BACHELOR OF HUMAN RESOURCE MANAGEMENTS

MAY 2016

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MATRICULATION NO: 931118055046001

IDENTITY CARD NO : 931118055046
TELEPHONE NO. : 011-10927429/016-6375284
E-MAIL : jamunaranisathasivam@gmail.com
LEARNING CENTRE : OPEN UNIVERSITY MALAYSIA
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Ladies and gentlemen, a very good morning to you all. Thank you for all of you for being
with us today. On this glorious morning, I, Jamunarani as the representative of Toastmaster
club, going to give a talk on ‘‘Should parenting classes be compulsory?”. What is the
meaning of parenting classes? Parenting classes are educational development programs
that parents join to learn about compassionate for their children. Parents go to
the classes based on court orders, or simply as a method to absorb
better parenting skills. Parenting classes are found throughout all the foreign countries, and
they are provided to parents with children of all ages. In my speech today, I would like to
discuss about the positive and negative opinions of parenting classes.

First and foremost, parenting classes should be compulsory because parenting classes can
help you to know your children and your style of parenting so that you can become a
better parent. Parenting classes are planned around child progress, parenting and discipline
styles, efficient communication skills and how to deal with feelings with resources, skills
and methods to use at home when intermingling with your children. Most parenting classes
will teach parents to understand their part as a better parent. Based on the age of your child
and the class content, you may learn about having suitable outlooks for your toddler or how
to acquire to communicate better with your teenage child. Parenting classes also give you
the chance to learn simple parenting skills, practice positive direction, ask questions in a
safe setting, increase information from the presenter and make couples of new friends who
may be dealing with alike parenting problems. Parents can choose the best parenting
technique based on their own understanding about their child. These classes can help you
to deal with daily parenting problems and difficulties, as well as help you to recognize why
problems stand up and to know whether what you are experiencing is normal or may need
professional help. You might learn that there are many other ways to solve problems, as
well as, other ways and means for disciplining and guiding your children. Parents might
get a new awareness on their parenting method and the relationship with their children by
attending this class.

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Well, the research shows that parenting class can give you improved understanding about
your child so that you can become the better parent potentially and they are presented for
different type of parents, from the new mom and dad to the knowledgeable parents of teens.
Parenting classes can help to provide you a better knowledge on what to anticipate, learn
further about parenting and discipline methods and will help you feel more self-assured
and in self-control as a parent. Most parenting classes aid parents to recognize their roles
better. A new parenting class might talk about newborns and their needs and safety, while
a teen parenting class may be can emphasis on discipline and faith. Nevertheless of the age
of your children, a parenting class can benefit you to become more self-reliant parent as
you learn tactics to stay close to your children as you nurture them to be effective members
of society. Some new parents might be anxious about the forthcoming arrival of their little
one, and rightly so. A new baby can causes new challenges and experiences that some
parents simply are not prepared or equipped to deal with. Adopting.org summaries ‘‘that
parenting classes can support simplicity of the evolution into all periods of
parenthood so that you know what to anticipate and how to handle it’’. As the U.S.
Office on Women's Health so properly clarifies, "Children do not come with user
manuals."

Dear audience,

Parents should attend parenting classes so that they will identify what they are doing for
the upcoming and absorb appropriate methods that will make life much easier. In
other words, most people these days do not know what they are doing with their children.
You cannot just assume the young parents to have the information on how to raise a child.
The young parents also need the awareness to give their baby a better life they probably
could get. Most couples or mothers who get pregnant are too young to recognize child
psychology and parenting. Even Psychology professors come to an agreement that
‘‘Parents should take some type of child psychology classes or parenting classes in
order to be better parents’’. For the passionate and keen parents who in fact appreciate
the need to take those classes, sure they can read books or go to some category of college
class, but most parents do not find the need to. So if they need help they will definitely ask

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someone whom they think would be superior at it (which is seldom the case) their parents.
Find out for yourself, take a college psychology class, then child psychology. For the
children having to deal with child abuse, neglect, or parent isolation, they deserve for their
parents to be well educated and well-versed. Nobody is born with the knowledge and
expertise to raise a child. Absence of proper training, it is too easy for parents to produce
an underprivileged environment for their child. We do have the benefit of the Department
of Early Learning, but it still misses those precarious first years of the child’s life. In many
areas of the country, there are still pockets of hate such as hate for LGBT, hate for non-
Christians, hate for non-whites, hate for women’s rights and others. Lacking of preparation
will continue to revert our society to the stone ages. Basic parental certification, along with
increasing prevailing programs, would go a long way to shielding society’s greatest
investments for children.

Additionally, attending parenting classes regularly are necessary as a part of divorce.

The State requirements for these classes can be different. For example, some states let you
to take the classes online. Even if parenting classes are not a divorce obligation, they can
offer important information to support you and your children over the divorce process.
Divorce parenting class help parents recommence their parenting methods and study how
to reorganize their families. These parenting classes stereotypically teach you on how to
co-parent, deal with merged families and how to help your children deal with the pressure
of the divorce.

Ladies and Gentlemen,

On the other hand, parenting classes should not be compulsory because parents are
capable to take care of their children. Each child has their own individual requirements.
So, why you need to pay money to join parenting classes as you can go to the library
and get books and read about it? You can also ask your family members for guidance if
you need it.

People should not have to attend the parenting class because nobody should tell you how

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to raise your own child. How does the teacher know what is accurate? Who made the
rules? How do they know what is right? Every parent has the rights to raise their child
as they see adequate. It is a learning progression and something that every parent have to
figure out on their own. Parents also should not be forced to join parenting classes because
many parents are accountable enough to comprehend how to appropriately care for a child.
Although there are many parents who would profit greatly from attending parenting
classes, I do not feel it should be compulsory for everyone. Parents have the rights to take
care of their kids the way they want. If there is a problem at school or something the
teachers should call the parents. Parents should show them right from wrong.

Moreover, parents have capabilities to educate or take care of their children, but it does not
mean that they all have to attend the parenting classes. What if the parents are very busy
with their own stuffs and do not have time to join parenting classes? There are so
many circumstances that you cannot evade, right? If parents had not join the parenting
classes, you cannot say that they do not care about their children. Parents can make their
own choices. This would be a waste of time. What about the parents who have jobs like
this? Are they going to sit in the class and listen to those things that they already knew
everything about? Parents should have the right to do what they want to do. The parents
who truly need it and want it can take it but it should not be compulsory. These classes cost
money. What about the parents who are working at that time in the process of making
money to fund their child?

In conclusion, the topic is not as modest as the ‘clear amount’ of state support, but the
form that this support takes. Yes, parents do need measureable support such as benefits, or
day-care places but they are also eligible to a personal space in which they can raise their
family as they wish. Basic parenting classes are already generally available on a voluntary
basis. People who are adequately overwhelmed by the raising of a child can choose to join
these courses if they wish. However, it is not crystal clear why the parents who may have
their own ideas about childcare must follow the ideas and rules of the state enforced upon
them. In some cases, the approaches of the state may disrupt the religious or cultural
identity of the family, signifying exceedingly offensive and causing social isolation.

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The idea of there being an ‘objectively correct’ way to raise a child is a sturdily moralized
idea. We can of course pinpoint cases such as abuse or neglect, where we feel the well-
being of a child is evidently violated. We may even want to comprise such issues as
recurrently poor diet in such a classification. However, relating such a principle of
‘objectivity’ so broadly risks disrupt families who affectionately wish to raise their
children conferring to their own beliefs. Educational standards, or behavior are not the
objective realities that the intention supposes, and even in allegedly ‘scientific’ areas such
as medical advice, parents have sincere and well-founded fears regarding such issues as
vaccination. More seriously, when the state introduces such standards of ‘good parenting’,
it provide grounds to criticize effectively all parents. No parent or child is perfect but the
immense majority have the right to follow this important and personal relationship without
fear of societal stigma, suspicion or intrusion. Therefore, in my opinion, I strongly
disagree that parenting classes should be compulsory. I would like end my speech with
a quote, ‘‘Good parenting does not mean giving him a perfect life. It means teaching
him how to lead a good and contented life in our defective world. Now is the time to
decide. Now is the time to act. Decision is yours’’. I hope you have found my talk helpful.
Thank you for listening attentively.

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