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We were born and raised by our parents. That is how important parents are in our lives.
Obviously, parents continue to influence our entire lives. But there is a place where those effects
begin, and where our identity, in other words, is formed. It is infancy. During infancy, our bodies
grow steadily, our body proportions change, and our cerebrum, which performs higher mental
functions. But perhaps because of the overall growth, the children at this time are lovely to their
parents, but also scary. It is called a walking time bomb because you do not know when or where
they are going to crash. So a father or mother cannot help but follow him around and constrain
him. But if she is going to search her heart and realize the logic of the world, she cannot just tell
her not to do it. So the question is, how much freedom should we allow children?
I was able to think metaphorically about this question. It is a fence that's high, but It is got
to free the kids from boundary. And the fence should not interfere with the child's meeting with
others. And you should never physically overpower your child. This is what I think of as a fence
wall. There are three reasons why I think this way. Personality, physical development, and
independence. Firstly, let me talk about personality. What if parents interfere with their children's
friendship from infancy? I am sure children will be passive about making friends. And it is very
likely that they will not be able to build up their friendship properly when they grow up. As a result,
Parents should not force or engage their children deeply in their thoughts or beliefs. So parents
must acknowledge that there child are a person and respect their behavior and way of thinking
Secondly, Infancy is a very important time to form habits. There is also a lot of physical
development in this period. So, at this time, it is absolutely necessary to play in the natural
environment or outside to move the body. At this time, however, children need more care and
attention because they have more physical activity and more curiosity. A certain degree of vigilance
is necessary for this protection and attention. If children's activities are widened and inappropriate
boundaries are established at this time of the society's rules and values through interaction with
people, it can have serious side effects on the child. Therefore, I think that the right boundaries
gives freedom in the line of believing in the child. For example, it helps the child to recognize and
cope with situations in which various accidents can occur, and parents constantly monitor their
behavior. If you do this, your child will be able to take good physical development steps in a safe
situation. And they will be able to grow into a sound personality by fulfilling roles and
are separated from their mother's symbiotic relationship and secure an independent individuality.
This concept can be found in Mahler's subject relationship theory. The separation phase begins
around the age of five or six months and continues until the age of three or four. During this time,
infants begin their search for the outside world and expand their interest. Physical dependence on
the mother begins to decrease by the infant being separated from the mother, and distinguishes
itself from the mother's batter by observing and touching the mother's face or body. As peripheral
nervous systems like vision become more sophisticated and complex during this time, infants
experience separation from their mothers. For example, infants experience shyness for the first
time. As a child begins to explore the world and the search extends beyond his or her lips and
fingertips, he and her subjects become increasingly distinct. But what happens to children who
have been oppressed or neglected by their parents and have failed to make the right segregations?
They will certainly not be able to form accurate independence because the ongoing conflict
between their mother's needs and desire to separate themselves is worse than normal children.
As I said at the beginning, it is the position that children should be given maximum
freedom. But the question that always comes up in this position is how much freedom should be
guaranteed. The answer to that question is always ready. First, do not confuse the education of
freedom and neglect. The concepts of "leave" and "let go" are certainly different. . I am in a position
to leave it to the child's choice. However, if the choice over step the line with the conventional
wisdom of society, we should correct the mistakes through proper education. In conclusion, control
and sanctions, of course, narrow the scope of children's thinking in the development process. And
you get scared of challenging something new. If so, they will not be able to develop a sense of
responsibility and independence, but rely on their parents for their decision-making. So in the end,
I think parents should wipe out the right line of freedom for their children to grow themselves.