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This can distract you into making bad decisions, feel impelled to hook-up
with someone out of a feeling of necessity. That might be okay in the short-
term as a temporary stopgap, offering companionship for a time, but it's
important to recognise that for what it is.
So often people feel bereft when a relationship ends. Even the ending of a
bad relationship can feel like a failure, generating fear, apprehension,
anxiety. There may be concerns about the future; will I meet someone else,
how long will I be on my own, should I have tried harder or stayed with the
relationship I had?
As such, they may provide the impetus for us to move on from a bad
situation, enthuse us to review our lives, change careers, update our
image, introduce us to new exciting hobbies and interests. But once that's
on track they may well then fade from our orbit.
Having a relationship with either may work well for a time, but is unlikely to
be a long-term solution to your relationship status. But equally, not all
special relationships have to be permanent.
An Important Step Is To Ask Yourself
What You Want From A Relationship
Do you really need a special someone, does your life literally revolve
around having a significant other in your life, does your relationship status
define who you are? What does that look like to you? It's important to know
if you're prepared to wait for the right person to come along, no matter how
long that may take.
Ask yourself who's the most important person in your life. Even if you still
have young children, it's best if the answer is you. When you feel good
about yourself, healthy, happy and at peace, everyone in your life benefits.
Then you find that your quality of life improves and you realise that you'd
rather be alone than with someone who's not right for you, who's
unsupportive or brings negative energy into your home.
Being on your own is better than good enough or fine, once you're
comfortable in your own company.
When You Learn To Love Yourself
When you learn to love yourself, you find ways to communicate your
thoughts and feelings to others and are able to define appropriate
boundaries of acceptable and unacceptable treatment and behaviour. Your
desperate need to have a special someone abates and you're able to be
more selective and discerning, able to find someone who compliments you
and adds value to your life.
You become clearer about the things you will and won't accept. Sure, some
things that bother others may be fine by you; that's good for you to know
and can help you to become clearer about what you want from a partner.