it to be a spiritual
center of the body. Since strong emotions obscure if not derail intuition,
emotional intelligence is a foundational aspect of personal maturity for
those cultivating intuitive intelligence (as we shall explore in chapter 6).
In traditional Ayurvedic medicine of India, the heart center is the
location of one of the “chakras,” or energy centers of the body. Appropri-
ately, the heart center is the middle one of the seven chakras, the junction
where love, courage, and wisdom meet. In French, the word for heart is
coeur, the root of the word “courage” in English. It takes courage to love
in the highest sense, where you actively care for the well-being of another
whether it advantages you or not. It’s a courage that propels us toward
wisdom—beyond mere concern for self-interest or ego.
Striving to love someone unconditionally may feel like a big personal
risk, but it will inspire you to learn and evolve, and expand your capacity
for success and joy. To honor love is a way of cocreating a life with the
help of Infinite Intelligence. Doing what you love or what you are good
at (which will be something you probably enjoy) plays a critical role by
supporting your fascinations and heartfelt desires. Inspiration and intu-
ition acting in concert produce the deepest level of desire, which is the
magnetic force behind the famous law of attraction, wherein the object
of your attention is drawn to you. You still have to make good decisions,
but the manifestation process starts with your fascination and focus.
“No man ever steps in the same river twice,” said the Greek philosopher
Heraclitus. Change is constant, in other words. In fact, it is the only con-
stant, because everything is always changing. Lately, on our increasingly
crowded and chaotic planet, we’ve been seeing bigger changes more often
and we are required to respond and adapt more quickly, which makes
good decision-making more difficult. But resistance is futile. When we
resist change, we just might ask ourselves: Do we really believe we can
stop the river of life from flowing?
Opportunities arise, and along with them conflicting interests and
tradeoffs. For instance, in my personal story, the option of building on a
secure career came into conflict with an exciting vocational opportunity
that didn’t pay and, in fact, might never have given me a return on my
investment other than the educational value of trying. I couldn’t know.
Changes happen, often with an unpredictability that a controlling
ego-self finds maddening. Anything is possible. You could be offered a
higher-paying position, but in a field that you find less exciting. Or an
employer might announce that keeping your job depends on relocating
to a different city. You could be laid off from a job that you really like
or offered a promotion to a position that you won’t. Someone you love
could announce that your relationship needs to change big-time, pronto.
Whatever the case, throughout our lives each of us has to deal with
significant unexpected changes that demand a response and a decision.
Under pressure, decision-making is downright stressful. We face turning
points and dilemmas, and make strategic choices that substantially alter
our lives, relationships, bank accounts, and futures. To achieve success
and create meaning for ourselves, we need to be ready to pivot when
major challenges and new opportunities arise.
How we make important decisions is more critical to our freedom,
abundance, and joy than anything else we do. Well-made decisions lead
to skillful actions executed at the right time, positioning us to take advan-
tage of opportunities and creating new ones that align with our expanding
sense of self. I developed the concept of “Visionary Decision Making”
(VDM) to help others to better understand the long-term ramifications
and the forward-thinking approach that strategic decisions require.
Making big decisions can be stressful, even debilitating. In their
efforts to cope with the challenge of big decisions, people’s responses can
range between impulsiveness (getting it over with) to overanalytical pro-
crastination (avoiding the stress of making a decision by putting it off
until later). Past regrets, future fears, all-or-nothing thinking, focusing
too much on the details, telling ourselves that we need to wait for more
information—reactions like these stifle creative potential.
Fortunately, decision-making is a skill that we can learn to improve,
even in a hectic, complex world where making the right moves at the
right time has become increasingly challenging.
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Decisions
Good decisions require intuitive insight for creative solutions, not just
more information. But modern media deliver an overabundance of
Consideration of what is the greater good for the most people is an ethi-
cal standard for any wisely governed society. Improved decision-making
needs to be a personal priority, but especially on a crowded planet, it is
also critical for society at large. Our human tribe has incredible capacities
for cooperation, communication, empathy, and love, but we are in desper-
ate need of superior leadership, which relies above all on decision-making
skill. It is becoming abundantly clear that the very survival of our planet
depends on whether or not society’s leaders will represent all the peo-
ple and make long-term decisions for the collective good. And that those
who don’t will pay for their shortsightedness. We are all interconnected,
and they will go down with the ship they have effectively sunk while try-
ing to take advantage of others.
No matter what your position in society, the most important aspect
of your job in this lifetime is to make critical decisions for yourself and
those who depend on you for support or leadership. Who you support to
represent you is one such decision too. Throughout history, societies have
delegated the responsibility for sweeping decisions to sovereigns, presi-
dents, experts, priests, and oracles. Decision-making is so important we
richly compensate political leaders and CEOs for primarily doing that.
Talented decision-makers command a high pay scale, and if they truly
contribute to or protect the collective good, they may deserve it. A pres-
ident’s international diplomacy may affect the balance of world power;
a CEO’s strategic move may affect an entire market; a pension-fund
manager who sells short might cause a ripple effect felt throughout the
economy. Making these kinds of decisions—the crux of good govern-
ment—deserves strong support, and sincere efforts by honest politicians
should be expected, appreciated, and rewarded.
Big decisions have big consequences; such is the nature of global
change and the connected world in which we live. Decisions made at a
societal level are materially impacting life on this planet, some in ways that
may be felt for centuries. Globalized problems like climate catastrophes
and large disparities in wealth and resource distribution affect the lives
of everyone. All of us—both the rich elite and common citizens—will be
devastated together by out-of-control global problems. So, we all have a
tremendous stake in how wisely our leaders deliberate the critical choices
we face. Unfortunately, with all the propaganda and false advertising that
goes into elections, there is no guarantee that our business leaders, elected
politicians, or representatives will be visionary decision-makers. Or that
they will represent our interests at all.
With the growing complexity of today’s global problems—as pop-
ulations grow and consume finite resources—we need enlightened
decision-making more than we ever have in the history of humanity. The
materialism of nineteenth- and twentieth-century capitalism was based
on an illusion of unlimited frontiers and resources, but we urgently need
to upgrade that belief system. To align with our own good, each of us
needs to consider the common good in all our decision-making. All
truly good decisions are good for us . . . and for everybody else as well.
This belief is the essence of the “win-win” approach, as opposed to a
“win-lose” approach where winning depends upon others losing out. As
long as your decision-making does not get you what you want by exploit-
ing others, it passes the litmus test.
President George W. Bush famously declared himself “the Decider.”
As executive director of our government, his humorous description was
correct. His number-one responsibility was to make decisions for the mil-
lions of citizens of the country, affecting billions of lives around the planet.
Likewise, every one of us is the “decider” in our personal realm. As an
adult, your consciousness is the CEO of your life, whether or not you like
having the responsibility for the outcomes you create through the choices
you make.
Life is more complicated and stressful than ever, but there is a bright side
to the tidal wave of information that renders decision-making so much
more challenging. This age is characterized by massive change that may
cause stress but also provides new opportunities and openings for cre-
ativity and innovation.
Complexity can work to your advantage if you develop the intuition
to identify underlying patterns and connect the dots. This is the key
talent of product visionaries like Steve Jobs. For my part, I entered the
complex and rapidly changing field of software at the right time and was
intuitive enough to envision future possibilities of multimedia and the
internet to become a successful entrepreneur in those realms.
Strategic decision-making always involves taking a chance on a major
change or transformation. It is always something of a gamble, but that’s
just the nature of the beast. Every decision contains the risk of unintended
consequences. Sometimes we can roughly calculate the odds of a desired
outcome; often this is too difficult. As Eileen Shapiro, author of Make
Your Own Luck, writes, “Humans are gambling animals. We all gamble,
all the time. Every time we act, we invest time, or reputation, or effort,
or money with no guarantee that the results that we seek, no matter how
likely they may seem, will occur as we have planned—or as we will desire
when the results occur.”3
One could say that developing better intuition will improve your
risk-taking odds across the board. While I can’t guarantee specific results
from adopting the philosophy and practicing the skills presented in this
book, I can promise that your odds of succeeding at what you set out to
do will increase dramatically. Will you lose some bets? Of course. Will
there be setbacks? Of course, but even mistakes become less costly as
decision-making becomes more conscious and actions well-timed.
prove how intuition works, but like electricity we can still harness it and
put it to good use.
VDM is based on a vision, but it goes beyond visualization, attraction,
affirmations, and obsessing about what you want. It includes coming to a
decision and committing to an action, making your best next move, and
pulling it off at the right time. This is the only reliable path to achieving
success in any area of life. By taking the trouble to awaken and engage
that hard-to-get intuitive sense, you greatly improve the odds of achiev-
ing a positive outcome, regardless of what you focus on.
Being decisive is a hallmark of maturity, adulthood. The ability to
make a decision is a skill itself, and making big decisions requires cour-
age. Your decisions will define your character, allowing you to build trust
and confidence, to establish a path toward accomplishing your goals.
In other words, Visionary Decision Making is the pathway to success
and happiness.