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Ethics in Relationships
I. John 15:12, 17, “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
1.Husband to wife
3.Friend to friend.
4.Pastor to people
5.People to pastor
III. The first thing we must assume as the people of God is the right crowd.
B. You don’t need to have your friendships, marital status, etc. with someone who is
IV. Someone who believes what the Bible says about separation does not mean that they should
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B. You will not marry or get in a strong friendship with someone who is a liberal and
change them.
F. If I am going north and you are going northeast, we can’t go together for very long.
VI. “One another” talks about the ways we are to be ethical with one another in relationships.
A. To enable us to properly treat one another in the relationship that has been established.
B. If relationships are not built on Biblical principles, they will sour, collapse, and will not
be lasting relationships.
VII. If you are his friend, you can’t be my friend, is an immature type of friendship.
A. Not on what I can get out of it, but on what I can contribute to it.
B. When I enter friendship, I ought to enter into it to contribute to it, not to meet my own
needs.
IX. Friendship, fellowship, and love is a giving thing, not a taking thing.
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A. I cannot make anyone be my friend, but the Bible does say, “He that will have a friend
1.Both people put everything in, instead of worrying about getting their half
out.
2.You will have a better, richer relationship, and you will personally get more
out, if you put 100% in and that causes the other person to do the same.
XIII. Proverbs 18:24, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that
E. Someone who is genuinely trying to help the person and meet their needs.
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XIV. Romans 12:10, “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring
one another;”
A. Almost every time you find the words, “one another”, He is talking about love in the
verse.
1.Your motive
2.If my motive in this relationship is to meet my need and I love myself and not
the other person, then I will be unethical to get my need met because that is
3.The reason why the friendship goes bad is because there isn’t one.
E. “Kindly affectioned”
3.You should have two intimate relationships in your life, one with the Lord
Jesus and the other with your spouse whom you marry.
4.There ought to be a certain kind affection you have toward the brethren and
toward other people where there is not so much the matter of intimacy.
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someone or not.
5.Proverbs 13:10, “Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised
is wisdom.”
another.
b. To honor them.
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9.Every single relationship that you establish, if you have these principles and
XV. Galatians 5:13, “For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an
2.Using their liberty as the people of God to the occasion of their flesh.
1.Too hard.
2.Too easy.
3.If you are going to do something for the rest of your life, you must find some
delight in it.
5.Not just because I am scripturally commanded to, but I ought to obey the
scriptures.
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F. 1 Peter 4:9-10, “Use hospitality one to another without grudging. As every man hath
received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the
G. If I just do strictly my duty, there are a lot of people I won’t serve because I don’t have
a duty to them.
a. He did it in love.
2.The reason why we don’t want to serve is because we think we are above
someone else.
c. You will get to the place where you don’t think you need to do anything
iii. You better not believe the statements people say about you.
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H. The person with a servant’s heart is looking for a need to meet or a way to serve.
2.If God can find someone who wants to serve and meet needs, he will give
b. God will give them the ability financially to be a blessing if they have
J. We ought to enter a relationship to serve the other party, not to be served by them.
3.Serve freely because you are doing it for Jesus and you are doing it in love.
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C. God wants me to try to lift the unbearable load when someone is about to be crushed
XVIII. 1 Thessalonians 4:18, “Wherefore comfort one another with these words.”
XIX. If you are not interested in another’s problems, you are not deciding to be a friend.
A. If all you are interested is someone to pour your problems, you are not deciding to be
a friend either.
D. If you establish relationships like that, you will bring a lot of disappointments upon
yourself in relationships, because you built them on a false premise, something that
cannot last.
XX. Hebrews 10:24, “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:”
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B. I am to stir you, giving you a wakeup call, creating something that is uneasy, so you
D. A lot of folks go around the world to get people saved, but let those in their backyard
go to hell.
XXI. Amnon
XXII. A real friendship can be found in the relationship of Jonathan and David.
A. Jonathan came to David in the field and strengthened his hand in the Lord.
B. Romans 14:19, “Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and
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E. Someone you call a friend that consoles you in wrongdoing is not a true friend.
2.Someone who makes you comfortable in wrong doing is not your friend.
XXIV. When you violate the principles of separation, you are weakening yourself right away.
XXV. We are poor friends because we think that to be a good friend we must be in total agreement
A. Taking their side of the issue whether they are right or wrong.
XXVI. A real friend will take a stand for the benefit of the person.
XXVII. Proverbs 27:6, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
A. If someone is your enemy and they are falling all over you, they have an ulterior motive.
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2.I am more concerned about your welfare than what you think about what I
say.
3.I am more concerned about your life and how it turns out.
4.I can’t decide how you will receive it; I must decide to be a friend.
C. I must be willing to say things that you don’t want to hear for your sake.
XXVIII. Sometimes our enemies are better friends than our friends are.
A. Sometimes when you are doing the wrong thing, your friends will pat you on the back
2.Those who love you don’t want to do it because they are afraid they will upset
you.
C. Sometimes your enemies do you more good than your friends do.
XXIX. A real friend does not just tell you what you want to hear.
A. Paul withstood Peter in the face because of his dissimulation, his hypocrisy.
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XXXI. Proverbs 19:11, “The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a
transgression.”
B. Instead of an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, when someone does something, I
F. When someone says something harsh, he says, “He doesn’t mean that, he is having a
bad day.”
2.If you stiffen up before an accident, you will get a lot more injury.
a. You will take more of the brunt and the impact because they are not
flexible.
3.Forbearance absorbs some of the shock and keeps us from getting hurt so
easily.
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A. Ephesians 4:32, “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,
B. Romans 14:13, “Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather,
3.How will I know what is a swine and what is not if I don’t have any
discernment?
D. If I forgive someone, instead of condemning them for what they did, I will give them
another chance.
1.Lasting relationships are not built on perfection, they are built on principle
A. Love
B. Love is a choice.
2.Love is an action.
5.I don’t always dictate how I feel, but I can always dictate how I act.
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6.Love is the act of doing that which is best for the object of my love.
1.Love is the thing that enables me to put the proper building blocks in place to
2.No matter what relationship it is, these building blocks must go in if it is going
C. Chances are that if I show myself a friend Biblically, I will have a friend.
F. I need to be a good enough Christian that I can be the friend I ought to be.
1.If someone else is not the friend they ought to be they can become the friend
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1.1 Samuel 18:1, “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking
unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and
2.It has to do with deeper things than any kind of physical attractions.
1.1 Samuel 18:3, “Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved
3.Loyalty does not mean that I become such a yes-man that I am not willing to
1.1 Samuel 18:3, “Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved
1.1 Samuel 18:4, “And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him,
and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and
to his girdle.”
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3.1 Samuel 19:2, “But Jonathan Saul's son delighted much in David: and
Jonathan told David, saying, Saul my father seeketh to kill thee: now
therefore, I pray thee, take heed to thyself until the morning, and abide in a
1.1 Samuel 19:4-6, “And Jonathan spake good of David unto Saul his father,
and said unto him, Let not the king sin against his servant, against David;
because he hath not sinned against thee, and because his works have been to
thee-ward very good: For he did put his life in his hand, and slew the
Philistine, and the LORD wrought a great salvation for all Israel: thou sawest
it, and didst rejoice: wherefore then wilt thou sin against innocent blood, to
slay David without a cause? And Saul hearkened unto the voice of Jonathan:
G. True friends rejoice in the other’s exaltation even at their own expense.
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1.1 Samuel 20:13-17, “The LORD do so and much more to Jonathan: but if it
please my father to do thee evil, then I will shew it thee, and send thee away,
that thou mayest go in peace: and the LORD be with thee, as he hath been
with my father. And thou shalt not only while yet I live shew me the kindness
of the LORD, that I die not: But also thou shalt not cut off thy kindness from
my house for ever: no, not when the LORD hath cut off the enemies of David
every one from the face of the earth. So Jonathan made a covenant with the
house of David, saying, Let the LORD even require it at the hand of David's
enemies. And Jonathan caused David to swear again, because he loved him:
1.1 Samuel 20:34, “So Jonathan arose from the table in fierce anger, and did eat
no meat the second day of the month: for he was grieved for David, because
I. True friends have a relationship that is based on the Lord as a common denominator.
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have sworn both of us in the name of the LORD, saying, The LORD be
between me and thee, and between my seed and thy seed for ever. And he
3.It was a fact that they had a common love for God.
1.1 Samuel 23:15-16, “And David saw that Saul was come out to seek his life:
and David was in the wilderness of Ziph in a wood. And Jonathan Saul's son
arose, and went to David into the wood, and strengthened his hand in God.”
1.1 Samuel 23:16, “And Jonathan Saul's son arose, and went to David into the
XXXVI. In life we will have a few hundred acquaintances, but if we have a true friend, we ought to
thank God for someone who meets this kind of criteria that Jonathan and David had.
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