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Table of contents

Article
Looking your life and think a game way
Whenever failed, do not be egocentric on whatever lost but
think of what to do today
Release and approach Dharma

Mind release as per Buddhist teachings and doctrines.

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Preface

Human life cannot avoid problems, tensions and

sufferings because of “Karma” the deed we had done both in
the present and in the past life and only a merit perform and
mercy expansion can nurture our lives. Another way helping to
let us move our lives forward happily is “a positive thinking”
and this book teaches you to know how to think positively in
another way called “Game basis thinking” which can help
strengthen us to face with problems.

Thinking as game basis does not hold a result we should

have and not hold a person, form and method order that fate
cannot harm us. Sometime if we want something too much it
may cause us failures easily because fate will play games with
us and prevent us from success but if we are flexible enough
and accept some change or accept something replace what
we lost we will win the life games and not be beaten by fate
frequently. Another idea of the game play besides not holding
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what we should gain if we really want it we should let anyone

know it because the live game may hide it and prevent us from
getting it for ever.

Human life is complicated and has its play method

indefinitely so I wish reader to read this book and use it and be
pleasant with your game life. If any doubt please directly
contact at 084 154 7917 or at E-mail p-vida@hotmail.com I am
please to answer all your questions.

Kanthanika Choonhawat
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Looking your life and think a game way

Main concept of this book is to look at life as
“Selflessness” it is nothing sustainable forever both good and
bad things therefore it is useless to be too serious about things
till causing problems. Happiness can come in and someday it
may go out and also sadness can come in so someday it can
go out. If we look it as “Pretention” or “game” our lives should
be happier but to say precisely it is “Liberation”. If someday
you get so sad till think to suicide but if you pretend sleeping
and image that you had died and tomorrow after you wake up
you be newly born as another one you will find that it is
effective and feel relieve and free from such suffering
reasonably.
If you are studying bachelor degree and you pass
examination you should imagine that your playing
“Adventure” game and carefully consider how much scored
you still require in order to pass the examination and then pay
attention and attempt to pass it, it should not compare with
students of honorary grade or anyone who get Number 1 but
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you should realize that the game you are playing with and that
game they are playing are different and incomparable.
The concept of this book is to not adhere what we
desired for due to we never know what we will get in this birth
until such thing comes to us by itself especially soul mate we
do not know whom fate specified to us, we cannot specify, we
should have a rough hope instead of serious hope due to it
may cause difficulty to us. Main concepts of this book are as
follows : -
 All things are selfless, nothing is permanent, today we
are sitting among what we do not want but someday
those things certainly disappear timely.

 No expectation saves you from sufferings because

nobody can get all things as required so we should be
more flexible and changeable following situation and do
not fond or attach to something too much till fate harm us
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by annoying us not get it, we may lose something but

always we get another thing instead.

 Look the world positively, always believe that good things

will come and not hesitate but quickly approach it and it
may comes in a form we have not expect.

 All problems are solvable, not over our ability and

wisdom, nothing is too much solvable just only we should
not attach to specific form of problem solution then we
will always solve it.

 Imagination and pretension with fate will help us free

from serious problem and danger.

 Look all things as a game by specifying a target and

method to reach it without seriousness with tiny issues by
thinking “it is only a game”.
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“Why to attach with a selfless, try to look lighter lenses plate

then life will get better”.
Flexible thinking :
In real life, nobody get as required but we should realize
what the life essence is, why we wants many things, herewith
writer has specified situation frame and analysis them together
for further solution.
We tried to pass examination to enter a university
-> Fail -> So sad
Try to think retrospective to the time before such
examination why you so want to pass examination, you may
imagine picture while parents admired after looking your
notebook that mother was very happy with your high score,
you love your parents very much ? so you want to please them
once.
Or someone get inspiration from a condemn and
ridiculous by friends on such examination fail then she is
encouraged to beat it, some want to finish bachelor degree
from a well-known university in order to get good and higher
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income to support his family. All this is a positive thinking

called “Positive inspiration”. Herewith you may doubt what is
measurement of bad or good in my opinion, who is good or
bad I have opinion that such attempt to pass examination is “a
choice” for a positive action for success namely attempt to
show off on education talent, if someone want to become rich
with honest ways such as being doctor, teach and nurse etc.
this is deemed he has a positive thinking with himself and
society, if someone want to become rich by conducting
dishonest action such as gambles, stealing, corruption etc this
kind is called “a negative thinking”. Therefore, for author to
separate a good or bad guy I do not deeply think of excellence
or very bad or how much lustful desire contaminated in his
soul but because he “chose” to be a good man so he is a
good man.
“Just we want to be good it is deemed we come in right
way”
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Refer to such university examination, whenever he reconsiders

why he wanted to pass examination, try to summarize by items
and find appropriate solution like : -
Want parents proud of yourself.
Want to overcome ridicules.
Want to have a good work with good income to support family.
Want to create reputation to lineage.
Therefore, try to consider if you have another capability
or another way to encourage you to reach your expectation, to
try reexamination if failed you should be flexible and find
another appropriate solution to your life. If you are a good
fonder you will have another better way to create reputation to
your lineage than university entrance pass such as getting
foreign scholarship, wining events contest, education
graduation with honor performance, working with well-known
institution, working for society till getting well-known and
admired by society etc. This flexible thinking can manage
some issue not too getting worse. If we try to fine another
solution for our lives we will not be blocked by problems or
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failures instead of success despite at the beginning we have a

positive thinking.
Reader may ever seen someone outcry to workers in
store, restaurant or call-center just only what they wanted not
get interested, that reflects inflexibility of such guys, sometime
servants cannot provide perfect and complete service as we
wanted, why we not try to be more calm and find a solution
instead of making it more serious issue for example if we order
some kind food but he served a wrong order which is
sometime not so serious we should eat it in order that the
restaurant not get loss but at the same time we should advise
him to prevent him from second mistake to another customers
who may not be calm enough as we are.
Beside flexibility, no over expectation can help us to
solve problems more effectively like if we have been working
as government servant at position C9 and next 2 years we will
be retired and we are too anxious to be promoted we will be
suffering but if we relieve our expectation and get more flexible
by finding and doing another thing expressing our live success
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like you turn to do a political work, to run your own business,

foundation activity participation and society activity doer etc.
as well it would be a good way to encourage us succeed our
life target and social acceptance.
The problem I raised above is a light but it makes human
more suffer such as a problem of examination fail, no work
promotion etc, problems of wealthy guys who seldom faced a
serious problem but he get most suffering because of his
perfect concept which sometime it causes you more suffering
than people of disability, unemployment or cancer disease it is
because of his high egoisms making him more serious than
the problem importance. Sometime those who really suffering
more than him such as someone having no foods, homeless
and orphans etc may be less suffering. Why they have more
encourages to fight ? it is because they have stronger mental
structure.
Some patients with cancer disease have more
encourage to beat it respectfully even though paying best
attempt for best medical treatment, chemical radiation, Chemo
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and someone sell car and house to save their lives because
they understand well that there is no “Egoism” and also they
release asset adherence, not fear of the death approaching
but they intend to fight it at his last breath. Also due to they
realize of “Karma rule” namely a current being derived from
our past deed that human must repay to the deed and if
whenever the deeds ended we will be free from suffering and
meet happiness in our lives.
“Life energy does not derive from wealth but innate
goodness” The author had ever faced a serious misfortune
regarding my study when I passed examination to study in
Medical Science faculty but suddenly some fate interrupted
and stop me from study then I passed an examination to study
in Commercial and Accounting faculty, Chulalongkorn
University but owing to the medical examination and death of
my mother in the same time it made me loss meditation and
examination fails till get probation and later my study
performance getting worse, frustrated and wanted to resign to
work but at the time my father was at pensionable age and no
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work. At the time I had got encourage from an instructor

Nopparat Rung Uthaisiri the advisor told me that she would
act as my mother as well as good colleges it made me
encouraged to fight it once and intend to pass probation. Here
“Taimean adventure game” occurred, I fought and win
examination each term by thinking it was only a game
challenging our capability and finally last term I passed the
probation and finished bachelor at my 26 years of age and
later I shuffled the card and try to examine for master degree
and finally I could do it and made my father and sister and
brother feel very pleasant.
Game finish, shuffle the card
Whenever looking life as game if we lost whatever game
and after such game we should “shuffle” the card, do not
worry about it any more but fight it again and this time we must
play it for better performance, encourage yourself by various
means such write down a good thing in order let something we
are doing successful and it will create self-willpower , if we are
orphans without parents we may adherent someone as refuge
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such as teacher, monk or a good friend, a letter friend abroad

who we can tell him what we are doing and our dream but we
must ensure that he really want and ready to give us courage.
“We should repeat our good issue by consistently speak
or record in notebook because human brain always think over
of bad thing, this is what physician discovered”
However, even human intent to succeed in material issue
such as reputation, position, wealth etc. But we do not forget
the essence making human valuable that is “Goodness” then it
helps us pay the game more easily without tension and too
seriousness till get both mental and physical sickness.
Thinking to be donator is very important it gives more
encourage to play game because we think to give something
to the world more than getting something from it and then we
feel good even though how much someone feel hate you but
this pure power of donator being will strengthen you happy
and always become a winner.
“Real successor is a person giving good things to the
world not a person steal huge of something from the world”
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Whenever if we have no money, foods we may think that it is

an opportunity to diet or if broken heart we may think it is a
good time to find new and good thing to replace it for example
we may register for new course, to create new experiences
instead of spending time with lover but extra working,
participate religion activity, public charity and these occasion
may lead us to know new friends to fulfill our lives so we should
think positively and fun.
“If fate plays with us, play with it”
Beside playing with fate, looking problems as a fun may
help our lives happy easily such as a falling should be take as
a daily joke, happy with easy matter, just only eating delicious
is okay as well as old age it is a signal of working age which
left a few year and then we will not be tired anymore and we
should be in readiness that if we getting old what the money
source is , we should not expect to get it from children even
though they may retaliate us but such expectation causes
suffering so it is better to let it their duty but our duty is seeking
security for ourselves in the old age such as pension, social
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security, saving life assurance or a pension type, Provident

fund and personal business etc.
Beside playing with fate which playing with us, even
though enemy who always wait to trouble us we also can get
benefits from them due to the enemy sees our disadvantage
easily and most so if you want to know what to be improved or
lacked we have to consider his criticism, the enemy always
observes and finds our mistakes which is fact that our friends
and beloved persons shall not tell us because of
courteousness or cannot see it owing to love makes you bride.
So we should consider his criticism if see it useful and
amendable we should do it to improve our work for best
performance.
If we dream to be a winner, to succeed and make the
enemy accept use, use his pressure and hates push yourself
work with more effectiveness and accepted by society then
someday the enemy will become friend because knows you
are well accepted if he still hate you he will be a black sheep.
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Every body has enemy, whenever you have good friends

also you have enemy but you should make majority love you
and have mercy to enemy and deem he is a mirror reflecting
your own disadvantage for improvement. Due to everyone
come from different families then disagree occurs owing to
their different social values and aptitudes so nobody is fault
but everyone should improve himself to go along with another
party if something is negotiable it should be done, whenever
you can help the enemy you should help him then good things
come to you. In addition, revengefulness should not be
conducted because 1 friend equals to 1 success for my game
of life.
For a friend, he is very important will power to drive our
work performance so we always should always remember
good friends, remember his good speech and eloquence and
pay back him a will- power, the will-power given by friend is
best drug making us thinking positively and effectively even
though there are huge and serious problems and these
problems act as tools improve ourselves but those who lack of
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will-power and always thinking negatively they will think those

problems are terrible and cruel till unable to solve it even
though in fact they have enough capability to settle it.
How does someone betrayed by his own friends do, this
problem has solution namely he should think that even though
his beloved friend can betray him but there still be many other
friends to associate with due to there are good friends left to
associate with you with sincerity, do not absolutely give up for
the plays of fate.
“Do not have only a friend because there are always
many person who are pleased to offer you a fine friendship to
you” because nothing guaranty that the only one friend is good
or not.
Whenever encounter any losses or disappointment, do
not think of it repeatedly to harm yourself absolutely but try to
think of your good deeds such as your champion of
examination, admiration from someone that you are lovely,
helping the old to cross the road, awards in essay etc and
write it in paper then it will make you feel good with yourself,
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take care of yourself and love yourself much more, you are a
value person born in the world so you have to restart the
game, every thing happens and vanished, there is profit and
loss, success and failure, you have to think like sportsman, to
divide your life as portions that each portion is only a game to
be played and restarted .
“Do not let a few failure make your valuable life fail”.
Many of the well-known have ever fallen, many successful
businessmen ever been bankrupt but never given up but still
increase capitals and operation till getting rich and retrieve
their own status and remember that “ There is nothing gained
easily, everything must be exchanged and nobody get
something free of charge and also nobody paid something for
free”.
The way of positive thinking
To win the life game the important thing is that we have
to be trained as “positive thinker” due to a positive thinker
always become calm and stable even be under heavy
pressure such as in the situation of retirement force, reputation
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destruction, being blamed etc. but he will fight and prove

himself to overcome those obstacles and to be a positive
thinker you should have habits as follows : -
Love fellowmen
Those who love fellowmen understand the reasons why
others feel like that and always never hate or angry on them,
even get angry but not so serious till make themselves worried
or make violence or make themselves failed. A person
detesting us they may have his own reason because we were
born from different environment then something may be
opposed, our requirement may oppose their requirement then
it make them hate us and if we understand human innate basis
even though we hate someone but it is not so serious till cause
him worried about the suffering.
Everybody has a basis of selfishness so if we hurt him his
brain will memorize and oppose us even though with or without
our intention. So we should understand this fact and so we
should not get angry or revenge on anyone but should forgive
him and try to do goodness with him. But if whatever have
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been done but he still angry or oppose against us we should

live away from him and avoid any associate with him to prevent
some problem. If someone make you angry because you have
something that he does not prefer you should do as this way
namely looking it in his views then you will understand the
reason why he has done something in such way due to
nobody has innate bad habit, at the beginning of birth
everyone is pure but later become contaminated with desires,
anger, hate and jealousness from outside till white and pure
cloths get contaminated. So if we understand this fact we will
get less angry or hate our enemy.
Forgiveness donation is the highest donation that human
can offer to each other, nobody wants to conduct any offences
so if you can forgive him you should do it. Those who living
with hate will be more serious than a detested person many
folds. If we live in a society that we hate everyone we surely
cannot live there but if we love everyone live there even though
someone has a habit we do not like such too talkative, gossip,
play for times or other detestable habits while working etc. We
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will feel such issues are not so serious and able to perform a
daily work with them smoothly. If we do not love fellow-human
and get easily angry even though we living an society with
good order and principle, working hard but we will be serious
and hate them and try to fine their disadvantage as a
justification to hate them.
A prejudice person always finds other’s mistakes for daily
complain, these guys are not happy because they easily hate
others so they get sufferings, maybe other ones do nothing but
he assumes that they have done it and raise faults and press
others, these guys has metal sickness but they do not know it
and not cure it but it expresses outside by harming other and
finally it causes troubles to surrounding people, family and
themselves, they cannot stay for long at the same place. This
kind of sickness is more serious than a patient with mental
sickness but going to doctor for appropriate medical treatment
which shows he remains sensible to control and look after
himself. But patient with unconscious mental sickness is
awesome and dangerous to society so we all should beware of
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these guys and if it found we have any mental abnormality we

should urgently go for appropriate medical treatment and also
a religious remedy in order that we will have energy to live for
further and always maintain a positive thinking and happy and
cheerful mind.
Dharma shall teach us to think positively well because
the religious teachings come from knowledge of a person
understanding the world rules, there is nothing worth for too
adherence or fascinating till getting suffering, if someone
called “Foolish” and we suffer and get angry because we are
sure of our wisdom but this is one of adherences, it is better to
think that all can be foolish, error and the speaker may not
want to have you so serious like that, they may be our teacher,
parent or boss shouting to us with temper owing to our
mistakes, we should understand it and not adhere “ ตัวกู ของกู”
but if we are not fault it is necessary to explain to inform that
they have misunderstanding. Beside this, if we are blamed
foolish whereas we do not believe that we are wise but we
really guilty, we have to try to overcome such insult by study
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more and more in order to let them look us in a new view, to

apply their insult as our inspiration which in this case author
knows well it is difficult to overcome anger from such serious
blames but I wish you fight it without discourage and believe in
yourself.
We should not remember only a nonsensical blame but
to choose a sensual blame only but if such blame is
impossible to be corrected or difficult to modify it such as
black skin, big nose and ฟั นเหยิน etc. we should not pay more
attention but if we cannot accept it the modern world still have
medical therapy to make you more beautiful. Herewith you can
see that blame can improve yourself so we should not be too
serious till disturb our daily lives. Any bad thing if you
remembered it but get worried or serious, you should learn to
forget it which may be difficult in the beginning because our
brain press us to think of only negative matters. So we should
record our good issue and always read it by creating it into
website, CD, personal block etc. in order to emphasize good
issue that seldom forgotten, whenever we are worried we
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should see such good stories and pictures it will recall a

positive will-power to us once and bring you good attitude for
further living.
We should create our society network for people in
similar taste in order to hear positive energies and to learn
what we are interested for example if you like sports you can
participate with a sport club and associate with good friends to
do creative activities, social aids from time to time in order to
strengthen our positive energy. Participation with social
positive activities will help us to think positive more and more,
the more you do goo the more your life energy increases by
starting good deed with people nearby such as cooking for
parents, massage to aunt, give a gift to brothers and give
snacks to sisters, teach homework to friends or if you have
occasion you should participate with government agents or
public charity organization to offer some aids to society such
as packing goods for flood victims, to join donation to people
in difficulties, participate traditional events, being volunteer for
government agent without fee etc. When you help others it
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means you are sending your love to human then it persuade

other look you in a good view and sent back a positive
energies to you and you will finally love the world and think
positively more and more.
To strengthen your own certainty and capability
Besides creating and strengthen a positive thinking in
our mind we should create self-confidence by trying to resolve
any daily problems in stead of asking for assistance from
others such as a simple repair for appliances, doing
homework, to pass examination etc. if you feel more happy
that today your ability is not satisfactory you should learn more
regarding what you are interested if you get more improvement
you will be more happy because we are confident to be able to
overcome any problems and we will not fear this \world and
will not feel discouraged but optimistic because of confidence
to defeat any difficulties and if your capability is strong enough
we will capable to meet success and you will be accepted by
others and finally you will get more power of happiness.
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You should seek what is our capacity, if you prefer

singing a song you should start learning song basic and
dances in front of audients and in this case singing contest is
one of good activities strengthening your self-confidence even
though you may not become a singer but you have singing
skill in front of audients then if you go to work you will be ready
to present your work to the meeting. So all activities are useful,
you have to pay most attention for what you want then good
feedback will come to you later. Some youngsters like to
participate social development volunteer which beside it give
them a merit but also it practice them work as teamwork,
systematically and after graduation they will be able to solve
problem more easily and effectively than other and know how
to live in group, teamwork better than other worker who never
been previously trained in these activities.
Try to do things successful from a tiny to an advance
success.
Do not let each days pass without meanings but try to do
everything successful since a tiny such as house cleaning,
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house decoration etc, even though you are in a situation of

difficulty or unemployment you can spend the time for small
benefits for your family such house painting at the same time
you are seeking for jobs. Possession of nice house is a good
basic for your life, if there is a useful activity you should try at
your best to finish it successfully whatever problems you
facing, may you fight it and remember that “Obstacle creates
hero”, most successors often have background of suffering
and difficult young-hood then it trained them to fight and
improve themselves to become a capability even though
someone was born rich but his parents also tries to sent him to
meet problems in order to train him a good and capable
instead of being คุณหนูคณ ุ ชาย who can do nothing, so this
kind of parents deemed a ผู้มองการณ์ไกล and nurture their
own children in right way because a person meeting life
success does not because of wealth since birth but because
of his capability and success in problem solution which turn
him to be a hero widely accepted.
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Therefore, if you want to meet success and face with

problem you should think that you are lucky to have met a
teacher to train you more capable, whatever happen you
should try at your best. If we meet a tiny success we will be
able to get energies to meet bigger success, record our
correction of successes and try to continue another success
all our lives, do not let failures disturb or disrupt our lives, we
must remember it as a lesson but do not reiterate till harm
ourselves, speak with ourselves only good issues and do not
look down yourself definitely and whenever hearing your own
ridicules or bad stories, do not let it hurt you, do not have other
play influence on you more than yourself.
To try to overcome obstacles then everybody will accept
you, to overcome ridicules with strong mind at your best, to
create inspiration to yourself by talking with some of your
beloved friends but avoiding associate with anyone looking
you negatively because everything has two sides but normally
others like to look at a bad side which shows that he does not
love us and want us to get sufferings. Therefore, he will create
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a negative power to harm you so you should not associated

with him owing to many troubles may occur whenever live
closely with a person detesting you. Someone likely feel
discouraged upon ridicules because he does not understand
the fact of “ Two sides of all” so up on whosever’s ridicules he
likely repeatedly discouraged because he feels that he was
terrible but in fact it is not like that. A person willing to curses
us he has “choose” to look at us in that view and one of
settlement is to get a grip and look for your advantages, good
friends who love us and ready to encourage us with sincerity
and as the same time we should give back them such
encourages. Having a lot of friends can always help you
whenever you are sinking
Two sides of Truth
“Two sides of Truth” is a key to give us inspiration on
works namely friends look you in positive view at the same time
enemies look at you in negative view as the sample as follows
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If you associated with your sweetheart for 7 years and still not
get married but love is stable while the enemy had get married
for years and already divorced.
In the view of enemy “I had get married and already
divorced but you still not get married at all”
In the view of friends “Your love is so stable while others
have divorced but your both love still alive”
If you failed the entrance examination but the Open
University can be graduated within 3 and half year while your
enemy can entrance to Government University but it takes
longer to finish it. In the view of enemy “Whatsoever, I am
better than you, graduation from government university must
have better chances of progress” but in the view of friends
“You can graduate quickly, so smart and you can get works
before others to earn money to support family..so lucky you
are”
If you are tall, white, plump and have big eyes
In the view of enemy “You are very fat”
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In the view of friend “You are so lovely, white, charming

and plump”
Even though sometime your friends may kid with serious
words but you will not get angry because you can know that
they really have no intention to think like that.
It is obvious that views of both friends and enemy are
true and possible but if you love yourself and self-pleasant you
will believe your friends having power to bring good thing to
you and if you are weak and self-detest you may believe in the
enemy who can bring bad things to you. So please believe
your friend and love yourself then good things will come to
you. Any way to make friendship you should do it and it is the
best if it turns enemy into friend but do not forget that some
enemy’s words can help you too, not bad all such as if he
blame of our working error and late then you should rectify it in
order to overcome the insult because working with efficiency is
more benefits and you are punctual you may be higher
promoted, the reason for enemy to have spoken like that
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because he think that you cannot correct it but If you can

correct it so it means the enemy missed but you win the game.
Even though a speech that “Only one good friend is so
less but better than a hundred of dishonest friends” but we
should not have only a friend because it means you are
placing all hopes on him, he must be a good friend and if
someday he betrayed you and how do you do in this event due
to it often happens with many guys thinking only a real friend is
enough but some if he betrayed you, many people have been
so long sad. Remember that the friend is not our family
member and sometime he contests with you and may cause
some conflicts between you both. Therefore, do not place all
hopes on the only friend but should associate with various
friends with a little hope and do not press him to force him to
do good with you completely.
The persons we should dedicate at most are “ House
friends” namely our relatives ; father, mother, brothers and
sisters, husband and wife including children because these
ones would not betray you but instead fulfill you pleasure,
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willpower and warms. It makes your good side of coin bright

you hope and give you willpower to fight obstacles. Even
though someone prefer to make merits at temples and public
charity organizations but if you lack clemency on them you will
never been prosperous because family is the best life basis for
all. If your family is warm and harmony, whoever cannot harm
you and we shall have mental strength to fight with all forms of
problems.
Just not only a matter of friends but other matters that we
should reserve such as monetary issue which should be
saved, extra works after normally work, life insurance, income
insurance, employment insurance for in the case of
unemployment comes accidently as well as health insurance in
order to take care of your health. Like this it is called “Make a
living without carelessness”. Insurance is a good issue and
should be done such as insurances for house loan, car or
home purchase, business operation, life insurance, health
insurance, pension security, accident insurance, disaster
insurance, fire insurance etc. because the life is not sure,
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nobody knows what will happen to him someday so if we

prepare to meet all events we will be certain in our lives and
have enough powers to make a living and with positive and
bright thinking which finally it strengthen our live and bring
better chances.
It is important that you can admire arts but do not too
susceptible
Sometime susceptibility is dangerous for living in this
world, stop too much thinking and delicacy firstly, we can feel
delicately and understand other’s feelings but do not
susceptible to ask other to please you because such actions
make them bored and cause a negative power to ourselves. In
your birthday is not remembered you should told them or give
them a gift or keep silent. If any party or tour you may be not
persuaded you should not too much serious but a little bit is
okay, never give up hopes, you should be strong and take
care yourself and not be a burden for the others.
If we can stop susceptibility and worries, our daily
problems would reduce both for love and working, if you do
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not petulant and peevish with others nearby all of them will
accept you a mature and believe in you and also you can
communicate and coordinate with others more easily, most
people will love you more due to everyone do not want you ask
something from them at all. Especially whenever you are very
old but always like to ask for interest and make a peevish like a
child you will be called “ the golden age “ the unmarried will be
assumed as an old maid which may make you serious and
suffering and your image will be not so good.
No matter what any case, you should consider how to step
forward if it this circumstance happens, you should know how
to prevent yourself from falling into the problem cycle and if the
major forces you to walk out from the group, work, club then
you should consider to solve the problem by get a grip, strong
and uncourageous event though you feel so painful but you
have to know to emphasize on whose importance, at least your
family and beloved friends still behind you, they have good
advices and encourage to you all the time. If you have got
these things you should overcome your mind and hurry to
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stand up and fight, find a new job, new friends or new

sweetheart, do not forget that this game finished and it can be
always renewed and do not let a loss of last game destroy your
confidence to win the next game.
“Do not be too much susceptible, do not forget that we can
start a new game”
Do not look down yourself
Even though a man should not boast over others but self
disparage should not be done because other would look you
as you mentioned about yourself, you are worth to be
protected. If you look down upon yourself or mentioning only
our disadvantage then other shall assume that you are not
good they will annoy you and look down upon you as per your
ridicule words. Humbleness is acceptable but it must be a self
disparage. If your mind condition at that time feel down and
suffering till feeling that you so humble and to blame yourself
with a close friend is acceptable but do not speak it to many
peoples, you must get a grip then turn to find some better
solutions.
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Non-self disparage shows a self respect, we should

speak and think of yourself in good view, do not look down
yourself or as a abandoned thing but try to do good even
though someone looks you bad, do not loose heart and
continue doing good because someone set so high value to
word “Goodness” which must analysis whether such innate
heart come a pure goodness or not, you need not to be such
excellent good but only you want to be a good one and intend
to do good it is so worth. Human has innate inspiration if you
want to be a good man it means you has “positive inspiration”.
If we want to a useful person we must do and finish it without
discourage, do not be too much worried, do not sympathy with
yourself, do not think you are pitiful but instead add positive
power and be more strong and believe that nothing more
difficult to do or if you cannot do it, try to find new ways due to
there should be various ways to lead you to your destination.
Even though we might do mistakes but it does not mean
that we will be error forever due to we can learn and correct it
through our lives. Life is a center of mistakes, abnormality
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because nature had not granted perfection to creations but the

life born to fulfill such mistakes and we must come across what
is your skill and what you wish to fulfill to the world. If you have
fallen, stand up immediately and find good things for yourself,
even though others insult or look down on you but you yourself
do not detest yourself but instead you have to tell yourself
always that you are a value person then success will approach
you.
Be easily happy everyday
Having a sufficient living and without greedy shall give us
happiness in daily life. Even though a tiny thing can make us
happy such as good taste foods, fun TV program, nice clothes
and a clean home act. We does not need to make a luxury
living, eating Career eggs, tour aboard every month because
happiness does not depend on money but satisfaction on
something in your reasonable possession and if you have a lot
of money but never been satisfactory you will never really
happy.
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We should realize values of what we have in present

family, house, friend, works or people who trusted in you. Do
not ignore and look over its values then we shall have a
positive power but if we never been satisfactory and get bored
in something easily and often looking for new things we will
feel unhappy. Do what you wish to do, do not afraid of
mistakes, we can think carefully but not scare for mistake
because it is easy to find a lot of blames regarding all things
we have done so we should not fear but we should fear of
calcification, standstill and retrograde, if you have a strong
mind you will never fear whatever.
Working with many people, one of issues is that we must
read people’s mind clearly, no worry but consider carefully,
whatever a person prefers to do with other, the another ones
also wish to do it to you such as a person gossiping others to
you and it is possible that in your absence he also gossips
about you to the another ones. A person who is detested by a
lot of people it does not mean always that he is bad but he
may have only some unpleasant property, he may be a good
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man. Anyone persuades you to hate someone you should not

follow him but should “look deeply and long”. Some rumors
which public spoken for along time and people may believe in
but it may not true and we should look a person throughout his
heart in order to not blame anyone wrongly which will be sin
following you until your death.
Reading people’s mind
To win the life game, one of most important is a positive
thinking namely “Reading people’s mind” even though you
think positively but if you cannot read people’s mind you still
probably be deceived and disadvantaged so “we will not think
positively with a cheated person” because we may be always
disadvantaged but instead we should apply tactics to utilize
benefits from him. In daily life we always meets 5 groups of
people with different problems as follows : -
1 A person making up stories
This kind of person has no self-confidence and reject
facts, whenever of disappointment he is likely to make up an
unpleasant stories to such person in order to prevent himself
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such as a woman whose love was rejected and she could not
accept it then she makes up news that such man was gay or
bisexual in the same case a man who broken heart will make
up news that such woman is a deceived for money or insincere
utilization or eating etc. Beside in the office we easily to meet
this kind of persons who sometime makes up a rumor that she
is a minor wife of the manager in order to destroy her
competitor in the works etc. We really should not serious or
believe in the words of this kind of person but instead we
should fall away and beware of his being victim.
2 The hypercritical
The hypercritical is a jealousy person, he always tries to find
disadvantage to blame other whom possessing better articles
and will repeatedly speaks in order to such person feel down,
discourage and look like having a weak point. We should not
associate with him and it is recommended to find his
disadvantage to be repeatedly talked and retorts him anytime
he speaks about your disadvantage but it will be the great and
you will get a huge merit if you can excuse him.
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3 Person of self-admiration
This kind of person always think positively with himself but
at the same time he likely to think negatively to other, whenever
an admiration happen he probably think he was admired. So
you should admire him frequently then he will give you a good
feedback. This one is not awesome and easy to associate with
because of his positive thinking beside that he has a high
negative thinking with other which is very difficult to associate
with and may be causes seriousness so we should stay away
from this kind of person.
4 Aggressive person
This kind of person always negatively thinking with the world
and surrounding environment, very difficult to associate with
him due to he all the time can blame both people and things
daily and many times a day, whenever close association it may
make you gloomy and also maybe blame his own boss which
may make you get involve therefore you should stay away, this
is what you extremely should do for this kind of person.
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5 A pungent person
This kind of person has a negative thinking with the
world, he is gloomy even though he may expresses a happy
by smile, laugh but inside of his mind is negative, serious and
likely curses with bad words, bad jokes regarding other’s weak
points, behave cheerful and like to tease others but he himself
is really unhappy as his expression and he usually requests
department or sections to do something, likes assembly or
protest because he never been satisfactory with anything even
though others are trying to do good with him.
Someone in this group gets mental sick which should
have a serious medical treatment. So our mind should be
supervised and if we feel serious and have symptoms such as
5 groups of those people mentioned above we should be
careful and stop our actions to prevent any damages to
ourselves or others. Meditation, Dharma listening, doctor
consultation and reading a health care book is a way to take
care our minds and if we are anxious we should accept it to
prevent our mind from losing its balance.
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To read the mind of this kind of person to know what is in

their deep mind you should observe his actions, do not believe
in what he said, if he like to blame others and said he never
mentioned to you in negative view, it is possible that he had
blamed you to others and he always like to gossip other’s
matters. Observation can help you more understand other
feelings and know more about his essence. A person
miscalling your name often you should observe who is the
person he calling and what kind of person he is then it shows
that he looks you similar such person. If you call someone but
seldom answer you and also call you less than your call it
means that he has bad attitude against us or he may assume
that we are not his/her friends.
Apart from this, at your difficulty you can see who come
to help you that is real friend this is an easier method and if
you notice who does not like you, you do not be too serious or
worried because there are a lot of people both love you and
hate you then you should approach those whom loves you for
encourage, do not worry about some negative attitudes.
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Someone prefers to speak in bad view against you even

though you have a lot of positive matters you have to not
approach him but if a close friend warn you in a good matter or
mistakes with well-intention which is not deemed as a negative
view but encouragement and you should be happy to have
such kind of friend because he said a real issue and help you
to improve yourself but enemy just mentioned regarding your
negative view in a manner of like but in fact it is not real as
whole it is only a fake story.
Know the life games
If our mind calm you are happy wherever you are
Even though sometime we are living in a noisy place but
if our minds are calm enough such noise is not problem and
such being calm will be trained appropriately maybe by
making some activities using meditation such as reading and
sitting meditation, on travelling to school or works, we may
make meditation once a day just like this our mind will become
calm all the day and it help our daily life happier and easier.
But sometime whenever serious problems occur to you such
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as unemployment, broken heart and sickness etc the calming

mind situation may stop so we should make meditation or
some activities to ease your life such as Spa service, salon,
sport, club, entertainment, dancing etc. but if these activities
cost more money as the same time of our money shortage we
may relieve tension with a meditation at home, kitchen
activities, gardening or house decoration and the activities
author would like to introduce most herewith namely sing a
song and sports it can relieve your tension effectively and after
such tension relieve our mind will become relieve and calm
and also you may find and read a good book beside it can
relieve tension it also can give you knowledge.
Have enemy underestimate is a good thing
Someone may think that showing advantage to frighten
enemy is something we should do most but please note that
such action will make the enemy be careful and try to get rid of
you as most as he can so if you want to win the life game it is
better to let the enemy slight us because show off your
advantage and boast shall make you more difficult due to the
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enemy hate you and want to beat you more and more
especially jealousy enemy so should not be boastful due to he
will try to drag us. Characteristics of the jealousy is to criticize
other in bad views even though things can be looked with both
positive and negative views but a jealous mind has tendency
to cause glooms to others.
What most people cheer you to do may be a trap
Sometime what others advise you to do most may cause
failure due to there are various kinds of deceit such as deceit
on investment or other operations which may cause you
damages later so you should carefully consider prior to believe
anyone, to consider before doing, carefully consider and look
the world with positive view in order for inspiration and this is
different from the case of over-trust in others even though you
are thinking positively to yourself or the world but you should
be more carefully to give your trust in someone, before refer
someone’s words you must consider many times regarding its
subsequence and advantage and disadvantage after
speaking.
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Loss something in hopes but get something unexpectedly,

nothing is sure
Having born in this world we have to accept that no way
to meet your all hopes therefore if we want success in our lives
we should specify and “choose” which one we want to get. As
author, I choose to be a good author to write and create good
literatures for readers, choose to foretell in order to let them
feel relieve but author also cannot get many things but I am
pleased due to I have succeeded something. So whenever we
chose it we should be pleasant with it and remember that all
can meet success if we choose what in your skills and suitable
for example a boy may fail the entrance examination or
repeatedly studied in the same class but after growth he may
become a well-known, actors become very rich, that is his
advantage existing to remind you that he has a good thing and
must know how to sufficient. Understanding “sufficiency” is
very important to pull you from passion and prejudice. We shall
not be terribly suffering with the passion and hopes set up too
high.
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Here, the author would like to tell you something painful

regarding success that is the more passion even though he
posses everything but he is not happy such as a person
dreams of billions Baht, ten houses, worldwide reputation,
most beautiful wife but he still yearn for another thing,
whenever he got all he still have no pleasance at all then he
will thank that even though he posses all but why without
happiness this is because a real happiness is “inside” not
“outside”, if your mind is burn there will be no any happiness
and peace even though you are in a luxury house.
What you are serious about, Find benefits from it then you will
be happier
Everyday we always meet tensions but if whenever we
meet it you should find something to do to relive such suffering
by finding its good points for example author as a writer
whenever meeting a tension then I could solve the problem
then I composed it in my book in order to able to reduce
suffering because I can get benefits from such matter like a
day I tried to pay home telephone fee but when I reached True
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move center it closed then to pay at Seven Eleven store it has

no a barcode then to pay online but I had no customer code
so these things make me think sometime we should let it be as
fates wanted and even though a small matter if it want you not
to do it you cannot do it same as many things in our lives,
something we might think it would become our belongs but
failed even though you had tried nearly dead but when we
cannot get it we should assume that this is a live rhythm and
we should relieve something sometime.
If someday you have no money due to you had paid it for
whatever very important you may think positively by saving
foods in order for diet and think it is good occasion to help you
more beautiful or handsome and turn to look after your foods,
reduce cakes, soft drink but drink only fresh water. Someday
you are unemployed you should assume it is a good time to
find a better work and change yourself to a better thing. Or if
we have to divorce from someone, think that it a good
occasion to turn to take more care of yourself, works and give
yourself good occasion, remember that the most important is
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yourself you may work as a volunteer to help others and to

create goodness to you and also new experience, wider views
due to this world can give you a lot of good things.
Do not worry whenever other ignores you because you are
self-valuable
One of the most important is that even though sometime
you are not interested or concerned by the others you should
be calm to this thing because you are not a hero or star and
even you are but some group of people may not know you at
all such as worldwide stars visiting Thailand many Thai do not
know them. So be free from tension and sorrow, never mind
that others neglect you just only your close friends love you it is
enough, we need not to be prominent or being accepted for
everywhere you go. Being a normal people is the most
happiness, satisfy with it due to it gives you a free feeling and
if you are in the group neglecting you without a tour
persuasion, appointment, foods party you should not interest it
at all due to may be they may not assume you as a close friend
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but it is good enough that you have family, children, the

beloved, close friends and a group of good working mates.
You may doubt how to do if we have nothings mentioned
above; no any group concerning you. Here I would like to
suggest you to fight it by finding a group with same views with
you such as a person become a sixth sense and foresee
something that other cannot, he may be unable to associate
with others at all, doctor make an opinion that he became mad,
unconscious but if someday he meet a group of people with
same view and experiences also they see what he sees he will
get inspiration that he is not live alone and may make
additional research regarding such mental phenomenal till he
become well-known. The inspiration from close friends is the
most important so you should approach friendship and you try
to create friendship suitable with you and then you will meet
happiness and overcome the life game; remember that
“Friends’ willpower is more powerful than any powers in the
world”.
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Hide your disadvantages from your enemy.

In your life game what is difficult to avoid is enemy,
everyone has both lovers and haters so if you know enemy’s
disadvantage you should let it be as it is, do not let him know
event though it seems a little terrible but for the enemy if you
tell him his advantage he will hate you more and he may
correct it in time before a mistake. So for the enemy, we should
hold impartiality and not interest whatever good or bad matter
or movements because will look you with negative view for all.
But if the enemy tells your disadvantage to you it is a profit in
order that you can correct it to make many things better, so we
should think in this way and understand that everybody has
disadvantages to be continuously corrected all the time and
do not worried if you are informed of your disadvantages and
whenever it occurs you should correct as your best.
Self-willpower creation can change environment as your wish
If you have self-willpower it will spread to people
surrounding and have them treat you positively. We can create
this power by making self-inspiration, doing goodness to
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people in troubles, joining a temple religious merits, having

gratefulness to the sponsors in order to get more willpowers,
look the world with positive views and believe that something
good is approaching you and try to make it come true, do not
let it come to you by itself but remember that “Luck will help
only those whom approaching it”
If you want something, start it today, immediate action is
the most importance if you want to have your own business
you must decide its beginning point and immediately do it
without delays and when you finish the first success, use
willpower derived from it to fight for further success
continuously but if you are so tired you should take a rest and
know the life balance.
We should find some tools to help create self-inspiration
such as workbook for records or notebook or applications to
summarize our plans, arrange it in good order and total image
if what you have to do next, what have been succeeded due to
such success itself will help to create powers to continue next
works.
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Should you associate with insincere friends? Should you

associate with jealous friends? Should you associate with
whoever insulting you?
It is sure that in our lives we must meet someone dislike
and insincere with us by taking advantage or pretention but we
have to associate with him because he may not be a good
person but only because of our different characteristics, born
in different circumstances and different way of live therefore it
conflict each others but we can associated just only avoid
some point which probably causes problems and we should
be calm whenever approaching such trouble points.
Association with this kind of friend will cause benefits in
working, work cooperation if he is not too terrible up to be an
enemy you should continue to associate with him but
whenever the conflict becomes more serious or when you
found that they are less righteous than normally you should
avoid association with them due to it will bring you damages.
There are many friends in the world you can choose to
associate, a human should not be afraid of having no friends
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due to the population is going over the world so there must be

millions of persons who can meet with you and if these friends
cause strong troubles such as breaking your family it is better
to keep aloof from them.
Sometime a pretention of stupid causes excellent benefits
Sometime we may know something but cannot speak
owing to it may cause you trouble such as a neighbor has
salary of 8000 Baht but he told his relative a salary more than a
hundred thousand then a day you meet his relative and talking
this issue, it is better and safety to say yes. But some issue
occurred in our society may be “more serious” as the sample
raised by author which you have to observe and be careful
very much about something you know but cannot speak out so
sometime you should pretend foolish which means you are not
so foolish because sometime to have others look you foolish
may cause better effects for long run.
One of obvious samples of benefits from such foolish
pretend is liver issue, it is assumed that one woman with
clever, IQ 180 and graduated as a doctor but has very
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ordinary boyfriend who like to teach her about life philosophy

whereas something she already known but something she
never known but this woman is always still while listening his
speeches with intention and without any interrupt. This is the
reason he decided to ask her for marriage because she
respects him and pleased to listen him with intention which is
one of charms. If asked she will tell that she like him speaking
stories not only knowledge but also she can touch his love to
have tried to fide good stories for her. This is a sample of a real
clever woman.
For a woman who does not know how to pretend
and likely to find faults of her boyfriend, never trust in him,
checking mobile and always check and follow him, because of
these it causes a high possible chance of divorce because he
was not respected by his beloved due to mostly men deem
respect very important and also he wants the beloved accept
and believe in him.
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Loss is not a big issue it is only a rule of struggle.

Have you ever seen a rocking doll? Whatever directions it
is thrown it will always stand up. Someday if you failed you
must stand up and take a rest to consider carefully how to
solve the problem and remember that everyone has a chance
to fall at any time and many times. As long as you born as a
human you must understand this; you can fall but cannot be
discouraged no matter how many times of falls we will stand
up all the time, fight it again and find self-inspiration. The
important persons of the world mostly posses the properties of
a rocking doll and this property is more important than a divine
gift and wealth from our families.
Happiness is more important than wealth
The author believes that all eras the values of articles or
money which can be exchanged with something you want and
also everyone wants it but it is asked whether such thing
causes a real happiness or not and it causes some sufferings
to someone or not. Many persons may think that getting
whatever he wanted and pleasant will bring him always
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happiness it may be correct but not frequently because some

happiness may bring suffering and worries to many people as
per the speech “ There is nothing get for free but all must be
exchanged”
In the past, humans still have no language without
separation of man and woman. It is said that at that time
human thinking like animals and not different from the lower
animals, they did not know how to think reasonably and
righteously, they used only method to gain what they wanted
that is a fighting or violence and they felt happiness after
getting what they wanted but this kind of happiness is a
temporary pleasance only not a permanent happiness at all.
After the times past the human knew to separate men
from women, know how to use hand language or body
language but even thought verbal language still not happened
the human was able to communicate for understanding among
them and used the body language to analyze and explain and
exchange what they wanted and for better understanding and
also in order to reduce any violence to seize something they
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wanted then their thought to get something started its reasons

and so to get what they get pleased turn to have its specific
purposes and what they got had more values respectively.
Whenever the violence to seize whatever they wanted
occurred again it means the exchange was not satisfactory for
both parties who sending their own body languages.
In the present, many human languages have occurred
and classes of human have also divided respectively. It can be
said that the human has developed gradually and if their
requirements still not sufficient then new theory and modern
innovation have been researched and continuously occurred
by special human ability of some group of people but event
many eras passed, the human still use violence to seize what
they wanted until the present.
Requirement to gain whatever the human wants is
endless or and their requirement on whatever they gained did
not focus on its benefits only but the human also look for its
benefits for surrounding people no matter to gain rights,
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dignity and status etc which all things causes someone

satisfactory with their different gains.
For exchanges for whatever everybody wanted, in
present the exchange factors mostly depending on money but
the exchanges with belongs still some available but not much
therefore money is very important for exchange or payment for
appliances including foods which generally available to
choose due to the human’s decoration never end and
acquisition of money needs exchange too. Therefore human
tries to do by all means to gain and possess such money as
most as they can in order to gain whatever they want most.
Human passed their own histories for generations till able
to utilize their old backgrounds in various forms of bad and
good cultures to be mixed and compounded forming a perfect
form in a level but the human still unable to overcome their
deep thought or hind inside themselves. Human’s thought is
compared as paper which can be painted with read whereas
we cannot know whether it is read or blood. Some new theory
or philosophy cause different thoughts among them more and
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more and it can be accumulated and causes different and

conflict requirements till cause more and more fighting and
violence all the times.
Money is an element in our making a daily life and
important to bring factors required by human for their daily
lives therefore everyone agrees that we can do nothing without
money and the author agrees with it due to in the present to do
everything we have to use money but I also think it is not all
because money is outside belonging and human can survive
by using 3 important things namely; 1. 4 factors (Food, drugs,
clothe and accommodation), 2.Friends (relatives, mates etc.)
3. Feeling (temperature, spirit and soul). The money is
unavailable amongst these 3 factors but it still cause effects to
gain such 4 factors but for another factors it is not always need
to exchange with money. Therefore, it can be said that only the
factor no.1 that you will get it with money but it is not always
because if there is share from someone it is possible that these
3 factors may not be exchanged with money at all just only
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human know and realize the last 2 factors then money may be
not necessary for human existing at all.
Whenever human or people know how to analyze
badness and goodness, requirements, sufficiency and
satisfaction then the world will have no any scrambling,
badness, goodness and all lives can proceed along the right
cycle but if available partiality, greed, desire of power,
possession, triumph and endless requirements which finally
the human will end.
“At present we, human are living with money if a lot of
money lay in front the most likely to accept it and ready to face
whatever probably happen later without carefully consideration
whether who may suffer or worries because of this action
owing to those are not concern with them but if someday he
passed away what view he will be mentioned and where the
money will be kept for the dead and there may be a person
sacrifice merit to you if you had not done troubles to such
person and there will be a person realize your value after your
death?”
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In the present the money is very important for human and

it is always exchanged with valuable goods. The obvious
equivalent item is “gold” and price of the valuable goods is
high and continuously increased till everyone assume “gold” is
most expensive. Normally people like to mention money
combine with gold called “Money and gold” because both of
them have similar value all the times. Word “Money is not all for
our lives” many persons understand it but there are many
persons still assume that it is not money but gold. By the way
no matter money or gold they still not everything of our lives
but it is only a part support human live in society and whenever
a critical situation comes it is possible that money and gold
may not important for our lives anymore.
“Money is an article outside body if not die we can get
it”, this sentence has been spoken many times. Someone has
nothing left but willing to further fighting event though times
passed not matter how many time of world wars those people
scramble for foods without any interest in money or gold.
Similarly, in the times of natural disasters from flood, fire which
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cause completely destructions till no any clothes left and at the

time the important thing is not money but sympathy and
hospitality amongst human to share belongings to those with
difficulty and that is happiness for those who living in a critical
time and it cause a mental happiness for the giver so this is
more important than money and it cannot be found anywhere,
it is intangible like money or gold but it comes from heart of
givers granting to one or tow or more persons indefinitely.
This is a real happiness, the requirements, satisfaction and
good feelings shared to each others will be sustainable as
long as our death and the more you give the more people
memorize you whenever you passed away.
Here I would like to raise example an animation of Japan
created from a real story during 2nd. World war named
“Graveyard of Firefly” mentioning relationship amount a brother
aged 14 years and sister aged 4 years while both of them
facing terribly fate to have lost their parents and had to earn
living lonely during a very difficult time lacking of foods but
they could live happily, the brother felt happy whenever saw
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his sister smiling and the sister also felt happy whenever
staying nearby her good brother while they were playing with
fireflies happily at nighttime even though however difficult with
food shortage but finally they both had passed a way when his
sister died because of no foods then he followed. This story
teaches us to know that living with happiness is hospitality and
concerns each others more than money if you have a chance
you should try to read this animation
Thailand during the beginning of winter of September
2011 a mega flooding happened and effected Thailand’s
economy and society seriously, many people and families lost
their beloved ones and also properties but due to Thai people
have sympathy and hospitality to each others event though
animals and here I would like to raise an example of aunt
Sunan she was blocked on the house roof together with more
20 cats and dogs and everyday she cooked foods for the
animals even though a little foods left but she felt happy and
relieve when she saw the animal have enough foods even
though she was so tired and soon later she together with the
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animals get assistance from someone. This is one of

happiness gain from goodness share amongst human.
And I would like to mention another woman during the
terrible flooding situation she feed more than 50 dogs but she
could help and save only 45 dogs and later she asked for
assistance from concern units to help another 5 dogs then
about 20 days later she together with officer riding a boat into
her home to find them. Arriving the home it found the
housebreaking and many belongings stolen but she did not
worry about that just concentrate her intention to find the dogs
and found one of them looked like a mangy dog then the
rescue took it for treatment immediately this is a sample of
happiness occurred without money.
Finally I would like to realize that it is necessary to use
money for daily life but happiness is more value and precious
than money that is the mental happiness, happy with what we
have and happiness to see others happy, relationship and love
to each other while we are living is a real happiness, before
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your surrounding people pass away we should love each other

more and more.
Goodness is more important than everything
In our lives there are many things happened in the same
day of our birth but goodness did not happen by itself without
our creation or trial to make it. Everyone can do goodness or
conduct it with sincerity or only pretention in order to show off
to others.
“Goodness never died” this word has a deep meaning
and facts all the times no matter how long the time past, no
matter a hero or heroine in storied recorded in the past or even
normal people normally found, their memory or goodness will
be engraved in the minds of next generations for long and
long.
As all mentioned above, herewith I would like to raise
example of the important persons widely mentioned even
though they passed away for a long times as follows : -
King Ramkhamhaeng the Great, He created Thai letter to
Thai people until he was remembered among Thai.
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- King Naresuan the Great, He regained the land of

Ayuthtaya to Thai people.
- Soonthornphu, He created most valuable literatures to
nature and teach Thai to descend from generation to
generation.
- King Rama 5, he abolished slavery and granted
freedom to Thai people countrywide
Goodness made by those people have caused
pleasance to everybody in the present or even though some
kind of animals that closely live with people for a long time like
a dog which is deemed an honest animal and so much
esteemed till it has been constructed as a respectful
monument for normal people for example : -

Yaleh, it was a mongrel dog feed by King Rama 6 it was

very clever and flatteringly, it always granted royalty to the king
as a lifeguard then it was very much pleasant and because of
this it caused jealousness amongst the courtiers and
especially in case that any courtiers dressed disorderly they
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would be bitted by Yaleh in front of the king and so it made

them feel so ashamed and furious. Therefore whenever the
king traveled lonely without Yaleh some of courtiers always
tried to harm it.

In 5th year Yaleh had become a royal dog. Someday

Yaleh had been found sleep dead beside a wall of the great
palace in direction of Wat Pho, Tatian and a would by gun
shot was found and it was believed the murderer might not be
a common royal page because at that time a person
possessing a gun must have very high rank or might be a lord.
King Rama Six was very sorrowed and gave a royal cremation
to Yaleh in a very good coffin with golden leave cover and also
the Yaley’s sculpture had been made beside the coffin by
royal order as well as the royal pages had been ordered by
royal order to dress as various animals to attend and join its
cremation parade. After the cremation the king had ordered to
construct his monument by casting Yaleh’s configuration with
copper to be installed in front of Chaleemongkol royal
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residence in the Sanamjan King palace in Nakhonpathom

Province and the king also wrote a rhyme dedicating it and
inscribed it beside the monument.

- Hajiko is a Akita pedigree it is a real bleed and very

rare, born in Odate town, Akita province in Japan. People
recognized Ajiko because of its royalty to its boss till it was
named “Hajiko a super honest dog”. Hajiko lived with
Professor Hidesamuroh Ueno as instructor of Agricultural
Science of Imperial University (Tokyo University). When it was
2 months old Professor Ueno had to travel to teach in the
university by train at Chibuya station and every morning Hajiko
always saw its boss off in front of house and evening after
working hours at 15.00 Hajiko always came to wagging its tail
to wait an welcome its boss at the railway station but when
Hajiko aged not up to 2 years on May 21,1925 Professor Ueno
was dead with a symptom of broken blood vessel in the brain
at the university and on that day it also came to wait its boss as
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usual at the railway station with absorption and never known it

will never seen its boss anymore.
After the death of Professor Ueno, his wife moved out
and took Hajiko to live with his relative far way for many
kilometers but nothing could stop its mind from his boss so
every time it freed from the house it immediately ran back tot
the old home but never seen anybody. Finally it knew its
beloved boss was not at the house anymore then it returned to
the railway station like the time of his boss existing at 15.00
everyday and every time the train stopped it always looking for
the boss amongst the crowd. Hajiko did like this everyday for
10 years then Japanese esteemed Hajiko as a good model for
children adequately Japanese Empire ordered to cast its
configuration with copper in 1934 and installed in front of
Chibuya railway station.
In March 8, 1935 Hajiko was found lied dead at
the place where it liked to wait its beloved boss for 10 years
and finally Hajiko came back to meet its boss once… But it is
believed its soul still alive and at the place. After the end of a
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long waiting, its body had been kept in National Science

Museum in Tokyo beside the casted figure in Chibuya area but
there are also many statues reminding Hajiko like in front of
Odata railway station in Akita province where is its homeland
etc. Besides its stories had been mentioned as a great legend
and created as movies, drama, cartoon, student books and
others. The small dead body of this dog teaches us that “There
is a real love and for this love we should be patient, honest and
hopeful as long as our last breath”.
There are also many stories to praise valiant deeds of
those creating goodness and benefits to the world and their
departure and goodness had created happiness, sadness and
concerns unforgettable to this world all the time.
At the end, the author would like readers think that
whatever you are doing will effect others even thought the
victims or witnesses and such actions may be remembered
and memorized by many others whereas you never known it
and your goodness will make people living in the world
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remember you all the time forever so we should do and keep

goodness.
Whenever failed, do not be egocentric on whatever lost but
think of what to do today
“ Human life is short
Do not worry about the lost
Create a great life
Step forwards happily
Change suffering into happiness
Do not feel worried
With whatever lost and changed
Step forward to your dream
Remember rhyme of life
learn to live with wisdom
For your beloved ones
nearby you if you care for”
I, author here would like to start with a rhyme that I
composed with most intention and wish to give you from my
heart and a feeling to let you look this world as a book that we
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can play as per the roles controlled by yourself. Someone may

assumed we all born as the fate specified it is May partly
correct but that is only one of the whole parts of the story. Fate
or whatever ordered you to be born is only of your life but we
can choose a way of life and that is a start point of our journey
and whatever we choose and decide to do will cause
consequences after such deeds such as “Do goodness will
get good thing and do bad deeds get bad result” etc and
whenever you chose to conduct a mistake if we still live in the
world we still have a chance to change our roles in our daily
living and to resolve any problems for ourselves all the times.
The world is like a book if you think a chapter which
difficult to change you should prove yourself whether you can
choose it or not. If comparing life as a game our lives will have
no certain summary due the game contents are changeable
and its final summary and whenever you lost the game over
and then we restart it or if before doing something if you are
not sure and think the way you shoes is wrong you should
record it first then return to restart at the same point. Such
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record is a little different from the game; the game means a

restart at the same point but for our lives a record means an
important data reservation to approach what you are going to
do, for example, if you invest 500 Baht to buy something we
should reserve an extra 500 Baht to prevent some mistakes
and in order to restart the game once.
Many children in school age, some of them are worried
about the class too much and in the case fail it becomes a big
issued. Too much worry may cause mistakes for what you are
doing. Many persons think that if the time of examination is
coming it is prohibited to watch cartoons, games but allowed
to watch dramas or movies! What is the reason? Some
guardians strongly prohibit watching even a story of cartoon
and game. But in order for relief the author agrees it can
relieve the children and let them feel relax in order to continue
their reading but if the guardians are afraid of their over plays it
is better d control the play time or compromise and I would like
to suggest that to get better total performance after
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examination depends on only 5 items on something necessary

to be done everyday namely:
.1 No class absent .2 No misbehavior .3 Advance reading
.4 Complete assigned home work by yourself and 5. No sleep
late, just only these rules it would not so much difficult to get
knowledge enough but it is very important to make some
relieve on your brain.
Many students may failed on the entrance the problem is
why we failed and many are worried about his problem even
though they have tried at their best but have you ever thought
that such attempt derived from your internal force or pressure
or not. Too force shall minimize our perception or in another
view we may do at our best but still be another better ones so
it is a test that we should not too serious with everything
because losing the hope may cause only bad feeling but next
step we must succeed it because there is no disappointment
all the time so we should pay more intention to finish it, just
only intention and continuous attempt and the most important
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is that you should not apply any force or seriousness then next
time you certainly can pass the entrance examination.
Many people think they know love well enough and upon
association with someone you may give him too high wishes
then one day if he or she went away from you it likely to
become so sad or someone may want to die or want to harm
others which all these cause nothing good. Broken heart, in
deep consideration it is like something broken by you
accidently. In fact such broken heart is not a big issue it is
believed that many upon broken heart and then if you have
someone coming to please you then you may be feel relieve
and become publicly brave once. Do not be too serious upon
any broken heart, if he or she thought another better than
you..let him go. Author believes that you are one of those ever
been broken heart? And how are you now? Think nothing, now
it like nothing happened and maybe now you may have new
beloved one already or you may not have anyone beside you
but you can live alone, you are the most important..Take care
of yourself.
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It is often that companies or organizations decided to

reduce personnel because of factors effecting the internal
business operation of such companies or organization, there
are many employees are lay off and unemployment and there
still be this kind of incidents and think if you are one of them
how you should do. The first one you should not be too much
worried about it due to seriousness make you feeling bad and
discourage and you should spend 2-3 days to do something
comforting you and not disturb others, think that is your
relaxation before start new thing and you should plan to get a
new gob with salary similar with your old rate or it does not
matter if it is less. If you do not hold on the organization but on
a position which you can do it then you certainly get a new job.
As well as you should wait for the employment application
result with easily and trying to find a new job for a couple of
places a week and live as usually but you should reduce some
expenses in order to reserve money during the time of
unemployment and something important is that you should try
to exercise for better health. So if you do like this continuously I
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strongly believe that you will be able to get a new job soon and
I sheer you and stay beside you herewith.
In does not matter of unemployment or lower salary
which make you difficult to pay for a daily expenditure and
difficult to get whatever you wanted. Money is very important
for living in society because you have to pay for everything you
wanted but if we know how to manage money amount existing
appropriately you can gain what you want even though you
may get it partly not whole. There are 4 main factors helping
you to spend money economically as follows : -
1. To establish an expenses table in order to let you
know all the times what and how much money you should to
pay or already paid then you will be able to know if you have
over spent without necessity.
Example
No. Subjects Limits Actual paid Over paid
1 Travelling 500 600 100
2 Foods 800 900 100
Total 1,300 1,500 200
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As the sample table above you knows that you paid over
100 Baht each boxes and totally over 200 Baht. Therefore, you
have to examine what part is over necessity then reduce such
parts.
2. Spend for only the things important to survive our
daily lives such as foods, drinking water ect.
3. Do not purchase unimportant things or luxurious
belongs such as clothes and shoes etc because we can use
the old ones in stead of new ones without necessity in order to
reduce extra expenditure.
4. To deposit or save all the money in a bank account
because it will give a dividend as interest to the customers
which is better than keeping the money with you without any
interest or benefit.
At the end the author hopes whatever happen to you all
please be sure that everything has a appropriate resolution if
you are not discouraged upon failure and whenever you make
a new trail and cure with ease you will find better choices of
resolution and finally you will certainly meet you life success.
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Work with happiness and pleasant with organization

For our daily fives, money is very important to exchange
with what you wanted either foods or clothes and the money or
incomes for our lives must derive from our working or
employment to exchange for such money for daily expenses.
Each work or employment is different; someone conducts as
follower but someone as supervisor or may be as a self-
business owner.
If you have no your self-business but working for an
organization you must know clearly on such organization either
the officemates, supervisors, environment and understanding
on any assignments because these factors shall effect your
working life. But you have ever though how to conduct or
behave in the working condition in order to let yourself feel
relieve and happy with such daily works.
Many feel discourage regarding daily working
circumstances. The main causes make workers feel
discourage with their working in each organization mostly
similar in 5 main causes as follows : -
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1 Employment allowances
Salary allocation in the organization for employees
usually effect the work operation if whenever they know the
employment wages of each others and especially found it
incompliant with its structural standards the problem of
worker’s dissatisfaction on the allowance will always occur. In
another case on the time of annually account settlement for
salary promotion and bonus the workers will be absorbed with
his/her own performance and salary promotion and whenever
the result is not compliant with their expectations even though
someone think that they had tried at their best but failed or a
question why others get higher promotion even though he/she
had been working with better performance.
2 Grouping
Working in an organization sometime just only a glance it
is agreeable if we are congenial friends and feel happy to
cooperate with this guy but if anyone become uncongenial in
the group he will be looked like an over part especially
whatever doing he often does not get an appropriate
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cooperation but the congenial group usually go along well and

share assistances amongst the group for any problems
occurred.
3 Leader’s issues
Working in an organization we mostly start as a
follower working under supervision and control by a supervisor
or leader who can create pleasant or unpleasant working
condition to you, a follower, if the leader have good
understanding on the follower or whenever he dislikes his
personal habit the follower shall not be able to work in full
capacity due to he may not give you suggestion or maybe
makes a noise regarding mistakes even a little issue then it
become a pressure on your working and finally you may
cannot continue working. But if the leader is understandable
other’s feelings and able to accept you then you can work with
happiness and easily or it is said “a good leader creates a
good follower”.
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4 Working mates’ issues

Working in an organization one of the important thing in your
work operation is a good cooperation. for someone whom you
are cooperating with if he assumes you are coming to replace
him it is certainly believed there will be no any sincerity or
good cooperation from him and he will become your
competitor and you may be consequently persecuted without
consciousness till you cannot stand for working in such
organization but in contrary some working mates having similar
feeling may understand you and able to congenial with you for
works without any problems.
5 Subordinates’ issues
Working in an organization if someday we have been
promoted to be a leader level and have followers in control,
any our decision to do something you should always consider
capacity of your followers due to normally they may not do as
your wish and even so good but personal innate
consciousness is different, someone speak well but finishes
nothing whereas someone speaks less but finishes
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assignments and there is also a follower disobey his leader so

the group’s assigns may be not finished as the plan set and
finally it causes tension.
These things certainly effect the mind of the worker
operating his assignment with sincerity and absorption for the
benefit of the organization and obvious effect is a discourage
and tired with works and cause negative view to the
organization more and more and working with dissatisfaction
and may cause a bad verbs or forces to others whom he have
to cooperate with in the organization.
So if you look working as a game play that we should
conduct it correctly and continuously in order to reduce some
dissatisfaction. Here let’s come to see item by items as follows
1 Employment allowances
If you have feeling that your strong intention and
dedication got a low salary promotion from the organization
you should think that is good enough but it just only does not
match requirements of the executives or assessor therefore
you should try to improve your performance and it is believed
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someday someone will see your attempt but do not mentioned

the issue of salary promotion comparison to any others in the
organization or else you may not get promotion as much as
others for next time. Moreover in the operation you must find
real requirements the executives then one day you will
certainly get allowances as you wish.
2 Grouping
There are small and big groups occurred in
organizations which causes working groups then for a person
without group looks like lonely and can complete nothing
because of no assistance from others. For the group joining
there must be something similar to help you able to participate
with the groups in the organization or it may come from some
relations causing a feeling of desire to speak and such good
human relation can happen only whenever you know how to
great and discuss others and moreover assistance to each
others then you will not be alone in the organization.
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3 Leader’s issues
When you feel that since the first of working you think
that leader never thought to teach you or never tried to listen
you opinion, it seems the leader does not impress on you at all
but you consider in another way it may be because of yourself,
try to look back and examine yourself to find if there somewhat
disadvantage or problem that made your leader feel
unpleasant with you. This is one of methods to resolve this
problem and let your leader understand yourself, try in this way
you will know how the leader feel or you may notice some of
your officemates whom impressed by the leader in order to
know a reason of this matter then you try to do like that. To
choose a correct way will cause you to acknowledge what your
leader preferred.
4 Working mates’ issues
In a working place, there must be both persons admire
and dislike you especially your officemates and if they
assumed you an enemy it is a problem so do not definitely try
to be contrary against them it will be like splashing gasoline
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into fire..what will happen ! How to resolve this problem is to

be calm as most as you can and try whether you will
overcome your mind or not, you are still or stable enough or
not. It is better to have them do in their ways but you should do
the work at your best, do not pay more intention to them, they
are not your relatives and you also never asked for theirs
assistance for your life but just only officemates you should do
and finish your assignments at your best as a proverb “Win
yourself then you shall win others” then someday you will see
that nobody beside likes and admires such persons at all.
5 Working mates’ issues
Whenever you are promoted to higher position it means
your capability meets requirements of executives and when
you have followers in your control you have to accept their
independent opinions due to you have both obedient and
disobedient followers but as the leader you should capable to
know and do all works and at his absence you should must do
it even it may more slowly but the work should be finished
smoothly. So a leader should not be worried about the
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followers’ habits or capability. You may assign him a lighter job

in order to notice the reason of his failure maybe it is not
because of his disobey but it is over his capacity, you should
give him a chance and try to change your assignment
methods by considering that if you were he then how much
work you would manage and finish it and learn the method to
let him understand and proceed such works correctly and with
most efficiency. Sometime you should ask them for some
suggestion or opinions in order for more efficiency. Because of
best and sincere cooperation amongst the leader and
followers then final goal will be accomplished smoothly as you
all wished.
Happiness of the family
Family is first institution of human. Good and stable
temper and basic personality begin from a warm relationship
amongst the family members; father, mother, children or some
others such as uncle, aunt, grand children and other relatives.
If the family members love and care each others it will be a
perfect and happy family. Everybody needs touch, care and
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concerns, all members in the family must get best cares and
concerns. In our modern family someone pays more attention
to outsiders than insiders then it causes problems for example
a person commit merit for temple but narrow-minded to his
own family members or some adolescents love friends more
than parents. This is because they lack loves from the family
and maybe it is because of turndown economy then every
family members have been absorbed in works and forget to
give attention to each others. Some families competed each
other as enemy and some of them had killed each others..it is
so sorrowful.
A person of real perfect in life cannot definitely lack
happiness from family. A problem derived lack of family love
can be resolved by creating love and conciliation amongst the
family members once but if a person of “innate disability” it
means the family give love and care enough but he still look it
in negative views and assumed the family bad and imperfect
then tried to ask loves from outsiders, this is deemed a heavy
sin and it takes so long time till he realizes that he had hurt his
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own family members after some of them had already passed

away. Therefore, whenever you feel dissatisfactory with some
of family members you should review if such action is correct
for example some adolescents blames his own parents
because of poverty and inability to provide him an expensive
goods then he misbehaves including blaming and lookdown
his ancestors, this kind of persons must be treated
appropriately and there should be a consultant to give them
advises including introducing him to religion as a mental
refuge to become a person of “ Good thought, Good deed and
Good speech” and with more pure spirit.
A problem of adolescents with misbehavior to the family
easily found in Thai families that breed their children in so
luxurious and comfortably way then they cannot to face with
even light difficulty and they never been minor than other,
whenever loss they feel so ashamed and cannot stand for it as
far as think to suicide. Therefore, the family should culture
them with mental basic stability and moral principles by
focusing more on value of goodness than of the articles and
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money including luxuries. If any a competition in family it must

base on goodness and charity because the mind of donation
means a person of real happiness because of no adherences
but only relief, empty and pure more than others.
Release and approach Dharma
Release means a release you from adherence in any
material objects and abstract object, it is to free your mind
from any obligation binding your mind adhered and attached.
This release is a reduction of sufferings occurred in your mind
which is one of the most difficulties to do. One of its causes are
lustful desires and adherence owing to the modern world
changing with material innovations as temptation causing
lustful desires adhering various kinds of lustful desires more
and more. In fact, if human can release such adherences
happiness will certainly increase and sufferings will reduce.

The method of release by approach Dharma to relieve

sufferings and lustful desires is a living in accordance with
Three Characteristics transited as three kinds of
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characteristics of existence namely a common characteristics ;

Natural rule which is common for all creatures in the world
namely :-

- Impermanence (Characteristic of impermanence) namely

inaccuracy, instability and condition of changing, everything in
the world will be changed all the time and commonly.

-Sufferings / incompleteness (Characteristic of sufferings

namely a condition of incompleteness, pressure, conflicts and
forced being with an occurring and disappear.

-Non-self (Characteristic of non-self) means a real non-self, not

belong to anyone and never sustainable for ever.

A person facing sufferings and wants a way out to relieve

himself from such sufferings can apply this three
characteristics his living and herewith the author raises a
sample of the three characteristics application for your lives as
follows :-
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Those who suffering about works

There are many causes making you feel suffering on
works and also there are methods to free you from such
sufferings and able to relieve it base on such causes as
follows : -

-Sufferings derived from some failures in working, in the first

step you have to analyze why your works failed it may possible
that such works beyond your existing capability and if yes you
should ask for assistance from your officemates or supervisors
with more experts and skills than you, you should not feel
ashamed for a look down on your capability but in contrary
your request is a method to open new visions, suggestion and
opinions whereas you can apply these things on your works
and also to increase a positive relationship amongst the group.
If you cannot relieve the sufferings on your working which
derived from your own mistakes, you have to compose yourself
and find for appropriate resolution and you should think that it
is common for some error in working but you should improve
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and increase your efficiency in your work performance as a

proverb “ Quick stand up after falling” it means the errors
passed and it must be relieved but at the same time you
should pay more attention to next other works in order to
prevent any reoccurrence.
Those who suffering about monetary and debt
The cause of suffering on monetary and debt issues
likely occurred from your extra expenditures or no monetary
plans to balance with your existing income. To cut off this kind
of sufferings you have to practice on income and expenses
management each month for appropriate expenditure and try
to cut off any luxurious goods, reduce any over expenditures
and try to find extra works for extra money to pay for debts. A
method to relieve you from this kind of suffering you should
accepted your failure on the monetary management and
assume it as a valuable less to have you realize more on the
money values.
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Those who suffering about lover or spouse

Many person are worried about love and spouse
because of conflicts, different views and just want to beat each
others which finally causes sufferings and conflicts amongst
family. In this case you should learn and adjust to meet each
and must avoid some verbal conflicts but instead you should
practice the principle of Layman righteousness which is a
principle for common laymen as follows :

- Satja means an honesty to each others, faithful, sincerity and

only love in order to prolong your love without any mental
conflicts or something make other side feel suspicious.

Tama means a pressing your mind like at your anger time you
should try to press your mind to free from anger or not express
your ager against other parties because it may cause them
unpleasant and get angry against you retrospectively and
finally causing a quarrel easily.
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Khanti means a patience. Spouse or marriage lives may have

some conflicts which deemed as commonly but if any
dissatisfaction occurred you should try to use more patience,
press down temper because if you carelessly express with
dissatisfaction it may cause misunderstanding and anger.

Jakha means a donation. Knowing how to donate personal

benefits to other parties with hospitality such as a husband
knows how to sacrifice to his wife and the wife knows how to
sacrifice to her husband just only this way the family can live
together happily.

Besides, the husband has duty to behave to his wife as follows

- To esteem and praise her as his wife whatever her

educational background, social status, financials will be but
after get married as a spouse she must be esteemed and
praised as a wife willingly and sincerely.

- Never look down or contemn his own wife even though she
may come from a poor family.
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- Never behave unfaithful to his wife, the husband must be

honest to his wife, only love and never has a lover.

- Grant a leadership internal works such home works, kitchen

works without any interrupt or blames.

- To give her appropriate dresses it means the husband should

grant her wife clothes in order to create morale and willpowers
to her to dedicate to take care of all family members both
homework, foods and children nurture.
Those who suffering about heaths
Human born by power of good deed and bad deed. The
matter of Birth, Old, Pai and Death is common, someone is
worried about your health problems and someone is worried
about the health problems of surrounding people and if they
are close relatives such as father, mother, sisters and brothers,
husband, wife and children you may be more worried. Then to
relieve worries should conduct in this way : -
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- When you get sick or born with disability

As mentioned above that the matter of birth, old, pains and

death is common which based on your deeds conducted in
past life. Body is unstable. Someone born with innate diseases
such as Allergy, Thyroid, Osteoporosis, Hepatitis viruses or
any nervous disease or physical disability. The method of
relieve of this kind of problem is that you should go to visit Wat
Prabahnampu in order to meet HIV patients who are extremely
sufferings from the disease which unable absolutely recovered
but only waiting for the day to leave from this world. You
should realize of your luck even you got only an innate disease
or physical disability but you can live by yourself and you
should not feel discouraged and patient, you should not
assume you are getting severely sick, not try to think
negatively but instead thinking positively that you are in good
condition and healthy because for everything has mind as
leader, so if you let your mind free and easy you will feel
encouraged due to if you feel discouraged it will cause
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tensions which may prolong the diseases and cause you more
sufferings and sickness.
Whenever your parents get sick
One of the author’s cousins, her mother got a serious ill
of a liver cancer which well known very difficult to be definitely
recovered and at the beginning she knew such matter she
continuously cried and cried due to she is last daughter and
still not get married then my aunt was very worried about her
and afraid that she would live a lone without anyone to take
care of her at old age. My sister tried to play and made merits
in various methods with hope that her mother’s symptom would
get better but all attempts failed. She was so sorry and cried
everyday till someday she and sister and relatives had a
chance to listen to Dharma made by a venerable monk
regarding on Body and instability under the principle of Three
characteristics and the monk closed the sermon with a speech
“Impermanent, Suffering and Non-self” , it wastes your time to
cry but you should be hurry up to conduct your duty as a
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daughter in order to pay back virtues to your parents at her

time existing, the more you cry, sorrow and sad in front of your
mother the more your mother will sorrowful and worries same
as you so you should smile and accept the truth of human’s
lives.
Since that time she intended to not cry anymore and tried
to talk with her mother with smile and good temper and
besides she accompanied with her mother prayed in order to
dedicate goodness to trouble-makings. I noticed that she
became much stronger and never cried in front of her mother
at all, she told me that she would do everything for her mother
until last second. Soon later, my aunt passed away and she
welcomed people coming to participate the cremation and
never shown a symptom of sorrow or gushing. But only the last
day of cremation that she could see her mother face she only a
little cried and told her mother to go to heaven. She known a
peach “Impermanent, Suffering and Non-self”
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Those who suffering from study

Education is the first stare of life in the future because
you have to apply it to earn living and income to feed yourself,
if you are preparing for an examination to entry to any
education institutes you must pay most attention to the books
and practice questions of the test but you should not apply it to
render a decision on your life for example if your score did not
meet requirement in the faculty you expected you should
release it by reexamination next year or apply to study in
private university with public accepted standard and quality
because education is only a beginning of success whereas
someone studies well but works badly it is said his study
performance is in the top but working performance is in the
bottom due to he cannot apply such knowledge and cannot
adapt himself to works. A relieve method for those whom
worried about study, you can conduct as per methods as
follows to free from suffering cycle you are facing.
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- To adhere a motto “Do good at your best” like to pay most

intention on lessons if any doubt you should ask teacher
regarding such doubts and do not keep such doubts in your
mind for along time due to it will make you more difficult to
understand it, to study extra tuition or the best preparation,
exchange knowledge with friends with better knowledge and
experts in the subjects that you are weak.

- Make meditation for at least 15 minutes a day in order to let

your mind meditated which result in good memory and able to
remember more lessons and also to relieve the brain during its
tension.

-After reading, you should find a free time for some relaxes by
watching movies., listen favorite songs, have delicious foods,
exercise and go shopping etc because it can give you some
help during your thought about examination till your brain
become serious so doing other activities in a separate time
can relieve your brain free from worries and seriousness which
may cause you get sick.
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Meditation application
Meditation is to make our mind peaceful and stay with
present without any worry about the past or the future.
Whenever you are worried you can make meditation by let
your mind notice your breathing in and out slowly for 5-10
minutes. If you cannot still let you play in mind together with a
notice of breaths while you are breathing in you pray in mind
“Buddha” and breathing out you pray in mind “Dho”
continuously and after your mind become peaceful you will
realize only such breathing in and out. Just by this method
you can relieve the tension and if you continue such
meditation for times you will be able to relieve your mind from
whatever you are worried about.

There are also another ways for meditation beside the

breaths specification that is whenever you feel serious or
suffering and cannot relieve it then you should do a hobby
which can cause meditation owing to your mind adheres and
still with something such as a reading, exercise, sewing,
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handicraft, cooking, homework, movie and songs etc

because these things can divert your interest and worries
from the issues of tension.
Religious prays
A religious pray can help you relieve because such pray
cases meditation, whenever your mind still then the mind
peace occurs and causes your mental condition relieves and
you can free from sufferings and if you can do it regularly you
will be able to release your mind from sufferings and difficulties
more and more.

A merit from the religious playing conduction

Praying conduction everyday is prosperity for you due to it is

deemed a valuable respect to Three Gems as practice
worship to our Lord Buddha.

- it is a virtue practice due to the pray meditate your mind

because during praying the prayer have to keep the mind still
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and peace or else you may pray a wrong paragraph and when
you pay more intention on the pray your mind will not fanciful
and finally peace will occur respectively.

- A pray with translation in order to understand its meaning

causes wisdom and knowledge to the prayer and it is deemed
a merit to have said the holy prays regulated by Lord Buddha.

- To prevent and get rid of disasters but to lead you to

success.

- Some sermons or spells can help you to relieve from paints

and sickness or to call in properties.

- The mind that has been well trained will cause moral
principles, strengthen wisdoms and realize correct Dharma
principle of the Buddhism.
Consciousness
Consciousness is a realization without feeling whereas
consciousness has duty of feeling but not of realization. A
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combination of these two words called “Consciousness and

realization” which means a realization of knowledge. To have
consciousness you have to practice daily prays as per the
principle of Buddhism it means to compose the mind still and
mediated. Meditation in Buddhism is divided into 2 types as
follows :-

- Calm meditation means to practice our mind to be calm and

peaceful or it may be called “mind meditation, meditation pray,
tranquility of mind or meditation practice.

- Insight meditation means a practice or training to nurture

wisdom in order to understand truths.

Beside it can help you to relieve from suffering and resolve

problems occurred and also the consciousness causes profits
as follows : -

-Consciousness helps you be careful for any disasters and

accidents such as safety driving.
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- T o work effectively, reduce mistakes occurred from working,

accomplish assignments smoothly.

- Having consciousness help to prevent you from bad

conducts or being misguided because lustful desires because
you have a mind restrain.

- Consciousness helps you to realize and appreciate your own

duties and also helps you to live with principle of reasons more
than temper.
Be with present
Suffering occurs because the mind think of the past and
worried about the future when still not come but just only
assume it in bad view that this or that thing will happen
whereas what will happen in the future may be good or bad
without our control but we just do it best in the present time
such as a student waiting for examination result if he will pass
or what grade and think retrospective he should read more
before the examination. In this situation you should realize of
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the present that the test result to be issued soon is only a

knowledge and understanding measurement on the subjects
previously studied and even you got good score and pass the
assessment you should pay more and more attention for next
examination but if your score does pass assessment or the
score still unsatisfactory for you for next time you must pay
more attention and patience. It is not useful to sitting and
waiting with worry for the examination result it cannot improve
or change the score of such examination at all but you should
be conscious and relieve whatever you are worried about by
more reading, play sports or any favorite activities in order to
change your mind from such worry.
Mind release as per Buddhist teachings and doctrines.
Such as the Four noble sentiments especially item 4:
Equanimity means an even-mindedness, neutrality.
Characteristics of a person with equanimity is stable minded,
always conscious, conduct nothing definitive, keeping his
stable neutrality of the mind, faire, not too worried or happy. So
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in this way you can apply it for your living and working for
example when you are occupied with works without free time
for others till effect your beloved, family and health then you
should practice the equanimity principle without any too much
occupation till losing your balance of family. Working without
any adherence means work for work to finish success and
during the operation there should not be too much worry or
tension in order to prevent any effects against your own mind
state and also of your beloved ones.

“Do goodness gets good result and do badness gets

bad result” this Thai proverb is really truth and there are many
person think or doubt if it is true that to do good get good
because they saw someone had always done good things but
still difficult while some did bad things but still living freely and
publicly happy but it depend on the outcome of the good deed
or bad deed. Doing goodness is more important than all things
can be done as per the principle of Buddhism as trained and
nurtured since the ancient times.
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The Four noble sentiments principle is suitable for adults,

governors, leaders and executives to try to practice regularly
because they have duties to take care of well being of
personnel in their own institutions. The four noble sentiments
consist of : -

Mercy : It is a good wish for happiness to others.

Kindness : It is a good wish to let others free from sufferings.

Vicarious pleasure : Having pleasure upon other’s success.

Impartiality : Know how to conduct a neutrality.
Executives or supervisors having mercy and kindness to
their followers ; to try to assist or promote qualified followers for
higher working prosperity, in case of their minor mistakes they
should be excused and granted with another improvement
chance. During their work operation the leaders should
supervise and monitor their safety to prevent them from any
dangers or to allocate appropriate works amongst the group to
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prevent any overload which may cause mental and physical

effects. Whenever the followers do well they should be
admired or rewarded as morale and willpower for further
working.

Besides the executives or leaders adhere the Four

noble sentiments they also avoid any deed spoiling fairness
namely 4 partiality consisting of : -
- Love partiality means a partiality because of love.
For example, you have many followers but you love and
care for him than others in the team and whenever conflicts
occurred amongst them you should judge the issue with
justice without any personal feeling as factor for such
judgment.
Anger partiality means a partiality because of anger.
For example, As executive of an organization or a team leader
you should control your temper still and stable as a mountain,
you should not use your personal dissatisfaction against the
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followers or if you have personal anger with one of them if any

mistakes by him you should give him a change of amendment,
you should definitely not apply such personal anger reiterate
him or must not urge other followers oppress on him but in
stead you should be more merciful in order to be able to
govern them effectively.
Impartiality : Know how to conduct a neutrality.
For example, delusion is a stupid partiality, doing
something with injustice without carelessness or narrow-
minded mixed with partiality which cause some losses to the
beneficiary or unreasonable profits, a wrong doer has no any
punishment which causes conflicts to the team and no
acceptance by followers such as a follower comes late but
never any blames by you and just only silent while another
one comes in time and work hard all the day but come back on
the time but you have called him for a complain of no sincerity
on works and request them to work over time, in this case you
should consider reasonably to see whether your assignments
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on daytime had been completed or not, if he can complete it

effectively he should be granted a relax and should over load
the assignment to him and any followers come late you should
call them for complain and warn in order not to be a bad
sample and prevent any blame of your partiality or injustice.
Prejudice means a partiality because of fear
For example, Prejudice is a partiality because of fear of some
danger comes to himself then it prevent you from expressing
an justice with reason of self safety and dangers whereas you
know that what the follower doing is against the company
regulation but due to you are afraid that if executive known the
issue you will be blamed then you hide it. For this kind of deed
if the third party knows and spread it publicly it may make you
unbelievable or in-creditable

Goodness as per the teachings of Buddhism that should be

conducted by the good executives, leaders, supervisors are
Tenfold codes of the kings as follows : -
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1. Tarn or charity means a donation, sharing. Executive or

leaders must know how to share his own kindness to followers
for better relationship amongst them and to create virtues for
their love and respect.

2. Sila or religious precepts means to conduct self-control in

according with virtue and good norms in order to suppress a
stubborn follower because if you are a good man with body,
speech and mind he will beaten by such virtue.

3. Parichaka or donation means to give something to assist

anyone facing sufferings, it is to grant happiness to other such
as a donation of clothes, shoes or other belongings unused to
employees dressed with worn clothes, it will make them feel
pleased for your kindness to had granted such things
important to them due to the clothe is one of the four
necessary factors for our living or some festivals you may buy
new shoes, new dresses in appropriate price to the followers
and employee as a morale and willpower to further working.
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4. Atchava or pure occupation means a living with honesty,

hospitality and without any corruption which will cause faith
depreciation, bad reputation and also the end of administration
authority.

5. Mattava or gentleness means a behavior with softness,

politeness and tenderness.

6. Tapa or Mental devotion means how to dedicate devotion

to destroy or demolish absolutely any unwholesome actions.
Akusolamula means the roots of badness consist of 3 kinds
namely :-

- Lopha or Greed means a greedy desire.

- Tosa or anger means a temper to harm others.

- Moha or a misguide and unknown as its truth.

7. Agrotha or No anger means ability to stop, control or

destroy the anger.
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8. Avihingsa or Non-violence means no any violence or harm

any others.

9. Khanti or Patience means endurance to not conduct your

body, speech and mind as per your temper or lustful desires
freely.

10. Avirothana or non-obstruction means keeping of justice.

Easy ways to conduct goodness such as :-

Hospitality or kindness to others.

- Having positive thinking which results in only good things.

- To maintain and keep himself as a good consultant to

relatives and friends.

- Being a child of gratefulness of parents.

- To observe the five Buddhist precepts completely especially

on the Buddhist holy days.
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- To conduct as vegetarianism or abstinence from meat on

your birthday such as if you was born on Wednesday you can
conduct as vegetarianism every Wednesday.

- To share a part of the properties you gained to beggars or

anyone living in hardship.

- To give appropriate supports to Buddhism, always

participate religious merit activities and conduct Buddhist
teachings.

- To work with honesty and without any corruption or

fraudulence.

- To be a good spouse with sincerity, without any conduct of

gallant and know how to earn a living.

- To be honest or not betray against yourself or others.

- To keep royalty to the nation, religion and the king.

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- To make consideration for more public profits than personal

profits.

- To offer assistances to children and anyone with disability.

- To be grateful for teachers and anyone who have ever

granted you assistances and supports.

- To not believe or persuade others to believe foolish issues

easily without appropriate reasons.

- To refrain from any jealousy and envy.

- To esteem and promote anyone always conducting

goodness.

- To warn or give suggestions to others to conduct goodness.

- To realize of saving and refrain from any extravagance

To know how to pay respect to others or never done any

condescend against others.

- To be punctual and responsible for the duties assigned.

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- To keep promise, to do whatever you have accepted or

promised to someone.

- To worship the Tree Gems consisting of Buddha, Dharma

and Sankha (Lord Buddha, His teachings and Buddhist
priests).

- To learn how to be good sportsman knowing and

understanding loss and win.

- To work patiently without any laziness.

- To offer honors to the senior and women.

- To keep neutrality without any impartiality.

-To be patient and discouraged with obstacles coming against

your life.

- To reserve and strengthen our national arts and cultures to

next generations.
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- Whenever become drunk or sleepy you should take a rest,

should not continue driving because it may cause some
accidents and disturbance to others.

- To not cut or destroy trees and forest but instead all of you
should help plant trees and reduce the global warm.

- To conduct the principle of Khantisorajja or patience and

gentleness as it is a Buddhist teaching nurture people
charming and respectful (Dharma of gentleness) as follows :-

1. To be patient on any ager without unpleasant and

undesirable actions of body and speech to others.

2. To be patient to difficulties or tiresome works.

Sorajja means a gentleness which will cherish your mind

bright, pleasant and without any gloom.

- To conduct the principle of Dharma Lokkapala or Dharma of

world protection it is a principle to help protect the world of
human to live peacefully it is divided into 2 items namely Hiri
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means moral shame and Ottappa means a moral fear of

suffering and deterioration then you refrain from any
conduction of bad deeds.
Game for self practice from the problems.
Human were born to meet various problems and
obstacles in their live before success, someone meet success
since his youth, someone meets success upon his old but all
of them must meet various problems despite he could resolve
it by himself or asked for some assistances from others. If you
are facing a problem but you want to practice yourself to
overcome the obstacles you should practice how to resolve it,
for a new bachelor and just working during first 3-4 months of
probation you should be diligent to learn the works and you
may encounter different pressure environments such as :-

Some of the officemates may have a bad wish against you

because of afraid of his work instability, normally if you can
show off uniquely you will be promoted to higher positions over
others. Many of you may ever seen a word “Write a tiger to
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threaten a caw it means to threaten or make someone afraid

for example if a leader does not prefer a person quickly
working because he always is slow working, not prefer a
person coming early because he often comes late, a leader
does not like a person pleasing him because it looks like
insincere and pretend for promotion”. You should carefully
consider these examples because you should quickly and
finish working in time and it is very important to check it to
prevent any mistake before submission of such works it finally
will result in good performance to you and organization.

Regarding you punctuality is deemed correct because in

working all workers should follow the company regulation to
come in time and the last item the matter that your officemates
or surrounding friends told you the issue that your boss does
not like a pleased man because it looks like insincere or
pretend for promotion you should consider “Pleased” and
“Good will” because these words are different, your goodwill
given to the leader and officemate is very important to help you
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works completely for example you see the leader working with
difficulty and he needs much information and best
cooperation.

So during you are free from works you can approach and ask
him “ Leader, anything can I do for you” just only this it makes
him feel you wants works and clemency to other without
separation that this is yours and this is mine. Due to anyone to
be selected as a future leader must conduct as parents to take
care of their children and to control the team to work
effectively. After 1 year experience of working you will know
what is performance of each followers and surely nobody
wants to see another more unique than himself so you should
be “a clever and silent man” it means you are good at work
and silent because any over show off will cause so others feel
jealous and aversion and have less friends. Therefore you
should be humble and modest and at the same time you
should try to praise others having good performance because
it can create friendship and good feeling to each others and
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capable you to live and work happily. Therefore, in conclusion

of this book what I want to give a good account is

“Do the works well and never over unique it may cause
dangers but waiting the chance and catch it upon its arrival”

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Author’s story
Kanthanika Choonhawat
Education background
 Secondary school : Phadungdarunee school
 High school : Triam Udomsueksa school
 Bachelor degree : Commerce and Accounting faculty,
Statistics Section, Chulalongkorn University.
 Master degree : Commerce and Accounting faculty,
Statistics Section, Chulalongkorn University.
Working experience
 Wattanapanich Priting Company Limited during 2003-
2004
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 Jenesis MediaCom Company Limited from 2004-Present

 Feel Good Printing Store from 2008 – Present
 Pawida Book Printing Store – Own opened.
 Service of fortune teller via mobile No. 084-1547917 with
fee of 200 Baht each case only.
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Montree Kanchanamontree
Education background
 Secondary school : Worasarn Pittaya school
 Vocational certificate: Faculty of Business Administration,
Course of Foreign Laguage (Mandarin), Institute of
Technology Ratchamongkala, Borpitpimuk Mahamek
campus.
 Higher Vocational certificate, Faculty of Business
Admistration, Course of Business Computer, Institute of
Technology Ratchamongkala, Borpitpimuk Mahamek
campus.
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 Bachellor degree from Faculty of Business Adminstration,

Course of General Management, Institute of Technology
Ratchamangkala, Chakkapongpusawaranart campus
(Second honor)
Working experience
 Bank of Agriculturist and Agricultural Cooperative
(Tor.Kor.Sor.) from 2001-2003.
 C R P Jewelry (Thailand) Company Limited from 2004-
2007)
 Kasikornthai Bank (Public) Company Limited from 2007-
2008
 Sugar and Sugarcane Tawan-Ork Company Limited from
2008-2009.
 Ruam Wattana Company Limited from 2009-2011.
 Boonniramit Company Limited from 2011 – Present
Ratee Prompornchai
Education background
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 Bachellor degree form Rangsit University, Faculty of

Business Administration, Course of Marketing
 Master degree from Assumshan University, Faculty of
Business Administration, Course of Management
Working experience
Working for a company
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Pailin Book Printing Store, Kiddee Printing Store.
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