How to Stop Projecting Feelings onto

Others
What Is Projecting?
Projecting is when you project (put out) the way you feel on to someone else.

This is usually a result of not dealing with your internal feelings and projecting
them as a defence mechanism.

Projecting helps you cope with heavy feelings such as depression, stress,
anxiety, anger, guilt, shame, jealousy and low self-esteem.

By projecting your feelings outwards it enables you to feel better about

yourself and makes it easier to deal with the emotions you are harbouring.

So, rather than admitting, accepting and dealing with your feelings you project
them outwards.

Projecting is a natural defence mechanism of human behaviour and unless

you become aware of it, you won't notice it.

It enables you to overlook your inner thoughts, feelings and beliefs, which
results in you failing to address the root cause of how you feel.

It's only when you acknowledge and accept your inner feelings, can you work
through them.

Read on to find out how to identify it and stop it.

 How To Identify If You Are
Projecting
Think about the people in your life who you don't get on with or you feel they
don't like you.

When did this animosity begin?

Was it during a time when you weren't feeling great? Did you have things
going on in your life?
If you answered yes, then this is possible projecting.

Start noticing how you talk to people when you are feeling in a low mood..

Do you talk as you would when you are happy?

Or do you snap, accuse, talk down, argue?

If you talk bitterly, then there is a good chance you are projecting.

So, first start to recognise how you speak to others when you feel low.

Then start to question yourself, "Am I projecting here?"

And then finally unravel your real feelings and start to change your beliefs to
stop projecting your feelings.

How To Stop Projecting Feelings

To stop projecting feelings onto others there are a few things you will need to
become aware of and put into practice.

It may seem hard work, but hard inner work ALWAYS pays off big time in your
life...

Trust me on this one!

So, let's delve in and take a look at what you need to practice to address your
inner feelings.
Become Self Aware
You must become aware of your feelings, thoughts and beliefs. Start to take
notice of how you talk to others, what you accuse them of e.g. "you don't love
me", "You don't pay me enough attention", "you don't help me enough", "you
don't listen" etc...

Ask yourself are they really acting that way? Or am I projecting the way I am
feeling?

Do you give yourself and the other person what you are saying they don't give
you? If you don't then you are projecting. Give to yourself first and be kind to
your needs.

Then you will notice others will act how you act towards them.

Questions Your Thoughts

When you think something about someone and you are going to tell
them/shout at them, ask yourself;
"is this really true?"

"Is there evidence of this?"

"do I give out what I am asking for?"

It's Ok To Feel
Know that it is ok to feel your feelings, it is safe.

It is safe to let others know how you feel and it is safe to ask for help.

You need to feel your feelings to process them and let me flow through you.

If you don't feel to let flow, you will harbour and project.

Own Who You Are

Stop being a victim to your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and past experiences.

Own who you are and become a victress in your own story.

Being a victim to your story gives your power away and stops you from
working through your feelings.

We all go through tough things in life, acting like a victim only makes you feel
worse. Let it go, move on, break free and reclaim your power.
Let People Know How You Feel
Stop saying, "I'm fine, nothings wrong!" and let people know how you are
really feeling.

If people know they can help, if they don't know they will probably judge you
as being nasty, rude or stuck up (This used to be me).

Also when you say "I'm fine" you are in denial about how you really feel and
this will stop you from healing.

Mindset Practice
To acknowledge, unravel and heal your thoughts, feelings and beliefs you will
need a mindset practice.

There are many things you can do to help improve your mind, here are a few:
 Journaling.
 Mindfulness.
 Meditation.
 Positive thinking.
And when you practice these regularly you will become self-aware and be
able to heal your inner thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

Remember...
You are worthy. You are wotrhy of love, healing and happiness.

But, the only way you can achieve this is by working on your inner self.

Others won't give this to you until you project it from the inside out.

If you continue to be the victim to your thoughts, feelings and beliefs, this is
how your life will be.
But, if you take ownership of how you feel, you take your power back...

By Tia Harding