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FAMILY STRESS AND COPING 2
My father encountered an issue at work where he fought with one of his colleagues.
After they were investigated it turned out that father was guilty since he initiated the fight, which
led to the termination of his employment. He got stressed since multiple bills relied on his
employment.
Resources (B Factor)
I was a member of the social network support in my church, which offered me significant
moral support. The group leader of the social support team with my peers in the group offered
family and prayed together with me for God’s guidance through the stressful moment.
My mother had obtained a college diploma in marketing although she had not acquired an
employment opportunity. Considering the fact that we relied significantly on father’s salary, it
would have been a tough journey without his assistance. However, mother’s diploma was the
Apart from my studies, I had a part time employment opportunity in rubber industry. I
served as a salesperson where I would advertise the rubber products and earn a commission from
the sales. The earnings also contributed tremendously to the family’s financial requirements.
Constant Stress
Considering the fact that the lack of financial support was the cause of my parents’
divorce, I had the falsified guilt that I was the cause of the divorce. I was impacted by constant
stress since I assumed that it was my responsibility to mend the broken relationship between my
parents.
After father had left I felt distressed and disillusioned since I was left with only my
mother’s support. Lack of such emotional support from my father made me hopeless as I felt
different from my peers. The experience was worse since mother did not allow us to have access
to our father.
Intense Sadness
All members of our family were clouded with intense, particularly our mother. She had a
mixed reaction since she felt ashamed when we learned about the divorced reality and was also
Crisis (X Factor)
Divorce
My father’s loss of employment meant that he could no longer take care of the family
expenses. Such a scenario led to constant quarrels and argument between father and mother,
Being a single parent was one of the devastating roles that mother experienced. She had
to serve both the role of a house mother and a father who would provide for the financial
FAMILY STRESS AND COPING 4
requirements of the family. The experience was worse since we were young children who
I never had enough experience with my father since he divorced my mother while we
were still young. Besides, mother did not allow us to interact with our father. Such separation
made me believe that father decided to abandon us, which led to a poor father-child relationship
We had to adopt new roles in the family after the separation, particularly me. I used to
spend the part-time salary on my personal requirements only. However, I had to assist my mother
in offsetting the family’s requirements, which placed me in a more responsible role for the
family. Besides, mother had to obtain an employment opportunity and fill the gap left by my
father.
My aunts and uncles intervened after mother was unable to handle the pressure from the
single parent situation. Besides, the extended family offered us emotional support, which
Previously I was not closely related to my mother since I loved my father more.
However, his departure generated a strong emotional bond between my mother and me. Such a
After undergoing the trauma that resulted from my parents’ separation, I was unable to
stand on my own. My peers both at school and the church offered me both emotional and
spiritual support that enabled me to overcome the experience I went through during that period.
Feeling of Abandonment
abandonment. His absence generated a feeling of being discarded, insecure, left behind, and
undesired by my father. I had the falsified perception that he was abandoning me and not my
I went through a situation of dilemma regarding the choice of the two parents. I was
fonder of my father than my mother before the divorce encounter. However, the separation
generated enmity between father and mother compelling me to make a choice for the parent to
follow. I chose to stick with my mother since we went through the trauma together, but I still
Perception of Support
The amount of support I obtained from both the church members, peers, and extended
family generated a sense of belonging in me. I developed the perception that numerous people
cared for me despite my father’s abandonment. Such perception of support enhanced the post-
I went through the maladaptation and bonadaptation experience after the divorce
behavior and lower social competence. The uncontrolled behavior was more pronounced against
a male individual since I had the perception that my father abandoned us. Besides, the lower
social competence was due to the fact that most of my socialization experience was controlled by
my mother only. On the other hand, the bonadaptation experience included enhanced coping
skills and maturity level. The trauma I went through compelled me to develop enhanced skills to
cope with the situation. On the other hand, the change in family roles that placed me in an
advanced position of supporting the family enhanced my maturity level. I began perceiving all
situations and challenges from a maturity point of view rather than the immature personal
character I previously developed. However, the bonadaptation experience was pronounced than
the maladaptation one. The maturity experience and enhanced coping skills were more
significant in my life than the uncontrolled behavior and lowered social competence.