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Informal Mentoring 10
DO WE NEED COACHING/MENTORING? 11
The traditional therapies, psychology and counselling and their relationship to coaching 20
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Mentoring Styles: 26
‘Letting Go’ Style 26
‘Active Listening’ Style 26
‘Advisory’ Style 26
‘Cooperative’ Style 27
Communication: 30
Transactional Analysis: 30
Ego States 31
Communication Barriers: 33
Personality conflict: 33
Gender Differences 34
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Emotional Intelligence: 35
TYPES OF COMMUNICATION 35
Facial Expressions: 36
Gestures: 37
Posture: 37
Personal space: 37
BUSINESS COMMUNICATION 38
FEEDBACK: 40
PERFORMANCE-BASED FEEDBACK 46
Goals 53
Reality 53
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Wrap Up 54
SIGNS OF SUCCESS 54
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The rate of internally and externally driven change for organisations is likely to
continue to increase at an exponential rate. Organisations will continue to
move in the direction of not offering a 'job for life' but still wanting to attract
and retain high quality staff and managers who can perform in changing
circumstances. Mentees will need to equip themselves with the necessary
skills, knowledge and experience to manage change effectively whilst in a job,
and with the vision and insight to be able to manage their careers in a more
proactive way.
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At its best, Coaching is ‗non-directive‘: it does not teach, advise, and seek to
control people or impose solutions. Rather, it enables people to use their
internal and external resources to pursue their goals effectively. This technique
is at the heart of successful Coaching and differentiates it from consultancy,
training, traditional teaching and traditional management (and most sports
‗coaching‘!).
Research and practice have shown that this approach achieves sustainable
positive change, enabling organisations and individuals to achieve and maintain
goals that they had previously thought were not possible.
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“Tell him all you know” Odysseus said, and thus created a valuable personal
development tool …..and unwittingly set the limitation that Coaching
overcomes!
A mentor is a guide who can help the mentee to find the right direction and
who can help them to develop solutions to career issues. Mentors rely upon
having had similar experiences to gain an empathy with the mentee and an
understanding of their issues. Mentoring provides the mentee with an
opportunity to think about career options and progress.
A mentor should help the mentee to believe in him/herself and boost his/her
confidence. A mentor should ask questions and challenge, while providing
guidance and encouragement.
Informal Mentoring
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Characteristics:
Do We Need Coaching/Mentoring?
The Benefits of Coaching for Organisations
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As can be seen above, there are many similarities between coaching and
mentoring! Mentoring, particularly in its traditional sense, enables an individual
to follow in the path of an older and wiser colleague who can pass on
knowledge, experience and open doors to otherwise out-of-reach opportunities.
Coaching on the other hand is not generally performed on the basis that the
coach has direct experience of their client‘s formal occupational role unless the
coaching is specific and skills focused.
Having said this, there are professionals offering their services under the name
of mentoring who have no direct experience of their clients' roles and others
offering services under the name of coaching who do. So the moral of the story
is, it is essential to determine what your needs are and to ensure that the
coach or mentor can supply you with the type and level of service you require,
whatever that service is called.
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At one time coaching and mentoring were reserved for senior managers and
company directors, now it is available to all as a professional or personal
development tool. Coaching and mentoring are also closely linked with
organisational change initiatives in order to help staff to accept and adapt to
changes in a manner consistent with their personal values and goals.
Coaching & mentoring, of which focus on the individual, can enhance morale,
motivation and productivity and reduce staff turnover as individuals feel valued
and connected with both small and large organisational changes. This role may
be provided by internal coaches or mentors and, increasingly, by professional
coaching agencies.
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One-to-one skills training is not the same as the ‗sitting next to Nelly‘ approach
to ‗on the job training‘. What differentiates it is that like any good personal or
professional development intervention it is based on an assessment of need in
relation to the job-role, delivered in a structured (but highly flexible) manner,
and generates measurable learning and performance outcomes. This form of
skills training is likely to focus purely on the skills required to perform the job
function even though it may adopt a facilitative coaching approach instead of a
'telling' or directive style.
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The key difference between coaching and the therapies is that coaching does
not seek to resolve the deeper underlying issues that are the cause of serious
problems like poor motivation, low self-esteem and poor job performance.
Coaching and mentoring programmes are generally more concerned with the
practical issues of setting goals and achieving results within specific time-
scales.
Coach & mentor training programmes which are typically quite short are not
aimed at qualifying coaches to conduct an assessment of whether someone
may be in need of a therapeutic intervention, rather than a coaching or
mentoring one. This is driven in part by the professional restrictions and
barriers that have traditionally been placed around psychology and the
therapies, but is mostly due to the fact that psychological assessment is a
complex process that does require specialised training. Professional coaches &
mentors do, however, stay ever alert to the possibility that a client may have
or may develop issues or problems for which coaching or mentoring on its own,
is not sufficient.
Client progress is always monitored and coaches and mentors watch for signs
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Most coaches & mentors are keen to maintain the professional boundaries
between coaching & mentoring and the traditional therapies and will
collaborate with therapists when a client requires this form of intervention.
Because of this relationship between coaching and psychology & the therapies,
some professionals offering coaching services are, in fact, therapists or
psychologists who are marketing their services under the names coaching and
mentoring. This means it is possible to offer the appropriate level of service
depending on immediate needs and client preferences. This also has the
benefit of transcending some of the negative conceptions of what these
services involve.
Services of this nature can often be found under the terms positive or coaching
psychology to make it easier for clients to find service providers who take a
psychological focus within their work as a coach. For an explanation of
coaching psychology as an area of practice see
www.coachingpsychologist.net/WhatIs/Index.php
Anyone seeking life improvement, and who is willing to work at the deeper
issues, should consider contracting a coach or mentor who does have a
traditional therapeutic background in the first instance. If the client is not sure
if they have issues that would benefit from a therapeutic intervention are
encouraged to secure professional an assessment by an appropriately qualified
person.
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When the concept spread to Europe a decade later, it very quickly changed to
one, which emphasised empowering people to take charge of their own
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The goal of a business coach should always be to help draw out leadership
capability in individuals he is associated with. A business coach must make an
effort to help the business executive learn about how to design and link specific
leadership challenges, assuming complete responsibility to overcome the
challenge successfully.
A business coach must take the following steps first, before introducing them
with the leadership and problem solving aspects:
Take into account the work culture and the talent of the team, by partnering
first with the CEO or business head and the HR team.
The mentoring should go on for as long as the business coach is not completely
satisfied with the performance of the participants. The aim here is to coach the
executives in such a way that they are aware of every aspect of leadership and
problem solving skills.
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2. Optimism:
This is an absolutely essential trait for a leader. It is a trait that sets apart the
managers from leaders and the coach himself should have this approach on life
and business, to teach others.
3. Courage:
The coach has to hardwire this virtue in managers. He has to prove to them
that although we all have our own fears; the main thing is to learn how to
overcome them in the best possible way.
4. Teamwork:
This is a very important point to remember. It is preached everywhere, but
seldom practiced. The coach should himself know how to work within a team.
Everyone knows that leaders cannot do everything by themselves and so they
have a team of individuals with different talents. He has to guide the team in
such a way that each talent is fully utilized and the team feels good about
using their talent.
5. Good preparation:
Always prepare and go through your content before you start implementing
them on the participants. The content needs to cover all the aspects of the
subject, from basic skills to designing and implementation of leadership ideas.
6. Clear communication:
The most important of all traits is effective communication. Managers don‘t
essentially become leaders because they cannot communicate their ideas to
the management and their team effectively. A business coach is not only
responsible for polishing the communication skills of the participant, but also
on how he speaks and conveys management strategy to the participants.
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Not everyone can be a great mentor, after all. The most successful mentors are
going to be those people who want to share their experiences, their knowledge,
the skills and the solutions that they've discovered for common issues that
come up on the job.
Those who are going to be fantastic with being a mentor will have an innate
understanding that sharing what they know with a new hire puts them in a
position of power rather than someone who has the sense that knowledge is
power.
While mentors lead by example, not every leader is a mentor. Some of the best
leaders lead by instructing others, by engaging those who follow them and by
expecting others to simply embrace their way of doing things. Great mentors,
on the other hand, lead by showing that there's always more to be learned.
Mentors lead from within their team not from outside of it.
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There is a strength that is a part of being a mentor that not everyone has;
however, developing those strengths is something that will benefit the mentor,
the mentee and the organization overall.
A DESIRE TO HELP
Individuals who are interested in and willing to help others.
UP-TO-DATE KNOWLEDGE
Individuals who have maintained current, up-to-date technological knowledge
and/or skills.
LEARNING ATTITUDE
Individuals who are still willing and able to learn and who see the potential
benefits of a mentoring relationship.
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Mentoring Styles:
‘Advisory’ Style
„Prescribing’ Style
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‘Cooperative’ Style
Coaching can pave the way to company growth and increased profit, or
speedier advancement and higher income. The coaching styles listed here
have been developed by countless business and personal coaches over the
years. Coaching concepts are simplified and broken up into bite-sized chunks
using real-world examples.
The knowledge and sense of achievement that a good coach or mentor can
bring to your life and to your business will contribute to your bottom line year
after year; it will also lay a critical foundation for future business and personal
success.
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26. Strategic Coaching — This model identifies real opportunity, helps you
decide the role you will play, creates a game plan and monitors the action
taken in carrying out the plan.
27. Performance Coaching Model — For the competitive client. Develop a
compelling goal; create milestones to keep yourself focused on the goals,
build momentum with daily reporting.
28. Turnaround Coaching — In this model you will go digging for
problems, determine causes and effects, restore integrity, and then
establish new goals for the turnaround.
29. Quality of Life Coaching — Dissatisfied with life? Job not fulfilling?
Fulfillment comes from living your values, so this model calls for a re-
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Communication
Establishing the Reality
Feedback
Communication:
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Ego States
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Positive
Negative
Games: Games are set or pattern of transactions that have surface logic but
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Communication Barriers:
Personality conflict:
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Gender Differences
Cultural Differences
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Emotional Intelligence:
Emotion-related abilities should help people choose the best course of action
when navigating social encounters. For example, the ability to decode facial
expressions of emotion can help one to evaluate how other people respond to
one‘s words and actions, yielding important information for adjusting one‘s
behaviour (Nowicki & Duke, 2001).
The ability to use emotions to guide thinking can help one to consider both
emotions and technical information when evaluating an interpersonal problem.
The ability to manage emotions should help individuals experience and express
emotions that contribute to favourable social
encounters, in part through emotional contagion (Hatfield, Cacioppo, & Rapson,
1994).
TYPES OF COMMUNICATION
Communication can be divided into two categories:
Internal
External
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Eye Contact:
In the business culture, it is imperative to make eye
contact if one wishes to make a positive impression
with guests and maintain a relationship based on trust.
Consider the following:
Maintain eye contact without staring, as this is arrogant and threatening.
Avoid blinking too much as this communicates nervousness and
can be interpreted as an indication of dishonesty
Try to keep eye level on the same level as the guest. Stand if the guest
is standing. If the guest is seated, accommodate this by standing back a
little.
Facial Expressions:
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Posture:
Personal space:
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Business Communication
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E-mail:
Electronic mail—often abbreviated as e-mail or email—is a method of
exchanging digital messages, designed primarily for human use. A message at
least consists of its content, an author address and one or more recipient
addresses.
Both coaching and mentoring are processes that the mentee to achieve their
full potential.
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Feedback:
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Simply beginning a statement with the word ―I‖ doesn‘t make it an effective
statement.
“I feel frustrated when you don‟t get your reports to me on time.”
Vs. “I feel frustrated when I don‟t have the reports in time for the 2:00
meeting.”
As a supervisor or manager, the confidence you show (or don‘t show) in your
mentees affects their performance.
Say ―Thank you‖ to others to show your appreciation for the contributions they
make to the organization.
Remember . . .
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Any time you tell someone they ―have‖ to do something, he or she usually
reacts with the ―3 Rs‖:
Reluctance
Resentment
Resistance
Only when you want to do something will you do something voluntarily. That
is why it is important to change orders into requests or recommendations.
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Be an example.
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Provide training.
Give feedback to reinforce learning.
Effective coaches help others to achieve results by building on their
strengths,
Developing their skills, providing encouragement, and increasing their
confidence. It requires getting the mentee to examine his own
performance and find ways to improve performance. Coaching uses
informal work progress, discussions, formal performance reviews, and
workday ―coachable moments.‖
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Task-Specific Communication
In many instances, an mentee‘s ability to achieve outstanding performance
depends on how effectively supervisors communicate on distributing tasks. This
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Describe resources that will be available for the task. If the mentee is
on his/her own, the mentee obviously needs to know that. If the mentee
will be working with others, he/she needs to know that. For some tasks,
mentees may need to know the budget assigned to the job, or staffing
levels for the job.
Describe the rationale or reasons for each of the above elements. For
example, a scope may be defined in a particular manner because a
client has to work within certain software configurations or hardware
requirements (all Mac, all PC, for example). A deadline may be
necessary because a system conversion will occur.
Performance-based Feedback
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Rarely do mentees receive more than enough feedback, let alone more than
enough positive feedback. Conditioning theory and practical experience tell us
that positive feedback and praise produce more of the desired behaviour. For
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“Good work on improving the proposal. You have done a much better
job of assessing your audience, defining problems, and developing
specific, doable recommendations.”
“It has been difficult learning this material. It’s clear to me from your
application reviews that you’ve got a good eye for the details of the
application process. That will help our clients.”
These simple statements, which do not cost any money to give, will produce
positive results in productivity and future quality work.
Give praise
Notice Improvements!
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“I can see that you’ve worked hard to reduce the number of errors in
this process. It looks like your double checking has brought the error
level to zero. Great improvement”
Without consistent, fair reinforcement and positive verbal feedback, people will
revert to their comfortable behaviour, not necessarily because they do not
want
to perform capably, but because they aren‘t sure what that is.
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Your performance evaluation process may benefit from figuring out whether
your problem performer has a ―willingness‖ or ―ability‖ problem. Look at the
grid below:
After answering your planning questions, you are ready to use your best
communication skills to have your feedback session with the mentee.
Tell how the behaviour or action affects you, the work group, and the
company.
Be specific, objective, timely, and honest. Focus on behaviours or actions, not
the person.
“If you miss the deadline that will be a problem for the user who’s relying on
the system changes before the end of the month.”
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“It’s important to me that you succeed with this project. I want this to come
out well for you and the user. So tomorrow I want you to come fully prepared
with your assessment so we can make sure that we meet the commitment we
made.”
The old saying, ―The squeaky wheel gets the grease‖ usually applies to
feedback. The exceptional performers, good and bad, get noticed, and the rest
of the workers just plug along. The greatest return for your efforts is in
motivating and improving the performance of this 80% of your work force.
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Goals
Reality
Options
Wrap Up
These questions form the basis of a
coaching session. They are suggested
questions only. It is important to adapt
them to your own style. Each coaching
session should work through each part
of the GROW process.
Goals
(Set goals, write them down, and establish what person wants out of the
session)
Reality
(Let them tell their story, invite self assessment, what’s happening, when does
this happen, what effect does it have, other factors)
Options
(Brainstorm options, ask – don’t tell, empower, ensure choice, how can you
move toward the goal, what has worked in the past, )
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Where does this goal fit in with your personal priorities at the moment?
What obstacles do you expect to meet? How will you overcome them?
How committed are you to this goal?
What steps do you need to take to achieve this?
Culture fit
Clearly defined goals
Relationship unsuitable
Business goals move
Measurement is not easy
Meetings are delayed and not held regularly
Feedback is ineffective
Lack of responsibility and accountability
Failure to explore and manage expectations
Lack of management support
Over dependence on the mentor
Suspicion of the mentor/organisation motives
Politics become involved
Not enough resources to go around and cost
No support from the organisation
No time
Signs of Success
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