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s has been stated thus far in different ways, Katherine
Franke’s book, Wedlocked: The Perils of Marriage Equality: How African
Americans and Gays Mistakenly Thought the Right to Marry Would Set
Them Free (2015), looks at the role of marriage in liberation movements
for formerly enslaved people and for same-sex couples. It asks what kind
of freedom and what kind of equality the capacity to marry mobilizes. The
principal argument here is that gaining rights can bring about disadvantages
in other ways, particularly when the group in question does not have full
equality: “A close look at the history of marriage among African Americans
and the newly won rights of same-sex couples illuminates how gaining mar-
riage rights can come at the price of stigmatizing other groups and ways of
life on marriage’s outside” (207). The book compares the historical case of
African Americans and their experience of gaining the right to marry with
the contemporary case of marriage equality for lesbians and gay men.
As a family sociologist who focuses on African American house-
holds, I was particularly interested in thinking about how the ideas in Wed-
locked relate to actual people’s lives, particularly those of sexual minorities
to remove the ability of their parents to engage in “don’t ask don’t tell” with
themselves and their partners. By drawing a line in the sand, they are risk-
ing rejection and disappointment from parents, adult siblings, or a favorite
uncle. A wedding lets the pastor in the church they grew up in know affir-
matively that yes, they have taken on this “lifestyle” and are going to openly
live with a mate. And many who have a religious wedding service actually
want their God to recognize and bless their same-sex union. Anyone who
has knowledge of traditional black religious communities can see the radical
nature of this supposedly conformist behavior.
I am not trying to take away from the persuasive arguments
that Wedlocked makes regarding the critical view of marriage as a force in
social movements that are about liberation. I am saying that it is precisely
because marriage holds such an important ideological position in the minds
and experiences of so many different identity groups that it is an important
and serviceable frontier. The marriage equality movement is functional in
a way that is separate from the question of the kind of equality the capacity
to marry might mobilize.
Wedlocked also critiques contemporary lgbt social movements
for the overwhelming “whiteness” that has characterized their political
campaigns, particularly during the 2008 political debates around marriage
for same-sex couples. But between the 2008 election and the 2015 Supreme
Court decision, there was a noticeable shift in the way lgbt organizations
tried to “sell” the country on marriage equality. For example, in 2012 I
began to follow the Freedom to Marry Campaign, founded by Evan Wolfson,
and there I saw a genuine effort to expand the representation of same-sex
couples in the public eye. There were images of older couples, couples from
the South, Midwest, and Mountain regions of the country, Latina women,
African American men, even some conservative religious couples. Through
these images the movement recognized and tried to rectify some of its prior
mistakes. The photos were used not just by lgbt organizations but by other
groups and outlets in support of marriage equality as Obergefell v. Hodges
moved forward.
Wedlocked argues that marriage for same-sex couples “both
reflects and then reproduces a new form of respectability so yearned for
in many sectors of the gay community” (201). It says, “Removing the mar-
riage ban removes the ‘badge of inferiority’ for whites in a way that it does
not/cannot do for blacks because of race” (200). While I agree, I also see
important class differences in the extent to which blacks experience this
disadvantage. In some ways, the argument in Wedlocked goes too far when it
depicts marriage as only “a site of failure and dysfunction for many African
Americans” (198).
Middle- and upper-middle-class African Americans are able to
benefit from many of the advantages and legitimacy marriage brings. Their
class status grants them certain privileges, and this is true even in religious
communities. In my ongoing research on religion and lgbt identity, I inter-
viewed Raheem (pseudonym), an African American gay man who lives in a
large southern city with his husband and their two adopted children. He was
raised in the conservative Holiness Pentecostal faith. Raheem has a graduate
degree and works for a biotech company. His husband Glen is a pastor of a
church that keeps traditional Pentecostal beliefs but is welcoming to every-
one, including lgbt people. They live in a grand house and together bring in
a high six-figure income. When I asked how he and his family were faring
in this conservative state in the South, he told me he has experienced only
an enormous amount of love and support, even from those who “might not
support the [lgbt] community.” He said that when he walked around with
his daughter in a baby carrier, even when he was with his husband, black
people have said to him that rarely have they seen black men so actively
involved in raising their young children. They say that is not the norm in
their experience with men.
In this example, the comparison group for the racial community
has not been a heterosexual couple (“Are the children worse off being raised
by gay men instead of a married man and woman?”), but absent black fathers
(“Look at these men, they are very present and involved in their children’s
lives, and that is a good thing. And they appear well off, and isn’t that great
for the children as well?”). So this is one area where the racial context, and
the community’s experience around black men in families, sets up a dynamic
that may not have been considered in debates and discussions about male
couples who marry and raise children.
It was also clear that Raheem’s household income was able to
“buy” his family out of many of the negative experiences less advantaged Afri-
can Americans and sexual minorities of different racial backgrounds report.
Although Wedlocked argues that African Americans have not been able to use
marriage to “rebrand blackness in the way that sanitized racist stereotypes,”
this black gay couple has been able to silence or protect themselves from the
harm affiliated by those stereotypes. There are heterosexual black couples
similarly situated who have also used income, education, and social status to
shield themselves in important ways, however institutional racism rears its
head from time to time to interject itself into their lives. I suspect this truth
mignon r. moore is the chair of the department of sociology at Barnard College. She is the
author of Invisible Families: Gay Identities, Relationships, and Motherhood among Black
Women (2011) and numerous scholarly articles on lgbtq families, lgbtq people of color, and
intersections of race, gender, and sexuality. She has received funding from the National Insti-
tutes of Health and National Institute on Aging for her research on sexual minority seniors.
Her current book project is a social history of black lgbt older populations, tentatively titled
“In the Shadow of Sexuality: Social Histories of African American lgbt Elders.”
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