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1. Addiction and
DESIRE:
Gerald May, Addiction & Grace: Love and Human Freedom
Spirituality in the Healing ofAddictions. San
Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1988, 1-20. Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
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we give ourselves over to things that, in our deepest honesty,
the edges of our consciousness. Every now and then it reminds
we really do not want. There are times when each of us can
us of its presence, as if to say, "Remember me?/I And, when we
easily identify with the words of the apostle Paul: "1 do not
are ready to tackle the thing again, we can. We may repress our
understand my own behavior; I do not act as I mean to, but I
longing for God, but, like the hound of heaven that it is, it
do the things that I hate. Though the will to do what is good
haunts us. And it is there for us to deal with whenever we are
is in me, the power to do it is not; the good thing I want to do,
ready. Repression, then, in spite of its sinister reputation, is
I never do; the evil thing which I do not want-that is what I
do."2 relatively flexible. It is workable. Addiction, the other force that
turns us away from love, is much more vicious.
In writing these words, Paul was talking about sin. Theolog
ically, sin is what turns us away from love--away from love for
ourselves, away from love for one another, and away from love
for God. When I look at this problem psychologically, I see two The Paradoxes of Addiction
forces that are responsible: repression and addiction. We all
For generations, psychologists thought that virtually all self
suffer from both repression and addiction. Of the two, repres
sion is by far the milder one. defeating behavior was caused by repression. I have now come
to believe that addiction is a separate and even more self-de
feating force that abuses our freedom and makes us do things
Repression we really do not want to do. While repression stifles desire,
addiction attaches desire, bonds and enslaves the energy of de
sire to certain specific behaviors, things, or people. These ob~
We frequently repress our desire for love because love makes
but others I would have much preferred to be free of. I had to I never did learn how to make spiritual experiences happen
admit that I had not freely chosen these things; my concern for to chemically addicted people so their lives would be trans
them was not something I could control. They were compul formed. I didn't learn much of anything that helped me treat
sions. addictions, or for that matter any other form of illness. But I
Tolerance and withdrawal were definite. However much did become slightly more humble, through a growingappreci
achievement, intimacy, or approval 1. had, it was never quite ation of what I could and could not do to help myself or anyone
enough. I always wanted more. And ifl had to do without one else. I also learned that all people are addicts, and that addic
of them, I would experience not only a craving for it, but also tions to alcohol and other drugs are simply more obvious and
some degree of anxiety and even actual physical discomfort. It tragic addictions than others have. To be alive is to be addicted,
occurred to me that my original "professional depression" had and to be alive and addicted is to stand in need of grace.
happened because I had been addicted. to success and control.
It was, in fact, a withdrawal; it happened when I couldn't get
my fix of professional success. Genesis
Even my littlest bad habits and secret fantasies had the qual The journey I have just described eventually led me to full
ities of addiction. I tried to take comfort in saying, "Yes, but my time work in exploring the interfaces of psychology and spiritu
bad habits are inconsequential compared to alcoholism or drug ality. 1 wrote five books on the subject. This is the sixth. A few
addiction." That statement was certainly true, but it .also felt years ago, I was given the opportunity to review current neu
like a self-justification, a rationalization for keeping my habits rological research to see how it might inform our appreciation
going. It sounded too much like alcoholics I had heard saying, of spiritual growth. In this exploration I discovered that neurol
"Well, at least we're not junkies," while on the other side.of the ogy was on the brink of understanding how addiction takes
same hospital ward narcotic addicts were saying, "Well, at least place in the brain. To me, these neurological insights harJIloc
we're not winos." nized beautifully with what spiritual authorities have been say
I can honestly say, then, that it was my my work with ad ing for thousands of years. This book is the integration of these
dicted people, and the consequent realization of my own addic themes. The themes themselves began long ago, with the bib
tive behavior, that brought me to my knees. I am glad. Grace lical story of creation.
was there. If my attachments had not caused me to fail miser The book of Genesis says that God made Adam and Eve out
ably at controlling my life and work, I doubt I ever would have of earth and breath on the sixth day of creation and gave them
recovered the spiritual desire and the sense of God that had an earthly paradise, a garden, to live in. It is said that this
been so precious to me as a child. Compared to what happens garden was near a place called Eden, which means "delight."
to people who suffer from alcoholism or narcotic addiction, God looked on these two human beings and saw that they were
what happened to me may not seem much of a "rock bottom." very good and blessed them. God told Eve and Adam that they
But it. had the same grace-full effect. To state it quite simply, I could eat fruit from all the trees in the garden except for two:
had tried to run my life on the basis of my own willpower the tree of immortality and the tree of the knowledge of good
alone. When my supply of success at this egotistic autonomy and evil. But a snake told Eve that God was lying, that she
ran out, I became depressed. And with the depression, by could indeed eat the fruit from the tree of knowledge, and that
means of grace, came a chance for spiritual openness. she would become like a god if she did. Seeing how enticing
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the forbidden fruit looked, she tried some. Then she gave some
to Adam as well. When God confronted the two human beings Addiction and Freedom
with what they had done, Adam blamed Eve. And Eve blamed
the snake. God creates us out of love, or perhaps, as the fourteenth
Adam and Eve's behavior is usually interpreted as symboliz century German mystic Meister Eckhart is supposed to have
ing humanity's ongoing willful rebelliousness against God. God said, out of the laughter of the Trinity, which is the same thing. 6
creates us with free will, and we respond by trying to be gods. Scripture proclaims that this love, from which and for which
We want to be the masters of our own destiny. We keep trying we are created, is perfect. I do not presume to fully understand
to substitute our own will for God's Will, but our pride always what this perfect love means, but I am certain that it draws us
brings us to a fall and thrusts us even further away from an toward itself by means of our own deepest desires. I am also
Eden we had hoped to recapture on our own terms. I certainly certain that this love wants us to have free will. We are intended
think this portrayal of human willfulness is accurate. 4 to make free choices. Psychologically, we are not completely
But when I read the Genesis story carefully, I respond sym determined by our conditioning; we are not puppets or autom
pathetically toward Eve and Adam. Surely they are responsible atons. Spiritually, our freedom allows us to choose as we Wish
for what they do, but they do not really seem like hostile rebels; for or against God, life, and love. The love that creates us may
instead they seem innocent and gl,lllible, almost like little chil be haunting, but it is not enslaving; it is eternally present, yet
dren. As the Scripture relates it, they ate the fruit not because endlesslyopen. 7
it was forbidden, but because it was "enticing to look at and It seems to me that free will is given to us for a purpose: so
good to eat" and because the serpent told them they could that we may choose freely, without coercion or manipulation,
become like gods if they ate it. It seems to me their real problem to love God in return, and to love one another in a similarly
was. not rebelliousness but foolishness. Their lack of wisdom perfect way. This is the deepest desire of out hearts. In other
made them exceedingly vulnerable to temptation. Once they words, our creation is by love, in love, and for love. It.is both
gave in to that temptation, their freedom was invaded by at our birthright and our authentic destiny to participate fully in
tachment. They experienced the need for more. God knew that this creative loving, and freedom of will is essential for our
then they would not-eould not-stop with just the one tree. participation to occur. ~
"They must not be allowed to stretch out their hands and pick But o1,lr freedom is not complete. Working against it is the
from the tree of life also." So God made a set of clothes for each powerful force of addiction. Psychologically, addiction uses up
of them and sent them out of the garden. 5 desire. It is like a psychic malignancy, sucking our life energy
In this powerful story, the basic elements of addiction and into specific obsessions and compulsions, leaving less and less
grace are distilled: freedom, willfulness, desire, temptation, at energy available for other people and other pursuits. Spiritually,
tachment, and, of course, the fall. It seems to me that each of addiction is a deep-seated form of idolatry. The objects of our
our addictions reenacts Eve and Adam's story. The story of addictions become our false gods. These are what we worship,
Eden is not over, yet neither is it simply repeating itself end~ what we attend to, where we give our time and energy, instead
lessly through history. Instead, it is going somewhere. I believe of love. Addiction, then, displaces and supplants God's love as
that humankind's ongoing struggle with addiction is preparing the source and object of our deepest true desire. It is, as one
the ground of perfect love. modern spiritual writer has called it, a "counterfeit of religious
presence."9
of grace . Addiction can be, and often is, the thing that brings
us to our knees. Again the words of Paul are relevant:
I was given a painful wound to my pride, which came as Satan's mes 2. EXPERIENCE: The Qualities
senger to bruise me. Three times I begged God to rid me of it, but
God's answer was: "My grace is all you need; my power finds its full of Addiction
strength in weakness." Therefore I shall prefer to find my joy and my
pride in the things that are my weakness; and then the power of Christ will It is the nature of desire not to be satisfied, and most human beings
come and rest upon me. For this reason I am content, for the sake of live only for the gratification of it.
Christ, with weakness, contempt, persecution, hardship, and frustra ARISTOTLE