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Keeping Your Relationship Strong After a Schizophrenia Diagnosis

With the right help, it’s possible to maintain a healthy long-term relationship after your partner
is diagnosed with schizophrenia.
By Connie Brichford

Medically Reviewed by Sanjai Sinha, MD

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but when one person is diagnosed with schizophrenia, it’s possible for even stable

partnerships to become strained or for couples to break up altogether.

“Schizophrenia makes it hard for people to form close bonds,” says Dost Öngür, MD, clinical director of the Schizophrenia

and Bipolar Disorder Research Program at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. Often, people with schizophrenia who

are married  met their partner before being diagnosed with the condition. Single people who have schizophrenia, however,

“tend to stay single,” he says.

For people whose partner was healthy when the relationship began, the onset of schizophrenia can come as a shock. The

disease can change a person’s behavior and personality, and symptoms can make even the most caring and loving individuals

appear distant and cold.

Caring for a Partner Who Has Schizophrenia

Frank Baron, who has schizoa ective disorder, a type of mental illness that triggers symptoms similar to schizophrenia, says

that when someone is newly diagnosed with a disorder like schizophrenia, their loved ones should try to show compassion.

“The best thing to say is, ‘I love you and I care about you. This doesn’t change how I feel about you,’” he says.

Caring for a loved one who has schizophrenia can be a huge job that’s both tiring and frustrating at times. The following advice

can help keep the relationship going strong. To nd more resources, you can also contact your local chapter of the National

Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) or ask your doctor or therapist for information about local support groups.

The caregiver should set up their own support system. If your partner has schizophrenia, they may not be able to meet your

emotional needs as well as they once did. Plus, according to a study published in October 2017 in the journal Psychiatric

Services, caregivers to people who have schizophrenia tend to experience relatively high levels of distress. That’s why it’s

important to have access to mental health support, such as a counselor or therapist. Friends and family can also provide a

listening ear or a much-needed distraction.

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The person who has schizophrenia must accept treatment. Left untreated, the condition can cause people to behave

erratically, leaving their partners to become subject to verbal abuse, emotional neglect, and delusional accusations. No healthy

relationship can sustain these behaviors.

Both partners must communicate. Open and clear communication can help people who have schizophrenia nd

the support they need as well as understand what’s expected of them in the relationship. In addition to individual therapy,

couples therapy can help both partners cope with the e ects of schizophrenia on the relationship.

Schizophrenia and Relationships: Challenges and Solutions

Every couple juggles everyday tasks like household chores and balancing nances, but people who have schizophrenia may

need extra help managing their responsibilities. This may include:

Household duties Dr. Öngür explains that schizophrenia impacts the way people read social cues, meaning your partner may

not be able to recognize what you want them to do around the house. Counseling can help caregivers learn how to set clear

expectations in a supportive and positive way. De ning each partner’s responsibilities around the house is another strategy.

Finances People who have schizophrenia are not always able to work, even after their symptoms are stabilized. If this is the

case, applying for Social Security disability bene ts can help. Medications for schizophrenia can be expensive, and frequent co-

pays can add up. Let your doctors know about your nancial situation as well, because some clinics charge on a sliding scale.

Intimacy Schizophrenia may cause people to become less interested in sex, as can some antipsychotic medications. Try talking

to a couples therapist, who can help you express your needs and wants. You can also ask your partner’s doctor about switching

to medications that are less likely to a ect libido or adding drugs that can boost sexual response.

Family interactions People who have schizophrenia can behave irrationally, have trouble thinking clearly, and struggle with

everyday emotions, which can be confusing, frightening, or hurtful to family members and lead to con icts within the family.

It’s important to clearly de ne acceptable and unacceptable behaviors at home and in other settings, especially if you have

children.

Last Updated:1/7/2019

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