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Sophia R. Rubsamen
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Abstract
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Psychological abuse is an overlooked form of abuse that occurs when one party uses
abuse can have a detrimental effect on the structure of a family and its effects have an extensive
impact of the lives of all family members; these effects become cyclical and transgenerational.
Victims of psychological abuse often do not recognize the treatment as abuse because there is no
clear way of identifying it and this leads to many people not addressing the abuse. Children are
highly influenced by the behaviors of their parents. Therefore, when they witness their parents
abusing one another they accept it as normal, and it can lead to a myriad of mental and social
defects. Children who are directly abused also face substantial issues throughout their lives.
Culture has a significant impact on family dynamics and can be a cause of abusive tendencies.
Leaving the abusive situations can be very difficult for victims, but leaving in a safe manner with
Table of Contents
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Abstract………...………………………………………………………………………………….2
Table of Contents…..……………………………………………………………………...…........3
Introduction………………………………………………………………………………………..4
Literature Review………………………………………………………………………………….5
Limitations………………………………………………………………………………………....
Discussion…………………………………………………………………………………………8
Abuse………………………………....…...9
Interparental
Abuse…………………………………………………………………....….10
Interfamilial
Abuse………………………………………………………………………..11
Sociocultural
Effects……………………………………………………………………...13
Addressing the
Abuse…………………………………………………………………….17
Conclusion………………………………………………………………………………....……..1
References………………………………………………………………………………………..19
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Introduction
There is so much more to every family than what can be seen on the surface; no one truly
knows what happens in each individual house. There is a multitude of definitions for the term
“abuse,” but individuals tend to typically associate the word with physical violence. There is an
entirely other form of abuse just as prevalent. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines
domestic violence as “a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control
over another partner in an intimate relationship” (National Domestic Violence Hotline). This
shows that abusive behavior is comprised of actions used to assert dominance and control; a
grand part of that violence is the psychological aspect. This aspect is almost entirely overlooked
and is therefore much less often addressed or even considered abuse. It is also much more
difficult to distinguish between what is actual psychological abuse versus what is simply rude
and careless behavior, especially within families. Children will not recognize the behavior of
their parents as abusive because it is all they’ve known and witnessed their entire lives; this has a
cyclical effect and teaches children that abuse is normal, acceptable behavior, and it ends up
being the way they treat others as well as the way they accept treatment. Psychological abuse is
an important aspect of domestic abuse that must be publicized, specifically in families, because,
if not addressed, it can become transgenerational and have a lifelong effect on its victims.
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Literature Review
The New York Times has been studying domestic abuse since the early 60’s, yet, its
perception of what can be considered abuse has changed over the years. A recent article titled
‘50 Years Ago, Doctors Called Domestic Violence Therapy’ (Times 2014) discusses how in an
earlier print from the 1960s, The Times validated domestic violence as a way to “balance out
each other's mental quirks” (Times 1964). Eliana Dockterman, the author of the more recent
article, refutes earlier claims by saying, “We now know that physical violence is only one part of
domestic abuse: abusers often use other means like isolation, threats to family members and pets,
controlling of personal finances and psychological abuse to hurt their victims” (Dockterman
1994). This shows how modern-day knowledge believes that emotional abuse is a serious
In 1964, The Times documented a study performed by Drs. John E. Snell, Richard J.
Rosenwald, and Ames Robey; it concluded that wife beating was a validated result of alcoholism
in a marriage. The reason being that the wife may run the household and in order to relieve some
of the husband’s frustration with assertiveness, he beats her, thus allowing him to have power
over her while she maintains power over the household. The times claimed that it was a healthy
way for them to balance out their “mental quirks.” The article made no mention of any
emotionally abusive factor in this or the controlling dynamics executed by the husband.
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In 1994, a childhood trauma questionnaire was taken among a multitude of adults with
addictive tendencies. The goal of the questionnaire was to confirm that there is a relationship
between substance using individuals and emotionally abusive relationships with their guardians
and/or trusted adults. To do so, questionnaires were issued to 286 individuals; 40 of them were
given the questionnaire again after 6 months and 68 of them were given structured interviews
about their childhood. The results proved the hypothesis to be correct in that the majority of
patients had experienced physical and/or emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and/or emotional and
The British Journal of Psychiatry conducted a similar study analyzing the impact of
childhood trauma, and domains of childhood abuse, on outcome in bipolar disorder (Garno
2018). In the study, 100 patients at a clinic for bipolar disorder treatment were interviewed and
assessed about their childhood. In results, the journal states, “Histories of severe childhood abuse
were identified in about half of the sample and were associated with early age at illness onset.
Abuse subcategories were strongly inter-related. Severe emotional abuse was significantly
associated with lifetime substance misuse comorbidity and past-year rapid cycling. Logistic
regression indicated a significant association between lifetime suicide attempts and severe
childhood sexual abuse. Multiple forms of abuse showed a graded increase in risk for both
suicide attempts and rapid cycling” (Garno 2018). This shows how emotional abuse correlates
A website called Liberation in El Salvdor examines the gender and family structures of
El Salvador. It concludes that the “machismo” culture of the country gives the men justification
for being abusive. In El Salvador men are believed to be ‘spiritually superior,’ which allows
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them to have complete power and control over all the women in their lives. It also identifies how
social disparities and other cultural beliefs amplify the abusive tendencies.
The U.S. National Library of Medicines’ study on the role of gender and age in emotional
abuse in intimate relationships (Karakurt 2013) had surprising conclusions. The study had 250
participants and they took an emotional abuse questionnaire that focused on isolation,
degradation, sexual abuse, and property damage. It concluded that men tended to report slightly
more emotional abuse than women. The older participants tended to experience less abuse than
Limitations
Gathering research and statistics on emotional abuse is an intrusive process, so there will
always be a pretty grand margin of error. Many individuals are very private about the situations
they face in their own homes and are less likely to be honest about the personal details of their
familial relationships. The majority of statistics gathered have been taken from volunteers who
are willing to admit they have faced situations of abuse; there is no way of knowing the actual
The countries of focus will be the United States, El Salvador, and Russia. However, no
countries with relevant information will be excluded from the author’s scope of research. The
statistical research directly on emotional abuse will primarily come from sources within the
United States because the other countries of focus are not as aware of the predominance of the
issue and it is not recognized as an issue in multiple regions of the world. Culturally boundaries
in many regions make it taboo to discuss the idea of abuse within families.
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Men are more unlikely to be open and honest about the nature of the emotional
relationships they have within their intimate relations. Social stigmas towards masculinity make
men insecure in expressing their feelings because they are afraid of coming off as weak and
losing respect. The fragility of masculinity in the cultures of all three of my focus groups could
skew the results of my research and disregard a huge group of silent victims.
Discussion
prevalent in a relationship. Psychological abuse, also known as emotional abuse, can encompass
physical, sexual, and verbal maltreatment, while in other cases it can encompass none of them
making it more difficult to recognize and address. Victims of the abuse feel trapped in the
relationship; they feel as though leaving could result in serious consequences, consequences that
controlling someone or something to your advantage, often without anyone knowing it.”
Manipulation is the basis behind psychological abuse; it’s the manner by which abusers establish
and maintain control over those in their personal lives. Often, this behavior may include name-
calling, isolation, lack of trust, excessive monitoring and threatening, withholding of affection,
Hotline). These are the most common forms of psychological abuse, but there is still a multitude
Anyone can be a victim of this form of abuse, but not everyone recognizes and takes
action when faced with it; this also applies to the abusers. No demographic is exempt from
can be skewed because of the discretion taken by the victims out of fear of their perpetrators and
when, in reality, it can be much more than that. When the frustration becomes severe enough that
it is constant and their victims are always walking on eggshells to avoid an outburst, it has
become abusive. This concept also works in reverse; not every abhorrent argument is an abusive
occurrence. For example, when a partner cheats on the other, it is not necessarily considered
abuse; once the cheating becomes nearly routine and is intentionally used to exert control, it
becomes abusive.
Associated with this topic is the term “gaslighting.” Gaslighting is a common tactic used
to make victims think they are simply delusional or even that they are the wrongdoers; its a form
refers to a partner’s refusal to listen or understand the other; “blocking” refers to the way the
abusive partner changes the subject or makes the other question their own thoughts;
“trivializing” is when they accuse their partner of exaggerating and being too sensitive; “denial,”
which is most common, is when the abuser claims the victim's argument is simply inaccurate,
even if it is proven to be true. Gaslighting is one dangerous way of maintaining control because it
directly contradicts the victim’s known reality (National Domestic Violence Hotline).
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Incidents like these are why it is so difficult for victims to recognize the destructive
nature of the relationships in which they are involved. Often, perpetrators are unable to recognize
and admit that their actions are problematic, and, even if they do realize it, it may be very hard
for them to stop being abusive. There is not a clear, fine line as to when one should leave the
relationship or seek help as there is with physical abuse because there are no definite criteria with
Interparental Abuse
Interparental abuse has a detrimental effect on family dynamics for generations. While
abuse is commonly thought of as a man abusing a woman, abuse can function both ways. A
study on the impact of age and gender on domestic violence concludes, “Females reported
perpetrating slightly more psychological aggression than males (86% vs. 82%), and in terms of
reported physical aggression, 29% of males and 35% of females admitted to perpetration. In
terms of both psychological and physical abuse, there were no statistically significant gender
differences” (Karakurt & Silver 2013). The study examined and interviewed a number of men
and women of various ages and concluded that, while men tend to report more psychological
abuse, there is not a grand difference in terms of perpetrators of abuse. When children witness
abuse between their parents, they determine the relationship as normal, and they accept it as
such.
a young age. Studies show that preschool children who live in households that experience
interparental psychological aggression have higher levels of clinical emotional problems. They
tend to be more physically and verbally aggressive and have difficulty making friends and
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functioning well in most social environments (Fantuzzo 1991). Children are very observant, and
they mimic the actions and mannerisms of their parents outside of the house.
The effects of exposure to parental conflict in childhood last for a lifetime. The most
obvious effect of witnessing abuse is that it stunts social skill development from a very young
age and thus mars future relationships. Victims can find themselves accepting similar treatment
from their partners as their parents received, or they may also become the abusers themselves.
adjustment in adulthood concludes that, not only will they face social obstacles, but they will
also face a diverse range of social and mental problems distinctly in relation to mother on father
The study by professor David Fergusson employed multiple logistic regression, a form of
statistical analysis that focuses on one nominal variable as well as two independent variables to
predict an outcome, to determine the correlation between adjustment issues associated with the
children who witnessed their father as the perpetrator of the abuse had increased risks of anxiety
as well as substance abuse and criminal tendencies in adulthood; however, children who only
witnessed their mother as the abuser solely tended to face substance abuse issues (Fergusson
1998).
Interfamilial Abuse
Interfamilial abuse has similar effects to interparental abuse, but the consequences are
much more directly correlated to the abuse the children themselves have faced. There is no way
to be absolute in gathering statistics on children who have faced domestic psychological abuse
because of the drastic amount of cases that remain unreported; however, the American Society
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for the Positive Care of Children reports that 7.4 million children in the United States report
domestic violence, yet only 3.5 million of these children receive prevention and post-response
services. Of these 7.4 million children, 74.8% of victims face neglect and 6.9% of those children
report psychological maltreatment (American Society for the Positive Care of Children). Direct
psychological abuse has detrimental effects on their mental health and the stability of their
futures.
The most commonly reported form of psychological abuse that children face is parental
neglect. A child is facing neglect when their parent rejects the child and doesn’t provide them
with the love, care, and assistance that is expected of parents; this can lead to abandonment. The
magazine PLoS Medicine conducted a study to determine the long term effects of child
maltreatment; it concluded that children who faced non-sexual maltreatment like neglect and
emotional abuse exhibited behavioral problems and mental health disorders. The article writes,
“Exposure to non-sexual child maltreatment, namely, emotional abuse, and neglect, is associated
with increased risk of a wide range of psychological and behavioural problems, including
depression, alcohol abuse, anxiety, and suicidal behaviour, and with increased risk of HIV and
Some parents believe that “tough love” is critical in raising their children, but “tough
love” only goes so far. “Belittling” is a term used to describe the way parents reject their children
projection; the parent lives vicariously through the lives of their children, and when their
children don’t succeed they see it as a personal failure. No accomplishment is significant enough
for praise because there will always be room for improvement. “Belittling” leaves children with
low self-esteem and can even lead to mental disorders like anxiety and/or depression. This
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hinders their ability to trust themselves to take on tasks, leading them to never meet their
Narcissistic parents can also raise their children in a neglectful and uncaring manner.
While, in some cases, narcissism may just be an adjective to describe someone who is self-
absorbed, it can also be an actual mental disorder. Narcissistic personality disorder makes one
incapable of putting another being’s needs above their own. According to the Mayo Clinic,
condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for
excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others”
(Narcissistic Personality Disorder, 2017). Parents with this disorder are unable to empathize with
their children; the children are typically seen as possessions that can be used to further the
parents own interests. The parent is only happy with the child when it is actively pleasing and
filling the physical and emotional needs of the parent. Children who grow up in these
environments develop severe self-esteem issues, and the parental abuse follows them into
adulthood. The only efficient way for them to escape the abuse, as harsh as it may seem, is by
psychologically abuse their children. The effects of the abuse follow the children into adulthood
and can be severe enough to lead to significant mental issues that have an effect on all their
Sociocultural Effects
cultures, psychological abuse isn’t considered to be abuse; the behavior is simply the familial
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norm. In other instances, like in the United States, it is simply overlooked, and people are willing
to turn a blind eye to it to avoid possible humiliation for themselves as well as their family.
Different beliefs and levels of societal development affect the traditional family structure in a
region.
In the United States, men and women are both equal and protected from domestic
violence under the law; however, psychological abuse itself is difficult to identify and victims
are not legally protected. Creating a law that prohibits psychological abuse could appear as a
violation of the first amendment that protects free speech and expression. 48.4% of women and
48.8% of men in the United States report being the victim of psychological aggression by an
intimate partner (National Domestic Violence Hotline). These statistics were taken by a random,
anonymous telephone poll among both men and women; this manner of recording statistics is
one of the most effective ways to receive honest information considering the discretion taken to
prevalent. Machismo culture, also known as marianismo culture, refers to the male sexual culture
that dictates them as spiritually superior to women. Men are designated as the “boss” in the
relationship while the women are seen as property; men are considered entitled to sex, and they
are not expected to remain monogamous. Women are not allowed to exert any control in the
relationship, and this leads to a dangerous power dynamic that is detrimental to the health of the
women as well as other members of the family. Domestic violence is very prevalent in these
regions; physical abuse isn’t perceived as maltreatment, so any mention of psychological abuse
therefore, machismo culture is very prevalent in the country. The poverty rate is slowly
declining, but poverty is still widespread; this leads to gender disparities in society as well as in
the household. This decreases the stability of family structures which has an adverse effect on the
entire family. El Salvadorian women face a difficult dilemma; if they leave the relationship their
children will grow up in extreme poverty without a father figure. An article about gender roles in
El Salvador writes, “Therefore, it appears that through their relationship disempowerment, rural
Salvadoran women and their families are even more likely to remain in poverty than if they had
choices with regards to their family and the formality of their consensual union” (Liberation in
El Salvador). The men in El Salvador are the primary breadwinners for the family; therefore, the
El Salvador can be considered one of the most dangerous places for women in the
Western hemisphere due to its extraordinarily high rates of female-targeted violence. Pai, a
nonprofit organization that advocates for global equality for women, reports, “More than a
quarter of women in the country have reported experiencing physical or sexual violence at the
hands of an intimate partner—a number that would surely increase if violence inflicted by other
male family members or acquaintances was taken into account” (Dennis). Physical violence and
violence are unavailable, it is assumed that the rates could even exceed that of domestic physical
The existence of psychological domestic abuse associated with gender disparities is not
specific to developing countries. In Russia, in recent years, Putin has passed legislation
decriminalising domestic violence: “Under new legislation, abusers can avoid jail time, and
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instead pay a £375 fine, if the beatings occur – or are reported to occur – not more than once a
year, and if the victim has suffered no lasting harm, such as a broken bone or concussion. Pulling
out hair, or causing skin to break and need stitches, or skin to discolour, turning into a patchwork
of purple and blue, no longer qualify for time behind bars under the new bill” (Ferris-Rotman).
New legislation shows that the government doesn’t even consider physical violence to be an
issue worthy of direct preventive action; therefore, psychological abuse isn’t even a problem
Women in Russia have been fighting a war against oppression since the Soviet Union era.
Although the Women's Rights Revolution has extended to Russia, Putin, the president, has
reversed a substantial amount of the progress made. The legislation passed limiting criminal
punishment for abusers has made it significantly harder for women to prove their worth and gain
equal power in the household. Russian women have been discouraged from joining the
workforce and breaking out of the stereotype of being a stay-at-home mom. They see feminism
as a Western ideal being forced on women, and they believe it is more oppressive than the
familial structure they currently reside in. The idea of psychological abuse is completely
There is some truth in the stereotype that Asian, specifically Chinese mothers are
overbearing and have exceedingly high expectations of their children. These parents are called
“Tiger Moms” for their “hyper-disciplining parenting and their laser-like focus on achievement
and performance” (Park 2014). This form of parenting utilizes belittling and emotional neglect to
“encourage” a child to accomplish more. For example, a tiger parent would not accept grades
that were not perfect and the child could be shunned because of it. An eight year long study on
the different parenting styles of Chinese-Americans concluded that the children of parents who
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followed the tiger parenting style were less academically successful than children with
supportive parents (Kim 2013). This shows that this abusive form of parenting leaves children
with low self esteem and trust issues through adulthood; this makes it more difficult for them to
Culture plays a significant part in perpetrating psychological abuse, but it also prevents
victims from seeking helping. Some cultural normalities make it shameful to seem unhappy in
one’s family and therefore hinders victims feeling trapped and powerless in the abusive situation.
Other sociocultural effects, like the oppression of women in developing countries, makes it
impossible to leave the relationship because of the financial and physical dependency the victim
has to their abuser. While leaving may seem like an implausible task, it can be accomplished if
Addressing Abuse
Victims that recognize the psychological abuse face the dilemma of leaving the
relationship in a safe, healthy, and effective manner. Psychiatrist Dana Baldwin asserts that there
are two major factors that need to be addressed when escaping an abusive relationship: safety
and support. Safety must be addressed first; a victim must be able to leave the relationship
without the fear that they could be harmed physically, mentally, or financially. To do so could
entail simply leaving with the assistance of a support system, or it could call for going into
complete hiding to avoid the abuser. The second most important component is having a solid
support system to lean on once the separation is complete. The support system would provide the
victim with a place to stay as well as financial help and a stable, reliable environment in which
they can recuperate (D. Baldwin, personal communication, Dec. 11, 2018). If these measures are
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taken by the victim, then they can safely escape the abuse and hopefully develop safe and
Conclusion
Psychological abuse is a serious issue present all around the globe, but it is not treated as
such. There are just as many victims of psychological abuse as there are of physical abuse,
maybe even more; the consequences of psychological abuse are also just as serious as those of
physical abuse, yet only one of these forms receives obvious public and governmental attention.
Facing psychological abuse, directly or indirectly, within the family leads to lifelong
consequences. The victims social skills are stunted and they often face mental illness that leads
to substance abuse and sometimes even criminal tendencies. Leaving the abuse can be a difficult
but vital process that can lead to victims living a safe, healthy, and fulfilling life.
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