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In such circumstances our listening skills must be alert and heightened. Christine Knott
tells us how…
For some years now statistics have claimed that verbal communication is transferred
and received through the words used, the characteristics of the voice when saying them
and body language.
I can recall an occasion when I was sitting in a Spanish bar on holiday. A group of
tourists from the UK and Germany were conversing with a group of locals. As I watched
from the other side of the room it was apparent that the topic of conversation was
football. Each person spoke in their native language, so apart from team or players’
names most words were lost amongst the group. What was understood was the body
language and emotion used to say the words. The result was that the group was having
a great time and continued to communicate in that way for well over an hour. What was
noticeable was that when anyone spoke they would unconsciously exaggerate their
body language and vocal characteristics. It was a great demonstration of how a
conversation is transferred and understood through body language and vocal
characteristics.
The mind and body reflect each other. Would you believe someone who agreed with
you whilst shaking their head from side to side?
There are a number of ways we can use listening to pick up on the feelings and
thoughts of the speaker.
Pitch
A caller’s mood can be detected by listening to their pitch. When you speak on the
telephone you cannot see their mood but you can hear it. You have probably heard the
phrase ‘You can hear a smile on the telephone’. This is due to the higher pitch that is
naturally adopted when someone speaks when they are smiling.
Women’s vocal chords are naturally shorter than those of a man which makes their
voices higher pitched during any conversation. It is the emotional state of a person,
though, that has most effect on the pitch of the voice. If we are in a state of fear or
excitement the muscles around our voice box tighten, making our voice higher pitched.
So even if we don’t understand the words someone is using we can tell if their mood or
thoughts have changed.
Be aware of someone’s pitch on the telephone, by listening to it you can gauge what
their true thoughts are, even if the words don’t reflect it.
Pace
This is the speed at which someone speaks. Some people are naturally fast or slow
speakers but speed of talking may also demonstrate an emotional state. An excited or
elated mood is reflected in a quicker rate of delivery. A more serious of dejected frame
of mind will be expressed in a slower delivery.
The caller’s pace can indicate the mood they are in when you speak to them, or if
indeed it changes during the conversation.
Power
Power is the emphasis or stress put on a word or part of a word by lowering or raising
the voice. Emphasising a particular word in a sentence can change the meaning
completely.
For example, say the following sentence seven times. Each time emphasise a different
word. Notice how the meaning of the sentence changes as you change the emphasis.
Pause
This is when the speaker halts in their speech. It may be relevant to do so because they
have finished what they are saying. Or it may be an appropriate time to take a breath. If
several pauses are used before or after words it could indicate that the caller is
displaying an emotional state of anger. Example:
‘I am… so… angry I can hardly… speak’.
Listen for pauses, are they conveying anything about the speaker’s message or current
state of emotion?
Inflection
Inflection is a change of pitch. Naturally we do not speak on one pitch level alone. The
voice slides up and down the scale as we express various shades of thought and
feeling.
Usually an upward slide or inflection at the end of sentence expresses a question or an
uncompleted thought, and a downward inflection expresses a completed thought or
instruction.
Tone
This can be described as the light and shade of the voice, which also demonstrates and
displays emotion. The light and shade demonstrates warmth or coldness, smoothness
or roughness, harshness or gentleness, tension or relaxation.
Most of us can quickly identify someone’s mood by the tone they use.
Example: ‘Oh yes, the engineer arrived’ said in warm tone implies a successful visit.
Alternatively, said with a cold tone it implies an unsuccessful visit.
We pick up on these vocal characteristics unconsciously. By being aware of the way the
words are being spoken you will be able to ‘hear’ what isn’t being said but the feelings
and emotions being communicated. This is invaluable if you are to understand fully the
purpose of your caller’s contact and move towards a satisfactory outcome.
Equally important to hearing and listening for vocal characteristics from your caller is the
way you say the words you use during a conversation.
We have all spoken to people whose voice is devoid of any character.
In these instances the emotions they feel are controlled or easily disguised. They may
speak monotonously, failing to change the pace, or employ the tactics of emphasis,
tone or inflection. Talking to someone with little character in their voice soon becomes
an effort and we switch off. It is also difficult to assess their emotions.
If you detect that the vocal characteristics conflict with the words the caller is using,
investigate what they are saying. A simple way to do this is to reflect back the feelings
that you’re picking up in the message by acting like a mirror. You reflect back on the
emotions that you sense carry significant weight to the meaning of the message.