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Psychology Behind the Weird Phenomenon
“In the back of our minds we were like, ‘What if there’s this tiny little chance
that we actually are somewhat related?'” Brunner, 26, remembers. “It got
pointed out to us too much for us to not be worried about it. I don’t know
Their worries turned out to be for nothing, and the New Hampshire couple
married last year. Today, their uncanny resemblance is just “an inside joke
that everyone can be a part of,” Greg, 26, says. “The only time it really comes
up is when we say, ‘What are our kids going to look like?’ Well, they’re going
to look like us.”
Lookalike couples have captured public fascination for years. Back in 1987,
scientists from the University of Michigan set out to study the phenomenon
of married couples who grow to look more alike over time. (Their theory,
which scientists still cite today, was that decades of shared emotions result
in a closer resemblance due to similar wrinkles and expressions.) More
recently, social media has amplified romantic doppelgängers through viral
posts and channels like the Tumblr Boyfriend Twin, which celebrates gay
couples who resemble each other. But how do so many lookalikes end up
together in the first place?
An earlier study reached a similar finding about composite images — and also
found that people were subliminally attracted to features of their opposite-
sex parent. Study participants rated images of others as more attractive when
a picture of their opposite-sex parent quickly flashed across the screen first,
suggesting that they were subconsciously primed by the familiar face.
Another 2018 study looking at biracial people found that they tended to be
attracted to and pair up with people who resemble their parents, regardless
of sex.
That parental preference may seem a little creepy, but it’s not problematic or
even particularly surprising, Lehmiller says. It’s likely a completely
subconscious process that taps into our natural associations with what’s
pleasant and appealing, he says. “These traits might come to be seen as
comforting,” he says. “They’re familiar to you.”
Zara Barrie, a 31-year-old writer who lives in New York City, says she dated at
least three women who looked like her. (Barrie is now married to a woman
who she says looks nothing like her.) She says she wasn’t aware of the
pattern at first and didn’t usually notice the resemblance until someone else
pointed it out.
“It would freak me out, especially when someone would ask, ‘Are you twins?'”
Barrie remembers. “It just feels kind of dark and perv-y. And then it also
makes you worry: are you a narcissist if you’re attracted to people who look
like you?” (Probably not, Lehmiller says, since the whole thing is
That was true for the Brunners, who met while students at Syracuse
University. But both Domingue and Lehmiller say that phenomenon may be
changing, as old notions of dating are replaced by more fluid ones.
For one thing, people are getting married later in life and traveling farther
for education and work, giving them more opportunities to find and pair up
with people from different backgrounds. “When you’re exposed to so many
different options and your community is larger, that might facilitate
attraction toward a wider range of traits,” Lehmiller says.
But it’s hard to predict whether the phenomenon of lookalike couples will
fade in coming years, as marriage and dating patterns continue to shift —
largely because attraction is always hard to pin down, Lehmiller says.
“Attraction is this very complex phenomenon, and there are so many factors
that play a role in it,” he says. “Initial similarity might lead you to be
attracted to somebody, but it doesn’t mean you’ll have a happy relationship.
Attraction is not something that’s easy to predict.”
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