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Mackenzie Kilduff
Dr. Kelly
7 Dec. 2015
One in every five women has been reported to have been sexually assaulted or
raped at some point in their lifetime. Increasing that number, one in every four college
women are sexually assaulted in their lifetime (Sexual Assault Statistics). Although these
facts are so prevalent in our society, no one seems to listen to them, until it happens to
them. Sex in American society is overlooked to where even rape is swept under the rug
and even joked about. Everyday, millions of people continue to believe false facts about
sexual assault and rapes. After a rape or assault occurs, the victim and their close loved
ones experience effects that drastically change their life. Due to the common
misconceptions and the prevalence of sexual assaults on campuses, many schools and
universities have been taking strides to protect their students. Sexual assault not only
affects victims, but their friends, like myself, and families, and colleges and universities
across America are taking stands to end sexual assault on and off of campuses.
Typically, people all across the world, do not think that someone they know, or
themselves, could ever be sexually assaulted. The summer of 2015 started out with high
school graduation with some of the greatest friends in the world. We headed to Ocean
City, Maryland to spend Senior Week at the beach with all of our friends and classmates.
Halfway through the week, my entire world fell apart in front of me. One of my best
friends, Rebecca, was raped by someone that we all knew, at a party, in the middle of the
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day, and alcohol was involved. After the incident, she came back to our hotel room to tell
us what had happened to her. Being seventeen and eighteen years old, we had no idea
what we should do. So, we called my friend’s dad, but Rebecca had decided she did not
want to go to the hospital. The whole next day, we all struggled with what could have
happened if we went, until she decided that she did indeed wanted to go. We spent the
whole night at the hospital and Rebecca completed a rape kit and filed a police report.
The investigation is still going on, and hopefully, he will be convicted in the near future.
Since we were only recent high school graduates, none of us were prepared to
handle the situation like the one that we encountered. During the whole incident, I had to
take control of what had happened and keep everyone together. I had to talk to the police
and the doctors when Rebecca couldn’t, call all of our parents, and be the brave one. I
had no time to think about the situation, how I felt, or how I was going to handle this
internally or externally. Unfortunately, people across the country, including myself, have
misconceptions about sexual assaults and rapes. Before my friend was assaulted, I never
knew some of the facts associated with rape. One of the common misconceptions is that
sexual assault victims are typically attacked by an unknown person and the victim is
assaulted at complete random, in a strange location. In reality, this is not at all true. The
Bureau of Justice Statistics reports six in ten rape or sexual assault victims said they were
assaulted by a partner, relative, friend, or acquaintance. This statistic shows that over fifty
percent of rapes are caused by people that you know. In college, this statistic increases to
nine in ten victims knew the person who hurt them (Victims and Perpetrators). Similar to
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those statistics, forty percent of sexual assaults take place in the victims own home (Get
the Facts). Before Rebecca was raped, I never knew that over half of sexual assaults are
by people that you know. I also did not know the typical assaults that people think about
are not realistic at all. Along with the misconception of attackers, many people do not
Another frequently mistaken belief is that all victims are women. Although the
number is still not as high as women, one in every thirty-three men has been the victim of
an attempted or completed rape in his lifetime, making ten percent of all victims affected
by rape male (Get the Facts). In regards to male rape, people often think that men should
be capable of defending themselves and that it is not possible for men to even be raped.
However, men are typically attacked by gangs, assaulted with a weapon, or completely
taken by surprise. The victim’s physical strength is not always enough protection to
defend themselves, because these other factors come into play (Rape: Myths and
Realities). In the relation to my friend, although she is not a boy, she is very strong and
can easily defend herself. She is a very strong gymnast, but she was still unable to get her
attacker off of her, before she was raped. Rape can happen to anyone, but not everyone
knows this.
Another misconception is that women are likely to lie about being raped. The FBI
reports that of all the rapes that are reported, only two percent of them are false
accusations. This is the same as any other crime that people commit (Rape: Myths and
Realities). I have experienced this misconception first hand. I have people, who know
Rebecca, come up to me constantly and ask if this really happened to Rebecca. I get so
aggravated when people ask me this, because I do not understand why people would not
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believe her. Misconceptions are constantly believed, and I hope that people will not
continue to believe them. Before I knew someone that was raped, I was one of the
millions of people that believed all of the wrong things about sexual assault. I am now
informed, and I will continue to try and educate people about rape. Being the best friend
of a rape victim and watching people believe misconceptions constantly, I have also
watched first hand the effects of the incident on my friend and on myself.
Sexual assault effects not only the victim, but their friends and families in many
traumatic ways. Many survivors of rape experience hardships after they are raped or
sexually assaulted. They are three times more likely to have depression and four times
more likely to contemplate suicide. They are thirteen times more likely to abuse alcohol
and twenty-six times more likely to abuse drugs (Get the Facts). Not only do they
experience these effects, but victims and their friends can experience heavy amounts of
PTSD, after the assault. Survivors of sexual assault are six times more likely to suffer
from PTSD, than regular people (Get the Facts). PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder,
“develops after a terrifying ordeal that involved physical harm or the threat of physical
harm” (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). PTSD can vary depending on the incident. The
person who develops PTSD may have been the one who was directly harmed, the harm
may have happened to a loved one, or the person experiencing PTSD may have witnessed
a harmful event that happened to loved ones or even complete strangers. (Post-Traumatic
Stress Disorder). Most people that have been raped or sexually assaulted experience
PTSD, because they have a hard time accepting what has happened.
Post-traumatic stress disorder varies from person to person, but all cases are
equally as challenging to live with. PTSD is highest for people involved in a violent
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attack where the perpetrator uses weapons and violent actions against the victim. Post-
traumatic stress disorder is very high for alcohol-related attacks, because victims tend to
blame themselves for what has happened to them. In less severe attacks, PTSD still
occurs, but it is not as high as the other cases (Peter-Hagene 162). In regards to alcohol
related assaults, like the one my friend experienced, victims are most likely to blame
themselves after the incident or feel like it is their fault. Due to the consumption of
alcohol, they feel that they were not in control of the situation and could have stopped it
if they were in control. However, victims have a hard time realizing that it was in no way
their fault, even if they were under the influence of alcohol. Days after it happened, and
still to this day, my friend blames herself for being raped because she was under the
influence of a high amount of alcohol. She has told our friend group that if she wasn’t
drinking this would have never happened, or if she was more careful it would have never
happened either. The problem is that it was not her fault and it never will be, but she can
not accept this. Along with victims, loved ones of people who have been raped,
experience high amounts of PTSD, because they feel that they could have prevented what
Friends and loved ones of the victims that have been sexually assaulted also
back to the place where the assault happened, and they are less likely to trust men in the
future, just like the victim. The night that the rape occurred, all of my friends and I slept
in the same room. I can remember all of us flinching at the smallest noises, because we
did not feel safe at all. Then a couple days after my friend was raped, I was in the shower
thinking about my week at the ocean with my friends. I simply remember asking my
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sister when my family was going on vacation to the beach in Ocean City. My sister told
me that we were going back next week, and I turned around, slammed the door, and cried
my eyes out in the shower. I did not have any intention of going back to the place where
my friend was hurt. My mom ran downstairs and dragged me out of the shower, ensuring
me that I was going to be okay and so will Rebecca. I still have flashbacks about what
happened that week. I find myself thinking about how different things would be if I had
just gone with her, or made her stay with us. After the incident, I find myself continually
I call my mom on the phone when I am walking alone at night, and I get nervous at the
slightest sounds. Now that I am in college, I want to feel safe on my campus. Many
colleges and universities have stepped up to help victims and their friends that have
Colleges and universities all across America have been taking the necessary steps
want to know that I am safe in my own new home. I want to not have to worry about
what is going to happen to me. However, if this were to ever happen to me, and I hope
that it never does, I want to feel comfortable going to the university about it. Less than
five percent of college students who are sexually assaulted actually report the crime to the
police (Get the Facts). This number is astounding, because victims do not even feel
comfortable reporting what has happened to them, where they should be able to.
However, many students are able to report their attacker, because their universities
protect them. A student at Marquette University, who has changed her name to Alice for
the sake of the article, was assaulted at school, in her dorm room. She discussed how she
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picked her college, because she never thought this would be an issue. She was dating a
boy for a couple weeks, before he assaulted her. She never reported it, because she was
unsure of what had even happened to her. Once she had realized what had happened to
her, she felt it was too far from the incident to do anything about it. A year after the
incident, her attacker messaged her on Facebook about the attack. Her friends encouraged
her to report her story to the Department of Public Safety at Marquette. The university
found Alice’s attacker guilty of sexual assault and sexual harassment. However, they did
not stop there. They made him take a course of sexual violence and prevention and was
relationship. Due to the excellent people at Marquette, Alice’s assault did not go
unnoticed (Fletcher). However, not everyone is as lucky as she was, and not everyone
feels comfortable bringing up what has happened to them on their college campuses.
Due to the abuse of alcohol on college campuses being so strong and prevalent,
many sexual assaults occur in college. Many universities, such as Marquette, are doing
things to help victims and to better the perpetrators. The Green Dot program, a bystander
education that aims to end the “code of silence” around the actions that lead to sexual
assault, is seemed to be the most beneficial. Students, from Catholic universities, think
this really works to help prevent dating and sexual violence on their campuses. They
believe that universities are finding it too easy to just use the “Band-Aid” approaches,
and this will not work (Fletcher). Title IX is one of the money solutions that colleges and
universities, across America, have created to help protect their students. Under the 1972
Education Amendments, schools are required to take active steps toward eliminating
harassment, so that students can continue to learn. Title IX gives students the ability to
not only have it handled by the police, but to have it handled by campus proceedings and
federal agencies (Brodsky 139). Although students have this option, it is not the only way
that they can tackle what has happened to them. Many college campuses have help
centers to create a safe place for students to talk about what has happened to them. At
Seton Hill, we have Title IX and we also have the Blackburn Center, a help center for
relationship violence and sexual assault. After everything that has happened to me and
my friend, I feel safe at my new home. I know that if this were to ever happen to me, I
Sexual assault is prevalent in our world today. Sex is not something shared
between two people that are loved anymore; it is thrown around with ease. People often
joke about sexual assault, like it is nothing, and believe wrong things about it. When
sexual assaults occur, victims and their loved ones are affected in many ways, internally
and externally. Due to the high number of assaults that happen, colleges and universities,
like Marquette and Seton Hill, are taking the steps necessary to end sexual assaults.
Having Rebecca in my life, I know that sexual assaults are nothing to joke about and I
know what it is really like. I will continue all that I can do to help prevent situation, like
what happened to Rebecca, happen to another person. Sexual assault and rape is a
horrible thing, and no one, including myself, should ever have to experience any aspect
of it.
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