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1.0 Introduction

Assalamualaikum, ladies and gentlemen

Parenting isn’t always an easy job. We all experience moments of uncertainty about
how to balance the need of our various family member, teach our kids the skills they need,
provide consistent discipline, and manage our children’s mood (or our own,for that matter).
Parents are the key to helping children. Whether the issues are developmetal,
emotional,behavioural, or educational, it is through working closely whith parents that
progress is achieved and maintained. It is my belief that each parent is an ”expert” when it
comes to her or his own child. By providing parents with the tools and confidence they need,
the whole family is strengthened and the child is helped.
Accoding to several American is servey children who grow up in households with
loving, supportive parents have a much better chance at becoming healthy, successful adults .
but as all those who work with children know, this isn’it alwarys the case. Many of them
have to endure abuse, neglect, and other types of bad parenting practices each day. And this
leads to serious emotional pand behavioral problem that affect them throughout tne rest of
their life. Because of this, a great debate has started on how much the prents of children who
end up being violent and aggressive are to blame for their behavior. What do you think ? is
the lack of parental guidance mainly responsible for children being violent or is there other
more dominant factors for that could explain child’s aggressive behaviour.

I disagree because teens over 16 years need supervision from parents because they will
pose specific problems in our society. Young Malaysians who are not Malaysian culture steps
again may not be maintaining this culture, and that naturally grown in Malaysia risks to lose
value indeed, Asia and our spirit. That certainly dangerous for our country.
2.0 Implication lack parental control/ guidance
In this era of technology now, the influence of the family in the life of a teenager. The
parents ' failure to educate their children will affect their future, which causes them to engage
with social symptoms and have not been able to settle down to be useful and insightful
(Derani, 2004). Most parents are less desirable to increase their adolescence, because they're
working too busy to provide our families and pursuing their dreams. All children need
parental care because they always feel valued and loved.
Religious education, as young people in the family is important because the human family is
the closest to the teenager. In general, religious education can be in three dimensions, namely
morals, skills, learning and social relationships (Smith, 2003)

2.1 Moral Value and discipline

Moral values in the past were prominent in most teenagers. However these moral values
and self discipline are slowly diminishing over the years as most of the younger generation
are gradually disregarding these ethics. This listed values have slowly faded away as they
mean very little to these younger generation.
Lack of parental guidance religious guidance and lack of close supervision is the main
attraction for this younger generation to turn to obtaining pleasure through social media.
Exposure to social media can amount to an advantage on the knowledge of the younger
generation thinking and will also lead to a negative practise if they are not monitored well by
their parents and/or by their elder siblings at home.
Example mobile phones and other gadget devises have made people better connected but they
have undermined good manners and courtesy among people. It is common to see people
texting while having meals with family or friends, making phone calls during movies
answering calls while people are giving speeches or hearing religious ceremonies.
These problems are partly due to reliance on digital communication and less face to face
interaction between people.
2.2 Social Problem
Family bondage among the younger generation and with their parents is seen lacking
among the younger generation as they prefers hanging around with their own classes of
friends. Factors of lack of religious guidance and unmonitored by the family members has
also contributed unhealthy social practises which at times tantamounts to a criminal
activities. Small crimes when looking at the scale of crime activity is seen larger among the
younger generation to get a faster pocket allowances to carried out their leisure times with
peers.
Example, Imam Al GhazaLi (Mohamed, 1975) formulated character building which
includes the learning of moral values; as relating to the theory of education for children.
Imam Al Ghazali‟s theory was premised on a sahih (correct) and popular a hadith, translated
as: “every baby is born in the form of the holy and clean. It is up to parents
to make them Jewish, Christian of Zoroastrianism”. Imam Al Ghazali used the hadith to
explain that children are likened to white and clean fabric, clear from dirt. The design and
colour of the fabric pertaining to a religious and just life is the responsibility of the child‟s
parents.
For Cases of road bullies,traffic breakers litterbugs vandalism show that Malaysian
who lacks moral values
are far too far from being courteous and polite. Based on many observations the virtues of
courtesy politeness patience humility tolerance and respect is elements of our way of life. The
element of social integration among multi ethnic youths is isolated as they lack in mingling
with all classes and/or level of people which eventually leads to a degree of not becoming
independent and lack of self confidence .
They also seen constraint and/or become reserve when we welcome them to attend to
a public seminar or contribute ideas/views as their knowledge is limited to social media such
as focusing on chatting playing video games. Civic conscience and spiritual education is
essential to be appropriated on the mindset of our younger generation to develope a healthy
vibrant innovative youngster. Lack of this factors will turn the youngster to lose confidence to
lose focus lose faith in oneself when they put up with multiple hurdles challenges in their
life. Failures in life will be taken up drastically and emotionally which will lead them to a
nervous break down and this is where their we see the falling down of many youngters
indulging in many negative activities.
2.3 Own self
Lacking in patriotic values had also become an issue among the younger generation as
majority were born after the independence day. Due to the factor, the spirit of patriotism is
influenced by their surroundings the practise of patriotism carried out by each of the
generations after independence is not equal to the one by the generations who lived during
the colonial era. A lack of appreciation among young generation of all races towards the
services peformed by the freedom fighters is seen a very negative attitude because it
manifests the lack of of the patriotic spirit. Since our independence the younger generation
had been enjoying a prosperity and security in a comfort zone forget about the sacrifies done
by our anti freedom fighter heroes. Many legendary names had been forgotten. A lack of
uniformity among our multinational races for example the interaction between the Malays
and Non Malays due to difference in culture and beliefs had also caused a fraction in the
unity among the Malaysian younger generation.
Research in criminology also acknowledges an inverse relationship between religion
and crime (Johnson et al., 2000; Doris, 2007). Baier and Wright‟s (2001) meta-analysis of 60
studies on religion and crime concluded that religious behaviors and beliefs exert a moderate
deterrent effect on criminal behaviour.

According to Mohamad Abdullah (2016) The challenge we face today is far greater
than what we want to achieve when the country has achieved independence over half a
century ago. Among them, the freedom, development and prosperity achieved from the
nation's policy and leadership development, the development of fast communication and
information technology, the development of open-ended social media, the birth of journalists
and social media rapists, direct comments on online media and many other developments are
happening around us in the open sky concept. We need to create young Malaysian youths to
head towards a simplier lifestyle using new technology free from negative social media and
free from drugs influence as many are creative innovative and willing to think out of the box.
It would be pity such a strength is not taken seriously as these youths are our future strength
of our nation.

Decisions emanating from policies or practices that are perceived as ethnically biased.
If individuals from specific ethnic backgrounds are finding it more difficult to gain
promotions in various branches of the public services, it will not be conducive for ethnic
harmony in the larger society. By the same token, if qualified workers whose ethnic and
religious affiliation differ from that of the top brass in a private corporation are excluded from
positions of power and authority, it will generate communal unhappiness that will permeate
the entire social fabric. As far as policies and practices with an ethnic bias are concerned, the
time has come for all of us to de-emphasise ethnicity and accord greater importance to the
needs of the poor and disadvantaged whoever they are, and, at the same time, to recognise
and reward ability and excellence, as vital attributes for the success of any society. It is only
certain vested interests that have always manipulated ethnic and religious sentiments for their
own benefit that would be unhappy with this approach whose value our policy-makers and
planners are cognisant of.
It is partly because ethnic sentiments and perceptions are pervasive, that justice is
often viewed from a one-sided perspective with very little appreciation of how the ethnic
other sees the situation. This is why even well-meaning advocates of national unity when they
catalogue legitimate injustices give the impression that they are not sensitive to what the
other regards as the wrongs done to his kind. Through education and awareness programmes,
biased perspectives on issues of justice can be overcome. The media has a critical role to play
in this. It should have the courage to expose the stark and subtle biases in the expressions of
justice which appear in the media. By so doing, it would help nurture a more holistic and
balanced view of justice among all communities.

3.0 The Parental Rights

It has been argued that parents do not possess even a qualified or conditional moral
right to impact the lives of their children in significant ways (Montague 2000). The reason
pcomponents of moral rights. First, moral rights are oriented towards their possessors.
Second, moral rights have a discretionary character. Since the putative rights of parents have
neither of these features, such rights should be rejected. If there were parental rights, their
function would be to protect either the interests that parents have or the choices they make
regarding the parent-child relationship.
The problem for the proponent of parental rights is that no other right shares a particular
feature of such rights, namely, that the relevant set of interests or autonomy is only worth
protecting because of the value of protecting the interests or autonomy of others. Moreover,
Montague argues that parental rights to care for children are in tension with parental
obligations to do so. The notion of parental rights is in tension with the fact that parents are
obligated to protect their children’s interests and assist them in the process of developing into
autonomous individuals.
Practically speaking, an emphasis on parental rights focuses on what is good for
parents, while a focus on parental obligations emphasizes the well-being of children. He
concludes that we have strong reasons for rejecting the notion that parents have a right to
impact, in a significant way, the lives of their children. So, the view is that parental rights are
incompatible with parental obligations. Parents have discretion regarding how to fulfill their
obligations, but they do not have such discretion regarding whether to do so. If there were
parental rights, parents would have discretion regarding whether to protect and promote the
interests of their children, and this is unacceptable.
In reply, one critic of Montague’s argument) has pointed out that while it is true that
parents do not have discretion regarding what counts as fulfilling their obligations towards
their children, they nevertheless have discretion regarding how to do so, and perhaps this is
sufficient for thinking that there are some parental rights (Austin 2007).

4.0. Parental Love

It is fitting to close with what is arguably the most important parental obligation, the
obligation to love one’s children. Some philosophers—Kant, for example—believe that there
is not and indeed cannot be an obligation to love another person, because love is an emotion
and emotions are not under our control. Since we cannot be obligated to do something which
we cannot will ourselves to do, there is no duty to love. However, some contemporary
philosophers have challenged this conclusion and argued that parents do have a moral
obligation to love their children (Austin 2007, Boylan 2011, Liao 2006).
One reason for this is that parents have the obligation to attempt to develop the capacities
in their children that are needed for a flourishing life. There is ample empirical evidence that
a lack of love can harm a child’s psychological, cognitive, social, and physical development.
Given this, parents are obligated to seek to foster the development of the capacities for
engaging in close and loving personal relationships in their children.
A primary way that parents can do this is by loving their children and seeking to form
such a relationship with them. There are ways in which parents can successfully bring about
the emotions associated with loving children. For example, a parent can give himself reasons
for having loving emotions for his children.
 A parent can bring about circumstances and situations in which it is likely that she will
feel such emotions. In these and many other ways, the dispositions to feel parental love can
be strengthened. To say that all emotions, including the emotions associated with parental
love, cannot be commanded by morality because they cannot be controlled by us is too strong
a claim. Finally, there are also reasons for thinking that it is not merely the responsibility of
parents to love their children, but that all owe a certain kind of love to children (Boylan
2011). If this is true, then much more needs to be done to not only encourage parents to love
their children in ways that will help them to flourish, but to change social structures so that
they are more effective at satisfying this central interest of children.

5.0 Conclusion
In general, patriotism is an important and valuable element in developing a society
which consists of various races and ethnicities. However, many challenges are still to be
faced in Malaysian context. To date, there are many efforts which have been undertaken
to achieve the goal to promote the spirit of patriotism for the sake of harmony and progress
of the country. The instability in the country will be a talking point at the global level.
The image of the country in the world will be affected and will become worse when we
will be denied to collaborate or making relationship with other countries. The country will be
withdrawn due to this instability and without peace and stability; it is difficult for the country
to do something that can attract the other countries for collaboration or making investment.
On the other hand, if there is unity and harmonious relationship among people or ethnic, the
country image will be good.
The country will be respected by the others and also be a model or reference. Good
collaboration or relationship with other countries will successfully be held and it will be
many opportunities for cooperation and bring the benefit to political, economic and social.
This will improve the tourism industry when the number of tourist increase and improve the
economic development as the investors will invest to our country.
Political and economic relations with foreign countries, western colonialism and the
entry of immigrants were the main factors responsible for creating a multi-ethnic society in
the country. Malaysia is made up of people who are multi-racial and multi-culture which has
a strong fundamental to create a society that is more civilized, high morale, educated and
encourage the concept of ideals pure nation state based. Through this concept, all
communities supporting one nation and one country that stands firmly on one identity which
is manifested by thought, the socio-cultural values and always sticks together for the purpose
of highly humanity and spirituality.

Civilized nation has its own civilization identity. Members in society play an important
part in fostering ethnic relations so that our country will always be peaceful and comfortable.
After more than fifty seven years of independence, there are still remains uncertainty and
insecurity in ethnic relations. From the facts of history and the way we manage ethnic
relations in the country, whether basic education, the distribution of political power or
economic distribution, it is difficult for us to see the concept of nation that is actually
occurring within the next fifty years. The question on the privileges of the Malays, Islamic
affairs and the powers of the Malay Rulers began to dispute. There are many posts on blogs
and websites discussing these issues. Historically, the Malays did have sacrificed much and
contributed to the development of the country, the Chinese and Indians are no less important,
also contributed significantly. So, blaming and belittle the actions of the others contribution is
not wise and good action. From the historical and sociological perspective, the factors
inherent in ethnic relations that evoked ethnic insecurity and tension in Peninsular Malaysia
was determined to have originated from the colonial period.

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