If we can choose to have a daughter or a son, which

one will you choose?

There are many women now choose to have no baby in the future,

even they do not want to get married because women are not relying on

men at all nowadays. First, women can earn money by themselves and

live a comfortable life. Secondly, current relationships are fragile and

unstable, it is easy to have an affair if someone wants to in the modern

information age. What is more, having a child is extremely expensive.

Take all these reasons into consideration, I am one of these group from

an early age. But I believe that one day if I meet someone pretty

awesome and suitable for marriage, maybe I will marry him and also

consider to have a baby. However, when it comes to "daughter or son"

question, different people have different opinions towards this problem.

I didn't mean to raise gender issue in my essay, but after so many years

of being a daughter as well as a girl in the society, I prefer to have a son

in the future, without a second thought.

Firstly, girls are born to meet many problems in society. Here comes

an example. In last month, a 32-year-old man hit a 24-year-old girl to

death on the street. The reporter said the man cannot find a woman

who wants to marry him, so he decided to kill a girl on the street

randomly, and then the girl can keep company with him in the hell. I
believe that most girls have kept being taught that do not wear a short

skirt or some clothes that too exposed, do not hang out with a guy that

you do not familiar with, do not sit on the co-pilot position when you call

a taxi alone at night, etc. I still keep in mind that if I follow all the rules, I

cannot face any dangerous situation. However, that girl just walking with

her friend, she has just passed the lawyer examination and she meant to

celebrate it with her friends. All of a sudden, her life met the end just

because she is the most beautiful girl in her friends. Why did this

murderer find that if he cannot get married, he can go outside and find a

girl to kill? From my perspective, there are two aspects. First, gender

perception makes them feel that men are dominant groups. Second,

gender structure decides that there will be some men to meet courtship

failure situation. This frustration and superiority are contradictory;

therefore, they will attribute the error to women. Maybe this kind of

situation will not happen in other countries, but in China, I definitely

prefer to have a son in the future because no one wants his or her

daughter to suffer from this phenomenon and the situation of Chinese

women will not be changed in a short time.

To the contrary, if I can have a son, I will surely tell him how to

respect girls and how to take care of them. I have heard a word from

film lines, “I spent 20 years teaching my daughter to protect herself, but

you do not want to spend a few minutes to teach your son that do not
hurt girls.” Because women are weaker than men, many men take

advantage of this weakness, hurting women like domestic violence,

sexual harassment, rape, etc. They do not realize that women need their

protection owing to gender differences.

In other words, if I have a daughter, I will teach her to be gentle, but

at the same time, I will tell her that you can have your own little temper

when you feel uncomfortable or unhappy. I will dress her beautifully,

but at the same time, I will tell her that inner beauty is more important

than external beauty. I will feel sad when she needs to being apart with

me, but at the same time, I will admit her to keep a relationship

whatever with a girl or with a boy. However, I am so terrified that all I

taught her is far enough to deal with the sinister world. I can do nothing

for her. The only word can I say is protecting yourself. But even for me, a

21-year-old adult, I did not know and I will not know to what extent that

is protecting myself well.

To sum up, if I can choose to have a son or a daughter, I definitely

choose a son. They are safer and easier. At the same time, I do not

believe that I can handle the situation that my daughter is in trouble,

just like my mother always worry about my safety when I went out. In

addition, I really willing to teach my son to protect and take care of girls,

also want my boy to influent his peers.