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Darius Clark
Mrs.Kenly
British Literature 4A
29 April 2019
There are standards of being a single parent! Single-parent households may have affected
children’s educational achievement at the population level. Single parenting can be a struggle but
does not have to be a burden. Single parenting can also come with a lot symptoms such as,
nightmares , headache, sleep disturbances and etc. Being a single parent can put stress on child in
many ways! Kentucky this year passed a law to make joint physical custody and equal parenting
time standard for temporary orders while a divorce is being finalized. Florida's legislature
overwhelmingly approved a bill last year to presume equal time for child custody plans, but it
was vetoed by the governor. And in Michigan, lawmakers are considering a bill that would make
equal parenting time the starting point for custody decisions.The legal push for custody
arrangements is in large part a result of years of lobbying by fathers' rights advocates who say
men feel alienated from their children and overburdened by child-support obligations. These
groups, including the National Parents Organization, are gaining new traction, with support from
across the political spectrum, as more lawmakers respond to this appeal for gender equality and,
among some conservatives, the frustration of a newly emboldened constituency of men who say
they are being shortchanged.Laws that require joint physical custody could also lead to the
elimination of child support in some states, women's advocates say, disrupting a system that was
designed to help women, who have historically been paid less in the workforce while performing
more unpaid labor at home. Proponents emphasize that the bills overwhelmingly address parents
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who are otherwise fit and not abusive. They say that family courts are out of step with modern
families and that the current system benefits highly paid lawyers while depriving millions of
children of the chance to build meaningful relationships with their fathers. For more than a
century, court decisions were guided by the "tender years doctrine," a vestige, legal scholars say,
of the cult of domesticity that put women on a pedestal as instinctive caregivers. A father who
wants custody of a child should continue to make regular child support payments. If a father has
an informal arrangement with the child’s mother, he should maintain records such as check
receipts or a written letter from the child’s mother as to the child support arrangements and
what's been given thus far. If a father is struggling with child support payments, request a modifi
but if a father is able to make the payments, he should ensure he has a good track record of
making payments. Sometimes when the other parent isn’t in the equation you can build a strong
bond with the child. A father may also stop by the child’s school and introduce himself to the
administration. A father should check on a child’s progress often and ensure the child knows that
he’s there to offer any assistance necessary. Every child should have some type of love and
caring in their life. When one of the spouts not in their can affect the child life in many ways.
Certain stuff you can learn from a men prospective that women can’t teach! Even if a father lives
in a small space, he should make a special place in his home for the child. A father who wants
custody of a child should realistically ask himself what he can handle. It's a fact that many
fathers may have other responsibilities such as other children or multiple jobs. Multiple
responsibilities may affect a father's ability to assume custody of a child, especially full custody.
There is usually only one hearing or trial in any case. That is when witnesses testify, and in a
custody case, is a protracted matter which may last anywhere from 3 or 4 to as much as ten days.
Not every family law judge will have the same level of family law experience, knowledge,
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temperament or patience. Remember that a judge is elected or appointed to the bench. They don’t
go through years of family law judge training before they become family law judges. Many of
the experienced ones learned on the job or used to practice family law. Some of them may have
never practiced family law a day in their career as a lawyer. Fortunately, in Orange County, we
That's not a problem with the Census; its purpose is to quantify. The problem lies with
folks who use a simple measure of marital status and primary custody to draw sweeping
conclusions about family relationships, the people in them, and what it all means — and who
prescribe solutions for a social problem diagnosed using the wrong tools. The single-parent
households numbered by the census are just that: homes in which a presently unmarried parent
lives with a biological or adopted child of whom that person holds primary custody. Meanwhile,
some liberal critics see single mother as a codeword for "black, welfare mother." They view the
focus on out-of-wedlock births and family breakup as an effort to divert public attention and
social policy from overcoming racism and lack of opportunity. And then there are the feminists
who regard Quayle's attack on Murphy Brown as a symbolic attack on the moral right of women
to pursue careers and raise children on their own. So great are the passions aroused by the debate
over the morality of single motherhood that a clear-eyed view of the consequences of single
motherhood has been difficult. But to make any progress, we had best know what those are. If
you’re a parent, you may have seen your stress level in your child’s eyes, or perhaps you've seen
it played out in his or her behavior. If you’re not a parent, you may remember the feeling of
delight at your own parents’ happiness, or the devastation when you sensed that they were not
OK. Children are sponges, after all – and we all know this intuitively. And there’s a small but
intriguing body of evidence suggesting that beyond a child’s disposition, a parent’s stress level
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can affect a child’s very makeup, including his or her risk of mood disorders, addiction, and even
disorders like ADHD and autism. It’s not the most popular area of research, for obvious reasons,
How does being a single parent affect the household? Relationships are another thing
that everyone needs, especially children. Children need a real strong relationship between
themselves and their parents, but children from single parent families are usually denied this
privilege because they are separated from one of their parents and often do not get to spend
adequate time with the other. Children who have a strong relationship with their parents are more
likely to respect the authority of their parents.The problem with single parent is the fact that
usually the single parent does not have the time to help the child develop a close relationship
with them. Another problem is how a child can build a strong relationship with a parent they do
not live with and often do not see on a regular basis. The simple fact is that children need both of
their parents in the household to build a close relationship with and to teach them to respect the
parent’s authority. True, not all children from two parent households have close relationships
with their parents, but it is much more likely. Gender also plays an important role in families.
Men and women have very different characteristics, both emotionally and physically. These
different characteristics contribute to their roles as mothers and fathers . For instance, men are
normally much stronger physically than women, and are therefore able to do many things around
the house that a woman cannot. Women are much more likely to do the everyday household
chores while the man does the heavy duty work. Women usually tend more to the children when
they need things than do the men, and also help them more with emotional type problems. So it
is easy to see why having both parents in the household makes a much more well-rounded family
atmosphere.
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When both parents are not in the household children after experience a great deal of stress from
different aspects of their lives. This stress often comes from children who are forced into
independence and self-reliance before they are mature enough to cope. Many single parents leave
their children at home or send them to low quality daycares centers while they are at work,
causing lots of stress on the children. Yes, two parent families often leave their children at
home or send them to low quality daycares, but studies show that it is ten times more likely to
happen in single parent families. Another time which brings a great deal of stress to single parent
homes is the holidays. The holidays are a time when families should be together. Single parents
may not be able to provide this for their children. Another problem that arises during the holidays
is that of gift competition between the parents. The problem with the parents competing over
who gets the best gift is the fact that the children often feel as if the parents want to but their love
instead of earning it by showing them love. Children of single parent homes also face stress by
always worrying about everything that is going on in their lives. According to Richard Kinsey
single parent children worried more about school, family, future, finding work, crime, and their
environment by a large margin . However, the biggest worry of these children was about their
own personal loves and what was going to happen to them as they grew up. Another big stress for
single mothers is the fact that now they have the responsibility of two parents. One woman
describes how she felt: “And on the weekends then, mow the yard, and clean the house, and
wash the clothes. When you get done doing that, its Monday all over again. Most parents form
two parent homes realize the responsibility they have and the stress that they face with a spouse
there to support them, but just imagine that spouse not being there to help support and help with
the responsibilities of the family and that is exactly what it is like to be a single parent.
Now we have seen the pressures that single mothers face, but what about single fathers
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because there are many of them in the world today. One example can be found in the article ” A
Singular Experience,” by Brad Andrews. Andrews himself is a single father and he discusses the
overwhelming responsibilities of being a single father. He now has to do all of the household
chores and take care of the children all by himself. He can no longer play catch with his son after
dinner because now he has to do the dishes (8). These single parent situations create instability
and do not provide a positive environment for children to grow up in. Both a father and a mother
are needed to create a stable environment and a positive place from children to live. The simple
fact is that being a single parent is a very difficult task, whether it is a single father or a single
mother. A family consists of a father and a mother with their children, not just one parent. Single
parent homes create a lot of stress and worries on the parent as well as the children, and the stress
and worries are not needed by either. After all, it takes two to make a child; it should take two to
raise a child.
On that note, how can you be a success single parent? There are plenty of ways
you can be one. You & your children need and deserve a warm circle of loving supportive people
on whom you can count support, laughter and shared memories. Sometimes when it’s just you &
your child, yall can built a strong bond. Where to the child can feel comfortable around you
anytime. As a single you should know what you can afford & what you can’t afford. In the years
every stage of their single-parent journey. Range from anything like dating and parenting to sex
and legal issues. But by far, the number one concern for new and existing single moms is money.
How to make more, save more, pay off debt and plan for the future. I’m thrilled that these
A solid financial plan and action toward reaching your money goals are so, so critical to
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your own well-being and that of your family. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. While money
can’t buy happiness, a lack of money or mismanaged financial decisions causes stress, anxiety
and limited choices — all realities that affect your ability to be the best woman, professional and
mom you can be. Whether single motherhood found you via divorce, unplanned pregnancy,
choice or widowhood, it can be easy to find yourself looking around at those two-parent families
Maybe you can already afford a sprawling Tudor in an affluent neighborhood, Caribbean
resort vacations, and expensive summer camps. Or, maybe your goals include affording those
But if you cannot afford your lifestyle, decide right now to change your spending.
Successful single moms do not replicate their nuclear-family neighbors’ lives. They build their
own amazing lives, on their own terms — within their own means.
If you have to finance it, you likely can’t afford it. This definitely includes expenses like
food and utilities, as well as clothes, electronics, and travel. A car and student loans fall into the
category of, “If the terms are attractive and there is a clear return on the investment, proceed”
category, as does a home mortgage (home ownership is not always the best choice for everyone
at every phase of life). The less you owe to other people, the easier it is to build wealth and reach
your goal.
Last but not least, Always wanna set big goals as a single parent. Go big on big! What
you mean about big on big? Basically I mean you should set bigger goals than the last one. Go
beyond on your goals. If you’re struggling or comparing yourself to your neighbors and friends
who seem to be doing better than you financially, it can be easy to fall into the pattern of setting
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small and short-term goals: pay off a credit card, or have a little extra at the end of the month.
But here’s the thing with goals (and really all of these fundamentals): if you are the least
bit diligent, you’re more likely to achieve them. So set big goals. Big, scary, hairy, glorious
goals. Dream of your perfect career or your perfect home and then sketch out the steps to achieve
Whatever your goals may be, I urge you to take it even a step further. I’ve seen thousands
of single moms blow their own minds and the expectations of others with what they can achieve
in this new, free phase of life. This can be you, too. Don’t hold back. Keep a minimum of three
months’ living expenses on hand. We all experience a large, unplanned expense at some point.
You could experience a job loss, medical emergency or sudden major expense like a car repair.
At the same time, get serious about your retirement planning. Take advantage of any investment
benefits offered by your employer, and seek professional advice about investment strategies that
can help you reach your goals. Since you don’t have a spouse, the pressure to save is that much
more important, if you don’t want to be a burden on your adult children in the future.
At this time, I wasn’t enjoying my consulting work as much anymore. I didn’t feel challenged,
and I started to question where I could go and where I wanted to take my career. The logistics of
my life were a struggle and my stress levels were through the roof.
I felt on the verge of a break down. Even getting to work was stressful. A tantrum from
my daughter (or one of her giant weet-bix sneezes) could put my whole morning off, and result
in me being half an hour late to work, which increased my stress. And if my daughter was sick,
I’d feel guilty for working from home. I was always the last one in the office and the first to
leave, despite being in the office for the official working hours. I felt an immense amount of
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stress from that. At the same time I was always one of the first to drop my daughter off at
daycare and one of the last to pick her up. I constantly felt guilty. Guilty for not being there for
my daughter, and guilty for my shorter working hours, compared to my colleagues. I thought,
there HAS to be a better way. After struggling on for a few months, my position was made
redundant. It was scary and a huge shock, but it was also a blessing because it forced me to look
at my life and re-examine my goals. I thought, This is my chance to mould my life to how I want
to live it, life is too short to feel constantly stressed and tired. So I didn’t even look for another
job. I thought, Single Mother Survival Guide is my passion, and I’m going to turn it into a
business. So that’s what my goal shifted to, and that what I did.
I wanted to create a business in something that I was passionate about and something that
enabled me to help others. I wanted to be able to work for myself. I wanted to action my ideas. I
really disliked the whole 9am – 5pm working hours. It didn’t suit my lifestyle, especially as a
single mother. I wanted to work the hours that suited me and not when a building happened to be
unlocked. I wanted to be able to work around being a mum. I wanted to be able to drop my
daughter off and pick her up from school, and be involved in the school community when she
starts school next year. I want to go to the parades and performances and afternoon teas. These
were my ‘whys’. A single parent is a person who lives with a child or children and who does not
have a wife, husband or live-in partner. ... Reasons for becoming a single include divorce, break-
up, abandonment, death of the other parent childbirth by a single woman or single-person
adoption. Single parenting can be hard but only strong can survive.
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