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Contents
Who is in Charge? 2-3
Self-Perception 4-5
EI{
listen to if you want to dig deeper. But before you dive in,
here’s a simple summary of what EI is all about:
A set of emotional and social skills that influence the way we:
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Who is in Charge?
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We can think of healthy EI as our The first step to improving your C Walking into a room to start an important meeting.
skillset in managing our response to EI requires paying full attention to
the stimuli that bombard us every
moment. Being blessed with – or
how you respond now. Being mindful
of your sense of self, your relationships
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Writing a couple of millennia ago, the Roman sage Cicero put together the all-time
top list of rules for engaging in conversation.
Self-Expression
Give others their turn (Remembering rule number 4.)
If you’re confident and comfortable 7. Stick to subjects of
– as well as socially aware – you general interest
don’t need to hog the conversation.
So you don’t bore the pants
Nothing defines us as humans more than our drive
3. Do not interrupt off people.
and ability to communicate with one another. It’s a conversation, not a contest. 8. Do not talk about yourself
Giving voice to our thoughts, feelings and opinions 4. Be courteous Well, maybe just a little bit. But it is
and doing so honestly is a core element of EI. Think about how best to say what a sign of self-confidence and social
you need to say and be in sufficient awareness that you can restrain
control to show good manners. the ‘me-me-me’ impulse.
Pay attention to three things:
5. Deal seriously with 9. Never lose your temper
› Emotional Expression › Assertiveness › Independence serious matters, gracefully Remember, you need to be in
how comfortable you being able to say what being decisive and with lighter ones control of your emotions, not the
are expressing emotions you think constructively, free from emotional
Use your antennae to judge other way around.
and the range of words and being firm or direct dependency on others
you can use to do so when you need to. (i.e. not being ‘needy’) the situation.
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Dale Carnegie’s book, ‘How To Win 1. Become genuinely interested Pay attention to
Friends And Influence People’ has in other people. three things:
sold over 15 million copies since its
publication in 1936. Really the first 2. Smile. › Interpersonal relationships – Whether you’re a full-on extrovert
‘self-help’ book, it sets out some investing time and energy in or more a quieter introvert, we can all
3. Remember that a person's name improve our connectivity with others
eternal wisdom about how to build establishing high quality
is, to that person, the sweetest through practice.
vital bonds with others: relationships; being sociable and
and most important sound in
trustworthy
any language. Here’s a simple idea you can try every
› Empathy – listening attentively to day at the coffee store. When ordering,
4. Be a good listener. Encourage think about where the coffee came
others and ‘tuning in’ to them;
others to talk about themselves. from, and who might have grown it.
responding sensitively and
5. Talk in terms of the other compassionately to others’ needs Instead of simply transacting your
person's interests. business with the barista, be curious,
› Social responsibility – being a co- and engage them in conversation. Pay
6. Make the other person feel operative, contributing member of a full attention to them, smile, and be
important – and do it sincerely. team, group, organisation or interested in their world. It takes but a
community; demonstrating a healthy few minutes. Do it often and as you get
regard for social norms and the comfortable, do it often at work and
‘greater good’ elsewhere too.
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Emotionally Intelligent decision making requires that Pay attention to Training your intuition means accepting
we work at two seemingly opposite things in tandem. three things: feedback and being open to learning.
Decision Making
example, when you sense you are
› Impulse Control – acting and
becoming overly emotional. It’s hard
thinking in a composed, deliberate
and requires commitment, practice
and patient manner; being
and disciplined effort.
predictable and avoiding rash or
impulsive decisions or actions. Two world-famous experiments and
When you drive home from work with In others words, we should be able to
the work linked to them will set you on
the radio on full blast, singing along to exercise some degree of regulation
your way. ‘The Marshmallow Test’ is
the songs, and then realise you got when required. When we cannot, we’re
the popular name (and book title) for
home without remembering the likely to miss important information or
the work on self-control by Walter
journey – that’s System 1 at work. jump to conclusions. But it’s a tough
Mishchel. Its focus is on Impulse
But when reverse parking into a tight gig. As Daniel Kahneman says,
Control. ‘The Invisible Gorilla’ by
space, you stop listening to the radio
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Christopher Chabris and Daniel
and concentrate on the difficult task
Simons explores our blindness to things
at hand – that’s System 2. We’re blind to our blindness. We
that are right in front of us. Its focus is
!
have very little idea of how little we on Reality Testing and Problem Solving.
We need to utilise emotional
information in decision making and know. We’re not designed to.
remain grounded, objective and
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focused on data when necessary.
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Stress Management
Resilience is learned more than it is 1. They face down reality Pay attention to Learning resilience might be a little like
taught. And we learn it by confronting really face it and accept it three things: building muscle strength. Begin with
the brutal facts in any situation. Some small ‘weights’ – for example,
might wish to prevent any adverse 2. They search for meaning › Flexibility – being open to change; confronting minor conflicts, or facing
situation occurring by anticipating and Viktor Frankl, using his adapting and seeing change as down a relatively small difficulty. When
resolving all future risks. However, this experiences in a concentration refreshing or necessary we first lift weights our muscles hurt –
can lead to ‘protect’ culture rather than camp to help develop his later they are being broken down but will be
scientific theories, wrote › Stress Tolerance – using a range of
a ‘become stronger’ culture. re-built stronger. So it will be with
coping strategies when under stress;
Our question must consist, not in talk these conflicts and difficulties. We will
Diane Coutu in her research managing your emotional state
and meditation, but in right action and feel a little sore today, but better able
identifies three key characteristics to cope tomorrow.
in right conduct. Life ultimately means › Optimism – being positive and
of resilient people:
taking the responsibility to find the seeing the good in things; being
right answer to its problems and to confident in yourself and others
fulfil the tasks which it constantly sets
for each individual.
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Generally speaking, it is healthy to have well developed Going from greater self-awareness to enhanced personal and interpersonal
Emotional connection
WHICH IMPACTS
Use emotions
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Maintain objectivity
Emotional Management Maintain composure
PS, RT and IC
Still, strengths can be over-used or If you recognise a strength in your EI
distort how we perform, especially if repertoire, just check if there is a price
IS RELATED TO
they are not in balance with other you pay for it, or if it has some
Management of own thoughts & feelings
Good self-care practices
inappropriate information.
RE = Social Responsibility
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Interpersonal
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