Personal

Relationships
 Now, I know what you’re thinking…

And you’re kind of right!! But more on that later…

Activity 1. Individual Activity
Anticipation Reaction Guide (ARG)
Directions: Write A if you agree with the
statement and D if you disagree. Write your
response in the Before Lesson only.
Before Lesson Statements After Lesson
1. Survival was the primary reason why human
beings have the fundamental need to belong.

2. Belonging to a group generates many

benefits to like having a support system when
you need some shoulder to cry on or draw
some strength from.

3. Personal relationships don’t involves a degree

of commitment to another person or persons.

4. The very first meaningful relationship every

human being encounter is with one’s mother.

5. Attraction also involves our unconscious

assessment of another person’s genes through
their physical appearance.
Personal Relationship:
What Drives Attraction?

Prepared By:
Milorenze Joting
Applicant
Self explanatory, right?
 Well, yes,
actually I
suppose it is...
 Partly because it’s so
broad…

But there’s still a lot of

interesting research on it!
 Personal Relationship

It is a relationship which is closely

associated with a person and
which can only have meaning to
this person.
 Personal Relationship
In discussing personal relationship,
the elements that go with it that will
also be discussed are attachment,
attraction, love and intimacy, and
commitment.
Attraction - is described
as the lovestruck phase,
which involves
neurotransmitters in the
brain such as dopamine,
neropinephrine, and
serotonin.
Have you ever heard the phrase
“birds of a feather flock together ”?
 Let’s talk definitions.

1. Homophily: if we believe
people are similar to us, we are
more attracted to them.

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 Aww. How cute.

This is important in judging

people we want to have
relationships with.
But not just romantic relationships.

Any type. From a stranger on the

street to potential employers.
 Let’s talk definitions.

2. Transference Effect: there

are times we meet people who
we immediately like or dislike.

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 Let’s talk definitions.

3. Propinquity Effect: We
often develop a sense of
familiarity with people who live
close to us, work with us, or go
to school with us, which lead us
to liking them more.
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“I knew we had a lot in common, I’m crazy too!”
 For a while, researchers mainly
studied attraction due to similarity
between strangers.

(Dr. Donn Byrne, starting in 1961)

 This means that dissimilar
(dominant and submissive)
people go better together in
relationships, and have more
minor similarities (like
interests and warmth).
 Let’s talk definitions.

4. Reciprocity: We like people

who like us back.

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 I’d argue that some degree of
similarity is an essential factor in
maintaining all types of
associations…
 …but there should be certain
complementary characteristics
for a truly successful relationship.
People get more similar over time

• Zajonc et al. (1987)

• Dissimilar looking couples at marriage look
more similar 25 years later.
• Happier couple look more similar
• Decades of shared emotions?

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Similarity to Pets

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 Let’s talk definitions.

5. Physical Attractiveness:
Several research studies were
conducted to confirm that
physical attractiveness is a
major factor in liking someone

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 Let’s talk definitions.

6. Personality Characteristics
and Traits: People get attracted
to two characteristics that lead to
liking the other person namely
emphatic persons and socially
competent.

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 So, that means if you’re
passing someone on the
street or briefly meeting them,
you’re more attracted to
similarity.
However, some say you can’t
prove causation between
similarity and attraction.

Sunnafrank, 1985 and 1992

 Activity 2. Group Activity
(Mini Drama Presentation)

Group 1: Transference Effect

Group 2: Propinquity Effect
Group 3: Similarity
Group 4: Reciprocity
Group 5: Physical Attractiveness
So there you go. That’s a (short)
explanation of the Personal
Relationship.
You’re welcome.