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Many parents approach raising teenagers as an ordeal, believing they can only watch
helplessly as their lovable children transform into unpredictable monsters. They have
problems with different aspects of their teenagers’ lifestyles because they do not
understand what changes or pressure teenagers face within. The teenage years can be
difficult for parents and teens alike.
Wikipedia describes a ‘teenager’, or ‘teen’ as a person who falls within the ages of 13-
19 years old. The word teenager is another word for an adolescent and as such, can
be used interchangeably. The teenage or adolescent stage of life is generally known to
be a period of stress and turmoil. While some children pass this period without many
problems, quite a number have a bag full of them.
Generally speaking, parents fall into three categories with regards to how they relate
with their teens. The first group of parents appreciate the peculiarity of their
teenagers. They know their teens help to cope with the pressure faced, but, they lack
knowledge on how best to help. Some of these parents usually run to their pastors,
who are most likely to offer spiritual advice only – ignoring the physical, emotional,
vocational, mental and personal-social areas of life. There is the second category of
parents who see stress and turbulence in their teens as outright rebellion and
foolishness. They do all sorts of things to suppress them, to the extent of meting out ill-
treatments to their teens. Unfortunately, these only worsen the matter. Of course, there
is the third group of parents who are well exposed about the teenage stage of life and
strive to do their best for their children.
Parents have an important role to play in the upbringing of their teenagers. A critical
requirement usually taken for granted in parenthood is maturity in five broad areas:
Physical, Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and Social areas. You would agree, that if there
were to be an exam to test these parameters in parents, many would re-sit the exams
again, and again.
A good place to start in raising a sound teenager as a parent is to objectively examine
your life. This could reveal a lot of selfishness, fears, false assumptions leading to
misguided actions, all aimed at protecting your own interests, at times at the expense
of your teenager(s).
Going forward, let’s take a look at how parents can work towards better relationships
with their teenage children.
You can trust that the things discussed are fundamental to building and sustaining
better parent-teenager relationships.
Get professional help for your teens if they exhibit extreme behaviours. If the problem
is health wise, please seek a physician’s help. If behavioural, or should you have
concerns about their mental health, talk to a Counsellor or therapist about it. And, if
you feel your family isn’t really connecting, you might extra support by finding a Family
Counsellor. A healthy relationship is vital between parents and their teenagers if such
parents want to strongly influence the kind of adults their teens eventually become.