1.

5 second rule (Mel Robbins)

The 5 Second Rule is simple. If you have an instinct to act on a goal,

you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it.

The moment you feel an instinct or a desire to act on a goal or a commitment,

use the Rule.

When you feel yourself hesitate before doing something that you know you
should do, count 5-4-3-2-1-GO and move towards action.

There is a window that exists between the moment you have an instinct to
change and your mind killing it. It’s a 5 second window. And it exists
for everyone.

If you do not take action on your instinct to change, you will stay stagnant.
You will not change.

But if you do one simple thing, you can prevent your mind from working
against you. You can start the momentum before the barrage of thoughts
and excuses hit you at full force.

What do you do?

Just start counting backwards to yourself: 5-4-3-2-1.

The counting will focus you on the goal or commitment and distract you
from the worries, thoughts, and excuses in your mind.

As soon as you reach “1” – push yourself to move.

This is how you push yourself to do the hard stuff – the work that you
don’t feel like doing, or you’re scared of doing, or you’re avoiding.

That’s it. 5 seconds is all it takes.

If you don’t act on an instinct within that 5 second window, that’s it.
You’re not doing
Variability causes mistakes and adaptations; it also allows you to know
who your friends are. Both your failures and your successes will give you
information. But, and this is one of the good things in life, sometimes
you only know about someone’s

character after you harm them with an error for which you are solely
responsible—I have been astonished at the generosity of some persons in
the way they forgave me for my mistakes.

Further, my characterization of a loser is someone who, after making a

mistake, doesn’t introspect, doesn’t exploit it, feels embarrassed and
defensive rather than enriched with a new piece of information, and tries
to explain why he made the mistake rather than moving on.

someone who has made plenty of errors—though never the same error more
than once—is more reliable than someone who has never made any

2. Interpretation is not truth. (Teal swan)

What am I making this mean?

You can ask the other person :

This is what I am making this mean. Is that you actual meaning?

Separate out the vent that actually happened from the meaning that you
assigned to that event, and the question the meaning you assigned to that
event.Question your meaning instead of assuming it.
3. How to sit with your emotions ?

Ask yourself.

Allow your being offer you the answer. Don’t look for it.
4. Fear of the unknown / fear of death

We do not fear the unknown .We wouldn’t know what to fear because it is unknown.
We cannot fear the unknown because it is unknown.

We fear what we project onto the unknown, which comes from our past (that we
know). Our fear for the future are actually fears from the past projected onto the
future.

Fear of conflict

Fear of policemen/women

Fear of death

Fear of physical confrontation

Fear of being told off

Fear of being shouted at

Fear of cumming too fast