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Step One
“The first step to getting the things you want out of life
is this: decide what you want.”
- Ben Stein b. 1944
I don’t want a glass of water. I don’t know about you, but now
I want a glass of water.
In my mind, while I am saying, I don’t want a glass of
water, I get an internal image of a glass of water and I even
salivate for it. You have my permission to go have a nice
cold glass of water, if you would like to.
A glass of water is good for you. However, imagine
all the things you struggle with that aren’t good for you and
how you are repeatedly thinking about not wanting them.
This results in your difficulties. When you think about
something your mind generates images and sensations
based on your thoughts, these result in your thinking that
you want them and you are not satisfied until you get them.
Since you are consciously aware that you don’t want to give
in, you end up unhappy with your choices as you continue
your cycle of frustration.
This same idea relates to your success and
happiness. If you are constantly thinking of being unhappy
or failing, then you get it. If you are thinking, I don’t want to
be unhappy or I don’t want to fail, it will result in the images
and sensations associated with your unhappiness and
failure. Your mind will habitually go back to this type of
thinking and you will struggle. It then becomes a cycle you
can’t break free of, mainly because you don’t understand it.
“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will
get you there.”
- Lewis Carroll 1832-1898
Imagine:
- The sights
- The sounds
- The feelings
- The smells
- The tastes
are talking about. You can do that and you don’t have to
“prove them wrong” or offend them in the process. Change
your focus towards gaining respect and appreciation from
this person and you will quickly discover ways to do this.
The end result will be satisfactory to both of you and may
even strengthen your relationship with them.
Think of it like this, what you put out is what you
get back. This takes place in the form of what you think
and how you act. First, it is a guarantee that if you think
negatively then you are going to get something negative
back, especially since so much is based on perception and
attitude. A negative attitude definitely affects your actions,
eventually resulting in these actions being reciprocated back
to you. With a negative perception you won’t see anything
else and it will affect what you give. Thinking like this
helps you realize that it is better to train yourself to have
positive intentions and thoughts about yourself and others.
If you want to be truly happy and successful, then
you need a healthy, positive attitude. One of the easiest
ways to accomplish this is to think of what you want and
how it will positively impact you and those around you.
When you think about what you want like this, you will
begin to appreciate and understand yourself and those
around you in a different manner. Your new understanding
will help you in obtaining what you want out of life.
Summary
Two Wolves
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about
a battle that goes on inside people.
- Author unknown