Effects of Jealousy in a relationship

First of all what is jealousy. Is it a sign of love? Or insecurity?

Jealousy is somewhat afraid of losing someone in particular.
We can say that jealousy is good in a relationship because it shows how you value your relationship with your
partner.
But not all the time we should feel jealous because that is not healthy and might ruin your relationship.
It can even cause us to assume things are happening that are not, like seeing a friendly exchange as the sign of an
affair. It can also lead to impulsive or reckless decisions, the creation of harm, the ruin of relationships, and an overall
destructive state of mind.
What causes jealousy?
Here are three reasons why people get jealous
Trust Issues
If trust issues aren’t the number one cause of breakups, it has to be one of the leading causes.
Someone with trust issues often struggles to assume positive intent, or attributes mal intent to the actions and
decisions of others. It may be based on past experience, fear, or a desire to protect themselves from the pain of
vulnerability or disappointment.
A person who have trust issues are hard to deal with. Those issues don't just disappear and it's something that they
will have to deal with on their own.
Insecurities
A person experiencing high levels of insecurity may often experience a lack of confidence regarding many
aspects of life. It may be difficult for that person to form lasting relationships or attend to daily tasks, due to a
self-perception of helplessness or inadequacy. Insecurity often causes negative thoughts about one’s ability to
fit in with peers, reach goals, or find acceptance and support.
Fear
One of the root causes behind jealousy is being afraid. This fear can be a fear of ending up alone, a fear of being
rejected or a fear of losing the love of your partner.
How can jealousy affects elationship

Endanger physical health. It's stressful to be jealous, and prolonged stress means a higher likelihood that you may
develop health problems like: high blood pressure, headaches, hair loss, and gain weight.
Weaken your mental health. There are certain types of mental disorders that develop from very severe jealousy.
But even more common forms of jealousy can be harmful to your mental and emotional health. Depression, difficulty
concentrating, mood swings, anxiety and insomnia are just a few examples.
Bring up more intense insecurity. You know those comparisons you make where everyone else is so much more
than you are? They'll only get bigger and more intense and cause you to be more and more insecure about yourself.
Cause you to miss out on moments of connection . Jealousy sucks you back into the past the painful past of
betrayals and disappointments. You can't appreciate improvements to your relationship or changes that your partner
is making because all you can see is the past.

Instinctual or not, jealousy is not productive. People who struggle with controlling, jealous
feelings are often struggling with deeper issues as well.

How to control it

 Trust yourself
 Appreciate yourself
 Vanish all your insecurities
 Manage your emotions healthfully
 Be open and honest to that person about your feelings

Again, jealousy is a normal reaction. It becomes problematic when it becomes persistent.

When you find yourself feeling jealous, recognize what’s happening and delve deeper into
your relationships and yourself.

The foundation of any healthy and happy relationship is trust and respect.