‫ا ألربعني للنساء‬

Forty Ahadith for Women

Some reminders and words of encouragement and admonishment
 For Maa Ji and Daddy

May Allah ‫ ﷻ‬Bestow You with His Mercy and Blessings in Both Worlds.
 Preface
‫اا َو َأ ِط ُقع ا َهَّللاال ُق َوو ۖ َوا ْل َو َو ا َهَّلل ْل ا َوا َهَّلل َو ا َول َو ْل ِط َو ا ُق ِط َو َو َول َو ْل ُق ْل َو ا ُق ِط لْل ُق ْل ۖ َو ا ْل ُق ِط ُقع ُقو َو ْل َو ُق ا ۚ َو َو ا َو َو َهَّللاال ُق وِط ا َهَّلل ااْل َو َو ُق ااْل ُق ُقِطني‬
‫ُق ْل َأ ِط ُقع ا َهَّلل َو‬
‫ِإ‬ ‫ِإ‬ ‫ِإ‬ ‫ِإ‬
Say, "Obey Allah and obey the Messenger; but if you turn away - then upon him is only that [duty] with which he has
been charged, and upon you is that with which you have been charged. And if you obey him, you will be [rightly]
guided. And there is not upon the Messenger except the [responsibility for] clear notification." (al-Nur, 24:54)

‫اا َو ااْل َو ْل َو ْلال ِط َول َو َو َو َول َهَّلل َو‬

‫اا َو ِطث ًريا‬ ‫ا َو َو ْل َو َو اَو ُق ْل ِط َور ُق وِط َهَّلل ِط‬
‫اا ُأ ْل َو ٌة َو َوسَس َو ٌة ِطا َو ْل َو َو يَو ْلل ُقج َهَّلل َو‬
There is certainly for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent example for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the
Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often. (al-Ahzab 33:21)

‫اا َو ُق ِطُي ُّب‬

‫اا َو َهَّللاال ُق َوو ۖ َوا ْل َو َو ا َهَّلل ْل ا َوا َهَّلل َهَّلل َو‬ ‫اا َو ي َو ْلغ ِطف ْلل اَو ُق ْل ُق ُق بَو ُق ْل ۗ َو َهَّلل ُق‬
‫اا غَو ُقف ٌةر َور ِط مي۞ ُق ْل َأ ِط ُقع ا َهَّلل َو‬ ‫ُق ْل ا ْل ُق ْل ُق ْل ُق ِطُت ُّ َو َهَّلل َو‬
‫اا َوا َهَّلل ِط ُقع ِطِن ُق ْلُي ِط ْل ُق ُق َهَّلل ُق‬
‫ِإ‬ ‫ِإ‬ ‫ِإ‬
۞ ‫ااْل َوَك ِط ِطلي َو‬
Say, [O Muhammad, to mankind], "If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you
your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.".۞ Say, "Obey Allah and the Messenger." But if they turn away - then
indeed, Allah does not like the disbelievers. (Aal-e-Imran 3:31-32)

The importance of hadith in Islam is clearly explained in the Quran itself. Over and over again Allah orders us to
follow the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and to take him ‫ ﷺ‬as an example. This message was clearly understood by the
Companions, who regularly sought advice from the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬in person when possible, and through his ‫ﷺ‬
words or actions as narrated by other companions when he ‫ ﷺ‬was not available. The authority of the Prophet
‫’ﷺ‬s words or actions was never a source of dispute amongst them, and it was with this authority clearly
established that they narrated the words and actions of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬in relation with different issues.

In modern times, some have come to question this authority, and they base their questioning upon various myths
cultivated by the Orientalists. The most commonly quoted myth is that the Ahadith were collected a long time after
the demise of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and there was no written record of these ahadith before this time. They use this
myth to question the veracity of ahadith, doubting whether these are actual sayings or examples set by the Prophet
‫ ﷺ‬further quoting the fact that a number of ahadith are in conflict with each other.

To answer their first claim (Which is based on some traditions which prohibit the writing of ahadith, this is a
contradiction in itself, the Orientalists use these ahadith to refute the authenticity of all ahadith, yet does that claim
itself not place these very ahadith into question too?), we look at the history of hadith literature. There were
multiple “collections” of ahadith in written form at the time of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬himself. These collections include
the ahadith written down by Hazrat Anas (r) on scrolls, Hazrat ‘Ali (r)’s collection of ahadith on zakat and the “sahifah
sadiqah”of Hazrat ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr bin al-‘Aas(r). This sahifah was later included by Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal in his
Musnad. In fact, the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬is also known to have dictated Islamic injunctions to be written down on
parchments for those being sent to hold administrative offices. An example is the letter given by the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬to
‘Amr bin Hazm when he was sent as governor of Yemen.

The first known written collection of ahadith commissioned on an official level was by the caliph ‘Umar bin ‘Abd-al-
‘Aziz(r), hence jump starting the culture of the written traditions before the first century of hijra was even
completed. In consequent years, many more profound and well researched collections were completed, thus
preserving the great part of hadith literature within the first three centuries of hijra.

That of course is in addition to the fact that the Arabs at the time of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬were well known to have
amazing memories, the retaining of poetic works, and lineage being a common practice. Why then are a people who
were well known for their mastery in memorizing, being questioned for that very skill when narrating ahadith.

The issue of fabrication or forgery of ahadith was also tackled very early on by the Companions(r). After the
assassination of Hazrat ‘Usman(r) it became common practice to question the isnad or the chain of narration of each
hadith, so that ahadith narrated by those who were amongst the ‘ahl-al-bida’a’ could be ruled out and only those
narrated by the ‘ahl-as-sunna’ were taken into account, as the ahl-ul-bida’a were not considered trustworthy and
were known to be spreading falsehood. This regulation was put into effect as early as 35 years after hijra, meaning,
that it was being practiced only 25 years after the demise of the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬

The science of hadith consists of an extremely complex system of authentication, whereby each hadith was studied
and graded based on both its chain of narrators (isnad) and its subject matter (matan). A whole new field, “Asma’ al
rijal” was created. It is the study of the biographies of tens of thousands of people who were involved in hadith
narration, just to verify the strength of isnad. Plurality of isnads was used to grade the strength of a hadith. Also
under consideration was whether the Matan the text was in conformation with Quranic teachings or not. It was only
after a painstaking and intricate procedure of hadith gradation that the hadith works were compiled in the form we
see today.

One must understand that Islam establishes that the Quran is the Word of Allah and it cannot be changed. Hadith is
the word (and actions) of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and as all things which have a mortal origin, it cannot have been without
any alteration altogether. Nowhere in time have Muslim scholars denied or hidden the fact that there was
fabrication of ahadith, in fact they established a whole new science to sift out and counter this fabrication, hence
producing works of great accuracy which are undoubtedly authentic traditions and narrations from the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬.

For purpose of understanding the value of the ahadith in this collection, we need to understand some of the terms
used to denote the strength of a hadith. First thing of importance is that the most authentic ahadith are found in the
“Sihah Sitta” or ‘The Most Rigorously Authenticated Six’. These are:

Al-Jami` al-Sahih of Abu `Abd Allah Muhammad ibn Isma`il al-Bukhari (d. 256/870)

Al-Jami` al-Sahih of Abu al-Husayn Muslim ibn al-Hajjaj (d. 261/875),

Kitab al-Sunan of Sulayman ibn al-Ash`ath Abu Da'ud al-Sijistani (d. 275/889),

Al-Jami` al-Sahih of Abu `Isa Muhammad al-Tirmidhi (d. 279/892-3),

Kitab al-Sunan of Ahmad ibn Shu`ayb al-Nasa'i (d. 303/915),

Kitab al-Sunan of Abu `Abd Allah Muhammad ibn Yazid al-Raba`i al-Qazwini ibn Majah (d. 273/887).

The terms used to describe the gradation of a hadith include:

Sahih Hadith

A sahih hadith is a hadith that has a completely connected chain of transmission (isnad), each narrator being
upright in character, thorough, and reliable in his narration and transmission.

There is a consensus among the scholars that a sahih hadith is acceptable evidence for all types of rulings, such
as legal rulings, and tenants of faith etc.
 Hasan Hadith

A hasan hadith is a hadith which has a completely connected chain of transmission, by narrators who are upright
and thorough, but whose precision is less than the precision found in a sahih hadith, and which is free from any
irregularities or serious flaws.

Like the sahih hadith, the scholars accept that the hasan hadith can also be used for evidence of all types.

Da’if Hadith

A da’if hadith is a hadith which is classified as weak either due to discontinuity in the chain of narrators or due to
some criticism of a narrator.

There is a difference of opinion between the scholars on the ruling on acting upon weak ahadith. The reliable opinion
is that weak ahadith can be acted upon for fada’il-al-a’mal (righteous deeds), for religious exhortation, and stories,
and other things that are not connected to legal rulings and tenants of faith.

It should also be noted that the meaning conveyed in a weak hadith may still be considered sound and supported by
other related texts.

It is also important to note that the ahadith narrated by both Bukhari and Muslim are considered at the highest levels
of authenticity and are termed as ‘Muttafiqun ‘Alaihi’ (Agreed Upon).

In this collection an attempt has been made to compile ahadith which only fall into the Sahih and Hasan categories,
with preference for ahadith which are either muttafiqun alaihi or are present in multiple collections of the sihah
sitta. An attempt has also been made to include some ahadith from Musnad Ahmad bin Hanbal. There are a few
ahadith which do not fit into these categories, but these have only used in the reference notes, and are not part of
the main collection.

The ahadith have been cross referenced through both online sites (most notably Sunnah.com) and hard copies of
each collection. The reference notes include book number and name, as well as chapter number and name, followed
by the hadith number given in the hard copies. It is hoped that this will make it easier for readers to identify with the
ahadith through the short notes added after each hadith. These notes are merely some of my observations and
thoughts and by no means are they scholarly opinions.

May Allah accept the efforts of all those who have been part of this venture, either directly or indirectly.

‫جزامك هللا خري‬

‫ا معل‬
 Hadith One

Women’s Oath for Imaan

ٍ ‫َب‬ٙ‫ لَب َي اثُْٓ ِش‬، ُ‫ُٔظ‬ُٛ٠ َِٟٕ‫ َؽ َّذص‬،‫ت‬
‫ة‬ ٍ ْ٘ َٚ ُْٓ‫ اث‬َِٟٕ‫ ُُ ثُْٓ ْاٌ ُّ ْٕ ِز ِس َؽ َّذص‬١ِ٘ ‫لَب َي ئِث َْشا‬َٚ .،‫ة‬ٍ ‫َب‬ٙ‫ َع ِٓ ا ْث ِٓ ِش‬،ًٍ ١ْ َ‫ ع َْٓ ُعم‬،‫ْش‬ ُ ١ٌٍَّ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ا‬،‫ ٍْش‬١‫َؽ َّذصََٕب اثُْٓ ثُ َى‬
ِّٟ ِ‫ إٌَّج‬ٌَِٝ‫َبعشْ َْ ئ‬ َ ٘ ‫َبد ئِ َرا‬ ُ ِِٕ ‫ذ ْاٌ ُّ ْإ‬ِ َٔ‫ذ َوب‬ ْ ٌَ‫عٍُ لَب‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ْ َط إٌَّج‬ٚ‫ب ـ َص‬ٕٙ‫ هللا ع‬ٝ‫ أَ َّْ عَبئِ َشخَ ـ سض‬،‫ ِْش‬١َ‫اٌضث‬ ُّ ُْٓ‫حُ ث‬َٚ ْ‫ عُش‬ِٟٔ‫أَ ْخجَ َش‬
‫ذ‬ ْ ٌَ‫َ ِخ لَب‬٠٢‫ ِخ ِش ا‬ٌَِٝ‫٘ َُّٓ} ئ‬ُٕٛ‫د َب ِْزَ ِؾ‬ ٍ ‫بع َشا‬
ِ َُِٙ ‫َبد‬ ُ ِِٕ ‫ا ئِ َرا َعب َا ُو ُُ ْاٌ ُّ ْإ‬َُِٕٛ َٓ٠‫َب اٌَّ ِز‬ُّٙ٠َ‫َب أ‬٠{ ٌَٝ‫هللاِ رَ َعب‬َّ ‫ْ ِي‬َٛ‫ َُّٓ ثِم‬ُٕٙ‫َ ّْز َِؾ‬٠ ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ص‬
َُّٓ ٌَٙ ‫بي‬ َ َ‫ َّٓ ل‬ِٙ ٌِ َْٛ‫عٍُ ئِ َرا أَ ْل َشسْ َْ ثِ َزٌِهَ ِِ ْٓ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫ َ َىبَْ َسع‬،‫د َمَ ْذ أَلَ َّش ثِ ْبٌ ِّؾْ َٕ ِخ‬
ِ ‫َ َزا اٌ َّششْ ِط َِِٓ ْاٌ ُّ ْإ َِِٕب‬ِٙ‫عَبئِ َشخُ َ َّ ْٓ أَلَ َّش ث‬
ََُّٗٔ‫ َش أ‬١ْ ‫ َغ‬،‫ط‬ ُّ َ‫َ َذ ا ِْ َشأَ ٍح ل‬٠ ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ ِي‬ُٛ‫َ ُذ َسع‬٠ ‫َّذ‬ َّ َٚ َ‫ ال‬،" َّٓ ‫َ ْعزُ ُى‬٠‫عٍُ " ا ْٔطٍَِ ْمَٓ َمَ ْذ ثَب‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬
ْ ‫هللاِ َِب َِغ‬ َّ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫َسع‬
." َّٓ ‫َ ْعزُ ُى‬٠‫ َّٓ " لَ ْذ ثَب‬ِٙ ١ْ ٍَ‫ َُّٓ ئِ َرا أَ َخ َز َع‬ٌَٙ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫َم‬٠ ُ‫هللا‬
َّ ُٖ‫ إٌِّ َغب ِا ئِالَّ ثِ َّب أَ َِ َش‬ٍَٝ‫عٍُ َع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫هللاِ َِب أَ َخ َز َسع‬ َّ َٚ ،َِ َ‫ َُّٓ ثِ ْبٌ َىال‬ٙ‫َ َع‬٠‫ثَب‬
‫َوالَ ًِب‬

Narrated `Aisha

(The wife of the Prophet) When believing women came to the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬as emigrants, he used to test them in
accordance with the order of Allah. 'O you who believe! When believing women come to you as emigrants, examine
them . . .' (60.10) So if anyone of those believing women accepted the above mentioned conditions, she accepted the
conditions of faith. When they agreed on those conditions and confessed that with their tongues, Allah's Messenger
‫ﷺ‬would say to them, "Go, I have accepted your oath of allegiance (for Islam). By Allah, and the hand of Allah's
Messenger ‫ﷺ‬never touched the hand of any woman, but he only used to take their pledge of allegiance orally. By
Allah, Allah's Messenger ‫ﷺ‬did not take the pledge of allegiance of the women except in accordance with what
Allah had ordered him. When he accepted their pledge of allegiance he would say to them, "I have accepted your
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oath of allegiance."

Notes

This hadith points towards the basic components of the pledge women were required to make when entering the
fold of Islam. The women were asked to make six guarantees as part of their oath of allegiance to Islam, i.e. 1: They
would not associate partners with Allah. 2: They would not steal. 3: They would not commit unlawful sexual
intercourse. 4: They would not kill their children. 5: They would not slander. 6: They would not disobey the Prophet
‫ ﷺ‬in what is right.

These basic six points stand valid as parameters of measuring faith for women today as well. If one looks closely, one
would understand that each point refers to the extreme in each type of sin. Shirk with Allah is the severest fault in
one’s belief system. Theft is the height of usurping the rights to another’s property. Zina is the height of immorality
of character. Killing of children is the epitome of forswearing Parental duties. Slander is the severest form of
untruthfulness, and finally, disobeying the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬is the ultimate way of rebellion from religion. This oath can
be taken in two ways. Firstly, by mentioning the height of each sin, we are inadvertently warned against the smaller
steps which lead to this end result, therefore helping us to avoid these smaller steps too. Secondly, this mention of
the extreme case scenario, makes great breathing space for women, as it treats their little follies with more mercy,
and keeps alive the hope of forgiveness for the smaller misdeeds.

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Bukhari
‫كتاب الطالق‬, (68) The Book of Divorce Kitab at-Talaq
Chapter: If an idolatress or a Christian woman becomes a Muslim while she is the wife of Dhimmi or a Mushrik at war with the Muslims (20) َ‫ت ْال ُم ْش ِر َك ُة أَ ِو ال َّنصْ رَ انٌِ َُّة َتحْ ت‬
ِ ‫باب إِ َذا أَسْ لَ َم‬
. ‫الذمِّذًِّذ أَ ِو ْالحَ رْ ِبًِّذ‬
‫ِّذ‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5288
Muslim
‫ كتاب اإلمارة‬33 The Book on Government
Chapter: How women gave their oath of allegiance (21) ‫باب َك ٌْفِ ٌَّ ِة َبٌْعَ ِة ال ِّذنسَا ِء‬
Sahih Muslim 1866 a
 Hadith Two

Excelling in Religion.
َ ‫ أَنَّ ال َّن ِبًَّ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم‬،‫ َعنْ َعا ِئ َش َة‬،ً‫ َقا َل أَ ْخ َب َرنًِ أَ ِب‬،‫ َعنْ ِه َش ٍام‬،‫ َح َّد َث َنا ٌَحْ ٌَى‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ ْال ُم َث َّنى‬
‫دَخ َل َعلَ ٌْ َها َوعِ ْندَ َها‬
َّ‫ان أَ َحب‬ َّ ‫هللا الَ ٌَ َم ُّل‬
َ ‫ َو َك‬." ‫هللا ُ َح َّتى َت َملُّوا‬ ِ َّ ‫ َ َو‬،‫ون‬ َ ْ‫ َت ْذ ُك ُر ِمن‬.‫ت ُالَ َن ُة‬
َ ُ‫ َعلَ ٌْ ُك ْم ِب َما ُتطِ ٌق‬،‫ َقا َل " َم ْه‬.‫صالَ ِت َها‬ ْ َ‫ َقال‬." ‫امْ َرأَةٌ َقا َل " َمنْ َه ِذ ِه‬
.‫صا ِح ُب ُه‬َ ‫ٌن إِلَ ٌْ ِه َما َدا َم َعلَ ٌْ ِه‬
ِ ‫ال ِّذد‬
Narrated 'Aisha:

Once the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬came while a woman was sitting with me. He said, "Who is she?" I replied, "She is so and so,"
and told him about her (excessive) praying. He said disapprovingly, "Do (good) deeds which is within your capacity
(without being overtaxed) as Allah does not get tired (of giving rewards) but (surely) you will get tired and the best
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deed (act of Worship) in the sight of Allah is that which is done regularly."

Notes

This hadith is both mercy and guidance, it shows that excelling in religion does not require excess in worship
(something rather difficult for women to manage along with their duties as mothers and wives), rather it can be
attained also if one becomes steadfast in the good deeds one may consider small and insignificant.

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Bukhari
‫( كتاب اإلٌمان‬2) The Book of Faith Kitab al-Imaan
Chapter: Ad-Din (righteous deed - act of worship) loved most by Allah Jalla Jalalahu is that which is done regularly. (And in fact the best religion with Allah is Islam) ‫إلى الدٌن أحب باب‬
‫أدومه وجل عز هللا‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 43
Muslim
‫( كتاب صالة المسا رٌن وقصرها‬6) The Book of Travellers’ Prayer
Chapter: The virtue of a deed that is done persistently, whether it be Qiyam al-Lail or anything else. The command to be moderate in worship, which means adopting what one
can persist in. The command to the one who gets tired or weary when praying to stop until that feeling passes (30) ‫َام اللٌَّ ِْل َو َ ٌ ِْر ِه‬ ْ
ِ ٌِ‫باب َ ِ ٌلَ ِة العَ م َِل الدَّائ ِِم مِنْ ق‬
Sahih Muslim 785 b
 Hadith Three

Patience
‫ْن َمالِكٍ ـ ر ى هللا عنه ـ َقا َل َمرَّ ال َّن ِبًُّ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم ِبا ْم َرأَ ٍة َت ْبكًِ عِ ْندَ َقب ٍْر‬ ِ ‫سب‬ ِ ‫ َعنْ أَ َن‬،‫ت‬ ٌ ‫ َح َّد َث َنا َث ِاب‬،‫شعْ َب ُة‬
ُ ‫ َح َّد َث َنا‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا آ َد ُم‬
‫ت‬ْ ‫ َ أ َ َت‬.‫ َقٌِ َل لَ َها إِ َّن ُه ال َّن ِبًُّ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم‬.‫ َولَ ْم َتعْ ِر ْ ُه‬،ًِ‫صبْ ِبمُصِ ٌ َبت‬ َ ‫ك لَ ْم ُت‬َ ‫ َ ِ َّن‬،ً‫ْك َع ِّذن‬ َ ٌَ‫ت إِل‬ ْ َ‫ َقال‬." ‫هللا َواصْ ِب ِري‬ َ َّ ًِ‫َ َقا َل " ا َّتق‬
" ‫ص ْب ُر عِ ْندَ الص َّْد َم ِة األُولَى‬ َ ْ ‫ت لَ ْم أَعْ ِر‬
َّ ‫ َ َقا َل " إِ َّن َما ال‬.‫ك‬ َ ‫باب ال َّن ِبًِّذ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َ لَ ْم َت ِج ْد عِ ْن َدهُ َب َّو ِاب‬
ْ َ‫ٌن َ َقال‬

Narrated by Anas bin Malik

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬passed by a woman who was weeping beside a grave. He told her to fear Allah and be patient. She
said to him, "Go away, for you have not been afflicted with a calamity like mine." and she did not recognize him.
Then she was informed that he was the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬. So she went to the house of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and there she
did not find any guard. Then she said to him, "I did not recognize you." He said, "Verily, patience is at the first stroke
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of a calamity."

Notes

Patience is a virtue most women are tested by, and it’s something they tend to resort to so much that in critical times
they lose it easily, much as an overstretched rubber band snaps at the last twist. This hadith gently reminds women
to hold on to their patience, even when it has been worn thin. Other ahadith on the subject promise great rewards
i
for being patient at these critical times.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الجنائز‬23 The Book of Funerals (Al-Janaa'iz)
ِ ‫باب ِزٌَارَ ِة ْالقُب‬
Chapter: Visiting the graves (31) ‫ُور‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 1283
Muslim
‫ كتاب الجنائز‬11 The Book of Prayer - Funerals
Chapter: Patience in bearing calamity when it first strikes (8) ‫صب ِْر عَ لَى ْالمُصِ ٌ َب ِة عِ ْندَ الصَّدْ َم ِة األُولَى‬
َّ ‫باب ًِ ال‬
Sahih Muslim 926 b
 Hadith Four

Satr Of Women
َ ٍ ْ‫َح َّد َث َنا ٌَعْ قُوبُ بْنُ َكع‬
،‫ َعنْ َق َتادَ َة‬،‫ٌر‬ ٍ ِ‫ْن بَش‬ ِ ‫ َعنْ َسعٌِ ِد ب‬،‫ َقاالَ َح َّد َث َنا ْال َولٌِ ُد‬، ًُِّ‫ َوم َُؤ َّم ُل بْنُ ْال َف ْ ِل ْال َحرَّ ان‬، ًُِّ‫ب األ ْن َطاك‬
ِ ‫ت َعلَى َرس‬
‫ُول‬ ْ َ‫ دَ َخل‬،‫ت أَ ِبً َب ْك ٍر‬ َ ‫ ر ى هللا عنها أَنَّ أَسْ َما َء ِب ْن‬،‫ َعنْ َعا ِئ َش َة‬- ٍ‫ َقا َل ٌَعْ قُوبُ ابْنُ ُد َرٌْك‬- ،ٍ‫َعنْ َخالِد‬
‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َو َقا َل‬ ِ َّ ‫ض َع ْن َها َرسُو ُل‬ َ ‫اق َأَعْ َر‬ٌ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َو َعلَ ٌْ َها ِث ٌَابٌ ِر َق‬ ِ َّ َّ‫" ٌَا أَسْ َما ُء إِن‬
‫ َقا َل أَبُو دَ اوُ دَ َه َذا‬. ‫ار إِلَى َوجْ ِه ِه َو َك َّف ٌْ ِه‬ َ ‫ َوأَ َش‬. " ‫ٌِض لَ ْم َتصْ لُحْ أَنْ ٌ َُرى ِم ْن َها إِالَّ َه َذا َو َه َذا‬
َ ‫ت ْال َمح‬ ِ ‫ْال َمرْ أَ َة إِ َذا َبلَ َغ‬
.. ‫ش َة ر ى هللا عنها‬ َ ‫مُرْ َس ٌل َخالِ ُد بْنُ ُد َرٌْكٍ لَ ْم ٌ ُْد ِركْ َعا ِئ‬
Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:

Asma, daughter of AbuBakr, entered upon the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬wearing thin clothes. The Messenger of Allah
‫ ﷺ‬turned his attention from her. He said: O Asma', when a woman reaches the age of menstruation, it does not
suit her that she displays her parts of body except this and this, and he pointed to his face and hands.

Abu Dawud said: This is a mursal tradition (i.e. the narrator who transmitted it from 'Aishah is missing) Khalid b.
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Duraik did not see 'Aishah.

Notes

The hadith defines clearly the “satr” (the body parts which must be covered) for a Muslim woman. There are two
points of importance here, firstly, that her satr includes all parts of the body except her face and hands, and
secondly, if she has those parts covered, but in a way that her figure is visible due to the dress being too thin, or too
tight then she is still considered uncovered.

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Abu Dawud
‫ كتاب اللباس‬34 Book of Clothing (Kitab Al-Libas)
Chapter: What A Woman May Show Of Her Beauty(33) ‫باب ٌِمَا ُت ْبدِي ْالمَرْ أَةُ مِنْ ِزٌ َنتِهَا‬
Grade : Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 4104
 Hadith Five

Religious Obligations During Menses

ً ِ ‫ِض َت ْق‬ ِ ‫ت َما َبا ُل ْال َحائ‬ ُ ‫ت َسأ َ ْل‬
ُ ‫ت َعا ِئ َش َة َقُ ْل‬ ْ َ‫ َقال‬،َ‫ َعنْ ُم َعا َذة‬،‫ َعنْ َعاصِ ٍم‬،ٌ‫ أَ ْخ َب َر َنا َمعْ َمر‬،‫اق‬ ِ ‫ أَ ْخ َب َر َنا َع ْب ُد الرَّ َّز‬،ٍ‫َو َح َّد َث َنا َع ْب ُد بْنُ ُح َم ٌْد‬
ِ َ ‫ان ٌُصِ ٌ ُب َنا َذل َِك َ ُن ْؤ َم ُر ِب َق‬
‫اء الص َّْو ِم‬ َ ‫ت َك‬ ْ َ‫ َقال‬. ‫ُور ٌَّ ٍة َولَ ِك ِّذنً أَسْ أ َ ُل‬ ُ ْ‫ت لَس‬
ِ ‫ت ِب َحر‬ ِ ‫ُورٌ ٌَّة أَ ْن‬
ُ ‫ت قُ ْل‬ ِ ‫ت أ َحر‬
َ ْ َ‫صالَ َة َ َقال‬ َّ ‫الص َّْو َم َوالَ َت ْق ِ ً ال‬
. ‫صالَ ِة‬ َّ ‫َوالَ ُن ْؤ َم ُر ِب َق َ ا ِء ال‬

Mu'adha said:

I asked 'Aisha: What is the reason that a menstruating woman completes the fasts (that she abandons during her
monthly course), but she does not complete the prayers? She (Hadrat 'Aisha) said: Are you a Haruriya? I said: I am
not a Haruriya, but I simply want to inquire. She said: We passed through this (period of menstruation), and we were
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ordered to complete the fasts, but were not ordered to complete the prayers.

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Muslim
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬3 The Book of Menstruation
Chapter : It is obligatory for menstruating woman to complete the abandoned fasts, but not the abandoned prayers. )15 (‫صالَ ِة‬
َّ ‫ِض ُدونَ ال‬ِ ‫ب َق َا ِء الص َّْو ِم عَ لَى ْالحَ ائ‬
ِ ‫باب وُ جُو‬
Sahih Muslim 335 c
Similar hadith mentioning only prayer is mentioned in Bukhari
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬6 The Book of Menstrual Periods
Chapter: There is no Salat (prayer) to be offered by a menstruating woman in lieu of the missed Salat during her menses. (20) ‫صالَ َة‬َّ ‫باب الَ َت ْق ِ ً ْالحَ ائِضُ ال‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 321
 Hadith Six

Istihadha

ٍ ٌ‫ت أَ ِبً ُح َب‬

‫ْش‬ ُ ‫ت َ اطِ َم ُة ِب ْن‬ ْ َ‫ أَ َّن َها َقال‬،‫ َعنْ َعا ِئ َش َة‬،ِ‫ َعنْ أَ ِبٌه‬،َ‫ْن عُرْ َوة‬
ْ َ‫ت َقال‬ ِ ‫ َعنْ ِه َش ِام ب‬،ٌ‫ َقا َل أَ ْخ َب َر َنا َمالِك‬،‫ُف‬ ِ َّ ‫َح َّد َث َنا َع ْب ُد‬
َ ‫هللا بْنُ ٌُوس‬
‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم " إِ َّن َما َذلِكِ عِ رْ ٌق‬ ِ َّ ‫صالَ َة َ َقا َل َرسُو ُل‬ َّ ‫ أَ َ أ َ َد ُع ال‬،ُ‫هللا إِ ِّذنً الَ أَ ْط ُهر‬
ِ َّ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم ٌَا َرسُو َل‬ ِ َّ ‫ُول‬ِ ‫ل َِرس‬
." ً‫ص ل‬‫ِّذ‬ ْ ْ َ
َ ‫ب قد ُر َها ا سِ لًِ َعنكِ ال َّد َم َو‬ ْ َ َ َ َ
َ ‫ ِذا ذ َه‬،َ‫صالة‬ َ ْ َ ُ
َّ ‫ت ال َح ٌْ َ ة ات ُركًِ ال‬ ْ َ ْ َ َ َ ْ
ِ ‫ ِذا أق َبل‬،ِ‫ْس ِبال َح ٌْ َ ة‬ َ ٌَ‫َول‬
Narrated A’isha:

Fatima bint Abi Hubaish said to Allah's Apostle ‫ﷺ‬, "O Allah's Apostle ‫ !ﷺ‬I do not become clean (from bleeding).

Shall I give up my prayers?" Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬replied: "No, because it is from a blood vessel and not the menses.
So when the real menses begins give up your prayers and when it (the period) has finished wash the blood off your
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body (take a bath) and offer your prayers.”

Notes

This issue of istihadha is an important one for women to understand, and despite the fact that it is a common issue
most women are ignorant of its details and the related injunctions, while the aim here is not to enter into the fine
points of Fiqh related to the issue, it definitely serves a purpose for women to be aware of and learn more about the
subject.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬6 The Book of Menstrual Periods
Chapter: Al-Isthihada [bleeding (from the womb) in between a woman's periods] (8) ‫باب االِسْ تِحَ ا َ ِة‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 306
Similar hadith in Muslim
‫كتاب الحٌض‬3 The Book of Menstruation
Chapter: The ghusl and the prayer of a woman who is suffering prolonged vaginal bleeding (istihadah)(14) ‫باب ْالمُسْ َتحَ ا َ ِة َو ُ سْ لِهَا َوصَ الَتِهَا‬
Sahih Muslim 333 a
Similar hadith in Nasai’ with a different chain.
‫ كتاب الحٌض واالستحا ة‬3 The Book of Menstruation and Istihada
Chapter: Mention Of Al-Istihadah And The Coming And Going Of The Regular Period (2) ‫َار ِه‬ ِ ‫باب ِذ ْك ِر االِسْ تِحَ ا َ ِة َوإِ ْقب‬
ِ ‫َال الد َِّم َوإِدْ ب‬
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Sunan an-Nasa'i 349
 Hadith Seven

Women’s Likeness To Men In Private Matters

‫ت أ ُ ُّم‬ ْ ‫ت َجا َء‬ْ َ‫ َقال‬،‫ َعنْ أ ُ ِّذم َسلَ َم َة‬،‫ب ا ْب َن ِة أ ُ ِّذم َسلَ َم َة‬
َ ‫ َعنْ َز ٌْ َن‬،ِ‫ َعنْ أَ ِبٌه‬،‫ َقا َل َح َّد َث َنا ِه َشا ٌم‬،‫او ٌَ َة‬
ِ ‫ َقا َل أَ ْخ َب َر َنا أَبُو ُم َع‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ َسالَ ٍم‬
ْ ‫ َ َه ْل َعلَى ْال َمرْ أَ ِة ِمنْ ُ سْ ٍل إِ َذا احْ َتلَ َم‬،‫هللا الَ ٌَسْ َتحْ ًٌِ م َِن ْال َح ِّذق‬
‫ت‬ َ َّ َّ‫هللا إِن‬
ِ َّ ‫ت ٌَا َرسُو َل‬ ْ َ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َ َقال‬ ِ َّ ‫ُول‬ِ ‫ُسلٌَ ٍْم إِلَى َرس‬
‫هللا َو َتحْ َتلِ ُم ْال َمرْ أَةُ َقا َل " َن َع ْم‬
ِ َّ ‫ت ٌَا َرسُو َل‬ ْ َ‫ت أ ُ ُّم َسلَ َم َة ـ َتعْ نًِ َوجْ َه َها ـ َو َقال‬ َّ َ ." ‫ت ْال َما َء‬
ْ ‫غَط‬ ِ َ‫َقا َل ال َّن ِبًُّ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم " إِ َذا َرأ‬
" ‫ت ٌَمٌِ ُنكِ َ ِب َم ٌُ ْش ِب ُه َها َولَ ُد َها‬
ْ ‫َت ِر َب‬

Narrated by Um Salama

Um-Sulaim came to Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬and said, "Verily, Allah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. Is it necessary for

a woman to take a bath after she has a wet dream (nocturnal sexual discharge?) The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬replied, "Yes, if

she notices a discharge." Um Salama, then covered her face and asked, "O Allah's Apostle ‫ ! ﷺ‬Does a woman get a
discharge?" He replied, "Yes, let your right hand be in dust (An Arabic expression you say to a person when you
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contradict his statement meaning "you will not achieve goodness"), and that is why the son resembles his mother.”

Notes

This hadith though on the topic of ghusl required after a wet dream, relays a very important message to all alike. If
you look at the last part of this hadith you will see that the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬himself endorses this message, that is, the
likeness of women to men in their private needs and desires. What is even more interesting is that there are some
other versions of this hadith which (though considered weak) include the statement “an-nisa shaqai’q ur-rijaal”
ii
women are the partners of men . Thus implying that though roles and natures may differ, women as physical and
emotional beings have the same rights and requirements as men at many levels.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب العلم‬3 The Book of Knowledge
Chapter: (What is said as regards): To be shy (Al-Haya) while learning (religious) knowledge(50) ‫باب ْالحَ ٌَا ِء ًِ ْالع ِْل ِم‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 130
Muslim
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬3 The Book of Menstruation
Chapter: Women are obliged to perform ghusl if they emit fluid(7) ‫ُوج ْال َمنًِِّذ ِم ْنهَا‬ َ ْ ْ ِ ‫باب وُ جُو‬
ِ ‫ب ال ُغسْ ِل عَ لَى المَرْ أ ِة بِ ُخر‬
Sahih Muslim 313 a
 Hadith Eight

The Method of Ghusl

ِ ‫ َعنْ إِب َْراهٌِ َم ب‬،‫شعْ َب ُة‬

‫ْن‬ ُ ‫ َح َّد َث َنا‬،‫ار َقا َل ابْنُ ْال ُم َث َّنى َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ َجعْ َف ٍر‬ ٍ ‫ َب َّش‬، ُ‫ َوابْن‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ ْال ُم َث َّنى‬
‫ت ال َّن ِبًَّ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َعنْ ُ سْ ِل‬ ِ َ‫ َسأَل‬،‫ أَنَّ أَسْ َما َء‬،‫ث َعنْ َعا ِئ َش َة‬ ُ ‫ ُت َح ِّذد‬،‫ص ِف ٌَّ َة‬
َ ‫ت‬ ُ ْ‫ َقا َل َسمِع‬،‫ْال ُم َها ِج ِر‬
ً ‫ُور ُث َّم َتصُبُّ َعلَى َر ْأسِ َها َ َت ْدلُ ُك ُه دَ ْل ًكا َشد‬
‫ٌِدا‬ َ ‫الطه‬ ُّ ُ‫ٌِض َ َقا َل " َتأْ ُخ ُذ إِحْ دَ ا ُكنَّ َما َء َها َوسِ ْد َر َت َها َ َت َطهَّرُ َ ُتحْ سِ ن‬ ِ ‫ْال َمح‬
ُ‫ْف َت َطهَّر‬ َ ٌ‫ت أَسْ َما ُء َو َك‬ ْ َ‫ َ َقال‬. " ‫ص ًة ُم َم َّس َك ًة َ َت َطهَّرُ ِب َها‬ َ ْ‫ ُث َّم َتأْ ُخ ُذ ِر‬. ‫ون َر ْأسِ َها ُث َّم َتصُبُّ َعلَ ٌْ َها ْال َما َء‬ ُ ‫َح َّتى َت ْبلُ َغ‬
َ ‫ش ُئ‬
‫ َو َسأَلَ ْت ُه َعنْ ُ سْ ِل ْال َج َنا َب ِة‬. ‫ٌِن أَ َث َر ال َّد ِم‬ َ ‫ت َعا ِئ َش ُة َكأ َ َّن َها ُت ْخفًِ َذل َِك َت َت َّبع‬ ْ َ‫ َ َقال‬. " ‫ٌن ِب َها‬ ِ َّ ‫ان‬
َ ‫هللا َت َطه َِّر‬ َ ‫ِب َها َ َقا َل " ُسب َْح‬
َ ‫ش ُئ‬
‫ون‬ ُ ‫ ُث َّم َتصُبُّ َعلَى َر ْأسِ َها َ َت ْدلُ ُك ُه َح َّتى َت ْبلُ َغ‬- ‫ُور‬ َ ‫الطه‬ ُّ ‫ أَ ْو ُت ْبل ُِغ‬- ‫ُور‬ َ ‫الطه‬ ُّ ُ‫َ َقا َل " َتأْ ُخ ُذ َما ًء َ َت َطهَّرُ َ ُتحْ سِ ن‬
ًِ ‫ار لَ ْم ٌَ ُكنْ ٌَمْ َن ُعهُنَّ ْال َح ٌَا ُء أَنْ ٌَ َت َف َّقه َْن‬ ِ ‫ص‬ َ ‫ت َعا ِئ َش ُة نِعْ َم ال ِّذن َسا ُء ن َِسا ُء األَ ْن‬ ْ َ‫ َ َقال‬. " ‫َر ْأسِ َها ُث َّم ُتفٌِضُ َعلَ ٌْ َها ْال َما َء‬
. ‫ٌن‬ ِ ‫ال ِّذد‬
'Aisha reported

Asma (daughter of Shakal) asked the Apostle of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬about washing after menstruation. He said: Everyone
amongst you should use water (mixed with the leaves of) the lote-tree and cleanse herself well, and then pour water
on her head and rub it vigorously till it reaches the roots of the hair. Then she should pour water on it. Afterwards
she should take a piece of cotton smeared with musk and cleanse herself with it. Asma' said: How should she cleanse
herself with the help of that? Upon this he (the Apostle of Allah ‫ ) ﷺ‬observed: Praise be to Allah, she should
cleanse herself. 'Aisha said in a subdued tone that she should apply it to the trace of blood. She (Asma) then further
asked about bathing after sexual intercourse. He (the Holy Prophet ‫ ) ﷺ‬said: She should take water and cleanse
herself well or complete the ablution and then (pour water) on her head and rub it till it reaches the roots of the hair
(of her) head and then pour water on her. 'Aisha said: How good are the women of Ansar (helpers) that their shyness
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does not prevent them from learning religion.

Notes

This hadith is a very straightforward one describing the method for ghusl, and towards the end there’s an important
opinion of Hazrat A’isha (r) which teaches us an important lesson, there is no shame, and no excuse which should
prevent us from learning our religious obligations.

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Muslim
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬3 The Book of Menstruation
Chapter: It is recommended for the woman who is performing ghusl following menses to apply a piece of cloth scented with musk to the site of the bleeding (13) ‫ب‬
ِ ‫باب اسْ تِحْ بَا‬
‫ْض ِرْ صَ ًة مِنْ مِسْ كٍ ًِ م َْو ِ ِع الد َِّم‬
ِ ٌ َ‫َال ْالم ُْغ َتسِ لَ ِة مِنَ ْالح‬
ِ ‫اسْ تِعْ م‬
Sahih Muslim 332 c
(similar ahadith in the six major books except Tirmizi)
 Hadith Nine

Getting Clean after Menses

ًَّ‫ت امْ َرأَةٌ ال َّن ِب‬ ِ ‫ت َجا َء‬ ْ َ‫ َقال‬،‫ َعنْ أَسْ َما َء‬،‫ َقا َل َح َّد َث ْتنًِ َاطِ َم ُة‬،‫ َعنْ ِه َش ٍام‬،‫ َقا َل َح َّد َث َنا ٌَحْ ٌَى‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ ْال ُم َث َّنى‬
ُ ُ‫ ُث َّم َت ْقر‬،ُ‫ْف َتصْ َنعُ َقا َل " َتحُ ُّته‬
،‫ص ُه ِب ْال َما ِء‬ َ ٌ‫ب َك‬ َّ ًِ ُ‫ْت إِحْ دَ ا َنا َتحٌِض‬
ِ ‫الث ْو‬ َ ٌَ‫ت أَ َرأ‬ ْ َ‫صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َ َقال‬
" ‫صلِّذً ٌِ ِه‬ َ ‫َو َت ْن َ حُ ُه َو ُت‬
Narrated by Asma'

A woman came to the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and said, "If anyone of us gets menses in her clothes then what should she do?"

He ‫ ﷺ‬replied, "She should (take hold of the soiled place), rub it and put it in the water and rub it in order to
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remove the traces of blood and then pour water over it. Then she can pray in it."

Notes

Though in many cultures women are considered to be highly unclean during their menses, and everything associated
with their beings, their touch, their food, their clothing, everything is considered impure, Islam has shown that such
is not the case, in fact there are numerous ahadith from the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬which narrate how he ‫ ﷺ‬would place

his head in the lap of a menstruating wife, or how he ‫ ﷺ‬would share the same utensil with her, thus showing by
example that the menstrual state does not make all of the female being impure. In similar nature this hadith explains
that cleaning things used during menses does not require anything but cleaning the soiled parts if any of said thing.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الو وء‬4 The Book of Ablutions (Wudu')
Chapter: The washing out of blood (63) ‫باب َ سْ ِل الد َِّم‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 227
Muslim
‫ كتاب الطهارة‬2 The Book of Purification (Kitab Al-Taharah)
Chapter: The impurity of blood and how to wash it (33) ‫باب َنجَ اسَ ِة الد َِّم َو َك ٌْفِ ٌَّ ِة َ سْ لِ ِه‬
Sahih Muslim 291a
 Hadith Ten

Haya and Satr

ْ‫ َعن‬،‫ َقا َل أَ ْخ َب َرنًِ َز ٌْ ُد بْنُ أَسْ لَ َم‬،‫ان‬َ ‫ْن ع ُْث َم‬

ِ ‫ َع ِن ال َّحَّ اكِ ب‬،ِ‫ َح َّد َث َنا َز ٌْ ُد بْنُ ْالحُ َباب‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا أَبُو َب ْك ِر بْنُ أَ ِبً َش ٌْ َب َة‬
‫ظرُ الرَّ جُ ُل إِلَى‬ ُ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َقا َل " الَ ٌَ ْن‬ ِ َّ ‫ أَنَّ َرسُو َل‬،ِ‫ َعنْ أَ ِبٌه‬، ‫ْن أَ ِبً َسعٌِ ٍد ْال ُخ ْد ِريِّذ‬ ِ ‫َع ْب ِد الرَّ حْ َم ِن ب‬
‫ب َوا ِح ٍد َوالَ ُت ْف ِ ً ْال َمرْ أَةُ إِلَى‬ ٍ ‫َع ْو َر ِة الرَّ جُ ِل َوالَ ْال َمرْ أَةُ إِلَى َع ْو َر ِة ْال َمرْ أَ ِة َوالَ ٌُ ْف ِ ً الرَّ جُ ُل إِلَى الرَّ جُ ِل ًِ َث ْو‬
. " ‫ب ْال َوا ِح ِد‬ َّ ًِ ‫ْال َمرْ أَ ِة‬
ِ ‫الث ْو‬
'Abd al-Rahman, the son of Abu Sa'id al-Khudri, reported from his father

The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said: A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not
see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a
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woman should not lie with another woman under one covering.

Notes

This hadith clearly defines the Islamic principle of modesty; there are clearly defined boundaries for interaction at
every level. There is a very distinct demarcation of acceptable and non acceptable behavior, with clearly explained
boundaries for satr, or the private parts of a person which should be covered and not exposed before other
individuals. The hadith uses the principal of thwarting a bigger wrong by prohibiting a smaller wrong. When the
exposing of one’s private parts is forbidden in front of the same gender how can it be allowed in front of members of
the other sex?

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Muslim
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬3 'The Book of Menstruation (Kitab Al-Haid)'
Chapter: The prohibition of looking at `awrah (17) ‫ت‬ ِ ‫باب َتحْ ِر ٌِم ال َّن َظ ِر إِلَى ْالعَ ْورَ ا‬
Sahih Muslim 338 a
Tirmidhi
‫ كتاب األدب عن رسول هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم‬43 Chapters on Manners
Chapter: What has been related about it being disliked for a man’s skin to touch a man’s skin and for a woman’s skin to touch a woman’s skin (38)
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2792
Abu Dawud
‫ كتاب الحمَّام‬33 The Book of Hot Baths (Kitab Al-Hammam)
Chapter: Regarding Nudity (3) ‫باب مَا جَ ا َء ًِ ال َّتعَرِّذ ي‬
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 4018
 Hadith Eleven

Marital Consent Is A Must

‫ َح َّد َث ُه ْم أَنَّ ال َّن ِبًَّ صلى هللا علٌه‬،‫ أَنَّ أَ َبا ه َُرٌ َْر َة‬،‫ َعنْ أَ ِبً َس َل َم َة‬،‫ َعنْ ٌَحْ ٌَى‬،‫ َح َّد َث َنا ِه َشا ٌم‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُع ُاذ بْنُ َ َ الَ َة‬
ْ‫ْف إِ ْذ ُن َها َقا َل " أَن‬ ِ َّ ‫ َقالُوا ٌَا َرسُو َل‬." ‫وسلم َقا َل " الَ ُت ْن َك ُح األَ ِّذٌ ُم َح َّتى ُتسْ َتأْ َم َر َوالَ ُت ْن َك ُح ْال ِب ْكرُ َح َّتى ُتسْ َتأْ َذ َن‬
َ ٌ‫هللا َو َك‬
"‫ت‬ َ ‫َتسْ ُك‬
Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not

be given in marriage except after her permission." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle ‫ !ﷺ‬How can we know her

permission?" He ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Her silence (indicates her permission).”

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Notes

The importance of this hadith cannot be stressed enough. Marriage of two people is not just the joining of these two
people, but the coming together of two families. More often than not, parents may consider it their right to make
the decision in this regard, however, Islam clearly forbids that. Infact in other ahadith men are asked to take into
iii
account the opinions of the mother of the bride too , when deciding such issues, that being so because Marriage as
stated earlier is not a one man affair! Infact according to another famous hadith, such a marriage was declared
iv
annulled upon the complaint of the bride, khansa’ bint khidam

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 The Book of Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Chapter: The father or the guardian cannot give a virgin or matron in marriage without her consent (42) َّ‫الثٌِّذبَ إِال‬ َّ ‫باب الَ ٌُ ْن ِك ُح األَبُ َو َ ٌْ ُرهُ ْال ِب ْكرَ َو‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5136
Muslim
‫ كتاب النكاح‬16 The Book of Marriage
Chapter: Seeking permission of a previously-married woman in words, and of a virgin by silence (9) ‫ت‬ ِ ‫اح بِال ُّن ْط ِق َو ْالبِ ْك ِر بِال ُّس ُكو‬
ِ ‫ب ًِ ال ِّذن َك‬
َّ ‫ان‬
ِ ٌ‫الث ِّذ‬ ِ ‫باب اسْ تِ ْئ َذ‬
Sahih Muslim 1419 a
 Hadith Twelve

Tidings for Women

ِ ‫ َجا َء‬،ٍ‫ان َعنْ أَ ِبً َسعٌِد‬

‫ت‬ َ ‫ َذ ْك َو‬،‫صال ٍِح‬ َ ً‫ َعنْ أَ ِب‬، ‫ْن األَصْ َب َهانًِِّذ‬ ِ ‫ َعنْ َع ْب ِد الرَّ حْ َم ِن ب‬،‫ َح َّد َث َنا أَبُو َع َوا َن َة‬،‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُس َّد ٌد‬
‫ ٌَ ْومًا‬،‫ َاجْ َع ْل لَ َنا مِنْ َن ْفسِ َك‬،‫ِك‬ َ ‫ب الرِّذ َجا ُل ِب َحدٌِث‬ ِ َّ ‫ت ٌَا َرسُو َل‬
َ ‫هللا َذ َه‬ ْ َ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َ َقال‬ ِ َّ ‫ُول‬ِ ‫امْ َرأَةٌ إِلَى َرس‬
‫ َاجْ َت َمعْ َن َأ َ َتاهُنَّ َرسُو ُل‬." ‫ان َك َذا َو َك َذا‬ ِ ‫ َ َقا َل " اجْ َتمِعْ َن ًِ ٌَ ْو ِم َك َذا َو َك َذا ًِ َم َك‬.ُ‫هللا‬ َ ‫َنأْت‬
َّ ‫ٌِك ٌِ ِه ُت َعلِّذ ُم َنا ِممَّا َعلَّ َم َك‬
َ ‫ إِالَّ َك‬،‫هللاُ ُث َّم َقا َل " َما ِم ْن ُكنَّ امْ َرأَةٌ ُت َق ِّذد ُم َبٌ َْن ٌَدَ ٌْ َها مِنْ َولَ ِد َها َثالَ َث ًة‬
‫ان‬ َّ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َ َعلَّ َمهُنَّ ِممَّا َعلَّ َم ُه‬ ِ َّ
ِ ٌ‫ْن َو ْاث َن‬
‫ْن‬ ِ ٌ‫ْن َو ْاث َن‬
ِ ٌ‫ْن ُث َّم َقا َل " َو ْاث َن‬
ِ ٌ‫ْن َقا َل َأ َ َعادَ ْت َها َمرَّ َت‬ ِ ٌ‫هللا ْاث َن‬
ِ َّ ‫ت امْ َرأَةٌ ِم ْنهُنَّ ٌَا َرسُو َل‬ ِ َ‫ َ َقال‬." ‫ار‬ ِ ‫لَ َها ح َِجابًا م َِن ال َّن‬
."
Narrated Abu Sa`id

A woman came to Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬and said, "O Allah's Messenger ‫ !ﷺ‬Men (only) benefit by your
teachings, so please devote to us from (some of) your time, a day on which we may come to you so that you may
teach us of what Allah has taught you." Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Gather on such-and-such a day at such and-
such a place." They gathered and Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬came to them and taught them of what Allah had taught
him ‫ﷺ‬. He ‫ ﷺ‬then said, "No woman among you who has lost her three children (died) but that they will screen
her from the Fire." A woman among them said, "O Allah's Messenger ‫ !ﷺ‬If she lost two children?" She repeated
her question twice, whereupon the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Even two, even two, even two!"
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Notes

A beautiful hadith which gives great solace to women. First of all, it shows how the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬entertained the
requests of his ‫ ﷺ‬female followers, and gave them time to learn religion from him ‫ ﷺ‬instead of shunning them,
or shuttering them up. Second is the glad tidings they are given as mothers. Many women lose children, whether
through miscarriage or death after birth, and the pain of this loss is not consolable. No mother can overcome the loss
completely, she may learn to live with it, but never fully recovers from the loss. This hadith shows how Islam not only
recognizes the magnanimity of this loss, but also promises great rewards for the bereaved mother in the Hereafter,
for no reward in this world can make up for that immense loss.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب االعتصام بالكتاب والسنة‬96 The Book of Holding Fast to the Qur'an and Sunnah
Chapter: The way the Prophet (saws) taught his followers (9) ‫ٌِل‬ ٍ ‫ لٌَْسَ ِبرَ أْيٍ َوالَ َت ْمث‬،ُ‫هللا‬ ِ َ‫باب َتعْ ل ٌِِم ال َّن ِبًِّذ صلى هللا علٌه وسلم أ ُ َّم َت ُه مِنَ الرِّذ ج‬
َّ ‫ ِممَّا عَ لَّ َم ُه‬،ِ‫ال َوال ِّذنسَاء‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 7310
Muslim
‫ كتاب البر والصلة واآلداب‬45 The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship
Chapter: The Virtue Of One Whose Child Dies And He Seeks Reward(47) ‫ُوت لَ ُه َولَ ٌد ٌََحْ َتسِ ُب ُه‬ ُ ‫باب َ ْ ِل مَنْ ٌَم‬
Sahih Muslim 2633
 Hadith Thirteen

Rights Over Child

ْ‫ َعن‬،ٍ‫ش َع ٌْب‬ ُ ُ‫ َح َّد َثنًِ َعمْ رُ و بْن‬- ًَّ ِ‫ ٌَعْ نًِ األَ ْو َزاع‬- ،‫ َعنْ أَ ِبً َعمْ ٍرو‬،‫ َح َّد َث َنا ْال َولٌِ ُد‬، ًُِّ‫َح َّد َث َنا َمحْ مُو ُد بْنُ َخالِ ٍد ال ُّسلَم‬
‫ان َب ْطنًِ لَ ُه ِو َعا ًء َو َث ْد ًٌِ لَ ُه سِ َقا ًء‬ ِ َّ ‫ت ٌَا َرسُو َل‬
َ ‫هللا إِنَّ ا ْبنًِ َه َذا َك‬ ْ َ‫ َقال‬،‫ أَنَّ امْ َرأَ ًة‬،‫ْن َعمْ ٍرو‬ ِ ‫هللا ب‬ِ َّ ‫ َعنْ َج ِّذد ِه َع ْب ِد‬،ِ‫أَ ِبٌه‬
‫ت أَ َح ُّق‬
ِ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم " أَ ْن‬ ِ َّ ‫َوحِجْ ِري لَ ُه ح َِوا ًء َوإِنَّ أَ َباهُ َطلَّ َقنًِ َوأَ َرادَ أَنْ ٌَ ْن َت ِز َع ُه ِم ِّذنً َ َقا َل لَ َها َرسُو ُل‬
." ًِ‫ِب ِه َما لَ ْم َت ْن ِكح‬
`Abdallah ibn `Amr ibn Al-as transmitted

that a woman asked, "O Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬, this son of mine had my womb as a container, my breasts for

drinking, my lap to contain him. His father has taken him from me." The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "You have more right if
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you do not marry".

Notes

The status of the mother in Islam is well known, and established through various famous ahadith, her rights over the
child however, are not commonly discussed. This is a hadith which clarifies these rights. Normally, the first right over
the child in most Islamic cultures today is considered to be the father’s prerogative, as the child is from the father’s
lineage. Conversely, this hadith clarifies that this right is the mother’s, earned by her for she is the one who bore the
child, who nursed him/her, and nurtured him/her. While there are a number of ahadith, though with weak chains
v
which elucidate the rewards for the mother at every step of motherhood , the beauty of this hadith is that it states
so clearly the mother’s intrinsic right over the child.

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Ahmad
Musnad ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr (6707)
Abu Dawood
‫ كتاب الطالق‬13 Divorce (Kitab Al-Talaq)
Chapter: Who Has More Right To Take The Child (35) ‫باب مَنْ أَحَ ُّق بِ ْال َولَ ِد‬
Grade: Hasan (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 2276
 Hadith Fourteen

Qualities as a Mother and Wife

‫ َعنْ أَ ِبً ه َُرٌ َْر َة ـ ر ى هللا عنه ـ َع ِن ال َّن ِبًِّذ‬،‫ َع ِن األَعْ َر ِج‬،ِ‫الز َناد‬
‫ َح َّد َث َنا أَبُو ِّذ‬، ٌ‫ش َعٌْب‬
ُ ‫ أَ ْخ َب َر َنا‬،‫ان‬ِ ‫َح َّد َث َنا أَبُو ْال ٌَ َم‬
‫ أَحْ َناهُ َعلَى َولَ ٍد ًِ صِ َغ ِر ِه َوأَرْ َعاهُ َعلَى‬،‫ْش‬
ٍ ٌ‫صالِحُ و ن َِسا ِء قُ َر‬ ِ ‫صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َقا َل " َخٌْرُ ن َِسا ٍء َر ِكب َْن‬
َ ‫اإل ِب َل‬
ِ ‫َز ْو ٍج ًِ َذا‬
." ‫ت ٌَ ِد ِه‬
Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "The best women are the riders of the camels and the righteous among the women of
Quraish. They are the kindest women to their children in their childhood and the more careful women of the
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property of their husbands.”

Notes

The virtues of a woman in a nutshell are explained in this Hadith. As a mother she should be kind and gentle, the
perfect nurturer, this is an intrinsic Islamic principle, which is often overlooked. One would think that the quality of
love associated with motherhood automatically implies the existence of kindness, however, that is not true. A
mother may love her child but she does not necessarily show this love through kindness, rather, the desire to
discipline can more often than not lead to a mother becoming a pocket book of rules rather than a loving guide. The
hadith does not discourage discipline, however, it explains that a young child needs to be tended with kindness,
rather than being taught rules, he/she needs to be shown over and over again through gentle examples. It is this
gentle temperament which will then become the dominating trait of the child’s character as an adult.

The hadith also talks of the woman as a protector or guardian of the husband’s property. This is because whatever is
in the husband’s house is at the disposal of the wife, while she is the queen of the mansion, she is also responsible
for managing her husband’s property, by spending wisely of what he brings her, and ensuring it is not wasted or
squandered.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 The Book of Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Chapter: What type of women should one seek in marriage (12) ‫باب إِلَى مَنْ ٌَ ْن ِك ُح‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5082
Muslim
‫ كتاب ائل الصحابة ر ى هللا تعالى عنهم‬44 The Book of the Merits of the Companions
Chapter: The Virtues Of The Women Of The Quraish (49) ‫ْش‬ ٍ ٌ َ‫باب مِنْ َ َائ ِِل نِسَا ِء قُر‬
Sahih Muslim 2527 e
 Hadith Fifteen

Equality Between Children

‫ْن‬
ِ ‫ان ب‬ ِ ‫ْن ال ُّنعْ َم‬ِ ‫ َوم َُح َّم ِد ب‬،‫ْن َع ْب ِد الرَّ حْ َم ِن‬ ِ ‫ َع ِن اب‬،ٌ‫ أَ ْخ َب َر َنا َمالِك‬،‫ُف‬
ِ ‫ َعنْ حُ َم ٌْ ِد ب‬،ٍ‫ْن شِ َهاب‬ َ ‫هللا بْنُ ٌُوس‬ ِ َّ ‫َح َّد َث َنا َع ْب ُد‬
ُ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َ َقا َل إِ ِّذنً َن َح ْل‬
‫ت‬ ِ ‫ أَ َتى ِب ِه إِلَى َرس‬،ُ‫ أَنَّ أَ َباه‬،‫ٌر‬
ِ َّ ‫ُول‬ ٍ ِ‫ْن بَش‬ ِ ‫ان ب‬ِ ‫ أَ َّن ُه َما َح َّد َثاهُ َع ِن ال ُّنعْ َم‬،‫ٌر‬
ٍ ِ‫بَش‬
." ‫ َقا َل " َارْ ِجعْ ُه‬.َ‫ َقا َل ال‬." ‫ت م ِْثلَ ُه‬ َ ‫ َ َقا َل " أَ ُك َّل َولَد‬.‫ا ْبنًِ َه َذا ُ الَمًا‬
َ ‫ِك َن َح ْل‬
Narrated by An-Nu'man bin Bashir

That his father took him to Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬and said, "I have given this son of mine a slave." The Prophet ‫ﷺ‬

asked, "Have you given all your sons the like?" He replied in the negative. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Take back your gift
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then.”

Notes

The basis of Islamic society is on the principle of justice, and this requirement is so persistent that even in the
relationship between a child and his/her parents one is expected to maintain this principle of justice. Further
strength is given to this by the hadith which is narrated with a slightly different chain by Muslim in the same chapter
with the addition of the words by the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬I cannot bear witness to an injustice.. " ٍ‫قَالَ " فَال َ أَشْهَدُ عَلَى جَوْر‬

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الهبة و لها والتحرٌض علٌها‬51 Gifts
Chapter: Giving gifts to one's sons (12) ‫باب ْال ِه َب ِة ل ِْل َولَ ِد‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 2586
Muslim
‫ كتاب الهبات‬24 The Book of Gifts
Chapter: It Is Disliked To Favor Some Of One's Children Over Others In Gift-Giving (3) ‫ض األَ ْوالَ ِد ًِ ْال ِه َب ِة‬ ِ ِ ‫باب َكرَ ا َه ِة َت ْف‬
ِ ْ‫ٌل بَع‬
Sahih Muslim 1623 a
 Hadith Sixteen

Terms for Second Marriage

َ‫ َْشح‬٠‫ ُ٘ َش‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،َ‫ َعٍَ َّخ‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،َُ ١ِ٘ ‫ صَ ائِ َذحَ ـ ع َْٓ َع ْع ِذ ث ِْٓ ئِث َْشا‬ِٟ‫ اث ُْٓ أَث‬َٛ ُ٘ ‫َّب َا ـ‬٠‫ ع َْٓ صَ َو ِش‬،ٝ‫ َع‬ُِٛ ُْٓ ‫هللاِ ث‬
َّ ‫ ُذ‬١ْ َ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُعج‬
َ ‫َب ٌِزَ ْغزَ ْف ِش َغ‬ِٙ‫ق أُ ْخز‬
،‫َب‬َٙ‫صؾْ فَز‬ َ َ‫َ ِؾًُّ ِال ِْ َشأَ ٍح رَغْأ َ ُي طَال‬٠ َ‫بي " ال‬
َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ هللا عٕٗ ـ ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬ٝ‫ـ سض‬
َ ‫َب َِب لُذ‬ٌَٙ ‫َأَِّ َّب‬
." ‫َب‬ٌَٙ ‫ِّس‬

Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "It is not lawful for a woman (at the time of wedding) to ask for the divorce of her sister (i.e.
the other wife of her would-be husband) in order to have everything for herself, for she will take only what has been
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written for her."

Notes

While Islam has levied a number of restrictions upon the man when it comes to his taking a second wife, there are
also regulations upon the co-wives. They must also not usurp the rights of the other wives, and one of the most basic
demands made by co-wives is the demand for divorce for the “other” wife. Such demands are strictly forbidden. The
last phrase of the hadith gives a powerful reminder, not just for the co-wives, but also for all people who are partners
in any form; No one can take what is written by Allah for the other, therefore to try to plot and scheme to seize
another’s rights is just a futile exercise, bringing only the weight of sin upon the scheming parties.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
ِ ‫باب ال ُّشرُوطِ الَّتًِ الَ َت‬
ِ ‫ح ُّل ًِ ال ِّذن َك‬
Chapter: Conditions not lawful in the marriage contract (54) ‫اح‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5152
Abu Dawud
‫ كتاب الطالق‬13 Divorce (Kitab Al-Talaq)
Chapter: Regarding A Woman Who Asks Her Husband To Divorce Another Wife Of His (2) ‫باب ًِ ْالمَرْ أَ ِة َتسْ أ َ ُل َز ْوجَ هَا َطالَقَ امْرَ أَ ٍة لَ ُه‬
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 2176
Muslim similar injunction in a longer hadith
‫ كتاب النكاح‬16 The Book of Marriage
Chapter: The prohibition of proposing marriage when one's brother has already proposed, unless he gives permission or gives up the idea (6) َ‫باب َتحْ ِر ٌِم ْالخ ِْط َب ِة عَ لَى خ ِْط َب ِة أَخٌِ ِه حَ َّتى ٌَأْ َذن‬
َ‫أَ ْو ٌَ ْترُك‬
Sahih Muslim 1413 a
 Hadith Seventeen

False Claims

.ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬،‫ ع َْٓ أَ ْع َّب َا‬،َ‫بط َّخ‬ ِ َ َْٓ ‫ ع‬،َ‫ ع َْٓ ِ٘ َش ٍب‬،‫ ٍذ‬٠ْ َ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب َؽ َّّب ُد ث ُْٓ ص‬،‫ة‬ٍ ْ‫بْ ث ُْٓ َؽش‬ ُ َّ ١ْ ٍَ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُع‬
ٌِٟ َّْ ِ‫هللاِ ئ‬َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
َ ‫َب َسع‬٠ ‫ذ‬ ِ َ ِٟٕ‫ َؽ َّذصَ ْز‬،َ‫ ع َْٓ ِ٘ َش ٍب‬،َٝ١ ْ‫َؾ‬٠ ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب‬،ََّٕٝ‫ ُِ َؾ َّّ ُذ ث ُْٓ ْاٌ ُّض‬َِٟٕ‫َؽ َّذص‬
ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬،ً‫ أَ َّْ ا ِْ َشأَح‬،‫ ع َْٓ أَ ْع َّب َا‬،ُ‫بط َّخ‬
‫عٍُ " ْاٌ ُّزَ َشجِّ ُع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫بي َسع‬ َ َ‫ َم‬ِٟٕ١‫ْط‬ ِ ‫ُع‬٠ ٞ‫ َْش اٌَّ ِز‬١‫ َغ‬ٟ‫ْ ِع‬ٚ َ‫ْذ ِِ ْٓ ص‬ ُ ‫ ُعَٕب ٌػ ئِ ْْ رَ َشجَّع‬َّٝ ٍَ‫ًَْ َع‬َٙ ،ً‫ض َّشح‬ َ
ٍ ‫ ُص‬ْٝ َ‫ْ ث‬َٛ‫ظ ص‬
." ‫س‬ٚ ِ ِ‫ُ ْعطَ َوالَث‬٠ ُْ ٌَ ‫ثِ َّب‬
Narrated by Asma

Some lady said, "O Allah's Apostle ‫ !ﷺ‬My husband has another wife, so it is sinful of me to claim that he has given

me what he has not given me (in order to tease her)?" Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬said, The one who pretends that he has
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been given what he has not been given, is just like the (false) one who wears two garments of falsehood.“

Notes

This is another powerful reminder for the co-wives, stressing again the need for them to maintain cordial relations
with each other. Lying is normally considered a minor sin; it is however, a very serious offense and resorting to
falsehood to ruin relationships or to hurt the sentiments of another intensifies the consequences even more.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Chapter: To claim having more things or better qualities than one really has (107) ‫ار ال َّرَّ ِة‬ ِ ‫ َومَا ٌُ ْنهَى م‬،ْ‫باب ْال ُم َت َشب ِِّذع بِمَا لَ ْم ٌَ َنل‬
ِ ‫ِن ا ْ ت َِخ‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5219
Muslim
‫ كتاب اللباس والزٌنة‬37 The Book of Clothes and Adornment
Chapter: The Prohibition Of Wearing A Garment Of Falsehood Etc., And Pretending To Have That Which Has Not Been Given To One (35) ‫َاس َو َ ٌ ِْر ِه َوال َّت َشب ُِّع‬ ِ ‫ ًِ اللِّذب‬،‫ٌر‬
ِ ‫ْى عَ ِن ال َّت ْز ِو‬
ِ ‫باب ال َّنه‬
. ‫ِبمَا لَ ْم ٌُعْ َط‬
Sahih Muslim 2130 a
Abu Dâwûd
‫ كتاب األدب‬43 General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)
Chapter: One who boasts of having something that he has not been given (91) ‫باب ًِ ْال ُم َت َشب ِِّذع بِمَا لَ ْم ٌُعْ َط‬
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 4997
 Hadith Eighteen

Nafl Fasts for Married Women

‫ هللا‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬،َ‫ َْشح‬٠‫ ُ٘ َش‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،ٍٗ ِّ‫ ع َْٓ َ٘ َّّ ِبَ ث ِْٓ َُِٕج‬،ٌ‫ أَ ْخجَ َشَٔب َِ ْع َّش‬،ِ‫هللا‬ َّ ‫ أَ ْخجَ َشَٔب َع ْج ُذ‬،ًٍ ِ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُِ َؾ َّّ ُذ ث ُْٓ ُِمَبر‬
." ِٗ ِٔ‫َب َشب ِ٘ ٌذ ئِالَّ ثِا ِ ْر‬ٍُٙ‫ثَ ْع‬َٚ ُ‫ َُ ْاٌ َّشْ أَح‬ُٛ‫عٍُ " الَ رَص‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ع‬

Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "A woman should not fast (optional fasts) except with her husband's permission if he is at
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home (staying with her).”

Notes

Islam has given wives many rights, with the husband being solely responsible for all their material, emotional and
physical needs. In return women are expected to give their husbands preference over everything else, even over
voluntary forms of worship. Where men are told to increase their rank by engaging in voluntary forms of worship,
women are told that all they need to do is to be devoted wives.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
ِ ‫باب صَ ْو ِم ْالمَرْ أَ ِة ِب ِ ْذ ِن َز ْو‬
Chapter: A woman should not observe Saum except husband's consent (is 'with her' missing here?) (85) ‫جهَا َت َطوُّ عًا‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5192
Muslim similar injunction in a longer hadith
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬12 The Book of Zakat
ِ ‫باب مَا أَ ْنفَقَ ْالعَ ْب ُد مِنْ م‬
Chapter: What a slave spends of his master's wealth (26) ُ‫َال م َْوالَه‬
Sahih Muslim 1026
 Hadith Nineteen

Husband’s Right Over The Wife

‫ هللا‬ٝ‫ َْشحَ ـ سض‬٠‫ ُ٘ َش‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،ٍَ ‫بص‬ ِ ‫ َؽ‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬، َْ‫ َّب‬١ْ ٍَ‫ ع َْٓ ُع‬،َ‫ ع َْٓ ُش ْعجَخ‬،ٍّٞ‫ َع ِذ‬ِٟ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب اث ُْٓ أَث‬،‫بس‬
ٍ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُِ َؾ َّّ ُذ ث ُْٓ ثَ َّش‬
ُ‫َب ْاٌ َّالَئِ َىخ‬ٙ‫ َا ٌَ َعَٕ ْز‬ٟ‫ذ أَ ْْ ر َِغ‬
ْ َ‫اش ِٗ َأَث‬
ِ ‫ ِ َش‬ٌَِٝ‫بي " ئِ َرا َدعَب اٌ َّش ُع ًُ ا ِْ َشأَرَُٗ ئ‬
َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫عٕٗ ـ ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬
." ‫ رُصْ جِ َؼ‬َّٝ‫َؽز‬
Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "If a man Invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels
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send their curses on her till morning.“

Notes

According to Islam, when a man says the nikah vows, he undertakes the responsibility of providing for, taking care of
and supporting his wife in every manner. When a woman signs the marriage contract, she pledges to give her
husband rights to a physical relationship with herself. In various schools of thought, the woman is not even expected
to cook, clean for and take care of the house for the husband if she doesn’t want to, but she has to allow her
husband to have a physical relationship with her. This is because in an Islamic society, the primary purpose of
marriage is to ensure legal sexual relations and to put an end to immorality by making those sexual relations bound
by a contract. When a husband is not providing for a wife and her children, he is violating the nikah contract, and if
the wife is not giving her husband his physical rights over her, she too is in violation of the contract. However, islam
does not expect the wife to be merely treated as a means of fulfilling the husband’s sexual desires, she is a partner,
vi
and a friend, to be treated with kindness and love.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Chapter: If a woman deserts her husband's bed (86) ‫جهَا‬ ِ ‫ت ْالمَرْ أَةُ ُمهَا‬
ِ ‫جرَ ًة ِرَ اشَ َز ْو‬ ِ ‫باب إِ َذا بَا َت‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5193
Muslim with a slight addition in words
‫ كتاب النكاح‬16 The Book of Marriage
Chapter: It is unlawful for the wife to refuse to come to her husband's bed (20) ‫جهَا‬ ِ ‫اش َز ْو‬
ِ َ‫باب َتحْ ِر ٌِم ا ْمتِ َناعِ هَا مِنْ ِر‬
Sahih Muslim 1436 d
 Hadith Twenty

Spending of Husband’s Property

‫ب ـ‬ٕٙ‫ هللا ع‬ٝ‫ أَ َّْ عَبئِ َشخَ ـ سض‬،ُ‫ح‬َٚ ْ‫ عُش‬ِٟٔ‫ أَ ْخجَ َش‬،‫ة‬ ٍ ‫َب‬ٙ‫ ع َِٓ اث ِْٓ ِش‬، ُ‫ُٔظ‬ُٛ٠ ‫ أَ ْخجَ َشَٔب‬،ِ‫هللا‬
َّ ‫ أَ ْخجَ َشَٔب َع ْج ُذ‬،ًٍ ِ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب اث ُْٓ ُِمَبر‬
ْ ُ‫ َؽ َش ٌط أَ ْْ أ‬ٝ
ٌَُٗ ٞ‫ط ِع َُ َِِٓ اٌَّ ِز‬ ٌ ١ِّ‫َبَْ َس ُع ًٌ ِِغ‬١‫هللاِ ئِ َّْ أَثَب ُع ْف‬
َّ ٍَ‫ًَْ َع‬َٙ ،‫ه‬ َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
َ ‫َب َسع‬٠ ‫ذ‬ْ ٌَ‫ذ ُع ْزجَخَ َمَب‬ ُ ْٕ ِ‫د ِ٘ ْٕ ُذ ث‬ْ ‫ذ َعب َا‬ ْ ٌَ‫لَب‬
." ‫ف‬ُِٚ ‫بي " الَ ئِالَّ ثِ ْبٌ َّ ْعش‬ َ َ‫َبٌََٕب ل‬١‫ِع‬
Narrated `Aisha

Hind bint `Utba came and said, "O Allah's Messenger ‫ !ﷺ‬Abu Sufyan is a miser so is it sinful of me to feed our

children from his property?" Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬said, "No except if you take for your needs what is just and
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reasonable.”

Notes

This hadith clarifies the responsibility of the husband, and is a great reminder even for men, that they have vowed to
provide for the wife and children. The wife even has the right to take from his belongings without his permission if he
is neglecting his duties. However, she is also directed to be just and reasonable, in that she can only take what is
needed to fulfill the necessities, not that which is needed to fulfill the desires which fall outside the basic necessities
of human life.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النفقات‬69 Supporting the Family
Chapter: The expenditure of a woman and her child, whose husband is away from her (4) ‫باب َن َف َق ِة ْالمَرْ أَ ِة إِ َذا َ ابَ عَ ْنهَا َز ْو ُجهَا َو َن َف َق ِة ْال َولَ ِد‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5359
 Hadith Twenty One

Male Relatives By Marriage

َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
ِ‫هللا‬ َ ‫ أَ َّْ َسع‬،‫ ع َْٓ ُع ْمجَخَ ث ِْٓ عَب ِِ ٍش‬،‫ ِْش‬١ َ‫ ْاٌخ‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،‫ت‬
ٍ ١ِ‫ َؽج‬ِٟ‫ َذ ث ِْٓ أَث‬٠‫َ ِض‬٠ َْٓ ‫ ع‬،‫ْش‬ٌ ١ٌَ ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب‬،‫ ٍذ‬١‫جَخُ ث ُْٓ َع ِع‬١ْ َ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب لُز‬
.َٛ ّْ ‫ْذَ ْاٌ َؾ‬٠َ‫هللاِ أَ َ َشأ‬
َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
َ ‫َب َسع‬٠ ‫بس‬ ِ ‫ص‬َ ْٔ َ‫بي َس ُع ًٌ َِِٓ اا‬َ َ‫ َم‬." ‫ إٌِّ َغب ِا‬ٍَٝ‫ي َع‬َٛ ‫اٌ ُّذ ُخ‬َٚ ُْ ‫َّب ُو‬٠ِ‫بي " ئ‬َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ص‬
." ‫د‬ ُ َّْٛ ٌ‫ ْا‬ُٛ ّْ ‫بي " ْاٌ َؾ‬ َ َ‫ل‬
Narrated by 'Uqba bin 'Amir

Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies." A man from the Ansar said, "Allah's Apostle ‫! ﷺ‬
What about Al-Hamu, the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.)?" The Prophet
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replied: The in-laws of the wife are death itself.

Notes

The term Hamu has been translated as the male relatives by marriage. These are also considered to include the
sisters’ husband and his male relatives. While most Muslim cultures may consider purdah or the veil to be something
taken outside the house or when in the company of non-mehram men, the fact that men who are mehram by
marriage, like the brother in law, are also to be taken in the same category of non-mehrams. The severity of the term
used, i.e. “death” serves as a strict warning, for these are the people who unlike strangers have an unrestricted
access to the house, yet, they are not mehram.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Chapter: A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion (112) ‫ َوال ُّد ُخو ُل عَ لَى ْال ُمغٌِ َب ِة‬،‫باب الَ ٌ َْخل ُ َونَّ رَ ُج ٌل ِبامْرَ أَ ٍة إِالَّ ُذو مَحْ رَ ٍم‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5232
Muslim
‫ كتاب السالم‬39 The Book of Greetings
Chapter: The Prohibition Of Being Alone With A Non-Mahram Woman Or Entering Upon Her (8) ‫ول عَ لَ ٌْهَا‬ ِ ‫باب َتحْ ِر ٌِم ْال َخ ْل َو ِة بِاألَجْ َنبِ ٌَّ ِة َوال ُّد ُخ‬
Sahih Muslim 2172 a
 Hadith Twenty Two

Iddah; The Waiting Period

ِْٓ ‫ْ ِ٘ َش ِبَ ث‬َٚ‫هللاِ أ‬

َّ ‫ َع ْج ِذ‬ُٛ‫بي أَث‬
َ َ ‫صخ َ ـ ل‬َ ‫ ع َْٓ َؽ ْف‬،‫ة‬ُّٛ َ ٠َ‫ ع َْٓ أ‬،‫ ٍذ‬٠ْ َ‫بي َؽ َّذصََٕب َؽ َّّب ُد ث ُْٓ ص‬ َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ة‬ِ ‫َّ٘ب‬َٛ ٌ‫هللاِ ث ُْٓ َع ْج ِذ ْا‬
َّ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب َع ْج ُذ‬
‫ ٍُش‬ٙ‫ط أَسْ ثَ َعخَ أَ ْش‬
ٍ ْٚ َ‫ ص‬ٍَٝ‫ ئِالَّ َع‬،‫س‬ ٍ َ‫ق صَال‬ َ َْٛ ‫ذ‬ ٍ ِّ١َِ ٍَٝ‫ أَ ْْ ُٔ ِؾ َّذ َع‬َْٕٝٙ ُٔ ‫ذ ُوَّٕب‬ ِ ‫ ع َْٓ أُ َِّ ع‬،َ‫صخ‬
ْ ٌَ‫َّخَ ـ لَب‬١‫َط‬ َ ‫َؽغَّبَْ ع َْٓ َؽ ْف‬
ُّ ‫ص ٌََٕب ِع ْٕ َذ‬
ْ ٍَ‫ ِْش ئِ َرا ا ْغزَ َغ‬ٙ‫اٌط‬
‫ذ‬ َ ‫ُخ‬ ِّ ‫لَ ْذ س‬َٚ ،‫ت‬ ٍ ْ‫ة َعص‬ َ َْٛ‫ ًغب ئِالَّ ص‬ُٛ‫ْ ثًب َِصْ ج‬َٛ‫ظ ص‬ َ َ‫الَ ٔ ٍَْج‬َٚ ‫َّت‬
َ ١َ‫الَ َٔزَط‬َٚ ًَ ‫الَ َٔ ْىز َِؾ‬َٚ ،‫ َع ْششًا‬َٚ
َ ‫صخ‬َ ‫اُٖ ِ٘ َشب َُ ث ُْٓ َؽغَّبَْ ع َْٓ َؽ ْف‬َٚ ‫بي َس‬ َ َ‫ ل‬.‫با ْاٌ َغَٕبئِ ِض‬
ِ َ‫ ع َِٓ ارِّج‬َْٕٝٙ ُٔ ‫ ُوَّٕب‬َٚ ،‫بس‬ٍ َ‫ذ أَ ْ ف‬ ِ ‫ ُٔ ْج َز ٍح ِِ ْٓ ُو ْغ‬ِٟ ‫َب‬ٙ‫ي‬١ ِ ‫ئِؽْ ذَأَب ِِ ْٓ َِ ِؾ‬
.ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫َّخَ ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬١‫َط‬ ِ ‫ع َْٓ أُ َِّ ع‬
Narrated by Um-'Atiya

We were forbidden to mourn for a dead person for more than three days except in the case of a husband for whom
mourning was allowed for four months and ten days. (During that time) we were not allowed to put kohl (Antimony
eye power) in our eyes or to use perfumes or to put on colored clothes except a dress made of 'Asb (a kind of Yemen
cloth, very coarse and rough). We were allowed very light perfumes at the time of taking a bath after menses and
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also we were forbidden to go with the funeral procession.

Notes

This hadith clarifies two things. Firstly, there is no mourning above three days in Islam. There are Sahih ahadith
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narrated from the mother of the believers, which elucidate that the mourning period, if observed, even for close
relatives, is only three days maximum. Secondly, the hadith states categorically that the only exception to this
mourning is when a woman’s husband dies, or she is divorced. In this longer mourning period, she must follow the
restrictions as stated in the hadith.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬6 Menstrual Periods
Chapter: Putting perfume by woman at the time of taking a bath after finishing from the menses (12) ‫ٌِض‬ ِ ‫ب ل ِْلمَرْ أَ ِة عِ ْندَ ُ سْ لِهَا مِنَ ْال َمح‬ ‫باب ِّذ‬
ِ ٌ‫الط‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 313
Ibn Majah
‫ كتاب الطالق‬10 The Chapters on Divorce
Chapter: Can a woman mourn for anyone other than her husband (35)
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Sunan ibn Majah 2085
Muslim Part of the hadith only
‫ كتاب الطالق‬18 The Book of Divorce
Chapter: The Obligation to mourn during the 'Iddah following the death of one's husband, but it is forbidden to mourn for more than three days in other cases (9) ‫ب‬ ِ ‫باب وُ جُو‬
َ
ٍ ٌ‫اإلِحْ دَ ا ِد ًِ عِ َّد ِة ْال َو َا ِة َو َتحْ ِرٌ ِم ِه ًِ َ ٌ ِْر َذلِكَ إِالَّ َثالَ َث َة أ‬
‫َّام‬
Sahih Muslim 938 e (3740)
 Hadith Twenty Three

Paying Debts of Parents

ِّٟ ِ‫ إٌَّج‬ٌَِٝ‫د ئ‬ْ ‫ َعب َا‬،ً‫ أَ َّْ ا ِْ َشأَح‬،‫ط‬ ٍ ‫ ع َِٓ اث ِْٓ َعجَّب‬،‫ ٍْش‬١َ‫ ِذ ث ِْٓ ُعج‬١‫ ع َْٓ َع ِع‬،‫ ثِ ْش ٍش‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،َ‫أَخ‬ََٛ ‫ ع‬ُٛ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬،‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُِ َغ َّذ ٌد‬
ِ ٠ْ َ‫ أَ َسأ‬،‫َب‬ْٕٙ ‫ َع‬ٟ ِّ‫بي " َٔ َع ُْ ؽُغ‬
‫ذ‬ َ َ‫َب ل‬ْٕٙ ‫َذ لَج ًَْ أَ ْْ رَ ُؾ َّظ أَ َأ َ ُؽ َّظ َع‬ ْ ‫ َٔ َز َس‬ِِّٟ ُ‫ذ ئِ َّْ أ‬
ْ ‫د أَ ْْ رَ ُؾ َّظ َ َّبر‬ ْ ٌَ‫عٍُ َمَب‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ص‬
." ‫ َب ِا‬َٛ ٌ‫ك ثِ ْب‬
ُّ ‫هللاَ أَ َؽ‬
َّ َّْ ِ ‫ َا‬،ٌَُٗ ٞ‫ا اٌَّ ِز‬ُٛ‫بي " َب ْلي‬ َ َ‫ َم‬.ُْ ‫ذ َٔ َع‬ ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬." َُٗ‫َز‬١‫بض‬ِ َ‫ذ ل‬ ِ ْٕ ‫ ٌْٓ أَ ُو‬٠‫ أُ ِِّ ِه َد‬ٍَٝ‫ْ َوبَْ َع‬ٌَٛ
Narrated by Ibn 'Abbas

A woman came to the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and said, "My mother vowed to perform the Hajj but she died before performing

it. Should I perform the Hajj on her behalf?" He ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Yes! Perform the Hajj on her behalf. See, if your mother

had been in debt, would you have paid her debt?" She said, "Yes." He ‫ ﷺ‬said, "So you should pay what is for Him
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as Allah has more right that one should fulfill one's obligations to Him."

Notes

Islam values the toils of raising a child and acknowledges the rights of the parents even after their death. Hence, a
child’s duty towards the parents does not end with the death of the parents, rather it continues, with the child being
asked to even try to pay the debts of the parents, be these towards people or towards Allah.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب االعتصام بالكتاب والسنة‬96 Holding Fast to the Qur'an and Sunnah
َّ َ‫بَابُ مَنْ َش َّب َه أَصْ الً مَعْ لُومًا بِأَصْ ٍل ُم َبٌ ٍَّن قَدْ َبٌَّن‬
Chapter: Comparing an ambiguous situation to a clear well-defined one (12) ‫ لِ ٌُ ْف ِه َم السَّائِ َل‬،‫هللا ُ ُح ْك َم ُهمَا‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 7315
An-Nasai’ Similar hadith
‫ كتاب مناسك الحج‬24 The Book of Hajj
Chapter: Hajj on behalf of a deceased person who did not perform Hajj (8)
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Sunan an-Nasa'i 2634
Muslim, same hadith as above but with fasting instead of Hajj
‫ كتاب الصٌام‬13 The Book of Fasting
Chapter: Making up fasts on behalf of the deceased (27) ‫ت‬ ِ ٌ‫َام عَ ِن ْال َم ِّذ‬
ِ ٌ‫ص‬‫باب َق َا ِء ال ِّذ‬
Sahih Muslim 1148 a
 Hadith Twenty Four

Zakat

ٍ ١ْ ‫ ث ِْٓ ُش َع‬ٚ‫ ع َْٓ َع ّْ ِش‬،ٌْٓ ١‫ُ ُْ َؽ َّذصََٕب ُؽ َغ‬َٙ‫ َؽ َّذص‬،‫س‬

،‫ت‬ ِ ‫بس‬ ِ ‫ أَ َّْ خَ بٌِ َذ ْثَٓ ْاٌ َؾ‬- َٕٝ‫ ْاٌ َّ ْع‬- ،َ‫ ُذ ث ُْٓ َِ ْغ َع َذح‬١ْ َّ ‫ ُؽ‬َٚ ،ًٍ ِِ ‫ َوب‬ُٛ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬
ِ ‫ظَز‬١ٍِ‫َبْ َغ‬
ْ‫َب‬ ِ ‫َب َِ َغ َىز‬ِٙ‫َ ِذ ا ْثَٕز‬٠ ِٟ َٚ ‫َب‬ٌَٙ ٌ‫َب ا ْثَٕخ‬ٙ‫ َِ َع‬َٚ ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
َ ‫َذ َسع‬ ْ ‫ أَر‬،ً‫ أَ َّْ ا ِْ َشأَح‬،ِٖ ‫ ع َْٓ َع ِّذ‬،ِٗ ١ِ‫ع َْٓ أَث‬
َ َٛ ‫َب َِ ِخ ِع‬١ِ‫ْ ََ ْاٌم‬َٛ٠ ‫ َّب‬ِٙ ِ‫هللاُ ث‬
ْٓ ِِ ِْٓ ٠‫اس‬ َّ ‫ َس ِن‬ِّٛ ‫ُ َغ‬٠ ْْ َ‫َغُشُّ ِن أ‬٠َ‫بي " أ‬
َ َ‫ ل‬. َ‫ذ ال‬ ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬. " ‫َٓ صَ َوبحَ َ٘ َزا‬١‫ْط‬ ِ ‫َب " أَرُع‬ٌَٙ ‫بي‬ َ َ‫ت َم‬ ٍ َ٘‫ِِ ْٓ َر‬
ِٗ ٌُِٛ‫ٌِ َشع‬َٚ ًَّ ‫ َع‬َٚ ‫ذ ُ٘ َّب ِ َّّلِلِ َع َّض‬ ْ ٌَ‫لَب‬َٚ ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ إٌَّج‬ٌَِٝ‫ُ َّب ئ‬ٙ‫ُ َّب َأ َ ٌْمَ ْز‬ٙ‫بي َخَ ٍَ َع ْز‬ َ َ‫ ل‬. " ‫َبس‬ٍ ٔ
Narrated ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb,

from his father, from his grandfather, that a woman came to the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬and she had a daughter of

hers with her. On her daughter’s hand were two thick bracelets of gold. He ‫ ﷺ‬said to her: “Have you given the

zakat on these?” She said: “No.” He ‫ ﷺ‬said, “Would you like Allah to make you two bracelets of fire on the Day of

Resurrection because of these?” So she took them off and gave them to the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and said: “They are for
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Allah and His Messenger.”

Notes

Women are more often than not consumed by the desire for worldly possessions, this hadith is a reminder that they
are answerable for these possessions, and must pay the dues where applicable, in the form of zakat. This
responsibility is not just for men, but each woman will be questioned about her own wealth and the zakat due on it.

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Narrated by Abu Dawood,
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬9 The Book of Zakat (Kitab Al-Zakat)
Chapter: On The Meaning Of Kanz (Treasure) And Zakat On Jewellery (4) ‫باب ْال َك ْن ِز مَا ه َُو َو َز َكا ِة ْال ُحلًِِّذ‬
Grade: Hasan (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 1563
al-Nasaa’i,
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬23 The Book of Zakah
Chapter: Zakah On Jewelry (19) ‫باب َز َكا ِة ْال ُحلًِِّذ‬
Grade: Hasan (Darussalam)
Sunan an-Nasa'i 2481
 Hadith Twenty Five

Spending On Family

‫ ا ِْ َشأَ ِح‬،‫َت‬ َ ٕ٠ْ َ‫ ع َْٓ ص‬،‫س‬ ِ ‫بس‬ِ ‫ ث ِْٓ ْاٌ َؾ‬ٚ‫ ع َْٓ َع ّْ ِش‬،‫ك‬ ٌ ١ِ‫ َشم‬َِٟٕ‫بي َؽ َّذص‬ َ َ‫ ل‬، ُ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ااَ ْع َّش‬،ِٟ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬،‫ص‬ ٍ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُع َّ ُش ث ُْٓ َؽ ْف‬
َْٓ ‫س ع‬ ِ ‫ ث ِْٓ ْاٌ َؾ‬ٚ‫ َذحَ ع َْٓ َع ّْ ِش‬١ْ َ‫ ُعج‬ِٟ‫ ُُ ع َْٓ أَث‬١ِ٘ ‫ ئِث َْشا‬َِٟٕ‫ َُ َ َؾ َّذص‬١ِ٘ ‫بي َ َزوَشْ رُُٗ ِإلث َْشا‬
ِ ‫بس‬ َ َ‫ّب ـ ل‬ٕٙ‫ هللا ع‬ٝ‫هللاِ ـ سض‬ َّ ‫َع ْج ِذ‬
ْٓ ِِ ٌََْٛٚ َٓ‫َص َّذ ْل‬ َ ‫بي " ر‬ َ َ‫عٍُ َم‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ٟ َّ ِ‫ْذ إٌَّج‬ ُ ٠َ‫ْغ ِذ َ َشأ‬ِ ‫ ْاٌ َّغ‬ِٟ ‫ذ‬ ُ ْٕ ‫ذ ُو‬ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬،‫ا ًا‬َٛ ‫هللاِ ثِ ِّ ْضٍِ ِٗ َع‬
َّ ‫َت ا ِْ َشأَ ِح َع ْج ِذ‬
َ ٕ٠ْ َ‫ص‬
ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ َ ‫هللاِ َعًْ َسع‬ َّ ‫ذ ٌِ َع ْج ِذ‬ْ ٌَ‫بي َمَب‬ َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ َؽغْ ِشَ٘ب‬ِٟ َ‫ز ٍَب‬٠ْ َ‫أ‬َٚ ِ‫هللا‬ َّ ‫ َع ْج ِذ‬ٍَٝ‫ك َع‬ ُ ِ‫َٕتُ رُ ْٕف‬٠ْ َ‫َذ ص‬ ْ ٔ‫ َوب‬َٚ ." َّٓ ‫ِّ ُى‬١ٍِ‫ُؽ‬
ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ َ ‫ذ َسع‬ ِ ْٔ َ‫ أ‬ٍِٟ‫بي َع‬ َ َ‫ص َذلَ ِخ َم‬ َّ ٌ‫ َِِٓ ا‬ٞ‫ َؽغْ ِش‬ِٟ ِِٟ ‫زَب‬٠ْ َ‫ أ‬ٍَٝ‫ َع‬َٚ َ‫ه‬١ْ ٍَ‫ك َع‬ َ ِ‫ أَ ْْ أُ ْٔف‬ِّٟٕ‫ َع‬ٞ‫َغْ ِض‬٠َ‫عٍُ أ‬ٚ
‫ َ َّ َّش‬،ِٟ‫بعز‬ َ ‫َب ِِ ْض ًُ َؽ‬ُٙ‫بعز‬ َ ‫ َؽ‬،‫ة‬ ِ ‫ ْاٌجَب‬ٍَٝ‫بس َع‬ ِ ‫ص‬ َ ْٔ َ‫د ا ِْ َشأَحً َِِٓ اا‬ ُ ‫ َع ْذ‬َٛ َ .ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ إٌَّج‬ٌَِٝ‫ذ ئ‬ ُ ‫ َب ْٔطٍََ ْم‬.ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ
َ‫لُ ٍَْٕب ال‬َٚ ٞ‫ َؽغْ ِش‬ِٟ ٌِٟ َ‫ز ٍَب‬٠ْ َ‫أ‬َٚ ٟ‫ْ ِع‬ٚ َ‫ ص‬ٍَٝ‫ك َع‬ َ ِ‫ أَ ْْ أُ ْٔف‬ِّٟٕ‫ َع‬ٞ‫َغْ ِض‬٠َ‫عٍُ أ‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ٟ َّ ِ‫َٕب ثِالَ ٌي َمُ ٍَْٕب َع ًِ إٌَّج‬١ْ ٍَ‫َع‬
ِ ‫َب أَعْ َش‬ٌَٙ ُْ ‫بي " َٔ َع‬
ْ‫ا‬ َ َ‫ ل‬.ِ‫هللا‬َّ ‫بي ا ِْ َشأَحُ َع ْج ِذ‬
َ َ‫ ل‬." ‫ت‬ ِ ِٔ‫َب‬٠‫ُّ اٌ َّض‬َٜ‫بي " أ‬ َ َ‫َٕتُ ل‬٠ْ َ‫بي ص‬
َ َ‫ ل‬." ‫بي " َِ ْٓ ُ٘ َّب‬ َ َ‫ َ َذخَ ًَ َ َغأٌََُٗ َم‬.‫رُ ْخجِشْ ثَِٕب‬
." ‫ص َذلَ ِخ‬ َّ ٌ‫أَعْ ُش ا‬َٚ ‫أَعْ ُش ْاٌمَ َشاثَ ِخ‬
Narrated by 'Amr bin Al-Harith

Zainab, the wife of 'Abdullah said, "I was in the Mosque and saw the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬saying, 'O women ! Give alms even
from your ornaments.' " Zainab used to provide for 'Abdullah and those orphans who were under her protection. So
she said to 'Abdullah, "Will you ask Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬whether it will be sufficient for me to spend part of the Zakat

on you and the orphans who are under my protection?" He replied "Will you yourself ask Allah's Apostle ‫"? ﷺ‬

(Zainab added): So I went to the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and I saw there an Ansari woman who was standing at the door (of the

Prophet ‫ ) ﷺ‬with a similar problem as mine. Bilal passed by us and we asked him, 'Ask the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬whether it
is permissible for me to spend (the Zakat) on my husband and the orphans under my protection.' And we requested
Bilal not to inform the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬about us. So Bilal went inside and asked the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬regarding our

problem. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬asked, "Who are those two?" Bilal replied that she was Zainab. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said,

"Which Zainab?" Bilal said, "The wife of 'Abdullah (bin Masu’d)." The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Yes, (it is sufficient for her)
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and she will receive a double rewards (for that): One for helping relatives, and the other for giving Zakat.”

Notes

This hadith continues the subject of the previous hadith by explaining how zakat is not just a duty, but is a duty which
carries great rewards, and indeed the primary recipients who deserve one’s zakat are the needy relatives.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬24 Obligatory Charity Tax (Zakat)
Chapter: The giving of Zakat to husband and to orphans (48) ‫الز ْو ِج َواألَ ٌْ َت ِام ًِ ْالحَ جْ ِر‬
َّ ‫الز َكا ِة عَ لَى‬
َّ ‫باب‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 1466
Muslim
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬12 The Book of Zakat
َ َ ْ ‫باب َ ْ ِل ال َّن َف َق ِة َوالصَّدَ َق ِة عَ لَى‬
ِ ٌ َ‫الز ْو ِج َو ْاأل ْو َال ِد َو ْال َوالِد‬
Chapter: The virtue of spending and giving charity to relatives, spouses, children and parents, even if they are idolaters (14) ‫ْن‬ َّ ‫األ ْقرَ ِبٌنَ َو‬
َ‫َولَ ْو َكا ُنوا ُم ْش ِركٌِن‬
Sahih Muslim 1000 a
An-Nasai’
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬23 The Book of Zakah
Chapter: Giving charity to relatives. (82)
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Sunan an-Nasa'i 2584
 Hadith Twenty Six

Charity

ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬،ِٖ ‫ ع َْٓ َع ِّذ‬،ِٗ ١ِ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،َ‫ ثُشْ َدح‬ِٟ‫ ُذ ث ُْٓ أَث‬١‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب َع ِع‬،ُ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ُش ْعجَخ‬،َُ ١ِ٘ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُِ ْغٍِ ُُ ث ُْٓ ئِث َْشا‬
‫ا‬ٌُٛ‫ لَب‬." ‫ق‬ َ ‫َز‬٠َٚ ُٗ‫َ ْٕفَ ُع َٔ ْف َغ‬١َ ِٖ ‫َ ِذ‬١ِ‫َ ْع َّ ًُ ث‬٠ " ‫بي‬
ُ ‫َص َّذ‬ َّ ٟ
َ َ‫َ ِغ ْذ ل‬٠ ُْ ٌَ ْٓ َّ َ ِ‫هللا‬ َّ ِ‫َب َٔج‬٠ ‫ا‬ٌُٛ‫ َمَب‬." ٌ‫ص َذلَخ‬
َ ٍُ ٍِ‫ ُوًِّ ُِ ْغ‬ٍَٝ‫بي " َع‬ َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ
ِّ‫ُ ّْ ِغ ْه ع َِٓ اٌ َّشش‬١ٌْ َٚ ،‫ف‬ُٚ
ِ ‫َ ْع ًَّْ ثِ ْبٌ َّ ْعش‬١ٍْ َ " ‫بي‬ َ َ‫ ل‬.‫َ ِغ ْذ‬٠ ُْ ٌَ ْْ ِ ‫ا َا‬ٌُٛ‫ لَب‬." َ‫ف‬ٍُْٛٙ َّ ٌ‫بع ِخ ْا‬َ ‫ٓ َرا ْاٌ َؾ‬١ َ َ‫َ ِغ ْذ ل‬٠ ُْ ٌَ ْْ ِ ‫َا‬
ُ ‫ُ ِع‬٠ " ‫بي‬
." ٌ‫ص َذلَخ‬
َ ٌَُٗ ‫َب‬َِّٙٔ‫َا‬
Narrated by Abu Burda

From his father from his grandfather that the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Every Muslim has to give in charity." The people

asked, "O Allah's Prophet ‫ !ﷺ‬If someone has nothing to give, what will he do?" He ‫ ﷺ‬said, "He should work with
his hands and benefit himself and also give in charity (from what he earns)." The people further asked, "If he cannot
find even that?" He ‫ ﷺ‬replied, "He should help the needy who appeal for help." Then the people asked, "If he

cannot do that?" He ‫ ﷺ‬replied, "Then he should perform good deeds and keep away from evil deeds and this will
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be regarded as charitable deeds.”

Notes

The excellence of charity is well known, however, not everyone has material wealth to spare, and those who cannot
spare any material wealth are told there are other ways to partake of this goodness too, and even the smallest of
deeds can be counted as charity for them.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬24 Obligatory Charity Tax (Zakat)
ِ ٌَ ‫ َمَنْ لَ ْم‬،‫باب عَ لَى ُك ِّذل مُسْ ل ٍِم صَ دَ َق ٌة‬
Chapter: Every Muslim has to give in charity (30) ِ‫جدْ َ ْلٌَعْ َم ْل ِب ْالمَعْ رُوف‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 1445
Muslim (with a very slight variation in words)
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬12 The Book of Zakat
Chapter: The word charity (Sadaqah) may apply to all good deeds Ma'ruf (16) ِ‫َان أَنَّ اسْ َم الصَّدَ َق ِة ٌَ َق ُع عَ لَى ُك ِّذل َن ْو ٍع مِنَ ْالمَعْ رُوف‬
ِ ٌ‫باب َب‬
Sahih Muslim 1008 a
 Hadith Twenty Seven

Holding back Charity

َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ْظ‬
‫بي‬ ِ ‫ ع َْٓ َؽغ‬،ُ١ِ ‫َّؽ‬
ٍ ٠‫ ع َِٓ اث ِْٓ ع َُش‬،‫َّبط ث ِْٓ ُِ َؾ َّّ ٍذ‬ ِ ‫ ُِ َؾ َّّ ُذ ث ُْٓ َع ْج ِذ اٌش‬َِٟٕ‫ َؽ َّذص‬َٚ ،‫ْظ‬ ٍ ٠‫ ع َِٓ اث ِْٓ ع َُش‬،ٍُ ‫َبص‬ِ ‫ ع‬ُٛ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬
‫َب‬ََّٙٔ‫ّب ـ أ‬ٕٙ‫ هللا ع‬ٝ‫ ثَ ْى ٍش ـ سض‬ِٟ‫ذ أَث‬ ِ ْٕ ِ‫ أَ ْخجَ َشُٖ ع َْٓ أَ ْع َّب َا ث‬،‫ ِْش‬١َ‫اٌضث‬
ُّ ِْٓ ‫هللاِ ث‬ َّ ‫ ع َْٓ َعجَّب ِد ث ِْٓ َع ْج ِذ‬،َ‫ َىخ‬١ْ ٍَُِ ِٟ‫ اث ُْٓ أَث‬ِٟٔ‫أَ ْخجَ َش‬
ِ ‫ َِب ا ْعزَطَ ْع‬ٟ‫ض ِخ‬
"‫ذ‬ َ ْ‫ اس‬،‫ْه‬ ِ ١ٍَ‫هللاُ َع‬َّ َٟ ‫ ِع‬ُٛ١َ ٟ‫ ِع‬ُٛ‫بي " الَ ر‬ َ َ‫عٍُ َم‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ إٌَّج‬ٌَِٝ‫د ئ‬ ْ ‫َعب َا‬
Narrated by Asma' bint Abu Bakr

That she had gone to the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and he said, "Do not shut your money bag; otherwise Allah too will with-hold
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His blessings from you. Spend (in Allah's Cause) as much as you can afford."

Notes

While the giving of charity is a noble deed, the holding back of excess wealth is a great sin. Muslims are exhorted
once again to spend of what they have been given, as this is a way to invite Allah’s bounty and it helps in circulation
of wealth in a society.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬24 Obligatory Charity Tax (Zakat)
Chapter: To give in charity as much as you can afford (22) َ‫باب الصَّدَ َق ِة ٌِمَا اسْ َت َطاع‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 1434
 Twenty Eight

Attire

‫َّاس ـ ر ى هللا عنهما ـ‬ ٍ ‫ْن َعب‬ ِ ‫ َع ِن اب‬،‫ َعنْ عِ ْك ِر َم َة‬،‫ َعنْ َق َتادَ َة‬،‫شعْ َب ُة‬ ُ ‫ َح َّد َث َنا‬،ٌ‫ َح َّد َث َنا ُ ْندَ ر‬،‫ار‬
ٍ ‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ َب َّش‬
ِ ‫ َو ْال ُم َت َش ِّذب َها‬،‫ال ِبال ِّذن َسا ِء‬
ِ ‫ت م َِن ال ِّذن َسا ِء ِبالرِّذ َج‬
‫ َتا َب َع ُه‬.‫ال‬ َ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم ْال ُم َت َشب ِِّذه‬
ِ ‫ٌن م َِن الرِّذ َج‬ ِ َّ ‫َقا َل لَ َع َن َرسُو ُل‬
ُ ‫َعمْ رٌ و أَ ْخ َب َر َنا‬
.‫شعْ َب ُة‬
Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬cursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and those
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women who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of men.

Notes

Islam being a complete way of life has clearly defined codes of conduct for its followers. Dress is a very visible
expression of this code. Just as the different rights and responsibilities of men and women are clearly defined, so are
the dress codes, and this hadith categorically forbids trespassing the boundaries, and merging the naturally defined
limits of Allah.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب اللباس‬77 Dress
Chapter: Men who are in the similitude of women, and women who are in the similitude of men (61) ‫ال‬ ُ ‫باب ْال ُم َت َش ِّذبهُونَ بِال ِّذنسَا ِء َو ْال ُم َت َش ِّذبه‬
ِ َ‫َات بِالرِّذ ج‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5885
Abu Dawud
‫ كتاب اللباس‬34 Clothing (Kitab Al-Libas)
Chapter: Women's Clothing (30) ‫َاس ال ِّذنسَا ِء‬
ِ ‫باب لِب‬
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 4097
Tirmidhi
‫ كتاب األدب عن رسول هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم‬43 Chapters on Manners
Chapter: What has been related about women who imitate men (34)
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Jami’ Tirmidhi 2784
Ibn Majah
‫ كتاب النكاح‬9 The Book of Marriage
Chapter: Effiminate men (22)
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Sunan Ibn Majah 1904
 Twenty Nine

Women’s Right to Visit the Mosque

َّ‫ أَن‬،‫ْن ُع َم َر‬

ِ ‫ َع ِن اب‬،‫ َعنْ َنا ٍِع‬،‫هللا‬ َ ‫ إِ ْد ِر‬، ُ‫ َح َّد َث َنا أَ ِبً َوابْن‬،‫ْن ُن َمٌ ٍْر‬
ِ َّ ‫ٌس َقاالَ َح َّد َث َنا ُع َب ٌْ ُد‬ ِ َّ ‫َح َّد َث َنا م َُح َّم ُد بْنُ َع ْب ِد‬
ِ ‫هللا ب‬
ِ َّ َ‫هللا َم َسا ِجد‬
" ‫هللا‬ ِ َّ ‫هللا صلى هللا علٌه وسلم َقا َل " الَ َتمْ َنعُوا إِ َما َء‬ ِ َّ ‫َرسُو َل‬
Ibn 'Umar reported:

'The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said: Do not prevent the maid-servants of Allah from going to the mosque.
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Notes

In most mosques today we find little or no space for women, as it’s considered wrong for women to visit mosques
and be part of the prayer congregation. In contrast, women in the Prophetic times enjoyed a very different situation
as they were allowed to visit the mosque for prayers. In this regard is a tradition from Sahih Bukhari which is a
viii
narration from the wife of Hadrat ‘Umar (r) is enough to lay to rest all debates as it clearly explains that even Umar
(r) with all his sense of honour did not prevent his wife from prayer in the mosque as there was a clear command
from the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬in this regard. Also of importance is the addition of the words, “as long as they have no
adornment” in the version transmitted by Abu Dawud, hence clarifying that a woman if she is in a modest simple
dress, without having perfumed herself should not be barred from the mosque. In fact the Companions of the
Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬in other narrations are known to have asked women, who were not in an appropriate condition with
ix
respect to dress etc to return home, correct their appearance and then come back to the mosque .

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Muslim
‫ كتاب الصالة‬4 The Book of Prayers
Chapter: Women Going Out To The Masjid So Long As No Fitnah Results From That; and They Should Not Go Out Wearing Perfume (30) ‫ج ِد إِ َذا لَ ْم ٌَ َترَ َّتبْ عَ لَ ٌْ ِه ِ ْت َن ٌة‬ ِ ‫ُوج ال ِّذنسَا ِء إِلَى ْالمَسَا‬
ِ ‫باب ُخر‬
َ ‫َوأَ َّنهَا الَ َت ْخ ُر ُج م‬
.‫ُط ٌَّب ًَة‬
Sahih Muslim 442 c
Abu Dawud (with an addition: " ‫ت‬ ٌ َ‫ َولَكِنْ لٌِ َْخرُجْ نَ َوهُنَّ َتفِال‬but they may go out (to the mosque) having no adornment)
‫ كتاب الصالة‬2 Prayer (Kitab Al-Salat)
Chapter: What Has Been Narrated Concerning Women Leaving (Their House) For The Masjid (53) ‫ج ِد‬ ِ ْ‫ُوج ال ِّذنسَا ِء إِلَى ْالمَس‬
ِ ‫باب مَا جَ ا َء ًِ ُخر‬
Grade: Hasan Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 565
Bukhari similar hadith specifying night prayers
‫ كتاب الجمعة‬11 Friday Prayer
Chapter: Chapter (13) ‫باب‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 899
 Thirty

Female Participation in Muslim Social Life

َٓ ْ‫َ ْخشُع‬٠ ْْ َ‫ارِمََٕب أ‬ََٛ ‫ذ ُوَّٕب َٔ َّْٕ ُع ع‬ ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬،َ‫صخ‬ َ ‫ ع َْٓ َؽ ْف‬،‫ة‬ُّٛ َ ٠َ‫ ع َْٓ أ‬،‫ة‬ ِ ‫َّ٘ب‬َٛ ٌ‫بي أَ ْخجَ َشَٔب َع ْج ُذ ْا‬ َ َ‫ اث ُْٓ َعالَ ٍَ ـ ل‬َٛ ُ٘ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُِ َؾ َّّ ٌذ ـ‬
‫ هللا‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫َب غَضَ ا َِ َع إٌَّج‬ِٙ‫ْ ُط أُ ْخز‬ٚ َ‫ َوبَْ ص‬َٚ ،‫َب‬ِٙ‫ذ ع َْٓ أُ ْخز‬ ْ َ‫ َ َؾ َّذص‬،‫ف‬ ٍ ٍَ َ‫ خ‬َِٟٕ‫ذ لَصْ َش ث‬ ِ َِ ‫ َمَ ِذ‬،ِْٓ ٠‫ َذ‬١‫ ْاٌ ِع‬ِٟ
ْ ٌَ َ‫ذ ا ِْ َشأَحٌ ََٕض‬
ِٟ‫ذ أُ ْخز‬ ْ ٌََ‫ َ َغأ‬،ٝ‫ض‬ َ ْ‫ ْاٌ َّش‬ٍَٝ‫ َُ َع‬ُٛ‫َٔم‬َٚ ،َّٝ ٍْ ‫ ْاٌ َى‬ٞٚ‫َا‬ ِ ‫ذ ُوَّٕب ُٔذ‬ ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬.‫ذ‬ ٍّ ‫ ِع‬ِٟ ُٗ‫ َِ َع‬ِٟ‫َذ أُ ْخز‬ ْ ٔ‫ َوب‬َٚ ،َ‫ َع َش َشح‬َْٝ ‫عٍُ صِ ْٕز‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ع‬
ْٓ ِِ ‫َب‬ُٙ‫بؽجَز‬ِ ‫ص‬ َ ‫َب‬ٙ‫بي " ٌِزُ ٍْجِ ْغ‬ َ َ‫ُط ل‬ َ ‫َب ِع ٍْجَبةٌ أَ ْْ الَ ر َْخش‬ٌَٙ ْٓ ‫َ ُى‬٠ ُْ ٌَ ‫ ئِؽْ ذَأَب ثَأْطٌ ئِ َرا‬ٍَٝ‫عٍُ أَ َع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ٟ َّ ِ‫إٌَّج‬
ْ ٌَ‫عٍُ لَب‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ٟ
‫ذ‬ َّ ِ‫ذ إٌَّج‬ ِ ‫ذ أُ َُّ ع‬
ِ ‫َب أَ َع ِّ ْع‬ُٙ‫َّخَ َعأ َ ٌْز‬١‫َط‬ ْ َِ ‫ ٍََ َّّب لَ ِذ‬." َٓ١ِّ ٍِ‫حَ ْاٌ ُّ ْغ‬َٛ ‫ َد ْع‬َٚ ‫ َْش‬١ َ‫َ ِذ ْاٌخ‬ٙ‫ ٌْزَ ْش‬َٚ ،‫َب‬ِٙ‫ِع ٍْجَبث‬
ُ َٚ ‫ك َر‬
‫اد‬ ُ ِ‫ار‬َٛ ‫ ْاٌ َع‬ِٚ َ‫ أ‬،‫س‬ٚ
ِ ‫اد ْاٌ ُخ ُذ‬ ُ َٚ ‫ َر‬َٚ ‫ك‬ ُ ِ‫ار‬َٛ ‫َ ْخ ُش ُط ْاٌ َع‬٠ " ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫َم‬٠ ُُٗ‫ ـ َع ِّ ْعز‬ِٟ‫ذ ثِأَث‬ ْ ٌَ‫َذ الَ ر َْز ُو ُشُٖ ئِالَّ لَب‬
ْ ٔ‫ َوب‬َٚ ‫ َٔ َع ُْ ـ‬ِٟ‫ثِأَث‬
ُ‫َّض‬١‫ذ ْاٌ ُؾ‬ ُ ٍْ ُ‫صخُ َم‬ َ ‫ذ َؽ ْف‬ ْ ٌَ‫ لَب‬." ٍَّٝ‫ص‬ َ ُّ ٌ‫َّضُ ْا‬١‫َ ْعز َِض ُي ْاٌ ُؾ‬٠َٚ ، َٓ١ِِِٕ ‫حَ ْاٌ ُّ ْإ‬َٛ ‫ َد ْع‬َٚ ‫ َْش‬١ َ‫َ ْذَْ ْاٌخ‬ٙ‫َ ْش‬١ٌْ َٚ ، ُ‫َّض‬١‫ ْاٌ ُؾ‬َٚ ‫س‬ٚ ِ ‫ْاٌ ُخ ُذ‬
‫ َو َزا‬َٚ ‫ َو َزا‬َٚ َ‫َ ُذ ع ََش َخ‬ٙ‫ْظ رَ ْش‬ َ ١ٌََ‫ذ أ‬ ْ ٌَ‫َمَب‬
Narrated by Aiyub

Hafsa said, 'We used to forbid our young women to go out for the two 'Id prayers. A woman came and stayed at the palace of Bani
Khalaf and she narrated about her sister whose husband took part in twelve holy battles along with the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and her
sister was with her husband in six (out of these twelve). She (the woman's sister) said, "We used to treat the wounded, look after
the patients and once I asked the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬, 'Is there any harm for any of us to stay at home if she doesn't have a veil?' He

‫ ﷺ‬said, 'She should cover herself with the veil of her companion and should participate in the good deeds and in the religious

gathering of the Muslims.' When Um 'Atiya came I asked her whether she had heard it from the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬. She replied, "Yes.

May my father be sacrificed for him (the Prophet ‫( !)ﷺ‬Whenever she mentioned the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬she used to say, 'May my

father be sacrificed for him ‫ )ﷺ‬I have heard the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬saying, 'The unmarried young virgins and the mature girl who stay
often screened or the young unmarried virgins who often stay screened and the menstruating women should come out and
participate in the good deeds as well as the religious gathering of the faithful believers but the menstruating women should keep
away from the Musalla (praying place).' " Hafsa asked Um 'Atiya surprisingly, "Do you say the menstruating women?" She replied,
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"Doesn't a menstruating woman attend 'Arafat (Hajj) and such and such (other deeds)?”

Notes

The subject of female participation in Muslim social life has been the topic of debate throughout the centuries. If
one were however, to go to the base of the matter, one would see that in the time of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬women were
not banned from this social sphere, in fact they were, as evident from the hadith before this, regular visitors to the
mosque, which was the very base of muslim social, political and collective life. In this hadith further evidence is
provided that women were encouraged to be active participants of muslim society as a whole, and they were not
expected to be caged within four walls, rather they were expected to run through the veins of societal life albeit
maintaining the rules of purdah and gender segregation while enjoying this social participation.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الحٌض‬6 Menstrual Period
Chapter: The participation of menstruating women in the two Eid festivals and in religious gatherings of Muslims and their isolation from the Musalla (prayer place) (23) ‫شهُو ِد‬ ُ ‫باب‬
‫ َوٌَعْ َت ِز ْلنَ ْالمُصَ لَّى‬، َ‫ َودَ عْ َو َة ْالمُسْ لِمٌِن‬،‫ْن‬
ِ ٌ َ‫ِض ْالعٌِد‬
ِ ‫ْالحَ ائ‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 324
Muslim a much shorter hadith with a similar subject matter
‫ كتاب صالة العٌدٌن‬8 The Book of Prayer - Two Eids
Chapter: It Is Permissible For Women To Go Out To The 'Id Prayer And Attend The Khutbah, Separated From The Men (1) ‫شهُو ِد ْال ُخ ْط َب ِة‬
ُ ‫ْن إِلَى ْالمُصَ لَّى َو‬
ِ ٌ َ‫ُوج ال ِّذنسَا ِء ًِ ْالعٌِد‬
ِ ‫باب ِذ ْك ِر إِبَاحَ ِة ُخر‬
‫ال‬ ٌ ‫ار َق‬
ِ َ‫ات لِلرِّذ ج‬ ِ ‫ُم َف‬
Sahih Muslim 890 c
 Hadith Thirty One

Ties of Kinship

ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َ ‫ أَ َّْ َسع‬،‫ أََٔظُ ث ُْٓ َِبٌِ ٍه‬ِٟٔ‫بي أَ ْخجَ َش‬

َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ة‬
ٍ ‫َب‬ٙ‫ ع َِٓ اث ِْٓ ِش‬،ًٍْ ١َ‫ ع َْٓ ُعم‬،‫ْش‬ ُ ١ٌٍَّ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ا‬،‫ ٍْش‬١‫ ث ُْٓ ثُ َى‬َٝ١ ْ‫َؾ‬٠ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب‬
." َُّٗ ‫صًْ َس ِؽ‬ ِ َ١ٍْ َ ،ِٖ ‫ أَصَ ِش‬ِٟ ٌَُٗ َ ‫ُ ْٕ َغأ‬٠َٚ ،ِٗ ِ‫ ِس ْصل‬ِٟ ٌَُٗ َ‫ُ ْج َغط‬٠ ْْ َ‫بي " َِ ْٓ أَ َؽتَّ أ‬ َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫هللا ع‬
Narrated Anas

The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be
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extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.”

Notes

A beautiful hadith which not only enjoins but encourages the maintaining of relations and the ties of

kinship. Such ties are easily severed, on the basis of myriad issues, however, to observe patience in the face of trials
inflicted by relatives is a virtue which will not only be rewarded in the Hereafter, but will also find its reward in this
world.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب األدب‬78 Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)
Chapter: Whoever was made wealthy because of keeping good relations with his kith and kin (12) ‫الرِّذز ِق ِبصِ لَ ِة الرَّ ح ِِم‬ ْ ًِ ‫باب مَنْ بُسِ َط لَ ُه‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5986
Muslim,
‫ كتاب البر والصلة واآلداب‬45 The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship
Chapter: Upholding Ties Of Kinship, And The Prohibition Of Severing Them (6) ‫باب صِ لَ ِة الرَّ ح ِِم َو َتحْ ِر ٌِم َقطِ ٌعَ تِهَا‬
Reference : Sahih Muslim 2557 b
 Hadith Thirty Two

Gifts

َِٓ ‫ هللا عٕٗ ـ ع‬ٝ‫ َْشحَ ـ سض‬٠‫ ُ٘ َش‬ِٟ‫} ع َْٓ أَث‬،ِٗ ١ِ‫ {ع َْٓ أَث‬،ِّٞ‫ ع َِٓ ْاٌ َّ ْمج ُِش‬،‫ت‬ ٍ ‫ ِر ْئ‬ِٟ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب اث ُْٓ أَث‬،ٍّٟ ٍِ‫َبص ُُ ث ُْٓ َع‬
ِ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ع‬
َ ‫بسحٌ ٌِ َغ‬
." ‫ْ ِشْ ِعَٓ َشب ٍح‬ٌََٛٚ ،‫َب‬ِٙ‫بسر‬ ِ ‫َب ِٔ َغب َا ْاٌ ُّ ْغٍِ َّب‬٠ " ‫بي‬
َ ‫د الَ رَؾْ مِ َش َّْ َع‬ َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫إٌَّج‬
Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "O Muslim women! None of you should look down upon the gift sent by her she-neighbor,
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even if it were the trotters of the sheep (fleshless part of legs)."

Notes

The importance of maintaining the ties of brotherhood in the Ummah is stressed upon in many ahadith, and one of
the best ways to improve and maintain these ties is the exchange of gifts. This hadith exhorts us to appreciate and
accept with grace whatever gift we’re given, be it a valuable present or a meager offering. It is a common practice in
some cultures to assess a gift by its value and not by the spirit behind it. This is discouraged in Islam as this practice is
detrimental to the spirit of brotherhood, and it places a price tag on mutual relations instead of basing them on love
and affection. The second important lesson in this hadith is the ties between neighbors, whereby the exchange of
gifts between relatives is a common practice, but we are also encouraged to not overlook our neighbors in the
sharing of gifts. Hence, Islam emphasizes the communal bond, and a community living in harmony is indeed a factor
contributing to a harmonious society.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب الهبة و لها والتحرٌض علٌها‬51 Gifts
Chapter: Superiority of giving gifts (1)
Sahih al-Bukhari 2566
Muslim
‫ كتاب الزكاة‬12 The Book of Zakat
ِ ‫ٌِل َوالَ ُت ْم َت َن ُع مِنَ ْال َقل‬
Chapter: Encouragement to give in charity even if it is a little, and a little should not be withheld because one thinks it is too little (29) ‫ٌِل‬ ِ ‫ث عَ لَى الصَّدَ َق ِة َولَ ْو بِ ْال َقل‬
‫باب ْالحَ ِّذ‬
ِ ‫الِحْ تِ َق‬
‫ار ِه‬
Sahih Muslim 1030
 Hadith Thirty Three

Rights of Servants

ِٗ ِِ َ‫ ُغال‬ٍَٝ‫ َع‬َٚ ‫ ِٗ ثُشْ دًا‬١ْ ٍَ‫ْذ َع‬ ُ ٠َ‫بي َسأ‬ َ َ‫ ل‬،ٍّ‫ َرس‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،‫س‬ُٚ ِ ‫ ع َِٓ ْاٌ َّ ْعش‬، ُ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ااَ ْع َّش‬،ِٟ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬،‫ص‬ ٍ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُع َّ ُش ث ُْٓ َؽ ْف‬
ُُِّٗ ُ‫َذ أ‬ ْ ٔ‫ َوب‬َٚ ،ٌَ َ‫َٓ َسع ًٍُ َوال‬١ْ َ‫ث‬َٚ ِٟٕ١ْ َ‫بي َوبَْ ث‬ َ َ‫ َم‬.‫ْ ثًب خَ َش‬َٛ‫زَُٗ ص‬١ْ َ‫أَ ْعط‬َٚ ،ً‫َذ ُؽٍَّخ‬ ْ ٔ‫خَزدَ َ٘ َزا ٍََجِ ْغزَُٗ َوب‬ ْ َ‫ْ أ‬ٌَٛ ‫ذ‬ ُ ٍْ ُ‫ثُشْ دًا َم‬
ْٓ ِِ َ‫بي " أَ َِٕ ٍْذ‬ ُ ٍْ ُ‫ ل‬." ‫ " أَ َعبثَجْذَ ُالًَٔب‬ٌِٟ ‫بي‬
َ َ‫ ل‬.ُْ ‫ذ َٔ َع‬ َ َ‫عٍُ َم‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ إٌَّج‬ٌَِٝ‫ ئ‬ِٟٔ‫َب َ َز َو َش‬ْٕٙ ِِ ‫ذ‬ ُ ٍْ َِٕ ،ً‫َّخ‬١ِّ ‫أَ ْع َغ‬
ُْ ُ٘ ،ُْ ‫بي " َٔ َع‬َ َ‫ َ٘ ِز ِٖ ِِ ْٓ ِوجَ ِش اٌ ِّغِّٓ ل‬ِٟ‫ٓ َعب َعز‬١ ِ ‫ ِؽ‬ٍَٝ‫ذ َع‬ ُ ٍْ ُ‫ ل‬." ٌ‫َّخ‬١ٍِِ٘ ‫هَ َعب‬١ِ ‫بي " ئَِّٔهَ ا ِْ ُش ٌؤ‬ َ َ‫ ل‬.ُْ ‫ذ َٔ َع‬ ُ ٍْ ُ‫ ل‬." ِٗ ِِّ ُ‫أ‬
ُُٗ‫ُ َىٍِّف‬٠ َ‫ال‬َٚ ، ُ‫َ ٍْجَظ‬٠ ‫ ٍُْجِ ْغُٗ ِِ َّّب‬١ٌْ َٚ ،ًُ‫َأْ ُو‬٠ ‫ُط ِع ُّْٗ ِِ َّّب‬
ْ ١ٍْ َ ِٖ ‫َ ِذ‬٠ َ‫هللاُ أَخَ بُٖ رَؾْ ذ‬
َّ ًَ ‫ َ َّ ْٓ َع َع‬،ُْ ‫ ُى‬٠‫ ِذ‬٠ْ َ‫هللاُ رَؾْ ذَ أ‬ َّ ُُ ٍَُٙ‫ َع َع‬،ُْ ‫أُ ُى‬َٛ ‫ئِ ْخ‬
." ِٗ ١ْ ٍَ‫ُ ِع ُْٕٗ َع‬١ٍْ َ ُُٗ‫َ ْغٍِج‬٠ ‫ َا ِ ْْ َوٍَّفَُٗ َِب‬،ُُٗ‫َ ْغٍِج‬٠ ‫َِِٓ ْاٌ َع َّ ًِ َِب‬
Narrated by Ma'rur

I saw Abu Dhar wearing a Burd (garment) and his slave too was wearing a Burd, so I said (to Abu Dhar), "If you take
this (Burda of your slave) and wear it (along with yours), you will have a nice suit (costume) and you may give him
another garment." Abu Dhar said, "There was a quarrel between me and another man whose mother was a non-Arab
and I called her bad names. The man mentioned (complained about) me to the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said,

"Did you abuse so-and-so?" I said, "Yes" He ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Did you call his mother bad names?" I said, "Yes". He ‫ﷺ‬
said, "You still have the traits of (the Pre-lslamic period of) ignorance." I said. "(Do I still have ignorance) even now in
my old age?" He ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Yes, they (slaves or servants) are your brothers, and Allah has put them under your
command. So the one under whose hand Allah has put his brother, should feed him of what he eats, and give him
dresses of what he wears, and should not ask him to do a thing beyond his capacity. And if at all he asks him to do a
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hard task, he should help him therein.”

Notes

The last words of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬were indeed about the prayers and the servants, and that should be enough to
instill the importance of giving due rights to both. This hadith explains in detail the rights of the servant and the
obligations of the master. Many of us are negligent towards the well being of our employees, while the beauty of our
religion is that it enjoins that we should in fact be treating them as equals, giving them the respect and honor which
Allah has accorded to each human being.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب األدب‬78 Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)
Chapter: Calling bad names and cursing (44) ‫ب َواللَّعْ ِن‬ ِ ‫باب مَا ٌُ ْنهَى مِنَ ال ِّذسبَا‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 6050
Muslim
‫ كتاب األٌمان‬27 The Book of Oaths
Chapter: Feeding a slave what one eats and clothing him as one clothes oneself, and not burdening him with more than he bear (10) ‫عَام ْال َممْلُوكِ ِممَّا ٌَأْ ُك ُل َوإِ ْلبَاسِ ِه َممَّا ٌ َْلبَسُ َوالَ ٌُ َكلِّذفُ ُه‬ ْ
ِ ‫باب إِط‬
‫مَا ٌ َْغلِ ُب ُه‬
Sahih Muslim 1661 a
Abi Dawud (slightly shorter version)
‫ كتاب األدب‬43 General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)
Chapter: Regarding the rights of slaves (134) ِ‫باب ًِ حَ ِّذق ْال َممْلُوك‬
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 5158
 Hadith Thirty Four

Rights of Guests

َ ٔ‫ذ أُ ُر‬
،ٜ‫َب‬ َ َ‫ أََُّٔٗ ل‬،َِِّٞٚ ‫ْؼ ْاٌ َعذ‬
ْ ‫بي َع ِّ َع‬ ٍ ٠‫ ُش َش‬ِٟ‫ ع َْٓ أَث‬،‫ ٍذ‬١‫ َع ِع‬ِٟ‫ ِذ ث ِْٓ أَث‬١‫ ع َْٓ َع ِع‬،‫ْش‬ ٌ ١ٌَ ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب‬،‫ ٍذ‬١‫جَخُ ث ُْٓ َع ِع‬١ْ َ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب لُز‬
َْ ‫ُ ْى ِش‬١ٍْ َ ‫خ ِش‬٢‫ا‬
ِ َِ َْٛ١ٌ‫ ْا‬َٚ ِ‫بّلِل‬
َّ ِ‫ ُْإ ِِ ُٓ ث‬٠ َْ‫بي " َِ ْٓ َوب‬ َ َ‫عٍُ َم‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫َٓ رَ َىٍَّ َُ َسع‬١‫ ِؽ‬ٜ‫َب‬َ ٕ١ْ ‫ َع‬،‫د‬ ْ ‫ْص َش‬ َ ‫أَث‬َٚ
َُٛ َٙ َ‫ َسا َا َرٌِه‬َٚ َْ‫ ٍَّبَ َ َّب َوب‬٠َ‫َب َخُ صَالَصَخُ أ‬١ ِّ‫اٌي‬َٚ ُُٗ‫ٍَز‬١ْ ٌََٚ ُُِٗ َْٛ٠ " ‫بي‬ َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
َ َ‫هللاِ ل‬ َ ‫َب َسع‬٠ ُُٗ‫ َِب َعبئِضَ ر‬َٚ ‫ا‬ٌُٛ‫ لَب‬. " َُٗ‫فَُٗ َعبئِضَ ر‬١ْ ‫ض‬ َ
"‫ذ‬ َ ُ ْ
ْ ُّ ْ‫َص‬١ٌِ ْٚ‫شًا أ‬١ْ َ‫َمًْ خ‬١ٍَ ‫خ ِش‬٢‫ا‬ ْ َّ
ِ َِ َْٛ١ٌ‫ا‬َٚ ِ‫ ُْإ ِِ ُٓ ثِبّلِل‬٠ َْ‫ َِ ْٓ َوب‬- ‫بي‬ ٌ
َ َ‫ل‬َٚ - ِٗ ١ْ ٍَ‫ص َذلَخ َع‬ َ
Abd Shuraib al-Adawi reported:

My ears listened and my eyes saw when Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬spoke and said: He who believes in Allah and the
hereafter should show respect to the guest even with utmost kindness and courtesy. They said: Messenger of Allah
‫ﷺ‬, what is this utmost kindness and courtesy? He ‫ ﷺ‬replied: It is for a day and a night. Hospitality extends for
three days, and what is beyond that is a Sadaqa for him; and he who believes in Allah and the Hereafter should say
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something good or keep quiet.

Notes

This is a beautiful hadith which describes what the rights of both host and guest are. Hospitality is one of the traits of
a noble person, and while people usually treat a guest with respect, the beautiful religion that Islam is, it also
safeguards the rights of the host. This is because there are many hosts who feel the coming of a guest to be a
burden, and many guests who indeed become burdensome for their guests. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬clearly explains here
that the host must treat the guest with respect and offer him the best that is available for the very first day,
continuing to entertain with respect for another three days, after which the responsibility to entertain is finished and
whatever is spent will be counted as charity. This is a cue for the guest to understand that he must not overstay his
welcome and must not expect to be treated beyond the hosts’ means. Another hadith narrated in Sahih Bukhari
x
sheds more light on the topic.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب األدب‬78 Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)
ِ َّ ِ‫باب مَنْ َكانَ ٌ ُْؤمِنُ ب‬
Chapter: Whosoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not harm his neighbor (31) ُ‫اا َو ْالٌ َْو ِم اآلخ ِِر َالَ ٌ ُْؤ ِذ جَ ارَ ه‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 6019
Muslim
‫ كتاب اللقطة‬3 The Book of Lost Property
Chapter: Hospitality etc (3) ‫باب ال ِّذ ٌَا َ ِة َو َنحْ ِوهَا‬
Sahih Muslim 48 b (4513)
Abi Dawud
‫ كتاب األطعمة‬28 Foods (Kitab Al-At'imah)
Chapter: What has been reported about hospitality (5) ‫باب مَا جَ ا َء ًِ ال ِّذ ٌَا َ ِة‬
Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 3748
 Hadith Thirty Five

Protocol of a Fellow Muslim

ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫َأْصُ ُش ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬٠ َ‫ َْشح‬٠‫ ُ٘ َش‬ُٛ‫بي أَث‬

َ َ‫بي ل‬ ِ ‫ ع َِٓ ااَ ْع َش‬،َ‫ َعخ‬١ِ‫ ع َْٓ َع ْعفَ ِش ث ِْٓ َسث‬،‫ْش‬
َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ط‬ ُ ١ٌٍَّ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ا‬،‫ ٍْش‬١‫ ث ُْٓ ثُ َى‬َٝ١ ْ‫َؾ‬٠ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب‬
‫ا‬ُٛٔٛ‫ ُو‬َٚ ،‫ا‬ُٛ‫الَ رَجَب َغي‬َٚ ،‫ا‬ُٛ‫الَ ر ََؾ َّغغ‬َٚ ،‫ا‬ُٛ‫الَ ر ََغ َّغغ‬َٚ ،‫ش‬ ِ ٠‫ َا ِ َّْ اٌظَّ َّٓ أَ ْو َزةُ ْاٌ َؾ ِذ‬،َّٓ َّ‫اٌظ‬َٚ ُْ ‫َّب ُو‬٠ِ‫بي " ئ‬ َ َ‫عٍُ ل‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫هللا ع‬
ْ ‫ ِخ‬ٍَٝ‫َ ْخطُتُ اٌ َّش ُع ًُ َع‬٠ ‫ َال‬َٚ ." ‫أًب‬َٛ ‫ئِ ْخ‬
َ‫َ ْزشُن‬٠ َْٚ‫َ ْٕ ِى َؼ أ‬٠ َّٝ‫ ِٗ َؽز‬١‫طجَ ِخ أَ ِخ‬
Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Beware of suspicion (about others), as suspicion is the falsest talk, and do not spy upon each
other, and do not listen to the evil talk of the people about others' affairs, and do not have enmity with one another,
but be brothers. And none should ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his (Muslim) brother, but one
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should wait till the first suitor marries her or leaves her.“

Notes

Another hadith which outlines some of the etiquettes of a Muslim community, this hadith focuses on some of the
traits which can be destructive towards mutual relations. Suspicion, spying, jealousy and backbiting are all traits
which undermine mutual trust and affection; hence the believers are warned against harboring such sins within
themselves. Moreover, the believers are warned also against eyeing that which belongs to their fellow Muslim
brother. An engagement is considered only a bond of ‘word’ and though it is not a finalized act of marriage, the
believer is strictly told to not even spoil the bond of ’word’ formed by his brother. The crux of this hadith lies within
the words “be brothers”, i.e. form close knit communal bonds and treat each other with the support, protection and
love given to true brothers.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب النكاح‬67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Chapter: None should ask for the hand of a lady who is already engaged to his muslim brother (45) َ‫ حَ َّتى ٌَ ْنكِحَ أَ ْو ٌَدَ ع‬،ِ‫طبُ عَ لَى خ ِْط َب ِة أَخٌِه‬ُ ‫باب الَ ٌ َْخ‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5143, 5144
Muslim slightly shorter version
‫ كتاب البر والصلة واآلداب‬45 The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship
Chapter: The Prohibition Of Suspicion, Spying, Competition, Artificial Inflation Of Prices, And So On (9) ‫ُش َو َنحْ ِوهَا‬ ِ ُ ‫ُّس َوال َّت َنا‬
ِ ‫س َوال َّت َناج‬ َّ ‫باب َتحْ ِرٌم‬
ِ ‫الظنِّذ َوال َّتجَ س‬ ِ
Sahih Muslim 2563 a
 Hadith Thirty Six

Character
ْ‫ش ِح ا ْوزُت‬١ َ ‫ ْاٌ ُّ ِغ‬ٌَِٝ‫َخُ ئ‬٠ٚ‫ب‬ َ ‫بي َوز‬
ِ ‫َت ُِ َع‬ َ ‫ت ْاٌ ُّ ِغ‬
َ َ‫ش ِح ل‬١ ِ ِ‫ َوبر‬،‫سَّا ٍد‬َٚ َْٓ ‫ ع‬،‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب َع ْج ُذ ْاٌ ٍَِّ ِه‬،َ‫أَخ‬ََٛ ‫ ع‬ُٛ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬،ٝ‫ َع‬ُِٛ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب‬
‫ ُدث ُِش‬ِٟ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫َم‬٠ َْ‫عٍُ َوب‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ٟ َّ ِ‫ ِٗ ئِ َّْ َٔج‬١ْ ٌَِ‫َت ئ‬
َ ‫ َ َىز‬.ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ي‬ُٛ
ِ ‫ َِب َع ِّعْذَ ِِ ْٓ َسع‬ٝ َّ ٌَِ‫ئ‬
‫ُ َُّ الَ َِبِٔ َع ٌِ َّب‬ٌٍَّٙ‫ ا‬،ٌ‫ش‬٠‫ ٍا لَ ِذ‬ْٝ ‫ ُوًِّ َش‬ٍَٝ‫ َع‬َٛ ْ٘ َٚ ،‫ٌَُٗ ْاٌ َؾ ّْ ُذ‬َٚ ‫ه‬ ُ ٍْ ُّ ٌ‫ ٌَُٗ ْا‬،ٌَُٗ َ‫ه‬٠‫ؽْ َذُٖ الَ َش ِش‬َٚ ،ُ‫هللا‬
َّ َّ‫صالَ ٍح " الَ ئٌََِٗ ئِال‬َ ًِّ‫ُو‬
‫ َو ْض َش ِح‬َٚ ،‫بي‬ َ ِ‫ ع َْٓ ل‬َْٕٝٙ َ٠ َْ‫ ِٗ ئَُِّٔٗ َوب‬١ْ ٌَِ‫َت ئ‬
َ َ‫ل‬َٚ ً١ َ ‫ َوز‬َٚ ." ‫َ ْٕفَ ُع َرا ْاٌ َغ ِّذ ِِ ْٕهَ ْاٌ َغ ُّذ‬٠ َ‫ال‬َٚ ، َ‫ ٌِ َّب ََِٕعْذ‬َٟ ‫ْط‬ ِ ‫الَ ُِع‬َٚ ، َ‫ْذ‬١َ‫أَ ْعط‬
ِ ‫َ٘ب‬َٚ ‫ َِ ْٕ ٍع‬َٚ ‫د‬
.‫د‬ ِ ‫ ْأ ِد ْاٌجََٕب‬َٚ َٚ ‫د‬ ِ ‫َب‬َِّٙ ُ‫ق اا‬ٛ ِ ُ‫ ع َْٓ ُعم‬َْٕٝٙ َ٠ َْ‫ َوب‬َٚ ،‫بي‬ ِ َّ ٌ‫ضب َع ِخ ْا‬َ ِ‫ئ‬َٚ ،‫اي‬
ِ َ‫اٌغُّإ‬
Narrated by Warrad

(The clerk of Al-Mughira) Muawiya wrote to Al-Mughira 'Write to me what you have heard from Allah's Apostle
‫ﷺ‬.' So he (Al-Mughira) wrote to him: Allah's Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬used to say at the end of each prayer: "La ilaha illallahu
wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahul Mulku, wa lahul Hamdu wa huwa ala kulli shai'in qadir. 'Allahumma la mani'aa lima
a'taita, wala mu'tiya lima mana'ta, wala yanfa'u dhuljaddi minkal-jadd." He also wrote to him that the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬
used to forbid (1) Qil and Qal (idle useless talk or that you talk too much about others), (2) Asking too many
questions (in disputed Religious matters) (3) And wasting one's wealth by extravagance (4) and to be undutiful to
one's mother (5) and to bury the daughters alive (6) and to prevent your favors (benevolence to others (i.e. not to
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pay the rights of others (7) And asking others for something (except when it is unavoidable).

Notes

Another hadith which emphasizes on character building, this is a narration which lists the common follies most men
indulge in.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب االعتصام بالكتاب والسنة‬96 Holding Fast to the Qur'an and Sunnah
Chapter: Asking too many questions and troubling with what does not concern one (3) ‫ال َو َت َكلُّفِ مَا الَ ٌَعْ نٌِ ِه‬ ِ ‫باب مَا ٌُ ْكرَ هُ مِنْ َك ْثرَ ِة الس َُّؤ‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 7292
Muslim shorter version
‫ كتاب األق ٌة‬30 The Book of Judicial Decisions
Chapter: The prohibition of asking too much with no need. The prohibition of withholding the rights of others and asking of them, which means refusing to give others their
rights and asking for that to which one is not entitles
ِ ‫ت َوه َُو االِ ْمتِ َنا ُع مِنْ أَدَ ا ِء حَ ٍّقق لَ ِز َم ُه أَ ْو َطلَبُ مَا الَ ٌَسْ َت‬
(5) ‫حقُّ ُه‬ ٍ ‫باب ال َّنهًِْ عَ نْ َك ْثرَ ِة ْالمَسَائ ِِل مِنْ َ ٌ ِْر حَ اجَ ٍة َوال َّنهًِْ عَ نْ َم ْن ٍع َوهَا‬
Sahih Muslim 593 f (4483)
 Thirty Seven

Women and Travelling

ٝ‫ ـ سض‬ٞ َّ ‫ ٍذ ْاٌ ُخ ْذ ِس‬١‫ْذ أَثَب َع ِع‬ ُ ‫بي َع ِّع‬

َ َ‫َب ٍد ل‬٠‫ ِص‬ٌَٝ َِْٛ ،َ‫ْذ لَضَ َعخ‬ ُ ‫ َع ِّع‬،‫ ع َْٓ َع ْج ِذ ْاٌ ٍَِّ ِه‬،ُ‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب ُش ْعجَخ‬،‫ ِذ‬١ٌَِٛ ٌ‫ ْا‬ُٛ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب أَث‬
‫َب‬ٙ‫ ِْٓ ئِالَّ َِ َع‬١َِ َْٛ٠ ُ‫بي " الَ رُ َغب ِ ِش ْاٌ َّشْ أَح‬ َ َ‫ ل‬َِٟٕٕ‫ َٔ ْم‬َٚ َِٟٕٕ‫عٍُ َأ َ ْع َغ ْج‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫ ص‬ِّٟ ِ‫ِّس ثِأَسْ ثَ ٍع ع َِٓ إٌَّج‬ ُ ‫ َُؾذ‬٠ ‫هللا عٕٗ ـ‬
ْ ‫ ر‬َّٝ‫ ِْٓ ثَ ْع َذ اٌصُّ جْؼ َؽز‬١َ‫صالَر‬
‫َطٍُ َع‬ َ ‫صالَحَ ثَ ْع َذ‬َ َ‫ال‬َٚ ،ٝ‫ااَضْ َؾ‬َٚ ‫ط ِش‬ ْ ِ‫ ِْٓ ْاٌف‬١َِ َْٛ٠ ِٟ ََ ْٛ‫ص‬َ َ‫ال‬َٚ .ٍَ ‫ َِؾْ َش‬ٚ‫ْ ُر‬َٚ‫َب أ‬ٙ‫ْ ُع‬ٚ َ‫ص‬
ِ
ٝ‫ص‬َ ‫ْغ ِذ ااَ ْل‬ ِ ‫ َِغ‬َٚ َ‫ْغ ِذ ْاٌ َؾ َش ِا‬ ِ ‫ صَالَصَ ِخ َِ َغ‬ٌَِٝ‫الَ رُ َش ُّذ اٌشِّ َؽب ُي ئِالَّ ئ‬َٚ ،‫ُة‬
ِ ‫بع َذ َِغ‬ َ ‫ رَ ْغش‬َّٝ‫ثَ ْع َذ ْاٌ َعصْ ِش َؽز‬َٚ ، ُ‫اٌ َّش ّْظ‬
." ٞ‫ْغ ِذ‬ ِ ‫ َِغ‬َٚ
Narrated by Qaza'a Maula

(freed slave of) Ziyad: I heard Abu Said Al-khudri narrating four things from the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and I appreciated them

very much. He said, conveying the words of the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬. (1) "A woman should not go on a two day journey
except with her husband or a Dhi-Mahram. (2) No fasting is permissible on two days: 'Id-ul-Fitr and 'Id-ul-Adha. (3)
No prayer after two prayers, i.e. after the Fajr prayer till the sunrises and after the 'Asr prayer till the sun sets. (4) Do
not prepare yourself for a journey except to three Mosques, i.e. Al-Masjid-AI-Haram, the Mosque of Aqsa (Jerusalem)
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and my Mosque.”

Notes

This hadith sheds light on multiple issues. The first is the issue of women’s right to travel. Contrary to popular belief,
Islam does give women the freedom to move about to fulfill their needs, but there are also certain limits it puts in
place. One of those is that for a long journey she should be accompanied by a mahram male relative. This clarifies
the misunderstanding held by many in Muslim communities, that a woman should not leave her home at all except if
accompanied by a mahram.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب ل الصالة ى مسجد مكة والمدٌنة‬20 Virtues of Prayer at Masjid Makkah and Madinah
Chapter: The Mosque of Bait-ul-Maqdis (Jerusalem) (6) ‫ِس‬ ِ ‫ت ْال َم ْقد‬
ِ ٌْ ‫ج ِد َب‬
ِ ْ‫باب مَس‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 1197
Muslim a part of the hadith
‫ كتاب الحج‬15 The Book of Pilgrimage
Chapter: A woman travelling with a Mahram for Hajj and other purposes (74) ‫باب سَ َف ِر ْالمَرْ أَ ِة مَعَ مَحْ رَ ٍم إِلَى حَ ٍّقج َو َ ٌ ِْره‬
Sahih Muslim 827 d (3261)
 Thirty Eight

Fragrance

َِٓ ‫ ع‬،‫ظ‬ٍ ١ْ َ‫ ُِْ ث ِْٓ ل‬١َٕ‫ ع َْٓ ُغ‬- َ‫بسح‬

َ َّ ‫ اث ُْٓ ُع‬َٛ َُ٘ٚ - ،‫ذ‬ ٌ ِ‫بي َؽ َّذصََٕب صَبث‬ َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ ٍد‬ُٛ‫ ًُ ث ُْٓ َِ ْغع‬١‫أَ ْخجَ َشَٔب ئِ ْع َّب ِع‬
َ َ‫ ل‬،‫بي َؽ َّذصََٕب خَ بٌِ ٌذ‬
‫َب‬ٙ‫ؾ‬٠ ْ ‫د َ َّش‬
ِ ‫ا ِِ ْٓ ِس‬ٚ‫َ ِغ ُذ‬١ٌِ ٍَ َْٛ‫ ل‬ٍَٝ‫َّد َع‬ ْ ‫ُّ َّب ا ِْ َشأَ ٍح ا ْعزَ ْعطَ َش‬٠َ‫عٍُ " أ‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫ هللا ع‬ٍٝ‫هللاِ ص‬ َّ ‫ ُي‬ُٛ‫بي َسع‬ َ َ‫ ل‬،ِّٞ‫ااَ ْش َع ِش‬
َ َ‫بي ل‬
" ٌ‫َخ‬١ِٔ‫ صَ ا‬َٟ ِٙ َ
Narrated by Al-Ash’ari

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said: “Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance
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is a zaaniyah.”

Notes

As stated earlier, while traditional societies may impose bans on a woman’s movements outside her house, Islam
gives her the freedom to leave the house to fulfill her needs; however it does lay down certain ground rules, which
are meant to counter the issues such freedom might create. Women are therefore instructed to not be in a state of
adornment when they leave the house. Chastity is one of the fundamentals of Islam, and the religion shuts all doors
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to immodesty. One of the outcomes of immodesty is Zina. There are various forms and levels of Zina, and one of
those forms is clarified in this hadith. Though traditionally zina is commonly translated as adultery, a sin punishable
xii
by lashing and banishment (for the single person) or rajm, i.e. stoning (for the married person and the rapist) it is a
sin which manifests itself in many forms and this is just one form mentioned in this hadith.

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Nasa’i
‫ كتاب الزٌنة من السنن‬48 The Book of Adornment
Chapter: Kinds of Perfume that are Disliked (Makruh) for Women (35) . ‫ب‬ ‫باب مَا ٌُ ْكرَ هُ لِل ِّذنسَا ِء مِنَ ِّذ‬
ِ ٌ‫الط‬
Grade: Hasan (Darussalam)
Sunan an-Nasa'i 5126
 Thirty Nine

Artificial Beauty

،‫د‬ِ ‫اش َّب‬ِ َٛ ٌ‫هللاُ ْا‬ َّ ‫ ع َْٓ َع ْج ِذ‬،َ‫ ع َْٓ ع ٍَْمَ َّخ‬،َُ ١ِ٘ ‫ ع َْٓ ئِث َْشا‬،‫س‬ُٛ
َّ َٓ‫ ٌَ َع‬،ِ‫هللا‬ ٍ ‫ ع َْٓ َِ ْٕص‬،ٌ‫ش‬٠‫ َؽ َّذصََٕب َع ِش‬،ْ‫ب‬ ُ َّ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب ُع ْض‬
ٍٝ‫ ص‬ُّٟ ِ‫ الَ أَ ٌْ َع ُٓ َِ ْٓ ٌَ َعَٓ إٌَّج‬ٌِٟ‫ َِب‬،ٌَٝ‫هللاِ رَ َعب‬
َّ ‫ك‬َ ٍْ َ‫د خ‬ ِ ‫ َِّشا‬١‫ ْاٌ ُّ َغ‬،ْٓ
ِ ‫د ٌِ ٍْ ُؾغ‬
ِ ‫ ْاٌ ُّزَفٍَِّ َغب‬َٚ ‫د‬
ِ ‫صب‬َ ِّّ ََٕ‫ ْاٌ ُّز‬َٚ ،‫د‬
ِ ‫ْ ِش َّب‬َٛ‫ ْاٌ ُّ ْغز‬َٚ
.}ُٖٚ‫ ُي َ ُخ ُز‬ُٛ‫ َِب رَب ُو ُُ اٌ َّشع‬َٚ { ِ‫هللا‬ َّ ‫ة‬ِ ‫ ِوزَب‬ِٟ َٛ ْ٘ َٚ ٍُ‫ع‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫هللا ع‬
Narrated by 'Abdullah

Allah has cursed those women who practise tattooing and those who get themselves tattooed, and those who
remove their face hairs, and those who create a space between their teeth artificially to look beautiful, and such
women as change the features created by Allah. Why then should I not curse those whom the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬has
cursed? And that is in Allah's Book. i.e. His Saying: 'And what the Apostle gives you take it and what he forbids you
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abstain (from it).' (59.7)

Notes

Islam lays great emphasis on the reverence of Allah’s creation, each being is created in the best of images and we
should not attempt to change the physical aspects to suit our own artificial standards. While adornment is permitted
and even encouraged in certain scenarios, any sort of change which would permanently alter the features created by
Allah is strictly forbidden.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب اللباس‬77 Dress
Chapter: Creating artificial spaces between the teeth to look beautiful (82) ‫ت ل ِْلحُسْ ِن‬ ِ ‫باب ْال ُم َت َفلِّذجَ ا‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 5931
Muslim (a much longer version)
‫ كتاب اللباس والزٌنة‬37 The Book of Clothes and Adornment
Chapter: The Prohibition Adding Hair Extensions, Having Them Added, Tattooing, Being Tattooed, An-Namisah, Al-Mutanamisah, Separating Teeth, And Changing The Creation
ِ َّ ‫ت َخ ْل ِق‬
Of Allah (33) ‫هللا‬ ِ ‫ت َو ْالمُغَ ٌِّذرَ ا‬
ِ ‫بَاب َتحْ ِر ٌِم ِعْ ِل ْال َواصِ لَ ِة َو ْالمُسْ َت ْوصِ لَ ِة َو ْال َواشِ َم ِة َو ْالمُسْ َت ْوشِ َم ِة َوال َّنامِصَ ِة َو ْال ُم َت َنمِّذصَ ِة َو ْال ُم َت َفلِّذجَ ا‬
Sahih Muslim 2125 a
Abi Dawud
‫ كتاب الترجل‬35 Combing the Hair (Kitab Al-Tarajjul)
Chapter: Hair Extensions (5) ‫باب ًِ صِ لَ ِة ال َّشعْ ِر‬
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 4169
 Hadith Forty

Women in Hell

ٍٝ‫ ص‬ُّٟ ِ‫بي إٌَّج‬َ َ‫بي ل‬

َ َ‫ ل‬،‫ط‬ ٍ ‫ ع َِٓ اث ِْٓ َعجَّب‬،‫بس‬ ٍ ‫َ َغ‬٠ ِْٓ ‫ ع َْٓ َعطَب ِا ث‬،َُ ٍَ‫ ِذ ث ِْٓ أَ ْع‬٠ْ َ‫ ع َْٓ ص‬،‫ ع َْٓ َِبٌِ ٍه‬،َ‫هللاِ ث ُْٓ َِ ْغٍَ َّخ‬ َّ ‫َؽ َّذصََٕب َع ْج ُذ‬
َ ‫َ ْىفُشْ َْ ْاٌ َع ِش‬٠ " ‫بي‬
َْ ْ‫َ ْىفُش‬٠َٚ ،‫ش‬١ َّ ِ‫َ ْىفُشْ َْ ث‬٠َ‫ً أ‬١
َ َ‫بّلِلِ ل‬ َ ِ‫ ل‬." َْ ْ‫َ ْىفُش‬٠ ‫َب إٌِّ َغب ُا‬ٍِْٙ٘ َ‫بس َا ِ َرا أَ ْوضَ ُش أ‬ ُ ‫عٍُ " أُ ِس‬ٚ ٗ١ٍ‫هللا ع‬
َ ٌَّٕ‫ذ ا‬٠
." ‫ط‬ ُّ َ‫شًا ل‬١ْ َ‫ْذ ِِ ْٕهَ خ‬ُ ٠َ‫ذ َِب َسأ‬ ْ َ‫ ئِؽْ ذَاُ٘ َّٓ اٌ َّذ ْ٘ َش صُ َُّ َسأ‬ٌَِٝ‫ْ أَؽْ َغ ْٕذَ ئ‬ٌَٛ ، َْ‫اإلؽْ َغب‬
ْ ٌَ‫ئًب لَب‬١ْ ‫د ِِ ْٕهَ َش‬ ِ
Narrated by Ibn 'Abbas

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were

ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He ‫ ﷺ‬replied, "They are
ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you
have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will
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say, 'I have never received any good from you.”

Notes

This hadith is a powerful reminder for women to be patient and control their tempers and tongues. No relation can
be a bed of roses and there will always be conflict, whether minor or major. However, women are exhorted to deal
with the conflict in a patient manner, for a biting tongue can further escalate issues rather than resolve them. This in
no way suggests that they must bear abuse at the hands of their spouse; in fact men are also ordered to be gentle to
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their wives . It is rather a call to being patient and grateful in their relationships, for these two qualities sow the
seeds of love and strengthen bonds which leads to marital bliss.

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Bukhari
‫ كتاب اإلٌمان‬2 Belief
Chapter: To be ungrateful to one's husband. And disbelief is of (different grades) lesser (or greater) degrees. (21) ‫ٌر َو ُك ْف ٍر ُدونَ ُك ْف ٍر‬ ِ ِ‫ان ْالعَ ش‬
ِ َ‫باب ُك ْفر‬
Sahih al-Bukhari 29
Muslim (slightly different version of the hadith is narrated by ibn Umar)
‫ كتاب اإلٌمان‬1 The Book of Faith
Chapter: Clarifying that faith decreases with shortcoming in obedience, and the word Kufr may be used with regard to matters other than disbelief in Allah, such as ingratitude
for blessings and not fulfilling one's duties (34) ‫وق‬ ِ َّ ِ‫َان إِ ْطالَ ِق لَ ْفظِ ْال ُك ْف ِر عَ لَى َ ٌ ِْر ْال ُك ْف ِر ب‬
ِ ُ‫اا َك ُك ْف ِر ال ِّذنعْ َم ِة َو ْال ُحق‬ ِ ٌ‫ت َو َب‬ َّ
ِ ‫الطاعَا‬ ِ ‫َان بِ َن ْق‬
ِ ‫صَان اإلٌِم‬
ِ ‫َان ُن ْق‬
ِ ٌ‫باب َب‬
Sahih Muslim 79 a
iBukhari
Book 81 To make the Heart Tender (Ar-Riqaq)
Chapter 6: The deed which is done seeking Allah's Countenance

Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Messenger (‫ )ﷺ‬said, "Allah says, 'I have nothing to give but Paradise as a reward to my believer slave, who, if I cause his dear friend (or relative) to die, remains
patient (and hopes for Allah's Reward).
Sahih al-Bukhari 6424

iiTirmidhi
Book 1 The Book on Purification
Chapter 82: [What Has Been Related] About One Who Awakens To Find Wetness, But He Does Not Recall Having A Wet Dream
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 113

iiiAbi Dawud
Book 12 Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
Chapter 24: Asking a girl’s opinion for nikah
Sunan Abi Dawud 2095
iv Bukhari

Book 67 The Book of Wedlock Kitab an- Nikah.

Chapter 43: Chapter: If a man gives his daughter in marriage while she is averse to it, then such marriage is invalid
Sahih al-Bukhari 5138

v The most comprehensive is this hadith narrated by Tabarani: Addressing Salamah (radhiallaho anha), the nurse of his son Ibrahim (radhiallaho anho), the Prophet
‫ ﷺ‬said, "Does it not please any one of you that if she conceives by her husband and he is satisfied with her that she receives the reward of fasting and vigil for Allah's
sake. And none of the dwellers of Heaven or Earth know about the coolness of her eyes (a unique repose) she will get for the labor pains she suffered. When she delivers,
not mouthful of milk flows from her and not an instance of the child's suck, but that she receives for every suck and mouthful, the reward of a good deed. If she is kept
awake by her child during the night she receives the reward of freeing seventy slaves for the sake of Allah."

The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬then said:

"O Sallamah do you know which women are being referred to? Those who despite piety and enjoying a respectable position obey their husbands and do not belittle
them." (Al-Tabarani)

In another hadith (4472) narrated by Tabarani on the authority of Rabi’I al-ansari the woman who dies in childbirth is listed among the martyrs.

viAbi
Dawud
Book 12 Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
Chapter 42: The Rights Of A Woman Upon Her Husband

Narrated Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri:

I went to the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe
them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them.
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 2144

Bukhari
Book 78 Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)
Chapter43: "...Let not a group scoff at another group.

Narrated `Abdullah bin Zam`a:

The Prophet (‫ )ﷺ‬forbade laughing at a person who passes wind, and said, "How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may
embrace (sleep with) her?" And Hisham said, "As he beats his slave"
Sahih al-Bukhari 6042

Muslim
vii

Book 18 The Book of Divorce

Chapter 9: The Obligation to mourn during the 'Iddah following the death of one's husband, but it is forbidden to mourn for more than three days in other cases
Sahih Muslim 1486 b

Bukhari
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Book 11 The Book of Friday Prayer

Chapter: Chapter (13)

Narrated by Ibn Umar

One of the wives of Umar (bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the 'Isha' prayer in congregation in the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer
as she knew that Umar disliked it, and he has great ghaira (self-respect). She replied, "What prevents him from stopping me from this act?" The other replied, "The
statement of Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬: 'Do not stop Allah's women-slave from going to Allah’s Mosques' prevents him."
Sahih al-Bukhari 900
 Abi Dawud
ix

Book 35 Combing the Hair (Kitab Al-Tarajjul)

Chapter: Women Wearing Perfume When Going Out

Narrated AbuHurayrah:
A woman met him and he found the odour of perfume in her. Her clothes were fluttering in the air. He said: O maid-servant of the Almighty, are you coming from the
mosque? She replied: Yes. He said: For it did you use perfume? She replied: Yes. He said: I heard my beloved AbulQasim ‫ ﷺ‬say: The prayer of a woman who uses
perfume for this mosque is not accepted until she returns and takes a bath like that of sexual defilement (perfectly).
Grade : Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 4174

Muslim
Book 4 The Book of Prayers
Chapter 30: Women Going Out To The Masjid So Long As No Fitnah Results From That; and They Should Not Go Out Wearing Perfume

Zainab, the wife of Abdullah (b. 'Umar), reported:

The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said to us: When any one of you comes to the mosque, she should not apply perfume.
Sahih Muslim 443 b

xBukhari
Book 78 The Book of Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab)
Chapter 85: To honour guest and to serve him

Narrated by Abu Shuraih Al-Ka'bi

Allah's Apostle ‫ ﷺ‬said, Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should serve his guest generously. The guest's reward is: To provide him with a superior type of
food for a night and a day and a guest is to be entertained with food for three days, and whatever is offered beyond that, is regarded as something given in charity. And it
is not lawful for a guest to stay with his host for such a long period so as to put him in a critical position."
Sahih al-Bukhari 6135

xiBukhari
Book 82 Book of Divine Will (Al-Qadar)
Chapter 9: "And a ban is laid on every town which We have destroyed that they shall not return." " ... None of your people will believe, except those who have believed,
already ..." " ... And they will beget none but wicked disbelievers.”

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

I did not see anything so resembling minor sins as what Abu Huraira said from the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬, who said, "Allah has written for the son of Adam his inevitable share of
adultery whether he is aware of it or not: The adultery of the eye is the looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the adultery of the tongue is to utter (what it
is unlawful to utter), and the innerself wishes and longs for (adultery) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting to the temptation."
Sahih al-Bukhari 6612

Muslim
Book 46 The Book of Destiny
Chapter 5: The Son Of Adam's Share Of Zina Etc. Is Decreed For Him

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬as saying. Allah fixed the very portion of adultery which a man will indulge in. There would be no escape from it. The
adultery of the eye is the lustful look and the adultery of the ears is listening to voluptuous (song or talk) and the adultery of the tongue is licentious speech and the
adultery of the hand is the lustful grip (embrace) and the adultery of the feet is to walk (to the place) where he intends to commit adultery and the heart yearns and
desires which he may or may not put into effect.
Sahih Muslim 2657 b

Tirmidhi
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Book 17 The Book on Legal Punishments (Al-Hudud)

Chapter 22 What Has Been Relates About A Woman Who Is Forced To Commit Adultery

Narrated 'Alqamah bin Wa'il Al-Kindi:

From his father: "A women went out during the time of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬to go to Salat, but she was caught by a man and he had relations with her, so she screamed and
he left. Then a man came across her and she said: 'That man has done this and that to me', then she came across a group of Emigrants (Muhajirin) and she said: 'That
man did this and that to me.' They went to get the man she thought had relations with her, and they brought him to her. She said: 'Yes, that's him.' So they brought him to
the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬, and when he ‫ ﷺ‬ordered that he be stoned, the man who had relations with her, said: 'O Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬, I am the one who had

relations with her.' So he ‫ ﷺ‬said to her: 'Go, for Allah has forgiven you.' Then he ‫ ﷺ‬said some nice words to the man (who was brought). And he ‫ ﷺ‬said to the man

who had relations with her: 'Stone him.' Then he ‫ ﷺ‬said: 'He has repented a repentance that, if the inhabitants of Al-Madinah had repented with, it would have been
accepted from them.'"
Grade : Hasan (Darussalam)
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1454
 Ibn Majah
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Book 9 The Chapters on Marriage

Chapter 50: Good Treatment of Women
It was narrated from Ibn 'Abbas that:
The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said: "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives."
Grade : Hasan (Darussalam)
Sunan Ibn Majah 1977

Abi Dawud
Book 12 The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah)
Chapter 42: The Rights Of A Woman Upon Her Husband

Narrated Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri:

Mu'awiyah asked: Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬, what is the right of the wife of one of us over him? He ‫ ﷺ‬replied: That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her
when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.
Abu Dawud said: The meaning of "do not revile her" is, as you say: "May Allah revile you".
Grade: Hasan Sahih (Al-Albani)
Sunan Abi Dawud 2142