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Kimberly Kuspa
I was happy. Everyone always told me how happy I was, how much I was a joy to be around. I
was what some may consider a normal kid. I was the youngest of four siblings and my mom’s
Sunshine. Nothing was abnormal with me and school came fairly easy. But my brother cried a lot. He
would sit at the kitchen table and do homework and out of nowhere start to cry. I did not understand.
What was so bad about middle school english class that would inflicted so much pain upon him? I
mean second grade had its problems but I did not think that school would get that much harder or did
it?
I had a hard time with numbers and adding big ones in my head was almost impossible but
reading was sort of fun. At least once a week I got taken out of class and got to hang out with a lady
that let me read the books that I liked to read. Every once in a while she would give me a big long list
of words to read and she would time me and make the ones that I didn't get right. I also got taken out
of class sometimes and spent time with another lady that gave me math problems to solve. Lets just
say I didn't like her very much. But I still didn't know why my brother cried so much and I did not
understand but that was okay, I was the baby of the family after all.
I did not understand, well not completely but all the tears that I witnessed hit the kitchen table
made a bit more sense now. I was in fifth grade and I still went to the reading specialist and the math
specialist once a week. I still like the reading specialist but did not like the math specialist. I went to
them because reading and math was hard for me, harder than it should be at my age, but I found the
world that was Judy Moody and I was hooked. I still got nervous and embarrassed when I had to read
out loud but my teacher never called on me very much. I knew I was different than my classmates but I
My brother has a hard time reading too but for him it was different. The wires in his brain are
not connected the way other peoples are and words and numbers get all mixed up in his head and he
gets confused sometimes. In Fact, all my siblings have the same brain wiring but I don't. So does that
make me the weird one? Middle school was no walk in the park but it was not tears on the kitchen table
worthy. I had a hard time reading too but due to the knowledge of my siblings learning disability, my
mom sent me and my brother to a reading program for several years. My mom claims that my early
intervention and encouragement to read was the reason my brain does not work like my siblings brains’
did. Dyslexia is what it was called but calling it “different brain wiring” made for since to me. My
siblings were not dumb though, they could not possibly be. They were the smartest people I knew but
sometimes I heard whispers about other people who have dyslexia and they are called dumb a lot but I
Middle school kinda sorta was the worst place to wait until you were old enough to go to high
school. I was awkward and weird and I tried to keep my head up but it was hard. In eighth grade,
when looking to the excitement of high school, I along with all of my classmates were asked by my
english teacher to take a spelling proficiency quiz to help her give an adequate understanding as to
what class we should be placed in our freshman year. We took the quiz and we had a partner grade it
for us as she read the answers out loud. Out of 50 questions, my partner got 5 words wrong. Out of 50
questions, I got 30 words wrong. My teacher made a comment to the whole class about my poor score
and I don’t think I ever turned a brighter shade of red. I was embarrassed and ashamed. I didn't want
to be the dumb one and there I was being shunned for not knowing how to spell correctly. There was a
pit in my stomach that wouldn't go away and I didn’t understand. Is this why my brother cried so much?
Were people mean like this to him too? I wasn't happy but I wasn't sad either. I was confused but I did
My siblings and I are all five years apart meaning that my oldest sister is 15 years older than me
so growing up, we did not have a lot in common. I was blonde blue eyed and always had a book in my
hand and they were all brunettes with brown eyes with a learning disability but by the time I made it to
college their Dyslexia had become the running family joke. When ever they read something incorrectly
or misspoke they would always say, “sorry its the dyslexia talking.” I know that their disability made
many challenges for them in life but they never missed a chance to laugh at their mishaps. Humor was
how we solve most problems in our family and this one was no exception. In front of people, no matter
how we really felt, making a joke of the situation was always the best solution to any problem.
The first time it happened I was scared. I felt this overwhelming urge to cry even though no
harm was being done to me. My chest got tight like a one hundred pound brick was lying on top of it. It
felt as though all the air in the world had disappeared and there was no sight of it returning any time
soon. My heart raced so fast I thought it was going to jump out of my chest. I was shaking and I was
scared. I was at badminton practice my sophomore year of high school. My badminton coach was
yelling at us again probably because we weren't working hard enough and all of a sudden it hit. I ran
out of practice but thankfully no one noticed and I spent the next half an hours hyperventilating and
trying to figure out if I was dying or just being dramatic. I did not know it at the time but I was having a
panic attack. I collected myself and went back to practice like nothing happened. I did not tell anyone
about it, not even my mom. I felt ashamed that I could not control my emotions like everyone around
me could.
The next time it happened I was in badminton practice but as a Junior in high school. This time
I was in the bathroom longer and eventually someone came looking for me. It was a Sophomore
named Amy. I liked Amy but she had never seen nor experienced a panic attack and she just stood
there and watched. That was an even worse feeling then the feeling that I was losing my mind which is
what I thought the first time I had a panic attack. I had a witness so it was no longer a secret.
When I got home I told my mom about it. I remember sitting on the kitchen counter while she
was making dinner, which was not uncommon, and told her. She gave me a hug and said “Are you
okay? Do not ever scare me like that again.” I know my mom meant well but I did not want to be a
burden on her like my sibling had been. On top of the dyslexia all of them had taken some form of
medication for their anxiety and I did not want that to be me. I wanted to be the happy girl that she
loved and depended on to be happy, so then I was. I was just happy and with other people, I tried to be
nothing else but that. No matter how scared I was or how often I cried. To the world I was the happy
January
The funny thing about cancer is that it doesn't give a shit about who you are or what wonderful
things you have done in your life. All it cares about is death and destruction. It was the Holiday Break
during my Sophomore year of college. We had just had a great christmas and everyone was packing
up to leave. My grandma had been fighting cancer for ten years at this point and the holiday season
made it clear that she wasn't going to last much longer. The day after Christmas my parents had made
the decision for my grandmother to be put on hospice care and we moved her into our our spare
bedroom.
Since I was on holiday break, I was the only one around during the day to make sure that she
was still taking her medicine. When someone is on hospice care, they are usually in a lot of pain so
they are given morphine and in the end that is really what kills them. Imagine being the one who gives
the medicine that stops their heart. But for the most part, she just slept and I would sometimes sit by
On January 6th, I woke up to men taking my grandmother’s body out of the house on a stretcher
and to the funeral home. I didn't move though, I couldn't. Not until my oldest sister Amy, who had
decided to spend the night at our house, came into my room and said “I think grandma passed last
night.” All I could think to say was, “I know.” I felt numb but at peace. I did not cry that day, I didn't cry
until the funeral when the priest came to give his blessing. I loved my grandma and missing her hurt
me but I understood this kind of hurt. I could see it and touch it and even name it so this hurt did not
even hurt that bad. She was at peace and with her husband and all of her siblings and I was at peace
knowing that.
sometimes. Even with the early intervention and my passion for reading, words and numbers were still
hard for me to organize in my head. Because of it, I got made fun of sometimes by my friends. I know
that they mean well but I can't help it or control it so I never really found the jokes all that funny. Even
though I am not dyslexic, or so I have been told all my life reading became increasingly more difficult as
the words got bigger and the sentence got longer. I was good at hiding it though, as long as I didn't
have to read outloud. In college, my friends didn't know my siblings and they didn't know that dyslexia
ran in my family, they just didn't understand something that they never struggled with themselves. One
day I was sitting in the chapter room of my sorority house working on homework. I was writing a paper
and words were especially difficult for me that day. I asked how to spell “whether” because that and the
alternate spelling “weather” were never clear to me. The response I got was less than what I needed. I
needed to for someone to spell the word and what I got was judgment and fingers pointed in my
direction. Maybe to them it was not that big of a deal but to me it was upsetting. I laughed along and
When I became the joke, all I could think about was how did my siblings handle this? They
were labeled dumb or unintelligent all their lives. My oldest sister was told that she would never
amount to anything and so she should stop trying. They were the butt of almost every joke but they
were strong and resilient. I didn't think I could be like that tho, things just always bothered me more
A silly thing anxiety is, you can never possibly explain it to someone who has never had it and it
comes out of fucking nowhere. During my Junior year at Eastern Illinois University, I feel in love. At
this point my anxiety had been almost non existent. I was stressed of course but it was nowhere near
I was dating a boy named Luke Young from Mattoon, Illinois. He was tall and athletic with
ocean blue eyes and a Sophomore Business major. He was everything I thought I wanted in life. He
was kind to me and he held my hand sometimes when we walked across campus. We meet when we
we were both Orientation Leaders the summer before and started dating in July.
It was around Valentine's Day when my anxiety started to become very obvious. Before then I
never felt the need to tell him about it mainly because I was afraid of the inevitable; he would not
understand. But I had to tell him because anxious and panic were about the only two emotions my
body knew how to express. What I feared the most had happened, he did not understand and I ended
The Sunday after Spring Break had ended, I was officially single again. I was broken. I was
crushed. It came out of nowhere and I did not understand. He told me he did not love me anymore but
he thought I was still a good person, whatever that means. I was not worth loving is what ran through
my mind a million times. They say your first breakup is the hardest and they were right. I cried for a
week straight. I was still in love with him but he had already moved on. I kept asking myself “how
could I have let this happen?” and “how could I have fixed it?” There was no way to fix it though. It was
over and I had to move on. At first I tried to be his friend because I thought that maybe he would see
what he had done and take me back but he did not. I did not see the light at the end of the tunnel and I
was scared that that pit in my stomach I got every time I saw him would never go away.
Senior year came and it did not get better. I went to the doctor with my mom because at this
point I did not know what to do. After talking to the doctor for approximately five minutes, she willingly
handed over a square white sheet of paper with a prescription on it for a take as needed anxiety
medication. I got the prescription filled. I carried that bottle around every day but I never took one. I
never even opened the bottle to see what the pills looked like. I couldn't do it. I could not get myself to
take it even when I was at my worst. It might have been because of my need for self preservation or
maybe just because I still had the fear of being a burden on my mother and everyone else around me
so I tucked my problems away. Whatever the reason, the result was the same.
I still smiled big and make sure everyone else around me is comfortable and happy. No one
wants to be around someone who was upset all the time. When I was feeling a panic attack coming on,
I would calmly excuse myself and get to the nearest bathroom and hid in a stall until I composed
myself. I didn't want to dump my problems on anyone and most of the time I didn't even know what my
problem was so I smiled. When I was noticallby upset, I was always asked what was wrong with me
and those are the hard questions to answer. I was at work one day and one of my co-workers noticed
that something was wrong. She asked me what was wrong and I told her that I was okay, just tired.
She looked at me and said, “Well then you should smile, you always look better when you smile,” and