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Empathy
with Alan Alda, Actor, Author: If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?
• Get inside the other person’s head, but then get out again.
• Manage your empathy to avoid affective quicksand - sinking into the
other person’s feeling. Don’t allow the other’s emotion to rule your end of
the communication.
One caveat: used properly as a tool for connection, empathy doesn’t mean losing
yourself. It doesn’t mean sinking into another person’s emotional state so
completely that you have no distance across which to communicate. It means
remaining aware and using that awareness to bridge gaps in understanding and
find common purpose.
Prepare
Before you watch the video
How do your mood, the way your day is going, and other external and internal
circumstances affect your ability to empathize with others. If you drive, what
conditions make you relate to other drivers with more frustration and anger?
What conditions make you a more understanding motorist?
Practice
After you watch the video
For the rest of the day, just monitor your empathy for others. After each
interaction make a mental (or actual) note of your level of understanding for and
connection with the other person. What conditions caused your EQ to go up vs.
down?
On another day, practice Alan Alda’s exercise. Try to notice and mentally label
other people’s emotional states as well as you can based on their facial
expressions and body language. At the end of the day, take note of your
interactions with others. Do they feel different as a result of the exercise?