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Empowerment and

Re-affirmation of Paternal Abilities (ERPAT)


Social Technology Bureau

Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD)
Table of Contents

Message …………………………………………….i
Foreword …………………………………………...iii

Chapter 1 : An Overview of ERPAT ………………....
Chapter 2 : The Field Office Technical Staff ……….
Chapter 3 : The LGU Implementers ………………...
Chapter 4 : The Father Leaders ……………………..
Chapter 5 : Conducting the ERPAT Modules ………
Module I: Understanding Myself` as a Person …….
Module II: Accepting Your Role as a Father ……….
Module III: Becoming Your Wife’s Bestfriend ……..
Module IV: Fathers as Child Caregivers …………….
Module V: Promoting Family Spirituality ………….
Module VI: Fathers as Advocate in the Promotion
of Peace in the Family ...………………..
Module VII: Fathers as Advocate in Promoting a
Drug-Free Home ………………………..
Module VIII: Fathers as Advocate in the Prevention
of HIV-AIDS …………………………...
Module IX: Fathers as Advocate in Promoting
Positive Discipline……………………..
Appendices .................................................................
References .................................................................

The Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD)

recognizes the significant role of fathers in child care and
contribution to familial tasks. Fathers should be viewed not only
as providers but also as active partners in child rearing. If their
nurturing capabilities are harnessed and strengthened, we are
certain that they will contribute favorably in promoting and
supporting the physical, emotional, social and intellectual development of their

To realize this, the Manual on Empowerment and Re-affirmation of Paternal

Abilities (ERPAT) was developed as a strategy to provide a venue where fathers’
capabilities will be maximized to enable them to meet the challenges of active

Likewise, the ERPAT Manual was enhanced to clarify the roles and
responsibilities of technical staff in the field offices, local government unit (LGU)
implementers and father leaders in the optimism that this will be effectively
implemented at the local level. Further, the inclusion of positive discipline as
additional module is another valuable input in the enhanced manual to encourage
parents to practice non-violent ways of disciplining children.

To this end, I would like to extend the Department’s warm appreciation for the
continued efforts of the LGU implementers and their local counterparts who
continue to be committed to the pursuit of building quality family lives through the
implementation of the ERPAT Manual in their respective localities. Their sharing of
experiences in the implementation of the previous manual has contributed in the
enhancement and development of this new one.

I would also like to acknowledge our technical staff for sharing their expertise for
the completion of this manual - your passion and hope of having more effective
and responsible fathers will no doubt, contribute to building stable and nurturing
Filipino families.

Parenting is an opportunity for every person to take on

the challenges of raising children. However, while
mothers are regarded as loving, supportive and devoted
to their children, fathers are seen to be too preoccupied
with their role and responsibility in providing financial
support for their family that oftentimes, they do not take an active part in
childrearing. Fathers are also seen as stricter than mothers, for they are
expected to take on the task of disciplining their children and shaping
them to become responsible, dependable adults.

While this may hold true to some, this does not mean that all fathers are
incapable of showing their love, concern and affection for their children.
Fathers can and do actively share parenting responsibility with their
spouses through different ways – by playing with their children, listening
to their problems, helping them with their assignments and the like –
proving that they are capable of providing more than just financial support
to their families. It is then highly encouraged that the childrearing skills of
both parents should complement and be at par with each other to ensure
their children’s optimal growth and development.

Thus, in order to strengthen the role and capacity of fathers as key

partners in child survival, development, protection and participation, the
Empowerment and Re-affirmation of Paternal Abilities (ERPAT) is
developed. The ERPAT strategy gives importance to the responsibilities
of a father in the family. It also highlights the prominence of the father’s
irrefutable role in childrearing.

The Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD) has

enhanced the ERPAT Manual to ensure that the Field Office Staff, Local
Government Unit Implementers, and Father Leaders are guided
accordingly, leading to a convergence of efforts in the implementation of
ERPAT. This Manual contains specific guides, strategies, approaches and
modules for the conduct of community-based sessions for sustaining
ERPAT. With this, we hope that the ERPAT father will appreciate and
recognize his vital roles in the family as a responsible co-parent with his
wife and a loving nurturer to his children.

Dear ERPAT Stakeholder;

Welcome to the most exciting but often times not-so-easy world of


In a country like ours, fathers are almost always the ‘hardest–to–reach’

both inside and outside the home – when it comes to childcare and
development. Tatay (Tagalog for father), however, is not at fault here. In
a lot of cases, he simply does not know how. Society’s predefined role for
the “man-of-the-house” dictates that he just has to bring-home-the-bacon
and win the bread. Beyond these, most fathers are left clueless as to
what to do to be more effective and responsive parents.

Effective and responsive fathering refers to how a father performs

his parental roles and responsibilities to his family, most especially to his
children. It also refers to the kind of relationships he maintains with each
member of his family; and with this relationships, how he is able to
encourage the family to perform each one’s roles and functions.

Such is the intention of Empowerment and Re-affirmation of

Paternal Abilities or more popularly known now in many parts of the
country as ERPAT.
If you are:

1.) A DSWD Field Office Technical Staff;

2.) A Program Implementer (most likely a social worker who

works with local government; or even a non-government
organization); or

3.) A Father-volunteer (someone taking time out to help other

fathers like you to better themselves);

Then, this manual was written with you in mind!

Thank you!

Whoever you may be, we’re very sure that your interest to use
this manual is enough reason to thank you for answering the call to reach
out to fathers who, in their otherwise quiet and passive stance in the
family, have long been wanting to be actively involved in their family’s
everyday lives more than ‘just providing’.
About ERPAT (The Manual)

This manual is a synthesis of many years of experience since

ERPAT was first conceived in 1995. It attempts to capture what hundreds
of fathers in the Philippines have experienced especially designed for
them and share them all with you.

To enhance the manual further, ERPAT experiences in many

regions were assessed through a writeshop organized by the Social
Technology Bureau and participated in by DSWD field office technical
staff. For three days the participants labored to enhance the manual first
published in 2004.

The writeshop participants:

 Shared their personal and professional experiences in

implementing ERPAT;
 Exchanged success stories of fathers who underwent the
ERPAT experiences; and,
 Wrote additional contents for the enhanced manual

The enhanced manual thus offer a wider timeline, which includes

the tasks of the three main users / readers namely; the (1) field office
technical staff, (2) the Local Government Unit/implementer or NGO
volunteer and the (3) father–leader.

Objectives of the Manual

This manual aims to help the reader / user to initiate and sustain
ERPAT at all levels. Specifically, this manual aims to provide you:

a) An adequate background information and materials on ERPAT

as a strategy, as a service and as an organization;

b) A ready-to-use set of training modules for your ERPAT sessions:


c) A basic resource information that you may access in the course

of program implementation.
d) Inside the Manual

This Manual contains a total of five (5) interdependent parts.

 Chapter one gives you an overview of ERPAT;

 Chapter two provides information on how to go about introducing

ERPAT to the LGUs;

 Chapter three gives you a step-by-step procedure in implementing

ERPAT specific to the LGU implementer;

 Chapter four defines roles and functions of ERPAT volunteers,

leaders and other stakeholders; and,

 Chapter five takes you to the ERPAT training modules.

How to use the Manual

Using this manual should be easy for you. All it takes is for you to:

Read when you see this icon

Write when you see this icon, and

 Do when you see this icon

From time to time, you will also encounter (instruction notes in

parenthesis like this one) that tells you to either copy or photocopy a
page or document, and will see shaded boxes  that contain more
information in the form of stories and anecdotes.

At this point we’re very sure that you’re about to begin your
journey. So again welcome to exciting world of fathering, and we hope
that you enjoy using this manual.
Chapter One: An Overview of ERPAT

Looking back the ERPAT Timeline:


 The then Bureau of Family and Community Welfare

conceptualized a Parent Effectiveness Session especially
designed for fathers.

 This strategy was called Empowerment and Re-affirmation of

Paternal Abilities Training (ERPAT).

 ERPAT was developed to address the problem of fathers’ non-

attendance to the Parent Effectiveness Service (PES) sessions.

 The first ones to benefit from ERPAT were DSWD male



 The Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD)

underwent a repositioning.

 The then Programs and Project Bureau took ERPAT as a core

service for fathers, enriching it by going beyond the initial intent.

 Under the PPB, ERPAT addressed the increased incidence of

domestic violence, gender role issues and father’s inadequate
parenting capability.

 PPB pilot–tested ERPAT in three (3) regions namely, Regions X,

VI and V (specifically the cities of Gingoog, Kabankalan and

 ERPAT was implemented within the Family Life Resource

Centers and in selected communities.
 The first group of ERPAT father-leaders and volunteers were

 A writeshop among the academe, faith-based groups, NGOs,

GOs, and POs enhanced ERPAT’s content.

 In a Regional Parent Education Congress, further inputs for

ERPAT materialized given that the Congress’ theme included ‘the
important role of fathers in securing a drug-free home.

 These series of revisions brought about eight basic training



 LGU Implementers and father-leaders from the Visayas and

Mindanao Clusters participated in a trainers’ training.

 The participants from this training committed to implement

ERPAT in their respective regions and provinces. The
participants also planned and agreed to hold an assessment on
the implementation of ERPAT towards the end of the same year.

 The Social Technology Bureau conducted a quick survey to
assess the ERPAT experience; yielding the following findings:

- Of the 17 regions nationwide, 11 regions implemented the

ERPAT service to 36% of the provinces in the country
composed of 66 cities and municipalities.

- A total of 363 ERPAT trainings conducted in 475 barangays

benefited a total of 8,401 fathers.

- More than half of the fathers trained came from Region VI

equivalent to 56% of the participants followed by Region IX
and Region X at 19% and 15%, respectively.

- The ERPAT trainings conducted resulted to the organization

of 359 ERPAT associations nationwide with a total of 8,777
individual members.
- 32% of ERPAT organizations are active with commitment,
sustained interest and active participation of father-leaders
and members as the main reasons cited

- Region IX conducted ERPAT for 38 batches and sustained 35

of them as associations attributed to their regular conduct of
meetings and formulation of organizational thrust and

- Support services are very important in sustaining the

operation of the ERPAT organization.

- Almost 80% of the ERPAT organizations are aware of their

role as fathers through the conduct of awareness and
information campaign.

- Technical Assistance from the Field Office is a necessary

factor to ensure ERPAT success.

 The STB organized a writeshop among field office technical staff

members to enhance the ERPAT manual
ERPAT: The Basic Information

ERPAT is the word “PATER” pronounced backwards!

A colloquial term coined by the sons and daughters of

the 60’s which gained popularity through the 70’s,
ERPAT was and is commonly used by children
particularly the teenagers - to mean an easy-to-
approach father, in a peer-to-peer relationship as
members of the family; and one who is not frightening
but instead considered as a peer-friend.

ERPAT or Empowerment and Re-affirmation of

Paternal Abilities aims to engage fathers to become
effective and responsive. It gives importance and emphasis on fathers’
paternal roles, responsibilities and abilities. It aims to achieve shared
parenting tasks in the performance of familial responsibilities.

Simply put, a father’s role transcends from a mere “provider”, to one who
shares parenting that includes providing care, attention and affection to
each member of his family. ERPAT focuses on how this person carries
himself as a father performing multiple roles as his child’s teacher and
caregiver, his wife’s husband and a friend to everyone in his household.

ERPAT also gives emphasis on eliminating

traditional gender roles manifested in the
proliferation of the “macho” image of men as
seen and observed in the norms, expectations
and behavior patterns of Filipino males. ERPAT
aims to help fathers achieve a broader and fairer
definition of gender roles, while understanding of
one’s self as a nurturing and caring individual
both for his children and spouse.

ERPAT stands for


Like in any development program, project, service, activity and/or

strategy, ERPAT stands on the firm conviction that fathers DO need help
to be able to perform their roles and responsibilities. Further, there is a
need to strengthen and maximize their capacities to become effective and
efficient advocates in the elimination of violence against women and

The following are ERPAT’s rationale statements, which of these

statements are also true to you? (Please check)

____ Parenting, particularly care-giving, is assumed more as a feminine

activity. Fathers are rarely given basic information and are never
trained to perform a caring role in the family.
____ Fathers most often serve as a shadow-figure in the family, difficult
to understand and rarely attend to, or provide care and nurturance
for their children.
____ Familial responsibilities of fathers are increasing as women
become more active in the labor force.
____ Fathers are no longer confined to perform the role of a
“breadwinner” in the family. Present realities demand greater
quality time of fathers to share child-rearing tasks due to changing
family life situations.
____ Men’s active involvement in family concerns are primarily
hindered by lack of a close and stable relationship of fathers with
their children. This is deepened by lack of/or inadequate
knowledge and skills on child rearing and other familial tasks.
____ Fathering skills do not come naturally; like most life skills, they
can be learned. It requires discipline and commitment to the
____ Traditional gender role differentiation still persists as manifested
through the proliferation of the “macho” image of men; Hence,
there is a need for real consciousness for fathers to become more
gender sensitive and participatory in performing familial tasks and
responsibilities and become a nurturing and caring individual both
for their children and spouses.

Now let’s take a look at the Legal Bases with which ERPAT is
founded. You might need to get a copy of these documents and review
them yourself.

International Instrument

1. The Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) The CRC, an

international instrument ratified in 1990 by the Philippines, sets
minimum standards for state parties to ensure the promotion and
protection of the rights of children.

National Laws

1. 1987 Philippine Constitution

The State recognizes the sanctity of the family life and shall
protect and strengthen the family as a basic autonomous social
institution. It shall equally promote the life of the mother and the
life of the unborn from its conception (Article 2, Section I).

The State recognizes the Filipino family as the foundation of the

nation. Accordingly, it shall strengthen its solidarity and actively
promote its total development. (Article XV, Section I).

2. The Family Code of the Philippines

The husband and wife are obliged to live together, observe
mutual love, respect and fidelity, and render mutual help and
support (Article 68).

The management of the household shall be the right and duty of

both spouses (Article 71).

3. The Child and Youth Welfare Code (PD 603)

Joint Parental Authority – The father and mother shall exercise
jointly just and reasonable parental authority and responsibility
over their legitimate or adopted children. (Chapter I - -Article 17)

4. The Anti-Violence Against Women and Children Act or RA

9262 – A state shall exert efforts to address violence committed
against women and children in keeping with the fundamental
freedoms guaranteed under the Constitution and the Provisions of
the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR), the
Convention on the Elimination of all forms of Discrimination
Against Women (CEDAW), Convention on the Rights of the Child
(CRC) and other international human instruments of which the
Philippines is a party. SEC. 2.Declaration of Policy.

5. Special Protection of Children Against Child Abuse,

Exploitation and Discrimination Act or RA 7610 - It is hereby
declared by the policy of the State to provide special protection to
children from all forms of abuse, neglect, cruelty, exploitation and
discrimination and other conditions, prejudicial to their
development; provide sanctions for their commission and carry
out program for prevention and deterrence of and crisis
interventions in situations of child abuse, exploitation and
discrimination. The state shall intervene in behalf of the child
when the parent, guardian, teacher or person having care and
custody of the child fails or is unable to protect the child against
abuse, exploitation and discrimination or when such acts against
the child are committed by the parent, guardian, teacher or
person, having care and custody of the same. SEC. 2.
Declaration of Policy.

6. Family Courts Act of 1997- The State shall protect the rights and
promote the welfare of children in keeping with the mandate of the
Constitution and the precepts of the United Nations Convention
on the rights of the Child. The State shall provide a system of
adjudication for youthful offenders which take into account their
peculiar circumstances.
Things you need to know about ERPAT:

What is ERPAT?

ERPAT can be a lot of things for those who are involved:

 ERPAT is a service that

gives importance and
emphasis on the
development and enrichment
of knowledge, attitudes and
skills of fathers in performing
their paternal roles and

 It involves the conduct of

community-based sessions
for fathers; training of; and organization of father–leaders and
volunteers in the community to facilitate collective action and
participation in promoting the important role of fathers to the

 ERPAT also serves as one of the interventions of the Parent

Effectiveness Services (PES) because it sees the significant roles
of fathers in all aspects of child rearing and caring.

What are ERPAT’s objectives?


To enhance and strengthen parenting capabilities of Filipino fathers in

performing their tasks and responsibilities.


1. To empower fathers by developing a positive concept of self.

2. To develop and enhance the father’s attitudes, knowledge and

skills on Early Childhood Care and Development; preparing and
equipping adolescent children in handling and meeting adult roles
and responsibilities; and raising children with spiritual values.
3. To help fathers develop gender sensitivity and appreciation of
partnership with their spouses in promoting and enhancing family
life by:

a. Enhancing and strengthening a positive and satisfying

marital relationship;
b. Preventing violence in the home;
c. Promoting shared parenthood and planned family size.

4. To establish support networks among fathers in the community

and enhance their active participation and involvement especially
in establishing a drug-free family; understanding and preventing
HIV-AIDS; and all forms of violence in the family.

Who are ERPAT’s Target Beneficiaries?

All males who need better knowledge, attitudes and skills on

fathering, who are unable to cope with familial responsibilities and who fall
under the following categories:

1. Generally fathers
2. Biological Fathers (including but not limited to)
 Solo father
 Returning migrant/OFWs
 Released prisoners
 Persons with disabilities
3. Adoptive Father
4. Newly wed husbands
5. Organized father groups i.e., faith based organizations
6. Surrogate Fathers (including but not limited to)
 Foster father
 Guardian
 Caregiver

Who benefits from ERPAT?

Aside from the fathers, families and communities benefit from


Who implements ERPAT?

The Local Social Welfare and Development Office (LSWDO) are

the direct implementers of ERPAT. Meanwhile, the DSWD through its
field offices provide technical support to the LSWDO. Lastly, father-
leaders are the main actors in community level ERPAT implementation.

Where do funds for ERPAT come from?

The Local Government Units (LGUs) fund the implementation of

ERPAT. However, funding support can be tapped from other agencies.

Who monitors the ERPAT implementation?

The DSWD Field Office shall monitor the service implementation.

What are ERPAT’s service components?

1. Advocacy and Social Mobilization

This involves the conduct of advocacy and social mobilization
activities in securing support and awareness in the implementation of
ERPAT in the community. Public awareness and information
campaigns shall convey basic messages that promote the important
role of Filipino fathers in instilling and fostering love, respect,
discipline, industry and care for the family. Indigenous form of media
can be utilized to advocate support in the promotion and
implementation of ERPAT at the community using local talents and

2. Organization and Strengthening of Father’s Associations

This involves the formation of ERPAT core groups composed of
leaders at the barangay level who will facilitate the organization of
ERPAT. The organized structures shall serve as venues for collective
action and participation founded on the principles of cooperation, trust
and good communication and commitment to the promotion of the
important roles of fathers in the family and in promoting the social
well-being of families as a whole.

3. Capability Building / Training

This involves training and capability-building activities for two (2) sets
of implementers:

(1) The ERPAT members - or members of the ERPAT

associations/groups, father leaders and volunteers who are
directly trained primarily to enhance their paternal roles and
responsibilities; and to sustain the ERPAT service in the
(2) LGU Workers/Implementers – or the service providers and
implementers who are trained to ensure effective and efficient
service implementation and management.

The basic courses include community volunteers’ development,

participatory leadership, peer counseling, organization building and
project development and sustainability. Experiential learning activities
are also conducted to put substance and deepen the formal training
provided to the ERPAT implementers and volunteers.

4. Networking and Alliance Building

This involves resource generation and mobilization to achieve the

thrusts of networking and alliance building among agencies and father
groups as the most important indicators of successful community
organization. Networking facilitates sharing of knowledge, skills and
resources among people and organizations in the community. Father-
leaders and volunteers and/or father associations are mobilized to
generate resources to sustain implementation of ERPAT in the
community. This includes family welfare serving agencies and child
caring/placing agencies as well as the LGUs and POs in the target
areas. Efforts to converge the resources and services of different
welfare agencies operating within the area are pursued to ensure
optimal use of resources for ERPAT.


ERPAT envisions responsible Filipino fathers who are committed,

disciplined, knowledgeable, and are highly appreciative in
carrying out effective paternal roles and responsibilities


To work with fathers and their families in the community helping

them to:
1. Appreciate their roles in the family
2. Improve performance of paternal tasks, and
3. Access support services and activities that will help them
achieve a united, productive and stable family.

To form ERPAT associations at the barangay level; federations at

the municipal/city, provincial and national levels and gain
representations in local councils
(Initiating, Managing and Sustaining ERPAT)

ERPAT was introduced by the DSWD through its Field Offices. The Field
Office technical staff performs a number of tasks that will ensure ERPAT’s
success. As in many other national programmes, projects, services, or
activities, the FO generally:

• Provides technical assistance and resource augmentation;

• Prepares and does social marketing activities for a specific
programme, project, service or activity;
• Build networks and alliances;
• Generate and manage data; and
• Write reports

Let us now take a closer look at the things the FO staff must do:

1. Secure, consolidate, analyze and interpret data of family situations at

the regional level and segregate these by province. Find out and

1.1 The over-all situation of families, you may acquire these from the
local planning offices;
1.2 The magnitude of / incidences of domestic violence in the
community, you may acquire these from the local social welfare
and development office and the local police entity;
1.3 The magnitude of / incidence of other macro issues, i.e., drug use
and abuse, HIV and AIDS, teenage pregnancy. ECCD – PES
attendance by fathers, etc.

 engage academe and / or local research institutes
 utilize area based research from and by local NGOs
 mobilize partner POs
2. Develop or craft simple communication materials which you will use to
present the data that you have gathered per province or per
city/municipality; among these materials include:

2.1 PowerPoint presentation or flip chart;

2.2 Fact Sheets or leaflets per municipality or province.

 Keep your presentations accurate, brief and concise
 Always support your data with statistics that are easily

3. Also make ready a generic ERPAT orientation acquired from the


4. Once done, begin your ground work by engaging significant members

of the local councils and local chief executives by initiating courtesy
calls i.e., the committee chairpersons for Family; as well as the
Budget and Planning Officers. When necessary write SB sponsors to
include ERPAT Orientation in the agenda of the SB regular session.

5. Request for and arrange an agreed convenient date for presentation.

6. Present your data as well as the ERPAT concept covering:

a) ERPAT Vision and Mission

b) Roles and functions of the MSWDO on ERPAT implementation
c) Activities related to ERPAT implementation
d) Benefits of having ERPAT

Impact to Individual Father Impact to Families

Enhance awareness on their roles Close family relationship

as fathers and become responsible developed/improved and are more
parents comfortable and open to each other

Father's self-esteem and capacities Improved skills on parenting and

developed through attending series become role model of the family
of training and seminar
Impact to Individual Father Impact to Families
Fathers spent more time with the Household chores are already
family and learned to be patient shared between husband and wife
and control their temper
Fathers are more comfortable and Increased awareness on gender
able to express their ideas and sensitivity issues and minimized or
affection to their wife after attending eliminated domestic violence
the session

Fathers become God-fearing and High respect of children towards

God-loving their fathers

Fathers gained more knowledge Learned to understand the

and a changed perception that nature/characteristics of wife as a
fathers do not have the monopoly woman
of knowledge
Fathers understood the stages of
development of their children
Impact to Communities
Improved relationship with members of the community by gaining friends
with lesser conflict

Role model in the community and actively participate in community


Acted as resource person during training

Law abiding citizens

Residents realized the importance of community activities

Lessen number of reported cases of domestic violence in the area and

decrease vices among fathers

Peer counseling to members of the group

Peaceful community
Gained respect from the community

Fathers became advocates in the prevention of family violence

Gambling is minimized and regulated
Income generating activities and projects continue to exist and are
7. When necessary, craft a Memorandum of Agreement (MOA) between
the Field Office representing the DSWD and the Local Government
expressing the LGU’s commitment to adopt ERPAT as a service and
defining the technical assistance and roles of the DSWD through the

8. Organize and conduct a region / province–wide ERPAT training of

trainers among LGU implementers and Father Leaders;

9. Provide post training technical assistance to provinces and / or

municipalities as resource person, in the areas of:

9.1 Training management & facilitation

9.2 Tips on community volunteer resource mobilization
9.3 Sustainability Planning

10. Conduct monitoring visits, periodic monitoring assessment surveys

through the use of standard monitoring tool and annual assessment
meetings with LGU and father leaders;

11. Generate periodic (quarterly) reports for the DSWD central office.

 Organize ahead of time
 Ensure that all logistics (financial, human, material resources)
you need are available
Here are some more ideas for the Field Office Technical Staff:

1. Regularly hone your skills in social marketing, advocacy and

networking – ERPAT’s success is about making the issues (in
this case parenting unique to fathers and the need to address
domestic violence) you raise be felt and owned by the people

2. Practice your facilitating skills – remember that you are the

primary trainer if not the training manager of the people who will
implement ERPAT. Keep in mind a teaching theory that goes
“one teaches the way he/she was taught”. How you will deliver the
messages contained in ERPAT will reflect on how well they will be
able to implement it at the local level

3. Update yourself with current issues – keep abreast with local

and national issues that are directly or indirectly related to ERPAT
(father-centered issues). Among these are domestic violence,
absentee fathers and the social cost of labor migration, child
protection and development.

4. Familiarize yourself with new laws and issuances – read and

be familiar with national and local policies that can help you in
understanding current protection issues;

5. Make sure that you understand the processes with which

ERPAT is implemented at the LGU level - it is best therefore to
read through the proceeding chapters on ERPAT implementation

6. Value your partnerships with LGU implementers, Local Chief

Executives and Father Leaders – get to know them and add a
personal touch with your partners in the provinces and
municipalities. Remember their birthdays and send them greeting
cards, track their achievements and send them congratulatory
notes, etc.

7. Organize (when logistics permit) and participate in other

auxiliary activities - keep in mind family day celebrations,
nutrition month, children’s month, mothers and father’s day,
adoption week, etc. these are good opportunities to engage local
government partners in ERPAT issues

8. Involve the NGOs – they may have other resources which you
can use for ERPAT;
9. Keep disciplined schedules – do remember that LGUs have
other activities aside from ERPAT, keeping a disciplined schedule
for activities like training, meetings, monitoring visits as agreed
will make it easier for them.

10. Always bear in mind you and your partners’ definitive roles
and functions but be flexible as well:

The Stakeholders Functions

ERPAT has four (4) main groups of stakeholders, namely the ERPAT
father volunteers/leaders; the local government units; NGOs, civic and
private groups; and the DSWD Central Office together with the DSWD
Field Offices. Each group has specific functions, thus;

A. Functions of ERPAT Fathers and Volunteers/Leaders

1. Recruit fathers in the barangay to join ERPAT Association;
2. Organize the ERPAT Association under the direct supervision of
the LGU social worker;
3. Assist the LGU trained social workers in the conduct of ERPAT
Sessions in the Barangay;
4. Assist the LGU social workers in the conduct of ERPAT training
and other related activities;
5. Assist the ERPAT Associations in Management and Monitoring of
group projects and activities;
6. Submit report to LGU Social Workers of ERPAT Association
Accomplishment and Group Roster Forms.

B. The Role/ Functions of Local Government Units

1. Implement and supervise the project;
2. Provide administrative fund support in the implementation of
3. Facilitate organization of ERPAT Associations;
4. Supervise activities of ERPAT Association, e.g. planning and
implementation of support activities in the community;
5. Conduct training for ERPAT volunteers and leaders;
6. Provide technical assistance and supervision to members and
offices of ERPAT associations;
7. Identify/access resources for the provision of social services to
ERPAT family members;
8. Develop and maintain linkages with NGOs, GOs and other
9. Support public awareness raising/regional concerning overall
goals and thrust ERPAT;
10. Conduct of monitoring and evaluation using the standard
monitoring tool.
11. Prepare quarterly status reports to DSWD Field Offices;

C. Other Stakeholders
(NGOs/Church/Academe/Civic Groups/Associations)
1. Acts as resource person;
2. Provides referral services;
3. Provides fund augmentation and access to resources;
4. Conducts trainings on ERPAT session and skills enhancement
5. Assists MSWDO/CSWDO in identification/recruitment of ERPAT
6. Participates in service review and enrichment/development.

D. The Role/Functions of DSWD Central Office

1. Prepares guidelines and other program materials for the service;
2. Oversees the overall implementation of service;
3. Allocates funds for the implementation of the service;
4. Monitors, evaluates and provides technical assistance to the
DSWD Field Offices
5. Conducts orientation/demonstration of the project to LGUs
6. Consolidates and analyses reports submitted by the regions;
7. Prepares quarterly reports and update of the service;
8. Conducts documentation and research of the service;
9. Conduct of annual program review and evaluation workshop.

E. The Roles / Functions of DSWD Field Office

1. Conducts consultation with LGUs to determine their interest,
readiness, commitment and capability to implement the service;
2. Assists in the orientation of LGU implementers;
3. Monitors and provides technical assistance to LGU implementers;
4. Develops and maintains linkages with LGUs, NGOs and other
national government agencies in the area relative to service
5. Assists in the evaluation research and documentation of the
6. Ensures judicious disbursement of funds;
7. Prepares and submits a quarterly report to the DSWD –Central
8. Forge a MOA to gain the support and commitment of LGUs to
adopt ERPAT as a service and define the roles of DSWD Field
(Initiating, Managing and Sustaining ERPAT)

 The success of ERPAT depends on two important factors. It

includes (1) the active involvement of fathers themselves in the
community and a (2) strong support from the Barangay or local officials as
well as other existing groups in the community.

Here’s a step-by-step guide for you (The LGU implementer) to

follow when preparing to implement ERPAT:

A. Coordinate with Barangay Council and other Key Leaders

Coordinate with your Barangay Officials to elicit commitment and

support of the Barangay Council as well as clarify the functions and
types of support you expect from them in implementing ERPAT.

B. Identify and Recruit your target participants (fathers)

This involves identification of priority target beneficiaries at the

community level through home visits and referrals by both LGUs
and non-government organizations (NGOs) or groups in the locality.
Among those you can initially engage with are:

1. Fathers who are members of the Day Care Service Parents

Groups (DCSPG)
2. Neighborhood Parent Effectiveness Assembly (NPEA)
3. Supplemental Feeding Parents Group (SFPG)
4. Husbands of women who are involved and / or are beneficiaries
of programs for women ;
5. Members of the Barangay Council for the Protection of Children
and the Barangay Council
6. Fathers who are members of Men Support Groups (MSG).
7. Fathers who are members of Men Oppose to Violence Against
Women Everywhere (MOVE).

Make your list now:

Aside from the above, you must also consider fathers of families at risks.
To identify them you may need to refer to the following indicators;

YOUR 3-HOUR SESSION 1. Families with reported cases

GUIDE: of abuse
2. Families whose members
1 hour are with poor health/nutrition
Opening Amenities 3. Families whose children are
 Prayer out-of-school
 Welcome Remarks 4. Families whose heads
 Introduction of Participants exhibit inappropriate
 Group Dynamic behavior models of family
 Expectation Setting such as substance use and
abuse, and
1 hour 5. Families with solo male
ERPAT Background/Orientation parent
 History
 Rationale
 Objectives
 Approaches/Strategies
 Expected Output by the Make your list now:
group __________________________
1 hour __________________________
Brainstorming on present __________________________
situation of Fathers __________________________
 Problems, fears, threats and __________________________
challenges, myths and beliefs __________________________
of Filipino fathers. __________________________
 Take note of their ideas and __________________________
write them on the board or __________________________
Manila paper. __________________________

Highlight commonalities and

differences of their responses
and link them to the importance
of having an ERPAT project in
their Barangay.
C. Conduct an Orientation on ERPAT

Conduct an orientation session based on the time and place

preferred by the father volunteers. Inform them of the objectives
so that they will know what to expect. Seek their commitments by
visiting them in their homes.

In conducting an orientation meeting for ERPAT, you need to

establish rapport, camaraderie and friendship among fathers and
key leaders that you have invited. Focus your orientation meeting
on the background, rationale, objectives, approaches, and
strategies of ERPAT. You may need to use group dynamics and
games to animate this session. This meeting also includes
brainstorming on the present situations of Filipino fathers. Inset is
a three-(3) hour orientation session guide for you.

D. Organize a Core Group of Fathers

Once you have identified and oriented your “target fathers”,

engage them to organize a core group composed of 20-25
individuals. They should be those who are concerned and
capable of assisting and / or initiating ERPAT activities in the
community. Also remember to coordinate with the Barangay
Council asking them to lend support by having a representative
who can help organize the core group. You might need to begin
by engaging other “informal father leaders” in the Barangay
coming from different sectors such as church, schools and other
organizations in the Barangay.

 Make your list now:

E. Set a Final Schedule for the ERPAT Community-Based

Secure fathers’ commitment during your orientation session and

engage them to agree on a specific schedule for the conduct of
ERPAT session. Together with the core group of fathers, prepare
for the ERPAT training.

Here’s a checklist that you and the core group can use as task

 Who do you think can…?

Arrange the venue and its physical set-up


Follow-up invitation and participation of father-participants


Prepare training materials e.g. visual support and workshop


Arrange food (depending on the availability of funds)

Identify and mobilize resources and logistics

Organize and invite your pool of speakers from the trained father
leaders with the MSWDO or LGU worker
F. Conduct the ERPAT Sessions

At this stage, you and the other father-trainers can devise your
own teaching methodologies and materials. However do maintain
the core messages for each of the session. The modules and
session guides are found in Chapter Five.

G. Conduct and Organizational Planning Workshop

After completing the ERPAT training sessions, you can now

identify more potential leaders that will expand your initial core
group of ERPAT leaders. Immediately call for a planning
workshop where and when officers are elected and committees
are formed. Do remember to define roles and responsibilities as
basis for the choice of leaders. Emphasize too, that the members
and leaders of each committee must have a sense of commitment
for community development work, effective leadership, and
should be sensitive and concerned to fellow families/fathers in the

H. Organize an ERPAT Association

The organized fathers in your community can now form the

ERPAT Barangay Association. (Please see annex). For its initial
meeting, the organization shall formulate its vision, mission and
goal (VMG) based on the objectives of ERPAT. This is very
important for this will guide as well as provide direction to the
plans and other activity of the association. The members and
officers of the ERPAT association shall jointly agree upon the
vision, mission and goals.

When the members and officers finalize the VMG, the plan of
action of the association may be finalized and specific committees
can be organized to handle activities or projects. Each committee
may set their own activities to accomplish their tasks.

In the plan of action of the ERPAT associations, special emphasis

on the celebration of special events such as Family Week,
Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, Children’s Month, Women’s month
and other special events that promote the strengthening of family
shall also be included
I. Implement the Planned Programs and Projects of ERPAT

A key to sustaining organization’s life is to make sure those

programs and projects are implemented as planned. The LGU
worker can initially supervise program and project
implementation. At this stage, it is expected that you and the
association mobilizes fathers who will then mobilize their family
members to help undertake projects in the community. Among the
activities and projects you can implement are:

 Capability Building for both newly recruited fathers and other

LGU or NGO workers;
 Peer Support Organization and Mobilization
 Project Monitoring, Supervision, Evaluation and Sustainability

Monitoring and evaluation of the service implementation shall

focus on the following activities:

 The DSWD national and field offices will conduct regular

monitoring visits. This will be a joint activity with the local
government units concerned.

 Annual service implementation review will be conducted to

evaluate the overall project implementation to include
strengths and weaknesses for continuity and improvement as
a basis for plan of action for the succeeding year.

Other activities that can help you sustain the organization are
activities that respond to the needs and problems of each
member, individual or in groups. These include but not limited to
the (1) regular home visits, (2) provision of livelihood projects; (3)
conduct of cultural and sports activities; and (4) provision of
awards and other forms of recognition/incentives to the efforts of
father leaders and volunteers.
Chapter Four:
(Initiating, Managing and Sustaining ERPAT)

 You must have noticed by now that ERPAT places the highest
premium on the father-volunteers and leaders as they play key roles in
the community. More than anything else, they serve as role models to
their families and communities. They also serve as facilitators in
promoting the rearing and caring roles of fathers in the family. Of course,
all of ERPAT’s service components prepare these father-volunteers to
focus on these roles.

Competency Requirements of an ERPAT Leader/Volunteer

To be able to perform these roles, a set of competencies are

required. Do check/engage the father-volunteers if they possess
the following competencies below. If not, you may need to find
ways as to help them acquire these competencies.

1. Knowledge:
- Know basic methods of organizing
- Know the contents of the ERPAT project
- Has good knowledge on leadership and volunteerism
- Has basic knowledge on Peer Counseling

2. Attitudes/Values:
- Sensitivity to familial roles, responsibilities, needs and
social realities among fathers.
- Recognizes strengths and improve weaknesses

3. Skills:
- Effective communication
- Facilitating groups and using facilitating methods
- Active listening and relationship-building
- Energizing/inspiring/motivating
- Basic skills in counseling
- Skills in organizing
- Skills in establishing rapport
As ERPAT leaders and volunteers, fathers during the preliminary, proper
and post implementation phases perform multiple roles. Each of these
roles requires a particular set of competency and entails corresponding
responsibilities. This chapter spells out all these roles and provides you
descriptive parameters.

A. Preliminary Phase

Father-volunteer as Coordinator
 Coordinates with M/CSWDO in the conduct of community-based
 Assists in the conduct of identifying fathers as participants
 Arranges for a venue and use of equipment
 Prepares learning materials
 Provides resource persons, if necessary
 Acts as guides during the learning experiences of fathers

Father-volunteer as Organizer
 Coordinates and links with M/CSWDO, Barangay leaders/officials and
ensure active participation of fathers in the community;
 Organizes core group of fathers as initial volunteers
 Identifies and mobilizes resources

B. Implementation Phase

Father-volunteer as Co-Trainer (in the Community-Based Sessions)

 Plans with M/CSWDO on theme and topic assignments

 Assists M/CSWDO in the conduct of ERPAT session or acts as
resource person
 Provides information on ERPAT
 Conducts training for fathers in the community through the use of
various learning methodologies
 Uses learning aids–charts, drawing, pictures, and other forms of visual

Father-volunteer as Peer Counselor

 Provides support and encouragement to fathers in crisis

 Develops rapport with other participants
 Develops genuine interest in directing their process of growth
 Communicates on a one-on-one basis with fathers in stressful situations
 Organizes sessions to enhance self-confidence and self-esteem of
 Enhances relationship/teambuilding with father volunteers/leaders

Father-volunteer as Documenter and Records Keeper

 Maintains records of the accomplishment of the ERPAT group through

monitoring and documentation
 Observes participation/involvement of father leaders
 Documents activities of ERPAT groups

C. Post-Implementation

Father-volunteer as Monitor/Evaluator

 Assesses the extent of implementation and effects of ERPAT sessions

to father participants
 Undertakes follow-up visits with / to fathers and their families
 Conducts regular (monthly/quarterly) meeting
 Shares reflections and sessions with fathers volunteers/leaders
 Provides relevant feedback to C/MSWDO
 Conducts consultation meeting with other stakeholders

Father-volunteer as Coordinator

 Conducts follow through activities through coordination with concerned

 Establishes and maintains contacts with the fathers in the community,
their families, peers, and other individuals or groups or agencies
involved in ERPAT implementation to ensure that its objectives are

Father-volunteer as Advocate

 Shares learning and gains of ERPAT to other fathers in the community

 Recruits fathers and Men Opposed to Violence Against Women
Everywhere (MOVE) advocates to become ERPAT members
 Builds partnership with MOVE organization for the prevention of
violence against women and children (VAWC)
 Assists in the information dissemination campaign of ERPAT towards
promotion of paternal roles and responsibilities
Chapter Five:
Conducting the ERPAT Modules

The community based training is the heart and
soul of the ERPAT service where we engage the
fathers. This is also where much of ERPAT’s
objectives (increasing father’s knowledge, skills
and values/ attitudes on parenting) are achieved.

This chapter contains easy-to-follow sessions

and / or activity plans particularly arranged to
ensure competency build-up among your father-

For beginning facilitators or trainers, you may follow each activity plan.
While these sessions and / or activity plans have been tested, you are
free to make the necessary changes as you see fit or be creative while
conducting your training.

 Each session plan contains the following:

1. Title – gives you a clue on what the module or session is all about
2. Intro spiel – this is a short spiel written in italics just like this one, which
you can use / say to introduce the session to your participants.
3. Estimated Time – tells you how long a particular session lasts. The
whole ERPAT training if you count the number of hours, roughly takes
around twenty-seven (27) hours. However, field experiences tell us
that the length of session varies based on the trainees
“realities”. Given this, it is really up to you to manage training time
efficiently as you plan the day or weeks it would take you and your
trainees to complete the modules.
4. Objectives – indicates the behavioral objective(s) that your trainees
should be able to demonstrate or do in the course of session;
5. Materials – you can find these contained in boxes in every session. It is
a list of things you need in your activities. There are also notes
written in bold letters instructing you to either photocopy or copy as
teaching and learning aids.
6. Methodology – tells you about the teaching-learning method espoused
in the activities.
7. Key Learning Points – even before you conduct the session, DO read
these carefully and thoroughly, because these are the learning
foundations of the activities. As such they serve either as your guide
or even as your main inputs that raise activities into learning
8. Activity / Activities – provide(s) step-by-step instructions on how to run
the learning activity
9. Processing – provides instructions (most often in the form of guide
questions or actions) that you can ask or do to engage your
participants to deepen their learning experiences.
10. Application – allow the participants to relate the topics and learning
to their daily activities

Are you ready to conduct your training now?

Well... If you have…

____ Gone this far and read previous chapters

____ Clarified your roles and functions and understood ERPAT in its
____ Engaged people in your local government to support you in
implementing ERPAT
____ Organized your core group of fathers to assist you in your training
____ Arranged your venue, its physical set up and the facilities
____ Followed-up and confirmed invitations to your target father-
____ Scanned this chapter, made and prepared your training materials e.g.
visual supports and workshop materials
____ Arranged food (when available)
____ Identified and mobilized other resources and logistics
____ Identified, organized, invited and confirmed the coming of your
resource speakers (when needed)
____ Assured and told yourself that you are able and willing to do this

Then, you must be VERY ready!

Good luck on your ERPAT training!


Title: Situation of Filipino Fathers

This session helps us to be aware of the

current situation(s) of fathers in our
community. This will deepen our
understanding of issues affecting role

Estimated Time: 45 minutes

The participants shall be able to:
1. Analyze current situations of Filipino
2. Review current beliefs, practices and
concepts about fathering.
3. Discuss gender issues prevailing and affecting members of the

Methodology: Group Sharing/Discussion

Metacards, Pen markers, Masking tape,
Transparency picture of a Father and a Mother

Your Key Learning Points
 There are basic attributes between a man and a woman. There are also
prevailing expectations as to how men and women should think and
behave. These expectations form the gender roles.
 Sex refers to biologically determined differences between men and
 Gender roles are the set of social norms that dictate what is socially
defined as appropriate female and male behavior.
 Gender roles are learned behaviors in a given society/community or
other social group that condition which activities, tasks and
responsibilities are perceived as male and female.
 Gender roles are affected by age, class, race, ethnicity, religion or other
ideologies, geographical, economic and political environment
 Men and women differ from each other physically, emotionally and
socially. Physical differences are referred to as “Sex” while social
differences are referred to as “Gender”
 Gender likewise are the values and norms that support and perpetrate
the belief in men’s dominant status and natural aggressiveness and in
women’s subordinate status and role in the family and in the society as
a whole.
 Fathers are perceived as symbols of strength and power in the family.
Fathers are the family’s main source of authority. The breadwinner, the
decision-maker and the foundation of the family. They are the
disciplinarians and the ones who commit more forms of abuse as
inherent to their characteristics as they exercise their power and
authority over their family members.
 Mothers meanwhile are perceived more as weak but loving persons.
They are more emotional and do support the decisions of the father as
the head of the family. Their roles are confined in the household
responsibilities including rearing and caring for children and other family
members. Because of their inherent characteristics, they are more
prone to be abused in the family including the very young children.
 To create a wholesome and positive family life, the parents, the father
and the mother have collaborative roles to perform. In performing
responsibilities at home or in the family, one should assess one’s
capacities and abilities rather than on one’s biological characteristics to
achieve a shared familial roles and responsibilities, shared decision-
making and a shared vision and hope for the family.


1. Group the participants (5-7 members / group)

2. Ask them to discuss the characteristics of fathers they observe in
their own families, neighborhood or community.
3. Use the following guide questions:
What do you observe about fathers in your community?
Can you differentiate characteristics, identities and role
expectations of the fathers and the mothers?
What values and beliefs are attached to fathering?

4. Ask them to write their responses in the newsprint or metacards if

not ask a volunteer from the group to share a summary report of
their discussion.

Alternative Activity:

1. Post the word FATHER and MOTHER on the board

2. Under those words, place the word male under the father and the
word female under the mother.
3. Provide the participants with metacards and ask them to think of
any word that relate to the two basic words.
4. Ask the participants to post or write their responses in the board.

Your trainees’ output can look like this;

Male Female
Strong Weak
Big body Loving
Handsome Beautiful
Mason Laundrywoman
Carpenter Manicurist
Authoritative Beautician
Domineering Sexy
Muscles Long hair
Hard Clear skin
Vices Vices
Head of the family Ilaw ng Tahanan


1. Point out the differences between sex and gender.

2. Point out the differences and similarities between the father as a
male and the mother as female.
3. Synthesize responses.


End the introductory session by singing:

F – is for my father and M is for my mother I love you. (2x)
I love you in the morning and in the afternoon
I love you in the evening, underneath the moon … Oh!
F is for my Father and M is for my mother
Understanding Myself

When we talk of philosophy, we simply mean of

“searching for meaning”. In this session we will attempt
to define the meaning of man’s existence in relation to
his environment. Who we are and what makes us
different from other creatures on earth.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

At the end of the session, participants shall be able Materials:
1. Attain awareness and discover oneself as a
2. Find meaning of one’s existence in relation to
his environment
Individual Reflection

 Key Learning Points:

1. You are a rationale being. You have the capability to think and
recognize what is right and wrong. You use your capability in honing
your qualities. You have rights to act on improving and fulfilling your
aspirations in life. But rights have accompanying responsibilities
towards yourself, others and God.
2. Your values, personality traits, childhood experiences, personal and
family goals affect your characteristics as a person and more
importantly, your role as a father. You are a unique person and able
to relate with others.
3. You have a specific purpose and mission in life and that purpose and
mission provides meaning and direction in your life.
4. Knowing yourself and knowing your own strengths and weaknesses
is the first step in becoming an effective father. Realizing your own
limitations helps you consider things that will affect you in performing
your role as a father. You build yourself up by enhancing your
strengths and working on your limitations and weaknesses.
1. Ask the participants to group themselves into six or eight and provide
them materials to make a collage
2. Ask them to use the old newspaper and magazines and make a
collage based on their group’s interpretation of what a man is and
what to them is the meaning of being a man.
3. Clay can be alternative used. For the use of clay, ask them to make
forms, shapes or objects that will represent a man.
4. Assign a leader who will facilitate sharing in the group. Using the
following as guide questions:
a. What do you think is man made of?
b. What makes you happy?
c. What makes your life meaningful and complete?
5. A group leader shall be assigned to each group to note responses of
participants on the meaning of man based on their own
6. Each group takes turn in presenting their collage or their clay images
7. Allow clarification session among participants to deepen the
discussion of the meaning of man.

1. After each group had reported, process the whole activity by first
summarizing their outputs.
2. Highlight significant points that they raised and connect them to
your learning points.
3. Synthesize all inputs and stress the value of openness to life
experiences, importance of reflections for growth and directions,
and appreciation of oneself and other persons.


Play the song “Sino Ako” and let the participants reflect on the meaning of
the Song.

1. While playing the song, help the participants reflect by leading them
to a closing prayer.
Hiram sa Diyos and aking Buhay
Ikaw at ako’y tanging Handog lamang
Di ko ninais na ako’y isilang
Ngunit salamat dahil may buhay

Ligaya ko na ako’y isilang

Pagkat tao ay mayroong dangal
Sinong may pag-ibig, sinong nagmamahal
Kung hindi ay tao, Diyos ang pinagmulan

Kung hindi ako umibig

Kung hindi ko man bigyang halaga
Ang buhay kong handog
Ang buhay ko’y hiram sa Diyos
Kung hindi ako nagmamahal
Sino Ako?

2. The closing prayer should highlight on the meaning of each

trainee’s existence as a father, as a husband, as a son, as a
community volunteer and as a leader and as a person.
Building Positive Self-Esteem as a Father

What does self-esteem mean to a father?

How important is one’s role particularly the
role of a father? How does self-esteem affect
his relationships with his family? In this
session, we will be exploring how our self-
esteem develops and how it affects us as a
person and as a father.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

Objective: Newsprint,
The participants should be able to demonstrate a build- Marking pens,
up of positive self-esteem, as a pre-requisite to effective sample
fathering. drawing of
River of Life
Structured Learning Exercise (River of Life)

 Key Learning Points:

 Self-esteem is how a person feels and thinks about himself. It may be
positive and it may be negative.
 Self-esteem develops overtime. However, it constantly changes.
Positive experiences and fulfilling relationships can help raise self-
esteem. Negative experiences and troubled relationships contribute to
low self-esteem.
 Factors that influence one’s self-esteem are our early childhood
experiences, personal relationships in the home, school, community,
jobs, and patterns of social life.
 Self-esteem is very important because it has a direct bearing on one’s
life particularly as a father. Fathers with high self-esteem are more
productive and fully functioning than those who have low self-esteem
and have no direction in life.
 A person with high self-esteem has self-respect. He values himself.
However, a person with a low self-esteem is an insecure person. He
doesn’t see his value or worth.
 To consider one’s self-esteem, one must start to look first at himself,
and build on one’s self-esteem and one’s strengths. The more positive
attributes and attitudes one has with his children and other members of
the family, the more positive relations will be in his own family.
 To improve one’s self-esteem, one must begin at accepting oneself –
one’s weaknesses and strengths. There is a need to praise oneself and
nurture the feeling of love and trust.
 Learn to value your abilities and be realistic in assessing yourself.

Activity: River of My Life

1. Present a picture (drawn and outlined) of a river on a manila paper
to the participants.
2. Ask them to individually draw their own river on a ¼ sheet of brown
paper and as they draw ask them to work on the following
a. When are my happiest moments in life?
b. How do early experiences affect me now as a father?
c. How significant is my own father in influencing the river
of my life?
d. How does the flow of the river affect my self- esteem
and me as a person?
3. You may ask participants to incorporate sharing of previous session
in this activity.
4. Process the activity and synthesize learning and insights of the

1. Relate the importance of knowing one’s self as a requirement in
improving and building one’s self-esteem as a prerequisite to
effective fathering/parenting.
2. Elicit learning from the activity and provide inputs based on your key
learning points.

1. Give each trainee two sheets of paper
2. Ask the trainees to draw a heart and write all their positive traits and
pin this on their chest to be shown to other participants.
3. On the other sheet of paper, ask the trainees to write all their
negative traits and collect these negative traits and burn to
symbolize its insignificance (please do ensure safety) while the
group forms a circle singing the song, “A Time to Change” or any
song related to it.
Importance of a Father Image

What is the male factor? Father’s

special participation on the rearing of
children contributes to the well-
rounded development of their sons and
daughters. Research shows that extra
love and attention they get from having
a closely involved father as well as a
close and loving mother provides/leads
child to develop social skills ahead of
their schedule. But what does it really
mean to be a father? How important is
your presence to your children as their
father? Many fathers know what they
don’t want to do as a father from their own childhood experiences. But
they likewise are not sure of what they should do. In this session, we will
be discovering your own perception of being a father.

Estimated time: 1 hour and 20 minutes


The participants shall be able to:

1. Understand the meaning of Fatherhood.
2. Appreciate the importance of Male Factor to Children

Buzz Session/Group Discussion

 Key Learning Points:

A. Definition of Fatherhood
Fatherhood means becoming an active partner in performing a major
educational role in child growth and development. It means getting to
know them and sharing who you are as a person. It means spending time
and making the most of the time you spend with them. It means taking an
active interest and involvement in all the aspects of your child’s growth –
social, emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual and language
B. Importance of Father Image in the Child

A noted sociologist, Dr. David Propenoe is one of the pioneers of the

relatively young field of research into fathers and fatherhood 1. A father
image is important to the child because…

 Primary source of influence to children

 Father’s special participation contributes to the well-rounded
development of their children
 Fathers have a direct impact on the well-being of their children
 A number of studies suggest that fathers who are involved, nurturing
and playful with their infants have children with higher IQs, as well as
better linguistic and cognitive capacities
 Even from birth, children who have an involved father are more likely to
be emotionally secure, be confident to explore surroundings, and as
they grow older, have better social connections with peers

1. Ask the participants to group themselves into 6 or 8 and
brainstorm on the following:
a. What does it mean to be a father?
b. How important is my being a father to my child?
c. What are the hindrances that keep me away and unable
to relate with my child?
2. Hand out metacards, marking pens and masking tape where they
can write their responses.
3. To deepen the sharing of participants, ask them to relax and sit
4. Ask them to meditate on the present relationship with their family
guided by the following statements:

Based on your experiences as a father, recall little moments you

spent with your child. How often do you play with your child? How
much available time do you spend with them to listen to their
thoughts, feelings and desires? Do you care for them enough to
provide the necessary nurturance they expect from you? Do you
tune–in to their feelings, enabling and helping them to become
aware of and able to express their feelings towards you?

5. Again, ask the participants to write their responses on metacards.

6. Ask each group to present their discussion outputs in the plenary.

7. Allow an open forum to clarify and deepen the discussion and
help participants internalize the topic.


1. Allow sufficient time for exchange of ideas and feelings during the
plenary session.
2. Accommodate clarification and sharing of experiences in the
plenary to deepen the discussion.
3. Be sure though that the focus of discussion will be on the
importance of being a father to their children.
4. Using your key learning points, stress that there is no recipe and
there is no one right way to be a father. What is important is to
work out what is going to work for you. How do you work it out will
depend on the following:
a. What do you expect to do as a father?
b. What does your wife expect from you as a father to your
c. The way you and your partner balance work and family
d. The good things that you want to pass on from what your own
father did.
e. Quality time spent with your children.
f. The things that you see other fathers do.
g. What your children’s wants and needs are.

1. Ask the participant to individually work on the question: What shall I
do to fulfill my role as a father to my children and as a husband to my
2. In a circle, each trainee take turns in sharing their individual answers
to the group
3. End the activity with a prayer for fathers.
Development of Paternal Identity

Men’s early and ongoing relationships with

their fathers affect and shape the intimacy
in their own family life. Their experiences
shape their strengths and weaknesses in
their adult life, equally important are the
patterns they have acquired which will
serve as their basis in establishing
relationship in their own family life.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

The participants shall be able to acquire knowledge and express
understanding of the process of developing paternal identity.

Group Sharing Acetate, Cartolina,
Lecture/Discussion Pen Markers
Acetate Pens
Key Learning Points:
 Fatherhood is a lifelong process.
 While either parent can do parenting, children still have different
experiences with their fathers from that of their mothers.
 The kind of experience that children have with their fathers will greatly
depend on the kind of relationship that they have with one another.
This emotional attachment is established as the father becomes
involved during the exploration and integration stage of the
children throughout their development cycle.
 Stages in the development of attachment involves attachment which
starts as early as during pregnancy and when the father becomes
emotionally engrossed with his new born baby.
 Psychological – emotional bonding is deepened with the child’s
growth and development.
 Fatherhood means spending more of his free time with the child.
There is a shift of values and priorities. Fathers now stay more at
home and spend time alone with the child to meet the demands of
childcare instead of staying outside with friends. He shares his
strengths and vulnerabilities as well as his hopes and aspirations to
his children.
 Fathers also need to ensure that they still have a space, peace and
quiet hour for himself to nurture his own sense of individuality.

Stages in a father’s life that lead to the development of paternal

identity (Prepare this on Acetate or Cartolina and Use as Visual Aid)

 At 3-4 years old, the child starts to look for masculine identity
 At the age of five the child begins to segregate father and mother by sex
 As the child becomes older (middle childhood years), he is focused at following
rules rather than strengthen his relationship
 At adolescent, he is more at game of power, strengths and achievements. He
tends to repress his wishes to be held and to be taken cared of and cuddled, but
there are still inner longings/desires to have his father around ready to support and
provide care and nurturance.
 If the male child is hardly able to receive warmth and soft nurturance from his own
father the child develops a sense of loss that extends into adulthood.
 So that when he reaches his adult stage, the male child tries to resolve guilt,
shame and anger in silence and unable to perform his role as a husband or a

1. In a plenary ask the participants to describe their relationship with
their own fathers.

2. Follow up by asking if they find it easy to relate to their own

fathers when they were children and now as adults?

3. Form the participants into triads and ask them to discuss their
individual experiences focusing on the kind of relationship they
had with their own fathers and how this relationship developed.
Use the following guide questions:

a. What kind of relationship did I have with my father?

b. Am I very close with my father?
c. Do we communicate regularly with one another? Who
initiates the communication between us?
d. Do I share common interests? Hobbies? Music? etc
e. How did my father affect and shape my way of relating
with my own children now?

1. Process the activity by getting their responses in each of the

questions above.
2. Write key responses in the board by item as numbered above.
3. Synthesize using your key learning points and presenting your
prepared transparency or cartolina.


1. Ask the participants to identify ways they could enhance their

relationship with their children.
2. Ask them to write one or two strategies to enable their own
children to learn more about them as a person thus enabling both
of them and their children to develop closer relationship.
3. Ask them to write these on metacards and place them in their
4. Ask them to walk around and share it with other participants.
5. An alternative approach will be to post all the metacards in the
board and have each item be read by the participants.

Knowing and Understanding Your Role as a Father.

How can a father find joy and satisfaction in

guiding his child from infancy to adulthood?

In these rapidly changing times, there is a need

to define one’s role as a father. Contrast to the
role of our fathers twenty-five years ago,
fathers as the main breadwinner of the family is
no longer true as evidenced by the rising cases
of female overseas workers and female
working full time in local jobs.

Children are now more exposed to new and different information,

technology and changing culture.

Hence, fathers need to learn new skills and knowledge, perhaps a revived
attitude in relating and responding to their paternal tasks and
Estimate Time: 45 minutes
Participants shall be able to identify specific Prepared
responsibilities of fathers. question, 1
cartolina or
Methodology: acetate, copy
Individual Reflection of PD 603
Group Sharing

Key Learning Points:

Fatherhood is becoming an active partner in assuming the major

educational role in child growth and development.

Roles of Fathers in the Family (Prepare on acetate or cartolina- Article

46 – Child and Youth Welfare Code (PD 603).

 Affection, companionship and understanding

 Moral guidance, self-discipline and religious instructions
 Supervision, activities and recreation
 Inculcate positive values
 Stimulate interest in civic affairs
 Set a good example
 Provide adequate support

Liabilities of Parents
 Conceal or abandon the child with intent to make such child lose
his/her civil status.
 Sell or abandon the child to another person for valuable
 Neglect the child by not giving him/her the education which the
family’s situation in life and financial conditions permit.
 Fail or refuse to enroll the child as required by Article 72 of PD 603.
 Cause, abet, permit the truancy of the child from the school where
he/she is enrolled.
 Improperly exploit the child by using him/her for purposes of begging
and other acts which are inimical to his/her interest and welfare.
 Inflict cruel and unusual punishment upon the child which causes or
encourages the child to lead an immoral or dissolute life.
 Permit the child to possess or carry deadly weapons.
Penalty: 2 months to 6 months for light offense

1. Present the written questionnaire on the board and ask each
participant to respond to the questions using the metacards:
a. What are the roles of my father? How did he perform his
role as a father?
b. What are the tasks and responsibilities corresponding to
these roles?
c. How does he relate with his family?
d. What are the problems I encountered with my father in
terms of his role performance?
2. After each participant has individually responded to the questions.
Group them into six to eight members and ask them to share their
responses with the group.

1. Ask each participant to report on their discussions using their
metacards as visual aids.
2. Linking these answers using your key learning points.

1. Ask the participants to identify their roles, which they think
strengthen in their family and write these down on a sheet of
2. Each sheet of paper shall be entitled “My roles as a father that I
need to Strengthen”
Difference Between Sex and Gender

What is sex, what is gender? How does one

differ from the other? This is the main content
of this session and through simple exercise
provided every woman shall appreciate the key
distinction between gender and sex.

Estimated Time: 1 Hour

At the end of the session, the participants should be able to:

 Differentiate sex from gender

 Make women appreciate the difference between sex and
Methodology:  Handouts,
 Individual Exercise  Powerpoint,
 Lecture/Discussion LCD, Laptop
 Whiteboard
Key Learning Points:  Pentel pen,
 Masking tape
1. Sex is a natural distinguishing
variable based on biological
characteristics of being a man or a woman. It refers to physical
attributes pertaining to a person’s body contour, features,
genitals, hormones, genes, chromosomes and reproductive
organs. Sex differences between men and women are biological.
2. Gender refers to the socially differentiated roles, characteristics
and expectations attributed by culture to women and men. It
identifies the social behavior of women and men and the
relationship between them. Gender roles and attributes are
natural or biologically given.
3. Sex is biological fact, while gender is a social construct. Sex is a
natural attribute that a person is born with. Gender, on the other
hand, is created, produced, reproduced, and maintained by
social institutions, a process otherwise referred to as the social
construction of gender. Because gender roles, attitudes,
behaviors, characteristics and expectations are learned, they can
be unlearned.

Note to Facilitator:
Discussion on Islamic perspective may be included depending on the
background of the participants

Word Association Exercise
1. Tell the participants that they have 20 minutes to do this exercise.
2. Divide the participants equally into two groups. Assign the word
“female” to the first group and the word “male” to the second
3. Instruct the two groups to form a line and face the board (or
newsprint) that is divided into two columns, one for “female” and
the other column for “male.”
4. Tell the participants to write on the board (or newsprint) what is
being asked pertaining to the word assigned to them. The first
participant on the line writes one idea and he needs to pass on
the chalk or marker to the participant next to him until everybody
on their line has written their answer based on what is being
asked. They should do this as quickly as possible.
5. Ask the following:
a. First round – Things that are being used by a male or a
b. Second round – Places where a female or a male goes to
c. Third round – Food that a female or a male eats
d. Fourth round – Activities that a female or a male can do
e. Fifth round – Body parts of a female or a male

1. Ask the participants the following questions:

a. Affective Level
 While you are answering the questions/instruction given
by the facilitator, what was your reaction?

b. Cognitive Level
 Are the ideas you have written on the board (newsprint) for
female only? For male only? Or can be for both?
 The facilitator will do this as he/she examines every word
written on the board (newsprint) and make notes on what
are for female, for male, and for both.

 What is your insights/learning from the exercise?

2. Synthesize the results of the exercise and proceed to the discussion

of the Key Learning Points.


For the participants to start to re-assess their perception of women based

on the concept of sex and gender.

Understanding the Difference between Men and Women

How does a man differ from a woman?

In this session we will attempt to
explore the difference between a man
and a woman. We will try to recall how
you differ with your spouse on the
different aspects of your relationships
such as, the way each of you cope with
problems, communicate with each
other, use language and express your

Estimated Time: 90 minutes

Objectives: Manila paper
The participants shall be able to demonstrate and Cartolina, pen
express awareness of the difference between a man markers
and a woman as basis in relating with their wives.

Buzz Group Discussion
Modified Role-Play
Key Learning Points:

Differences between Men and Women

(You can photocopy and distribute handouts)

Sense of Self
 Man’s sense of self is defined though his ability to achieve results.
 To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume he doesn’t know what
to do or that he can’t do it on his own. Generally speaking, when a
woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to “help” a man, she has no
idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him.
 A woman’s sense of self is defined through her feelings and the
quality of her relationships. A woman being able to share all her
feelings to her husband will be contented and satisfied. But a man
thinking of helping interrupts this stress releasing activity of a woman
by offering immediate solution to her problem.

John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,
points out the following2:

1. Coping with Stress

 To feel better, men go to their caves to solve problem alone
 To feel better, women get together and openly talk about their
 A woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding
solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing
herself and being understood. At times, to forget her own painful
feelings, a woman may become emotionally involved in the
problems of others.
 Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details
of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the
details of her problems.

2. Ways of Motivating
 Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed and
women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.
Therefore not to be needed is a slow death for men.

 A man’s deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is
incompetent. Therefore it is difficult for a man to listen to a woman
when she is unhappy or disappointed because he feels like a
 Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.

3. Speaking Different Languages

 Both men and women languages have the same words, but the
ways they are used have different meanings.
 To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic licenses to
use various superlatives, metaphors and generalizations.
 The number one complaint of women in a relationship is: “I don’t
feel heard!” But men misunderstand even this complaint.
 The biggest challenge for women is to interpret correctly and
support a man when he isn’t talking.

4. Man Intimacy Cycle

 When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away
before he can get closer. They are like rubber bands. At times
they need to pull away again to regain back their sense of
autonomy and independence.
 When a man physically pulls himself away, she physically follows
 When a man emotionally pulls himself away, she emotionally
follows him more. She may also try to pull him back mentally by
asking him guilt-inducing questions.

5. Mood of Women
 A woman’s self-esteem rises and falls like a wave. When she hits
bottom, it is a time for emotional housecleaning.
 In relationships, men pull back and then get closer, while women
rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others.
 Even when a man is succeeding in supporting a woman, she may
become even more upset. The negative feelings of women should
not be suppressed otherwise the positive feelings become
suppressed as well.
 Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right
to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.
Therefore by supporting her need to be heard, she could support
his need to be free.
6. Emotional Needs
 Fulfilling a primary need is required before one is able fully to
receive and appreciate the other kinds of love.
 A woman needs care and a man needs trust.
 She needs understanding and he needs appreciation.
 She needs devotion and he needs admiration.
 She needs validation and he needs approval.
 She needs reassurance and he needs encouragement.

1. Group the participants into two groups separating the men from
the women. (If all participants are males, ask one group to answer
the women’s point of view).
2. Each group to work on the following questions:
a. What do you like most about wife?
b. What do you dislike most about wife?
3. Ask the group to assign a reporter and a leader. The reporter
writes all responses of the participants on Manila paper while the
leader facilitates the group discussion and sharing.
4. Each group presents their discussion outputs in the plenary.

1. While a group reports in the plenary, take note of the important
issues they raise.
2. Allow sufficient time for clarifications and sharing to deepen the
3. Elicit the learning and insights from the participants.
4. Using your Key Learning Points, lead the participants’ insights
into understanding the difference between a man and a woman in
relation with one another.

1. Ask the participants to identify one personality attribute of their
wives that they like most and one attribute or characteristic that
they hate most.
2. In the attribute that they hate most, ask them what they can do so
that it will not irritate them anymore.
3. Ask the participants to write them on metacards and post them on
the board for everybody to see and learn from.
4. End the session with the following statement:

“Knowing your wife more will make you more effective as a

Improving Relationship with my Wife

Prerequisite to effective fathering is a

stable and harmonious relationship with
the mother of the child, no less but your
wife. But how can a husband and his wife
be a friend to one another in its real

Estimated time: 90 minutes

The participants shall be able to discuss the
different factors that affect their marital Materials:
Manila paper
Methodology: Pens
Brainstorming/Sharing Pencils
Role Playing Mirror
Lecture Discussion
Alternative Methodology – Film Showing

Key Learning Points:

 Causes may step from the innate quality of a man and a woman on
how they relate to one another based on their biological, emotional
and mental characteristics as well as cultural and social backgrounds.
 What values they ascribe to and believe in.
 The way they relate to one another as they interact as husband and
 Causes of conflict are due to deviations from the exercise of socially
assigned roles of women and men as well as children in the family.
These may be as follow:
o Inability to provide for the needs of family. Wife/husband’s
incapability to perform her/his reproductive and
productive roles.
o Men and women vices.
o Other undesirable behaviors.
 Particularly in how they communicate with each other such as often
resorting to:
o Blaming- the tendency to blame always the spouse.
o Placating – one who keeps saying yes but deep inside is
not (just to pacify).
o Computing – the tendency to count on other’s mistake
o Distracting – the one who keeps on speaking or nagging
but not coming deep from the heart and mind.

 Conflict in husband-wife relationship may result to:

o Husband/wife relationship
- Reticence/silence
- Withholding of economic support
- Refusal to talk, dialogue/respond on each
action’s needs
- Marital violence
- Sexual problems
o To children
- Aggressive/undesirable behaviors
- Confusion
- Low self-esteem
- Shame/embarrassment
- Hatred
- Early sexual involvement
- Low academic performance/drop-out


1. Ask the participants to group into two. (Same grouping as the

preceding activity - men and women)
2. Ask each group to identify marital obligations of a husband (group
1) and a wife (group 2)
3. Encourage sharing of beliefs, myths and family practices in
husband and wife relationship.
4. Provide the following as discussion guides:
a. What are your wife’s obligations?
b. What are your obligations as husband?
c. How do we perform our marital obligations?
d. How do we improve?
5. Ask them to write their responses in Manila Paper

1. Ask the participants to report their group output in the plenary.
2. Encourage open discussion and clarification, as this will deepen
the discussion on the topic.
3. Provide highlights of the two group outputs and compare each
other’s responses.
4. Elicit learning from the participants and use your key learning

1. Let the participants sit in a circle.
2. Provide participants with two pieces of paper and ask them to
answer the following questions:
a. What is the best thing that I like in me?
b. What is the best thing that I like in the person to my left?
c. What is the best thing that I like in the person to my right?
3. Once done, pass around a mirror and each one takes turn to talk
to ones’ self while looking at the mirror (for the first question); and
look directly to the person to one’s right and left for the second
and third questions.
4. Elicit their feelings and insights by asking the participants the
following questions:
a. What did you feel in the exercise?
b. What did you feel when you say directly to yourself the
attributes that you like best in yourself?
c. What did you feel when you received positive remarks
from those beside you?
d. What did you learn and discover in the exercise?
5. Synthesize the insights of participants and elicit other ways that
they think would improve husband’s relationship with their wife.
Ways to Improve Husband-Wife Relationship
(Photocopy and distribute as hands-out)

1. Build each other’s self-esteem through:

a. Praising/mutual affirmation – giving of positive remarks
and affirming one’s strengths, skills, knowledge and other
positive attributes sincerely and honestly.
b. Focusing on the positives to help boost each other’s self-
c. Mutual understanding and respect/trust
2. Man-Woman Roles
a. Sharing of roles, mutual cooperation and service - sharing
of familial roles and responsibilities according to one’s
expertise and interest.
b. Commitment to the family - responding to paternal tasks
and responsibilities.
3. Marital Communication Process
a. Dialogue-language of the heart – loving confrontation
focused on one’s feelings and expectations.
b. Use of leveling in communication – which means giving
the other person information and making him/her
understand about your thoughts and feelings, rather than
expecting her or him to read your mind.
c. Satisfying sexual relation/sex as a form of
4. Religion in Deed
a. Practice of one’s religion – leading the family in spirituality
5. Others
a. Know how one’s partner move
b. Readiness to ask for and forgive
c. Resolving problems at the early stage
d. Focusing on the problem (don’t talk about previous ones)
e. Own faults and mistakes
f. Cease from vices
g. Seek counseling advice
h. Set house rules or family rules
i. Continuously clarify marital expectations
j. Keep up the romance
Sexuality in Marriage

Human sexuality plays a major role in marriage. The sexual life of a

couple is very crucial in building and sustaining marriage. Every couple
should learn the important elements of sexuality, to be able to appreciate
more that sexuality is not just a biological aspect of marital life rather as a
high form of communication, deep way of expressing one’s love and
commitment to each other. But couples likewise need to understand the
very basic of sexuality to be able to appreciate the important role it plays
in marital life.

Estimated Time: 60 minutes

Paper, pens,
The participants shall be able to:
pencils, Manila
1. Discuss the elements of human sexuality. paper, picture of
2. Discuss the importance of sexuality in the anatomy of a
enhancing marital life.
man a woman
Group Sharing
Key Learning Points:
 Understanding basic characteristics and differences between men
and women, particularly in sex is necessary to make and keep a
successful marriage.
 Open and honest discussion about sex and sexual issues to improve
communication in sexual relationship
 Couples should be aware as well of their reproductive capacity, and to
control and regulate it as guided by their sense of responsibilities.
 Sexuality is an integral part of the personality of everyone: man,
woman and child; it is a basic need and aspect of being human that
cannot be separated from other aspect of life. “(World Health
Organization, 1975). It is the totality of being: the projection of
 Hence, couples may express their sexuality biologically and non-
biologically. From wide range of intimate sexual expression- from
holding hands, hugging, kissing, massaging, dancing or doing the sex
act itself to a simple touch to express simple affection, to
 A mutually satisfactory sexual relationship promotes successful
marriage. It is important to know the different stages of the sexual act
to become aware of the more satisfactory way/responses to achieve
or fulfill sexual responsibilities in marriage.

1. Post the picture (anatomy) of the man and a woman on the board
and ask the participants to label their parts to have a clear picture
of the anatomy of a man and a woman.
2. Divide the participants into five to six members per group and ask
them to discuss the sexual characteristics of a man and a woman.
3. Ask them to make two columns in the newsprint provided to them
and label the first column, MAN and second column WOMAN.
4. Ask them to highlight the differences between men and women in
the attitudes and practice of sex.
5. Ask them to share their outputs in the plenary.

1. Process the activity by adding more to their output focusing on areas
that have not been discussed based on the matrix below:
Easily aroused (smell, sight, Longer time to get sexually
imagination, not necessarily by aroused more by direct
direct stimulation), reaches stimulation of erotic parts. Longer
sexual satisfaction in a shorter for her to reach sexual peak and
time, his feelings settle down in for her feelings to subdue.
much shorter time.3
Easier for man to deal with Repeated sexual frustration is
sexual frustrations, it is more difficult for a woman.
localized and can easily be
Sexual desire reaches its peak Average women does not achieve
in late teens to late twenties sexual peak till she is in her 30’s
then, it goes downhill and and retains this ability into her
slightly go up to mid-40’s and 60’s.
50’s. Sex and love can exist
independently of the other. Use Looks and expects more beyond
of sex as means of satisfying a just the sexual relationship alone.
great physical hunger-a Think of sex more in terms of
physical need that can exist love, care and security and not
even without love. just a means to physical

2. Synthesize the above and connect them to your key learning points.

1. Ask the participants to maintain the groupings that they have
formed and ask them to discuss the stages of the sexual act and
the practice of healthy and safe habits in sex. Guide them with the
following questions:
a. How to initiate and improve communication in sexual
b. What are the stages of the sexual act?
c. What should a couple do or observe to achieve a
mutually satisfying relationship?
2. Ask the participants to write their responses on the newsprint for
presentation in the plenary.

1. Synthesize responses of participants by focusing first on the first
questions and then to the second question.
2. Highlight commonalities and differences of their responses and
provide or link them to your last key learning point.
3. Stress that knowing the above stages, it is important to know what
one’s partner wants to do or how would you want him/her to
behave so that one may achieve a mutually satisfactory sexual

1. Ask the participants to pause for a moment and define the areas
each one needs to work on to enhance one’s sexual life.
2. Then ask them to identify appropriate ways to strengthen their
marital sex life.
3. Allow time for buzz session and end the session with a prayer.
(Copy on Acetate or big Brown Paper)

1. MUTUAL CONSENT is a pre-requisite to a good start and signals

the readiness of both parties.

2. FOREPLAY involves kissing and fondling

3. AROUSAL of erogenous parts manifested by a fully erect penis

for men and hardened nipples and vaginal secretion for women.

4. PENETRATION is the full entrance of the man’s penis into the

woman’s vagina when both are already at the peak of desire.

5. COITUS is the physical joining of the couple’s bodies

characterized by movement, which causes the penis to rub
against the clitoris and vaginal wall and increase excitement of
the partners.

6. ORGASM is the moment of intense sexual pleasure. In men, this

is accompanied by ejaculation of semen. In women, it is marked
by a sudden muscle contractions throughout the vaginal and

7. RELAXATION sets in when the man’s penis becomes flaccid or

soft after the sex act.

8. AFTER PLAY is an opportunity for the man and woman to affirm

their affection for each other by kissing or embracing each other.
They may say to each other “thank you” and or “I love you.”

Personal relationships deteriorate when what is needed and wanted is not

expressed; the resulting frustrations build up and result in increasing
anxiety and upset. This is particularly likely to occur with sexual
relationships, when problems or disagreements about sexual issues are
not discussed openly and honestly. If this is the case in your personal life,
then here's how to go about improving matters 4

Break the Ice

 Talk with your partner about why it's hard to talk about sex.
 Share earlier experiences with talking about sex.
 Begin by discussing less threatening topics such as birth control,
sex education, etc.
 Gradually move toward discussing more personal feelings and
 Read and discuss material if it seems easier than spontaneously
talking about personal matters.
 Share your sexual histories including such areas as sex
education, first experience with sexuality, etc.

Listen and Provide Feedback

 Active listening helps to show you are interested in what your

partner is saying. Ask questions and make brief comments to help
increase your understanding of what is being said.
 Maintaining eye contact displays caring and validation.
 Reflect back to your partner what you have understood them to
say. This conveys active listening and an interest in
 Be supportive of your partner's efforts to communicate.
 A statement of appreciation or thanks can go a long way to
strengthening a relationship.
 Express "unconditional positive regard." Convey the sense that
you will value your partner regardless of what they communicate
to you.

Discover Your Partner's Needs

 Ask open-ended, clarifying and extending questions to gain the

most information about your companion's desires. Your partner
will probably appreciate your concern.
 If the subject you are interested in is particularly sensitive, try self-
disclosing first. Self-disclosure will model trust and a willingness
to take risks.
 Compare notes on sexual preferences. This can be an effective
way of learning about what does and doesn't stimulate your
partner, and is certainly more efficient than trial and error.
 Give your partner permission to talk about his/her feelings.
Learn To Make Requests

 Take responsibility for your own pleasure. Realize that people are
not mind readers and genuinely communicate your needs and
 Make requests specific. This will increase the chance that your
wishes will be understood and granted.
 Use "I" language. Although it is sometimes difficult to personalize
requests, it is often the best means of getting a positive response.

Delivering Criticism

 Be aware of your motivation. Is it based on a constructive desire

to make your relationship better?
 Choose the right time and place. Try not to be critical when anger
is at its peak. Give your partner a choice about when he/she
would like to talk. Be aware of your partner's needs when
choosing a location.
 Temper criticism with praise. This will reduce the likelihood of
your partner responding in a defensive or angry fashion, and
increase the chances of him/her accepting what you have to say.
 Nurture small steps toward change. Be generous with your
support and encouragement of change. Realize that it is normal to
revert back to comfortable patterns which have developed over
time, so don't be too discouraged if there is some backsliding.
 Avoid "why" questions. They tend to be perceived as attacking
and hurtful. Better to say 'I don't understand...'
 Express your anger appropriately. Direct your anger toward your
partner's behaviors, not his/her character. Don't forget to remind
your partner that you appreciate them as a person. Take
responsibility for your anger.
 Your partner cannot make you feel angry, you choose to respond
that way.

The following are the accepted sexual conduct:

(Copy as visual aid on acetate or cartolina)

1. Practice of personal hygiene. Couples should be aware that

cleanliness is good health. Partners should observe good hygiene
before going into sex.

2. Both partners must be certain that they are not infected with
any sexually transmitted disease. The marital act deserves
respect and concern over the welfare of the partner. This concern
tests the dignity of the relationship.

3. Prior to the sex act, both partners must recognize their

respective responsibility to want, love and care for the
offspring that may result from their union. Such recognition
will assure that the child’s basic needs will be provided for. An
unloved and unwanted child starts life without human dignity,
which is his birthright.

4. The persons involved in the sex act should have a common

goal or direction in life. The married act is one of the means to
strengthen their relationship and commitment to the welfare of
their family.

5. One partner should never exploit the other. Sexual relationship

is for the mutual satisfaction of both partners. Never should it be
degrading to anyone. Every sexual act therefore should be with
mutual consent of the partners.

Responsible Parenthood through Planned Family Size

Planning one’s family size is a step forward to ensuring responsible

parenthood. Just how do we view ourselves as responsible parents in
relation to how we plan the size of our families? In this session, we will
take a look at what this really means.
Estimated Time: 1 ½ hours

Objectives: Materials:
The participants shall be able to: Old
1. Discuss the meaning of responsible Newspapers\and
parenthood. magazines
2. Discuss the major philosophy and Cartolina
concepts related to responsible
3. Articulate the motivating and hindering factors in practicing
responsible parenthood.

Small group discussion
Plenary presentation

Key Learning Points:

 Responsible parenthood refers to the will, ability and commitment of

parents to respond to the needs and aspirations of the family and
children more particularly through family planning.
 One concern of responsible parenthood is determining the number
and spacing of their children taking into account such factors as
psychological preparedness, health status, socio-cultural and
economic concerns.
 The husband and wife should ensure the appropriate number of
children the family can fully support with and provide the necessary
needs such as physical/basic needs, emotional and psychological
support, time and attention/interaction.
 The husband and wife should discuss and decide on the number of
children that they should have depending on their financial capability,
time and capability to provide care and attention to ensure that
appropriate care shall be provided to their children.

1. Divide the group into sub-groups
2. Ask them to brainstorm on the group’s definition of
RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD and interpret this definition
through a collage/picture cut outs or drawing.
3. Ask them to list down motivating forces in practicing Responsible
4. Ask them to list down resistance forces in practicing Responsible
5. Ask each group to present their output in the plenary.

1. Process the activity by asking them the following questions:
a. What are the values behind Responsible Parenthood?
b. How can fathers appreciate the value of Responsible
c. How can fathers be motivated to practice Responsible
2. Use your key learning points to discuss the topic further then
present the following:

Motivating Factors in the Practice of Responsible Parenthood

(Copy on acetate of big brown paper)

a. For the Parent

 A wish to improve skills in being a father
 To save on expenses
 To have more time for self/relaxation
 To contribute to community welfare
 Concern for one’s health
 To remove fear for unwanted pregnancies
 For personal/professional development
 For greater control of one’s life

b. Outside Forces
 Motivator’s commitment
 NGO/GO support
 Community support
 Family support
 Socio-economic forces/realities conducive to
Responsible Parenthood.

Hindering Factors in the Practice of Responsible Parenthood

 Ignorance
 Inadequate knowledge on effective parenting
 Perception of children as security on old age
 Perception of women role as “child bearer”
 Past bad experiences
 Fear of side effects
 Apathy/passivity
Advantages of Child Spacing/Planned Family Size
(Photocopy and give as handouts)

 Ensures the health of both mother and child.

 Employs time gainfully to meet the growing needs of your
 Ensures quality education of children.
 It allows more time and attention to nurture family relationship.
 Nutrition and food could be adequately meet.
 Enhances husband and wife relationship.
 Ensures adequate guidance and supervision of children in relation
to desirable socio-cultural values.

Child Spacing – allows sufficient time between the birth of the last child
and the new child so that the mother may rest and regain her health
before the subsequent pregnancy.

 It is good for the parent who will still be able to enjoy each other’s
companionship without too many small children incessantly
demanding their attention.
 It gives the mother the opportunity to attend to her needs and
provide for her own development.
 It is best for the baby who will get the care necessary in the first
few years of his life without a younger sibling competing with
him/her for the limited, effort and resources of his parents.
Understanding the Developmental Stages of Children

Your vital role as a father in

child-rearing process is
beginning to be valued.
Therefore there is a need to
give more emphasis in the
changes in your role that will
be necessary if you are to
further fulfill your parental
roles and responsibilities. In
this session, we will be
discussing on what you
should know as a father on
how your children grow.

Estimated Time: 2 hours

The participants shall be able to discuss and understand the stages of
psychosocial development of children.

Audio-visual presentation

Key Learning Points:

(Copy on Manila paper)]

Health Process of Development

0-2 (Infancy) - The child has needs for food, love, rest, recreation,
security and stimulation. If these needs are met, they develop trust in
others, feel valued and have sense that life is good-HOPE.

2-3 (Early Childhood) - Child discovers control of himself through bladder

and vowel, saying “no” in choosing certain foods, etc. The child develops
sense of autonomy – WILL

3-6 (Play Age) - Child discovers that he can “do things”, climbs, draws,
puzzles together, goes to school, develops friendships. Make things
through crafts. The child develops initiative and a sense of belief in
himself that he can create and be successful – SENSE OF PURPOSE.

6-12 (School Age) - The child discovers he is part of society. He can be

part of human society and learn skills that enable him to survive in society.
The child develops industry; has sense that he has a valuable contribution
to others – COMPETENCE.

12-19 (Adolescence) - The child discovers his unique values and

personality – even within a group of peers and adults; chooses a career.
The man develops sense of identity, a sense of relating to others as he is
accepting and caring for others – FIDELITY.

19-40 (Young Adult) - Adult discovers his life becomes better when he
can share and love; chooses partner and has children – LOVE.

40-65 (Adult) Discovers that he has life in others, has grandchildren,

enjoys and reaps benefit of parenting and working. Develops generosity,
sense that he has made a positive contribution to the life process –

65-death (Mature Age) Adult discovers he has had what he wanted in

life, feels contented and satisfied with life process. Develops integrity, a
sense of getting old, coming to terms with death, feel life is worthwhile –

Unhealthy Process of Development

0-2 (Infancy) - Child does not get needs met. Feels hungry, cold and
abandoned – MISTRUST.

2-3 (Early Childhood) - Child is punished for wetting, soling his pants,
child is yelled at or abused for not behaving – SHAME AND DOUBT.

3-6 (Play Age) - Child is rarely praised; only putdown remarks and/or
punished or ignored/abused. Normal curiosity is discouraged and
mistakes are punished – GUILT.

6-12 (School Age) - Child never belongs to anyone. He is not wanted – is

not allowed opportunities to develop friendships; abilities are criticized –
12-19 (Adolescence) - Child misunderstood – abused, cannot develop
values or goals; spend energy in rebelling against family and society –

19-40 (Young Adult) - Cannot form successful relationships with others,

and is promiscuous or/and a sense of ISOLATION is developed.

40-65 (Adult) - Experiences disappointments – no enjoyment in past life –

wishes to begin ones STAGNATION

65-death (Mature Age) Knows he did not get what he want out of life – is
depressed, sad and sometimes very ill and in DESPAIR.


1. Ask the participants to make groups of six to eight members.

2. Give each group a set of brown paper and marking pens.

3. Ask them to talk about milestones on the developmental stages in

terms of cognitive, language, social, and physical development of

4. Ask them to draw a ladder on a big brown paper with each step of the
ladder assigned to the following/corresponding age levels.
 0-2 years old (Infancy)
 2-3 years old (Early Childhood)
 3-6 years old (Play Age)
 6-12 years old (School Age)
 12-19 (years old (Adolescence)

5. Provide the following guide questions for the group discussions:

 What were my needs as a child in each stage of development?
 Did my parents fulfill these needs?
 How did I behave in each stage of development?

6. Ask the participants to write their answers on the ladder they drew.

7. Ask them to take turns in presenting their group outputs.


1. After the plenary presentations, allow open discussion and sharing, as

this will help fathers internalize the topic.

2. Take note of the highlights of their report and write them on the board
to emphasize important ideas and details in the topic.

3. Elicit learning from the participants in the activity and synthesize,

providing important ideas using your key learning points.


1. End the session by asking the participants to do free writing exercise

expressing how a father would evaluate the growth and
developmental of their children.

2. Call on volunteers to read aloud what they wrote.

Responding to the Growth and Development Needs of Children and

Early childhood is a time of tremendous

growth across all areas of
development. The dependent newborn
grows into a young person who can take
care of his or her own body and interact
effectively with others.5

On the other hand, the Adolescence

stage happens from thirteen up to
nineteen years of age and it is
considered as the transition stage
between the childhood and adulthood
stage. In this stage, the sex maturation
happens and physical developments
rapidly occur; the individual feels, think
and act differently.6

Today, psychologists have come to agree that fathers play a unique and
crucial role in nurturing and guiding children's development. Many experts
now believe that fathers can be just as nurturing and sensitive with their
babies as mothers. As their children grow, fathers take on added roles of
guiding their children's intellectual and social development. Even when a
father is 'just playing' with his children, he is nurturing their development. 7

Estimated Time: 90 minutes

Manila paper
The participants shall be able to talk about ways to
Pen markers
respond to the growth and development needs of their
Masking tape
children and adolescents.

Workshop, Role Playing

Key Learning Points:

(Photocopy and give as handouts)

Paternal Response to 0-1 years old children

 Feel relax in doing something new
 Avoid mistakes of other fathers – Don’t wait for them to get older
before you get emotionally involved
 Be involved as soon as she/he is born
 Getting involved means helping the child meet his basic needs
 Help develop child self-concept
 Assist child in exploring his own environment
 Allow and encourage the child to freely do things in a stimulating
 Provide the necessary calm understanding to the aggressive nature of
the little child
 Include books as definite part of his/her play material
 Adapt your house and backyard into a suitable and safe environment
 Provide attention and praise good behavior

Paternal Response to 2-3 years old children
 Provide sympathy and listen well to your wife to release her stress
and exasperation in caring for your 2-3 year old child
 Be flexible with rules and limits until he/she is emotionally mature
 Encourage child to express feeling and help set reasonable limits
 Use feedback techniques to set limits and ease stress
 Start to toilet rain your child
 Provide stimulating activities for language development
 Enjoy the fun and love offered by the child – this strengthens the bond
between you.

Paternal Response to 4-6 years old children

 Play with your child. Your child will learn that you can be strong and
yet not too rough to hurt others and you can get excited too.
 Ignore negative talks and attitude.
 Introduce fascinating word/activity that will catch the attention of your
 Overcome emotional blockage – be at ease in dealing with child’s
question on sex.
 Be patient and acknowledge “family romance”, a phenomenon when
children first become independent of their parent’s authority; this will
be outgrown when she/he is mature to sort out reality from fantasy-
offer tender rejection.8
 Spend more time with your child – for your son. Give him time and
attention so your son can learn to model himself from you, and your
daughter, can fill in a healthy image of man.
 Help/assist your child acquire a repertoire of basic learning skills such
as helpful articles, games and workshops – these help achieve
intellectual development.
 Don’t be critical of whatever your child can achieve – every child is
unique and learns by their own phase.
 When all these are achieved, primary socialization is achieved and
the child will have a strong self-concept, healthy personality structure
– necessary for having a sense of self-esteem and a strong sense of

Paternal Response to 6-11 Years Old Children

 Provide emotional support. This serves as an important ally in his/her
struggle to learn how to cope with the grown up world.
 Spend more time with your son so he can incorporate you as his ideal
figure to imitate.

 Your daughter needs time with you so she can learn to relate with you
and with other males.
 This is the time to establish a positive relationship.
 Train the child to have a regular time and place to study.
 Don’t show any jealousy formed with any close relationship he/she
 Learn that unpleasant habits are part of middle childhood and will be
outgrown with paternal understanding and discipline.
 Lecturing/scolding in front of other people embarrasses them and
leads them to feel inadequate and resentful.
 Learn to praise your child; it’s the greatest reward or reinforcement.
 Get into the habit of on the lookout for behavior you can praise.
 Be a model. Your values and attitudes are absorbed strongly in this
period and passed on to your child.
 Understand that your child needs a peer group. A peer group provides
a place free of adult influence. It helps your child exercise his
acquired socialization skills.
 Prepare a place for peer group and teach him/her to handle teasing
and insults.

Paternal Response to 12-15 Years Old Children

 Realize that unpleasant behavior is temporary and is a normal
 Show your son the ways that you would like them to be as adult.
Spend time with him; he will learn much more from what you do than
from what you say.
 Spend time with your daughter. This will help her feel good about
being female if she sees that you enjoy your time with her.
 Avoid parental counter hysterics; a father’s role is to provide a calm
 Keep cool and don’t turn minor problems into major ones.
 Be patient and try not to respond to the provocative behavior of your
adolescent child.
 Provide growth opportunities where the wild behavior of pre-
adolescent can emerge safely.
 Respect your youngster new found independence; move up to their
development stage.
 Don’t take any form of rebellion too personally. Understand that their
feelings and thought fluctuate from day to day, week to week as they
crave for independence as well as maintain dependence.
 Understand that crying is an appropriate response to deep feelings.
 Adjust to new sexuality of the child. “Family Romance” may reappear
but she/he will outgrow it.
 Strengthen the bond by meeting the emotional needs of the child.
This is your safeguard for outside temptation.
 Maintain an open, genuine and two-way communication.
 As early as possible, provide accurate information on drugs; never
accuse and/or play detective or punitive but be evaluative and seek
dialogue. If need be, seek professional help.

Paternal Response to 16 Years Old to Young Adulthood

 Keep the lines of communication open. Talk of your feelings as well
so that your children will learn that it is all right for men to talk about
feelings. Talk about when you are sad and happy.
 Be a sounding board via the feedback technique for his/her
adolescent perspective.
 Help select his/her vocation based on your child’s personal inclination,
interest, capabilities as well as your present economic status.
 Respect their privacy.
 Tell your child or let your child know your stand with regard to sexual
attitudes, behaviors and ideas.
 Be a comfortable support to the child.
 Allowing him/her to his/her own thing; you will just remain in the
background to give a feeling of security.
 You should be able and should maintain a non-judgmental attitude
when crises arise.
 Provide a firm stand but lovingly on sensitive matters. You should be
clear of your stand insuring that they will learn to be mature enough in
their decision-making. This will lead them into stable life and make
them become loving, independent and productive individuals.

1. Organize three main groups of six to eight members each (when
possible, do consider fathers with children directly related the age
group assigned to them i.e. Early Childhood (0-6 years old); Middle
Childhood (6-10 years old) and Adolescence (11-18 years old).
2. Ask the participants to select a group leader and a reporter.
3. Ask each group to discuss using the following questions:
a. What are the needs of children corresponding to the age
level assigned to your group? (Use previous group output
for reference)
b. What behavioral characteristics do you observe?
c. Did you respond to the above behavioral characteristics?
If yes, how?
d. What stimulating activities or support activities have you
given to your child to help him/her cope with his
developmental challenges?
4. Once done, ask the group to role-play the behavioral characteristics
they observed in their own children at the particular age group
assigned to them as well as the stimulating activities that they do to
support their children’s growth and development.
5. Ask the group to present in a plenary.

Note to Facilitator:
The facilitator may include session/tips on paternal response in handling
children with disabilities

1. Ask the following questions:
a. Were the actions and responses of fathers conducive to the
growth and development of their children?
b. What are the negative
reactions or responses we
give to our children that THE SCULPTOR
hinder their process of By: Author, Unknown
c. What are the problems you I took a piece of plastic clay
encounter in responding to And idly fashioned it, one day
the developmental stages of And as my fingers pressed it still
your children? It moved and yielded to my will
d. How do you overcome
them? I came again when days were passed
e. What do you do to help your That bit of clay was hard at last
child develop fully? The form I gave I still it bore
And I could change that form no more
2. Provide the handouts and
engage the trainees into further Then I took a piece of living clay
discussion. And gently formed it day by day
And molded with my power and art
Application: A young child’s soft and yielding heart
1. Stress that the fathers are key
players in providing care, I came again when years were gone
guidance, and direction during It was a man I looked upon
the psychosocial development He still that early impress bore
of their children. And I could change it no more.
2. End the session with the poem at the inset.
Raising Children in Gender Sensitive Ways

The way we raise our children formed the

roles that children will perform throughout
their adult life. In our own family, how do
we distribute tasks and functions in the
home with our sons and daughter? If it is
a male child, what do you expect of him to
be, and if it will be a female, what do you
expect of her to be. In this session we will
be discussing differences on the way we
raise our sons and daughters

Estimated Time: 90 minutes

The Participants shall be able to discuss how Filipino parents raise their
children in ways that socialize them into their gender
identities and roles. Materials:
Manila paper
Methodology: Pen markers
Brainstorming Masking tape
Group Sharing

Key Learning Points

(Copy on manila paper and use as visual aids)

 Socialization refers to complex process of learning behaviours

considered appropriate and not appropriate with a given culture.
 Family - is the primary socialization agent.
 Gender behaviour is developed and is mirrored in the family in six
socialization areas:
- Parental preferences
- Role expectation
- Manner of raising
- Preference for investment of resources
- Type of differential responsibilities
- Parental modelling
 Gender socialization process is between 5-10 years old.
 Gender segregation, e.g. boys are not allowed to play with girls, boys
can play kites and balls, while girls can only play with dolls and
bahay-bahayan, boys enjoy more freedom while girls tend to receive
more restrictions, and boys are allowed to be more aggressive.
 Adolescent Stage – parents are extra careful to girls, more restraint
but they allow boys to go home late.
 Responsibility – while both girls and boys are into economic activities,
girls are more focused on childcare and boys are given some of
household works.

What can parents do?

 Develop the attitude that children should be valued equally regardless
of gender.
 Daughters should be loved and cherished as much as your sons, not
just for their functional contributions to the family but also for their own
unique personalities and capabilities.
 Maintain gender free expectations to all family members.
 Encourage the views that both of them can achieve their highest
 Provide equal time and play, leisure and relaxation for both boys and
 Adopt gender free rules.
 Ensure same opportunities for both of them.
 Abolish distinctions between a man and a woman’s work.
 Provide role models where mother and father can both be assertive
and nurturing.
 Build up boys’ interest and capabilities to care for children.
 As fathers, increase your participation in parental delivery, and early
child development.

1. Make two main groups and ask them to respond and share their
different views on the following:
a. If you were going to have your first baby, what would you prefer, a
male or a female baby?
b. What are the roles you expect from your son? From your
c. How do you raise your son? How do you raise your daughter?
d. Do you care more on your son? Or do you care more for your
2. Ask the participants to write their responses on the newsprint.
3. Ask each group to report their output in the plenary.
4. Allow reactions and comments from other participants as each group
reports in the plenary.

1. Engage the participants into discussion by asking the following
 How and why did you come up with such child preference in your
 How are these roles manifested in the way you raised your child?
 Why do you think we adhere to these differences in the roles we
give to our sons and daughters?
2. Direct the discussion using your Key Learning Points and allow time
for more questions and clarifications.

1. Ask the participants to answer this question individually (ask them to
write their answers)” “How would I raise my son so that he can
become nurturing father in his own children someday?”
2. Ask the participants to write their answers on metacards and to attach
them on their chest.
3. Ask the participants to move around to share it with other participants.
4. End the session with a song or a prayer.

Responding to Child’s Rights and Responsibilities
This session will discuss the rights of the child. Fathers should be aware
and should recognize that there are basic rights of the child, which are
written under the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

Objectives: Materials:
The participants shall be able to: Illustration of child at the Centre
1. Explain the rights of the child. of Society (Child Friendly
2. Discuss the four broad areas Movement)
covered by the Convention on the Poster of the Convention on the
Rights of the Child. Rights of the child
3. List the responsibilities of Fathers Flipchart containing words of
and adults towards children. “Sampung Mga Karapatan”
Manila paper
Methodology: Masking tape
Brainstorming, group discussion, Pentel pens
matching game Cards marked “A”, “B” and “C”

Key Learning Points:

 The Convention on the Rights of the child (CRC) states that a child is
a person under 18 years old, unless national laws recognize the age
of majority earlier.
 CRC is an international instrument ratified in 1990 by most member
countries of the United Nations.
 The CRC sets minimum standards for parents; NGOs, civil society
and governments must commit in ensuring that children realize their
 Parents are primarily responsible in fulfilling the rights of the child for
children’s optimum growth and development.
 Parents should help their children understand and exercise their
 The rights of the child can be summarized as follow:

 The right to be born, to have a name and nationality.

 The right to have a family to take care of him or her.
 To have a good education.
 To develop his or her full potential.
 To have enough food, shelter. To have a healthy and active body.
 To learn good manners and right conduct.
 To be given the opportunity to play and have leisure.
 To be given protection against abuse, danger and violence.
 To live in a peaceful community.
 To be defended and assisted by the government.
 To be able to express his/her views.

 The rights of the child can be clustered into four broad

 Survival
 The rights of the child for him and her to live. These
include food, health, shelter and clothing.
 Development
 The rights of the child for him or her to attain his full
potential. These include education, rest and
recreation, spiritual activity, and love and care.
 Protection
 The rights of the child for him to be supported and
protected. These include protection from mental,
physical or sexual abuse, neglect and exploitation.
 Participation
 The rights of the child, which will enable him to
express his feelings and thoughts. These include his
or her right to speak his or her own opinion; to have
access to good and important information; to be with
his or her own peers; and his or her rights to a name
and nationality which he or she needs to be identified
as a member of a family, community or a society.


1. Engage the participants into preliminary discussion by reminding them

of the previous session where you talked about the development of
children and the consequent paternal responses.
2. Stress that in this session you will now talk about a very important
thing in the life of each child that is the rights of a child.
3. Stressed that it is the right of every child to be cared for and that
fathers are very important persons in recognizing these rights.
4. Then form three main groups and ask them to prepare a presentation
using any form of creative media showing ways that can hinder
Child’s Rights.
5. Each group presents as you jot down all their answers on a flipchart
or blackboard (key words only).
6. Recap your list by showing the poster on the Rights of the Child.
7. To make fathers participate more actively, you ask different
volunteers to read a line from the poster.
8. Point out the rights, which may have been missed by the fathers
during their enumeration of Child Rights.
9. Move to the next point on who should uphold the rights of the child.
10. Ask the following question:
“If these are the rights of the child, who do you think are responsible
in fulfilling the rights of the child?”
11. Again, list all the possible answers.
12. Recap by showing the enlarged version of the illustration showing a
Child at the Centre of a Society.

1. Form three groups and ask the following questions for the group to
“What do you think are the top two rights not met by most children in
your community?” Which rights do you as a father supports the
2. Allow time for the groups to discuss and write their answers on Manila
3. Post the answers and ask a representative from each group to explain
the outputs.
4. Allow more time for insights and other learning.


1. Conduct a group game.

2. Place three chairs (3) marked clearly with “A”, “B”, and “C” in front of
the group.
3. Ask all fathers to participate in the game by lining up behind the
marked chair. (The correct answer are underlined for your guidance):
a. In the Philippines, a child is anyone below:
A. 15 B.18 C 13
b. The Convention on the Rights of the Child (Kasunduan ng
Karapatan ng Bawat Bata) was ratified by most countries
who are members of the United Nations in the year:
A. 1990 B. 1989 C. 1985
c. Under he Convention on the Rights of the Child, the
fulfilment of the rights of the children is primarily the
responsibility of the:
A. Schools B. Government C. Parents
d. Which of these is not part of the Rights of the Child:
A. To be able to express his or her views
B. To have his or her own name and nationality
C. To work so that his or her family can live better.
e. To make the various rights of the child more
understandable, the rights can be clustered into how many
basic categories:
A. Five B. Four C. Nine
4. Deepen the experience by asking: “How can you inform other fathers
about the rights of the child? What would be your difficulties in sharing
the rights of the child with other fathers in your community? What do
you suggest in order to overcome these difficulties?”

5. End the session by showing the flipchart of “Mga Karapatan Ko” to the
tune of “Sampung Mga Daliri.”


Mga karapatan ko
Apat ang saklaw nyan
Mabuhay ng matiwasay
Umunlad ng mahusay
Proteksyon sa panganib
Isali’t pakinggan
Karapatan, ipaglaban
Ng mga magulang
Fathers as Spiritual Leaders

Try to look back at your past and look at your present situation. Do you
think you can be proud of yourself for the rest of your life? Do you have
that inner confidence, inner love, peace
and trust emanating from your enduring
faith in God? What have you done to
yourself as spiritual being in the context
of your role as a father? And just what
do you think does it take for you to be
kind of father we need to be in order to
provide the most wholesome and
spiritually rich home in which your
children’s souls might be unfolded.

Estimated Time: 45 minutes

Objectives: Reflective
The participants shall be able to: Instrumental Song
1. Reflect and talk about the important role Flip Chart paper,
as spiritual leaders in the family. pens and markers,
2. Visualize a father’s role as spiritual leader Crayons and big
in the family. brown paper
Individual Reflection
Buzz Group Discussion

Key Learning Points:

(Copy the highlighted headings on the flipchart paper)

The father as a spiritual leader

As a father, he has a responsibility to guide every member of the family
and family life as a whole to be able to raise spiritual children.

Family Spirituality
It is the synergistic by product of all the interpersonal dynamics between
parent and child, child and siblings and spouse and spouse. This can be
characterized by a strong bond among family members-healthy
relationships with love, support, guidance and a sense of shared identity.
It generates and energizes spiritual power making us become more
trusting and hopeful to pursue things despite occurrence of obstacles.

It gives us a clear vision of life and its meaning. It gives sympathetic

understanding to a nagging wife, domineering husband, troublesome
children and meddling neighbors.

Family life is your spiritual life – seeking together, ritualizing together,

learning and teaching peace.

1. Ask participants to individually reflect guided by the following
questions (facilitator may play a soft music):
a. Am I the spiritual leader of my family?
b. How do I manifest spiritual leadership in my family?
c. What spiritual activities do we do in our own family that
helps promote trust and unity in our relationship?
d. What are the hindrances in fulfilling our spiritual
e. What actions to we take to address these hindrances?
2. Provide them with paper and pens to write their reflections.
3. After the participants complete the individual work, make three
main groups and ask them to share their responses with one
4. Ask each group to assign a reporter to write highlights and a
leader to facilitate the group sharing.
5. Each group to take turns in presenting a summary of their

1. Take note of all key messages in the output of the participants
and write them on the board.
2. Allow sharing of experiences, ideas and hopes to deepen the
discussion on this topic.
3. Discuss further using your key learning points.

1. Provide art materials (crayons and big brown paper) and ask the
groups to draw murals of how fathers can play their roles as
family spiritual leaders.
2. Post murals around the room like a gallery.
3. Allow time and encourage each one to view the three murals.
Raising Your Children to be of High Spiritual Values

Children have their own thoughts and

feelings. They have their own likes
and dislikes. They have their own
wishes and dreams in life as well as
fears. But this need not stop the
fathers from continuing seeking
dialogue and quiet moments with their
children. Fathers need to give a
specialized attention to his wife or
children when pressing problems
abound. They need to be supported,
taught and guided as to how father
can achieve their role in enriching the
life of his family members.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

The participants shall be able to identify ways to
help children grow with high spiritual values. Materials:
Flipchart paper
Methodology: Pens
Workshop/Discussion Markers
Role Playing handouts

Key Learning Points:

What can fathers do to raise spiritual children and family?

(Copy the highlighted headings on Flip paper, or photocopy and distribute
as handouts.)

a. Lead the family in prayer

Prayer preserves the family. It forges a vision of spirit. It has curative
effects that lead one to forgive and acknowledge his own misdeeds
and weaknesses, thus impatience will lead to sympathetic
understanding to a nagging wife, domineering husband, troublesome
children and meddling neighbors.
b. Lead and build spiritual family lives
c. Start Early. Teach your child as early as possible in appreciating God
through prayer and singing.
d. Tell the truth. Don’t be afraid to show your pains. Be honest with
your feelings and thoughts.
e. Do good. Your child will learn to be good based on your dealings with
other people.
f. Wear your spirituality on your sleeve and not on your chest where
you put your ID for display.
g. Undertake indoor/outdoor fun for the family. This will provide
relaxing moments to all the members of the family.
h. Undertake community service, as this will promote concern and
respect to other people.

1. Make five main groups.
2. Ask them to work on the following questions:
a. What are the best ways to teach and raise my children
spiritual values?
b. How can fathers teach their children to become more
3. Allow time for the group to answer and present their outputs using
role play.

1. Ask participants how they feel and what they think about the
2. Discuss further using your key learning points.

1. Direct the participants to the empty flip chart paper and ask them
to list down as many activities to undertake to promote family
2. Ask them to individually choose which among the lists are doable
daily, weekly or in special periods.
3. Give out paper and pens for them to make their planned spiritual
activity schedules.
Understanding Family Violence

The thrust of the government in

addressing the problem of family violence
is a part of the worldwide effort in support
to the Convention on the Rights of the
Child (CRC) and the Convention on the
Elimination and Discrimination Against
Women (CEDAW. In this session, we shall
look at how fathers can become
champions in preventing family violence.

Estimated Time: 1 ½ hours

The participants shall be able to discuss how
violence evolves in the family and how this affects Materials:
the members. Cartolina or metacards
Pen markers
Methodology: Manila paper
Brainstorming Old Magazines and
Short Lecture Newspapers
Discussion Scissors
Key Learning Points:

 Violence in the family occurs and is a serious problem in the country

today. It refers to the act committed with the deliberate or perceived
intention of hurting another person particularly to children, women and
older persons.

 The cause of violence in the family includes:

 Lack of emotional empathy/failure to see/feel pain
 Relation problems acquired during childhood/
 Belief as “ordinary” and “normative” act
 Narrow view of violence

 It presents serious abuse of power within the family, trust or

dependency relationship. It comes in different forms such as:
 Physical Abuse – is any act that result in inflicted injury to
any member of the family
 Sexual Abuse – is any act or acts that result in the sexual
exploitation of children, women and older people.
 Emotional/Psychological Abuse – is any act or omission
that results in impaired psychological, social, intellectual and
or emotional functioning and development of a child, a
woman or older person.
 Economic Abuse - as making or attempting to make an
individual financially dependent by maintaining total control
over financial resources, withholding one's access to money,
or forbidding one's attendance at school or employment.
 Neglect – is any act of omission that results in impaired
social functioning, injury, and/or development of a child of a
young person.
 Multiple Abuse – is any act that is a combination of the
various types of abuse inflicted to a child, a woman or any
member of a family that results in physical injury, sexual
exploitation, impaired social functioning and danger to life of
the person.

 Family violence is a serious social problem that affects not only the
family but the community as well. It often remains a hidden problem in
the family, which has long lasting effects on the victims particularly on
their personality. Victims of family violence are usually the children,
women and older people.


You may do any of the three activities:

1. Inquire about the participants’ own understanding of the concept

of family violence and allow time for the participants to make a list
of observed and/or experienced forms of family violence in the
community and list all their responses on the board. Or:
2. Give each of the participant sheets of paper or Cartolina to write
their responses and have all their responses posted on the board.
3. Ask them to make a collage about a family violence.

1. Based on the responses of the participants, ask them to
categorize the different types of abuses they find in their home
and in their community. Elicit responses on the following
a. Who do you think are the perpetrators of violence in the
b. Why do you think these forms of abuses are occurring in
your community?
c. What effect do you think will it have on your children?
2. Write all the responses on the board and write key messages on
family violence, using your Key Learning Points.

1. Group the participants into 2 or 3 groups and ask them to identify
ways to prevent family violence at home.
2. Ask the groups to present their outputs in creative media
presentation i.e. song, dance, pantomime and poem.

Preventing Violence in the Home

Fathers as male species are naturally aggressive

and are easily provoked to anger. When you are
angry you are in stress – that means you lose
balance in your thinking and emotional state. To
prevent the consequence of that imbalance
feeling and thought, one need to manage his/her
feelings so he/she can devise way to control
one’s feelings particularly when one is in anger
state. Otherwise, the strong feeling of anger will
have to be released to the people around
him/her particularly his/her family and hurt the
people he/she loved.

Estimate Time: 1 ½ hours

Objectives: Materials:
The participants shall be able to: Reflective instrumental
1. Discuss the importance of the need to music on tape
prevent violence in the home.
2. Discuss anger management as a way to Tape recorder
prevent violence in the family.
Individual exercise

Key Learning Points:

 Anger requires so much attention. It brings chaos into familial
relationships and hurt peoples’ lives even worse destroy the family or
marital bond, unity and stability.
 When conflict occurs particularly between couple we experience
feelings such as frustration, defeat, embarrassment, guilt or
insecurity. A secondary feeling of anger usually follows these feelings.
And when this occurs, it must be given attention. It must not be
ignored, avoided and kept secret or suppressed. Otherwise, it will
take root and be acted out in negative and unhealthy ways.
 Anger though can be controlled and managed. It is within our means
to do something about it. Hence when you are angry, you may do the
o Understand the roots of your anger by focusing less in the person
but on your feeling and ponder on the situation that caused your
o Recognize your anger style by determining whether your act is
aggravating more to your feeling of anger and that either you are
hurting more yourself or the people around you.
o Learn tools and techniques to control your anger positively such
as walking away from the situation for a while and letting things
cool down, positive self-talk as “I know I am angry but I will calm
my self down”.
o Redirect your feeling of anger to positive or productive tasks such
as listening to music, cutting the grass or washing the dishes.
o Release your feeling of anger internally through visualization.
o Release your anger in safe and supportive environment.
o Fare and resolve the anger of your past. If an issue occurs never
go to sleep or never let one day pass without resolving the
conflict. You may cool down for a while but work on your conflict
as soon as you can.

However, when someone is angry at you or at the situation, you may also
do the following:
 Listen carefully and don’t interrupt. Always let the angry person vents
his/her anger and frustration.
 Focus your full attention on the person. Always establish eye contact.
Don’t divide your attention by trying to do something else.
 Control your emotions by remaining calm and avoiding the temptation
to engage in an argument.
 Apologize if necessary if it is your fault. Do not try to defend yourself
rather let the other person see your affirmation and recognition of your
 Solve the problem immediately if necessary. Your wife and children
will appreciate you so much and regard you positively.

1. Divide the participants into two groups.
2. Ask one group to work on defining the different steps in managing
one’s own anger and the other group on identifying activities in
coping with other people’s anger.
3. Remind the groups that each participant will write as many
answers on the board.
4. Acknowledge the group who yields the most responses.

An alternate methodology is through meditation exercise by asking the

participants the following questions:
1. What specific experience or situation angers you most?
2. How did you respond/handle your anger?
3. How did you express your anger?
4. What effect did it have to the people you love?

1. Process the activity by checking the responses and allow time for
confirmation or validation
2. Elicit insights and learning whether they can prevent or minimize
any form of abuse or violence if they manage and control their
anger using the following questions:
a. Will you really be able to control occurrence of abuse in
the family if you control or manage your anger?
b. What are the other ways to handle your anger inside the
3. Synthesize the session using your key learning points.

1. Play the instrumental music and ask the participants to listen.
2. Ask each to recall the past conflict he had with his wife or his
children and identify positive ways to respond to anger.
3. Encourage them to share reflections with any participant one feels
comfortable with
The Father’s Role in Preventing Family Violence in the Community

Fathers have a role in preventing family

violence in the community. They have the
key role in leading the family. They serve
as role models in the family. How can
fathers serve as advocate in the
prevention of family violence in their

Estimated Time: 1 hour

The participants shall be able to develop interest
and take an active role in the prevention of family Materials:
violence in the community. Cartolina or acetate
visual aid
Workshop Handouts
Lecture – discussion Child’s Rights
Alternate methodology: Creative Media/Radio Poster

Key Learning Points:

Fathers as Advocate in the Prevention of Child Abuse/Violence on

the Homes
(Copy on big Manila paper and photocopy as handouts)

 Participate in activities that enhance potential capabilities of fathers.

 Respect each child’s rights and provide wholesome family life habits.
 Pay attention to your child and wife always and take time to be an
accommodating and understanding listener.
 Participate and be concerned in the prevention of child abuse and
family violence in the community.
 Organize a neighborhood association of families on the prevention of
child abuse and family violence.
 Report cases of child abuse and other forms of violence in the family
in our community to the nearest police headquarters and barangays
or concerned agencies.
1. Ask participants to make small groups of six to seven members per
2. Provide materials to each group of participants and ask them to
appoint a leader and a reporter, with the following questions as guide:
a. How should I treat my child to prevent them from being abused in
our family?
b. How should I treat my wife to prevent her from being abused in
our family?
c. What we ought to do to maintain harmonious relationship and
treatment with one another?
d. How can I contribute in preventing family violence in the
3. Ask the group to present their outputs through creative media or radio
drama to elicit interest and achieve participation in the discussion of
this topic?
4. Write key words on metacards while the groups are presenting their
outputs creatively.

1. Synthesize and acknowledge responses of fathers, which you
wrote on metacards.
2. Focus on detailing out specific activities that fathers can do into
two categories – family and community – in preventing children
from becoming victims of abuse.
3. Present and discuss your key learning points.

1. Divide the participants into three main groups and ask them to
read the poster of Child’s Rights.
2. Ask the three groups to work on the theme: “Fathers as advocate
on the Rights of the Children”.
3. Ask them to create either a role-play presentation or a song
(“palit-awit”) by asking them to identify a very familiar song and
change its lyrics to infuse their theme.
4. Ask each group to present their creative outputs.
Understanding Substance Abuse

Government also focuses its thrust in

preventing the proliferation of drugs and other
forms of substance abuse through the
Comprehensive Dangerous Drug Act of 2002
(RA 9165). This law calls for the formulation
of the National Anti-Drug Program of Action.
DSWD also sees the importance of involving
families in the community in the prevention of
drug abuse. The parents, fathers particularly,
have very important roles in promoting a drug
free home.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

Objectives: Old newspapers
The participants shall be able to: And magazines
1. Discuss the substance abuse/misuse; and Paste
2. Discuss the different causes and effects of Newsprint
substance abuse. Scissors

Collage Making

Key Learning Points:

(Copy and make into a Flip Chart)

A. Basic Drug Terms:

Drug/Substance Addiction

Means that the person’s whole life is devoted to buying and taking drugs
and it usually applies to those who are regular, heavy users of drugs such
as heroin or cocaine and other substance such as cigarettes and alcohol.

Drug/Substance Tolerance

As people take more of a drug and other forms of substance the body can
adapt to tolerate increased amounts. This means larger doses or amount
are needed to get an effect. This can happen with many different drugs
and other forms of substance.

It is a strong compulsion to keep taking drugs. Physical dependency

results from the repeated, heavy use of drugs like heroin, tranquillizers
and alcohol. These drugs can change the body chemistry for example; if
someone does not get a repeat dose they suffer physical withdrawal
symptoms – the shakes and flu-like effects. They have to keep taking the
drug just to stop themselves from feeling ill. Psychological dependency is
more common and can happen with any drug. In this case people get into
the drug experience as a way of coping with the world or as a way of
feeling OK. They feel they could not cope without drugs even though they
may not be physically dependent.

Withdrawal Symptoms

These are the unpleasant symptoms such as head pain, dizziness,

shakes, sleeplessness and flu-like effects as a result of stopping long-
term use of certain drugs, like alcohol, heroin and tranquilizers.

B. Types of Drugs/Substances Commonly Abused/Misused.

Caffeine – Commonly found in soft drinks, coffee and tea. Mild stimulation
and if for the most part harmless to people, except for its addicting nature.
It causes:
 Insomnia
 Restlessness
 Anxiety
 Increase in heart rate
 Possible irregularities in the heart
 Heavy coffee drinkers are more prone to develop coronary heart

Nicotine – Tobacco and cigarettes are the most common forms of taking
nicotine. It causes:
 High risks to the lungs, heart, blood and nervous system that can
cause respiratory failure, general paralysis, lung cancer, chronic
bronchitis, emphysema and cardiovascular disease.
 Passive smoking can be harmful to children.
 Pregnant women who smoke may harm the fetus.

Cocaine – White crystalline powder derived from coca plant is the most
potent natural stimulant. It causes:
 Risk of death in the form of heart attack or stroke from excessive
 Seizure.
 Cerebral hemorrhage.

Ice/Shabu – Tiny, ice-like crystals designed to be smoked. This

substance lasts 8 to 16 hours. It causes:
 Fatal lung and kidney disorders
 Long lasting psychological damage.

Depressants such as amphetamines and crack – Drugs used for the

depression of his/her central nervous system that literally stimulate or
excite the user’s central nervous system. With prolonged use, the user
 Sluggish, with impaired judgment
 Slurred speech
 Loss of Motor Coordination
 Feeling of anxiety
 Vomiting, Loss of Appetite
 Increased heart rate, profuse sweating
 Convulsions

Alcohol – Among the many forms are: Beers made from grain through
brewing and fermentation contains 3-8% alcohol, and up to 21% when
fortified by adding alcohol; Distilled beverages such as whisky, gin and
vodka contain 40-50% alcohol. Drinkers become physically addicted and
develop tolerance quickly.
 Impaired judgment
 Slurred speech
 Loss of motor skills
 Difficulty in controlling emotions
 Digestive-system disorders such as cancer of the mouth, throat
and esophagus, gastritis, ulcers, cirrhosis of the liver, and
inflammation of the pancreas.
 Disorders of the nervous system such as neuritis, lapse of
memory (blackout), hallucinations and extreme tremors.
 Pregnant women who drink heavily may give birth to infants with
face and body abnormalities.
Barbiturates, Quaaludes (Hallucinogens) – Hallucinogenic drugs act on
the central nervous system by distorting auditor, tactile and visual
perceptions of reality. Users have the ability to “hear sights” and “see
sounds”. Users….
 Develop tolerance
 “Coming Down” is of negative and depressive nature of “bad trip”
that may manifest itself in the form of suicidal tendencies.

MDMA (Methylenedioxymethamphetamine) – or known by its street

names: “Ecstasy”, XTC, Eve and Essence – popular in urban areas
especially to college students. Studies have shown that it temporarily
destroys the nerve endings in animals and may cause permanent brain
damage in the long run. Other very dangerous drugs are: LSD, Peyote,
and Mescaline, PCP, Psilocybin Mushrooms.

C. Drug/Substance Dangers and Consequences

General Risks will depend on:
1. How much is taken?
2. How strong the dose is, for example, two ecstasy tablets, which look
the same, may have very different doses in them?
3. How often it is taken?
4. What else might be mixed in with the drug especially the rubbish that
is often mixed with illegal drugs? Some drugs might be complete
fakes or have very different effects from what the user was expecting.
There is no quality control on the illicit drug scene.
5. What is actually taken? Much of the drug experiences depends on
what people think is going to happen – you can get seriously freaked
out if you’re expecting a nice happy time on “E” when you’ve actually
swallowed a face full of downers.
6. Whether drugs are being mixed together: alcohol is especially
dangerous as a ‘mixer’.
7. How a drug is taken; injecting is just about the most dangerous way to
use drugs – the dose is taken all at once so there is a danger of
overdose – if injecting equipment is shared, there is the danger of
passing of infections like hepatitis and HIV (the virus that leads to

General Risks at the Following:

The Person
If you drink when you feel miserable, you will often feel worse; if you are
anxious or depressed before taking LSD, you are more likely to have a
bad experience. Also the following factors may affect the experience.
 Physical Health Problems. Drug use could be more dangerous for
those with heart, blood pressure, epilepsy, diabetes, and asthma or
liver problems.
 Weight. Drugs act differently depending how heavy you are: the
effects may be more in a lighter person. People who have eating
disorders like anorexia or bulimia may also find drug use makes it
even worse.
 Not Being Used to Drugs. Somebody new to drug use may be
anxious, unsure of what to do or expect and be more likely to get into
problems or have a nasty experience.
 Sex. Drug use may be different for males and females because of the
different physical make up and the different way people view male
and female drug use. It is often seen as OK for men to do certain
things or behave in certain ways but not for women.

The Family
Drug user can have a residual effect on the lives of the family. Dependent
drug users will lie and steal even from his/her own family gradually
depleting the family’s financial and emotional resources.

In some cases, parents are part of the problem. Due to poverty they allow
their children to deal drugs.

Youth involved in drugs, are placed in jeopardy, including arrest, street

violence, drug overdose, incarceration and truancy.

The Environment

Where people use it can be risky. Some take drugs in dodgy places like
canal banks, near railways lines and in other similar areas. Accidents are
much more likely in these places especially if people are out of their
heads. Also, if anything goes wrong, it is less likely that help will be at
hand or an ambulance could easily be called.

Another problem has been the use of ecstasy in clubs where people
dance for hours in very crowded and hot situation. This has led to people
overheating and some have died of dehydration and heat exhaustion.

What people are doing while they are on drugs can be risky. Driving a car
or operating machinery whilst on drugs for example, can greatly increase
the chances of serious accidents. Penalties for driving under the
influence of drugs resulting in an accident can be severe. Having sex
while on drugs can make remembering safer sex – like using condoms –
much more difficult.

1. Divide the participants into 3 main groups with 5-8 members per
2. Provide them with the necessary materials for the workshop.
3. Ask each group to brainstorm on the current situation of
drugs/substance abuse problems in their respective areas.
4. Ask them to look for a picture of drugs/substance abuse that are
commonly used in their communities in old newspapers and
magazines and make visual images of collages.
5. Ask each group to appoint a leader to facilitate.
6. Guide the discussion with the following questions:
What is drug/substance abuse/misuse? What are the commonly
abused/misused drugs/substances in your community? What are the
consequences of drug/substance abuse in the person using it and to
his/her family?


1. Let each group present their output in the plenary

2. Take note or write on the board important terms and process the
activity by asking them the following questions:
 What do you think are the real problems that cause
drug/substance abuse?
 What effect do you think will it have to your children, to your
family and to the community as a whole?
3. Engage the participants further and provide them inputs using your
key learning points.

1. Ask three of five volunteer participants to talk about their own
experiences as teenage boys and how they were able to manage
or avoid using drugs and substances.
2. Then ask for short “father-dialogues” or what fathers can tell their
teenagers to teach them how to avoid drugs and substances.
Drug/Substance Abuse in the Home

We as fathers are the last to

know that our own child or a
friend’s child or a neighbor’s
child is using drugs, alcohol and
other form of substance that
may be abusively used. For
most of us, it was a big shock
and may be on unbelievable
situation but it is a real situation
that must be squarely faced and
responded to by fathers. It is
very important then for fathers to
know when and if your child is
into drugs. And you have the
very right to know about drugs
and substance abuse. Hence,
this session will focus on
different ways to establish a drug-free home focusing on fathers taking an
active role.

Estimated Time: 1 Hour

Objectives: A Genogram
The participants shall be able to: Form
1. Discuss ways to establish a drug-free home Pens
2. Discuss ways how fathers can take on Pencil
active role in preventing their children from Crayons
drug/substance abuse. Bond paper
Genogram making
Structured Learning Exercise
Individual reflection / Dyad

Key Learning Points

 Fathers can do a lot in preventing family members from going into

drugs and other forms of substance abuse.
 Establishing a drug-free home starts from modeling to your children
and other family members. Setting an example of a good behavior is
instilling a positive role model for your child.
 First thing you can do is to educate yourself about drugs and other
forms of substance abuse.
 Learn their effects - effect of drugs, alcohol and tobacco.
 Read and discuss with other fathers about the local drug scene. How
and why children go into drugs?
 Find out about resources as to where and when to seek professional
help. To be informed is to be forwarded and equipped to deal with the
 At home, take time to talk to your child, non-user or user about what
you are learning. It is best that you and your child learn together and
share information about drugs and substance abuse with each other.
Give focus on the biological effects of drugs on adolescents’ growth
and development.

Tips on establishing a drug-free home

(Photocopy and give as handouts)
 Make an effort to get to know your child’s friends
 Spend quality time with your child
 Listen to him the right way
 Give positive, encouraging feedback
 Encourage creative forms of communication
 Involve your children in the observance of your faith
 Refrain from smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol
 Preserve harmony at home
 Study the enemy
 Look for the silver lining

How can you tell when your child may be on drugs or needs help?

1) Changes in Behavior – persons who were obedient, kind and

courteous before become irritable, discourteous, defiant and
2) Change in Appearance – persons who are neat and well
groomed become unconcerned with their grooming and become
slovenly. They usually wear dark glasses and prefer to wear long
sleeves, which they did not do before. If previously they were
healthy looking they become thin, emaciated and pale with their
hair-lacking luster.
3) Changes in Mood – During the effect of the drug, they may be
euphoric or exhilarated. Sometimes, they go into uncontrollable
fits of laughing and giggling.
4) Changes in Interest - Persons who have been good employees
and who have been doing well with their work become idlers, lose
interest in their work and become dependent on others. Students,
who are coping well in school become idlers, lose interest in their
work and become dependent on others. Students who are coping
well in school become disinterested, truant and their grades

What can we do in our neighborhood?

(Photocopy and give as handouts)

1. Contact all the parents of your child’s friend whether your child is
a known user or not.
2. Tell them what you are leaning new fact about drug and alcohol
use and would like to share your information with them.
3. Find out if there is a problem and its extent.
4. Tell them that drug usage affects non-users as well as users in
negative ways and emphasize that together you can all learn.
5. Get the parents together and commit yourselves to a mutual
learning process.
6. Make clear that accusations, hostility and using scapegoats are
not what you are after.
7. Then dig out and pool all the information you can get if drug and
alcohol use has begun among local children.
8. Air suspicions, rumors, gossip and guesses as well as known
facts. It is crucial that all parents learn on what is going on and
that they do not bury their heads in the sand; that they do not
back off when painful information begins to surface.
9. Find out who is involved as users, suppliers and be ready to
confront all of them with their parents. Do this in a helpful and not
in an accusing manner.
10. In your parent’s group, work out a common code of basic
behavioral rules – on drugs and drinking, dating, curfews,
chaperoning, etc. then present a unified parental front, a
communal set of standards.
11. Twenty or thirty parents working together can establish a more
controllable community for their kids, regardless of what happens
to the rest of the “wicked world”. Be willing to back up each other
when kids try to test you, to divide and conquer, to claim that “so
and so gets to do such and such”.
12. Keep your parent communication networks going so that you
keep up with changing situations and changing problems. It’s
important and even reassuring to your kids to know that you and
their friends’ parents know what is going on out in that difficult real
world that kids must contend with.
13. Work hard at developing fun, meaningful and constructive
alternatives to drug and alcohol use. Utilize the resources of other
parents and of churches but make sure that these organizations
also know what is going on. Kids can get just as stoned at church
camps and in football dressing rooms as they do in sneaky hide
outs, if the adult in charge is naïve and uninformed.
14. Remember that drug using and drug dealing can be fun,
adventurous, exciting games for kids. Very few will meet a “dirty
old pusher” in the initial stages. They will get their drugs from
friends, from older brothers and sisters, from cool and friendly and
flattering older teenagers. That first share of joint will be a
generous and fun experience for many youngsters. So be ready
to counter that with more interesting, healthier, more lawful and
more stimulating entertainment with service to others.
15. Recognize that it will not be all sweetness and light. Kids who
belong to a drug-using peer group will fight to maintain that
secure circle of friends. They can be sullen, defiant, deceptive
and downright dislikeable. A parent has to hang in there, to act
out of pure faith, for a long enough time to make his child
recognize his seriousness. This may take few months or a few
years. You may need professional help. But you owe it to your
child. The alternatives are too hazardous. A child’s drug usage
can tear a family apart, but a parental and familial struggle to
regain a drug-free child can be strengthened and reunify a family.

1. Provide the participants with a sample of a completed Genogram
(see attached sample) on the Board and give them a blank sheet
of bond paper.
2. Provide them with the mechanics on how to do a Genogram and
ask them to do the same guided by the following questions:
a) What role(s) did each family member assume in your family
(e.g. family hero, scapegoat, peacemaker, rescuer, parental
child, etc)? At present, what role (s) do you tend to play in
the family or family like relationships?
b) How did each member of your family express affection?
At present time, how do you tend to express affection?
c) How did family members seek help and support in your
family? From whom? Today, when you need help and
support, how do you seek it? From whom?
d) How does your family cope with problem and stress?
Who does the problem solving and decision-making in the
e) How did each member of your family express anger? How
were other feelings expressed? Sadness? Fear? Joy? At this
in your life, how do you express each of these feelings?
f) What are (at least 5) the most important positive or
negative experiences/characteristics you and your family
members possess? How do these affect you today?
Which, if any, of these might you now wish to unlearn?
What new learning might you put in their place?
g) How are your childhood and family experiences likely to
affect your performance as a father now in promoting
drug-free home?
3. When the participants completed their Genograms. Ask them to
find a partner whom they are comfortable with and share what
they wrote. Ask them to share based on the Genogram guide
question. Allow 20-30 minutes for sharing.

1. Gather the participants into new group and process the whole
activity by asking them the following questions:
a. What did your learn/discover from your sharing?
b. What are the weak and positive characteristics of your
c. Is there a pattern of substance/drug abuse manifested in
your family of origin?
d. What are the different substances/drugs abusively used?
e. How were they managed and controlled?
2. Write down key messages on the board and begin integrating
these using your Key Learning Points.
3. Give the hand outs and discuss.

1. Divide the participants into four (4) groups and ask them to
prepare a slogan or a poem on how father can establish a drug
free home.
2. Ask them to present their group output in the plenary.
3. End the session by the following statement.
Drug dependents are never cured. They are recovered. The best
that fathers can do is to prevent it by establishing open and trusting
relationship with their children. Do not lecture, moralize, scold or
argue but be around to help, to give love and understanding to enable
them to cope and overcome substance abuse. Be an empathetic
listener! However, do not tolerate nor condone their addiction.


Understanding HIV/AIDS

HIV-AIDS is a growing concern of medical

practitioners and social development workers.
The cases of Filipinos with HIV-AIDS are
increasing and more cases are hidden due to the
strong stigma attached to the disease. It is a
growing concern nowadays and families should
lead to take prevention measures.

Estimated Time: 1 hour

Objectives: Materials:
The participants shall be able to: Metacards (3” x 10” colored
1. Discuss what HIV-AIDS is; and Cartolina
2. Discuss the HIV-AIDS situations Marking pens
in the Philippines Masking tapes
RA 8504
Methodology: HIV-AIDS Philippines
Message Relay statistics (acquire from your
Group Workshop local health department)

Key Learning Points:

 Acquiring HIV-AIDS is a very painful experience for a family. It can
cause deep emotional stress, deep anger, sadness, shame, loss of
hope, discrimination and separation.
 HIV refers to Human Immune Deficiency Virus which causes AIDS.
 AIDS is Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome that involves immune
deficiency. When a person’s Immune System breaks down, he or she
becomes susceptible to many infections/ diseases, which will
eventually result in death.
 There is no known cure for HIV/AIDS but it can be prevented by
correct information.
 HIV can be transmitted only through:
o Blood transfusion
o Sexual intercourse
o Cervical and vaginal secretions
o Breast milk (Mother to child)
 HIV-AIDS can result to draining the financial and emotional resource
of the family. Considering that it has no cure, the person affected with
HIV-AIDS shall require long institutional care particularly when various
diseases already affect the person.
 Fathers have the key role in preventing HIV-AIDS by practicing safe
sex and by being faithful to the spouse.

1. Form two equal groups asking the members of the group hold
hands, and sit side-by-side in a semi-circle.
2. Sit in the middle of the two groups holding hands with the persons
to your left and right, and tell them that you will play the “silent
relay” game.
3. Tell them that you are the “message sender” and you will send
silent number messages by pressing/squeezing the hands of the
person nearest you.
4. These two people to your left and right counts the number of
squeezes/presses they feel and then pass on the silent number
message to the next person until it reaches the last person.
5. The last person calls out or announces the number of
presses/squeezes he gets. The group who gets the exact number
of squeezes /presses wins a score.
6. Allow five to seven rounds
7. Talk about the game and lead the group to appreciating the
importance of acquiring correct information.
8. Stress that if information passed is incorrect, can affect those who
receive it.
9. Relate this with their roles as community leaders and volunteers
as information givers to families in their own communities.
10. Zero-in to the issues of HIV-AIDS, particularly unknown facts and
misconceptions (i.e. mode of transmission, cure, etc.)

1. Ask what your trainees know about HIV-AIDS, mode of
transmission, and how it can be prevented.
2. Use your key learning points and allow more time for discussion.
3. When necessary, ask the help of your local expert to be around to
answer other medical questions.

1. Ask some of the fathers to share stories about ways to maintain a
faithful relationship.
2. Distribute paper and pens and ask them to write their wives love
letters of faithfulness.
3. Call on some volunteers to read their love letter to their wives.

Safe Sex and Other Safety Measures

This session will provide an opportunity to

discuss ways to prevent acquiring HIV-
AIDS. Considering that HIV-AIDS cannot
be cured, it is a must then for all fathers to
lead their families in preventing HIV-AIDS.

Estimated Time: 45 minutes

The participants shall be able to:
1. Discuss ways to practice safe sex;
2. Discuss ways to safeguard oneself from
acquiring HIV-AIDS.
Pentel Pen
Masking Tape
Handouts and
Group Discussion
Plenary Presentation

Key Learning Points:

How can HIV transmission be prevented?

(Photocopy as handouts or you can ask for brochures in your local health
department – There are also more handouts and readings in the annex)

Know and practice the ABC of safer sex and AIDS prevention:

A – Abstinence: The safest way is not to have sex with anyone.

B – Be Faithful: Avoid having sex with different partners.
C– Condom: If you are not sure about your partner, or you have more
than one partner, using condoms properly every time you have sex
will greatly reduce your RISK.
Avoid unnecessary injections. If you have to be injected, always insist
on the use of sterilized or disposable needle.

Receive blood transfusion only from a reputable blood bank that is

accredited by the Department of Health (only accredited blood banks in
the Philippines screen HIV)
 Injecting drug users should be counseled on the risks of HIV/AIDS
that come with sharing of needles and syringes and “harm-reduction
 Mothers infected with HIV should be informed that there is 20% to
40% chance that they can pass on the infection to the infant during
pregnancy or at delivery.
 Practice Safe Sex.
 Complete sexual abstinence is one option, but it is not the most
practical measure for many people. A long-term mutually faithful
relationship (monogamy) is another option. Long-term means years,
not weeks. Mutually faithful means both partners being monogamous
during the relationship. If one partner has unprotected intercourse
with multiple partners, the faithful spouse or lover is actually being
exposed to possible sexually transmitted infections of the other sexual
 For people who cannot abstain or remain in a long-term mutually
faithful relationship, safer sex practice remains the only other option.
Remember that this also applies to a person who is monogamous but
who is not sure about the activities of his or her sexual partner.
 Safer sex includes any kind of sexual activity that prevents an
exchange of HIV-infected blood, semen, or vaginal fluids. The correct
use of condoms is one of safer sex measures to be used whenever
penetration (penile-anal; penile-vaginal) is involved. Other safer sex
activities are those not involving penetration: masturbation, petting,
necking, and kissing.
 Safer sex and responsible sex are inter-related. All this can be
fulfilling and fun and quite challenging.
 Used correctly latex condoms prevent infected semen or vaginal
mucus from entering the sexual partner of an infected person. HIV,
and many other infectious agents that cause sexually transmitted
diseases, cannot pass through the condom.
 Because using a condom is not just a right, but a responsibility, both
partners must learn to insist on the proper use of the condom.
What is the correct use of condoms?
(Photocopy or ask brochures from your local health department)

As explained earlier, condom failure does not occur because of pores in

the condoms. The problems come with condom bursting or slipping off.
Condoms have to be used correctly and consistently (i.e. every sexual
intercourse and from start to finish).

1. Talk about it
2. Use only latex (rubber) condoms.
3. Condoms should be stored properly.
4. Do not use a condom if its package has been broken.
5. Put on the condom as soon as the penis is erect.
6. Pinch the end of the condom to squeeze air out of the reservoir
(or nipple).
7. If the penis is uncircumcised, pull back the foreskin before rolling
the condom over it.
8. Condoms that have been used for anal sex should not be used for
vaginal or oral sex.
9. After intercourse, the rim of the condom (at the base of the penis)
should be held against the man as he withdraws.
10. After removing the condom, tie a knot in the open end to confine
the semen.
11. Immediately after intercourse, both partners should wash off any
semen or vaginal secretion with soap and water.

What can society do to prevent the spread of HIV?

(Photocopy or ask brochures from your local health department)

There are many things that society can do to help prevent the spread of
HIV. But to be able to do this, there must be an openness to discuss the
many issues surrounding HIV, especially sexuality. This does not just
mean frank discussions about sex but must also extend to issues such as
gender equality. As long as women are denied a voice in sexual matters,
they will remain placed in high-risk situations.

Different sectors need to take their share of the responsibilities:

1. Media needs to report more responsibly and accurately on HIV

and AIDS.
2. Educators need to integrate into their curriculum, and to reach out
through non-formal channels to the majority of the population who
are no longer in schools.
3. Health professionals need to increase their own levels of
awareness and knowledge, as well as examine their prejudices
and values, to become effective health educators and health care

1. Divide participants into four groups with seven to eight members
and ask them to brainstorm on how safe sex can be achieved and
what are the other safety measures that fathers can do to prevent
HIV/AIDS transmission and infection.
2. Give them 20 minutes and ask them to present their output in the

1. Process the activity by asking the participants the following
a. Will HIV-AIDS be prevented in our country?
b. How can fathers and the families themselves prevent
2. Give the handouts/brochures away and begin discussion using
your key learning points.

1. Ask the participants to remain in their groupings and provide them
with ½ Cartolina or manila paper ask them to write a poem, a
slogan or a palit-awit that will have a message on the importance
of safer sex in preventing HIV-AIDS and what it means to secure
a safe and health family against HIV-AIDS.
2. Ask them to present their outputs in the plenary.

The 2006 World Report on Violence against Children revealed that

physical maltreatment of children in their homes is a global issue affecting
millions worldwide. Much physical violence against children takes the form
of punishment and often embedded in a cultural belief that children learn
through physical pain. The report recommends the elimination of all
corporal punishment of children and the promotion of positive, non-violent

(Please refer to the Manual of Save the Children International as officially

adopted by the Department)

Dear Service Provider and Father Volunteer!

Congratulations for having reached this far end of the manual!

Notice that the last session is quite a contemplative and reflective

session. What fitting way to end right?

Well at this juncture, you may need to create formal “ERPAT graduation
or completion ceremony.

You can:

1. Prepare/design your own ERPAT certificates and have your local

officials sign them.
2. Re-arrange the room to make it festive
3. Arrange for food (pot luck recommended) and encourage your
participants’ families to come.
4. Invite local luminaries to grace the occasion.
5. Give out awards of recognition (i.e. complete attendance, most
congenial father; romantic father etc.)
6. Plan out a short program of entertainment numbers and
testimonies from the trainees.
7. Hold elections and ratify the by-laws.

But before you do all these, below we include a short session, which
family members of your father-trainees can also participate in.

Give out instructions to everyone:

I. Awareness of God’s Presence:

Guided Contemplation (in prayerful and meditative mood)

1. Start to quiet down your whole body, slowly and

gradually. Back straight, pressing against the back of the
chair. Hands relaxed and quietly resting on your thighs.
Feet relaxed on the ground. Head straight and relaxed.
2. Slowly close your eyes and keep them closed, but
3. Remain motionless in this portion for the rest of activity.
4. I want you now to be aware of all the sound of life around
you. Be aware of every sound of life outside of yourself,
from the strongest to the weakest sound. Sounds of
nature; Sounds of machines. Just be aware of every
sound of life outside of yourself and stay there for a while.
(Pause for a minute or two).
5. I want you to be aware of your own, normal breathing. Be
aware of every breath of air that comes in and out of you.
Be aware that this is the breath of life, without which your
life will stop and cease to be.
6. Be aware now of the loving and sustaining present of God
in every breath of life that comes in and out of you. For
God is the author of life. WHERE LIFE IS, GOD IS
THERE too. Feel his loving presence within you, and just
stay there for a while. Relish, reverence, enjoy make
friends with God’s presence within you and just stay there
for a while. (Pause for a minute or two).
7. And now as a response to His presence within you.
Quietly in your heart, express your sentiments of gratitude
to the Lord, for the gift of life. Thank you, Lord, thank you
for the gift of life.
8. Be aware of now of the sounds of life outside of yourself.
Be aware of the loving and sustaining presence of God in
every sound of life outside of yourself. God’s presence in
the chirping of the birds, in the barking of the dogs, in the
sound of the breeze, in the sounds of vehicles from afar.
9. Feel the loving and sustaining presence of God within you
and all around you, and stay there for a while (Pause).

Process the experience by asking:

1. “And what would it feel like, if all of a sudden, without any

warning, someone from behind comes and just… (Suddenly tear
the paper violently-make sure the tearing sounds are heard-then
crumple it and crush it in your hands…) (Pause).
2. Then ask the group: “What did you feel…? (Ask for several
volunteers to share their feelings-one at a time. Typically, one
might say: “I feel crushed…” Another might say: Sayang…” or “I
feel angry…”) Now are those your feelings? Of course, they are,
and yet you are not the paper. This means that at a certain point
in time, you were able to forget yourself, set yourself aside and
you were able to put yourself in the situation of the paper. This is
your God –given gift of empathy – the gift of compassion.
3. Let us continue the activity. It is not finished yet. Say: “This time, I
ask you to sit back, relax and close your eyes. Start to quiet down
your whole person, and once again, be ready to go out of
yourself”. (Pause).
4. Forget yourself… and with your memory and imagination, focus
your attention on one of your children- single out the son or
daughter that you feel would like to understand more. The son or
daughter that often feels misunderstood by you, or who often
irritates you.
5. Start to ask the question in your heart: What does it really feels
like to be in the place of this child of mine?” Using your memory,
imaginations, and most of all your heart, ask the question again:
What does it mean to be in his/her world? On a typical day… from
morning till night… from the time he/she wakes up in the
morning…till the time he/she feels humiliated by me? Or
neglected by me? Or some other pain or hurt that I tend to pay
little or no attention to?” “Just put yourself in the shoes of that
child of yours, and stay there for a while…allowing your heart to
listen…” (Pause for about 4-5 minutes, in absolute silence.)(then
conclude)”Slowly now, gradually come back to yourself, and
gradually open your eyes…” (Pause). “For those of you who were
able to forget yourselves and really put yourselves in the situation
of your son or daughter, what did it feel like?
6. Allow time to share. Ask four or five fathers to share. Typically, a
father will share his/her appreciation of what it means to be in the
place of his son or daughter-the problems, hurts, etc. that is often
not paid enough attention to. Draw this out and know how these
few minutes of empathy have made one understand his child in a
deeper way. Then say: “With this brief experience, we can see the
beauty and power of our ability to empathize and compassionate
with our children. This is the key to the father’s communication
and intimacy with his children”
7. Now encourage dialogue among family members
8. Begin your graduation ceremony.


Vice President
Public Relations Officer
Peace Courting Officer

ERPAT ASSOCIATION OF ___________________

Name of Organization: _________________________________

Address: ____________________________________________
Name of Worker: _____________________________________

Name Position Age Address Signature

Noted by:



Empowerment Reaffirmation of Paternal Abilities

Registration Form

Identifying Data
Name: ______________________________________
Age: _________ Sex: ________ (__) Married
Date of Birth: __________ (__) Separated
Place of Birth: ________________________ (__) Widower
Occupation: __________________________ (__) Guardian
Religion: ____________________________ (__) Solo Parent
Home Address: _______________________________________
Telephone Number: ____________________

Family Composition
Name Sex Relationship Age

Educational Attainment:
Elementary: _____________________________
High School: _____________________________
Vocational: ______________________________
College: ________________________________
Others: _________________________________

Special Abilities:

Skills/Talent: ________________________________________
Hobbies: ___________________________________________
Other skills: _________________________________________
Community Involvement

School: _________________________________________
Civic: ___________________________________________
Community: ______________________________________
Workplace: _______________________________________
Others: __________________________________________
Seminars /Training Attended:

Title: _______________________________________________
Date: _______________________________________________
Organizers: __________________________________________

Title: _______________________________________________
Date: _______________________________________________
Organizers: __________________________________________

Signature: _________________________________


(To be accomplished by LGU Worker/ERPAT Volunteer, One Desk

ERPAT SESSION NO. _______ TOPIC: _____________________

DATE: ______________,
BARANGAY : _____________________________________

1. NAME OF PARTICIPANTS PRESENT : ( Attached attendance

sheet )








DATE OF NEXT SESSION: _____________________________

TOPIC: _____________________________________________

Worker/Volunteer’s Signature






Prepared and Submitted by:


Noted by:


We the members and officers of the ERPAT Association of

Barangay ______________________________________ do hereby
pledges to perform our duties and responsibilities, abide with the
Constitution and By-laws of ERPAT Association and serves as the role
model in our community.

We further commit ourselves to render volunteer service in

responding to the issues/concerns affecting our family and to support the
implementation of ERPAT program in the community.

So help me GOD.

Signed on_______________________________________200__ at
(Day and Month)

Name and Signature of Members

__________________________ _______________________
__________________________ _______________________
__________________________ _______________________
__________________________ _______________________
__________________________ _______________________

Handouts on Family Planning

Family Planning
 Does not mean stopping to have children
 It means having children only when couple wants them and when they
can best take care of them.
 It means not leaving conception to chance.
 It is to reason for couple to choose for themselves the number of
children they want and time of birth they wish.
 It is a resource because it will enable them to provide only for children
who it can afford to support.
 It help in furthering national development in increasing the share of
each Filipino in the fruits of economic progress and in meeting the
goal and social challenge of the high rate of population growth.

FAMILY PLANNING- is a voluntary and positive act of couples to plan

and decide the number of children they want and when they want to have

Family Planning is deciding:

 The number of children a married couple wants

 When to have a baby
 To use the responsible means to achieve the couples desired number
of children.
 To seek help so that childless couples can have children.
 Underscore that family planning does not refer to the pill, or the IUD
or any of the contraceptive method alone. It refers to the concept of
spacing children and having only the number of children couple can
care for.


To Mothers:
 Enables the mother to regain her health after delivery. It takes 2 to 3
years to fully recover her health after childbirth.
 Prevents young mothers (below 18 years old) and old mothers (over
35 years old) from getting pregnant because it is dangerous for them
to bear children at their age.
- Teenage mothers have the high tendency for anemia, toxemia
and prolonged labor.
- Old mothers are more likely to suffer hemorrhage because of
uterine rapture and weakness of uterine muscles. Also they have
high tendency to develop hypertension.

 Provides a mother who may be suffering from some chronic illnesses

such as tuberculosis, diabetes, heart disease and anemia, enough
time for treatment and recovery without fear of getting pregnant.
 Gives her enough time and opportunity to care and provide attention
to her husband and children.
 Gives her time for her family and the community.

To Fathers:
 Provide fathers who are suffering from chronic illnesses such as
tuberculosis, diabetes, heart disease, anemia, etc. enough time for
treatment and recovery.
 Lightens his burden and responsibility in supporting his family since
he will be providing only for the children he can afford to support.
 Enables him to give his children a good home, good education and a
better future.
 Gives him time for his own personal advancement.
 Enables him to have time and opportunity to enrich and strengthen his
relationship with his wife and with his children
 Gives him feeling of fulfillment and pride in his family for having a wife
who can attend to their children and home chores and develop herself
as a woman/wife.
 Provide fathers with extra resources and enough time to actively
participate in the community programs/projects.
 Frees a jobless father from worry of having additional child to support.

The practice of family planning enables the children to be:

 HEALTHY – A healthy mother can produce healthy children.

 HAPPY – The children will be brought up in a happy home where they
can be given all the love and attention that they deserve.
 WANTED AND SATISFIED – Fewer children in the family will give
time and opportunity for mothers and fathers to attend to their growth
and development.
 SECURE – Fewer children in the family will mean for adequate food,
clothing, good education and meeting of other basic needs where
resources are limited.

Family Planning Methods

1. Temporary Methods – methods, which can be reversed.

Description: Contains two hormones, estrogen and progestin, in
different proportions; comes in tablet forms; comes in 20-21 or 28
pill packs daily
How it works: Stops ovulation and thickens the cervical canal,
which prevents the sperm from entering the uterus.
b. IUD
Description: Small plastic device that is inserted through the
cervix inside the uterus.
How it works: Kills the sperm and prevents sperm from entering
the uterus, stops ovulation and causes changes in the uterus and
fallopian tubes which prevent sterilization.
Description: Rubber sheaths worn over the penis during the
How it works: Blocks the release of sperm into vagina. The
spermicidal lubricant also kills sperms.
Description: Administered every three months, injected in the arm.
How it works: Thickens the cervical mucus which prevents the
sperm from entering the uterus, stops ovulation and causes
changes in the uterus and the fallopian tubes which prevents

2. Natural Family Planning Methods

a. Cervical Mucus Method
Description: The mother monitors/checks and records the
character of the cervical mucus daily except during menstruation.
How it works: Prevents pregnancy through abstaining from sexual
intercourse during the woman’s fertile period.
b. Basal Body Temperature (BBT)
Description: Fertile and infertile days are approximated by
observing changes in the woman’s body temperature.
How it works: Prevents pregnancy through abstaining from sexual
intercourse during the woman’s fertile period.
c. Symptothermal Method
Description: A combination of recording of basal body
temperature and observing the changes in the cervical mucus and
other changes that may occur before ovulation.
How it works: Prevents pregnancy through abstaining from sexual
intercourse during the woman’s fertile period.
d. Lactational Amenorrhea Method (LAM)
Description: Full and exclusive breastfeeding within six months
after delivery.

3. Permanent Method
a. Bilateral Tubal Ligation (Female Sterilization)
b. Vasectomy (Male Sterilization)
Description: Small incision is made in both sides of the scrotum
to expose the vas deference, which is then cut, clipped; requires
local anesthesia. There are health facilities/centers offering
family planning services.

More Handouts on HIV-AIDS

1. What is HIV?

HIV refers to the Human Immunodeficiency Virus, which causes AIDS

2. How does HIV affect the body?

Most people whose blood streams have recently been infected by HIV,
look and feel perfectly healthy. After a few years, however, many of the
infected will develop a condition in which appear intermittent or persistent
symptoms of fever, fatigue, weakness, diarrhea, and malaise, loss of
weight and generalized swelling of lymph nodes in the neck, armpits or
groin. Other symptoms may also include patches in the mouth and
tongue, sores in the genital areas, buttocks, or mouth, athlete’s foot, etc.
This condition may persist for an extended period of time and it may even
disappear, but frequently precedes the more serious syndrome of AIDS.

As the infected immune system deteriorates, the patient tends to develop

a variety of recurrent or chronic infections that can take advantage of a
severely weakened body to produce devastating and eventually fatal

3. What are the stages of HIV infections?

HIV Positive –
 Symptomatic- the person’s blood test is positive of HIV antibodies
and has developed a mild form of the disease.
 Asymptomatic – The person’s blood test is positive but subject
does not show any physical manifestation.
 The person may feel and look well for years but can spread the
virus to others.
Full-blown AIDS
 The person’s immune system is impaired
 The person develops a variety of serious illnesses.

AIDS is Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome

AIDS involves an IMMUNE DEFICIENCY. When a person’s immune

system breaks down, she becomes susceptible to many infections, which
eventually result in death.

AIDS is a SYNDROME, a combination of signs and symptoms that form a

distinct clinical picture of disorder.
How is HIV detected?

Testing for the presence of HIV or antibodies produced by the body in

response to the presence of the virus remains an important method for
prompt diagnoses, and leads to the administration of early medical care
that may delay or prevent complications.

However, once the infection occurs, the human body may take from six
weeks to a year or more to produce the antibodies that can be detected
through tests. For this reason, a negative test should not provide a
definite sense of security to a person that has been exposed to the HIV

The most common tests used in the Philippines are the ELISA test
(Enzyme-Linked ImmunoSorbent Assay) and the P.A. (Particle
Agglutination) after two positive screening tests, a confirmatory test
(Western Blot or Immunofluorescence test) is administered to validate the
screening test results.

What is the Difference between HIV Infection and AIDS?

HIV only infects human beings, and destroys the body’s defense that
fights other diseases. HIV multiplies inside the body and attacks the
defenses of the infected person. Sometimes HIV is called the AIDS virus,
because being infected with HIV can lead to AIDS. But having HIV
infection is not the same as having AIDS. The virus can lie inactive in the
human body as long as 10 years without causing any symptoms. Initially a
person infected with HIV does not have the actual disease (AIDS) and
he/she may look and feel healthy. However, she/her carries the HIV for
the rest of her/his life and can spread the HIV to others.

What happens to a person after HIV infection?

Each infectious disease can be described as having a natural history,

moving from one stage to another. In all infectious disease, there is a
period between the time of infection and the appearance of symptoms.
This period can be short for diseases such as the common cold (one to
two days). With leprosy, it takes three to five years. With HIV, the period
between infection and the appearance of AIDS can be as long as seven
to 12 years.
Does a person who is infected with HIV still look and feel healthy?

Definitely: A few days to a few weeks after becoming infected with HIV,
some (not all) people will develop symptoms like those of flu or
mononucleosis; fatigue, headaches, fever, sore throat, lymphadenopathy
(enlarged lymph nodes) and sweating. These acute illness episodes last
for one to three weeks. Most people will not be able to relate illness to HIV

This period of acute infection is short. It is followed by a stage that may

last a few months to a few years, during which the person with HIV will
have no signs or symptoms of HIV infection. But while the person may
look and feel healthy, he or she can transmit the virus. During this period,
HIV begins to weaken the immune system and eventually AIDS develops.

The data from industrialized countries show that about 60 percent of

adults will progress to AIDS within 12 years after becoming infected with
HIV. Remember that all these figures are averages. There are people who
develop AIDS within a short time after the infection and there are others
who live past 12 years without AIDS.

How does AIDS eventually develop?

Once it is in the blood circulation, HIV invades several types of cells

including lymphocytes, macrophages, langerhans cells, and neurons
within the central nervous system.

The reason HIV is so deadly is that it attacks the body’s immune system.

How HIV destroys the immune system?

HIV infection is systematic, affecting many different part of the immune


As the body’s immune system slows down because of HIV, many different
illnesses can occur with different signs and symptoms. Middle HIV-related
illnesses have symptoms such as enlarge lymph nodes, unexplained
weight loss, persistent night sweats. Note that these symptoms are very
general and could come with many other illnesses not related to HIV.
Eventually, life-threatening opportunistic infections and cancers set in and
the person dies within one to three years.
1. Rise of opportunistic infections and cancers found in AIDS

Opportunistic infections (OIs) are so called because they take advantage

of the host’s weakened immune responses. It may be caused by an
organism that does not usually cause diseases in human beings (for
example: Mycobacterium avium, which usually infects birds) or it may
cause more severe diseases than it usually does in a person with a
normal immune system (for example: herpes simplex ulcers lasting more
than a month). In AIDS, a person may have several opportunities for
infections which make it more difficult for the body to fight back.

Some of these are the following:

1.1. Cancers

People whose immune systems have been weakened by HIV may be

more vulnerable to cancers. One explanation is that in a weakened
immune system, the lymphocytes are not able to detect and destroy
malignant cells as quickly. Another explanation is the HIV infection may
activate cancer causing agents.

1.2 Other Illnesses

HIV virus is aggravated by other illnesses such as chronic diarrhea that

come with cryptosporidiosis.

HIV directly affects the brain and causes HIV dementia with disturbances
of brain functions including memory, orientation, comprehension, learning
capacity, language and judgment. HIV dementia is usually found in the
more advanced stages of AIDS.

Finally, we should recognize the many psychiatric problems that may

come with HIV and AIDS. Some of these may be directly due to the
infections itself, as when the virus or other opportunistic infections affect
the central nervous system. In other case, the behavioral problem –
depression, alcohol or drug dependency and self-destructive behavior –
comes as part of coping with a disease that presently has no cure and is
so heavily stigmatized.

1.3. Tuberculosis

HIV infection weakens the immune system. Thus, tuberculosis may be

reactivated, by speeding up a primary infection, or be external re-
infection. Tuberculosis will in turn accelerate HIV diseases by activating
HIV production in lymphocytes and macrophages, which helps to spread
HIV infection infections to other cells.

Tuberculosis in patients with HIV can be pulmonary (in the lungs) but a
large percentage also has extra pulmonary disease, involving the bone
marrow, the liver and the lymph nodes. About half of HIV patients with
advanced tuberculosis will also develop disseminated Mycobacterium
avium intracellulare (MAI) infection.

How is HIV transmitted?

A person must already be infected with HIV to transmit it to others to other

people. The longer a person had been infected the more of HIV he or she
will carry, although medical research also shows that virus levels are very
high initially after infection.

Much of the literature about HIV talks about “body fluids” as the medium
through which the virus is passed. This tends to be misleading. HIV does
thrive in many types of body fluids but for an infection to occur there must
be: a) sufficient amount of the virus transmitted; and b) a way for the virus
to enter in the bloodstream. These two conditions must be met for an
infection to take place. To understand how this works, let us look at two
case examples.

One is saliva, around which there are many myths (e.g. kissing transmits
HIV). The reason saliva is not a way for transmitting HIV is that there are
much too low concentrations of the virus in this fluid. Even in patients with
periodontal (gum) diseases, infected cells have rarely been found. This is
probably because saliva itself has anti-viral properties.

In assessing the risks of infection, always consider the amount of blood

and the possibilities of such bloods entering another person’s
bloodstream. Thus, the risks for infection through a barber’s razor or
through manicuring equipment are quite low because the amount of blood
is very small and is unlikely to be infectious.

The types of body fluids through which HIV is most likely to be transmitted

 Blood and blood products

 Semen
 Cervical and vaginal secretions
 Breast milk
Manners of HIV Transmissions

Since HIV is found mainly in blood, semen, cervical and vaginal mucus,
and breast milk, we can see why the virus is more likely to be transmitted

a. Sexual Intercourse:

By having unprotected sexual intercourse with a person who has the virus
would be the main route of transmitting infected semen and cervical or
vaginal secretion. This accounts for approximately 80% of the worldwide

b. Blood Transfusions:

A person receiving HIV-infected blood or blood products has a high risk of

getting the infection. Note, however, that a person donating blood is not at
risk for HIV infections. The risk comes with receiving infected blood.

c. Sharing of Infected Syringes and Needles Used Intravenously by Drug


An infected person who injects drugs into himself/herself might share

needles with other users. Since these drug users often draw blood back
into the syringes to check in the needle and syringe, HIV is transmitted
along with the drug or medicine injected using infected syringe and
needles. The amount of infected blood may be small but because
injections are done repeatedly and involve exposure to the blood of
several people, the chances of infection become higher.

d. Vertically or Perinatally (from a pregnant woman to the fetus during

pregnancy, child delivery or breast feeding):

About 20 to 40 percent of babies born to mothers infected with HIV will be

infected. The virus may be transmitted from the mother to the child
through the placenta, or during the birth process itself. Risks of
transmission appears to be greater when the mother has developed
advanced AIDS.

e. Organ Donation:

Since donated organs contain large amounts of blood, the chances of HIV
infection are high if a person receives an organ from an infected donor.
f. Accidental Exposure in Hospitals and Clinics:

The most common route of infection in health care setting is through

needle sticks injuries or cuts with sharp instruments contaminated with

HIV and other Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)

It is essential to highlight the need to prevent and treat other infections

like HIV are passed on during unprotected sexual intercourse. Having an
STD increases the risk of being infected with HIV, or of passing on HIV,
by as much as mine times during sex (where one partner has HIV). STDs
are also much more difficult to treat effectively for people with HIV

The World Health Organization (WHO) estimated that at least one in ten
sexually active people is infected with STD annually. Young people of
both sexes are particularly vulnerable to STD. Young peoples ages 15 to
24 have the highest rate of new HIV infection in most countries.

It is very important that people know how to prevent STDs, recognize its
symptoms and have access to sympathetic and effective treatment.

What are STDs?

The term “sexually transmitted disease” (STD) is used for all infections
that are transmitted mainly though sexual contact, during unprotected
vaginal or anal intercourse. Some are also transmitted from mother to
child before or during birth and through unsafe blood donations.

What are the Common Infections?

Gonorrhea (the clap) - One of the most common STIs is caused by

bacteria. It often has no symptoms in women. Symptoms may include
abdominal pain and (in men) urethral discharging or (in women) smelly,
pus-like vaginal discharge. It can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease
(PID). It can cause infertility and can cause infection in babies during
birth, leading to eye infections of blindness. Gonorrhea can be identified
by a laboratory test. It can be cured with antibiotics.

Syphilis – Bacterial infection that can cause genital or anal ulcers. The
bacteria can be spread from a pregnant woman to the fetus, as well as
through sexual contact. If left untreated of some years, syphilis can lead
to nerve damage and death. It can be cured with antibiotics.

Chancroid – Bacterial infection common in tropical countries. It is

transmitted sexually. It causes painful ulcers on the genitals, which can be
difficult to distinguish form syphilis ulcers. Chancroid can be identified by a
laboratory test. It can be cured with antibiotics.

Chlamydia – Very common bacterial infection, which can lead to pelvic

inflammatory disease (PID), a more serious infection. The bacteria exist in
the mucous membrane of reproductive organs such as the vagina, cervix,
urethra or anus. They cause inflammation leading to heavy vaginal
discharge, pain when urinating or during sex, bleeding after sex, or pain in
the abdomen. Men may have discharge from the penis or pain when
urinating. Chlamydia can cause infection in babies during birth, leading to
eye infections or blindness.

Chlamydia often has no symptoms in women. It often goes undetected

and untreated, increasing risk of PID. Chlamydia is detected by a blood
test or a sample taken from the area that may have been infected. It can
be cured with antibiotics.

Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) - Affects women only. It affects the

cervix, uterus, ovaries or uterine tubes. It is caused by various bacteria or
viruses, most commonly Chlamydia and gonorrhea. With correct
diagnoses of the bacteria causing it, it can be cured.

Symptoms include pain in the lower abdomen and back, fever and
vomiting. If PID is not treated, more sever symptoms, such as bleeding
between periods and unusually painful periods, may develop and may
eventually lead to infertility.

Diagnosis is difficult. It needs a pelvic examination, taking swab from the

cervix or inspecting the pelvic area by laparoscopy (a surgical procedure
requiring general anesthetic). PID can be cured with antibiotics.

As PID is usually caused by infections that are transmitted sexually, such

as Chlamydia, it is essential that women’s sexual partners are also
examined and any STIs treated.

Genital Herpes – Caused by the herpes simplex virus which is

transmitted sexually. It caused small, painful blisters on the genitals,
which turn into ulcers. The ulcers disappear but usually come back from
time to time. Once someone has the virus there in no way of getting rid of
it, although the ulcers may be absent for several months. Some people
with herpes show no symptoms. The virus can be transmitted to a baby
during birth, if the woman has ulcers.

Treatment with acyclovir can make the ulcers heal faster. Rest, sleep and
a good diet make them less likely to come back.

Genital Warts – Caused by the human papilloma virus which is usually

transmitted sexually. The warts are small, fairly flat bumps which appear
on their own or in clumps. Once someone has the virus, it may continue to
be present in the body although warts may not appear again. In women,
the virus has been linked to the development of cervical cancer.

Warts are very common and are very easily passed during sexual activity.
They are “burnt off” using special chemical compounds. Other methods
such as freezing or laser treatment can also be used.

Thrust (Candida) – Thrust looks like a white coating growing in moist

parts of the body, such as the vagina or throat or under the foreskin in
uncircumcised men. It is one of the most common vaginal infections.

A person with thrust can transmit it to their sexual partner.

Most women have thrust at some time in their life. It is common in babies
and in adults who are tired and stressed, diabetic, taking antibiotics or
have a damaged immune system because of HIV infection. It causes
itching or pain.

Thrust is easily treated with anti-fungal drugs. Live yoghurt, eaten or

applied to the affected areas, can prevent and treat thrust. (Live yoghurt
contains bacteria, which stops the thrush from growing). Some people
recommend avoiding sweet foods, white flour and starchy foods.

Bacterial Vaginosis – Thin, gray-white vaginal discharge with an

unpleasant smell, caused by bacteria. It can be passed on by sexual

Some women do not notice any symptoms. Men can be infected without
any symptoms.

Bacterial vaginosis is easily treated with antibiotics. There is some

evidence that infection with vaginosis increases the risk if co-infection with
other STIs.

A short input on Empathy

Written by: Fr. Ruben M. Tanseco, S.J., Center for Family Ministries
(CEFAM), Ateneo De Manila University

What is Empathy?
“Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.” (S. Covey)

Empathetic listening and the Empathetic sharing! This is what we are

asking every father present here to learn as his most potent, personal and
spiritual skills toward real intimacy with his wife and every one of his

I said spiritual skill because without God’s presence being experienced by

the father – as we saw in the previous session (“Maka-Diyos”) – he will
not succeed in being real, habitual, empathetic listener and sharer.

EMPATHETIC LISTENING. Empathy means nothing more and nothing

less than COMPASSION. It is to reach to the other by setting myself
aside, so that I can understand the other with my heart, and not with my
critical, logical, judgmental mind. To enter the world of the other, place
myself in the shoes of the other, so that I could BE WITH, THINK WITH
and FEEL WITH the OTHER. “Other” here means either the wife, or a
son, or a daughter.

To experience reality from the other’s world and perspective is easier said
and done, particularly when I am feeling angry, or hurt, or emotionally
upset. Before I can experience empathy, I need to become aware of my
love for the one I am trying to listen to (my wife, son or daughter). And
then I need to be aware of God’s presence within me, and in the person of
the other, as we have learned in our session on “Maka-Diyos”.

And it is the same love and God’s loving presence within me that will
motivate me to share myself with empathy.


As a father, I need to share deepest feelings, not only positive feelings

(like my love, joy, tenderness, and others), my also negative and
ambivalent feelings, precisely, when I am faced with a conflict situation
with my wife, son or daughter - my feelings of anger, hurt, confusion, and
With empathy in my heart, especially after having listened to the other
with empathy, I now express my negative and ambivalent feelings by
means of “I-Messages” – not you-messages. (E.g. I feel very upset in
what you are telling me” rather than “You did something very bad”).

Here, you own your feelings, reporting them directly but in a non-
judgmental way, in an empathic way.

Describe how the situation is affecting you. (E.g. “Every time this
happens, my feelings of affection suffer, and seem to grow cold.”)

In conclusion then: When a father is able to practice both empathetic

listening and empathetic sharing with members of his family, there is no
doubt that his intimacy with them will grow, as well as his friendship and
love for his family.

Process Activities on Empathy

A. Demo-Session
(The facilitator will now demonstrate how empathetic listening and
empathetic sharing are done by taking the role of a father, and asking a
volunteer from the group to take the role of a son. In front of the whole
group, the two will now role-play a typical conflict situation between father
and son. A 20-minute session would be sufficient.

An open forum will then follow, where questions and clarifications can be

B. Role-Play Session in Small Groups

(A role-play session will now be done in small groups. In every group, one
will take the role of father, and another will take the role of son. They then
role-play a typical problem-situation between father and son.

Processing in the small group follows.

This will end with processing in the total group for the learning of the

C. Sample Case Studies for Role-Play Sessions

1. A teenage, unmarried daughter asks for a dialogue with her father and
reveals to him that she is pregnant.
2. A teenage son asks for a dialogue with his father and reveals to him
that he cannot graduate from high school because he flunked his final


A. Residential Centers


Bridges of Hope Drugs and

Alcoholic Rehabilitation Center
364 Aguirre Ave, Ph3 BF Homes, Parañaque City
Contact Person: Mr. Arturo Crespo
Program Director
Tel No: (02) 571-9951
Fax No: (02) 871-5578
Capacity: 20 (Male and Female)

Department of Health-
Bicutan Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
Camp Bagong Diwa, Bicutan, Taguig City
Contact Person: Dr. Marvin V. Diokno
Director II
Tel No: (02) 379-5553
(02) 379-5551
Capacity: 500 (Male and Female)

Marikina Rehabilitation Center

East Drive St., cor. Champagnat St.,
Marikina Heights, Marikina City
Contact Person: Mr. Alfredo P. Castro Jr.
Center Administrator
Tel No: (02) 475-4269
Fax No: (02) 645-6407
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)

New Bilibid Prison Drug Abuse

Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
NBP Reservation, Brgy. Poblacion, Muntinlupa City
Contact Person: Dr. Ricardo Anselmo
Tablang, Program Administrator
Tel No: (02) 850-0992
Capacity: 50 (Male)
Quezon City Drug Treatment and
Rehabilitation Center “Tahanan”
Diamond Hills Subdivision, Group II Area B
Payatas, Quezon City
Contact Person: Ms. Rowena T. Macatao
Officer In-Charge
Tel No: (02) 922-4361
(02) 444-7272
Capacity: 150 (Male and Female)

Roads and Bridges to Recovery

520 EDBEN Bldg. Dr. Sixto Antonio Ave.,
Maybunga, Pasig City
Contact Person: Dr. Benita Sta. Ana-Ponio
Executive Director
Tel No: (02) 643-6006
Fax No: (02) 643-4572
Capacity: 62 (Male and Female)


Bulacan Drug Rehabilitation Foundation, Inc.

Serapio-Ting Ville, San Nicolas, Bulakan, Bulacan
Contact Person: Dr. Roberto D. Ramirez
Tel No: (044) 896-0319
Capacity: 40 (Male and Female)

Central Luzon Drug Rehabilitation Center

Brgy. Sto. Niño, Magalang, Pampanga
Contact Person: Mr. Benigno Espino
Executive Director
Tel No: 0918-9029194
Capacity: 250 (Male and Female)

Nanay Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation Center

Gulod, Poblacion, Pandi, Bulacan
Contact Person: Dr. Virginia Tordesillas
Tel No: 0916-6275132
(044) 815-4670
Capacity: 36 (Male and Female)
Rebirth Philippines Therapeutic Community Foundation, Inc.
71 Wakas South, Pilar, Bataan
Contact Person: Eloisa S. Tria, DMD
Executive Director
Tel No: (047) 791-2166
(047) 237-5377
Capacity: 34 (Male and Female)


Bridgehall Community Foundation, Inc. Treatment Facility

For Alcoholics and Drug Dependence
Brgy. Banaba, Cerca, Indang, Cavite
Contact Person: Mr. Dennis C. Enciso
Contact No: 0917-7946734
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)

Center for Christian Recovery

777 Outlook Drive, Loresville, Subdivision,
San Roque, Antipolo City
Contact Person: Mr. Cenen Enrique W. Corpus
Executive Director
Tel No: (02) 697-5861
Capacity: 14 (Male and Female)

Change and Recovery (CARE)

Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
D. Cruzado Road, Guinhawa South, Tagaytay City
Contact Person: Mr. Peter Paul S. Flordelis
Facility Director
Contact No: 0917-8982935
(046) 695-8009
Capacity: 38 (Male and Female)

Cheers Therapeutic Community, Inc.

25 Patutong Malaki, South, Tagaytay City
Contact Person: Mr. Endrico G. Gentile
Program Director
Tel No: (046) 413-2802
(02) 504-1797
Capacity: 40 (Male and Female)
Crossroads Treatment and Rehabilitation, Inc.
5 Woodpecker Drive, Victoria Valley Subdivision, Antipolo City
Contact Person: Fr. Clifford G. Gavina
Executive Director
Tel No: (02) 871-0086
Capacity: 28 (Male and Female)

Department of Health-
Tagaytay City Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
Ipil St., Kaybagal South, Tagaytay City
Contact Person: Dr. Carmelita B. Belgica
Tel No: (046) 483-1334
Capacity: 120 (Male)

The Nazareth Foemation House

“A Bob Garon Therapeutic Community”
Brgy. Lapo-Lapo St, San Jose, Batangas
Contact Person: Ms. Emerita Garon
Executive Director
Tel No: (02) 820-6107
(043) 706-3338
Fax No: (02) 826-6234
Capacity: 50 (Male AND Female )

Seagulls Flight Foundation, Inc.

Brgy. Neogan, Aguinaldo Highway, Tagaytay City
HQ: 504 Park Trade Center 1716, Investment Drive
Madrigal Business Park, Ayala, Alabang, Muntinlupa City
Contact Person: Mr. Eddie L. Castillo
Tel No: (02) 809-4847
(02) 809-8776
(046) 413-4542
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)
Self-Enhancement for Life Foundation, Inc.
77 Brgy. Miranda, Talisay, Batangas
HQ: Unit 506 Southgate Bldg. Finance Drive
Madrigal Business Park, Ayala, Alabang, Muntinlupa City
Contact Person: Mr. Martin R. Infante
Tel No: (02) 809--3491
(043) 773-0354
(046) 413-4542
Fax: (02) 809-7235
Capacity: 80 (Male and Female)

Serenity House of Sobriety

3575 ME Calamba Rd, Brgy Sungay East, Tagaytay City
Contact Person: Ms. Amy Gay V. Laboc
Center Director
Tel No: (046) 483-1637
(046) 860-2558
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)

Springwells of Hope, Inc. Drug and

Alcohol Abuse Rehabilitation Center
55 Brgy. Pansol, Calamba, Laguna
Contact Person: Mr. Gonzalo Jesus R. Garcia III
Managing Director
Tel No: (02) 420-8243
Fax No: (049) 545-3644
Capacity: 40 (Male and Female)

Tahanan ng Kabataan ng Laguna

Brgy. Bungkol, Magdalena, Laguna
(Provincial Social Welfare and Development Office)
Contact Person: Mr. Ernesto Montecillo
Center Director
Tel No: (049) 501-2294
Capacity: 50 (Male)

One Algon Place Foundation, Inc.

0633 Brgy. Mamatid, Cabuyao, Laguna
Contact Person: Ms. Mariaceli Gonzales
Program Administrator
Tel No: (049) 502-2297
(02) 861-0593
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)

Department of Health-
Camarines Sur Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
Pamukid, San Fernando, Camarines Sur
Contact Person: Dr. Ma. Lourdes Anson
Officer In-Charge
Tel No: (054) 478-4769
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)

Department of Health-
Malinao Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
Brgy. Comun, Malinao, Albay
Contact Person: Dr. Ma. Teresa C. Iñigo
Officer In-Charge
Tel No: (052) 830-5390
Fax No: (052) 483-0840
Capacity: 60 (Male)


Negros Occidental Drug Rehabilitation Center

“Ang Dalangpan”
Camp Gen. Anicato Lacson Cpd, Victoria City, Negros Occidental
Contact Person: Dr. Ernesto A. Palanca
Executive Director
Telefax: (034) 399--3388
Capacity: 60 (Male and Female)

WVMC Substance Abuse

Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
Brgy. Rumbang, Pototan, Iloilo
Contact Person: Dr. Mariano S. Hembra
Tel No: (033) 529-8955
Capacity: 50 (Male)

Cebu North General Hospital Chemical

Dependent’s Control and Rehabilitation Center
Kauswagan Road, Talamban Cebu City
Contact Person: Mr. Manuel Delos Santos
Program Director
Tel No: (032) 343-7777
Capacity: 48 (Male and Female)

House of Hope, Inc.

888 B9-A Osmeña St., Gun-ob, Lapu-Lapu City, Cebu
Contact Person: Pastor Roel M. Allocod
Center Director
Tel No: (032) 340-7941
Fax No: (032) 239-0309
Capacity: 50 (Male)

Roads and Bridges to Recovery, Cebu Branch

Upper Maliu Beach St., Subangdaku, Mandaue City, Cebu
Contact Person: Dr. Benita Sta. Ana-Ponio
Executive Director
Tel No: (02) 643-6006
(032) 344-2142
Capacity: 80 (Male and Female)

We Do Recover, The Center for Creative Living Solutions

3rd Street, La Guardia, Lahug, Cebu City
Contact Person: Mr. Vicente G. Aldanese
Center Director
Telefax No: (032) 231-5229
Capacity: 30 (Male and Female)


Department of Health-
Dulag, Leyte Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
Brgy. Highway, Dulag Leyte
Contact Person: Dr. Teresita M. Cajano
Facility Head
Tel No: (053) 322-2200
Capacity: 30 (Male)

It Works! Chemical Dependency Treatment Center

Purok Mauswagon, Tinago, Ozamis City
Misamis Occidental
Contact Person: Mr. Florencio Francisco
Program Director
Tel No: (088) 521-1281
Capacity: 25 (Male)

Misamis Occidental Drug Treatment and Rehabilitation

Purok 1, Brgy. Buenavista, Oroqueta City
Contact Person: Jonathan Callanta
Program Director
Tel No: (088) 531-1639
Telefax: (088) 586-0341
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)


Davao City Treatment and Rehabilitation Center for Drug

Bago Oshiro, Tugbok District, Davao City
Contact Person: Dr. Gene L. Gulanes
Center Manager
Tel No: (082) 293-0252
Capacity: 100 (Male and Female)

Luntiang Paraiso Regional Rehabilitation Center for

Drug and Alcoholic Dependency
Purok 2, Brgy. Poblacion, Municipality of New Corella
Province of Davao del Norte
Contact Person: Ms. Gabriela S. Logronio
Executive Director
Contact No: 0916-3747024
Capacity: 50 (Male)
New Day Recovery Center, Inc.
Babista Compd., Beach Club Rd.
Lanang, Davao City
Contact Person: Mr. Jerry Joseph C. Valderama
Addiction Program Director
Tel No: (082) 234-1002
(082) 233-1719
Capacity: 40 (Male and Female)


New Living Solutions Chemical

Dependency Treatment Center
Purok 3, Brgy. Sto. Niño Magallanes, Agusan del Norte
Contact Person: Mr. Alonzo T. L. Young
Tel No: (085) 225-3485
Telefax: (085) 342-5093
Capacity: 50 (Male and Female)

B. Non- Residential Centers

REGION – National Capital Region

The New Beginnings Foundation, Inc.

Unit 101 Midland Mansion Condominium
839 Pasay Road, Makati City
Contact Person: Mr. Conrado L. Ayuyao Jr.
Executive Director
Telefax: (02) 894-5399


CHD XI Outpatient and Aftercare Center for Drug Dependents

CHD Davao Region. J.P. Laurel Ave., Bajada Davao City
Contact Person: Mr. Rustum Fanugao Jr.
Officer In-Charge
Tel No: (082) 305-1495

Maguindanao Provincial Hospital Outpatient

Treatment and Rehabilitation Center
MPH Compound, Limpongo Shariff Aguak, Maguindanao
Contact Person: Dr. Harris Macapeges
Municipal Health Officer
Tel No: (064) 489-0932

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DSWD. Parent Effectiveness Service Manual, 2001

DSWD. Marriage Counseling Service Manual, 2002

DSWD, Manual on National Family Violence Prevention Program, 2000

DSWD/Philippine National AIDS Council CPNAC, Care and Support; A

Self Instructional Manual for Social Workers or HIV/AIDS/STI, 2002

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