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Causes and possible solutions to divorce in our Society

Azeez Bello

September, 2019
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Causes and possible solutions to divorce in our Society

Research has found that about halves of conjugal bonds in the US end up in
divorce. Nowadays, dissolving wedlock has been deemed normal among both
young and old couples. The main causes of divorce are mostly discussed, yet
rarely understood within our society. Reasons to divorce range from infidelity
among married couples to being unable to resolve little conflicts that result to
bigger ones, and short or no courtship before marriage.

Firstly, lets look at; infidelity among married couples. An extramarital relationship
is a powerful cause of divorce these days, because it really hurts the other partner
in a union, and stands as a great breach of trust in the relationship. As a result, if
the couple in this case do not seek the counsel of experts on this issue, it will lead
to conflicts, which arises from minor misunderstandings, and therefore, eventually
lead to a divorce.

Secondly, being unable to resolve little conflicts, which later result to bigger ones.
It is no news that husbands and wives, whether young or old, have disagreements,
but the ability to resolve it is the key. From my research, different couples cannot
use the same method for their conflict resolution. For example, when I was in my
middle high school, my class teacher Mrs Elliot, told me that, she and her husband
had a little quarrel, that lead to them living separately, and as result, planning a
divorce. However, their families, came together with a motive of not letting such a
young and promising family go their separate ways. Therefore, they invited she
and her “sunshine” (as she always called her husband) over for a meeting, and
after some piece of advice, they realized it was wrong for them to end their bliss
because of what is not worth it, they then apologized to each other, and continued
with their matrimony. And henceforth, they are living a happy life together. This
conflict resolution method might fail if it is attempted in another similar case.
Therefore, a man, and a woman should know their best resolution mean during
their courtship before thinking of getting married.

Lastly, too short or no courtship before marriage. Courtship is the time when
intending couples develop their intimate relationship before marriage. This stage
is so important, in that it lets both parties know one another's behavior, relations,
hobbies, and most especially their short-comings and how to deal with issues that
may start arising in marriage. The duration for this phase can only be suggested
based on many factors to be considered only by experts. Therefore, it is advisable
to meet with a counselor to find out when your courtship should be enough for a
successful relationship.

To sum up, thought of divorce should not be allowed to ruin the love that exists in
a family. If you leave the person you are with now because he takes alcohol only,
did you know if the one you will opt for again takes even more than alcohol and
marijuana? Stick to your partner and make your blessed union work!
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References

Online Journal Articles

Tamara F. (2013) Divorce attorney and mediator & Steve H. Director of marriage and family

therapy program and the Minnesota couples on the Brink project at University of

Minnesota. Retrieved from

http://yourdivorcequestions.org/

Online Journal Article

Deborah R.& Kim O. (2018) Life and relationship coach, Counseling, Astrologer, and Interfaith

ministry, Author, speaker, and presenter. Retrieved from

www.yourtango.com/experts/yourtango-experts/top-cause-divorce-expert#show